Hello , hello , and welcome to the Mommy on a Mission podcast where empowerment meets inspiration . I'm your host , mariana , a life coach and author , on a mission to help Latina women , and all women , to reach their impossible goals , one dream at a time .
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This is Mariana of Mommy on a Mission podcast , and I'm glad to be spending this evening with you all . I mean , it's Wednesday already Last Wednesday , I was in Las Vegas and we had an awesome time .
My husband we usually go every year around this time and we have been anyways for the last five years my husband plays for the police world series , and so every time we go , we like to do something a little bit different .
Sometimes , if they do they're doing very well on their games , then we don't get to see a lot of Las Vegas , but when they don't do so well , then we get to have some time to just kind of look around , and so this time we were able to look around . We got to go to the Cirque du Soleil . Oh , oh , my God , it was amazing .
It was truly , truly , truly an experience . I had such a great time seeing that and I'd probably go back again and do it , you know , to go check it out , you know . And , of course , we walked the strip like we've done many times before , and we got to spend it with some cool people .
You know , I got to hang out with some very awesome couples , very , very wonderful ladies that I got to be with , and one of the things that us ladies got to talk about and it's a topic that I've had many times before , especially with you know people around here but we were talking about this because they were congratulating me for my book , letting me know
that they thought it was awesome that they knew somebody who had written and published a book , and so they were just really congratulating me on the success of me writing this book , and not just that , but just , you know , with the podcast and all of the things they said that they follow me on my social medias and , mind you , these are women that I actually
know , but we don't live in the same city , so one lives in the Woodlands area , the other one lives in the Laredo Laredo , texas area , and so we don't always get to see each other until we meet up for these softball tournaments , and that's when we get to really see each other .
But I hadn't seen them the last few tournaments that were out because I had stayed behind , and so I got to see them this time around and you know , we were just talking about that and we were talking about , you know , how there are some women out there that Always want to one up you right , like they Can't be happy for anything that you , that you do , and
so I mentioned something . Yes , the other day I was talking , you know , one of , I think I was on Instagram , I recorded this and stuff , and I was talking about how I had a negative Comment .
Well , not so much of negative comment , well , yeah , I guess it was a negative comment , but anyways , I had a poll asking about , you know , if anybody wanted to be a guest on my podcast , because I like to , not just locally , but I like to invite other women , because some people want to share their story , and I encourage that because I think we all need
to hear each other there's story , because we all have a story to tell , right , we've all gone through things and we've all learned very valuable lessons that I believe that we cannot benefit from . So we were talking about how I had this poll and on my TikTok , someone had said no .
Well , I got to see who said no and I actually know this person , and this person has made comments before and , of course , never to To me personally but have made comments that have gotten back to me in which they said that they didn't really care for my podcast , that I sounded to monotone on it , and you know that she got bored very easily , which is fine
, you know . I hey , there are some podcasts that I can't stand . There's , you know , that I don't listen to anymore for the same reason , and there's also radio stations I don't listen to because sometimes I don't like the voices of , you know , of the disjockeys I don't . You know , there's one that really irks me , so I get it .
I Did not take offense to it . I was not hurt by it , by no means .
However , there would have been a time that I would have really , you know , just Marinate it myself with a negative comment , and oftentimes we do that to ourselves because we don't like the negative and I said a little bit about that the other day and we don't like to hear negative comments because we want to believe that we're doing good , and so we have to
learn how to take criticism whether it's good criticism , whether it's not , because , depending on who the person is , that's sharing that information with us , right . But I knew who this particular person was and so I didn't take any offense to it and you know I really Wasn't bothered by it . However , you know , at the moment it did do something to me .
It's like , oh , you know , but it's like I had said , I had to realize that my podcast or my book is not going to be for everybody , and so when you understand that , you know that it's okay , it's okay to hear different opinions , it's okay that , if somebody doesn't like it , because it's like I said , also , the people who are going to Come to me and tell
me hey , mariana , I really enjoyed what I heard , I'm so glad that you spoke about this . Or , you know , I'm glad you wrote that book , because I've been , I've been reading your book and I really learned something about you know , about myself , because of that book . That's who it's gonna be for it's gonna be for those people .
And Oftentimes we've heard that phrase . You know , hurt people will hurt people . Or , in this case , healed women will heal women , while hurt women will hurt other women . Right ?
It's those women that don't know how to fix another person's crown instead of fixing the crown , they're gonna talk about how crooked that crown looks instead of going over there and fixing it for them . Right ? And it's also a reminder by hearing that quote .
It's also a reminder of our actions that our actions are often a reflection of our inner world and that we must strive to heal ourselves in order to create a positive impact on others . And so what does being a hater mean ? Well , we know that the definition of a hater is a person who is actively trying to bring somebody else down right .
They use either negative criticism , they gossip or they even try to sabotage you in some form . We can find them anywhere , whether it be a personal relationship , professional relationship . Regardless of what relations you have with them , there's gonna be a hater . I actually like the definition that Tia Maori .
So a lot of you would remember Tia Maori from Sister Sister . So it was Tia and Tamera , right ? Oh , it wasn't Tia , I'm sorry , it was Tamera , tamera Maori . She was on the view a while back , maybe a few years back , and she defined the word hater so beautifully for lack of a better word so beautifully , and it's Hater stood out for .
Oh , I'm gonna get it wrong , so I'm gonna have to look it up real quick , so give me a second so I can look for my phone , but I thought it was very interesting how she defined the word hater . Oh , here it is . Having anger towards everyone reaching success . Hater stand for having anger towards everyone reaching success . And isn't that true ?
Isn't that true that anyone who is trying to move towards being successful , whether that be a small goal , whether that be , you know , a big goal , whatever the case is , you're gonna have those people that when you're reaching , or you're aspiring to reach , your goals , there's always gonna be someone who's going to try to either minimize your goal or minimize you .
We've had them everywhere , and what we have to understand is we have to see from what place that is coming from , from their end , right ?
Because when we have clear vision of what we want to achieve , we're gonna be less likely to be swayed by the negative opinions of other , and it's also important for us to surround ourselves with positive and supportive people who believe in us and our abilities .
But when we are around those people , we have to understand that a lot of times when they're reacting in such a way , it's truly a reflection of their own insecurity , because they're not succeeding at whatever it is they're trying to do , for whatever reason .
And so let's say and I see this a lot especially , or I used to see this a lot especially for people who are in weight loss you know , when two friends are on that weight loss journey together and one friend is being very successful with her goal you know she's watching what she's eating , she's losing the weight , she's toning up , she's starting to fit in
smaller size clothes and then the other friend is the one who will appear to be doing the right thing but secretly has been eating the junk food , has not been exercising as much as the other , is still struggling to lose that weight , is not having that success as the friend is .
And then , instead of cheering her friend on and celebrating her friend's success , it's the quite opposite . You know they'll either come out and say , oh well , I wonder , yeah , you're losing weight because you're starving yourself , or sure you know you have time to work out and do all of these things , and you know you'll hear the excuses right , it's never .
Wow , I'm so proud of you , I'm so glad that you're on track . You know I'm struggling in this area and I really need help . I don't understand why I'm not being successful . You know , and maybe have that person you know help you reevaluate what you're doing .
You know , especially if you started on this journey together what is working for that person that's not working for the other person , and so we have to understand that mindset . Where is all this coming from ? And a lot of times it's like I said , it's coming from an insecure place .
It's coming from a place where perhaps they wish that they could accomplish these things right .
And I find that to be true in this particular case , because this is a person who is a single mom and you know who is trying to make it , and I'm the type of person that and you all have heard me here on the episode , for those of you who have been following me my purpose in life is to help encourage other women , to show and to demonstrate to other
women that you can be successful . No matter what it is that you want to do , you can do these things . You just have to have the right mindset , and I'm a big advocate for therapy . I believe in it because it's helped me . Not everybody is going to benefit from it , and I get that .
But there are other things that we can do in order to become a healed version of ourselves . I'm not going to deny there was a point in time in my life that I was a hater . I was somebody who was hating on someone else's success . I was upset . You know , I was a jealous , envious person myself . I'm not going to deny that .
Because I was hurt and because I was hurt and I saw other people succeed or other women succeed , it's because I wanted that . That is what I wanted , and I did not like the fact that I saw someone else be able to do the things that I wanted to do .
And so , of course , in my own hurtful , insecure self , not knowing that , I had a lot of things that were blinding me from seeing reality that I would hate on other women . And I had to learn to start peeling those layers and addressing the root cause of why I was feeling the way that I was . And that's going to be a lot of us too .
A lot of us are going to have to start peeling back some of those layers and really identifying what it is that has you in that place where you would talk about someone else or where you would down somebody else instead of cheering them on .
And , women , we have to be each other's cheerleaders and it's okay , like I said , it is okay to have an opinion we all have them but we also have to remember that if you're on the other end of a person's opinion , you have to remember that you have to take those opinions like a grain of salt , because it does not have to be true , their opinion does not
have to be true , and opinions are not to be seen as a fact unless they have a fact to back that opinion up , and that's just the truth . So we can keep those opinions where they need to be . We need to continue to concentrate on ourselves , focusing on our own goals and aspirations , and to remember that not everyone is going to be our cheerleader .
Not everyone is going to be there to motivate us or encourage us to succeed . There are going to be those individuals that are going to continuously wanting to try to bring you down . So , in dealing with haters , dealing with haters is something that we all have to face at some point in our lives . It's just the truth .
We're going to have to face them at some point in our lives because not everybody's going to agree with us . However , by focusing on our own goals or surrounding ourselves with positive people , addressing our own insecurities and setting healthy boundaries , we can move towards success despite the haters .
And remember healed women , heal women , and by working on ourselves , we can create a positive impact on those around us . I also have to bring up because I know that you've all probably have seen this either on TikTok or you've probably seen this on TV , but I liked what Cardi B said to how she reacted to the haters . She says I love my haters .
I love me haters because they still benefit me . Why ?
Because they're still watching you , they're still talking about you , your name is still on the tip of their tongue and they're still either following you , they're purchasing things from you , or they're trying to grab whatever it is that you're throwing out there , because call it being nosy , just whatever the case may be , but they're still at some point , they're
still investing in you , and so what we can do is , instead of Trying to meet , trying to I guess one of them we could be the bigger person to deposit those seeds into our haters . We can deposit the seeds of success into them . It's just like the Bible says we have to love our enemies and we have to pray for our enemies .
Right , we have to pray for them . We have to pray that God will Bless them , that God will heal them , that God will do whatever it is that he needs to do in order to pour himself into them , In order for them to find their way towards happiness . And so I am gonna leave you with that . I'm gonna leave you with the fact that you can be successful .
You have a cheerleader here with me , and I want to know all about your successes .
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