bonobos are playful, generous, matriarchal, cooperative, and kind. the culture they created means the boys aren't aggressive and that sounds pretty darn cool to me. RESOURCES: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2022/06/bonobos-tolerant-peaceful-group-relationships-paved-way-for-human-peacemaking/ https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/16/science/bonobos-cooperation-study.html and ttps://theconversation.com/bonobos-and-chimps-what-our-closest-relatives-tell-us-about-humans-202265 and https://www.per...
Jan 21, 2024•7 min
I had such a great time talking about pigeons, I figured we could have some fun discussing other animals. Today, specifically, we are talking about one of my favorites but the chronically underrated “bonobos”. I’ve only ever really thought about bonobos during a college anthropology class, and then they kinda fell off the radar for me. Chimpanzees won the pop culture and research award and left bonobos in the dust. I’ve read there is a vested interest in making sure that we (the general public) ...
Jan 20, 2024•7 min
Week 2: going sane. RESOURCE: https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/ GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or impl...
Jan 19, 2024•8 min
WEEK 1: Week One: Recovering a Sense of Safety Key concepts: Shadow Artists, Core Negative Beliefs, Affirmations The time is passing anyway, may as well do the damn thing in the process. RESOURCE: https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/ GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica...
Jan 18, 2024•6 min
The Hague refers to both a city and a region in the Netherlands. As a city, The Hague is one of the major cities in the country and serves as the seat of the Dutch government, housing the parliament, the prime minister's office, and the monarch's workplace. Additionally, The Hague is known for hosting various international organizations and courts. One of the most notable international institutions based in The Hague is the International Court of Justice (ICJ), which is the principal judicial or...
Jan 17, 2024•9 min
pigeons are surprisingly interesting and brilliant critters and today we're digging into some of the most incredible facts about them. RESOURCES: https://www.excelpestservices.com/11-fun-facts-about-pigeons/ https://facts.net/pigeon-facts/ GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica Th...
Jan 16, 2024•7 min
“Keep a little fire burning; however small, however hidden.” — Cormac McCarthy Hope is fundamental to human existence. It is paradoxical in its duality, however, as its very existence implies the possibility of despair ( Lynch, 1962 ). This dialectic between hope and despair is central to considerations of chronic illness management, as well as to studies of the relationship between expectations and the placebo effect ( Corbett, et al., 2007 ; Ratcliffe, 2011 ). Hope influences expectation, but ...
Jan 15, 2024•8 min
“Keep a little fire burning; however small, however hidden.” — Cormac McCarthy RESOURCES: https://www.tcd.ie/news_events/articles/2023/what-is-hope-and-why-do-we-need-it/#:~:text=Experiencing%20hope%20dampens%20the%20anxiety,fear%20pathways%20in%20our%20brains . https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-psychology-of-hope#tips https://positivepsychology.com/hope-therapy/ GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydb...
Jan 14, 2024•8 min
content warning: today's episode has brief mention of heavy trauma. "I Who Have Never Known Men" is a science fiction novel written by Jacqueline Harpman, a Belgian author. The original French title is "Moi qui n'ai pas connu les hommes," and it was published in 1995. It explores themes of identity, survival, humanity, curiosity, hope, and yearning. This book wrecked me, but in a very good way. That said, it's not for everyone at every juncture in life. oldlampshades said this, which sadly, I di...
Jan 13, 2024•8 min
you are a human being not a human doing . Contrary to the structures and powers and systems that have convinced us otherwise, you aren’t supposed to be doing and stressing all fucking day every day. In fact, you’re supposed to be prioritizing yourself before juggling all the other shit. Listen, I truly understand that this IS a privileged take that sounds like it cannot apply to everybody in this hellscape, i get that. Some of us are truly juggling demanding jobs/kids/pets/brains/ livelihoods an...
Jan 12, 2024•8 min
Stop over-intellectualizing everything to avoid the feeling part and let yourself actually feel the damn thing. And listen, I’m no therapist, but I feel like resisting that feeling portion is just prolonging its lifespan in your body. You gotta move through it, but you can’t move through it unless you let it move through you, first. I read something once (that I’ll never question because it made sense) that said the physical effects of an emotion only peak for about 90 seconds and I feel like I ...
Jan 11, 2024•7 min
Even baddies get the saddies: Anybody who’s been feeling a little down or slow in their healing process but they’re still trying to show up? Well, this one is for everybody, but it’s mostly for you. Your experiences are what got you to where you are right now; they cannot be changed, the past cannot be altered. It is a part of your story now and objectively. It is an undeniably beautiful story. It’s rich with highs and lows, ups and downs, but you choose to show up and choose things that feel li...
Jan 10, 2024•8 min
The Ultimate Self Care Guide!? In real time!? You bet your ass I did. Get the full guide here: (it's free) https://wondrous-speaker-2524.ck.page/fd5116f394 Listen to the behind the silk episode here: (I have a segment in it, not to brag) https://www.buzzsprout.com/2200431/14193833 GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ...
Jan 09, 2024•8 min
send the damned text. reach out and ask. apologize with sincerity. the more authentic and intentional we become with our connections, the deeper and more fulfilling those connections become. https://www.vox.com/even-better/23989636/best-expert-advice-2023 GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.co...
Jan 08, 2024•9 min
we tend to over-intellectualize our feelings because we don't allow ourselves to work through them. Working through means DOING, CREATING, ACTING, PLAYING, and SEEKING JOY. Let down your walls + learn to feel through the act of creation. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The ...
Jan 07, 2024•9 min
"a soft landing for capitalism" inspired this rant. Read it here: https://ryangosha.medium.com/soft-landing-for-capitalism-fab87821c4f0 GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purpo...
Jan 06, 2024•8 min
new years resolutions often imagine a person that behaves nothing like you. put you into the equation. let yourself explore the joy and fun in finding ways to bridge the gap towards the you, you are now + the you, you'd like to become. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The op...
Jan 05, 2024•8 min
WEEK 1: Week One: Recovering a Sense of Safety Key concepts: Shadow Artists, Core Negative Beliefs, Affirmations The time is passing anyway, may as well do the damn thing in the process. RESOURCE: https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/ and https://everleafdesigns.com/blog/artists-way-week3 and https://laurabowers.net/the-artists-way-week-1/ and https://static1.squarespace.com/static/63755649745e1a4652a35908/t/63cad96ff67e2f22c5e74947/1674238320080/Best+Artist%27s+Way+Exercises.pdf GET AN ...
Jan 04, 2024•6 min
WEEK 1: Week One: Recovering a Sense of Safety Key concepts: Shadow Artists, Core Negative Beliefs, Affirmations The time is passing anyway, may as well do the damn thing in the process. RESOURCE: https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/ and https://everleafdesigns.com/blog/artists-way-week3 and https://laurabowers.net/the-artists-way-week-1/ and https://static1.squarespace.com/static/63755649745e1a4652a35908/t/63cad96ff67e2f22c5e74947/1674238320080/Best+Artist%27s+Way+Exercises.pdf GET AN ...
Jan 03, 2024•8 min
WEEK 1: Week One: Recovering a Sense of Safety Key concepts: Shadow Artists, Core Negative Beliefs, Affirmations “It is very difficult to complain about a situation morning after morning, month after month, without being moved to constructive action. The pages lead us out of despair and into undreamed-of solutions.” - Julia Cameron RESOURCE: https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/ and https://everleafdesigns.com/blog/artists-way-week3 and https://laurabowers.net/the-artists-way-week-1/ and...
Jan 02, 2024•8 min
A red herring is a term used to describe something that is intended to be misleading or distracting from the actual issue or point. It is a rhetorical device or a literary technique often used in discussions, arguments, or storytelling to divert attention away from the main topic. The term has its origins in the practice of using a strong-smelling smoked fish, called a red herring, to divert hunting dogs from the scent they were originally following. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www...
Jan 01, 2024•8 min
Get mindful of your values and that will make setting boundaries way easier. Boundaries are not walls, but behavioral guidelines that can allow us some control in responding to other people’s behaviors. Maintenance is key to basic wellbeing . Oil changes, cleaning, moisturizing, rest. People are sneaky about convincing you what ESSENTIAL maintenance is. They'll have you waxing your hairless cat and convincing you it’s necessary (weekly… until the end of time…) Bring snacks + a water (and other b...
Dec 31, 2023•9 min
Become a more conscious buyer. Maybe you get an accountability partner, Maybe you do the 30 day test, Maybe you quit walking into targets altogether, whatever it is - stop buying shit that you don’t NEED. If you want it, track what emotion you believe you will have from it, and try to establish a different way of experiencing that. If it’s in your current wheelhouse - become a more conscious hoarder: cultivate an “upcycling” eye + be realistic with what you choose to save. I do this by asking my...
Dec 30, 2023•8 min
Life is hard and saving money is harder - especially if you have a lil luxury gremlin living inside you (like I do) - but here are some lil ways I try to save money. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are in...
Dec 29, 2023•10 min
y'all... the way my jaw dropped when I read " Hope is not a goal to achieve or destination to arrive at." READ more here (the resource from today): https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/how-do-we-keep-hope-alive-in-our GET THE OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed ...
Dec 27, 2023•9 min
work can suck less, with a lil thoughtful planning + intention. if the light at the end of the tunnel does not exist, create one! RESOURCES: https://medium.com/@karendarrin/6-ways-to-make-your-job-suck-less-a68990a511bd and: https://www.vice.com/en/article/4a3vv3/how-to-start-a-labour-union-vice-guide GET THE OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com...
Dec 26, 2023•8 min
one day I'll stop ranting about labor unions and how incredible they are - but not today. until then... READ THIS (the resource from today): https://www.vice.com/en/article/4a3vv3/how-to-start-a-labour-union-vice-guide GET THE OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed...
Dec 25, 2023•8 min
Polyvagal theory ( PVT ) isn't validated by neuroscientists but we can definitely learn from the theory itself. According to the theory, three organizational principles can be distinguished: Explanatory diagram: Hierarchy: The autonomic nervous system reacts in three reaction patterns, which are activated in a specific order. Neuroception: In contrast to perception , it is here a cognition without awareness, triggered by a stimulus such as danger. [14] [19] Co-regulation: The need to feel safe e...
Dec 24, 2023•8 min
I've struggled with "getting started" my whole life - but lately, even the easy stuff I have begun to dread. That said, I think it usually comes back to my tendency to over-plan. I'm on step 12 in my head before I even start step one, so it's no wonder I'm exhausted before I begin. OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOU...
Dec 23, 2023•7 min
language can be liberating - but it can also be confining. sometimes - when we give something a "name", we limit the way we respond. we put it in a box. recognize where "identifying" things has become more restrictive than liberating. RESOURCES: https://www.raptitude.com/2023/12/nobody-has-seasonal-affective-disorder/ GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:...
Dec 22, 2023•9 min
