Episode 008 - 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent
Episode description
Summary:
In Episode 008, Joseph discusses 5 comprehensible steps to becoming a great parent. Challenges and struggles are normal when it comes to parenting and oftentimes we are left to our own devices to figure out what works best for our child. Joseph provides parents with 5 clear steps that can help us become great parents according to the fundamental needs of our children. He also refers listeners to three key books that can assist us in this parenting journey that is a continual, learning process for us all.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
- 00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast
- 00:28 – Today’s topic: 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent
- 00:42 – Parenting challenges are always there
- 01:08 – 1 in 7 children in the US are struggling with one type of diagnosable mental, behavioral, or developmental issue
- 01:29 – ADHD is a growing problem for many kids
- 01:36 – Anxiety and depression are also becoming more present in children of younger ages
- 01:57 – “A baby is born with a need to be loved – and never outgrows it.”–Frank A. Clark
- 02:10 – Joseph believes in the attachment theory – from cradle to death, we need to be loved and appreciated -John Bowlby
- 02:28 – “People’s greatest inspirations have been their parents”
- 02:48 – #1 Start now and start early
o02:52 – Many excellent books on parenting come from Dr. Haim Ginott
o03:19 –How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Mazlish and Faber
o03:40 –Between Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginott
o04:33 – Many of us think passion and love for parenting already make us a good parent
- 05:27 – #2 Validation
o05:35 – Focus on your child’s needs more than your own embarrassment and meet them where they are at
- 06:12 – #3 Be an example
o06:31 – You can’t tell a child not to copy you
o06:41 – Show by example and let your children be involved
o06:49 – “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I may remember. Involve me and I learn.” – Benjamin Franklin
o07:22 – Don’t blame yourself
- 07:32 – #4 Provide safety & security
o09:04 – Our children look towards us
o09:16 – Parents need to provide their children a safe and secure environment
- 09:55 – #5 Keep learning
o10:08 – Always be open to change
- 10:16 – 3 parenting books Joseph recommends:Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child,Between Parent and Child, andHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
- 10:54 – Lindsay says, “My teenagers fight all day. Brad who is 14 is the worst – he’s always complaining that his brothers and sister get more treats, attention and rewards than he does. He picks fights with them and ruins the atmosphere. What should I do?”– Focus on Brad’s needs. There are 3 Fs in parenting – be firm, be fair, and be friendly
- 12:58 – End of this week’s podcast!
3 Key Points:
- Always place your child’s needs before your own embarrassment—especially when it comes to reproaching them in public.
- Engage with your children as they learn best through being included and getting involved.
- Be firm, fair, and friendly to your children as you address their concerns, needs, and frustrations.
Resources Mentioned:
- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Childby Dr. Gottman
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Mazlish and Faber
- Between Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginott