Social Interactions can be draining. Here's how to prepare: Take a friend-ventory. Know what friends you need more rest before seeing, or prefer in small groups. Note when you don't vibe with a venue or a group rather than an individual. Plan for recovery time, stretch breaks, bail out strategies, and other things you can do to parse out your experience with overwhelming stimulus. Sometimes, all we need is a quick break or a snack to reset the vibe. Replace FOMO with a lil JOMO - that feeling yo...
Jul 12, 2022•7 min
Sensory fatigue: When your brain feels overstimulated with sensory inputs such as noise, lights, visual stimulation, sounds, conversation, etc. We all experience sensory needs + I truly believe we’ve all experienced certain levels of sensory overstimulation in some capacity. Like with everything else in life, everyone of us beautiful humans is unique, which means our triggers are gonna be unique, so while some people are sensitive to all loud noises, some of us are more sensitive to specific ton...
Jul 11, 2022•8 min
stop trying so damned hard + it'll happen. confidence comes from making the choices from your most internally aware self. give the external world some time to catch up. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast LUH YOU. Support this show http...
Jul 10, 2022•7 min
"in coping with manipulation, it’s best to follow four basic principles: Know your rights and your limits; set clear, appropriate boundaries in a respectful and neutral way; recognize and avoid the other person’s efforts to escalate the conflict or muddy the issue; and always make sure to protect your own safety." RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/201807/4-ways-deal-manipulative-people https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/manipulation DONATE IF YOU CAN: https:/...
Jul 09, 2022•8 min
Negging (derived from the verb neg, meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyou...
Jul 08, 2022•7 min
Lovebombing: A common manipulation technique is love bombing: "Love bombing" refers to behavior patterns where, at the beginning of the relationship, a partner showers the other with over-the-top attention, gifts, affection, etc. See: Kanye West's truckload of roses gesture... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/love-bombing : " Genuine affection is mutual and should unfold at a pace that is comfortable for both parties. Love bombing, by contrast, tends to feel one-sided—with one partner s...
Jul 07, 2022•7 min
gaslighting: manipulating (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. Maybe by: telling blatant lies, deny everything despite proof, make you question your reality, blackmail you, wear you down over time, gain your confidence + confuse you with infrequent rewards, project their shit onto you, try to align others against ya, make you feel or call you crazy or a liar. Noticing + calling out patterns can be what breaks them. You got this. Don't let people distort reality to acc...
Jul 06, 2022•7 min
trying to control and manage someone else's journey + struggle may feel like a way to show love, but it's really a way to take a piece of their experience away from them. struggle = potential to learn and grow. and unfortunately we can't grow without it. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON I...
Jul 05, 2022•8 min
Don't be afraid to take a step back every once in a while to see if the relationship dynamics + roles you're playing are aligned with who you'd like to be and where you'd like to go. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support th...
Jul 04, 2022•9 min
we hate overthinkin' until it pays off. make em pay off by learning to hone your bad habits (in order to properly serve you instead of bogging ya down) because you're valid for being afraid - fear is a signal shit needs to change - but don't get caught up in the emotional side of it, insteaed start making the changes it's gonna take to make a difference. Resource/inspiration: https://www.instagram.com/climateresilienceproject/ DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds...
Jul 03, 2022•8 min
PART TWO - please listen to yesterday's episode before beginning this one. You are responsible for everything that has happened to you in you’re life. You get robbed? Whether you hand your purse over, or run, or choose to do nothing. You are responsible for it. You may not be to blame for the robbery but you are burdened with the responsibilities of the repurcussions. That’s just what life is. It is a series of responsibilities thrust upon our shoulders. How we react and adapt and grow is the on...
Jul 02, 2022•7 min
My lessons from reading Mark Manson's Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for. It’s not about not giving a fuck, it’s about changing your perspective to only give a fuck about the things that really matter, instead of all the other bullshit. We all have problems. It’s a human condition. It’s just about creating better problems. Happiness is not an ending, it’s merely a side-effect of solving good problems. (Thus, problems are actually critic...
Jul 01, 2022•6 min
“When we’re not hungry for justice it’s usually because we’re too full with privilege.”- Carlos A. Rodriguez I updated with the correct audio - apologies! Get involved with your community, communicate with passion + empathy, and remember you have more control than they'd like you to think. Start small, start scared, but just fucking start. Oh yeah, and vote! (but do your research: https://www.stephanieskora.com/voter-guide and https://www.injusticewatch.org/ PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://sec...
Jun 30, 2022•11 min
The system may feel shaky, but that's a good thing. The majority of us, want to do the right thing even though the odds are stocked against that mindset. So, that alone, is pretty fricking inspiring to me. Here's some optimistic ranting from a person with high hopes for our country, for the first time in her life. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONT...
Jun 29, 2022•12 min
All aboard the special EXTENDED 500th episode extrava-gay-nza!!!! I am so proud to finally be in a place that I can both embrace and be proud of my sexuality! It only took 34 year, a few different zip codes, some incredible humans living their most authentic lives (proving we really can do life our own way, as long as we're not getting in the way of anyone else's) and I am so humbled and grateful to be a part of humanity at a time when we're learning to embrace our BEST, most honest selves. Love...
Jun 28, 2022•19 min
This episode may save lives. Share with anyone you think may need it. https://mayday.health/ MAYDAY HEALTH a registered health education nonprofit. Mission to share information about how to access abortion medication in all fifty states. 1. Create mail forwarding address in state with progressive abortion rights. This is typically less than $30. You can do this through iPostal.com, choose a state like Colorado or Illinois that protects abortion rights + choose a local city within it. At checkout...
Jun 27, 2022•11 min
DELIRIUM HAS OFFICIALLY HIT SORRY FOR THE DELAY. I had a DAY... and figured we all needed some distractions cuz I spent 6 hours on ONE episode and it's not even close to being perfect so THIS was an essential lil distraction. Who knew I used to be a self-care-Dr. Seuss? https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/008-just-do-your-best-poem-3dc7fdc3aede Just do your best! It’s all you can do to control the future as conflicts ensue. Keep doing your best to be all you can be Even when your best is harder t...
Jun 26, 2022•7 min
I'm fired up (+ scared) you prolly are too, cuz only 17% of people agree with this bullshit apparently!? NOT TO MENTION I WAS ALREADY SO MAD AND WORKING ON A GUN SERIES FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS GOOD WHAT ARE WE DOING HERE? PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES...
Jun 25, 2022•14 min
HI you look GREAT today. Don't forget that shit. You are truly killin' it. GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Jun 24, 2022•8 min
just invested in the ideal lil shield for my mic + not only is the sound quality an improvement (and easier to keep consistent) but it's also SO CUTE + FUNCTIONAL and inspired me to do so much podcasting magic today. The only thing is, it made me realize how often I was buying the best gear to start new hobbies and then not wanting to ruin them by being bad at them... and you get the picture. So, I am shopping smarter, not harder + the unforeseen side-effects are real nice, too. Luh ya, Julie GO...
Jun 23, 2022•9 min
If you're struggling to label or identify your natural skillsets, I've shared a list of common ones + some quick examples to help you along your journey. RESOURCE: https://www.highlandsco.com/visual-representation-natural-abilities/ GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support this show http://supporter.ac...
Jun 22, 2022•9 min
Who are you when you're not "trying"? We all have some natural abilities and talents and we all have natural weaknesses and traits we may need to improve. That said, we often can't even tell what our most natural tendencies are because they are second nature to us. The automaticity of it all makes it hard to notice, let alone focus on, but it can be so helpful to get to know what your skills + weaknesses are so you can be more connected, comfortable, and in control. Take some notes. GO AD FREE: ...
Jun 21, 2022•10 min
every time I read something about imposter syndrome, they're all like, "get more confident! limit your negative self talk! change your mindset" but for me, it's not that I am actually insecure - it's that I don't realize everyone else is, too. Next time you're feeling like a fraud, remember: Truck nuts was a 17 million dollar idea... that people fought over. Star Wars Trilogy was unplanned. Lucas thought it would tank so made it up as he went. Paul McCartney doesn't think he's good enough either...
Jun 20, 2022•9 min
The four main happiness* hormones are - Dopamine Oxytocin Serotonin Endorphins Lucky for us, there are some real great ways to boost those suckers that aren't just exercising + meditating (but those ARE great options) tune in for the suggesties! GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support this show http:/...
Jun 19, 2022•10 min
like many creatives, ideas are easy to come by - but execution is tough! So, keeping the billion-dollar-ideas tidy has changed the game for me + my confidence as a creative. How do you keep your billion dollar ideas organized?! GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.c...
Jun 18, 2022•7 min
Fear can indicate healthy brain function. It's not weak, it's a good sign that it exists - but we often project shit onto the future and don't even realize we've been walkin' around with a weighted blanket of unhelpful + unwarranted anxiety on our backs. Practice noting it + see how often you can redirect those thoughts. THE MAIN RESOURCE FOR THIS ONE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/smashing-the-brainblocks/201511/7-things-you-need-know-about-fear GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast...
Jun 17, 2022•9 min
When we get caught up rethinking situations that are beyond past... we can help redirect our brain to the present by remixing the toxic thought cycle + imagining the situation with a different "ending" or "climax". Ask yourself to change one thing about the situation, to see if that could potentially change the outcome. Sample remix questions include: The timing Your body patterns and what you did with your body What you say and how you said it The location and where it happened The order you di...
Jun 16, 2022•7 min
It's not my fault my taste in comedy is impeccable. Here are a few of my current favorites: Aparna Nancherla 7 minutes in purgatory Shane Torres Defends Guy Fieri | CONAN on TBS A Good One: A Podcast About Jokes See the extended bonus versions of episodes like this on youtube.com/juliemerica and rate us 5 stars on apple podcasts if you haven't already. If ya can, please share this with a friend (or enemy) that you think would benefit from it, that would truly be a game changer. Subscribe to the ...
Jun 15, 2022•9 min
Every wallstreet bro wants to tell you how crucial it is to get started on high yield savings accounts and early investing ops, but nobody wants to tell you where or how. This tuesday growth tip comes in the form of a lil vocab + introductory lesson to return on investments + the concept of compounding interest. GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY...
Jun 14, 2022•10 min
Motivational Monday: hotcake alert - this episode gets a bit sappy. i spent my life workin' harder, not smarter. Doing a ton of motion without any movement. Seemingly to prove that I deserved success when I reached it but now that I'm here, I am questioning who I was proving that to + why I was in such a hurry to do so. I thought I was playing catchup on "wasted time" from a traumatic childhood or lack of certain luxury - but when I get real, it's clear that there was no such thing as 'wasted ti...
Jun 13, 2022•12 min
