What really happens to a relationship after years in the lifestyle? How does swinging evolve from those first nervous experiences to deep trust, confidence, and connection?In this episode, Matt and Bianca sit down with Dave and Morgan for a candid, honest, and eye opening conversation about their long term swinging journey. Morgan is the reigning Ms Sapphire, and together they share how their relationship has grown, changed, and strengthened through the years of being active in the lifestyle.The...
Feb 10, 2026•30 min
What happens when one partner in a swinger couple decides they no longer want to be part of the lifestyle?In this honest and vulnerable conversation, Matt and Bianca dive into a topic many couples quietly struggle with but rarely talk about openly. They discuss the emotional, relational, and practical challenges that can come up when one person wants to step back from swinging while the other doesn’t, and how that shift can impact an open relationship or non-monogamous marriage.This video is pac...
Dec 20, 2025•19 min
In this video, Matt and Bianca dive deep into the two primary types of swingers often seen in the lifestyle: the stallion and the bunny. With humor, honesty, and plenty of real world experience, they break down what these two archetypes mean, how they show up in different swinger dynamics, and why understanding them can make your lifestyle journey smoother and way more fun.They share practical swinger tips, communication tools, and personal stories to help lifestyle curious couples recognize the...
Nov 25, 2025•22 min
Are you an extrovert in the swinger lifestyle—or partnered with one? In this episode, Matt and Bianca unpack the dynamics between introverts and extroverts in the lifestyle, exploring how energy levels, social comfort, and communication impact relationships.Matt shares his experience as an “extroverted extrovert”, while Bianca offers insight into how introverts can feel isolated or drained in high-energy lifestyle events. Together, they introduce the Marble Theory, a simple way to understand how...
Nov 08, 2025•24 min
Matt and Bianca have taken their open relationship to a whole new level—they’ve entered into a *quad*! In this video, they share what it’s really like dating another couple, how the connection formed, and what they’ve learned about communication, boundaries, and keeping things fun (and spicy). Join them as they laugh through the awkward moments, talk about navigating jealousy, and explain the difference between swinging, polyamory, and a true quad relationship. Whether you’re lifestyle-curious o...
Oct 08, 2025•36 min
Welcome back to Club Sapphire! In this sizzling second part of our Flirting 101 series, it’s Bianca’s turn to take the lead—and this time, she’s showing Matt how to flirt with women in the lifestyle. 💃💋If approaching other women has ever felt intimidating or awkward, Bianca’s got you covered. She walks Matt through the fine art of flirting with confidence, warmth, and just the right amount of sass. From reading the room to delivering compliments that actually land, she shares her go-to strateg...
Jun 06, 2025•20 min•Season 15Ep. 4
Welcome back to Club Sapphire! In this exciting first part of our two-part Flirting 101 series, Matt steps up to teach Bianca the art of flirting with male swingers. If you’ve ever found yourself a little tongue-tied or unsure how to break the ice at lifestyle events, this episode is packed with tips and tricks to help you feel confident and connected.Matt walks Bianca through the essentials—how to spot the right moment, read body language, and strike up engaging conversations that leave a lasti...
May 17, 2025•22 min•Season 15Ep. 3
What Is Compersion? Jealousy, Love Languages & Relationship Growth | Swinging Lifestyle Education🎤 Hosted by Matt & Bianca | Club SapphireAre you new to the swinging lifestyle and wondering how couples manage feelings like jealousy? Or maybe you're a seasoned swinger looking to deepen your connection with your partner? In this educational and deeply personal video, Matt and Bianca from Club Sapphire take you on an honest exploration of compersion—the beautiful concept of feeling joy for...
Apr 23, 2025•16 min
In this episode, since Bianca is taking some time off, we figured it was the best time to introduce Bethanie, Matt's girlfriend. You can also watch the video on our YouTube channel.
Oct 30, 2017•27 min•Ep. 46
In this episode, Matt & Bianca talk to Tom and Bunny, General Managers of Freedom Acres in Southern California. Filmed at Hedonism in Jamaica, they talk about their amazing club, running into your family, schoolmates and priests at a swingers club, and how to act around a celebrity when you meet one in this situation.
Oct 18, 2017•42 min•Ep. 45
In this episode, Matt and Bianca interview Doug and Ruby, the owners of Club Sapphire in Seattle. They talk about double standards for swingers, the differences between single men and single women and how they should act in lifestyle situations. Also, a lot of great information on their club and the swinging scene in the Pacific Northwest.
May 10, 2017•32 min•Ep. 44
In this episode recorded at Hedonism II, we interview Dave and Gina. We talk about enjoying different sexual things from different people. Also, swinging and cheating, how to properly pull hair and having a gaping hole in your urethra.
Apr 20, 2017•35 min•Ep. 43
In this podcast, we review our recent trip to Hedo 2 in Jamaica. We talk about the resort, the food, the sex and the people. If you are going there or thinking about it, you definitely should listen. Please share this podcast with others that might be interested in learning about the resort. Our YouTube video of this podcast has footage from the resort as well.
Apr 19, 2017•16 min•Ep. 42
In this episode, Matt and Bianca talk about the pros and cons of Same Room Play compared to Separate Room Play. Also, how to help keep your husband hard while he's with another girl, sneaky guys and condoms, how to be successful at a swinger club.
Nov 23, 2016•32 min•Ep. 41
In this episode, we interview Shawn and Becky. Becky was the winner of this year's Ms. No Swimsuit Contest, sponsored by Tom's Trips.
Jun 07, 2016•33 min•Ep. 40
In this episode, we chat with Eric and Tatiania, two ambassadors for the couples cruise. We discuss the important questions, like whose job it is to clean up random condoms in the playroom. (Kasidie: funwithtne)
Jun 02, 2016•36 min•Ep. 39
In this episode, we talk about putting stuff up vaginas. Also, what to do when it's play time and your Aunt Flo comes to town.
May 17, 2016•35 min•Ep. 38
In this episode, we talk about Bianca's search and subsequent success in finding a boyfriend.
Mar 14, 2016•45 min•Ep. 37
In this episode, we talk about our recent trip to a Fantasy Coop mansion party in the Anaheim Hills of California.
Nov 12, 2015•53 min•Ep. 36
In this episode, we talk about the Ins and Outs of hosting an orgy. How to create a guest list, how to setup the playroom and much more. If you'd prefer to watch the video version, check out our YouTube channel.
Jul 08, 2015•36 min•Ep. 35
In this episode, we discuss Bianca's entrance into the world of dating by herself. Yes guys, she's looking for a man. Please don't send her pics of your junk, that never works.
Jun 27, 2015•34 min•Ep. 34
In this episode, we continue discussing Matt's new girlfriend, her staying over and meeting our kids. Juicy stuff.
Apr 28, 2015•32 min•Ep. 34
The episode you've all been waiting for...or at least if you listened to Episode 13: The Next Step and wondered whatever happened with Matt dating separately. This is where thing start to get interesting.
Apr 20, 2015•35 min•Ep. 32
In this podcast, we interview Lisa and Scott. Lisa is a paraplegic and has a fascinating story to tell. We also talk about detoxing from swinging and the attack of the terrible kissers.
Apr 16, 2015•39 min•Ep. 31
In this episode, we interview The Sapphic Swingers, a lesbian couple in the lifestyle. Also, check out their podcast at http://sapphicswingers.blogspot.com/
Mar 12, 2015•38 min•Ep. 30
In this episode, we discuss our upcoming swinger cruise, how to find a unicorn for a threesome, and Bianca comes out of the closet to her eyelash lady.
Nov 12, 2014•41 min•Ep. 29
In this episode, we talk about pubic hair: waxing and shaving. We also answer a listener question about bi-sexual men in the Lifestyle.
Oct 09, 2014•35 min•Ep. 28
In this episode, we talk about our first weekend apart since we've been in the Lifestyle (Matt at home and Bianca in Vegas) and what happens when the spouse is away...
Sep 25, 2014•33 min•Ep. 27
In this episode we talk about our recent attempt converting a Neopolitan friend into a unicorn.
Sep 03, 2014•32 min•Ep. 26
In this episode we talk about how we just handled our teenager asking about our "extracurricular" activities...
Jun 18, 2014•42 min•Ep. 25
