Welcome to the Mindset Check podcast . I am Katanya Nova , your host , life coach and creator of Mindset Check . Welcome . Before I get started , I want to share with you what the Mindset Check model is . This is a method I created and I teach this to my coaching clients as well as my audience on social media whenever I do my live coaching .
It is a self-coaching method . It's about being aware with your mindset . It's cognitive awareness and , along with that , being emotionally in tune . Emotional awareness while checking in with your overall state of being , not just your mind , not just your emotions , but also checking in with your body in order to better self-manage and regulate yourself .
This is the key to this Mindset Check model . It's having the right strategies to better self-manage or coach yourself towards a healthier and positive outcome In this process . You practice this method over and over again .
You will have a better experience in relationship with yourself because , in reality , emotional intelligence is about your relationship with yourself first , how well you know yourself , how well in tune you are with yourself , and then practicing this method then makes you become effective with your interactions with others , helping you become emotionally mature and increasing
your emotional intelligence . The topic I want to talk about today is about narcissistic personality disorders . This is a popular topic today .
Whenever I open up my social media app , whether it is Instagram or TikTok , there's a lot of conversations that are happening about this topic , and whenever I do my live coaching , I often get asked about how to overcome or break up with people who they think has a narcissistic personality disorder .
Before I go into it , I want to say that it requires a medical professional to diagnose someone with an MPV . Just because someone exhibit a narcissistic behavior doesn't necessarily make them someone who is pathological or psychotic . A common one that people think about when they think of narcissists is the grandiose person .
Someone who overinflates themselves in the eyes of the public may want to get validation from a lot of people . They may have an elitist mindset as well . They are highly entitled , and people with a grandiose personality think that they are special and have people around that will cater to their needs and desires .
Now , there's a lot of mislabeling happening right now on social media because there are a lot of influencers , and we do have to be careful in identifying someone who has confidence in self-love to someone who is a grandiose narcissist and , at the end of the day , one of the indicators that I use is how they treat people around them , because someone who is a
narcissist has little and no regard for others , only want people around them for their benefit . Now , the grandiose narcissist may overlap with someone who is an over-narcissist . Again , someone who is in your face up front kind of has a lot of the traits of a grandiose narcissist .
But these are also people who are aggressive publicly , who are mean to people especially weight staff , uber drivers blatantly rude and over-narcissists . Like people around them . That will make them feel good because these folks are upholding an image of perfection .
I like to say they collect a group of people that enables them , praise them , makes them feel good because someone who is an overt narcissist really truly think that the world revolves around them . Another type of narcissist is the malignant narcissist and these people are hurtful . Now , how they have become a malignant narcissist ?
It can very well be from a traumatic past experience , something really hurtful during childhood , and they have been taken advantage of from a very young age . So they grow up to be adults they also take on that dog eat dog mentality . They tend to take advantage of people . They also tend to be pathological liars .
They play the victim as well , and they use any tactic and means of manipulation to get what they want , how they want , and some people may also do this . Some malignant narcissist may also do this , forcefully or covertly , just depending on the situation , exhibit antisocial personality or paranoid that people around them are out to get them .
And the last one I'm going to mention is the passive , aggressive , covert narcissist , and this one is hard to detect . There's more out there than we think , because these people are your perfect lady and gentleman to the public . They've got great charm . They are the first to help others when help is needed .
Once again , they put a perfect persona to the public and it is a front socially , whether in business or in their community . But behind closed doors , covert narcissist is especially harmful to the person they're in relationship with or to their entire family unit . A lot of passive , aggressive , covert narcissist can be classified as introverts , but not all .
And now you can tell if you are with a passive , aggressive , covert narcissist . They constantly criticize you and are negative to you . Behind closed doors they're hard to please , they're highly insecure , they may cause fights and blame you for things you didn't do .
And the very aim of a co-passive , aggressive narcissist is that you cater to their every need , you focus on them 100% , that they are the ones you worship at all times . If not , if your attention goes elsewhere , you will experience their wrath .
They will break you down , criticize you , pick fights with you , may even turn your friends against you , as well as your family members . What they all have in common I've mentioned lack of empathy , big insecurity , that they need people to validate that they're all good enough , that they're perfect . They crave some form of power and control .
They must be or feel superior over you . If not , then you will feel the wrath of the narcissist . I've only shared super high level , very general information about the different types of narcissists . In the show notes you will find different books I highly recommend you look into and read .
These books will give you insights as well as the different negative behavioral traits to look out for . They're well-equipped and know how to avoid a person who may be narcissistic .
Know how to protect yourself if you are in a relationship with a narcissist Good information to know so you can have a better relationship with yourself and protect yourself from these types of harmful people . While this wraps up this episode of Mindset Check , I hope you enjoy this program .
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The information can be found in the show notes of this episode and if you want to learn more about what I do and how to work with me as a life coach , make sure to go to GatanyaNovacom and stay tuned for the next episode of Mindset Check and until next time . Bye for now .