Master the Seasons of Life in 6 Easy Steps | #614

Now I used to think everything would last forever , that as long as I was on the planet my relationships , goals and passions would remain constant , but now , as I move through my 30s , I can see it more clearly . Each season doesn't just open new doors , it closes other ones .

That's the bittersweet part of growth we learn , we change and we leave behind parts of ourselves to make room for the next . Growing up , life felt timeless . My days were filled with outdoor adventures , climbing trees , playing sports and letting my imagination run wild .

The only thing that made time move fast was when my mum would call me in for dinner or homework . I wanted to hang on to that freedom forever , but eventually school got serious and I had to trade endless play for responsibilities . Adolescence hit and suddenly it wasn't enough to just play . I had to prove myself .

I wasn't great at communication , but I excelled in sport , and that became my identity . It worked for a while , but as I grew older I realized being good at sport wasn't enough . It didn't solve the deeper problems like connecting with people or building real relationships . Moving to Brisbane for my relationship with Amy forced me to mature fast .

It was time to step up , cut out distractions and become the man that I wanted to be for her . In my early 20s , I tried everything to figure out what I wanted to do . I felt lost , signing up for university just to impress others , chasing paths that weren't mine . But when I founded the man that Can project , everything clicked .

Coaching men through their struggles helped me solve my own and for the first time , I felt like I was on my path . But the pressure didn't disappear . It shifted . Now it was about making this business work , learning everything from sales to marketing , because my livelihood depended on it . My first sold-out workshop in 2020 was a turning point .

I realized that what I was building wasn't just a business , but it was my life's work . And then there's marriage , the most important season of my life so far . It hasn't always been easy , especially now , living abroad , taking financial hits and navigating life's uncertainties , and today is actually our three-year wedding anniversary which time flies .

But Amy and I are committed to chasing our dreams together . We support each other through the highs and lows , because we know that what we're building now will shape our future as a family . Life is short and the seasons pass quickly . You can't control how fast they come or go , but you can make sure you're ready for each one .

So here are six steps that I took to get my shit together and live the life that I want , regardless of the season that I'm in Now . These aren't in any specific order , but number one embrace discomfort and make it a habit . The most important lessons come from discomfort .

Whether it was starting my network marketing career without any sales experience or running two marathons in two days , not knowing whether my body would be able to push through it or how I was going to feel or how sore I was going to feel , discomfort has always been a catalyst for growth for me and so many other people .

I realized that discomfort is temporary , but the benefits are lasting , and the cool thing about this is you can choose to be uncomfortable in all areas of your life . It doesn't just have to be physically so when you're thinking about an area that you need to grow or stretch yourself in , think about what is the uncomfortable thing that you're avoiding .

There's a great quote , called or , that I've heard , use fear as your compass . So if you're fearing something and it's not going to harm you or harm others and it has the potential to improve your life or grow you as an individual , walk towards that . That is what you need to be doing , because , in that discomfort , walk towards that .

That is what you need to be doing because in that discomfort , you can start moving through the low self-esteem or the fear and all the things that are holding you back , because on the other side , that is the results that you want , but , more importantly , it's going to grow you into the individual that you need to be , to make that your new standard , your new

benchmark . So make sure you find a way to embrace the discomfort . So an actionable step is choose it regularly , whether it's physical , emotional , professional . Start by setting a goal that scares you . Simplify the process in your mind and focus on the outcome , because everything else is just noise . Number two push through the wall , even when you want to quit .

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big one . When I started in network marketing , I didn't have the option to quit because I borrowed the money from my mom to get it sorted and I'd started telling people that I was going to crush it . So I put my reputation on the line .

I was using my parents' money and so had I quit , I guess you could say I quit , but I would have had to deal with the other side of that . But had I quit , I would have gone weeping back with my towel between my legs and I would have had to find a way to make 600 bucks , which at the time was probably very close to my weekly wage .

So I didn't know how to meet new people , which is a big part of building a sales business , and it was uncomfortable for me . Being an introvert , I really struggled to communicate with people and I definitely struggled to meet new people and try them to .

At the time I was looking for them to buy my product when what I later learned was that I was just trying to provide a solution for the right people . But the thought of failure scared me more than the discomfort . So pushing through opened up opportunities that I never imagined , and now those skills fuel my business .

So learning to communicate through Uber , catching public transport to meet new people , going to meetups on meetupcom were great ways to put myself in an uncomfortable zone but really expanded my network to what I have today , so an actionable step . When you're tempted to quit , ask yourself what's worse temporary discomfort or long-term regret ?

Focus on the next step , not the whole journey , and keep moving forward . Number three own your authenticity . In 2022 , I stopped trying to fit into people's definition of success and that's not too long ago , right , I realized that I'm a performance coach who loves fitness , and that's okay . So living for yourself doesn't mean you're selfish .

It means that you're showing up for the best version of yourself for others . So I would constantly feel like I either had to be a fitness coach or a personal trainer , or a life coach .

I didn't really think they could mix and because I was following certain accounts on social media and when you do your training , you're only learning about one , I thought you couldn't do one without the other .

But what I realized was you can build this hybrid model essentially or this , this blend because both of them are equally as important in helping people live a better life .

Because I know for myself , when I'm healthier and fitter , I'm definitely happier , and when I'm happier mentally and I have purpose and goals , it helps me want to stay healthy and fit as well . So an actionable step there take time to reflect on what you truly want , not just what you think you should want , right ?

So stop chasing other people's expectations and make decisions that light you up . The people who matter will support you and those who won't will disappear . So that's one of the key ones . We talk a lot about that in the Life Design Blueprint , which the waitlist is now open , and it's kicking off on Tuesday , the 12th of November .

So , number four don't overthink your decisions . Take action . When I make decisions , I don't overthink them . I believe in trying new things , learning from failures and creating experiences that will one day become stories worth telling . So , whether it was moving to the US , launching my own business , the worst thing you can do is nothing .

I've seen people who have spoken about doing great things for years and in the beginning , when you first hear it from them , you're like yes , I'm super excited . I can't wait to see that happen .

When you check in 12 months later , or whenever you catch up next and no progress has been made , to me it starts solidifying that this is probably going to be another one of those . I could have done that stories for a lot of people .

So make sure you start taking action , and an actionable step that you can take is break decision making down into a simple process . When things appear more simple , there's a greater chance that you're going to take action on that . If they're complicated and overwhelming , you're going to probably fart ass , procrastinate there .

So , number one identify the decision that you want to make . Number two will you enjoy it ? Number three what skills or value will it bring to your life ? Number four assess the impact and make a choice . So don't forget that almost everything is changeable , except death and taxes , so you can always reverse the decision . So get stuck in on that one Now .

Five maintain relationships by involving others in your goals . So balancing ambitious goals with relationships isn't easy , but it's possible when both parties buy into each other's success . So my wife , amy and I have supported each other financially , emotionally and through shared challenges , and we involve each other in it .

So we've involved each other financially , emotionally and through shared challenges , and we involve each other in it . So we've involved each other in our goals and that keeps us moving forward as a team . So the actionable step here for you guys is communicate regularly with your partner and close friends about what your goals are and what their goals are .

Find ways to support each other's success , even if you aren't directly involved . Success is Swedish when it's shared

. Now the sixth and final one is prioritize your health , no matter how busy you are . This goes back to what I was talking about a little bit earlier with the fitness training , but building a business or chasing ambitious goals shouldn't mean sacrificing your health .

I've made mental and physical fitness non-negotiables in my daily routine , and it's not something that I have to do .

It's something I'm grateful to do , and you need to shift the perspective there , because when you view fitness and exercise and eating well as a chore , you start building resentment towards it and it's going to be hard for you to make it a long-term habit . So without it , everything else falls apart .

So the actionable step here is make health a habit , not a choice . Start your day by training your mind and your body so that , no matter what the day throws at you , you've already invested in yourself . So during the stressful times , double down on me time and stay grounded and stay strong .

So they're my six that have helped pull me out of a rut and get me back on track to building the life that I want . I'd love to hear from you guys , and I'm very sorry if the audio quality a little bit dodgy . I'm going to do my best in the post edit to make it sound a little bit better . We're on the road and my microphone has broken .

It's purely coming through the iPhone now . But the most important part here is when you commit to doing an episode every Monday and Thursday , you get the episode out regardless . So life is short , the seasons pass quickly and whether you're in a season of growth , struggle or transition , you can take the steps to take control .

These six steps help me get my shit together and I believe they can help you too . If you're ready to take that first step , go to the newsletter there and you'll be able to read the steps that I've written down . Or if you took notes while you're listening to this , do that as well . Until .