Lets Talk Intimacy, Connection, & Sex

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Hey, hey, hey. Welcome to the show. Welcome back, everybody. Thank you for joining us. Welcome to another episode of Love and Beyond, the I Do podcast. We're your hosts, Jason and Tina Marie. That's me. Hey. And we are here to inspire and empower individuals with actionable strategies and insights for developing meaningful and fulfilling relationships using universal principles, effective communication, and mindset shifts.

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All right. We use the Manifest Method framework to help individuals create and develop the type of relationship they want. What is the Manifest Method? Glad you asked. Helping people take their relationship off cruise control. So, before we get into tonight's episode, if you haven't grabbed the book, Manifest a Joy Filled Relationship. The book. The book. We want to ask you one question. What are you waiting for? You can't manifest if you don't know what you're doing wrong or what you need to do more of. So go and grab it today and tell a friend or two or three or four. Just tell someone. Intimacy isn't just physical. It's an energy exchange.

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Okay. So when you align with the right energy. Right. You naturally attract deeper connection and intimacy. Hm. For most people. You know, most people think that intimacy is, you know, means sex. I know. I know a person. Uh, I know a person that when I ask, I can't confirm nor deny that statement. I did. I didn't say you. I know you did. I just said I can't. Yeah. I can't confirm or deny that. But that's just one part of it. The real intimacy is about emotional, mental, and even spiritual connection. That's right.

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So since we're talking about intimacy as in sex, let me tell you about Jason and how when I first mentioned intimacy to him. Yeah. He misunderstood everything that I needed. All right. Or maybe you just didn't explain it the way that I needed it to be explained. So when I was, uh, telling him I need intimacy. Right. What you get in the bed, I need outside of the bed. So I had to. I was trying to explain to him what intimacy meant for me. It wasn't sex. It wasn't having sex. It wasn't the act of sex. It was the sex before the physical act. It was the. As we talk about the mental, the spiritual, the connection.

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So I need my love language. Uh-huh. In case my husband may have forgotten, which I'm sure he hasn't. I hasn't. I haven't. Is physical touch. Right. So. And which can be interpreted as a sexual advancement. Exactly. For him, intimate touch means I want to have Sex. Right. And that's a prerequisite. That's what you do before. No physical touch for me means that if we're sitting still, you're walking past. And that means touch me, hold my hand, hold me close, rub on my back, touch like I need touch. That's how I feel. As though I'm loved. And so I was expressing this to him, but as, as he just stated, he interpreted that as I want to. Moving on down the road. Exactly. Moving on down the road.

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And so when I explained to him that intimacy to me or um, connection and intimacy was when I'm outside of the bed, I need to feel loved, engaged. I got you. Right. So I was explaining that to him. And so the conversation, what I realized is that as he and I were talking more, there was a communication gap. Mhm. And so it took us into this conversation about comprehension. Right. I don't think it was a miscommunication gap. I think it was a comprehension problem. Right, Right. I heard what you were saying. I thought I understood it. Well, I did understand it to my own level of understanding.

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Right. Which is a great point. So when we're talking about, right. Um, having effective communication, uh, you can be saying exactly what you want to your partner, but they may not be interpreting it exactly the way you're saying it. Which means that you have to then get to a point of understanding. How does my mate actually comprehend? How. How do the. How do we communicate in a way where I understand his communication language and he understands mine?

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And what else? What else does that mean? Right. What else? Because actually, what you're saying in the beginning isn't what you're trying to get out. Right. You're just saying the surface level stuff. I'm not happy. I want to be happy, but I don't know exactly how to tell you that. So the first thing I want to say is this. I need this. I need more intimacy. Well, I'm thinking I'm giving you more intimacy. So what else is it? I mean, like, what else aren't you getting from me? Or when someone says we're not connected, a person may say, well, we spend every day together. Like, we live in the same house. Like, you know, we're married. What do you mean, we're not connected?

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Expressive and vulnerable so that in this relationship we can talk, we can unpack the things that maybe we don't need to carry around anymore. Right. We had the conversation about carrying around a backpack full of old stuff. Let's leave the past in the past. What we want to focus on is it works if you work it. We're going to work the manifest keys that make sense to everyone. So the it. So you got to be careful of the it. Did we have a comment? No. Oh, okay. Yeah, we just, uh. You have to make sure we work in the right. It's right. So you have to find out what your it is.

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I think. Okay. So I hope you guys can hear me too. So, yeah, it's the. We have created the 20 emotional intimacy essential questions to help you. You to go. And what else? Understand. To help you understand. And what else to understand the things that you need to know that maybe you and your partner have not discussed or didn't even know that you needed to discuss because you're already in the relationship. Or to start your relationship. Even better. No, you can always start from where you are. So things that came up in this week in a, uh, coaching session was. I don't know what I don't know.

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