Let’s stop policing how others live their lives. Let’s remember that we often do more harm than good when we interject in people’s personal lives without context, even if we truly believe it’s coming from a great place. Stigmas end when we stop blaming people for their current situations or condition. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INS...
Dec 12, 2022•7 min
CW: ED + BIAS; Our society isn't built for people who exist within so many various human bodies, and then has the audacity to imply that the same human bodies who were overlooked + or disregarded is the problem. This completely overlooks the systems that created + implemented the problem. This makes it nearly impossible to not pick up on some of that disregard. So in an effort to rectify the harm perpetuated by this propaganda, I will never stop shouting about the PROFOUND evidence that contradi...
Dec 11, 2022•8 min
CW: (anti-fat bias, ED) - lately, I've been in a bit of a funk and it took me a while to realize that my aversion to considering anything about my 'weight' or 'body' was part of the problem. It's taken me years to unlearn the insecurities gifted to me by a capitalistic society built on shame + guilt, and it's taken me even longer to realize the size of the shadow that has been cast because of it. Redirecting my self-criticism and unlearning my propensity for self-hatred has made my life more inf...
Dec 10, 2022•6 min
The real art of empathy requires us to pay attention to the needs of others, without sacrificing our own. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on...
Dec 09, 2022•9 min
Remember, being empathetic is a kind way to respond to people’s emotional experiences, but isn’t helpful if we’re not conscious of how that is affecting our own. When we direct all of our attention outward, we become unbalanced + disconnected from our own needs - which makes us less effective at addressing anyone’s needs (our own or someone else’s). It’s easy to become codependent (mirror moods, chameleon your energy to appease, anticipate other people’s needs) and lose sight of your independenc...
Dec 08, 2022•7 min
Sympathy is recognizing + understanding someone else’s situation. Empathy is sharing in it. Sympathy typically focuses more on my personal experience or my own instinctual reaction to your situation, whereas empathy is more based on me feeling into the situation and being there with you, in that experience. To practice healthy empathy, we must be willing to get vulnerable with our feelings without centering ourself in the experience. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-dam...
Dec 07, 2022•8 min
fast fashion? more like fast trashon... amirite? BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 06, 2022•5 min
Social prescriptions are popular in other countries but since it's not an option in the states, it becomes our responsibility to figure out what we need to support our mental health. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcas...
Dec 05, 2022•7 min
When I feel resistance to leaving the house, it can be hard to understand if it's a legitimate reason or if I am just avoiding the transition of having to put on pants. Today, I share my strategies in checking in to decide if I should stay or go with the least amount of regret possible. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreo...
Dec 04, 2022•8 min
self isolation is the objective lack of connectedness where loneliness is the perceived lack of connectedness. isolation from social things can be healthy - as long as it's restorative + restful. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted o...
Dec 03, 2022•6 min
ever look at all the stuff you need to do and feel your ability to do anything about it fully SHUT DOWN? Just me? Finding my fight with executive dysfunction to be a very complicated one, what worked last week has little effect for this one. So instead of life hacking, I am showing up in whatever way I can. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN O...
Dec 02, 2022•7 min
I've recently binged every piece of content from Aubrey Gordon + fallen deeper in love with her (and myself) as a result. The article I referenced: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22276896/fat-aubrey-gordon-dating-apps-body-positivity-your-fat-friend The Podcast I love: https://www.maintenancephase.com/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON ...
Dec 01, 2022•6 min
here are some common characteristics of a cult. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 30, 2022•7 min
Most people aren't self-aware about how much they lack self-awareness. Here's how to build that: listen to honest feedback without judgement. practice pausing between reactions to emotions. learn how to identify emotions, in real time. build empathy through diversifying your literature/content intake. model your EQ after others with admirable qualities. https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/how-to-improve-your-emotional-intelligence/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM...
Nov 29, 2022•7 min
Josefin Hedlund rocked me with this mind-blowing article: https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/transformation/revolutionary-love/ and I had to share it with you. "Instead of seeing love as some mystical t hing that just happens to us, we should follow Bell Hooks idea in All About Love and see love as a verb. It is a practice that we do , and that we have been socialized into doing differently along gender lines. Hooks points out how patriarchal capitalist society promotes love as dominating, competi...
Nov 28, 2022•6 min
WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 27, 2022•7 min
This episode has a video element available now at https://youtu.be/wDRzlMI2H0U - in case you wanna see my face while we cover Emotional Intelligence and why I believe it's more a valuable/reputable tool than IQ. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-dam...
Nov 26, 2022•5 min
I tend to get quickly attached to people who are emotionally unavailable because it resembles the patterns I am trying to heal from my childhood. The more aware I get of this pattern, the less likely I am to attempt to hold the "wrong" people (for me) to standards they can't/won't/shouldn't meet. You're good enough - regardless of who has made you feel otherwise in your lifetime. Trust me. You're worthy of love. Just don't get lost in the sauce of "proving" that to yourself through the actions o...
Nov 25, 2022•7 min
oh hi - please remember you are allowed (and encouraged) to set + uphold boundaries with people. you can let people know you won't be engaging in debates over the morality of food, weight gain or loss, politics, family drama, etc. also - honor + remember the authentic origins of this "celebration" by understanding the cultural origins of Thanksgiving from Native American perspectives. https://native-land.ca/ Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See a...
Nov 24, 2022•7 min
we often feel the pull to focus on where we lack + the reasons why we lack; but lately I've noticed how focusing on bridging the gap between what is and what I most want, has made the gap feel so much smaller + more reasonable to address. Notice the lagging not the lacking, and do what you can to unite the what is to what you most desire. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodc...
Nov 23, 2022•6 min
recognizing the lack I feel when people are telling me they care about me has been a major wake up call - but realizing I put myself in partnerships that reaffirm my fears of being unlovable was even more important in the process. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acas...
Nov 22, 2022•6 min
hate to be the one to break it to you - but you're likable and I am here to show you the steps in how to allow yourself to be liked in the way you deserve for once, okay!? RESOURCE USED TODAY: https://www.wikihow.life/Let-People-Like-You WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://support...
Nov 21, 2022•7 min
After sharing yesterday's tips, I second guessed how many "rules" we're put out as a methodology - when in reality? People who we're connected to - don't need rules. They don't need regulations. They just need YOU to be you. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/...
Nov 20, 2022•6 min
Since the pandemic, the idea of making eye contact with someone is more terrifying to me than a bathtub full of spiders. I have practiced many techniques to improve my connectivity with others while chatting - but here are the most effective things I've utilized. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Suppor...
Nov 19, 2022•7 min
How much of your sense of self worth relies on your relationship status? or the quality within them? Life gets better when we stop putting our self worth on partnerships + potential relationship status updates. Seeking connection is standard - but don't fall into the trap of feeling like YOU are the reason for gaps in our connectivity - or that YOU are less valuable bc it's not all sunshine + rainbows. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com ...
Nov 18, 2022•7 min
Staying objective in a relationship has been a CHORE for me (personally) so I work real hard - especially at the beginning of relationships to stop with the romanticizing + start getting real with what IS, rather than what I hope will be. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://suppor...
Nov 17, 2022•8 min
crushes can be crushing if we're not careful with our interpretation of fantasy vs. reality. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 16, 2022•6 min
We must come to terms with the fact there is often more than one right way to do something successfully. Learn when to step back, when to step up, and when to step in. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva...
Nov 15, 2022•7 min
Today I am sharing some green flags to seek out in relationships (platonic + romantic) including some examples in my own life that happened once I figured out how to set boundaries. INSPIRATION FOR THIS ONE: https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/relationship-green-flags/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYD...
Nov 14, 2022•8 min
Asking someone to hang out can be awkward as hell - here are some tips (and dialogue samples) we can use when asking a new friend (or crush) to hang with us. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mor...
Nov 13, 2022•7 min
