Breaking the cycle of conflict

Have you ever wondered why some couples fight so much? Are you looking for ways to avoid conflict? Doug shares tips for breaking the cycle of endless arguments and fighting. He shares that even successful marriages aren’t conflict free, but that these couples are better at managing the conflict and repairing the relationship.

Listener questions and comments:

• Carlos - As couples, we tend to argue or fight because we don’t know how to communicate. (10:42)
• Linda - My husband has a problem with money. We got into it and I'm not sure I can talk about it with him anymore. What should I do? (13:50)
• John - I have been married for more than 50 years. My wife says things like 'you belong in hell'. I don’t want a divorce but it is tough. (22:58)
• Anne - I want to respond to the woman with the husband with money issues. Debtors Anonymous is a great resource. (27:33)
• Chris - I feel like the model of using secular counseling is not as good as counseling centered on Christ’s teaching. (39:37)

Resources:

Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle

https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Debtors Anonymous

https://debtorsanonymous.org/

7 signs you’re stuck in an unhealthy conflict pattern

1. Small issues become big fights.
2. You argue about the same things over and over.
3. Conversations become personal attacks.
4. Both of you regularly shut down.
5. You can’t remember how the fight began.
6. Resolution never seems to happen.
7. You both feel defensive most of the time.