I can't believe it's been 900 days of this wild ride. We're just getting started, if all goes right. Thank YOU so much for being here. You're truly the most incredible piece to this puzzle and I don't think you understand how much I love and adore and appreciate you!!!! Also, please send me questions/prompts/ideas if you want to hear SPECIFIC episodes coming up. I'd love to do some personal stuff in the upcoming few weeks. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com ...
Aug 20, 2023•7 min
Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither a cheapskate nor a spendthrift., 4. Give as generously as you can., 5. Focus more on the transcenden...
Aug 19, 2023•7 min
Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither a cheapskate nor a spendthrift., 4. Give as generously as you can., 5. Focus more on the transcenden...
Aug 18, 2023•7 min
We’re either too busy to nap, or feel so guilty about trying that we can’t. Then, when we can nap, we feel bad because we don’t like that we don’t wake up perfectly ready to make more productivity! Think about your own relationship with naps, how is it? If it’s bad, let me know because I bet I can source it back to capitalism somehow and if it’s good? Let me know because I want that for myself someday and could use the reminder that it exists. RESOURCES: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/20...
Aug 17, 2023•7 min
anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be. RESOURCES : https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-about-climate-change/621358/ and https://theconversation.com/why-fear-and-anger-are-rational-respons...
Aug 16, 2023•7 min
anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be. RESOURCES : https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-about-climate-change/621358/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON I...
Aug 14, 2023•7 min
"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Mead and https://www.britannica.com/biography/Margaret-Mead and https://www.loc.gov/exhibits/mead/mead-shaping.html GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MY...
Aug 13, 2023•7 min
The neuroscience behind ADHD is complex and still not fully understood. However, research has shown that people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in attention, motivation, and learning. When people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine, they may have difficulty paying attention, staying focused, and completing tasks. If you think you may have ADHD, it's important to talk to your doctor. They can help you assess your symptoms ...
Aug 12, 2023•7 min
ADHD is not an easy thing to cope with, but there are people out there sharing what's worked for them, and that works for me. And as the famous @the-majestic-cheese-turtle once advised: "waterproof clock in the shower, trash can with automatic lids, wall hooks for your regular hoodie, and clear bins so that things can be stored but aren't invisible." may be a great place to start. Also @earthtokk suggests we reframe our thinking of the process of chores as a thing to finish, and consider it a cy...
Aug 11, 2023•8 min
Women have been chronically left out of important conversations for generations, but the science community is finally putting some effort into studying ADHD and the effects of a late-stage diagnosis. Today, I highlight a few of those. RESOURCES : https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7422602/ https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism https://www.therapyden.com/blog/adhd-statistics GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM F...
Aug 10, 2023•7 min
key to challenging negative core beliefs is to start by identifying them, so we can understand them and critique them for their inconsistencies or harmful perpetuation of behaviors. Uncovering the hidden influences can help us remember our power against their impact! RESOURCES + LINKS: https://positivepsychology.com/socratic-questioning/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PA...
Aug 09, 2023•7 min
when we make assumptions, we are living within the walls of those assumptions. when we choose black and white, all or nothing thinking, we don’t account for the magic that lies in the color, and the gray. these deeply rooted interpretation of ourselves cause us to assume things are true when often they are not, but they also limit us to the (often bleak) filter we’ve been interpreting the world through. RESOURCES + LINKS: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7...
Aug 08, 2023•7 min
For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remember that we can sometimes rewrite happier through line, for certain stories that aren’t as helpful a...
Aug 07, 2023•6 min
Weaponized incompetence refers to the deliberate use of ignorance, incompetence, or lack of skill in a relationship as a manipulative tactic to avoid responsibility, gain control, or shift blame onto the other person. This form of manipulation can be harmful and destructive to the dynamics of a relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and a lack of trust. Understanding how weaponized incompetence manifests itself is crucial in identifying and addressing such behaviors. LINK: https://www...
Aug 06, 2023•5 min
balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental load with your partner. RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and http...
Aug 05, 2023•7 min
balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental load with your partner. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY...
Aug 04, 2023•7 min
fair play method by eve rodsky is a badass way to approach the imbalance of cognitive labor that needs to keep a household running. It may be hard to ask others to contribute, but if they're able - they should be pulling their weight. and addressing it doesn't have to be a conflict, with the right approach. RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://camillestyles.com/wellness/mental-load/ and https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labo...
Aug 03, 2023•7 min
there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.pat...
Aug 02, 2023•7 min
there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.pat...
Aug 02, 2023•7 min
Emma Clit is ridiculously talented and everything I've consumed so far has been great and on brand, so I highly suggest going to check out her blog! LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for ent...
Aug 01, 2023•8 min
Today we're talking about the Baader Meinhof Phenomenon (the tendency to notice something more after noticing it the first time, leading us to believe we're seeing it more frequently) and why learning about the mental load can be painful if we're not careful. LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-labor and https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.m...
Jul 31, 2023•8 min
The mental load (aka emotional load or cognitive labor or worry work) is the invisible labor that it takes to manage a household and if it's not going unnoticed, it's being undervalued. Recognizing when we're taking on more than our fair share of the emotional/mental burden is the first step in recognizing why we're so exhausted, but then we need to do something about it... so it doesn't eat us alive. LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/0...
Jul 30, 2023•7 min
TW: mention of ED, diet culture, and poor body image. Lately, I've been in denial about aging and as a result, I've let my "self care" fall to shit. That includes eating vegetables, fruits, and moving (at all). But I'm figuring it out. One day at a time. In the meantime, I'm figuring out how to deal with the shame. GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/...
Jul 29, 2023•7 min
The term “quiet quitting” refers to employees who put no more effort into their jobs than absolutely necessary. LINKS : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/23/style/quiet-quitting-tiktok.html and https://www.investopedia.com/what-is-quiet-quitting-6743910 GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your ...
Jul 28, 2023•7 min
Work, as we know it, its a recent construct. We must begin to think RADICALLY about the nuclear family and how we structure our lives and our goals and our sense of internal fulfillment. We’ve shaped our lives around work, and we must de-center the toxicity of work culture as a society if we want to escape it. If we decenter work we can prioritize communal spaces and sharing culture and the commons, in a way that prioritizes luxury for ALL people, not just the few. Plus, decentering the idea of ...
Jul 27, 2023•6 min
We've been indoctrinated to associate self worth with work ethic and alternatives have been suppressed and mocked for generations, but it's time we listen to the humanitarians and scholars who have been doing the work, so we can all have a better relationship with work. LINKS : https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Universal_basic_income GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN O...
Jul 26, 2023•8 min
We MUST start prioritizing people over profits, but systemic changes are huge (and uncomfortable) however necessary bc the way it is now is uncomfortable unfair, unsustainable. It starts with imagination, because the people in charge of what we see and consume have a vested interest in keeping the status quo. So, it’s hard to imagine a future not dictated over growth/profits over it’s people. Laziness is a capitalist myth, made to make us feel shame for not producing capital or profits in a soci...
Jul 25, 2023•7 min
critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff. RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com T...
Jul 24, 2023•7 min
critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff. RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com T...
Jul 23, 2023•7 min
critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff. RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com T...
Jul 22, 2023•7 min
