Embracing Resilience and Empowerment for Personal Growth

Just like you , I wear many hats and own many titles , such as wife , mom , yaya , fur mom , coach , but the most important one , Jesus girl , I'm on a mission to lift you up and help you rise from the ashes of pain and suffering , reminding you each day is a new day to begin a new life , a new chapter and a new journey of rediscovery .

So come , sit with me in my virtual kitchen and let's chat a bit and remember today is the day that you say I am strong , I am fierce , I am MAMI on a Mission . Hello , hello . Welcome back to another episode of MAMI on a Mission podcast . I'm your host , mariana , and listen , I am so excited . I am so happy to be back .

The last two weeks , actually , the month of July has been such a busy month for me . It's been very exciting also my book , MAMI on a Mission , Mujeres Alcanzando Metas Imposibles A Guide Towards Healing , self-discovery and Walking in Confidence dropped last month . And let me tell y'all it's been quite the journey from writing the book to getting it published .

And then last week I had my book launch and it was incredible . I mean , I was so happy to see so many people there and the love that I received of those who came out to support me and to purchase a book , and so I mean I can't thank them enough for all of that .

And so if you're new here and this is your first time on this podcast , let me just say y'all , y'all need to go and get this book . But first of all , thank you , thank you , thank you . Thank you for being here with me this morning and for all my regulars Welcome back . I'm glad you're here again .

But you know I wanted to talk a little bit about the launch . At the launch , you know , I had a prepared speech because typically when I've spoken about my journey , I've always spoke about it and it would bring me to tears , like I would start crying Right .

And I know that's a normal reaction because I think anyone who's gone through some things in their life and then they self-reflect about all of the things that are , you know , that have come to pass all the good things that have come out of that bad . It does bring you to tears , right .

Or in some cases , when you're talking about something that's painful , it'll bring you to tears because you're still going through that pain , you're still feeling all of those emotions and so when you're talking about it , it's that natural reaction of you know wanting to cry .

And I noticed that because , prior to the book launch , I had gone to Rise Girl Rise Gathering in Fort Worth , Texas , and it was a bunch of us mujeres that were out there talking about our testimony , sharing our stories , and to see how many women were being acknowledged for the way that they were feeling , to share with them in their emotions , to pray with

them , to cry with them . I mean to be there , you know , supportive , because a lot of them haven't had that support from others . And sometimes amongst us women we can be very critical of each other and it was very good to see how many women came together to support one another , especially in the Latina community .

I mean , it's always said that there's always silos involved , jealousy or envidia , which is envy , and stuff , and so to see that in this particular case it was completely different . We were all coming together and just supporting one another .

And , like I said , it was a very wonderful experience , very humbling to me , and I was up there sharing my story , and I shared it in a different way and initially , that was not the message that I was gonna share . The message that I was gonna share was rising out of the pit , right , because we're always .

Anytime bad things happen or things that causes us pain and suffering , it's like it's digging us or we're digging ourselves into a pit that we just wanna be buried , right ? We don't wanna feel this pain , we don't wanna feel like we just don't , and so we end up burying ourselves . How do we get out of that ?

And that's what I was initially gonna talk about , but it changed . It's like I went back and I opened it up by revisiting the prayer I was saying the day that I had had enough of what I was going through , and so I was able to deliver the message and no tears .

And then , at the book launch , I wrote my speech because I said oh , I know that once I go up there and start talking and sharing bits and pieces of my life , that I'm gonna go , that I'm probably gonna start crying , and the crazy thing is is that I didn't . I didn't cry .

I was actually very proud of myself for that that I was not crying at all and I was in shock myself . But I had somebody ask me Mariana , how is it that you can share your story now and not get all worked up or get emotional Just like ? Have you always been that way ? And I was like , no , not at all .

I mean , there were times that I couldn't even talk about what I was going through without boohoo , I mean , ugly cry , and it took time . And something that I shared with this person was that it's perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed or emotional when we share our deepest thoughts and feelings .

You know , talking about our emotions , that requires us to be vulnerable , which can be difficult and scary , Because when we open up to others , we're exposing ourselves to the possibility of being hurt or rejected or having someone tell us oh girl , you just need to get over it or forget him or forget whatever , and this can make us feel exposed and raw , which

can then lead us to tears . But here's what I want to say In feeling vulnerable about your feelings , in sharing your emotions , you have to understand that all of this is a process . It's a process that's going to take time . No one can tell you how long that's going to take , because it's going to take certain steps .

You know MAMi on a mission is about reaching impossible goals and oftentimes when we think about goals , we always think about the financial goals . We think about the material goals , the health goals , but we never see our emotions as a goal .

We never see the healing process as a goal , like that's not a goal that someone says oh , you know , I have a goal that I want to be healed . I have a goal that I want to be for . You know , forgive others . I have this goal . That's not the goal when we talk about hey , let's write down some goals , what is it that you want to accomplish ?

What is it that you want to do ? Those are never the goals that come up . It's understood that it's going to be part of that process .

And see , that's not something that's recognizable at the very beginning , because it's hard to talk about our emotions , it's hard to talk about our feelings , because we don't want to feel that , we don't want to feel how it hurts , we don't want to think about that pain , we don't want to have anything to do with that .

So we put that aside and we focus on the outside , the physical part , the tangible things . Those are the things that we focus on when we're talking about goals , because it's on the outside right .

But here's the thing no matter what goal you try to accomplish , no matter what goal you're trying to reach , you'll always have to go back and revisit the emotional aspect of your life , because and I'll give this as an example financial goal , if it's about wanting to get your credit better , or if it's about buying a house , we talk about .

Well , let's talk about why you spend money the way you spend , or why do you pay bills the way that you pay them , or why do you have to go on shopping sprees all the time . And when we start to dissect the habits , we start to dig down inside until we get to the root of what's going on .

And nine times out of 10 , well , not even nine times out of 10 , all the time there's something emotional attached to it that was either learned for survival reasons or was associated because of some type of pain or control , whatever , it's always tied to an emotion and that is why , whenever I sit with my clients and we're talking about these goals , we have to

talk about the emotions behind it and see that's where they don't want to go . But we can't move forward until we can touch on that surface . And now , mind you , just to let you know , I am not a therapist , by no means I am not a therapist . I am a life coach , and as a life coach , my goal is to help you accomplish your goal .

But when there's deep rooted emotions that's associated to what is going on , unless you are self-aware of the problem and where it came from and you're healthy enough to process it , then we can move forward .

But if you're in that area of your life where it's still painful and there's a lot of emotions , I usually refer my clients to a therapist so that they can work through all of those emotions , because it is a process .

Becoming self-aware can be a difficult and uncomfortable process , but it's also a necessary one if you want to grow as a person , if you want to seek healing , if you want to forgive and be forgiven , and so we have to address those issues .

And so I myself can now talk about my past without crying , because I've navigated through a lot of the hard things in my life and I have been able to identify triggers in my life , even today , and I spoke about this in one of the episodes about triggers .

I spoke about how , when my husband bought me flowers , daisies for my new job , and how I just reacted , okay , but I recognized it , not in that particular moment , but eventually I was able to recognize that that was a trigger and that there was still emotion behind that that I had not yet addressed , and so I would not be able to continue to move forward if

I did not work on those things myself . So that is one of the reasons why now I can talk about my life . I have forgiven this person . I have no ill will towards the person that I was married to , that hurt me , that , you know , brought on all of these emotions . I have forgiven this person .

I only pray that God will , you know , find him and heal him . But I've moved past that . I've been able now to learn lessons . I have been able to recognize my shortcomings , because even I have areas in my life that I needed to work on , like my anger issues , my , my hurt , my pain , the unforgiveness , all of those things I had to work through .

There are still some things . Okay , I'm not saying that I've worked through all of them because it takes time . You can only address one thing at a time , unless there's something that's kind of connected to it . Then you can work through both of it .

But I had to work through those things in due time because if I tried to work through all of it at one time it was going to be overwhelming it really really was and so I couldn't do that . But here's the thing Remember that vulnerability is a strength , it's not a weakness . It takes courage to confront your emotions and acknowledge your pain .

It really does Be patient with yourself . Self-awareness is a journey . It's like I just said it is a journey , it is a process . It takes time , not a destination . It can take time to fully understand your feelings and triggers . Believe me , I know , because I had to go through those things . I had to understand why I was feeling the way that I was feeling .

I had to understand why those daisies caused the trigger in my life . I had to understand those . I had to be self-aware and I had to recognize and acknowledge the pain behind it and practice self-compassion . Treat yourself with kindness and understanding , just as you would treat a friend who's going through a difficult time .

You know it's very easy as a life coach to encourage someone else to be the cheerleader , to pump them up , to motivate them , you know , to help them recognize what's going on , helping them find solutions . But when it comes to myself , it takes a little bit longer .

I know all the words to say , I know exactly what to say , but it's so hard for my , it's so hard for me to give myself that same type of advice , because sometimes it's not received the same , if that makes sense , because we need somebody else to help us navigate through those things .

So , but when I don't have someone around me , I'll say , okay , what if this was so-and-so and so-and-so came to me with this problem ? What would I tell them ? It's almost like saying what would Jesus do ? Right , but it is . It's like what would I tell them ?

And then I'll say the answer and I have to write it down , because if I don't write it down , then it's not real for me for some , for whatever reason , and so I have to write exactly what I'm gonna say to that person down . And so I write it down and I'm looking at it back and I'm like , dang girl , you've got the answer right in front of you .

But there are moments that I will second guess myself and so I do have to go to somebody else and just kind of bounce it off of them and they will throw words at me that I've already heard , that I know myself right .

But you receive it differently when it comes from someone else and it helps to have that support , it helps to have that friend , but it also is helpful when you yourself can say hey , girl , this is okay , you can cry today . You know , you can lay in bed if you need to , but you got to snap out of it .

I remember a friend of mine when I was going through the things that I was going through and , oh man , I remember I was just crying and crying and crying and I remember her words were like llora hoy, llora manana pero . Employed me to cry with her today . Llorá mañana , pero el tercer día te tienes que levantar a bailar .

So cry today , cry tomorrow , but on the third day you got to get up and you got to start dancing . Right ? Because we can't keep ourselves in that spot . If we continue to stay in that area , we'll never move forward . And that's exactly what we want is we want you to move forward , right ?

We want to navigate through all of these things in order to be able to move forward . You can't move forward if all you're going to do is stay where you're at or if you're going to continue to dwell in the past . That's why , today , when I speak of my past , I no longer speak with it in a way that it's going to bring me up to tears .

If anything , what brings me to tears is the goodness of God , because I can now see all the things that he had prepared for me and I am like crying tears of joy , of gratitude , and not so much tears of pain , of hurt . So , amiga , remember the goal of becoming self-aware is not to eliminate all negative emotions from your life .

Rather , it's about learning to understand and manage your emotions in a healthy way so that you can live a more fulfilling and authentic life . You want to keep it real .

So , as I was saying , that is the conversation that I was having with this person when they approached me about how I was able to talk about things in my life , past in my life whenever the book launch was coming out .

Let me just say this I've heard feedback from people that they have read the book and they're like wow , you know , I love the way you wrote the book because it wasn't like a way to feel , like those emotions that I have to stay where I'm at . I can move forward , I can get up , I can go . Yes , I want to be that mommy on a mission .

I want to be on the mission to a better life . I want to be that mommy on a mission that's going to make things happen . I want to be that mommy on a mission that is going to explore all the possibilities that are out there , and if there aren't any available to me , then I'm going to find a way to create those opportunities for myself .

And that's what it's all about . Mommy on a Mission the book is about that . It is about taking you where you are , giving you the tools , the resources necessary in order for you to be able to move forward .

You want to go and reach those goals , whether it be your emotional goals , whether it be your financial goals , whether it be a new career , going back to school , going on vacation , whatever it is that you want to accomplish , whatever mission you are on in this season in your life .

The lessons that I've learned have been put together in this book to provide you the information so that you can walk yourself through the process to move forward . So , amiga , if you have not yet purchased my book , mommy on a Mission , you can find it on Amazon or you can order it directly from my website .

If you order from my website , I will personally sign the book for you . I will ship it off myself to you . But listen , read it , trust me , you're gonna love it .

And I'm not saying that because I wrote the book , but I am saying it because if you need proof of does it really work , I am proof to let you know that all the things that have hurt you , you can overcome and you can move forward , and together we can do it .

Now is when you take advantage of these moments and let's begin your journey of moving forward . So , amiga , thank you for spending time with me this Saturday morning . Like I said , I am going to put the link where you can purchase the Mommy on a Mission book . I'll put it on there .

Order the book , leave me a review and from now through August 6th , I'm gonna extend it because this message is going to be hurt on the 5th , so I'm gonna add another week , give you time to get the book and read it . So in two weeks and another week , a week from this Sunday I will have a drawing .

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Tag me in your stories , tag me in your posts . Let me know that you've got your book , that you've read it , that you , that you're leaving a review and that you want to enter into this $50 gift card giveaway . Thank you , amiga's . Once again , it's been fun being with you all this Saturday morning .

Enjoy your cafecito , enjoy your families and I'm praying that you all will have a great day . If you are hearing this message , you've listened to the entire episode and for that I want to say me gracias from the bottom of my heart .

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