Charles and Dan are just two guys talking about relationships, masculinity, and authenticity. Join them as they discuss books and media, as well as their (sometimes messy) personal stories, to encourage men to join the fight for their mental, physical, and emotional health--because a world of healthy, resilient men is a thriving and more secure world for everyone.
In this episode, we discuss how the relentless pursuit of your dream girl will probably make her head for the hills. When you chase too hard, she feels like she has to run away from you, so knock it off! Check out the "How We Feel" app , and follow Charles's updates with this friend code: 348292 Support the show
If you're going to date, marry, and mate with a lady, at some point, you'll probably have to touch her. Initiating physical touch can feel like a tricky subject for inexperienced men and men who are bad-daters. In this episode we'll talk about some principles to remember when it comes to physical touch, so that you'll be touching women in ways they enjoy, and at a pace you're both comfortable with, and neither of you regret. Support the show...
In this episode we cover some of the dos and don'ts of speaking to women that you're interested in--including some ways to build attraction, and other ways to avoid killing attraction. As always, let us know what you think of our ideas! Support the show
After pre-recording a few episodes, we came back to recording new episodes last Friday (August 4, 2023) and mostly talked about what's been going on with us, with a little divisive political and societal commentary--fun! Support the show
If you’re like us, sometimes you struggle with feeling too much, too soon in a new relationship. And then you say too much, too soon, and make it weird. Knock it off! (We’ll try to take our own advice.) Support the show
When a partner wants "some space", "a break", or a straight-up break up, the most respectful thing you can to (to them, and to yourself) is to give it to them. In this episode, we discuss the "No Contact Rule" and why it's the best way to heal yourself--and sometimes--a relationship. Support the show
In this episode, we discuss pre-date communication, and what it means (and how to deal) if/when your date cancels on you. Support the show
OK, in this episode we talk about getting, planning, and executing a first date! We'll cover asking them out, days, times and venues, greetings, kissing good night, and other topics. Support the show
In this episode, we discuss the common mistake (common to us, at least) of leaning too heavy on texting in a way that kills the chemistry of new relationships. We'll also touch on what to do if your new dating partner is not as responsive as you'd like, and what you should do when their interest isn't as strong as you wish it were. And... here are some books Charles mentions: Man Made: The Art of Male Grooming Gentleman's Guide to Grooming and Style Self-Care for Men: How to Look Good and Feel G...
Is your social media a chilling documentary, or a public relations puff-piece? Social media is one of the many ways we can make an impression on people, and as such, it should be consistent with our goals and ambitions. While some would argue (convincingly) that no social media is the best policy, there are some things to remember for men who are trying to attract and date women, when it comes to social media use--is your Facebook getting in your way? Support the show...
Dating apps can provide unique challenges and opportunities for men to meet the kinds of women they’d like to date, but… you may be bringing some incorrect assumptions that are making things harder than they have to be. In this episode, we’ll address some common mistakes, and some easy fixes to your profile and your process. Support the show
OK, we are post-business trip, post-COVID, post-moving day, and back to the podcast! In this episode we'll talk about what kind of attitude women often find attractive in men, and why the absolute worst mood/attitude is always the fake one you put-on to please/attract/manipulate others. Don't read books (or listen to podcasts--even this one) to learn how to build a fake persona. Rule #1: Be your best Rule #2: Be yourself--and don't skip Rule #1! Support the show...
If you're a human (and odds are good that you are), then you are communicating VOLUMES through your body language--far more than through your words. In this episode, we'll discuss the rights and wrongs of knowing and using body language to communicate romantic attraction. You'll recognize a theme from previous episodes: express yourself with confidence--even when you aren't speaking. And, at the end, we might tell you to dump/breakup with your friends. Support the show...
Most of the romantic interactions that men have with women are initiated by women--but not because she walks up and compliments you, or introduces herself. Non-verbal communication is how women usually signal their interest, and--if you're like us--you probably don't know which signals to look for. In this episode, we'll discuss how a woman's body language can communicate romantic interest--or just as importantly--disinterest. Support the show...
Do you walk up and introduce yourself to a pretty girl? Do you try to become her friend first, and then try to transition to a dating relationship? In this episode, we'll discuss the good, bad, and ugly methods that guys use to attempt to meet and connect with ladies that they're interested in. We'll also share what has worked for us, and what has failed miserably. Support the show
Some myth-busting in this episode! What have your parents and/or the media taught you about attraction and sexuality that might be dead wrong--or at least an incomplete version of the story? Join us this week as we discuss. Support the show
There are a ton of loaded terms tossed around for male behavior, and the impact it has on attraction. "Nice Guys", "Bad Boys", and, of course, "Alpha" and "Beta". What do these labels (and the underlying behaviors) really mean in the context of attracting the kinds of mates we want, and building a fulfilling life? Support the show
We frequently use a 10-point number system to describe how attractive people are. This number often refers to our "sexual market value"--the higher the number, the more options a person has. In this episode, we'll share two specific things that men can do to look and be more valuable in their dating market. Support the show
Wealth and status factor into how attractive you are, but maybe not in the way you think. In this episode, we'll talk about what money and reputation really mean, and why your preoccupation with both may be making you less attractive. Support the show
On this week's episode, we start with a bit of a deep-dive on Charles's health and nutrition, and then we continue discussing clothing, including some "rules" for looking and feeling good with your personal style. Support the show
Or, in slightly more contemporary language, "the clothes maketh the man". Join us as we start to discuss fashion and style, and the part that the clothes on your back make in communicating who you are. Support the show
Memory is so often triggered by smell, that to be positively memorable, a man should not neglect to curate his entire presence, including his smell. In this episode, we'll talk about attraction through scent, and discuss our own personal experiences trying to be men that are remembered for smelling good. Support the show
We're all stuck with the voice we've got, right? Maybe not. There are behaviors you can learn to sound more attractive when you speak, and we'll discuss them in this episode. Support the show
Over the hill? Past your prime? Nonsense! Your age (much like your height and hair status) isn't getting in the way of successful dating. In this episode we'll discuss how dating changes for men, as they get older--and hopefully wiser. Support the show
A topic that many men spend considerable time thinking about, joking about, and worrying about, is the size of their penis. In this episode we'll share some data that says you're probably more "normal" than you think, and it probably doesn't matter as much as you hope--or fear. This episode contains explicit content (obviously). Support the show
Hair is good. No hair is good. Time spent in between these two choices is not so good. We'll talk about going bald, dealing with your options, and why the best choice probably involves a razor. Support the show
The furry stuff on the top of your skull can either be a source of strength or weakness, depending on your mindset. In this episode, we'll talk men's hair and hairstyles, and how much you should (or shouldn't) worry about going grey. Support the show
"Fitness: an organism's ability to survive and reproduce in a particular environment." Biology and culture agree that being "in shape" is more attractive than not. In this week's episode, we'll discuss some of the markers of fitness, as well as the advantages that men who are fit (and appear fit) enjoy, and, most importantly, how to get started. Here are some links to things we discuss during the episode: Starting Strength Buy the book Learn the lifts, with Brett McKay, from " Art of Manliness "...
In this episode (number 69), we continue laying down the foundation of how men attract women, and explore a case study about two guys, one woman, and a coffee shop. Support the show
Attractive men experience richer lives because they have more options. Your genetics and childhood determine some of your attractive traits, but so many more are within your control... today! In this episode, we'll start exploring what men (both those in a relationship, and those looking for a relationship) can do to better themselves in ways that will make them more attractive--particularly to women. Support the show
