This episode is selections from a Zoom panel discussion I hosted on Jan 31 titled "Modern Masculinity and WTF Is Men's Work". For a couple years now, myself and these eight other men have gathered privately to talk about, well, everything. To celebrate the launch of my new book, Men's Work, we decided to make one of our talks public. About 900 people signed up, and I just want to say I'm so grateful for everyone who joined. You'll hear from: -Mark Groves: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/...
Feb 06, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 425
It might sound odd, but I think there are significant differences between the two, and it's important to train ourselves to understand those differences. Why? Because if you know how to work with them, they're not going to hinder your progress or damage your relationships. It's that simple. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next here: https://www.organifi...
Feb 02, 2023•14 min
Talking points: transition, moving from the Congo to America, equality, masculinity, and relationships. This was a phenomenal conversation. Full stop. Jeremie and I cover a lot of ground, and I'm grateful to have his insight and perspective on men's work. It's nuanced, clear, and deeply authentic. Jeremie Lotemo is a transformation coach helping clients create lasting change by examining the stories and beliefs that influence them on an unconscious level. He works to help them reestablish safety...
Jan 30, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 424
What if you didn't need outside validation? What if you could actually celebrate your own achievements? In a decade of working with men, I've noticed a lot of us struggle with this (myself included) and that hinders our capacity to contribute to the world the way we want to. So here are some ways to develop better self-recognition skills—and why. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up ...
Jan 26, 2023•14 min
All you newcomers to the podcast, this one is for you! Every now and then, we like to take segments from previous episodes that were particularly insightful, informative, or moving, and showcase them under theme. That way, you get a solid look at what we offer. In this episode: James Hollis on how the landscape of male culture has changed in his lifetime Owen Marcus on emotional intelligence Ben Goresky on what modern men seem to be facing John Wineland on the "integrated masculine" and embodime...
Jan 23, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 423
I'm sure you've heard the joke: men will start five separate podcasts before they go to therapy. There are lots of reasons why the stereotype exists, but it's my job to take it seriously. Here's my take on one of the deeper reasons why many men avoid seeing a counselor, a coach, a psychiatrist, or a psychotherapist. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next ...
Jan 19, 2023•9 min
Talking points: psychedelics, psychedelic-assisted therapy, men and therapy, the effects during and after taking psychedelics I've been looking forward to releasing the second part of our convo as a way of kicking off what 2023 could be for mental health. Nick is very well-informed, and if you've ever been curious about something like psilocybin, or just wanted some clarification on how psychedelics can affect a person and assist with powerful healing, this one is for you. Part 1 was about the f...
Jan 16, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 422
Title says it all, folks. I get asked this question a lot. Like...a lot, a lot. But the answer isn't as simple as yes or no, obviously. It's a little more subtle, and requires asking a few deeper questions. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand new book! Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your D...
Jan 12, 2023•12 min
Baby don't hurt me for the cheesy (but very appropriate) title. You'll just have to listen in. Talking points: love, family, growing up as an immigrant, community, vulnerability, business, self-love vs self-respect vs self-esteem Huge honor to sit down with Humble the Poet last month. This was a fascinating and engaging conversation. I deeply appreciate his creative, spiritual, and energetic approach to one of biggest human questions: what is love, really? Kanwer Singh aka Humble The Poet is a T...
Jan 09, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 421
One of the bigger asks of men these days can be summed up as "be more vulnerable". But what does that mean? Specifically, what does that mean for men in real life, not just online? Like so many things, the issue is so much more complex. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand new book! Men's Work: A ...
Jan 06, 2023•10 min
Ryan was one of the very first guests I had on the show, so this has been a long overdue conversation! As per the title, this is a simple but charged interview; we dig deep into Ryan's take on the question "what is masculinity?" Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world...
Jan 02, 2023•1 hr
If you've been listening for a while, you know full well I'm not a fan of New Year's Resolutions. Back in my early thirties, after countless attempts at getting into the next gym habit or productivity hack, I practiced something else that had a lot more impact. This is what it was. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-le...
Dec 29, 2022•16 min
It's been a long time since I've had Dr. LePera on the show. Too long, in my opinion. Earlier this month, we got into a discussion that was equal parts practical and esoteric: what is the self? This was inspired by her newly released book, How To Meet Yourself. This was such an enjoyable conversation, and as always, I'm honored to have the chance to know and speak to the Holistic Psychologist herself! Listen in. Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the N...
Dec 26, 2022•54 min•Ep. 418
Let's make this one short and sweet. I've found in my years of working with men that many will very, very quickly start neglecting their own needs and desires in order to fulfill someone else's. And there's nothing inherently wrong with that IF (and only if) there's balance. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the sel...
Dec 22, 2022•9 min
Ladies and gentlemen, Kyle Creek, aka The Captain. When I first came across this man's work, I greatly admired his amazing ability to get straight to the point. I've wanted to have him on the show ever since. This is a wide-ranging, honest conversation on fatherhood, depression, how social media affects our individuality, and so much more. Also, I'm going to share his website bio here unedited because it's...well, it's just fantastic. "As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a ...
Dec 19, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 417
A member of the ManTalks Alliance asked me this question: what's a big question you'd ask a woman on a first or second date? Well, here it is. Listen through to the end for the big picture. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get in the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your...
Dec 15, 2022•15 min
If you are into stories of incredible resiliency and dedication, this one's for you. It was an honor to sit with Ron Williams and get insight on his life, his journey, his take on post-traumatic growth, and what it takes to achieve at his level. This episode isn't just about mastery and dedication, it's about how we can take hardship in our lives and alchemize it. Fair warning, this interview has some frank talk about sexual violence. Ron Williams is one of the most decorated natural bodybuilder...
Dec 12, 2022•56 min•Ep. 416
A lot of men bump up against this and don't even realize it, and it ultimately becomes an origin point for a lot of other issues nice guys face in their relationships. So let's get talking. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix yo...
Dec 08, 2022•12 min
This. Was. So enjoyable. Britt has a gift for cutting through to the heart of seemingly complex topics. Her book, The Science of Stuck, resonated with me in the best way, so I had to have her on the show. We cover a lot, but mainly where to begin working with anxiety, motivation, and feeling stuck—things I think every one of us has experienced on some level. Born and raised in NY, Britt struggled for more than two decades with chemical/behavioral addictions, eating disorders, depression, anxiety...
Dec 05, 2022•56 min•Ep. 415
My opinion is yes, but it's NOT easy. Most (if not all) of us will experience some form of infidelity or betrayal over the course of our relationship history. Shouldn't we pay more attention to even the possibility of repair, as well as learn ways of repairing effectively? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Dec 01, 2022•16 min
I met Nick recently at a social function, and his gentle, heavily researched, and welcoming approach to topics psychedelics, internal family systems therapy, and more was deeply edifying. So I've asked him to come on the show for two longer episodes. Part 1 is about the fears and worries people can have around psychedelic experiences, and an overview of how they work and what their potential is. If you've ever been interested in this field, now's your chance to get in on the ground floor! Dr. Ni...
Nov 28, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 414
You see (and read, and hear) a LOT about purpose. What it is, where to find it, yada yada yada. I'm not so sure purpose is that easily defined. I'm not convinced it's something you can even find. Why? You'll just have to listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to fi...
Nov 24, 2022•27 min
I want to begin by saying how grateful I am for each and every man who steps into these sessions. This can be difficult, uncomfortable, painful work. My guest this week came to me struggling with confidence and self-worth, which was (as we found out) connected to his father's anger. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find...
Nov 22, 2022•54 min•Ep. 413
Specifically, about how his nervous system handles sex. Continuing on the theme this week—first Dr. Laurie Watson and now my own work. I've asked this question at men's weekends, in coachings, and the answer almost always surprises me. A lot of men know the very, very basics of arousal in their own bodies, but that's...it. Let's change that. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, exp...
Nov 17, 2022•14 min
Sex is where so many couples' abilities to communicate, be vulnerable, be expressive, and navigate each other's needs gets tested. Now, this can be a great thing—it can also be where things fall apart. This week, I sat down with Dr. Laurie Watson to get her insight on some of the bigger challenges men and couples face sexually: sexless marriages, expressing your desires effectively, and the straight-up differences in how men and women approach sex. This was a thoroughly enjoyable conversation, s...
Nov 14, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 412
This is kind of a two-partner. I wanted to talk a little more about the idea of "toxic masculinity" and what that term does in practice to men—and why it does those things. Secondly, I want to bring what I think is an incredibly misunderstood masculine trait. It's not necessarily any of the classical ones like "strength" or "rationality". It's also something that requires cultivation, nuance, and respect for the world. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Appl...
Nov 10, 2022•22 min
We all know intellectually that more than genetics gets passed down. Behaviors, opinions, and traumas can get transferred too. How it manifests, though, can be very different for every individual. In this anonymous men's work session, my guest and I work with the weight of a parent's past trauma. For the parent, it was depression and rejection of her partner's affection, but for my guest, it's become something different. Listen in. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more ...
Nov 07, 2022•43 min•Ep. 411
Let me preface this by defining what I mean by "archetype": a framework that works well for looking at certain patterns and traits. As far as I can tell, these three archetypes work together, and they're also three major archetypes men tend to fall for. Often unconsciously. What also happens is men can get stuck or fixated on one of them in a relationship, and this can lead to complications. This episode (sort of!) inspired by Jill Scott's I'm Not Afraid: https://youtu.be/yjDmpjuRUEc Did you enj...
Nov 03, 2022•13 min
Do clothes make the man? Well, yes and no. It's a little more complicated than that. This is a deep-dive into some of the nuances of masculine aesthetics. Sit down with Tanner Guzy and I as we discuss how the way you dress affects your self-perception and how men have used clothing throughout history. We also get into some practical places to start dressing better! Tanner Guzy is a men’s style coach, and the host and founder of Masculine-Style.com He is also the author of The Appearance of Power...
Oct 31, 2022•51 min•Ep. 410
I was chatting with a friend and he asked me: what am I going to teach my son about money? Big question. Because when I was kid, I wasn't taught very much, and the lessons I DID learn didn't work out too well. So after reflecting, here are four lessons I wish I'd learned a long time ago—one's I'll definitely be teaching my son. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTal...
Oct 27, 2022•18 min
