Discover What You Love to Do #534

I was wanting to earn more money , I was wanting to have better relationships and just do cool shit with cool people .

When I decided to do that , I was like , hmm , I need to learn how to do that , because if I was already the individual and I knew how to do that , I'd have the money , I'd have the relationships and I'd be doing cool shit with cool people . But I wasn't . So I had to find people who had that .

And what I have learned over the last 10 years and I've interviewed over 500 people on my podcast . I've coached over 800 men from all around the world . I haven't been in many rooms with many brilliant people is that purpose is something that we can create instantly .

It's videos that I've spoken about in the past around creating a vision for yourself and having goals tie into purpose when you know what you want , and it's not something you have to figure out . Really , it's just something you need to decide on .

If you look back at your past and this is what I did because when you think about the abundance of what's available to you , you could have anything in the world , and this is what self-help tells us it's like you can be , do or have whatever you want . You just got to commit to it .

But when you're in that moment , you're sitting there like a deer in a headlight . You know , I've come for those watching on YouTube . I've got this big ring light here and it's blinding me . But that happens . You just stop and freeze and you go . Oh , I could do anything , I could be anyone , I could earn X amount of money . What do I want to do ?

There's so many options and that freezing many of us never get out of that . We just remain stuck , and that was me for such a long time .

When I first started in business in 2014 , I knew I wanted to earn a million dollars and there were many ways that I could do it , and I would chop and change every couple of months because I wasn't seeing progress fast enough or I was losing interest . But every time that I made a little bit of progress .

I would then stop and jump and I'd have to start from scratch . And momentum builds progress . We all know that right , it's much easier to keep a car running than it is to get it going off start . So what I recognize for myself is this , and I'll give you a little bit of a framework around purpose in a moment .

Purpose is something that one excites you when there are many frameworks to look at it . But for me , if you want to look at it from a career standpoint because everyone says , turn your passion into your purpose or get paid for your purpose what's your purpose ?

I was like , okay , well , would that mean something that I love doing , something that the world needs , something that I can get paid to do , and something that is monetizable get paid to do , right ? So if those things are available , does that mean that's my purpose ? What if I don't want to make money from it ? What if I already have enough money ?

Okay , well , come back . What do you love doing ? What do you want to experience ? What do you value ? So some questions to think about are this I've got them written down in my journal because , as I say , almost every episode is . I love writing my thoughts down , because it helps me make sense of them .

Then I can hold on to the ones that I think had value or dispose of the ones that don't . But how do I determine it's like what do you value ? My whole life is based around values and in the beginning I thought I valued money . In the beginning I thought I valued having nice things . In the beginning I thought I valued external success .

All of these things were external , that are outside of myself , things that were out of my control . But what I've learned over the years is I have some values and they're intrinsic and they don't change , but what I do to achieve them or fulfill them does so . I want that to sink in People .

In my opinion , from my experience , how I live my life ever since , I've had values that were within myself , things that I valued and I'll tell you them in a moment I have been able to change where I live . I have been able to change what I do .

I have been able to change who I hang around with , because , as long as my values are still being met , I feel good about that decision and I'm inspired and motivated enough to take action . So for me , what I value is health , and for me that is mental and physical health . So all decisions lead to that .

Is this going to improve my physical and mental health or is this going to detract from it ? If it's a detraction , we ain't doing it . I then look at connection . So people aren't going to be in your life forever Not everyone . Some will , but most won't . So am I feeling a sense of connection , and what does that look like for me ?

I want them to challenge it and empower me , but I want them to value me as much as I value them , and I want it to be a reciprocal relationship . I also , then , want freedom , and what freedom looks like to me is a sense of freedom is just knowing that I have the means to look after myself .

So things like health , finances , time I want to be in control of all of those things . So when I have opportunities , come over my desk , or if people invite me to things and say , okay , is this going to move me closer to this or further away from that ? And that's how I make my decisions . I don't think it needs to be any more complicated than that .

So my purpose on a daily basis is building a life that has better health , has more connection and has more freedom .

What that looks like to me in this phase of my life is probably different to what it will look like for me when I have children , but because I am aware of what I want in this phase is that I can do the things that I need to do to make that happen , and that then becomes my purpose and I guess my purpose and becomes goals which become habits , and I

just wake up and do what I know I need to do . Those of you who don't have purpose you probably feel lost , you probably feel anxious and you probably feel lonely . They're all things that I experienced when I didn't feel like I had a sense of purpose , and it wasn't because it wasn't available to me , it's just I hadn't decided on what it was .

I had been so focused on thinking that my purpose was being an athlete , was being a footballer , that as soon as that wasn't there or available to me anymore , I was lost .

When you feel lost , you don't have any certainty , you don't do the things that you probably should be doing , and then it becomes this cycle where you're pretty much just destroying what's available to you and in order to shift that , you need to have a pattern , interrupt something that shakes you out of that . It could be a rock bottom moment .

It could be an opportunity . Whatever it is , you've got to grasp it with both hands and then decide , hey , this is now my purpose . I feel from my experience . Why I didn't latch onto this a lot earlier was I look at people who are successful and I'm like man , that purpose is incredible .

Surely I've got something that is that big , and I do believe that , and I believe you do as well . But I don't believe you can get to that big purpose , that bigger purpose , something that's bigger than yourself , without first starting small .

I remember times when I was depressed and anxious a lot , and there was a specific time when I was in Papua New Guinea and we were on this beautiful island and we were meant to go on a boating day , but I couldn't do it . I was so depressed . So I just decided to .

I said to my wife our girlfriend at the time go , do you think I'm just going to look after myself here and try and get myself in a better headspace . And I remember that then that I decided , hey , my purpose right now is just to get out and move , to go skip . You know I had a skipping route .

That's all we had at the time , but I believe that if I could achieve that , I would start clawing myself back to better , and so that then became my purpose , and that's why I believe , the more I guess little goals you can stack on top of each other , the more purpose you give yourself , the bigger purpose you can contribute to .

I believe people who don't have purpose are lazy . That's my biggest belief . I believe if you're lazy and you're not , health isn't where you want it to be , your finances aren't where you want it to be . You just need to find some purpose .

If you spend a bit of time with me or in our academy , where we help you , find that we empower you and encourage you to see the value that you have to give , you will be a man with purpose , and a man with purpose is incredible .

You change environments , people look at you and they want to be you , because not many people have purpose , and I am really upset that it doesn't get taught in schools . It's why we bang on about it , and it's not a super difficult thing to do , so I'm going to give you that framework now .

I've been around the bush for a little bit , but if you don't want to feel lost , anxious and lonely , you want to find your purpose and learn how to live with it . Just having a bit of bone broth . Here is how I would get started . Firstly , what do you value ? Figure out your values . There are plenty of things . You can jump on Google and type in .

How do I find out what I value ? How do I find my values , my personal values , core values , whatever you would like to call it , or you can join the academy we have that in there . You then secondly go what do I want ? Thirdly , what do I believe You'll start listing things down From that . Choose something to build on .

How do I build more freedom into my life ? It's something that I value . How do I build more fun into my life ? How do I build more X into my life ? You've now started creating a purpose because it's like , okay , well , if I need to do that , I need to become someone and I need to do things .

It doesn't need to be any more complicated than that , because not only externally can you say to people , man , I found my purpose , but internally you're going to go on a journey . Who you are right now is not who you will be .

Externally , you're going to be shifting and changing , you're going to move in and shake it , but internally you're also going to be getting a whole new level of self-awareness right around what you want , what you aspire to have . I guarantee you in that process of , let's say , what you value is freedom . For me , I valued freedom .

I wanted to make a million dollars . I then started business . I've learned a lot over the last 10 years in business . I've met a lot of people , but , most importantly , who I am is so different to who I was . I am so proud of that .

So I know that just by setting this goal or finding this purpose and living it daily , you will grow into someone better than you ever thought possible and you'll understand hey , purpose is just a decision to do something , much like a goal . The more I flex a muscle of having and feeling and living purpose , the bigger purpose I can contribute to .

That's all it is . It doesn't need to be any more complicated than that . But people want you to feel like it's complicated . So you don't act on it , because I do believe that men who have purpose are seen as dangerous because they know what they want and there's nothing wrong .

And look , I'm just going to say this again I assume you're not a fucking psychopath , you're a good person . When you have purpose , when you have goals and when you have direction , the things that you do just amplify that . The money that comes with that amplify it .

So if you're a dickhead , you become a bigger dickhead , but if you're a good person , you become an even better person to more people , and that's something that I think we should all be striving towards . So I'd love to hear in the comments what you thought about that , if you have any questions because once again I'm trying to keep this short and sharp .

I don't want to be here over complicating a topic or a subject that I don't believe is complicating or difficult , but I'll also just write this down here so I can put it in the show notes .

But create purpose , decide on what do you value , what do you want and what do you believe , and how can you improve one of those things or shift a belief or work towards what you want . You've now created vision . You've now created some goals . You've now given yourself purpose , something to get up for every day . That's why parents become more purposeful .

Overnight , it's like I need to put food on the table . I need to make sure my kid gets good grades or nice and healthy . That's why you do things , so create that for yourself

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