Morning sunshine! Collective action challenge for today: what TINY action can you do today to make a difference for the future of our planet? (tag me @MYDBPodcast with ideas if you can, cuz I love it) A listener asked for climate change strategies and my brain went WILD with the stuff I have done to "do my part" but let's be real. It's 100 companies responsible for 71% of the ding-dang global emissions - so we really need to keep that in perspective when we're "saving the world" by dehydrating o...
May 13, 2022•9 min
Improv : Keeps you open. Keeps you listening and curious and present. It helps you stay in the moment and not planning ahead or dwelling on the past, but instead allowing it to guide your future actions. Helps you let go of your ego. When you realize how fun life is when you confidently allow yourself that are considered by society to be less attractive or cool, or even stupid looking - you show you could care less about societal standards and your ego which is the most confident you can possibl...
May 12, 2022•10 min
You can be ANYONE you want, any time you want, as long as you're making choices that align with who you want to be. Stop stressing about the rest. Trust that you'll discover your " why " along the way, by accepting who you are, where you are, now. Establishing your point of view is a lot easier when you know who you are. So figure out who the heck you are first, then trust that you will be able to align with that self and thrive in any circumstances that arise. Plus, knowing who you are doesn't ...
May 11, 2022•7 min
Figure out WHO you are first, so you can make choices that align with your WHY. Not everything that gets thrown at you is going to be worthy of your time, energy, and thought. Release the need to address EVERYTHING all the time. You can't be everything to everyone, all at once. So focus on the important, and you can only get to know what's important by actually leaning into who you are and why you're here. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See aca...
May 10, 2022•9 min
Know when to stay silent. Learn when the situation needs space and time to breathe. Building tension through pauses can really increase your confidence, improve the energy surrounding it, and allow you space to come up with even better and more rewarding responses. Some things don't even need a response. Know when to hold, and when to fold, and when to play. Timing is important. It changes EVERYTHING, even if every other condition was exactly the same, the timing can make or break a situation. L...
May 09, 2022•8 min
Learning to trust yourself is the most important part in being able to ACCEPT the current REALITY of what is, now. Being a great human starts with accepting the reality as it as now, so you can react and respond in alliance with your foundational values to improve the situation, one step at a time. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 08, 2022•7 min
Trust yourself to make the next best choice. Flow, don't plan. Lean into the mistakes. You've done hard things many times before - and you'll do more again - so don't stress it. You're gonna do great, like you have so many times in the past. You're great at what you do, don't ever forget that. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 07, 2022•8 min
There are no mistakes. As long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, every mistake is an opportunity for growth, learning, change, or re-routing. Never be afraid to make a contribution, even if it feels like other people won't understand. Go in with clarity and connection and lean into the idea that the mistakes are where the magic live. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 06, 2022•8 min
In day 6 of the @MYDBPodcast improv series, I discuss "yes, and" vs. consenting to the things that do not align with your personal values. Get comfortable saying no to things that are dangerous or problematic. You don't have to be a people pleaser to say "yes, and" once in awhile. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 05, 2022•8 min
This is day 5 in the improv series of the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast. Today we're discussing how to "yes, and" someone and still disagree proactively. Get the foundations built before you reform it. Build, then edit. Get curious. Play TOGETHER to build connections and understanding. Explore together to learn and expand. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 04, 2022•8 min
In day 4 of the improv class series we discuss the concept of "yes, and", which is a principle that you will accept other people's suggestions, ideas, and contributions and expound upon them instead of shutting them down. It increases receptivity, decreases judgement, improves expansion, and increases connection. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 03, 2022•8 min
Taking a brief "commercial" break to tell you about an app I have discovered (non-sponsored, just truly couldn't wait to share this) that is aiming to help you get cheaper grub and help restaurants eliminate food waste. Check out TooGoodToGo.com and smile.amazon.com next time you're online shoppin' and would like to make a little bit of a positive impact with your purchase. Back tomorrow with more improvisation advice! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on A...
May 02, 2022•8 min
improv is overwhelming, but don't sit on the sidelines. go with the flow and enjoy the journey. lean on the connection and your ability to make everyone around you look amazing. a commonly discussed foundational rule in improv is the principle of "yes and", and I want to clarify on the real meaning of that and how it can be expanded to include: "no, but" as well. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 01, 2022•9 min
Rules* of improv: There are no rules. (other than the basics like: avoiding intentional harm, etc.) No wrong answers. Mistakes are opportunities. Lean in. Flow vs. Plan Stay open. Open to new ideas, new directions, and new perspectives. It's a team effort. There are no winners or VIPs. Prioritize making EVERYONE else look good. Don't derail the scene by going for the oke. Have fun! It's a time to play, so play. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. Se...
Apr 30, 2022•9 min
Today I share the very basic structure of my improv classes. Boundary check - How does everyone feel about physicality? any limits we should know about? Warm ups - connect + get comfortable with those around you. Play - in the world you BUILD together on the foundations you've already built together. Reflect + follow up. Subscribe to the monthly newsletter: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com Subscribe for extended eps on patreon: patreon.com/mydbpodcast Free bonus content also available on: instagra...
Apr 29, 2022•10 min
Today begins the first of the Improvised Improvisation series. Starring me improvising an introduction to my experience with improv in Chicago + how it's (quite literally) changed my life for the better. IMPROVISE: to compose, recite, play, or sing extemporaneously OR to make, invent, or arrange offhand to make or fabricate out of what is conveniently on hand. IMPROVISATIONAL THEATRE: live performances in which everything is created in the moment. scripts, characters, plots, stories, scenes, etc...
Apr 28, 2022•10 min
This is the final part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! Feel free to use genuine, earnest real life first hand stories to show and demonstrate your perspective. Just like you should have been attempting to really understand their perspective on that position - it’s your turn to share yours, so don’t be afraid to get real, vulnerable, and honest. This doesn’t mean you have to wreck them with a Shonda rhymes level soap opera diatribe. Be you. Keep it re...
Apr 27, 2022•9 min
This is the second part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! People are nuanced. They can be wrong and right at the same time. Find what’s right before delving into what’s wrong. Connect before you correct. A good way to diffuse and connect- especially if you’re starting to get a lil defensive is by finding a common ground. If you really are struggling to do this - call out your intention directly - I’d really love to refocus on some of the things we do a...
Apr 26, 2022•11 min
Build the connection before you reach for the correction. a lot of communication does happen non verbally - so offer kindness and listening and empathy through your expressions. If you’re standing, face the person directly but don’t tower or “muscle up”, show you’re receptive by sitting up straight and actively listening to the speaker. People who roll their eyes and shake their head and keep attempting to speak over others are far less likely to actually get any points across because it only se...
Apr 25, 2022•8 min
The detour today is brought to you by ADHD. Today I share the true meaning of "staying present" and how to do so without becoming hyper self critical. I also share tips on how to stay confident by bringing your real self to the table. And there's a few other nugs of wisdom you'll have to tune in to find out, please and thanks. if you haven't already, please rate Make Your Damn Bed Podcast FIVE glorious stars on apple so I can spread this info and make it accessible to more and more people. For m...
Apr 24, 2022•8 min
Sometimes people will get heated and things may escalate quickly and get tense out of nowhere and we may not even know what or why things are happening this way, but if we create a tool belt of things we can return to, we can remember that we do have some power in whether we choose to defuse or further escalate a potentially tense situation. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 23, 2022•8 min
The conversational awareness series summary: Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comfortable sharing with those who share and listen also but it can be really awkward to keep pressing and prying. Take...
Apr 22, 2022•9 min
How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest. Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now? Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room. Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story. Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep them on board throughout the story. Give yourself a thread to follow from the beginning of your sto...
Apr 22, 2022•10 min
If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting. Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return. Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 21, 2022•13 min
once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 20, 2022•9 min
BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from people attempting to be "interesting". Being someone who offers genuine interest in others and them...
Apr 19, 2022•8 min
Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment. Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay aligned with our highest self" in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming. Practice listening, keeping con...
Apr 18, 2022•10 min
when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 17, 2022•10 min
Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself? The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 16, 2022•10 min
The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 15, 2022•10 min
