Mindset Secrets Of High Achieving Men #552

I can't emphasize enough how important that is . So many people talk about wanting to improve their mindset , but they haven't really defined what that looks like .

So then , when you go into subcategories or frameworks , which we're going to go through in this conversation , they don't really know what's important , where they want to start or how they can utilize that to improve the outcome that they're looking for .

So that's why it's really important to establish that foundation Now over the next couple of tips that I'm going to share with you . Throughout this episode , I want to keep it as simple as possible , because I view mindset as something simple . If we overcomplicate it and it can be very complex we're less likely to take action .

When you're feeling overwhelmed , you don't know where to start . So we want to give you some order so you can simply and effectively build the stronger mindset , or build a better mindset , to become the man that you want to be and achieve the outcomes that you want from your life .

So your mindset can be broken down into two categories and Carol Dweck , in her book mindset , absolutely nailed this . So if you have not read mindset by Carol Dweck , I would highly encourage you to grab that on audible or Spotify , or even grab her hardcover of the book as well as Grapebook . But she breaks it down into fixed and gross mindset .

So the fixed , for the example , is a fixed mindset is how much you believe that your basic qualities are fixed or permanent , and a growth mindset is how much you believe your basic qualities , like intelligent talent , can be grown upon and can be changed .

Now for me personally , I had success at a young age in sport , which I was very stoked about , and I continued to get coaching and excel in those levels .

But in the classroom , or with my intelligence , so to speak , I really struggled and for a long time I had a fixed mindset around that I accepted that who I was and the level of which I understood maths or English or learning languages or business , for example , couldn't be changed .

That was just who I was and that really caused some challenges in my late teens , early twenties , because I was , you know , a young teenage boy , and I don't want to say boys will be boys , but how I was carrying on was very normal .

But I didn't enjoy it , the way that I was acting , and it got to a point where I was really unimpressed by how I was making people feel , how I was making myself feel and the outcomes that I wanted from my life and you can hear more about this on all the episodes .

But the challenge with that was I had drawn the line in the sand and said this is all you are , this is the same the . You will continue to do this for the rest of your life and when you're in a position where you're not happy , you're rock bottom . Your life is not very impressive or exciting , for that matter .

To be a drawing that line in the sand set you up for a bloody long time of an uneventful and unexciting life , like it is really . I found it really challenging to accept that this is how I was going to live and this was my life .

And I was very fortunate that I was given a book by a mate the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and it was someone that I respected . But he gave me this book and just said , mate , just read it . And because I respected him , I decided I would read it .

And I'd never read a book before outside of something we'd do in English which I didn't really read , or , you know , motorcross magazines because that was what I was interested in . And as I completed the book , it inspired something within me . It challenged a few beliefs that I had around myself and it really made me hungry to go .

Okay , that challenged me in certain areas and it made me look at myself and what I can achieve in a different way . Maybe there is more of that I can seek out . And I became hungry to continue learning . So I sought out more resources .

I went to personal development events , I started challenging who I was investing in coaching , hanging around different people , and my mindset continued to grow and develop .

And then I was introduced to this concept of fixed mindset versus growth mindset and I started recognizing , hey , I do now have a growth mindset , maybe not in everything just at the moment , but I do believe that I can get myself into a position to learn skills or be resourceful to get the things that I need to improve not only myself , but the results that

I'm having in my life . It was a pretty cool position to be in .

Right , I had recognized that when I was in this fixed made-for-frame I would have thoughts like I'm a loser , I can't start a business because I've never studied that , no one will ever like me , I'm a terrible communicator , I'll never be able to tell people how I feel , and those fixed beliefs held me back .

When I recognize this growth mindset and I recognize the self-talk and the beliefs that I had could be challenged and could be changed , I started going OK , if the fixed mindset version of myself or the self-talk that I have says I can't grow a business because I've never studied it before , what would the opposite of that be ?

What would the growth mindset approach be to that ? It would be . I may not know what I need to know , but I am confident that I can find the answers and it completely shifts how I showed up , which meant it completely shifted and changed how I acted .

So I think a really important part to touch on is that there is a couple of steps to change here , and I know there's a whole different process , but this for me was just really simple and it came in four steps . Now the simple understanding of change for me was this Be aware that you can change .

No , if you are not aware that you tend shades like I wasn't for a long time , I just drawn the line in the set and accepted this is it . This is like that sucks . But the moment I became aware , I started asking different questions and moving towards a better outcome , which moves me to point two , which is I had the desire to change .

I wasn't happy in my life . I didn't want to sit in rock bottom , I didn't want to be broke , I didn't want to be in toxic relationships , I didn't want to hate myself . So the desire to change was pretty bloody hire .

That led me to the belief that , yeah , I can change because , as I mentioned a moment ago , I'd seen people growing and changing , but for the other parts I didn't believe I could . But then I started reading books and I started noticing these changes within myself . So the belief was there .

It just made me recognize that in order to change my actions , I needed to change my thoughts and it will go into beliefs in a moment , but just bear with me and the final one was take action on that . So , yeah , my biggest belief here is that in order to really change your belief .

You need evidence , which means you need to do things that will back up what you're trying to achieve or what you were trying to believe . So , when we look at confidence , for example and let's use confidence in the form of I'll give you an example and you can fill in the blanks , but think about something that you would enjoy being more confident at .

It could be walking into the gym , it could be launching a business Hell , it could even be starting a YouTube channel or podcast . Right , you want to be more confident . There is an underlying tone of fear there , right Fear of judgment , fear of failure , maybe even fear of success that is holding a lot of people back .

But for me , the idea of confidence comes through more exposure to the thing that you're not feeling confident in . Repetition builds confidence .

So if we understand that repetition builds confidence , we then need to start getting the reps in , so taking action on the things that you feel will increase your belief , which is generally going to move you closer to the outcome that you want .

The great thing about this is , when you understand that you can build all of these things and you're in a growth mindset , anything becomes possible . Look , some skill sets will come more naturally to me than others , and it doesn't mean they're not possible for me to learn . It just means I maybe need to burst a little bit more .

I may need more support , coaching , mentorship in order to achieve that . But when I do develop a skill that could become challenging for example , learning French or learning the guitar I need to ask myself why is it important for me to learn this ? Is there going to be benefit ? Or is it just that I love the idea of it ?

And , look , a lot of us love the idea of a lot of things , but if there is no real reason for me to develop it that I'm committed to it's going to have life altering change or , sorry , present life altering change for me , then it may not actually be something that I'm truly committed to .

It may just be the fact that I love the idea , but I don't love the idea of doing the . You know committing to the process , which means I can then accept that and move on .

And you know , having had that growth mindset and understanding that it was a key ingredient and that not everything that I love the idea of is going to be things that I am committed to , the process of it has taught me a lot of stuff , because over the years of trying different things reading books , attending events , hosting my own podcast , coaching hundreds of

men I've improved my resilience . I have learned from my failures , I have shifted , challenged and changed my beliefs .

I now have a clear set of values that are allowed to guide me to make better decisions and I am genuinely creating my dream life , and I do that by setting goals and gaining feedback from from life , and it's one thing that we talk about in our strongman and value academy , with our game planning is really helping you cast a vision and grow into the man that

you want to become , and be surrounded by men who are a life-minded that can challenge you , that can change you and that can provide you with perspective to become your best self . Right , it's almost like a little cheat code so you can avoid hitting rock bottom to get the things that you want right .

It's pretty cool , and I don't want you to fall into the trap , because you're listening to podcasts like this , to believe that you're changing . You may be consuming different information , which is a great starting point , but if you're not doing anything with it , you're holding yourself back .

You're , you're collecting all this potential power is how I see knowledge , and unless you're implementing it into your life , you're missing so much of the learning . Because for me personally , that's a free example .

You and I have the same goal , which at the moment is to continue Building towards a million dollar a year business , but it could be also working towards a sub 40 minute , 10 kilometer , which is another goal that I've just achieved . Let's just say that you know we have that in common . The roadmap for us to get there is going to be very different .

I could present you with a couple of fundamental foundational steps within that process , which is what I do with a lot of my coaching .

But what I encourage you and empower you to do is then go OK , if this is a five step framework and it could be setting the goal , building the plan , finding the accountability , doing the thing , getting feedback and going again that's going to look very different for you , based on the experiences that you have , the skill sets , the support around you .

Then you know the network , etc . Which means when you're in control of those foundations , you can then plug and play to really fast track your own success , which is a very powerful place to come from , because I know , when I first started in network marketing a number of years ago A very original goal hey , I want to make a million dollars .

The person next to me I want to make a million dollars to also had the same goal . We moved at different speeds and I started looking around at that point ago . Why is this the case ? We both are doing the same things . We're both , you know , having Sorry making cold calls , where following the scripts , where posting on social media .

We're learning marketing , but because of our upbringing . Is that point ? We did have different understandings and levels of that , which means just because we did the same thing doesn't determine or guarantee the same outcome . But people with a fixed mindset get very frustrated with that .

Because I , so focused on the , now comes , like man , if I do this thing , this thing , this thing , I should get this . You and I both know that that is complete BS . Nothing is guaranteed . Just because you do X , y and Z does not guarantee that it puts you in a much better position .

But as someone who takes responsibility which for me means you are putting yourself in a position to have a growth mindset because you're accepting that , hey , I'm responsible for all of this You'll then use feedback from the things that you're doing to tweak it , pivot and become more efficient and effective to get the outcome .

I still haven't hit my million dollar a year business and , rather than going , I'll never do it . It's not possible anymore like I would have maybe 10 years ago . I've got okay , that's fine , but what do I need to do and who do I need to become To achieve that milestone ?

And once again it's like is it still really important to me , because Many people are great . Starting point is hey , let's work towards million dollar a year goal and it's who you become in the process . And that's one of the great things about the growth mindset is you're really focused on who you'll be coming in that process , not so much the outcome .

The outcomes are like the cherry on top . One thing that I've made available you can head over to my website , man that can project all dot com and you'll see a seven day Strongly the value challenge and we go through this in detail and give you a worksheet so you can actually start implementing and understanding this for yourself .

I wanted to make this program because I want people to understand how I coach and have a great level of awareness around some key pillars that I believe are important before they do join the academy , so that when you Invited to the academy it's like that I understand my mindset , I understand time management and various other things .

So you want to check that out ? You can head over to the website is twenty seven dollars a week's worth of coffees and it's got some great stuff that you can implement . I mentioned earlier . I was talking about beliefs , right , our beliefs within a fixed mindset . We don't believe we can change them . That's who we are .

That is the most absolute thing around Around , and that can be good in some instances . But I do believe you need to be open-minded to change things , because if you want different results to what you already have , you're going to need to create a new identity .

So meaning the version of you right now is not going to be the version you'll be when you achieve X outcome , and so if you accept a limiting belief , then it will become your truths and you need to decide whether you can live with that truth or not .

And if you can't , that's when we need to go through this process of being aware of the belief that you want to change , how you can challenge it and what you would like to actually change it to . Most people go , yeah , I want to change that belief and it's like , ok , well , why , first and foremost ? And what would you change that to Meaning ?

I don't believe I'm good enough , I don't believe I can have a loving relationship . I don't believe I can earn a million dollars OK , and what would you now change that to ? I'm a million dollar a year income earned . I have the most loving , caring relationships in my life . I am good enough .

It's a small shift , but what happens when you start thinking about this and when you start telling yourself this You're , I guess , mild or your subconscious starts then looking for validation to support that . Oh , that's another thing I've done well , pat on the back I had . Interact with my wife was amazing .

Pat on the back , you know I do have loving relationships . Oh , my buddy called me up . Someone does genuinely care about me . But if you're focused on the limiting beliefs , you're going to be looking out for things to support the limiting beliefs and the real question then comes back to which one do you want to be true , you're in control of that .

I'm a big believer . Yeah , we may not be able to control our first thought , but you surely can control your second thought . Now I've covered a lot today and , once again , if you would like some word sheets and some more structure , a more structured approach to this to go through , I'd highly recommend heading over to the website and just invest in the $27 .

It's a week's worth of copies to get the seven days strong meta value challenge , where there will be worksheets a lot more .

You know some stuff that you can follow through with some points , but you can start implementing this stuff and unpacking your own mind to see your strengths , weaknesses , what you can do to better achieve and create the identity of yourself that you want to become . It's going to be completely powerful . The cool thing about this is it's $27 .

Now I'm going to always be updating this because this is exactly what I the framework that I went through , and I'm really unpacking my mind at the moment to make it a more beneficial space for people like you to get access and start making some change .

Thank you so much for listening in and remember , take a moment to subscribe so you don't miss these weekly episodes . I do a coaching episode every Thursday and a guest episode every Monday , and I look forward to hearing from you more , as always , do something today to be better for tomorrow . My name is Lachlan Stewart . Thank you , guys , for being here .