This summer, we are taking a pause from our regular podcast format. However, I’m sharing the audio from a short video I made for my private weekly email list. This episode is about a success story and our first official Mastermind Mascot kiddo. If you’d like to be added to my weekly email list where I share different resources, you can sign up at https://randirubenstein.activehosted.com/f/1 For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This g...
Jun 11, 2019•7 min•Season 1Ep. 66
In this episode, I talk about what I typically see missing from the equation when you just can’t stop fighting with your kids. We have to get in the habit of having conversations ahead of time or at least at a non-relevant moment. Topics Covered: The messy moments Q.T.I.P. - Quit taking it personally Productive Conversations After School Restraint Collapse Hurt people hurt people Timing is key when effectively teaching kids all the “things” The 3 Ps - have a plan, establish protocol and be on th...
May 28, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 65
In this episode, I sat down with sleep consultant, Cory Greenberg, to help all you exhausted parents. There is SO much gold in this convo. You guys are gonna love it! Topics Covered: Assessing basic needs - sleep and nutrition Sleep deprivation Early puberty and the link to heightened cortisol is often caused by a lack of quality sleep ADHD and how it links to sleep issues How ADHD and sleep deprivation symptoms look similar Putting on your mama detective hat rather only listening to the Western...
May 21, 2019•36 min•Season 1Ep. 64
In this episode, I give you the lowdown on the best tools to transform your home from a war zone to a sanctuary and create an environment where you’re a family that talks about anything and EVERYTHING! Topics Covered: 1. Parent plan - tool, calm down corner within 2. Kid plan - connect before you correct tool, PET present engaged time 3. Us plan - master the top 2 and now you’re ready to lead a productive convo to master empathy; the secret sauce to “everything is figuroutable and nothing is off...
May 14, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 63
In this episode, I had a convo with 3 Mastermind Parenting dads (one of which who happens to be married to me:). That’s right, you finally get to hear from my husband, Scott Rubenstein. I have had many moms ask me how to get the hubbies on board so I decided to help you out and let the Mastermind Dads do the convincing for you. You're welcome! Topics Covered: Parenting on the same page Parent coaching and marriage therapy Parenting teenagers The truth behind the neighbors’ curtains from the dads...
May 07, 2019•28 min•Season 1Ep. 62
In this episode, I’m letting you guys be a fly on the wall in a coaching session with me. We are speaking about sibling roughhousing and how to have a productive conversation about this hot topic! I also discuss why this a perfect area to start teaching your kids about personal boundaries when it comes to their bodies. So important! Topics Covered: Sibling rough play and when to intervene Parenting: 1. Establish rules. 2. Repeat often 3. Follow through consistently Personal body boundaries and a...
Apr 30, 2019•18 min•Season 1Ep. 61
In this episode, I tell a story about this really large dude sitting next to me on a recent flight. I think you guys are going to possibly squirm with a little discomfort as you hear about my exchange with him. As women, I think contrary to the common belief that we’re the ones who love to talk about all things touchy feel-y...clear assertive communication isn’t often our strong suit. Especially when we need to speak up for ourselves. This is an important convo for all of us to have because as t...
Apr 23, 2019•26 min•Season 1Ep. 60
In this episode, I discuss the unspoken, unwritten “good mom manual” that many of us have for ourselves. I think you’ll really resonate with this episode and be surprised by what I have to say about parent attendance at your kid’s sport’s events. Of course, there are also some fun “Rambly Rubenstein” insights I share about myself and about finding yourself in The Parent Gap during those heated moments when you find yourself not being the parent you truly want to be. I’d love to know what was you...
Apr 16, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 59
In this episode, I discuss the real reason why your kids aren’t pitching in and what you need to do to change the un-helpfulness pattern. You don’t want to miss this one! You’re welcome. Topics Covered: The truth about effective leaders Why feeling powerless plays in Allowing your kids the opportunity to feel valuable on the family team Mind mastery is essential to “get” your kids to be helpful The 3 tips: 1. Own your role in the current pattern 2. Have a productive conversation 3. Expect to rem...
Apr 09, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 58
In this episode, I talk about the common belief that all kids need a healthy dose of fear to turn out well and choose to do the right thing. I dispel this myth and explain the way to encourage your kids to “do the right thing” without fear-based thinking running the show. Topics Covered: Fear-based thinking Mama social engineering Teenagers and using fear and control to protect them Primal wiring and why fear is our autopilot programming "What you focus on grows” and focusing on fear will manife...
Apr 02, 2019•13 min•Season 1Ep. 57
In this episode, I talk about ineffective parenting strategies being at the root for many parents with strong-willed kids. This is a very complicated and difficult topic because there is usually quite a bit of shame and blame on the scene. Being a parent is vulnerable. When you have the courage to get curious about WHY things feel so outta control in your household, well that’s when you’ll start to turn it around. Because trust me, I mean it when I say, I developed Mastermind Parenting specifica...
Mar 26, 2019•13 min•Season 1Ep. 56
In this episode, I break down the reason why the more mod parenting strategies are probably not working for you. It’s usually a fairly straightforward tweak that needs to be made and not a hard problem to diagnose. If you’ve been questioning why these techniques seem to only work in theory but not in real life, I think you’ll find this discussion eye-opening. Topics Covered: Strong-willed kids and what they need to thrive The Dictator Dance Not throwing the baby out with the bathwater Not all of...
Mar 19, 2019•19 min•Season 1Ep. 55
In this episode, I talk about a pretty controversial topic - working vs. stay at home moms. I think you guys might be a bit pissed off with me about this one. It's okay. Really. I love you enough to level with you about these things. Even though these are hard conversations and involve the courage to get really honest with yourself and call yourself out on your own bullsh!t, it’s a way to go to the next level of mastering your own mind. Trust me, this is personal for me. Topics Covered: Mom Judg...
Mar 12, 2019•18 min•Season 54Ep. 1
In this episode, I share my opinion on your role when it comes to your kid’s homework. I discuss some mindset shifts around learning differences like ADHD, anxious kids, dyslexia and dysgraphia. I also share my top tips for helping your kids to become lifelong readers. I think you might be surprised by some of my experiences and how my approach is different than what you might be hearing from “the educators”. Notes: If you find yourself feeling defensive about why their learning difference justi...
Mar 05, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In this episode, I included some helpful clips from a recent workshop where I discussed why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on. I shared a story about a mom with a shy daughter who was struggling socially to engage with the other kids. Many moms at the workshop related to this story and wanted to talk with me afterwards about their child. I make time EVERY week to talk with real parents about the thing that “keeps you at night” and how I can help. I encourage you to reach out a...
Feb 26, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 52
In this episode, I talk about a recent post in a mom’s group on social media about a terrible 2-year-old. I think you guys will enjoy my thoughts on this post and the comments I read. Enjoy! Topics Covered: Terrible twos Teenage rebellion What you focus on grows All behavior is communication Kids tell us how they feel on the inside by their behavior on the outside Kids learn by what we model Our old programs Spanking Assessing basic needs - Sleep, food, activity Sleep deprived kids have the same...
Feb 19, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 51
In this episode, I tell 2 stories of how kids (12 and 4) learned to respectfully and effectively use their voice. I also share a bunch of other helpful tips and tools to foster better communication for yourself and your kiddos. Enjoy! Topics Covered: Assertive communication Kids learn by what we model Passive and aggressive communication Sibling fighting Showing and commanding respect Pack leadership Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting reci...
Feb 12, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 50
In this episode, I included audio about the way a mom in my private Mastermind Parenting community handled getting rid of pacifiers. I think this is an interesting listen not just for moms of toddlers, but for anyone that wants to know how to lead a difficult conversation with your kids and disrupt a pattern or break a habit. Whether it’s too much sugar and french fries or screen time, breaking a pattern can feel overwhelming and daunting. This episode has some powerful pointers to help you show...
Feb 05, 2019•10 min•Season 1Ep. 49
In this episode, why I believe we can greatly help our anxious kids learn effective coping strategies when they lack skills and are feeling out of control. We don’t have to be afraid or feel powerless when anxious emotions are expressed by our kids. We do have the power to help them. Topics Covered: The 4 Tips: 1. Manage your brain with a mantra 2. Shift the focus from their head to their body. 3. Model breathing 4. Empathy Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind ...
Jan 29, 2019•19 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In this episode, I discuss the concept of being “too good of a mom” and how it creates a pattern of unhelpful kids. When we allow our kids to experience natural consequences as well as establishing expectations of what it looks like to be a “valuable” family team member, they grow up with confidence and resilience. This recipe is the best teacher of life skills for our kiddos and the bonus is that we don’t feel unappreciated, resentful or like motherhood feels like martyr-hood. Topics Covered: T...
Jan 22, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In this episode, I talk about digging into what it really looks like to be a good mom. I know this is such a loaded topic for many of us. The secret worry of most parents is that we really don’t want to screw up our most important job…raising our kids to be healthy, happy and successful (however, we choose to define that). I tell a story about “younger me” and how I thought I was checking off all the boxes on my good mom resume and how I was missing the most important one - investigating what wa...
Jan 15, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 46
In this episode, I discuss the book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Dr. Carol Dweck. I think you guys are going to be surprised about the nuanced ways we reinforce a fixed mindset mentality rather than encouraging our kids to truly succeed and grow. Topics covered: Dr. Carol Dweck and the difference between fixed and growth mindset Dr. Dweck invites us to dump the overpraising and everyone gets a trophy mentality - the false self-esteem movement This is not about telling kids they can...
Jan 08, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 45
In this episode, I walk you through how to manifest the life and family you deeply crave beginning now…in 2019. I have a different spin on New Year’s resolutions and I share my process for changing patterns and stepping into simple consistent action. Enjoy! Topics covered: Why humans resist change Why most of us fail at New Year’s Resolutions by about day 10 30 days of consistent action creates a new pattern Accountability combined with community and ongoing support and continuous learning is th...
Jan 01, 2019•19 min•Season 1Ep. 44
In this episode, I talk about the Christmas spirit and how it affects me as a Jewish person. Here’s my point. We can choose to enjoy things from the sidelines sometimes. We can be happy for other people. We can ride that happiness wave as people in the supporting cast. There are times where we want to be front and center in the action and there are times where I choose to be a Jewish person riding the Christmas Spirit wave from the cheering section. Topics covered: Christmas A Jewish kid growing...
Dec 24, 2018•14 min•Season 1Ep. 43
In this episode, I want to discuss what it looks like to have the courage to put your kids first...above other people’s opinions of you as a mom and even allowing THEM to be wrong about you. I tell a story about a recent situation at the park involving a 3-year-old who wants a balloon from a bday party where he wasn’t invited. Topics covered: Primal sense of belonging for all humans Mind mastery and self-awareness Wayne Gretsky: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Mom Judgment Dirty fut...
Dec 18, 2018•18 min•Season 42Ep. 1
In this episode, I discuss how important it is to step into being the pack leader of your family in terms of your “other” kid’s overall mental health and wellness. If you have a strong-willed kiddo hijacking your household, this episode is just for you! Topics covered: Dr. Kristin Neff and empathic resonance Imbalance of power Pack leadership "Victim first” sibling fighting parenting tool when violence is present Focus on the healing, not the hurting Focus on the “other” kid in a proactive way t...
Dec 11, 2018•19 min•Season 1Ep. 41
In this episode, I was interviewed by my friend, Pleasance, on her Soulful Self Care Podcast. We discussed lots of topics from my strong-willed kid to Pleasance’s daughter being bullied about her learning difference. I shared details about my story that I haven’t discussed and how Mastermind Parenting came to be. Topics covered: Conscious Discipline EFT Tapping Strong Willed Kids are the real change agents Bullying and learning differences Empathy Keeping a secret from my husband Writing my book...
Dec 04, 2018•59 min•Season 1Ep. 40
In this episode I take you through the main foundational pillars of my Mastermind Parenting method. Listen up because these are the main concepts that will transform your household…like for realz! Topics covered: Creating a family team Being a family that’s actually on the same team The Mastermind Parenting Pillars: QTIP, All behavior is communication, Positive reinforcement, Pack Leadership, Intrinsic Motivation, Positive Intent, Empathy, Consequences Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the ...
Nov 27, 2018•24 min•Season 1Ep. 39
In this episode I discuss what gratitude really means to me as a mom and a person. I believe the ultimate gratitude practice is believing your strong willed child happened “for” rather than “to” you and I walk you through an exercise about how to do that. Topics: Hedonic Adaptation Gratitude is a practice that can be cultivated and directly links to happiness Gratitude affects many areas of your life in positive ways - personality, health, emotional, social and career Strong willed kids happen “...
Nov 20, 2018•25 min•Season 1Ep. 38
In this episode, I FINALLY made an episodes all about Dads and what it means “in my book” to be a good dad. Moms - share this one with your hubby or ex-hubby. Of course, there are plenty of personal stories and “Randi-ramblings” in this one. Enjoy! Topics covered: The Family Team Feeding the people Love is in the details Enjoying your role and your kids for real Delegation and resisting the martyr-hood and what that looks like Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mi...
Nov 13, 2018•21 min•Season 1Ep. 37
