The most dreaded day of the year for many Mothers. My heart goes out to those who could never be a mother whether it be from not getting married to infertility problems. Any enjoyment we get from life is generated by our thoughts. What thoughts we think and choose to hang on to bring us pleasure or pain. If we have a disappointing Mother's Day, it's all because of disappointing thoughts we choose to believe are true. Listen to this episode to learn what your responsibility is in having an enjoya...
May 08, 2024•43 min•Ep. 120
Have you given up hope on actualizing a better relationship with an adult child? This episode is for YOU! Our biggest roadblock is not being willing to wait for them to want a connection with us. And it does happen. I share an experience in my own life where after three years of a non-existent relationship with one of my children we are speaking and connecting with each other in a way I never dreamed possible. I talk about in this episode why it's important to wait for your children to change th...
Apr 18, 2024•28 min•Ep. 119
Are you feeling unimportant because your child don't call you or invite you out to dinner? Are you frustrated because you always have to reach out to them? Are you disappointed on your birthday because they didn't plan a celebration for you? Are you already dreading Mother's Day? If your answer was yes to any of these questions, this podcast is for you. I discuss how to remedy these concerns. I help you understand what the real problem is in not living the life you thought you would be living an...
Apr 10, 2024•17 min•Ep. 118
I'm interviewing my good friend Kurt Francom who is the founder and executive director of the non-profit organization , Leading Saints. He also has a weekly podcast by the same name, which I highly recommend. His mission is to help us become better leaders whether it's in a church position or as a leader of a family. His podcast covers a various range of topics. Today I'm interviewing him about his newly published book, " IS GOD DISAPPOINTED IN ME? Removing Shame from a Gospel of Grace.". We dis...
Apr 03, 2024•36 min•Ep. 117
What you think is the problem between you and your adult children is probably not what you think it is. We were raised to believe that the way they behave toward us causes us to feel a certain way. If they have very little contact with us, we may feel we are unimportant to them. Their behavior is the circumstance. Circumstances are neutral. They are the actual facts about the situation. The circumstance causes us to have certain thoughts. These thoughts cause us to feel in a certain way. Knowing...
Mar 27, 2024•38 min
Isn't it great when all of your family members can gather together? We all have different opinions as to why or maybe even why not. I am sharing some of my observations in navigating life with adult children of how different topics of information are shared depending on what makes up the family gatherings. In this episode I discuss what I found happens to me and my involvement and interaction with my children in an entire group gathering; a single family event; only my adult children getting tog...
Mar 20, 2024•33 min•Ep. 115
Many of us had expectations of when we had adult children what life would be like. We thought we would be involved in their lives. When this expectation or need is not fulfilled we often feel unimportant and unloved. As an adult, we are responsible for fulfilling our own needs. One way to accomplish that is to spend more time with friends. We are fulfilling our own needs by finding like minded people to associate with. It is not our children's responsibility to fulfill our needs. They don't OWE ...
Mar 13, 2024•39 min•Ep. 114
All of us have people in our lives that we dislike. It seems especially painful when we dislike and finally own that we really don't like one our adult children. Sometimes we try to move too fast out of feeling this way instead of "being" with this emotion for a while. In this episode I tell of reasons some of my clients have chosen to dislike their children, why it’s owning our thoughts are causing this feeling, and not the circumstance of our children's behavior, and some remedies, some new th...
Mar 07, 2024•27 min•Ep. 113
The freedom to be free of non-serving emotions, feelings that don't help us live emotionally healthy lives, can happen in our lives when we are trained in how to have thoughts that empower us and give us permission to be ourselves. First, we need to let go of the thought that we feel we need approval in order to like ourselves. Second, we need to quit being the victim to what's happening in our lives and starting creating the life we want to live by managing our thoughts. I call this the practic...
Feb 21, 2024•37 min•Ep. 112
Our relationship with our spouse is probably the relationship we should be spending the most time strengthening. I believe families can be together forever, even after we die. But I have millions of ancestors and could potentially have millions of predecessors so that seems like a bigger gathering than I can imagine. But I can wrap my mind around being with my husband forever. We worry about being with our children for eternity because of some of their behaviors. But what about my behavior towar...
Feb 15, 2024•45 min•Ep. 111
Do you fear your adult children may cut you off from having any contact with their family and your grandchildren if you disappoint them? Feeling this way does not help in building a good relationship with them. And feeling fearful is one of the worst feelings to feel. In this episode I give reasons why we have this fear, how this feeling is causing you to live in scarcity and six suggestions on how to stop having this fear. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Ad...
Feb 08, 2024•32 min•Ep. 110
It's wonderful all the adult opinions there are out there in the world. When we collaborate we have come up with some amazing creations, inventions, advancements in medicine and technology. But we humans often struggle in our relationships when our opinions differ. This episode is about when we disappoint our children by a decision we have made and what we can do to have the confidence in ourselves to move forward. It explains why we can't make them feel better about our decision but what we can...
Feb 02, 2024•23 min•Ep. 109
We are the creators of our experiences in our lives. If you don't like the results of the circumstances or happenings in your life, you can change them by changing how you want to feel, or contribute, or be in response to your circumstances. We can't change our circumstances, we can't change how our adult children act around us, but we can change how we respond to their actions and this controls what kind of result we have in our life in regard to any specific circumstance. The circumstance does...
Jan 25, 2024•39 min•Ep. 108
I share in this episode three stories of past clients who loved their estranged children enough to wait until their children were ready to heal the relationship. I recieved three emails within a month from these past clients exclaiming their joy and gratitude to God for coming forth of their children indicating they wish to restore their relationships with their parents. Love always wins...again. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to...
Jan 18, 2024•23 min•Ep. 107
What causes us to not always act like the kind, loving parent we want to be to our adult children? No. It's not because they are unkind and unloving. It's because you may think you are feeling love for your child but perhaps you're feeling resentful that they are unkind and unloving. Feeling resentful is going to cause you to show up as resentful....not kind and loving. Listen to this episode where I talk about what we need to do to act like the person we want to be. What you do is caused by how...
Jan 11, 2024•28 min•Ep. 106
We clean our houses more than we clean out our minds. When we practice getting rid of some of the harmful thoughts we hang onto in our minds we free ourselves to choose thoughts that serve us and help us to see things from a more beneficial perspective. When we clean out our minds we tend to not take things more personally. We tend to get more curious and less judgmental in our thoughts which results in us being closer to living the life we want to live. Have you received my new resource "3 Step...
Jan 03, 2024•20 min•Ep. 505
Not many parents talk about their relationships with their adult children especially if they are struggling in it. Nobody told us we would be expecting our needs would be met at this time in our lives by our involvement with our adult kids. No one told us that we are responsible for fulfilling our own needs, of finding our own happiness, not our children, not even our husbands. Just because we may not be included in our adult children's lives as much as we would like doesn't mean they love us le...
Dec 28, 2023•44 min•Ep. 104
Faith to me is knowing God conspirers in my favor. Faith is knowing that God knows what's best for us and has a plan to get His children back to Him. Faith causes me to not give up on my adult children. Faith is knowing what my responsibility is to my adult children and the most important is to stay out of God's business. Faith is knowing He loves them more than we do. Faith is knowing part of the plan is opposition. David Bednar video "How Will I know Where I'll Go When I Die ?" https://www.you...
Dec 21, 2023•23 min•Ep. 103
We know we judge others, especially our adult children, too often but we don't know how to stop. Even knowing that we don't like how we feel when we're judging them doesn't making us stop. We think we have some control over them living a happier life if we just help them see their weaknesses. But this is a little lie our brain tricks into thinking. In this episode you'll learn four suggestions on how to stop judging others. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Ad...
Dec 13, 2023•24 min•Ep. 102
I can help people solve any problem with their adult child but that's not entirely true. The teachings of Jesus Christ show us the way to solve any problem. What I do is show people how to apply the teachings in their lives and where to start learning how to do that. Listen to this episode where I offer some scriptures that can be applied to choosing love, forgiveness and compassion rather than judgement. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Clic...
Dec 06, 2023•22 min•Ep. 101
No excuses now. I offer you 100 ways you can show your adult children you love them even if they don't share their love back with you. Love is always a choice. Love just loves. Love will always feel best. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone. Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call wi...
Nov 29, 2023•23 min•Ep. 100
This is a replay of a podcast I published a year ago but I felt it worth rebroadcasting it. The most healthiest emotion we can have is gratitude. When we are thankful for all the good things in life we enjoy we have a better connection with God, with our family, and with ourselves. We live in abundance rather than scarcity. We realize we already have so much of what we want in life. Being grateful enables us to live a very satisfying life. See full show notes and transcript HERE . Have you recei...
Nov 22, 2023•32 min•Ep. 99
Are there times you feel consumed by the thoughts ruminating in your head over how you're being treated by your adult children? And then these thoughts start impacting other relationships that are important to you. You feel miserable because you can't stop the thoughts and you feel like you could explode with resentment and disappointment. Listen to this episode to learn how to stop these negative thought cycles. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Childre...
Nov 15, 2023•22 min•Ep. 98
Do you really want to show up at Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner when you know you're going to be emotionally abused? The better question to ask is do you know you have a choice? What is the reason you'd be going? Do you like your reason? I hope this episode will shed some light on the choices you have about being around anyone that is emotionally abusive to you. Love always wins but that doesn't mean you wear a sign that says"kick me" or "punch me." You are a child of God and you are important...
Nov 09, 2023•40 min•Ep. 97
We usually use the Model to get a result we want in our lives by focusing on the feeling we want to feel and change our thoughts to cause that feeling. In this episode I'm giving attention to the action line of the model and how changing our behavior by show gestures of love can give us the result of feeling more love that results in living a peaceful, well lived life. Love always wins....just every time. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Clic...
Nov 02, 2023•25 min•Ep. 96
Our love may feel rejected by our adult children but that doesn't mean they don't love us. It's our expectation of a certain way they should be responding to our love that they are not living up to that causes us to feel they are rejecting our love. Whether it's not thanking us for a gift we gave them to not including us in their children's lives that may cause us to feel resentment and anger rather than love. But isn't that us, loving them conditionally? Listen to this episode to learn some way...
Oct 26, 2023•21 min•Ep. 95
I share some insights into what adult children commonly complain about their parents since they have become adults. You'll find from listening to this episode, it's many of the same complaints parents have about their adult children. I discuss 10 common complaints adult children have shared. I am not inferring that a struggling relationship is caused by the parents, but maybe you will learn some things that you could do to strengthen any relationship. Anything we can do to be part of the solutio...
Oct 18, 2023•44 min
The cause of your painful relationship with an adult child may not be what you think it is? When we find out what it is, it's mind blowing. Because it's not their actions, but it's your thoughts about their actions that is causing you all your pain. The good news is that we can't change their actions but we can change our thoughts. It's learning that you are responsible for your feelings because you are the one thinking those thoughts. Also, part of being an adult is knowing that you are respons...
Oct 11, 2023•46 min
Many of my clients wonder if their children are disrespectful to them because they failed in their child raising techniques. Unless a child was severely abused, how they were raised has nothing to do with how they treat their parents. Most of the time disrespectful children don't see themselves as being disrespectful. Whatever is happening, they see it from a different perspective. It's their feelings that cause them to act a certain way; they feel a certain way because of the thoughts they are ...
Oct 04, 2023•19 min
We can't control or change how we want people to act in a relationship. Even with an out pouring of love, they still might not accept our love. But we can control our behavior and the kind of person we want to show up as in any relationship. Relationships with family members are always the most personal to us. Listen to this episode to learn what you can control in your contribution to a loving, kind relationship. Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Childr...
Sep 28, 2023•28 min•Ep. 91
