The Power of Doing Hard Things #536

You're holding back your own success . The other day I was listening to a podcast with Chris Williams and the founder of Modern Wisdom Podcast great podcast as well , but he was talking about and there was a little clip and a snippet on how it's not hard to win today . The standards of success have never been so low . Why ?

Because he was listing off some data around . More people than ever are living week to week and I got some facts here that 62% of American adults are living paycheck to paycheck . That , to me , highlights that if there was to be a significant financial event pop up , that would probably ruin them , and we all know what it feels like to be stressed financially .

You make poor decisions , you snap at your partner , and the list goes on . So I can tear down so much more than many people think . That's why it is so important to get on top of your financial education , and there's never been a better time with the resources available through YouTube , paid courses and programs , etc .

The second one was there have never been so many unhealthy people in the world at the moment and 40% of adults are obese . So another I think it was 35% of people are overweight . Overweight , you can still have some metabolically good health markers , but obese , you're going to be hit with a few more fucking issues .

So I think the fact that we're trying to applaud people for being obese is not a good you know good conversation to be having . I think we should encourage people to live healthier lives because , for whatever reason , people end up in situations and I'm not one to judge on that , because I've had my own challenges , much like all of us have .

But what I desire for myself is to be the best version of myself and live the healthiest and longest and most enjoyable life possible , and I understand what that looks like for me and it will be very different for you .

But I feel like we should be having the conversations and bringing it to people's attention that where a lot of people are is because of the experiences and the environments and the upbringings that they've had and it may not be where they want to be , but so many people have been beaten down so much they don't know any different , and I've found comfort in habits

that aren't necessarily leading them to be better . I don't believe you know people who are obese are living having the best quality of life and really happy with what they see in the mirror and not being able to walk up the stairs and once again I could be completely wrong , so , but that's what I believe if I was there .

But I do believe we need to be compassionate and empathetic for those people and support them to get the way they want to get to , because if 40% of American adults and I would imagine Australia's are very similar , you're probably not going to be around for the majority of your children's life or your grandchildren's life .

You're probably not going to be able to have a lot of fun experiences with your children because you're limited by the way that you've looked after your health , and for me that's sad and something that I want a champion helping men get better as well , and it's one of the reasons why , within our academy , we do so much stuff around health .

We have the program because I believe the stronger you are physically , the more confident you are in your body , the more likely you're going to do other things that better improve your life , which will make you a better husband . It'll make you a better father . It'll make you a bloody better bloke . Okay , and so I'm not ripping on anyone .

I'm just stating my thoughts and I believe that if you're in that position , that's

okay . Society hasn't been set up to help you win . I truly believe that if we were really being set up to win , we would be getting taught more about eating properly and health and obesity and money and mindset and all of these things that are actually practical to us being happier , healthier , earning more money , having better relationships .

We would get taught that at school , but we're not . You're listening to this for a reason , although someone may have shared this with you for a reason because they care about you and I care about you . So the third thing that Chris spoke about on this podcast was one in eight US adults are medicated on antidepressants .

So , once again , if we were set up to win , like some people think we are , why are so many people unhappy , unhealthy and broke ? That's a question that we should be asking ourselves and a question that if you're in that position or in one of those areas , what can you do to change that ?

I personally don't get bogged down on too much of around the why , because it's too big a fucking problem for one person to have an impact on . I want to impact myself firstly , and the people in my circle , and I hope that you know if you're listening to this . You impact yourself from what you're learning and then you impact your circle .

We all have these ripple effects . But if we understand that , the reason why it's probably happening is we're not being educated on the things that we have . We probably don't have the best habits and things available to us . So if we go , okay , that's that in order for me to change that , I have to accept that I'm at fault here .

You may not be because of what you've been taught , but let's just assume that you are . Now you can change it . And this is where doing hard things comes in , because people have become so soft and so easily offended that that's what's keeping them stuck , that's what's making them live with huge anxiety . That's what's taking away purpose and connection .

So a few years ago I came across a 75 hard program . Now I've never done the 75 hard program . The reason why is it just looks too insane for my life . I've got a business , I've got a I mean I'm married and I've got hobbies and stuff that I want to do the way that I've seen it run . I love the idea of it .

I think it promotes great habits , but it's a lot of time for people who don't maybe have as much purpose or things going on in their daily life . It's a great way to really refocus and dial in on yourself . But what then happens after the 75 hard , when you get all this time back ?

So for me I was like , okay , well , I love the concept of it or what it's trying to achieve . How can I do that for myself ?

Because I was thinking about this when I was at the track , before it's running around the track and when I run I have a lot of time to think , obviously , as I'm sure you would have experienced those of you who run as well and I was thinking man , I don't appreciate how far I've come over the last 10 years . I don't appreciate what I've created for myself .

The life that I now live is what I once wanted . So I've become so comfortable living the life that I wanted to live . Am I slackening off and I know I'm not , because I'm already doing this challenge but it made me think about other people .

Do people hit their financial goals , get married , have the children , do the things that we thought we would do , that we then just slack off ? Is that why more people are medicated than ever ? Is that why divorce rates are so high ? What are all these reasons that could be leading to that ?

And something that doesn't need to be too difficult is just doing something hard every day . So it could be just looking at it like this , doing one thing that you know will better improve your life that you would normally put off Now . It doesn't have to be hugely ridiculous Like they're running 30 marathons in 30 days .

It could literally just be hey , I'm going to do a 10 minute run today . I don't have time for it . I've just worked a 14 hour shift , but I know that I'm going to feel great for that . I need a little bit of time out . That's going to be my thing . That's my daily heart Could be . You know , for me it's jumping in the cold pool , it's .

I've done a 30 minute meditation to try and quiet my mind , stretching Just the things that I know that are going to better improve my life . That I may not necessarily prioritize , but I'm doing that for 365 days and I'll probably continue after that , because what it's helping me do is shift my approach to doing the hard things .

People avoid it and there's a great book called Eat the Frog which promotes wanting to do the hardest thing first . So you don't avoid it , because in the beginning of the day you're obviously most energized , you've got the most focus , you've got the most willpower , so get in and get it done .

If you push it off to the last bit of the day , there's plenty of excuses that can get in the way . Life can go pear shaped . You know heap of stuff happens and more than likely you're not going to do it . So when you become aware of the hard thing , you start then flexing that muscle , building that muscle .

So then , when you might have to have a tough conversation with your partner , you might have to have to have a tough conversation with an employee or an employer or whatever it may be . You're used to doing the hard thing because you've always done it . It's like I always find time to do the things that I know will better improve my life .

But maybe I want to put off . And when you do that , you're building your confidence , you're building your self-esteem and you're creating more of what you want . Why ? Because you're doing the things you know you should be doing . I just like listening to this episode .

You could have very well put on anything else , but for whatever reason you decide , hey , this dude here with the moustache is talking about a topic that I like and he's , you know , delivering some value , so I'm going to continue listening . What I would hope , with the framework that I'm going to give you in a second , is that you do something with it .

Don't just keep listening to personal development . It's like mental masturbation . Do something with it , really start changing the life , taking responsibility , and that's when you'll shift that mindset and you'll go more from that fixed mindset around . I can't change it , I can't do anything about it . The economy is this no one likes me , whatever it may be .

It's like okay , and when you take a growth mindset , you start looking for conflict resolution , you start solving problems and the biggest thing I've learned I learned this a while ago , but it just clicked for me the other day Whenever you solve one problem , there's another problem around the corner and it's like levels in a video game .

You might solve one problem Once again . When I first started in business , I wanted to earn a million dollars and I wanted to create freedom yada , yada , yada , which you guys have heard me talk about . But once you start ticking off some of those problems , you can become complacent and go .

I've done what I wanted to do , but if you look around you , there's definitely always more to do . And the way I look at it and I speak with clients a lot some of you have a lot of money it's like , okay , that's awesome , but how's your health ? Well , how's your relationship ? Oh , you know my health . I just not fit anymore .

I get puffed running up the stairs or I don't like how I look when I get in the shower . I'm just overweight and my Mrs doesn't want to have sex with me anymore . I'm like , okay , well , maybe the new level for you is maintaining your business success .

So we maybe need to become more efficient , have a new manager or whatever it may look like , and that'll then give us some time for you to focus on your health .

When you get your health back , you're gonna have more energy and vitality , you're gonna make better decisions , your mood's gonna be better , your business is gonna grow , your relationship's gonna improve you , and so there's always new problems for us to solve , and I think that's a really important part of this growth . My mindset is mastery never stops .

It's pillar six within the strongman of value academy Mastery when you know what you want , you know what skills you need to deliver , and whenever you sorry develop and whenever you continue developing these things , a new thing pops up . It's why there are chapters in books , it's why there's frameworks in processes , because there's always the next thing .

And when you're in control and you know what you want , you know which levels come and next right . So I do believe it's , once again , never been an easier time to win , and if you're listening to this , I believe you want to win . You maybe just don't have the right people to teach you that .

That's where I believe I add a lot of value to people's lives . But you gotta wanna win . You gotta keep your spot on the team . This is a very important part . So if you are complacent in life and if you are where you want it to be , look at it as a team . Right , you may have your wife or your family , but you hold a position in that team .

It could be the breadwinner , it could be supporting the children , whatever that looks like . But week in , week out , you've gotta earn your spot . Is the way I look at it , and I'm not trying to scare you into this , saying your family's gonna leave you . But why people grow apart is because they stop doing what they need to do to show it with value .

We all know this and there's no point sugarcoating this . If you don't get value from people or things , you stop paying attention to it . Same happens in your relationships . So you need to think about that .

How am I gonna continue earning my spot on the teams that I am part of , whether it's family , whether it's with your mates , in your lifestyle , with yourself , with your health ? Am I being the best team player ? What do I need to do to keep doing that ? And that's once again coming back to doing these hard things . It keeps you focused on that .

When I run , doing something good for my health , but I'm also giving myself time to think about other things . When I'm taking time to meditation , I'm slowing down , allowing my body to recover . Same thing , learning and sifting through all the crap gone through my head . When I'm jumping in the ice bath .

I'm wanting to decrease the time between when I decide to do something and actually doing it , because in that space , man , that's where a lot of my overwhelm and anxiety happens . So if I can minimize that , I don't feel as anxious and overwhelmed . So it's something that you'll know , you'll all benefit and I hope that's making sense for you .

And if you have questions , make sure you just interact in the comments there or , if you're on the podcast , do that . But one cool thing that I'll close this off with , because I have been filming today's Day 29, .

By the time this comes out , I'm not sure what day I'll be on , but other members within our Academy have been inspired by Mick , who you guys will see me sharing a lot of his videos is doing the same thing . He owns a mining company , very busy busy guy , has children and a marriage , but wants to start doing that daily hard .

For him Right today oh sorry , yesterday was his day one and his first thing was just overcoming the fear of being seen and recording a video sharing what he's gonna do . That's his daily hard and it's gonna continue to evolve . So I want you to think what is your daily hard ?

What is something that you know will benefit you , that you've been putting off and it doesn't have to be physical . It could be a conversation that you're avoiding . It could be shifting out some shit meal choices for some healthier meal choices . What is it ? What is your daily hard ? So I want you to .

I'd love to comment or I'd love to have conversations with you guys so you can reach out to me on Instagram . But my name's Lachlan Stewart . I am the founder of the man that Can Project and we run the Strongman Evaluate Academy , which is a high performance academy for men who want to improve their life .

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