Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews the first five or over 30 Common Sense Dating Guidelines for the Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. The guidelines coalesce around the limited dating options these generations had in their youth compared to what is available today. Combining our life experiences with new dating tools, such as online dating, allows us to avoid the same embarrassing slip-ups we made in our youth. Guidelines in this Episode: Thou Shalt Not Fish Off The Company Pier Thou Sha...
Jan 05, 2025•27 min•Ep. 28
Highlights for this episode: Part 2 of Paul’s Holiday Dating-Themed Movie reviews for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. Love at the Christmas Table A destined couple’s trip through time starts at age 4 in the 80s, and at age 4, they meet each year at an annual Christmas gathering. https://youtu.be/4jkprYTRaRU?si=mHIfyHZTgZ5_F2wt Lifetime Channel 2012 Spirited Entertainment – Good Story, Musical, Quality Production Value, For fun to get your mind off how dating can be...
Dec 23, 2024•8 min•Ep. 27
Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews holiday dating-themed movies for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. There are a total of four picks. Two picks in this Part 1 Episode and two more in Part 2. Paul points out the common theme in these movies that is missing in online dating and why we should apply them all year. The Holidate – After Christmas, a pair of frustrated singles cross paths in the gift return line and agree to be each other’s platonic plus one on holi...
Dec 09, 2024•9 min•Ep. 26
Quick Update: After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back. There will be new content starting late August of 2024.
Aug 04, 2024•2 min•Ep. 25
Highlights for this Episode: The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation . From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen . 1965 US Navy Instructional Film. Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Under...
Jun 13, 2023•31 min•Ep. 24
Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term is: The Maybe Date In the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you. Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that wi...
May 06, 2023•29 min•Ep. 23
Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term is: Serendipidating In the Retro/Etiquette Segment: We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates in a small gathering. From How to Succeed with Brunettes . 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Paul reviews the book: Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald, published in 2004. She has a 15-step, easily executable plan of action to market yourself to find b...
Mar 29, 2023•31 min•Ep. 22
Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term for this episode is: Ghostbusting. Paul reviews the movie Big Stone Gap, released in 2014. This movie looks into dating and romance in the late 1970s. It demonstrates the typical outcome of what can easily happen when men try to use logic to pursue romance. In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film guides men on approaching a movie date. In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 6. Emerging Truths from r...
Feb 27, 2023•30 min•Ep. 21
Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term for this episode is: Bromance Paul reviews the movie Swingers, released in 1996. This movie gives us a look into dating in the 1990s, how damaging holding on to your ex and being unable to put them behind you can be, and how dance lessons can come in very handy. In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Restaurant date. In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 5. These truths emerged from repeating pat...
Jan 17, 2023•33 min•Ep. 20
Midlife Dating Podcast EP 19 – Dating Truths Part 4 Highlights for this episode: Have you ever gone on a meetup date only to find out their colorful online charisma is nowhere to be found when you meet them in person? This is known as the Cyrano de Bergerac. It's the glossary term for this episode, and we'll take a closer look at this curious creature. I'll be reviewing the movie Before We Go , released in 2015. This film demonstrates that even the worst of days can turn out to be the best of da...
Dec 18, 2022•27 min•Ep. 19
Have you been guilty of Professing? It's the glossary term for this episode, and it describes behavior that many of us have embraced at some point in our dating lives, that Hollywood has glamorized but turns out to be creepy in reality. Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses some dating and relationship takeaways from the movie, All I Wish. Here we see that time can heal a rough start and change our attitude about relationships for the better. In the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews Datin...
Nov 22, 2022•22 min•Ep. 18
Having problems getting past the first few dates, let alone the first meetup? Then, you could be guilty of "Projection." This glossary term describes how we may subconsciously project our past negative dating and relationship experiences onto our new dates. Following the glossary segment, Paul reviews Esther Perel's book "Mating in Captivity." Social and emotional intelligence are standard terms we hear about. However, Perel gives us much-needed insight into "Erotic intelligence," which is under...
Oct 15, 2022•31 min•Ep. 17
Have you ever heard of the Flannel Nightgown? It's our glossary term for this episode, and it explains the transition that develops in all romantic relationships. I'll be reviewing the movie Sing Street , released in 2016. It will bring us back to the 80s when things were so much simpler. The film has a great message about taking risks in putting yourself out there and being willing to accept some levels of humiliation as you grow, learn and chase your passion. In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cov...
Sep 22, 2022•22 min•Ep. 16
Approximately Half of those you run across on the dating apps seek "Electronic Vanity Validation." This glossary describes those who use online dating apps and legacy websites who validate themselves simply by who they match up with. Paul reviews the book, The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. In it, we learn that good men are simple beings, hard to find but easy to keep. Additionally, why women regret marrying "Nice Guys," and how real men think about their commit...
Aug 20, 2022•26 min•Ep. 15
Are you suffering from “Dating Profile Syndrome”? This glossary term describes what happens to users of online dating apps and legacy websites who are repeatedly subjected to the same mind-numbing profiles. Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses what "Nice Guy" behavior looks like in a movie review of Gloria Bell . Here, men and women have a first-hand look at why women shouldn’t date "Nice Guys." Then, in the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews whether it makes sense for Boomers and Gen X t...
Jul 25, 2022•24 min•Ep. 14
Ever wonder if you're being played when arranging a date? Our Dating and Relationship Glossary Term for this episode, "Call to Confirm," helps decipher the answer. Next, cheerful and funny dating stories are what the Midlife Dating Podcast is all about. Paul shares one of his personal stories in this episode. It was a mystery to solve when it was happening, but it also reveals how entertaining life can be when you get out there and improvise. Finally, have you ever gone to a meetup date and been...
Jun 18, 2022•26 min•Ep. 13
Are you dating someone and seeing them 4 or 5 times a week or more? If so, you had better watch out for Fusion catching up to you, in this episode's Glossary Term. For today’s Chick Flick Movie Review, Paul takes a look at the way love finds people even in the worst of times with Last Chance Harvey . Finally, with your smartphone in hand, you go through your dating app, and you run across dating profiles with several fabulous pictures but no written content. Should you swipe right on them? In to...
May 08, 2022•16 min•Ep. 12
Have you ever seen one person in a couple make drastic changes to accommodate the other, only for the relationship to fail? A lack of Differentiation, the Glossary Term for this episode, is why. Next, Paul shares a retro dating clip consisting of a sound bite collage from the 1951 Coronet Instructional Film Going Steady. Paul then reviews the book Spouse Hunting: Using the Rules of Real Estate to Find the Love of Your Life . Boomers and Gen Xers who have been through the home buying experience w...
Apr 05, 2022•22 min•Ep. 11
Paul begins with "Soft Ghosting," the Glossary Term for this episode, and how to spot It so you don't waste your valuable time with a Soft Ghoster. The feel-good movie Moneyball , a nonfiction sports drama, is the episode’s Chick Flick Movie Review. How did a sports drama make it into this Midlife Dating Podcast? Simple: Much of what Brad Pit's character embraces to build a record-setting team is paralleled by what Gen Xers and Boomers must master to become successful at online dating. Next, a r...
Mar 22, 2022•18 min•Ep. 10
In this episode, Paul first looks at the dating term "Spilling Your Guts" and how Hollywood has brainwashed men into thinking this is a wonderfully romantic idea. Gals (and guys), ever wonder why you didn't get a second date? Paul next gives the lowdown on the possible reasons as he reviews author Rachel Greenwald's book Why He Didn't Call You Back. In this book, Rachel interviews 1000 men to find out what went wrong. She breaks things down to the top 16 reasons and the stereotypes that fit them...
Feb 22, 2022•22 min•Ep. 9
"Oneitis" is a condition we all go through. It can start to sneak up within the first few moments of a phone call and linger for days before a couple even gets out on that first meetup. In this episode, Paul takes a closer look at this vocabulary term. Many romances begin with a couple's mutual dislike for one another. As they spend more time together, they grow and bond. Leap Year (2010) is one such offering with plenty of comic relief. Due to the instant gratification of online dating, some wi...
Feb 06, 2022•29 min•Ep. 8
They say that breaking up is hard to do—true, but you can remove a lot of pain on both sides by using The Two-Sentence Rule. Paul takes a closer look at today’s glossary term with some examples. Then he discusses what author Vince Guaglione calls the "Tinder Time Wasters" in Guaglione’s book Why Are You Still Single?: An Average Joe's Take on What's Really Going On in the Dating Pool and What You Can Do to Stay Afloat. The dating question for this episode asks what to do if your boyfriend/girlfr...
Jan 04, 2022•35 min•Ep. 7
In this episode, Paul breaks down the dating term "Needy" so you can identify what it looks like and steer clear of individuals who display it. When it comes to getting back on the dating horse for Boomers and Gen Xers, Carol in the movie I'll See You in My Dreams provides a good look at what it's like. Bill demonstrates both a good old-fashioned take-the-lead attitude and the downside of coming on too strong. This movie has many dating and relationship messages for the 50 Daters age group. Is b...
Dec 07, 2021•30 min•Ep. 6
Dating with Purpose is one of the main themes here at 50 Dates at 50 . Today, Paul defines what that term specifically means. Ever date someone who insists on keeping in contact with their ex? Paul explains what this reveals about your partner and what it says about you if you tolerate this type of behavior. To give 50 Daters a foundational understanding of who Nice Guys are, Paul reviews No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. 50 Dates at 50 is committed to opening the doors for Nice Guys and Ni...
Nov 23, 2021•31 min•Ep. 5
When it comes to dating and relationships, daters are in a constant battle with Cognitive Distortions. Paul takes a quick look here at how this term applies to dating. In this episode's question, Paul explains why less time texting or on the phone equals more quality face-to-face time with your guy or gal. In this episode's movie review, he examines the dating and relationship messages in Our Souls at Night . Many a Boomer and Gen X man has embraced the texting mindset from the Millennials and c...
Nov 09, 2021•21 min•Ep. 4
One of the things many daters need to embrace is the Abundance Mindset, the reality that there are plenty of really great guys and gals to go around. If you're struggling with dating, remember that the number of available men and women is not static. Like real estate, where there is a constant change in the lineup of homes for sale and coming off the market, the number of available dateable people also shifts. To better explore how people communicate love to each other, Paul herein reviews the b...
Oct 24, 2021•33 min•Ep. 3
Have you ever noticed how online dating matchups tend to come in waves of feast or famine? Or how when you get on a dating app, it's like being in a candy store of endless choices? One of the best ways to address these problems is with Right Swipe Discipline. It's all about slowing the process down so you can keep up with potential dates. Today's recommended movie is Already Tomorrow in Hong Kong . In this podcast episode, Paul discusses why you should watch it and what it teaches about dating a...
Oct 24, 2021•25 min•Ep. 2
Host Paul Nelson introduces both Baby Boomers and Gen Xers to the 50 Dates at 50 Podcast. He explains how singles get back into dating and how couples can benefit from emphasizing date night. After a 21-year marriage ending in an amicable divorce in 2014, Paul found himself back out on the dating market. Here, he takes a close look at how much dating has changed over the last 40 years, with online dating now being front and center. However, most of today's dating advice is from the Millennial ag...
Oct 24, 2021•41 min•Ep. 1
Preview of the Midlife Dating Podcast. Supporting Boomer and Gen X singles in online dating and helping couples keep the romance alive.
Sep 29, 2021•1 min
