If we are truly stuck with a choice, our best hope for happiness is to simply lean in. Our brains have this miraculous power to make us feel happy, as long as we don’t focus on the what could’ve beens of life. True suffering comes less from making a “wrong" choice, and more from regretting making it. Regardless of what happens in life, our minds will typically work to synthesize happiness once again, which is in no way less valuable than the happiness we may come to expect from making what seeme...
Dec 16, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 306
Watch the Ted Talk here: The Surprising Science of Happiness by Dan Gilbert - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q1dgn_C0AU So, if we are stuck with things going one way or the other, we often overrate how much it will actually affect us, when in reality, being stuck with the less preferred choice not only will effect us less than we’d expect, we are pretty damned good at synthesizing happiness around our bad gets, anyway. This study shows that real suffering comes from the questioning of if we ma...
Dec 15, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 305
Be honest and up front with your people. If you feel the need to rain check and can foresee that change happening ahead of time, let them know as soon as you figure it out. You don’t have to over-explain your reasonings, but respecting other people’s time means giving them substantial time to make more plans. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 14, 2021•8 min•Season 5Ep. 304
I have often expressed how important it is to make others feel heard and seen, and that feeling we get when a stranger thinks you’re worthy of remembering your name immediately, is the most efficient way to make this happen. It’s hard to show someone you give a shit about them if you cant bother to remember their most basic identifier. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 13, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 303
Practicing mindfulness is to make your life better, not to make you a better employee. Ideally, we can get to a place where we can choose our well-being over the well-being of our employers. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 12, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 302
If you want to get something done and cant stop getting distracted? Make it difficult to access your distractions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 11, 2021•8 min•Season 5Ep. 301
When you slow down consciously - you start to notice how much the world opens up. Oddly enough - when you intentionally choose less, you make room to experience more. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 10, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 300
When we associate our decisions with a part of ourselves that we take pride in, we are less likely to question whether we should put in effort or not. It becomes the natural progression of events. If you care, you’ll be far more likely to put in effort. If you can create a way to care more - you can improve that effort dramatically without fighting yourself internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 09, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 299
We should be striving to treat individuals as individuals. All humans, regardless of race, age, gender identity, sexuality, religion, preferences, or personal choices should b e treated as humans. Of course, we can protect our boundaries by addressing different behaviors that may affect us personally, but every single living being deserves to be treated with the same level of respect - as long as they aren’t violating your boundaries. Individuals should be treated as individuals. Support this sh...
Dec 08, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 298
In my experience there are two types of thinking when it comes to suffering. There are people who think, “I experienced something terrible and I don’t want anyone else to ever experience something like that.” And there are people who think, “I experienced something terrible, and everyone else should have to, too.” Ideally, we’re all in the first camp. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 07, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 297
Unless something drastic happens, real change is hard to notice until consistent effort has been put in and enough time and has passed to show those results. If you see an old friend after 20 years, you will be far more likely to notice their signs of aging than if you saw them aging slowly and gradually every single day. Same with gaining or losing weight. You aren’t likely to notice a few pounds a year being added or lost on your body until you look back and realize you’ve gained or lost forty...
Dec 06, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 296
Being open, honest and kind is a valuable asset in a closed off, dark, and often mean world. That said, being an honest, open, kind and vulnerable person can definitely put a target on your back when it comes to toxic people looking for prey. “Unspoken boundaries are invisible, and they often sound like “They should’ve known better” or “Common sense would say . . .” Common sense is based on our own life experiences, however, and it isn’t the same for everyone. That’s why it’s essential to commun...
Dec 05, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 295
When we put good out in the world, we get an automatic target on our backs on how we could be doing more, better, or differently, but in my opinion - that energy should be put towards the people doing active harm. Those people haven’t slowed down and they slide by unnoticed because we’re all fighting with each other on the details. Remember who’s team you’re on - and fight accordingly! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mo...
Dec 04, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 294
The reason that things resonate with you - is because of you. You see the magic in the world because you have the capacity for that magic. You are a mirror. The magic you see around you is the magic that lives within you. If you get inspired by my words or anything else you come across during the day - your history, perspective, interpretation, and big beautiful brain brought you here. Give yourself credit for seeing and BEING the magic. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-dam...
Dec 03, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 293
Set boundaries with the holidays. Don't burn through your savings trying to impress everyone. Focus on experiences and practicality rather than the top of the line junk. Your presence is present enough. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 02, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 292
Trade in your self deprecation for self aggrandizing and watch your confidence grow! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 01, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 291
It’s not about fitting in with the crowd - it’s about doing the things that feel the best and create the best outcome as a result. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you’re the pioneer of an experience or a look or a choice. If it’s not actively putting anyone else in danger - you should be excited to stand out, you never know who may be watching that needed a bit of encouragement to stand with you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.co...
Nov 30, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 290
Keeping yourself safe is the priority. And anger and resentment can be important feelings to have to signal if people are taking advantage of us. I encourage you to continue to hold people accountable as much as possible. Ideally, holding your boundaries firmly, without having to stoop to their level and feel disconnected from your authenticity. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 29, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 289
The truth is brutal, but honesty doesn’t have to be. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 28, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 288
Showing up can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people, and you will have agency over how you choose to show up - but to me, it’s important to pay attention to your people as individuals, and if you want to create a long lasting relationship that can withstand the test of time, you have to be willing to show up for them when you can. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 27, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 287
Getting comfortable growing means getting comfortable being wrong. Your thoughts may feel like the truth, but they're not always rooted in reality. Often, in fact, they aren't. Practice questioning your own thoughts, without getting defensive. Take some time and space for your own wellbeing today. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 26, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 285
It's Thanksgiving in the US and instead of dreading the holiday altogether, I now look forward to the idea of having a specific day dedicated to gratitude and connection with family or friends over various starches and pie WHILE simultaneously having passionate conversations about important ideals. Donate to Native American Rights Fund: https://secure.narf.org/page/64457/donate/1 DECODED : A thanksgiving sketch - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFfREh7G3ck Podcast: We Are Still Here- A Message o...
Nov 25, 2021•7 min•Season 5Ep. 285
When people misplace their anger onto you - it's not your responsibility to rectify it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 24, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 284
People will typically match your energy. Your energy reflects your perceptions. This is why, if you work improve your perception, the reactions of others and your entire reality will follow. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 23, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 283
The things that resonate for you reflect your past, your experiences, your interpretations, and even more so, your attitude about all of that shit. This is why some people can go through hell and back and have the best mindset and focus on gratitude and love and other people can be insanely privileged and still miserable about everything. Neither one is wrong. Both experiences and feelings are valid. But again, I can tell you which way sounds preferable. Support this show http://supporter.acast....
Nov 22, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 282
When we put our attention and our full conscious minds behind the things we do, we give them more power than when we simply allow them to happen to us. It truly sounds like magic because it kind of is. The fact is, our visualizations are just as powerful as our physical experiences. Our imaginations can literally create the same neural pathways in our brain, which can impact our physical bodies and surroundings as a result. This is why the power of positive thinking is so crucial. We truly do br...
Nov 21, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 281
Practice never goes bad. It’s not something that expires when you don’t use it. You can build on that information later. Hone the skill over time when it feels right for you - but recognize that consistent hard work shows results the fastest. 20 minutes of mindful practice will outweigh 2 hours of bullshit practice any day. So be mindful - be all in - and commit what you can when you can where you can. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.c...
Nov 20, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 280
Learning to love yourself means showing up day after day with compassion, curiosity, and reverence for the person you are in this very moment. It means being kind and patient with yourself as you learn this process but it also means you may benefit from taking some notes. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 19, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 279
Decluttering can feel very empowering and lighten some of the energetic ties you naturally create when residing in a space. It’s hard to feel free when you’re bogged down with shit around you, so let yourself feel a bit of freedom that comes with the occasional deep clean and purge. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 18, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 278
When you do this intentional releasing, I want you to focus on getting the shit out. When you change the oil in your car, you have to drain out the old shit for it to run properly in the future and that draining part is the most time consuming and expensive part of the process. Refilling the shit with the good stuff is very fast and fairly simple. The wait and the disposal of the old, heavy shit is where the labor comes in. But if you have the proper tools and expectations, it’s easier to do so....
Nov 17, 2021•6 min•Season 5Ep. 277
