Harnessing Your Emotional Blueprint: Unveiling the Amygdala's Role in Shaping Reality

Either way , thank you so much for joining me today to continue our discussion about being your own manifesting coach by coaching your subconscious to manifest better versions of reality for you . I'm really excited about today's topic because this is probably my favorite part of manifesting reality intentionally , and I'm very happy that you are joining us Now .

Of course , the whole reason to be together on an afternoon is to take a deep dive into manifesting our life differently , and as a wonderful manifesting soul , you , like me , have an interest in manifesting parts of your life differently that are disappointing , unfulfilling , painful , especially when we know that more is possible , that better is possible , and especially

when those parts of our life are areas that are really important to us Spirituality , marriage , relationships , parenting , money , your body , our health , our fitness , our relationships , our career . These are parts of human life that well . They're wonderful opportunities to bring God to life and to be fulfilled .

They're really tailor made for human fulfillment in the 21st century . And I don't know about you . I've never had any luck pretending that I didn't care about those most important parts of my life , and so that's what we're here together .

We're brought together by a common desire , a communal knowing that more is possible for us , that in these parts of our lives , when we're disappointed , that's not the end of the road for us . You know that . I know that , and I'm here to tell you that your knowing is correct .

And what I talk about in my books and my podcast , on my website , my blog , my newsletter I try to make it hard for you to ignore me what I share about in all of these venues is all scientifically backed . It's all based on science , to the point that I would say I will be surprised if these things don't work for you because of their basis in science .

And today we're really leaning hard into neurobiology All right , it's a fancy word for the way that our brain works and the way that our brain functions as a physical entity .

I do want to say that , when it comes to manifesting parts of our lives in ways that are disappointing , in ways that are displeasing and , yes , it is true that you are manifesting the bad parts , just as you are the good parts and everything in between , just as I am . We manifest it all . We can't stop manifesting life .

That's what humans do here in this , in this world , in this universe that we inhabit . We are the source . You are the source of your world , your universe , your life . You are manifesting it . I want to start by making sure you know that you're not to blame for the bad things .

No , your beliefs are manifesting your life , the beliefs you inherited as a small child , up through age nine . You did not choose them , you inherited them and they took up and have . Well , they took up residence in your amygdala , in your limbic system .

That's what we've been talking about the last few weeks , and there they have stayed , manifesting your life in each moment . It's tempting sometimes to feel like we're doing something wrong when the life we're manifesting is displeasing or disappointing . We're not . We're not . Let's take your weight . Let's take , for example , a desire to have a more comfortable weight .

That's a pretty common desire , especially as we get older . Well , we can easily look around and see that so many other people are manifesting a weight , a physical form that is much more like the one we would like to have . They're doing it , but we're not . But that does not mean that you are manifesting your body the wrong way . I'll put that in quotes .

It doesn't mean you're manifesting your body wrong or incorrectly . You're actually manifesting your body just as you're manifesting everything else , the way that you're able . You're manifesting your body as you believe and remember . These are inherited beliefs .

You did not select them and they're still in there in your limbic system , in your amygdala , running the show , manifesting your life . Let me illustrate what I'm talking about here . I'm talking about letting yourself off the hook when it comes to blaming yourself for the disappointing parts of your life that you're manifesting , that we're all manifesting .

I'm talking about giving you permission to put down the stick and stop beating yourself up . Think about a dog Now . Maybe you have a pet dog . We've all been around dogs and we all know that dogs can smell things that people can't . So I'm taking my dog out for a walk and my dog is smelling . I mean , he's going crazy . You know how dogs behave on walks .

You can't smell any of that stuff that my dog is smelling . Does that mean that I'm smelling the wrong things ? Or is the dog smelling the wrong things ? No , of course not . I'm smelling what I can smell , and my dog is doing the same thing . I'm not smelling the wrong things .

I'm smelling what I can , and that's the way manifesting our reality works as well . We manifest what we can . We manifest the things in well . We manifest our life in accordance with the beliefs that we inherited and are now currently stored in our amygdala . We can't just like a dog can't smell anything it can't and a human can't smell anything it can't .

You can't manifest anything that you don't believe . Furthermore , you can only manifest that which you believe , and the same goes for me . So , when our life becomes disappointing , we're being shown that we have beliefs that we inherited , beliefs that are now proving themselves incapable of manifesting life aligned with our desires .

Displeasing life events , manifesting disappointing versions of life that's feedback . We get feelings , we get painful feelings from those disappointing events , and those painful feelings are feedback . Both of those things are clear indicators to us that we have limiting beliefs , and we all do , and we all receive that type of feedback every single day .

And when we get that feedback , what can we do about it ? How can we change ? Well , that's what this episode is about , right , this episode is about coaching our subconscious . Now , the first thing we need to know is that it's called our subconscious for a reason because it's below our conscious awareness .

Our subconscious , however , is incredibly powerful , although our conscious awareness , which arises from our cortex , the most modern part of our brain , is the part of us that we call the thinker or the decider .

When you are thinking and you are talking to yourself , inside your own head , that is your cortex , that is the CEO , if you will , of the physical body that you inhabit at the moment . Well , the CEO , your thinker , your decider , your conscious mind , it wants what it wants .

It wants that svelte body , it wants that fat bank account , it wants that soulmate relationship , it wants that spiritual connection to a higher power , it wants to be the mentor , parent and on . Those desires are very real for us , and yet we encounter life that runs in opposition to those desires quite often .

But , as we've already established , is a sign that our amygdala , which operates below our conscious awareness , has limiting beliefs , that you inherited , limiting beliefs . Like all of us , we all have limiting beliefs because we were all raised by imperfect people .

Goodness , I've passed along limiting beliefs to my four sons , I guarantee you , not intentionally , but there's really no way around it . So we all have limiting beliefs . We're all seeing their shadows in our daily lives . Those shadows are painful life events that are not aligned with our desires . We don't have to go over examples of those events . We all know .

So what do we do when this is happening ? Well , the first thing I will tell you is this we do not . One of the least effective ways to coach ourselves to manifest better versions of reality is to shout down our amygdala . Our amygdala does not speak to us using words , because our amygdala does not understand words .

It understands feelings , and it only understands feelings that are real , that it knows are real . In other words , it only understands feelings that are not too different from what's already inside of it . And what do I mean by shouting down our amygdala ? I'm talking about positive thinking .

Yeah , I know that sounds strange to have a manifesting coach demonize positive thinking . What could I be thinking to say that to you ? Well , here's what I'm getting at , and I think you will agree with this when I explain it this way . Although positive thinking is a wonderful tool , there's nothing wrong with positive thinking .

Positive thinking helps us feel better , or it can help us feel better , among other things that it can do . However , when life is disappointing and painful , we've already established that means I am manifesting a disappointing and painful version of reality . Only I , technically , I am not manifesting it In my subconscious mind .

My subconscious is manifesting disappointing and painful version of reality . So when that happens , when I am giving myself positive thought or positive affirmations in that situation , it's 100% guaranteed that those positive thoughts and positive affirmations are going to be very different from what's already inside my amygdala .

How do I know that If I felt , if I truly felt those positive thoughts , if I if that's truly how I felt about the reality I was manifesting right now , I wouldn't be intentionally crafting positive thoughts about it . That makes sense , right ? I don't use positive affirmations when the reality I'm manifesting is pleasing .

When that's happening , I'm grateful , but I'm not looking in the mirror and reciting positive affirmations . So every time a situation arises where I would use standard techniques of positive affirmations and positive thinking , you can bet that is me essentially shouting down my amygdala .

That is me telling my amygdala you're wrong , sit down , shut up and let me , meaning my conscious mind , run the show . And that does not work . Our amygdala ignores that because it has a job to do keep us alive and safe and it can't do its job very well if it is ignoring its own evidence . Now , the amygdala we talked about this last week .

The amygdala senses things . Just like that dog example , the amygdala senses tons of things that we can't consciously sense Smell , sight , sounds , touches , energy fields , and on and on and on . The amygdala has its own sensory input that it considers above and beyond , well before anything that our conscious mind is contributing to the story .

So the first thing I would say is , given all this , when life is being manifested in a disappointing , frustrating and painful manner , the first thing we want to do is call a truce right , don't . We don't want to browbeat our amygdala . We don't want to tell our amygdala it's wrong . We don't want to shout it down , we don't want to talk over it .

That is not helpful . It's not going to lead to manifesting better versions of reality , it's only going to frustrate us , and you know that We've all had those experiences . Well , now I'm telling you why you get so frustrating , because that really doesn't work . Declare peace between your conscious mind and your amygdala .

You know your amygdala's job is to look for changes which it considers threats to your safety . It doesn't matter if those changes are positive changes or negative changes .

It's looking for changes , irrespective of whether they're desired or not , and when it detects changes according to what you believe and what you've experienced from those beliefs , that is a threat and it is alerting you to it . It is manifesting your life in that way , your amygdala . Here's the reason why I say we declare a truce .

Your amygdala is not usually wrong about what it senses . It's almost always completely correct in what it senses . The amygdala isn't wrong about what it senses , but it is very often wrong about the level of threat that what it senses represents to you .

Okay , it is not a great technique , it is not a success habit to shout down , ignore , talk over , chastise your amygdala for the threat level it is alerting you to . So I want to talk about what to do instead . So what do we do instead ? We don't want to plaster over our amygdala with positive thinking . What do we do instead ?

Oh , what we do instead is really simple B not hard , I'll even say easy to do and C I don't know why my fingers are representing letters of the alphabet , but C it's kind of hmm bricks us into doing something that's even more powerful to sculpt and manifest a different version of reality . And let me explain what I'm getting at here .

What we do instead instead of shouting over our amygdala , we tell ourselves the best feeling believable story that is possible for us . I want to emphasize that is possible , right , because we don't need to reach for pie in the sky . We don't need to reach for the top rung of the ladder when we're crafting a story in the face of disappointing reality .

Right , I look in the mirror and I see and I'm going to go back to the weight example I was using earlier I look in the mirror and I see a body that does not please me . It is not aligned with my desires for it . I , in that moment , I want to tell myself the best feeling believable story that is possible for me in that moment .

Now , what does that mean ? Well , the way to make the story best feeling and , by the way , this is all constructed so that we can coach our amygdala Telling the best feeling believable story is an amygdala coaching technique . It works wonderfully . The best feeling story is that is possible , is going to be a story that acknowledges the disappointment .

I look in the mirror and I say , yes , it is true that my body doesn't look the way I want it to right now . It doesn't look the way I was hoping it was going to right now and it's disappointing to me because I was expecting something different . I was hoping for something different , and that's true . All right . So we want to acknowledge the disappointment .

We're not encasing it in cement , we're simply acknowledging it and then we make this believable by incorporating the things that we are doing or the things that we're committed to start doing , if we're not currently that are leading us towards solutions .

So I would make my story believable and once again , this is believable to the amygdala and best feeling to the amygdala , I would say and at the same time , I know that I am committed To my practices of hydrating myself , drinking lots of water , to my practice of not eating after eight o'clock at night .

I know that I'm also committed to my practice of getting out and going for a 30 minute walk today and each day , and I know that I'm committed to my practice of being a mindful eater and being committed to a healthy diet to the best of my ability .

These things are all true and , given that I know that , I can say that I'm on the path and that , while the results aren't what I'm looking for at the moment , or they didn't align with my highest desires for my body , I can't deny and I'm encouraged by the fact that I am on the path and that , even though I'm disappointed by what I'm manifesting in this

moment , I do know that I am walking towards a more aligned body Now . So that's a best-feeling believable story , and I said that we're kind of tricking ourselves .

Well , the reason we're tricking ourselves in a good way , by the way is because , if that's my best-feeling believable story that I'm telling myself in response to manifesting a disappointing or painful version of my body , well , for that best-feeling believable story to work , for it to change the reality that I'm manifesting , I'd have to actually be doing those things

that I claimed . That's super important , otherwise it's not believable . I mean , if I said , yeah , I see your body and I'm really disappointed by it , and that's true , however , I also know that when I wake up tomorrow , my body's gonna be perfect .

Or I also know that I'm gonna go to the gym later today and , after a couple hours of working out , my body's gonna be perfect . I mean , those are ridiculous statements , right , but those are examples of unbelievable statements . And why are they unbelievable ?

Because not only are they not true , they're not what's really going on , they're not what I'm really doing .

So telling a best feeling , believable story requires me to tell the truth about what I'm doing , and so I can't tell a best-feeling , believable story without actually doing something that is solution-oriented , that really is leading me towards resolution of this pain in my life .

So if I commit to telling the best-feeling , believable story , I know that I'm committed to A recognizing , listening to my amygdala . What is it telling me ? Affirming what it's telling me , recognizing what it's telling me rather than blowing it off , ignoring it or trying to shout it down .

I'm also committing myself to being involved in solution-oriented activity that I've legitimately identified as the best next-right things to do to lead me in the direction of manifesting my desires , because I can't include that information unless I'm really doing it and unless what I'm really doing really is focused on the solution .

Now , I don't have to have it all figured out . I mean , what parts of life do we have all figured out ? I get wrapped up in that sometimes I don't know about you wanting to have it all figured out .

I got to know , I got to know I do that , but the truth is the parts of my life where I'm knocking it out of the park , the parts of my life that are the most fulfilling .

None of that happens because I have it all figured out , but what does happen , in the way that those parts of my life have grown into such fulfilling versions of life , is because I have declared a truth . I've declared peace between my conscious mind , my cortex , and my limbic system , or my subconscious mind , particularly my amygdala .

As we've been saying , I've declared a truth , I've declared peace , and I've reinforced that by listening to what my amygdala is sharing with me , not shaming it or shouting it down , but really hearing and acknowledging what it is sharing with me . Yes , you're right , there's no denying that I'm disappointed by this or this isn't the way I wanted it .

And then adding the legitimate , solution-oriented activities that I am authentically engaged in . So , a , it motivates me to be engaged in such activities , and then , b , it allows me to utilize that engagement in ways that calm and coach my amygdala . So , yeah , the best feeling , believable story . So then ? So here's my challenge to you . Okay , thumbs up .

My challenge to you is this when you run into something disappointing today , whatever it is big or small , don't beat yourself up , don't blame yourself . It's your beliefs that are manifesting your life , your inherited beliefs .

You're not responsible for the beliefs that you inherited , but you are responsible for manifesting a different version of reality , if that's what you want and you get to , if you want to .

So , when you , the next time you encounter something painful or disappointing in your life which , if you're like me , won't take very long to happen I want you to tell the best feeling , believable story that you can .

I want you to acknowledge what your amygdala is telling you about , what's wrong , and then I want you to soothe your amygdala by lovingly and compassionately reassuring it by talking about the things that you are doing , the concrete things that you are doing that are solution oriented . I'll give you an example and then we'll close today .

I think I may have mentioned this in an earlier life , like months ago , but I distinctly remember going out to my garage getting ready to go for a run and as I was putting my head , my earbuds in , I noticed , wow , I am so discouraged right now about manifest the big stuff , about my business .

I am so discouraged right now because I had received some disappointing outcomes . You know nothing , earth shattering . I'd gotten some outcomes here in my business that definitely were not aligned with my desires for them , and I'm thinking , wow , I am just so discouraged , I just want to quit right now . That's how discouraged I'm feeling in the moment .

Now , this isn't how I normally feel about manifest , the big stuff . I thought . So this is an opportunity tailor made for a best feeling , believable story . And so what I said to myself is yeah , you know what ? The disappointing outcomes are 100% disappointing . There's no doubt about that . I'm not going to pretend like I'm happy at all about what is going on .

I'm disappointed and it is not what I wanted . And at the same time , I also know that I've experienced roadblocks and detours in the past that really have never completely derailed me . I also know that everything I've done that led to the disappointing results was all given my best effort and all appeared to me to be the right things to do .

So if I went back in time , I'm quite certain I would do these things again , and I know that the way that the best parts of my life have continued to grow and become even better is because I am committed to using my reality and the feelings it elicits as feedback , as information to inform me and guide me .

I also know that I'm committed to learning , growing and changing and that I'm going to continue to give my best efforts based on what I'm learning . And , furthermore , I know that I'm a hard worker . I've been working hard and I'm going to continue to work hard .

So , all those things considered , it is perfectly reasonable for me to say and know that , while disappointing , these results that I'm manifesting are not the final outcome . They're not an apocalypse , they're not doom and gloom .

They're simply a wrinkle that I will learn from , grow from and change what I'm doing based upon and that was the real , best feeling , believable story that I really gave myself . And what did that do for me right there in the garage ? Well , it didn't make . I can tell you this .

It did not instantly transform that part of my reality like a genie , but what it did do was it transformed me in that moment . It transformed my perspective , it transformed what I see , what I saw past tense . It transformed what I saw and what I understood in that moment . And you know what it's . What manifesting is Manifesting ?

While it might be a esoteric or mystical topic at different times , it really is nothing more than seeing an understanding . That's what manifesting is . So when we change what we see and we understand , we change what we manifest . So I am counting on you to take this practice and practice it , even if you don't get it perfectly .

You'll know that you're making progress when you feel you're amygdala starting to soothe , when you still notice what's disappointing , but the threat level has a base . The threat level has abated because you're investing in yourself . What should next week's topic be ? Why don't we talk next week about research based ways to begin your day , your morning routine ?

I'll share about my morning routine and I'll talk to you about research based techniques , practices and habits that turn up your manifesting power . I can't wait to share with you about this , and thank you so much to all who joined me today . What an exciting way to spend a Thursday afternoon .

And until we meet up again , please keep believing and keep manifesting my beautiful souls .