2019 will go down as one of the hardest and most volatile for Adam and Danielle. It was 12 long months of hashing and re-hashing out a whole lot of issues concerning finance, dishonestly, resentment, and misunderstanding. While it definitely all got tedious at times, it also was all very necessary to put them in the direction in which they now seem to be heading. The two of them discuss what mistakes they think they made, what they learned, what they're hoping 2020 will bring, and so much more. ...
Dec 23, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 98
In the midst of all the holiday madness, we all need to take a minute and just laugh and de-compress. That's why Danielle and Adam thought it was a perfect week to put out a mindless, fun, and funny episode with no deep thinking necessary. Of course things get a little out of hand, and they reveal too much. This episode is definitely not for the easily offended, and if you want to wait to listen while you're sitting around at night with a glass of wine or a cocktail, we get it. No matter what, y...
Dec 16, 2019•54 min•Ep. 97
After the overwhelming response to their first episode with Jodie Utter from last February, Danielle and Adam finally had the chance to continue their conversation with her. Where is she now in her journey of healing and forgiveness after her husband's infidelity? Is she able to trust again? How does she deal with the inevitable feelings of pain that come flooding back at any given moment? Is self-forgiveness harder than forgiving someone else? What advice does she have for others going through ...
Dec 09, 2019•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 96
As the new year approaches, let's make some resolutions that will really change our lives for the better: getting just a little bit braver talking to our partners about our sexual needs and desires. Danielle and Adam continue their conversation with sexual communications coach, Leah, all about how couples can handle differing libidos, exhaustion, lack of orgasms, the need for sexual touch throughout the day, and so much more. Leah recommends some "bedroom games," explains why women and men might...
Dec 02, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 95
In theory, the holidays are an amazing time of year and should feel completely magical. In reality, there are a thousand tasks to get done, anxiety levels are heightened, family time can be overwhelming, and it's all expensive AF. Life coach Amy sits down with Adam and Danielle to discuss ways that we can ensure that this year will be more enjoyable for everyone. Being more intentional with our time, remembering acts of self-care, communication with our partner, and seeing the bigger picture are...
Nov 25, 2019•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 94
The founders of Grown and Flown took time out of their book tour to talk to Danielle all about raising kids and young adults between the ages of 14 and 25. Danielle asks them how we can gauge when we are giving them too much independence or not enough, how to deal with teens who no longer want to spend time with the family during events and activities, if we should really be driving their forgotten homework and gym clothes to school, how to handle conversations with kids who are unsure about att...
Nov 22, 2019•50 min•Ep. 93
Last weekend Danielle went to see Glennon Doyle live in NYC, and during the show, writer and activist, Glennon, said something that was a gut punch to Danielle. She was talking about how one day when she was in her former marriage, she looked around and said, "Isn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this." It was this phrase that initiated Danielle's idea for her and Adam to check in with each other about needs they might still have within their relationship. What are they not getting en...
Nov 18, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 92
Danielle and Adam have always been very honest that finance has been a big source of stress in their relationship. They've had periods of feeling like they were in a really good place concerning money, and times when it has been a complete disaster. This episode, unlike the other finance episodes they had a few months ago, are not with experts giving advice, but rather, just their personal experiences with finance, both growing up and as a couple. They discuss everything from how Danielle decidi...
Nov 11, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 91
Mom shamers unite - and leave....no one wants you here. Danielle and our guest host Tara Clark (aka @modernmomprobs) are talking all things mom shaming. They discuss personal experiences in real life and in the virtual world, and why we need to stop asking people when they’re having kids. These ladies touch on everything from breastfeeding to screaming kids on airplanes, and the time when Danielle let her newborn cry hysterically in an elevator and what ensued with a stranger. Plus, how can we m...
Nov 04, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 90
Danielle and Adam are joined by actual Millennial, Sarah Merrill (also know on Instagram as @bigkidproblems), who is currently in the midst of planning her own wedding. The three of them discuss the differences that naturally arise when getting married at age 24 verses age 32, how weddings have changed since Danielle and Adam were planning theirs 18 years ago, how technology has completely reconstructed the wedding industry, and the actual costs of being in a bridal party. This is such a fun epi...
Oct 28, 2019•54 min•Ep. 89
It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure because she's terrible at the aspects of being a "homemaker" that she never thought about. She also discusses how she spent years being a...
Oct 21, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 88
Miriam Kirmayer is a therapist, writer, speaker, and relationship expert who has spent the last decade researching young adult friendships. Her work focuses on helping others navigate life transitions, achieve their goals, and build stronger relationships with the people who matter most. A leading voice in the media, her words and advice have appeared in outlets such as The Atlantic, Forbes, The New York Times, TIME, Vogue, and Women’s Health. As a consultant, Miriam partners with businesses and...
Oct 14, 2019•56 min•Ep. 87
Relationship experts will tell you it's the little things partners do for each other that actually wind up going the longest way in a marriage. Big, elaborate gifts are meaningful in their own way, but we need to concentrate on the small moments and favors that help show each other that we are actively thinking about the other person. Danielle and Adam discuss everything from choreplay to compliments to the gift of "the nap" within relationships. Also, how did watching their own parents' interac...
Oct 07, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 86
Kim Cavill is a sex educator and host of the podcast “Six Minute Sex Ed,” meant to help start the conversation between parents and kids about all things sex and sexuality related. As a sex-positive parent, she is attempting to get rid of the shame that surrounds the teachings of sex that currently exist in schools today. We discuss age-appropriate conversations no matter how old your kids are, where and when the best times to open a dialogue are, which parent should be the one leading the discus...
Sep 30, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 85
Most people know about Alexis Haines from her role in the notorious group of teenagers who robbed over 3 million dollars in cash and possessions from the houses of Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Orlando Bloom and more. She also starred in the E! network reality show, "Pretty Wild." We sat down with Alexis to talk all about this out-of-control time in her life when she was addicted to heroin, was dealing with the trauma of her childhood, and a prison sentence. But what came after this time was a pe...
Sep 23, 2019•59 min•Ep. 84
*TRIGGER WARNING: Talk of addiction and being the spouse of an addict. Adam and Danielle have experienced both sides of gambling: the fun, exciting side, when winning is an adrenaline rush and getting caught up in the moment feels incredibly fun and exhilarating. But they've also experienced the much more negative aspects of gambling and what can happen when that feeling becomes an escape that starts to get all too familiar and frequent. This episode is really two parts: the first part has a lig...
Sep 16, 2019•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 83
Over the past few decades, there has been a lot more openness about the fact that monogamy is not the only type of lifestyle for couples. Polyamory, open marriage, swinging and other options are making some partners wonder if any of these experiences are right for them. In this episode, Danielle and Adam discuss how their upbringing formed their understanding and opinions about monogamy. They discuss whether or not trying to have an open marriage would ever be on the table, and what experiences ...
Sep 09, 2019•54 min•Ep. 82
Adam and Danielle continue their Los Angeles adventure by traveling to "The Valley" to meet Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, "Good Moms, Bad Choices." After realizing very quickly that it was fate for the four of them to meet, the conversation got extremely comfortable and there were pretty much no inhibitions about anything. Thus begins the discussion about everything from Danielle's last visit to LA in which she visited the Menendez Brothers (but, for real....), a clarification of what "The...
Sep 05, 2019•55 min•Ep. 81
Adam and Danielle sit down with Jodie Sweetin and Celia Behar, BFF's from the Never Thought I'd Say This podcast. The four talk all things friendship, including how these two women met and formed a lifetime bond via social media, how our value of friendship in our lives has changed over the years, how friendship differs for men than for women, and whether or not it's ok for a significant other to have good friends of the opposite sex. Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book h...
Sep 03, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 80
While maybe not every single person feels like they've lost some of who they were before they got married and had kids, a good amount of people seem to agree that in order to gain part of ourselves through parenthood, we sacrifice a large part of our former identity. Passions, dreams, and talents get put on the back burner in order to take care of those around us, and it becomes apparent that we are not the same person we once were. Of course we're grateful for what we have and may not want to c...
Aug 26, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 79
Back to school can be such a stressful time for parents and kids when motivation is a struggle and there's enormous pressure in school and extracurriculars. Homework, catching the bus on time, study skills and organization are all things we discuss in this helpful and insightful episode. Fortunately, humans continue developing executive function skills far into their twenties, so there's hope and time for us to keep teaching and building on helpful techniques. This episode is a must listen for a...
Aug 19, 2019•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 78
Rachel Sobel of the blog Whine and Cheez Its is talking all things co-parenting, blended families, and finding happiness after divorce. What was it like dating again while having a young daughter? What have been the challenges of remarrying and how has she dealt with those hurdles? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? How did she know when it was time to end her first marriage and move on? We discuss all this and more in this heartfelt but fun and at times humo...
Aug 12, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 77
When was the last time you came up with some new ideas to spice up the romance and intimacy in your relationship? Adam and Danielle decided it was time to take things to the next level after 17 years of marriage, and let's just say the conversation and topics become more than either of them can really handle. Listeners can only imagine where this conversation goes, and let's just say it's not for the faint or timid. But if you're in the mood for some naughty, real, and even helpful information, ...
Aug 08, 2019•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 76
Jamie Lynn Sigler and Jenna Parris of the "Mama Said" podcast talk with Adam and Danielle about things we're no longer giving a f*ck about and how we're saying no to things for the first time since becoming parents. It's empowering to finally prioritize everything in our lives rather than feel like we need to say yes to everything. Adam gives the guy's perspective on canceling because we just can't possibly say yes to everything, while the women feel like it's a lot less easy to cancel on people...
Aug 05, 2019•53 min•Ep. 75
In one of their most vulnerable episodes yet, Danielle and Adam discuss a time when Danielle’s OCD was so debilitating that she could not leave the house, make phone calls or hold a job. Unable to understand that was happening, Adam couldn’t give her the help she so desperately needed. The two of them also discuss medication, the complications of being a spouse or being married to a spouse with mental illness, the petrifying aspects of “intrusive thoughts,” and so much more. If you or someone yo...
Jul 29, 2019•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 74
Nick He was born and raised in China in an extremely traditional home and community that never discussed sexuality. So when he thought he might be attracted to men, he assumed he must be diseased and broken. We talk to him about his journey from China to America, where he put himself in numerous dangerous situations looking for love on Craig's List, coming out to his parents, and ultimately finding love and creating a family through surrogacy. His story is heartbreaking, inspiring, and completel...
Jul 22, 2019•52 min•Ep. 73
Boundaries are something that most therapists say are healthy within a relationship. What small boundaries do you and your spouse have with one another? What bigger boundaries? Danielle and Adam both admit that they struggle with boundaries on different levels, and it has definitely affected their relationship and their lives. What line did Adam cross on 4th of July that inspired the idea for the episode and reminded Danielle that Adam’s struggle with limits is still very much there. What limits...
Jul 15, 2019•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 72
Marriage expert Liz from the #1 relationship app, Lasting, is back answering all our questions about trust, including is ok to track your partner? Should you be able to check their social media? How do you truly regain a partner's trust? And giving insight about how to have those awkward conversations about sex. She gives so much great information, and it was so awesome to get a professional perspective about so many topics about which we're uncertain. https://buy.getlasting.com/annual-sale to g...
Jul 11, 2019•51 min•Ep. 71
Throughout society, there seems to be this unanimous ideal of achieving an overall "happy" life. But, what does this mean and how do we get there? How much control do we really have over our emotional state and is it possible to change all of that even as adults? Life coach Amy is back again to give us ideas, exercises and the knowledge we need to become more fulfilled. As always, the conversation with her is fun, the big sister/little sister/brother-in-law dynamic is hilarious, and the conclusi...
Jul 08, 2019•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 70
Marriage and Martinis launched one year ago, and the past year has been an absolute rollercoaster ride and adventure. What started as a small idea that seemed somewhat unrealistic to Danielle and Adam has turned into more than they could have hoped or imagined. In this episode, they discuss what they've learned about themselves, life, and each other. Coincidentally, this past year has also been one of the most difficult for the couple, as they've dealt with so much drama within their relationshi...
Jul 01, 2019•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 69
