You have achieved all your goals... now what? (I need more) #590

This week , I wanted to pull this apart because I had a conversation with a bloke who has a great income , an amazing family , his health's in good order , but he's feeling like he's not living up to his potential or it's not enough , and it made me start thinking more about this topic , like what's next once we achieve our vision ?

What is next once we achieve everything we've ever been working towards ? The biggest thing that raised its head for me was that if we're not growing , we're dying , and so whenever we achieve outcomes , we always need that next goal , regardless of what phase or season of life we're in .

And regret there's a great quote by Sidney J Harris and it is regret for the things we did can be tempered by time . It is regret for the things that we did not do that is inconsolable inconsolable . So does living . A life of regret scare you ?

Regret is a profound emotion that touches nearly every facet of our lives , guiding our choices across our careers , our education , finances , relationships and health . Consider this 41 percent of professionals worldwide harbor regrets about their career paths , with many wishing that they'd taken the plunge to do something different earlier . According to a linkedin study , now .

Similarly sorry tongue tied there . Similarly , I'm not even gonna get that word . A gullet poll shows that over half of Australians would redo key educational choices , and a bank rate study reveals that 73% lament their financial decisions particularly to the lack of foresight in retirement planning .

So that gets me thinking about why it is so powerful to have not only your personal vision but tying your professional vision into that . What is your professional ambitions and goals setting you up to do in your personal life ? It's something that I'm going to be guiding people through in our Focus Success System , which you can join the waitlist now .

But on a personal note , about 18% of older adults report their biggest regrets stem from romantic relationships , as highlighted by a survey from the American Psychological Association . Now health-wise CDC points to regrets over lifestyle choices like smoking and poor diet that impact long-term health . These statistics aren't just numbers , guys .

They're like a mirror , reflecting the significant , sometimes harsh , lessons of our choices or consequences of our choices . Yet in every regret lies lessons in making more informed , conscious decisions that pave a way for growth and better outcomes .

I found myself in a place where the fear of regretting decisions had more influence over what I did than living life itself . I believe it's because the older I get , the more responsibilities I'm taking on , and I tend to recognize that I'm recognizing time more now than I did when I was younger . I said goodbye to playing rugby at 23 .

I've said goodbye to friends and I've said goodbye to dreams . I don't believe it's possible to die without some form of regret , but I do believe we have more control over the regrets that we do live with .

And , as that beautiful Sydney Harold quote said , do the some regrets we can get over time , but the most inconsolable ones are the ones we regret not doing so . It's really about taking action and this is once again why , if you haven't created that life's vision , it's so important to do so .

I'm not alone when I know I say I've experienced regret and I do experience regret . Bronnie Waugh , a palliative care nurse , wrote a book on the topic , the Top Five Regrets of the Dying , and I would highly , highly , highly recommend reading this book to give you some incredible insights on life .

But she compiled insights into the most common regrets of the dying . Among the top were wishing they hadn't worked so hard can relate . Wishing they had the courage to express their feelings can relate . And wishing they had let themselves be happier can also relate . Wishing they had let themselves be happier can also relate .

When I was reading this , I resonated with all of the five of them , plus some more that they discuss . I work hard , I struggle to express my feelings and I don't allow myself to be truly happy .

I convinced myself I'll be happy when and I truly believe that it hasn't been until recently , when I moved to the United States , and not because I moved here , but it was the fact that I had to look at my life through a different lens that I recognized that , since I've been here , I've made some massive changes which I want to talk about and I believe a

lot of you may be able to resonate with , or even the perspectives will help you start thinking differently . It's got me thinking massively . If regret is inevitable , what can I do to make sure that when my time is up , I'm not regretting what I didn't do ? Society is hurting now . People are unhealthy . They're living week to week . They're lonely , unhappy .

As a personal goal , I want to make sure that I don't end up in this position , but as a professional goal , it's to make sure that others don't as well . So think about it . Successful people hire mentors and coaches to guide them for better results .

So why wouldn't we listen to the studies of those who are on death's door to inform us on how to live a better quality of life and maybe point us in the direction of what is important ? My goal in this episode is to empower you to build a great life's resume , enjoy the journey to your desired outcomes and document the journey . I hang around for that one .

A lot of you may be going . Why would I want to document the journey ? Trust me , life is too short . Steve Jobs said your time is limited . Don't waste it living someone else's life , and I want you to sit on that question .

I want you to think about that question or that quote , and ask yourself this question the life that you're living currently , have you designed it or have you fallen into it ? Something to think about . A principle that I've embraced , to avoid future regret about what I didn't do , is crafting the life's resume , also known as ticking off the bucket list , right ?

We've all heard of the bucket lists . This isn't just any list , right ? It's a personal catalog of dreams and milestones aimed to enrich the journey that we call life . It's about embracing the experiences that resonate deeply with your spirit , ensuring that you live life fully and create a tapestry of memories without regret , right ?

The concept really clicked for me after learning about Jesse Itchler's approach to building a life's resume and for those of you who aren't familiar with Jesse , I stumbled across him when I read his book Living with a Seal , which is based around David Goggins .

It's a wild book and a great laugh , but he's also written multiple things and really inspired me with how he lived his life . But essentially , he suggests marking something off your bucket list every two weeks . That's what he does , so adding up to six new experiences annually .

It's a pretty straightforward yet profound strategy , inspired by Jesse and after chatting with Seb Terry , who I had on the podcast about two years ago and I'll link to the episode below who champions the hundred things philosophy , which is essentially having 100 things on your list to pursue in life .

You don't have to stick to the rigidity of the two-month rule though I find aiming for at least every quarter is more feasible but find something that's going to work for you . Remember that not every item has to be as monumental as attending , like the FIFA World Cup final , which is on my bucket list .

I categorize my goals into three zones and maybe this is going to work well for you and it's something that helps you keep the momentum going . Number one , or zone one , is the pinnacle pursuits . So these are the epic quests , like witnessing the World Cup or experiencing the Northern Lights .

They're dreams that demand significant effort and a bit of planning and a bit of fortune to offer these unforgettable memories . Zone two are the meaningful milestones , so these are substantial yet attainable goals , like running a marathon in a historic city or learning a new language , pushing your limits while being within reach .

And zone three are your everyday escapades . So these are the simpler joys , like surfing at Burley Heads or mastering Italian cooking or focusing on life's daily pleasures . So to recap that zone one are your pinnacle pursuits , zone two are the meaningful milestones . Zone three are the everyday escapades , and we'll go through this in the focus success system .

The structure eliminates excuses and really encourages actions . So here's a glimpse into my current challenge . That is going to be properly announced , but since you guys listen to the podcast , get to hear it first . Announced , but since you guys listened to the podcast , get to hear it first .

It's running a marathon in every state of the USA and every state of Australia over consecutive days , so it's going to be called the 58 to 58 project . It's not just about the physical challenge , though . It's about exploring the diverse landscapes and cultures and , yes , it's going to be as exhilarating as it sounds . I'm really , really excited for it .

But start crafting your own life's resume . What's the first experience that you'll chase ? What's a pinnacle pursuit that you have A meaningful milestone in an everyday escapade ? What is on that list for you ?

A great little hack if you're an Apple user or an iPhone user , sorry , go to your reminder section and you can actually build a bucket list in there and categorize it . So if you want to learn how to do that , I'll teach that in the Focus Success System . So it's on your phone , right ? It's front of mind , but I highly recommend getting into doing that .

But you will always hear me talk about planning , because if it's not written down with a deadline , it's never going to get done . Right , you are in control of your life's resume , so act on it .

If you want support with this as I said , it's going to be happening in the Focus Success System you can join the waitlist on my Instagram , head over to the website or the link in the bio there . But let's dive into the next , I guess , key point here Learn from others' regrets .

So , diving back into the book by Bronnie Ware , in our rapidly advancing society , life seems increasingly complex . Unlike centuries ago , when the primary focuses were protection .

Unlike centuries ago , when the primary focuses were protection , provision and procreation , today we're often swamped with building social followings , chasing relentless self-improvement , nurturing families and seeking global adventures .

That our motivation to engage in these activities stems not from the activities themselves , but from what we believe they will provide us fulfillment , security , recognition To live a good life . I personally champion simplicity . This means reducing our desires to their most basic why ?

Understanding deeply what we aim to achieve through our pursuits and what they truly mean to us . I firmly believe in the wisdom of learning from those who have gone before us . The old saying learn from your elders resonates profoundly when considering universal regrets highlighted in the top five regrets of the dying .

The reoccurring themes across various people's lives has made me reflect . If these regrets are so common , they must hold the central truths about the human desires and missteps . So what can I do to sidestep these common regrets ? I focus on prioritizing genuine relationships and personal well-being over societal expectations .

By actively choosing experiences and setting goals that align with my deepest values , I aim to forge a path that hopefully leads me to fewer regrets . What choices are you making today that ensures you don't harbor similar regrets ?

One of my personal challenges was the difficulty in expressing my feelings , particularly in telling my loved ones that I love them and what they meant to me . So for years I struggled to say I love you to my family members . It wasn't something that we did growing up . With encouragement from my wife , I finally broke through that barrier .

The relief , the deep connection that followed were transformative . This breakthrough was a practical step in living a life without regrets , particularly the regret of not having expressed my feelings .

I've built a career around these choices , rather than letting my career dictate my life . One of the biggest realizations has been that in today's world , we can arrange our work around our life . It takes effort , but it is definitely achievable , especially if you find something you love and you build a community around it . That's what I've done .

This is the foundation of the Focus Success System , which I'll be teaching soon . It's about identifying a viable option for building a BU business , a business that aligns with who you are and what you value . The reason I'm talking about this now , more than I ever have really , is that it profoundly changed my life .

Having worked for myself for 10 years , I get to travel , do what I love with people that I cherish and impact other people's lives in a meaningful way , and I had a bit of a roadblock for a long time where I didn't want to talk about making money .

I didn't want to talk about how I built my business , because I wanted to focus on helping men improve their quality of life . But what I've realized is one of the biggest influences on my life improving was building my own business . So that's why we're talking more about that now and that's why the Focus Success System will do that more .

So the final key point document the journey . If you're hesitant about documenting your life's milestones , consider this . While a bucket list propels us towards new experiences , documenting these achievements serves as a mirror reflecting on the journey .

The reverse bucket list is what I like to call it A repository of all the remarkable things that you've accomplished , the adversity that you've overcome . It provides as a great source of reflection and the ability to practice gratitude . Life is full of changing seasons .

What we can do today might not be possible in the future due to shifts in our health , financial status or family responsibilities . So keeping a documented record allows us to revisit these memories , appreciate our past adventures and maintain a sense of continuity and identity through all of life's transitions . Documenting isn't just about preserving the memories .

It's an active practice of gratitude . By recording our experiences , we not only cherish them more deeply , but we also create a legacy of accomplishment that can inspire and inform future generations .

Think about it If you're like me and you watch people on YouTube or you've followed people's journeys as they tick off goals in their own lives , it's quite inspiring and you can do the exact same thing .

And whether it's to inspire your family or whether it's to inspire the future generations that I mentioned , it's a really cool process to take part on and I do believe it makes you more present in the process of achieving goals and building other things that you want .

Now , at times , I struggle to document because my life seems mundane and routine easily takes over , and routine easily takes over . Recognizing this is , I guess , a cue for me to inject some spontaneity into my days . Documenting these moments reminds us that life isn't just about routine .

It's about the unexpected joys , the things that go wrong and the spontaneous adventures .

Over the years , I've documented my 12-week journey to a 10-kilometer time trial , a 5-kilometer time trial , 30 marathons in 30 days , my travels across various different countries and the processes of building my business , all of which show the ups and the downs of my life and something that I can watch back in the future .

I was watching a video the other day after my first six months in network future . I was watching a video the other day after my first six months in network marketing , and I was six months in , but I was doing a video about how proud and excited I was about taking control of my financial future and building a business for myself .

And I look back and I'm like dude , you were six months in , you hadn't even started , but at that moment in time I was so enthusiastic and pumped and I think being able to relive that is such a cool experience . So when it comes to documenting , there are going to be many ways that you can do it .

Choose what works best for you , whether it's journaling , taking photos , capturing videos or even vlogging or podcasting , even for that matter , like this , capturing videos or even vlogging or podcasting , even for that matter like this . Each method offers a unique lens through which to view and remember your life's journey .

Personally , I've chosen podcasting , as you're listening to it now , and vlogging , if you're watching this on YouTube , because I love the idea of my children being able to watch and listen to aspects of my life if they choose to do so .

This method not only preserves my memories , but also connects to the future generations that I've mentioned , and it's a great way to remind myself of how much progress I've made In making a habit of documenting . Consider setting aside a few minutes each day or week to reflect on the record .

We have the 12-week game plan within the academy , where you review daily and you review weekly , monthly and quarterly . It really keeps you present to the progress that you're making . The small investments of time can pay huge dividends in how you perceive and remember your life unfolding . After all , what do you have to lose ?

Stepping into new habits like documenting your life may feel uncomfortable at first , but embracing this document can transform you into a powerful tool for personal growth . So don't wait for someday . Start today and build a legacy of memories that you won't live with but will live on after you .

Build a legacy of memories that you won't live with but will live on after you . So these three key points that I've discussed , I've explored and dove it into , have reshaped the way that I live , moving me away from a life that waits for the weekends and the holidays to one full of intentional , fulfilling activities .

It's clear that extraordinary changes aren't required to escape the grime . Simple , steady steps can lead to significant transformations . If I could offer a plan to my younger self , this is what it would be , and if you're listening along , either head over to my website and read this on the newsletter or take note of this now .

But if I could offer a plan to my younger self , it would be this One build your bucket list Clearly . Define what experiences and achievement you want to pursue . Number two , tick off one item every quarter or choose a timeframe that works for you . Commit to consistent , measurable progress and , finally , document the journey .

Keep the visual or written records to capture these experiences . You're building your life's resume , which is going to be cool to reflect upon at some point , especially with the way that you know what's the apples , goggles and all of that sort of stuff . You'll be able to really relive it if you've documented it through video .

Life is designed not by just what we do , but how we feel about our actions . So , whether you're looking to overhaul your life or simply just enrich it further , these strategies are proven to make a meaningful difference . Right , they really have worked for me . I'm excited to offer a more in-depth guidance in the Focus Success System , which is coming up soon .

Join the wait list to transform your approach to life and ensure you are living without regrets .

The first intake is going to be live . Right , I'm going to be doing it pretty much like this You'll be on video so you'll be able to see and ask questions . So make sure you get on the waitlist for that one to be notified when we're going live . Thank you for joining me for this week .

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