Talking points: masculinity, fatherhood, culture The man himself! Larry Hagner of The Dad Edge joins me to talk all things fatherhood. Deeply grateful to finally have Larry on the show and to dive DEEP with him on so many topics. This is a great episode to listen to if you’re searching for insight on how to maintain some level-headedness is what seems to be a tough time to be a parent. Check the timestamps for some of the depth-oriented questions we covered! (00:00:00) - Intro Larry’s defining m...
Sep 04, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 455
Talking points: libido, anxiety, sex drive Having a high libido isn't all it's cracked up to be. In truth, it can be surprisingly difficult to navigate, can impact relationships, finances, you name it. This week, a look at where high libido can come from, and some ways to navigate it effectively. (00:00:00) - Intro and my own issues with high sex drive (00:02:39) - Indicators that high libido might be becoming problematic (00:05:49) - But what causes high sex drive? (00:06:49) - Grief, anxiety, ...
Aug 31, 2023•18 min
Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more. This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrie...
Aug 28, 2023•48 min•Ep. 454
Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide. Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands. And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry ...
Aug 24, 2023•16 min
Talking points: success, achievement, addiction, cycling, athleticism, personal development Kevin Miller is a powerhouse. More than that, he's deeply humble and intentional in what he does after a lifetime of hard work and the pursuit of excellence. I sat down with him last week to dig deeper: what makes drive "drive"? What's the meaning of really going beyond your limits? What really, truly drives you, and where are you going with that? You know, just light conversation. (00:00:00) - Intro and ...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 453
Talking points: masculinity, culture, misandry Look, this is a charged topic. It’s also deeply complex, and it deserves serious attention MINUS the immediate rush towards dismissals, name calling, and blame games. I’d love to get your take on this topic too. Feel free to message me on Instagram or comment below. (01:16) - Intro and how society tends to react to men’s issues (05:37) - What systems could use changing, and their current impact on men (10:59) - When you bring this up, it’s easy to g...
Aug 17, 2023•18 min
Talking points: addiction, culture, history, enlightenment, Zen, purpose, non-duality The ManTalks Podcast has grown exponentially over the last couple years, so for all you newcomers, I like to release a sort of cross-section or "best of" episode to showcase what the podcast is all about—after all, I have talked to some brilliant and varied experts over the years! This time, the themes are the widest ever: addiction and enlightenment. I chose this to demonstrate my love of the scientific and th...
Aug 14, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 452
Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in. (01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this (03:05) - Caveats (04:42) - Why this is important (07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room! Men, join me for an intense, d...
Aug 10, 2023•9 min
Talking points: anxiety, suicide, mental illness, neurology, culture, psychology This was SUCH a thorough and enjoyable interview. Always a pleasure to get the practical yet caring advice from Dr. Kennedy, someone I’ve known for a long time. If you or someone you know has been diagnosed or deals with anxiety, this is THE episode for you. We cover all the ways anxiety, the body, and the mind are connected, where to begin helping yourself (or others) with those anxious feelings, what the therapy a...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 451
Talking points: dating, relationships This one is quick and to the point, friends. Is there REALLY a decline in great partners, mates, dating prospects, whatever you want to call them? Or...is the issue more complex than we think? Listen in. (00:00) Introduction and perceived decline of viable mates (02:12) The choice paradox and expanded dating pool (04:34) The consequences of the choice paradox (05:53) Is there still a decline? Other ways the dating world is impacted Men, join me in an intense...
Aug 03, 2023•9 min
Talking points: anxiety, 12-step, addiction, personal growth, energetics, belief, money It’s been over six years, but I finally got my friend David back on the show! We cover a ton of ground here, but the core of this episode is limiting beliefs. This is an excellent episode to dive into if you’re searching for a unique look at what they are and how they’re overcome. (00:00:00) Intro and Dave’s defining moment (00:07:51) Do you believe people need to hit rock bottom in order to grow? (00:12:50) ...
Jul 31, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 450
A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit. If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide. (00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine (00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning (00:05:00) Reas...
Jul 27, 2023•13 min
Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients...
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 449
Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy! (00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends (03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic (05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity (07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do (11:5...
Jul 20, 2023•17 min
Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shame I'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play. I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or some...
Jul 17, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 448
Talking points: maturity, parenthood I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in. 02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world 07:09 - The importance of the human spirit 14:15 - How parenting matures you 20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Sel...
Jul 13, 2023•24 min
Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight. This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact rela...
Jul 10, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 447
It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from ...
Jul 06, 2023•13 min
Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more. [01:02] - Christine's defining moment. [07:59] - Christine on women and anger [12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego. [15:25] - Women and anger. [28...
Jul 03, 2023•58 min•Ep. 446
There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener. What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build b...
Jun 29, 2023•10 min
Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people. If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you l...
Jun 26, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 445
I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditatio...
Jun 22, 2023•17 min
Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame Haven't done one of these in a while! Every so often I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in. If you're the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can't seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about...
Jun 19, 2023•42 min•Ep. 444
First off, why is this happening? Second, is there any kind of silver lining? These are the two major questions on my mind this mini-episode, plus why I think there's a growing number of people (men especially) searching for more hands-on, apprenticeship style training. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditati...
Jun 15, 2023•15 min
Talking points: addiction, psychedelics, the trouble with success, death, grief, masculinity, How I Met Your Mother Honestly, there's not a single topic Josh and I didn't cover in this episode. We've been friends for years and wanted to jam together for a long time, and it's clear we had a ton to talk about. Deeply grateful for his insight, perspective, and stories. This is a great episode if you're looking for the perfect combo of candid, vulnerable, and funny. [00:06:02] - Josh's defining mome...
Jun 12, 2023•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 443
Artificial intelligence is already changing the game for a number of industries, and I'm thinking erotica won't be an exception. But how? In what ways? And what's next? Lastly, I'd love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram to let me know! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relati...
Jun 08, 2023•13 min
Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it's shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story. [00:01:12] - Katherine Ann's defining moment [00:08:50] - the role Katherine Ann's father played i...
Jun 05, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 442
Having a bit of give and take? Good. Being flexible within reason? Great. But in my opinion, there's one area of your life where you should never, ever compromise. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from aroun...
Jun 02, 2023•11 min
Talking points: porn, sex, psychology, sexual technique, sexual health Note: there were some technical troubles on this one, so forgive the rougher audio! I polled my followers on Instagram for a lot of the questions Stirling and I covered this episode, so expect a great combo of thoughtful "why" answers and actionable advice on everything sex, arousal, attraction, and more. [00:01:08] - Stirling's defining moment [00:05:23] - How it shifted Stirling's perspective [00:12:57] - How DID you end up...
May 29, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 441
They're simple, but they consistently bear fruit. In this episode, three straightforward ways to be cultivate higher status—that do NOT involve buying a Bugatti Bolide—that you could start on the second you finish this podcast. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhoo...
May 25, 2023•15 min
