Some research suggests that up to 50% of our memory is fabricated. Why? Because we feel the need to insert details that will evoke the same level of emotional response we had in the initial incident. These dynamics can make healing from trauma more tricky. Today's episode explores these elements in greater detail, while explaining that even if a memory is primarily fabricated, if it had an impact on you it must be addressed. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The...
Sep 02, 2022•12 min•Ep. 361
Harry is a former varsity swimmer turned mental health advocate and the host of The Mental Corner Podcast; a podcast where he brings on guests from all walks of life to discuss the good, the bad and the inspiring in the world of mental health in hopes of educating and reassuring listeners that (as cliché as it sounds) you really are never alone in your struggles. Today he joins Sathiya to talk about his tumultuous history with mental health and how he managed to find a place of peace and well-be...
Sep 01, 2022•54 min•Ep. 360
Vulnerability has two dark sides: fake vulnerability (where someone shares "vulnerably" but it doesn't actually cost them anything) and over-vulnerability (where someone shares at a level that is inappropriate for the situation/relationship). Today's episode explores this dynamic in greater depth while explaining that the environment and the relationship should always be the determinants for the degree of vulnerability a situation requires. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bests...
Aug 31, 2022•15 min•Ep. 359
Today's podcast explains the mindset that is required to pursue recovery without getting caught up in some of the common pitfalls like streak counting. When you prioritize resolving root issues, the focus shifts from external measures to internal progress. While it is harder to quantify, there are certain signposts and indicators that you can monitor to ensure you are on the right track to making a full recovery. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relaps...
Aug 30, 2022•14 min•Ep. 358
Today's episode talks about the beauty of Imago Dei and what it means for us in our personal development. In some seasons, we get to know God more and in the process discover more of ourselves. It's the inevitable result when you pursue the God whose image you are made in. Alternatively, other seasons we discover more of ourselves, and learn more about God in the process. Regardless of which season you are in, this episode will inspire you to embrace it to the fullest. Join DeepClean Inner Circl...
Aug 29, 2022•14 min•Ep. 357
Inspired by a recent client's question, this episode outlines some basic concepts and parameters to consider when discussing sexual brokenness with your loved ones. This is a complex aspect of recovery with many moving parts, and it is important to do it well for your own well-being and the sake of your key relationships. It is highly recommended that you seek professional counsel concerning this matter. Listen to Episode 290 - Geoff Steurer on Proper Disclosure Protocol, Helping Your Partner Wo...
Aug 26, 2022•15 min•Ep. 356
Shannon Ethridge is a million-copy best-selling author, international speaker, certified life coach, and advocate for healthy sexuality with a master’s degree in counseling/ human relations from Liberty University. She boldly speaks to high school and college students, single adults, and married couples about embracing a lifestyle of sexual integrity, overcoming past sexual & emotional baggage, cultivating genuine intimacy in marriage, and instilling sexual values in young children. In today...
Aug 25, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 355
Peace is one of the most underrated subjects in the Kingdom of God. This episode explains why Biblical peace is one of the greatest resources we have access to and if stewarded properly, can increase on a regular basis. Whether you are stressed up to your ears or live a relatively simple life, this episode will help you walk in a greater measure of peace. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 24, 2022•17 min•Ep. 354
Hearing God's voice is a paramount component of the DeepClean methodology. Today's episode explores some of the finer details concerning the concept and what it looks like practically to "hear" the voice of the living God on a regular basis. It is highly recommend you listen to episode 343 before listening to this episode to have more context. Listen to Episode 343 - Why Journaling Literally Changes Lives Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 23, 2022•18 min•Ep. 353
The reason most fail to recover from porn addiction is not because of a lack of knowledge, resource or execution – often times it is because of a lack of hope. Somewhere along the way, we become convinced that our efforts aren't enough, the solutions we've picked won't work for us, and we wonder if anything will ever work. Today's episode provides 5 indicators that reveal you are on the right track in your recovery efforts. This list is not comprehensive, but should give you a decent idea of whe...
Aug 22, 2022•19 min•Ep. 352
Recovery whack-a-mole is when you try one solution for a while before bouncing to the next one, then the next one, and so on. Today's episode is an exhortation to stop playing recovery whack-a-mole and instead dial in on a solution that is going to properly tackle the root issues and resolve the addiction once and for all. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 19, 2022•15 min•Ep. 351
Today's episode features two DeepClean coaches, Henry Brown and Stuart Harrison, who spend time every week helping men resolve the root issues of porn and masturbation. In this interview we discuss common mistakes men make recovering (including many mistakes that we made ourselves), the solutions that are clearly working the most effectively today, and practical ways someone can get started on the journey. The conversation then shifts to discuss the role of the local church in all of this, as He...
Aug 18, 2022•47 min•Ep. 350
Recovery requires both skill acquisition and character development, however both are acquired through different means. Skills are taught, which means anyone can develop the necessary abilities to make a full recovery. Meanwhile character is caught, in other words, it is most developed by being around people of good character (ref 1 Corinthians 15:33). You must be certain that your recovery approach does not confuse the two – skills are not caught, and character is not best taught. Ideally, your ...
Aug 17, 2022•18 min•Ep. 349
A follow-up to Episode 347, today's content deep dives into why we must have both the memory of an elephant and a goldfish if we want to make a long-term recovery. The memory of an elephant allows us to be conscious of our strengths, to learn from our past mistakes, and to ensure that we stay wise. The memory of a goldfish allows us to avoid regret and to ensure that no mistake of the past lingers. Using Steph Curry as a case study, today's episode will show you how to harness the power of your ...
Aug 16, 2022•17 min•Ep. 348
Recovery has obvious elements like developing self awareness, heart healing, identity formation, etc. But many of the long-term success stories are marked by intangibles, one of which is memory. Today's episode explores the impact of memory in both addiction development and recovery, and how we can manage our memories in a way that allows us to move forward. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 15, 2022•16 min•Ep. 347
Few spiritual practices are more useful than discerning the voice of God. God is always talking, the question is - are we listening? Today's episode explores a simple 3-step framework for hearing God's voice, offering examples and practical insights. While the idea of hearing from God may be taboo or strange to some, if you are genuinely interested in growing in intimacy with God, this episode will help you tremendously. Listen to Episode 99 - The Value of Hearing God's Voice In Recovery Join De...
Aug 12, 2022•18 min•Ep. 346
Shane O'Neill is the Editorial Director from Proven Ministries—a non-profit that creates resources for sexual integrity. Shane is also the host of The Naked Gospel podcast. He has a graduate degree in apologetics and is working on another degree in counseling. Shane is married to Kaylee and they live in Virginia. On today's podcast, Shane opens up about developing multiple addictions to cope with life challenges as a young man, what it looks like to practically become more like Jesus, and why ex...
Aug 11, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 345
Focusing on Romans 12, today Sathiya breaks down the biblical response for handling those that mistreat and demean us. We know that life is not perfect, and that every day we are working with imperfect people. Regardless of what has been done to you, or how you have been treated, today's episode offers a way out to come through the experience stronger than ever. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 10, 2022•18 min•Ep. 344
We highly recommend you listen to the previous episode ( Episode 342 ) before listening to this. As a follow-up from how to perceive and process emotions, today's episode explains why journaling is one of the most powerful ways a man can process. Specifically, journaling is two-dimensional processing because you are both thinking and writing it and journaling offers you a safe environment to completely transparent without any risk of judgement or rejection. This episode will help you grow in emo...
Aug 09, 2022•14 min•Ep. 343
Our pull towards binary thinking often leads to black-and-white terms. Hot or cold, yes or no, free or addicted, positive or negative, etc. In some contexts, this thinking is useful, however, when it comes to emotions a new paradigm is required. Today's episode explores the gamut of emotions that a man will experience in his life while offering practical ways to perceive and process them. Feel Wheel Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 08, 2022•18 min•Ep. 342
Today's episode offers a spiritual viewpoint on the tension between Jesus coming "any day" without becoming complacent. We must be judgement ready because we do not know the day or the hour, but we do not want fear to drive our desire to get free either. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Aug 05, 2022•18 min•Ep. 341
Mike Signorelli is the founding pastor of V1 Church, the fastest-growing church in America according to INJOY Stewardship Solutions. He is the founder of a college, a marriage support network, emotional intelligence equipping for leaders, and Operation Impact - a non-profit that spreads radical generosity through partnership. On the podcast today, Mike does a deep dive into the deliverance aspect of pursuing freedom. Using a sound theological approach coupled with the experiential power of the H...
Aug 04, 2022•49 min•Ep. 340
If you are not yet married and desire to, there is nothing you can do better at this stage than rid yourself of any sexual sin in your life - your future spouse will thank you for it! Today's episode explores three benefits of recovery that translate well into dating. If you are married already, this episode will still provide some insights into useful by-products of recovery that will improve your marriage. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 03, 2022•16 min•Ep. 339
While our human nature tends to avoid pain, conflict and difficulty, the truth is that our innate desire for character, integrity and right-standing cannot exist without them. Today's episode explains why trials necessitate persevering, and how it is in our ability to persevere that we obtain character. If you are on any kind of journey in your life, this episode is a reminder that as long as you don't quit, you win. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Re...
Aug 02, 2022•15 min•Ep. 338
For years we have all heard that we are to handle life "like a man" – whether it's pain, hardship, or leadership. Today's episode explores where these ideas come from, why they have become problematic in our society, and what it really looks like for men to handle pain in a useful way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Aug 01, 2022•23 min•Ep. 337
Today's episode is inspired by the example of a well-known Christian leader whose wife recently passed away. Often time we learn the most about people amidst trials and difficulty. Today's episode is a great reminder that surrender evokes the greatest level of change in the life of the believer. If you have hit a wall or are finding it tough to gain breakthrough, surrender just might be the secret sauce missing from your solution. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling boo...
Jul 29, 2022•17 min•Ep. 336
Dr. Bruce & Dr. Toni Hebel are co- authors of Forgiving Forward: Unleashing the Forgiveness Revolution and founders of Forgiving Forward Ministries, leading hundreds of thousands of people through the revolutionary power of forgiveness. In this interview, the Hebels explain why forgiveness can reverse trauma, wounds of the past, and deep pain in a matter of minutes, why Jesus was so adamant about forgiveness, and why forgiveness is NOT a process. Whether you are having a hard time forgiving ...
Jul 28, 2022•59 min•Ep. 335
We often believe that materialistic goods provide authority – media appearances, large followings, cars, money, etc. The truth is, nothing breeds authority like authenticity. We all long for greater authority in our own lives and the domains that God has called us to – walking in authenticity on a regular basis will help you get there faster than anything else. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Jul 27, 2022•13 min•Ep. 334
Have you ever told yourself you "can't" do something? Sathiya explains why this kind of thinking and phraseology often leads us to limiting beliefs, small thinking, and stagnancy in life. Offering a poignant personal example from Sathiya's worship leading days, this episode will open up your mind to new ways of thinking, new opportunities, and newfound inspiration to pursue the goals set before you. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Jul 26, 2022•15 min•Ep. 333
Every human has insecurities – it's how we handle them that truly matters. Today's episode explores the unique dynamics men often encounter with person insecurity while offering practical ways to begin dealing with them. The more secure you become as man, the better you will lead your life. The more men become secure in general, the better we will lead society. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Jul 25, 2022•16 min•Ep. 332
