Aaron Zint is the leader of The Whole Man Project, a men's purity group based out of Bethel Church. As a recovered porn addict and host of the Marriage Lab podcast, Aaron is passionate about helping men wholistically approach sexual wholeness and relational health. In this interview, Aaron unpacks why traditional models for men's events and accountability groups don't work, ways to experience lasting freedom, and an exciting event coming up that features some of the world's best speakers on men'...
Aug 23, 2021•47 min•Ep. 91
The surge in technology, social media and digital solutions has left society more isolated and lonely than ever. Not coincidentally, the messages around community and 'finding your tribe' have never been louder. While they are valid, there are dangers to them as well especially when it comes to finding your tribe. Today's podcast explores the elements needed for a healthy social life and how it may not necessarily include what the mainstream messages are presenting. Download The Ultimate Recover...
Aug 20, 2021•26 min•Ep. 90
There is only one way addiction ends: Death. Whether it's physical, relational, spiritual or mental, addiction is debilitating. In this sobering episode, Sathiya details a recent experience he had losing someone close to him because of addiction. These moments are tough, but can serve as excellent reminders to value people, always go the extra mile, and get the help you need. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights an...
Aug 19, 2021•21 min•Ep. 89
Is it really possible to eliminate the porn problem altogether? Today's live episode tackles this monstrosity of a question. Freedom has little to do with eliminating porn and much more to do with changing lives and making dreams come true. If you ever intend to get free so you can help other guys get free, this episode is worth listening to. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my...
Aug 18, 2021•13 min•Ep. 88
Christian culture teaches to avoid sex before marriage with the promise that you will have a glorious wedding night. But is it really true? Today's episode explores the realities of sex in the context of marriage - including the struggles and the true qualities that make sex an enriching experience. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.co m Follow me on Instagram or Clubhouse to participate in my live streams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST (IG – @ sat...
Aug 17, 2021•24 min•Ep. 87
Sathiya had the privilege of interviewing Jerrad Lopes, a Christian author, speaker, and the founder of Dad Tired, a non-profit ministry focused on equipping men to lead their family well. He hosts the weekly Dad Tired Podcast, downloaded over 3+ million times by men from around the world. In this interview, they discuss the origins of DadTired and how Jerrad has handled significant ministry growth, including rubbing shoulders with the likes of Lecrae, Cody Carnes and other well-known Christian ...
Aug 16, 2021•48 min•Ep. 86
Most men don't want to lust after women. They want to treat them with respect. So why then is it so hard? Today's episode explores what it means to really treat women with respect, and some practical steps you can take starting today. Ep 38 – Managing Attraction Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.co m Follow me on Instagram or Clubhouse to participate in my live streams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST (IG – @ sathiyaMEsa m; Clubhouse – @sathiyasam) S...
Aug 13, 2021•19 min•Ep. 85
Today's episode addresses a rather uncomfortable subject – morning wood (nocturnal penile tumescence). When you are trying to get free of porn, these experiences can be triggering and cause you to stumble if you aren't careful. Understanding the causes of NPT and practical ways to dissipate the situation go a long way to staying in control, even when experiencing morning arousal Blog - Everything You Need To Know About Morning Wood Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my new...
Aug 12, 2021•20 min•Ep. 84
Years ago Dr. Gary Chapman coined the concept of the 5 Love Languages – the simple idea that each of us has preferences for how we give and receive love. This concept burst onto the scene, healing marriages, relationships, families and lives, in the process. While the application is typically in a relationship context, at DeepClean we have found the Love Languages to be helpful in a recovery context as well. Today's episode explores this dynamic in further detail. NOTE: This episode was recorded...
Aug 11, 2021•24 min•Ep. 83
Emotions and thoughts frequently interplay with one another. As we grow in our inner strength, it is useful to understand the differences between emotions and thoughts while also understanding how to process them effectively. Today's episode tackles the basics of emotions and thoughts, explains which comes first, and provides a real-life example of how to manage both effectively. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insight...
Aug 10, 2021•20 min•Ep. 82
In today's episode, Sathiya sits down with Stuart Harrison. Stuart joined DeepClean feeling like a hypocrite for being involved in the church while secretly struggling with pornography. After experiencing massive transformation in the course, Stuart began to receive more opportunities at church, but it was different this time. He now felt worthy to handle them. Today, Stuart is not only an up-and-coming leader at his local church, he has joined the DeepClean community, coaching other men into fu...
Aug 09, 2021•32 min•Ep. 81
In this follow-up from Episode 68, Sathiya deep dives into anxious and avoidance attachment styles, explaining how they form, how they manifest in adulthood, and how they can play into porn addiction. If you struggle to experience emotional intimacy and vulnerability, this episode will provide you valuable insights into your attachment styles. 68 – Attachment Theory & Addiction Recovery, Pt 1 Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) a t www.ultimaterecoveryguide.co m Rec...
Aug 06, 2021•23 min•Ep. 80
If we stayed in a place of peace our whole lives, we would never make a poor decision. Unfortunately, the stressors of life compromise our nervous system, which often leads to poor decisions and unwanted recurring behavior patterns. Today's episode looks at Sathiya's two-step process for calming the nervous system. Whether you are looking for help managing attraction and temptation, or simply wanting to handle the stresses of life with ease, you will want to learn this 2-step process. Download T...
Aug 05, 2021•23 min•Ep. 79
Sometimes the best recovery secrets are covert. We tend to gravitate towards obvious solutions, when in reality the subtle solutions can often make the difference. Today’s episode explores the importance of hobbies and outlets in the recovery journey, including practical ways to find hobbies that will work for you. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasa...
Aug 04, 2021•17 min•Ep. 78
In a rather unusual episode, Sathiya details an addiction he is currently working through. While it may not be classified officially as a diagnosable condition, it holds several parallels to porn addiction. Today he explains his journey working through the addiction and some of the lessons he's learned along the way, including a huge discovery that has altered the way he views the concept of freedom. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Fo...
Aug 03, 2021•24 min•Ep. 77
Rob Kowalski was raised by a 15 yr old mother with no strong male role model in the picture. He taught himself how to “be a man”, and eventually became the most sought-after male stripper in his hometown of Baltimore. At 25, he became a nightclub promoter and took over the nightlife in Charm City. His life looked like something out of a movie - full of sex, drugs, and alcohol. Then he had a radical life-changing encounter with Jesus that transformed him forever. God turned his mess into his mess...
Aug 02, 2021•33 min•Ep. 76
Closing out our series on the Ultimate Recovery guide, today's episode talks about the importance of identity. Self-deprecation almost goes hand-in-hand with most addiction recovery models, but we have found that when you deal with the identity first, the addiction takes care of itself. This episode provides surprising truth about your value, sense of self, and worth in ways that are rarely discussed. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receiv...
Jul 30, 2021•21 min•Ep. 75
While porn recovery is spiritual in nature, it is not exclusively spiritual. We must be careful that our recovery solutions are not reduced to overtly spiritual solutions alone, otherwise you will miss out on a plethora of meaningful solutions that are God uses to bring freedom. Today's episode explores the philosophy of spirituality in the recovery journey while offering practical ways to carry it out. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Rece...
Jul 29, 2021•17 min•Ep. 74
Today's episode focuses on the third best practice for porn recovery – monitoring internal progress. We are taught that SMART goals are the best way to achieve accomplishments, but measurable goals in the recovery journey are not always effective. Instead, focusing on the underlying aspects will yield the best results. This episode explains why and offers a few ways to get started. Episode 70 - Tips For Stewarding Progress Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimatere...
Jul 28, 2021•18 min•Ep. 70
We continue our exploration of the Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery by addressing a common misnomer regarding recovery – behavior modification. True freedom happens internally FIRST. Today's episode explores the nuts and bolts of dealing with the internal realm, including a practical way to get started. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com My Journaling Method Explained (Episode 12) Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my ne...
Jul 27, 2021•10 min•Ep. 72
Today's episode introduces a brand new, FREE resource – The Ultimate Guide To Porn Recovery. Sathiya takes you through segment #1 of the guide, which talks about the importance of bringing others in to your recovery journey. That being said, it is important that you do not simply invite anyone and everyone. There are a few questions to ask before you start reaching out, and today's episode covers these in more detail. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimaterecover...
Jul 26, 2021•14 min•Ep. 71
Learning to steward success is just as important as handling relapses. Many men have relapsed because they do not know how to handle progress in a way that leads to more growth. Today we explore confidence vs complacency, giving credit to God vs self, and focusing on the unseen vs the seen. Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.co m Follow me on Instagram t...
Jul 23, 2021•14 min•Ep. 70
Today's episode talks about the importance of concentrating your focus in the correct areas. When we dwell on things that are not useful for us, it ultimately steals our joy in the present and hope for the future. This episode also unpacks a Steph Curry mantra that has enabled him to cement himself as the greatest shooter in NBA history and will help you become a healthier, more wholesome man. Resources Referenced: Episode 6 - The Triple Threat, Pt 3 (Regret) Episode 38 - How To Manage Attractio...
Jul 22, 2021•14 min•Ep. 69
Attachment Theory has become a prevalent subject in modern psychology. Offering insights into how we relate and ultimately get our needs met, attachment theory is useful for identifying areas of our upbringing that might require attention and healing. Today's episode explores the 4 attachment styles and what each one looks like. At the end, Sathiya provides good news on how to make progress towards the ultimate achievement of attachment theory – secure attachment – no matter your current style. ...
Jul 21, 2021•26 min•Ep. 69
Finding a professional to help you through an issue as personal as porn addiction is not an easy process. Therapist or program? Clinical psychologist or coach? With so many options, how do you know what is right for you? Today's episode was recorded on Instagram live tackling this very subject. We discuss the differences between a coach and a counselor, and the value that both a program and a professional therapist can add to your recovery journey. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by sign...
Jul 20, 2021•20 min•Ep. 67
Today Sathiya sits down with a recent graduate of DeepClean, Lowell Schrock. When he first started, Lowell had little to no self-awareness and only knew busyness as a solution to porn. He found out how much trouble he was in during the pandemic, where more alone time at home led to major slips and a few regrettable mistakes. After meeting a girl at the start of 2021, Lowell knew he needed to turn his life around. Since joining DeepClean, Lowell cultivated self-awareness, grew deeper in his relat...
Jul 19, 2021•23 min•Ep. 66
Today's episode continues from episode 64, this time exploring two very different marriage stories: arranged versus dating. The contrast goes to show that while people will meet in different ways through different means, having a successful marriage boils down to just a few simple things (termed "the 3 C's"). Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Follow me on Instagram to participate in my live streams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST ( @sathiyaMEsam...
Jul 16, 2021•25 min•Ep. 65
Our culture today puts a lot of pressure on finding "The one." While this approach is not all bad, today's episode explores best practices for choosing your life partner. This process can be extremely enjoyable and when you involve God in the process, extremely rewarding. Enjoy this practical approach to finding a spouse. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Follow me on Instagram to participate in my livestreams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST ( @...
Jul 15, 2021•23 min•Ep. 64
The DSM-5, which is considered the Bible of psychiatry, does not recognize porn addiction as a diagnosable condition. Today's episode explores why the DSM has made this decision, but more importantly – the factors that we can look for to classify someone's situation. While it is not recognized by the DSM-5, porn addiction is very real and we typically see addiction patterns and behaviors play out in this area – withdrawal, desensitization, social impact, etc. If you've wondered where your situat...
Jul 14, 2021•24 min•Ep. 63
*Today's episode is the first of many more Instagram Lives* Managing night life matters just as much as anything else in the recovery process. Often staying up late, being unable to fall asleep, and a whole plethora of night-related issues lead to slips and relapses. Developing good night time habits goes a long way in the preventative practices that come with long-term recovery. Follow Sathiya on Instagram to participate in future live streams (@sathiyaMEsam) - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Re...
Jul 13, 2021•16 min•Ep. 62
