Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions

You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast episode four seventy four. K. The Lord's here with the one, the only, the I'm so glad you indulge me in some but not all of my whims. Although, I wish you did indulge me in all of my whims because I have great ideas. John Brownstone. There is not that much Diet Coke in the world to indulge you in your whims. I mean, I'm I'm fairly, the word is wrong because it's I don't mean this politically. Do not mean

this politically. I'm fairly conservative in my whims. Okay? I don't really dream big. I've been broke too much in my life. So I feel like you could safely indulge all of my whims. Not all of my whims are Diet Coke related. Just saying. Anyway, in a weird way, that's kind of what we are doing this week. So, we, a couple days ago, looked at one another and went, yeah. We're not cut we're disconnected

when we don't like that. So we're gonna reconnect in previous episode by answering silly, lighthearted, and or random relationship questions we found on IG, where it seems this account and the app that it has, its entire purpose is to get you to answer crazy ass questions. So we're gonna do this. Some of that. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this is your first time listening, glad to have you. If you're back for another week, welcome back. Loving BDSM is produced every Monday and Friday

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We hope we give as much as we receive. And, yeah. It ends February 28, which is, I believe, Saturday, if that's how dates work. I don't really know. We know I suck at dates. I'm just sort of having come to terms with the fact that dates and time, not my strong suit. I'm okay with numbers in general, but dates and time are not nope. Nope. Gonna be bad at them. Always always. Just I try. So that is the one announcement. We're gonna get into these questions.

So, apparently, there is an app called Flamingo, Flamingo card. I forgot to link it in YouTube, and it will be linked, for podcast listeners by the time you can hear this. Their whole thing apparently is, getting people who have the app to have deep or fun or whatever conversations with their partner or their friends. And so part of their promotion for their app is they post questions on Instagram. And I went through I came across them randomly at some point. They don't know we exist.

This is not, like, in coordination. It's just I found it and thought, I like this. And some of the questions actually kinda cracked me up. I was like, I wonder what JB would say. Now at the same time, we've just had kind of a hectic couple of weeks. Got back from traveling. I I'm almost gonna say I think JB and I experienced a little bit of drop post travels. Mhmm. And he was talking to me, Sunday into Monday, and,

basically, how are we doing? And I'm like, I am very disconnected to, like, all humanity right now. I'm not but especially you, and I don't like this disconnection. He's like, I don't like disconnection either. And there are many things to do to reconnect. I thought we would continue on, with a thing we've done a few times now. But, also, it technically kind of goes hand in hand with an old episode, not that old, like, several weeks ago, on love maps, which is just learning more about your

partner. And these questions allow us to do how well do we know our partner? What can we come up with from our imagination based on what we know about our partner? So that is, that's kind of the where this is coming from. I wanted to do something lighthearted and silly because it's we reconnect faster when we're laughing. I mean, we can reconnect without laughter. It does happen, but it's quicker and easier, when we get the giggles. So hopefully, this will inspire that.

Also, speaking of love maps, in the love map episode from several weeks ago, I talked about kink maps, and that was a little bit part of the conversation. I made an activity for building your air quote kink map. It is currently only available through our Patreon at the $10 level as a as a digital download because that's what $10 folks get access to all digital downloads that I create at no additional charge. I haven't put it out anywhere because I don't quite know how I wanna do that yet.

That's on my list for soon ish, ideally sometime in 2026. So, yeah, I have not given up on the idea of love maps and kink maps, and this is just part of that one. Okay. So these questions, some are rapid fire, some require discussion. Mhmm. The first three are technically multiple choice, but I don't always like the choices I'm given with multiple choice. So I added a pick something else kinda thing. So we're gonna answer these for each of each

other. That's how words Okay. What's the first time you ever felt protective of me, JB? Was it someone was being rude, it was a late night, I was sick, I cried, or something else? Oh, I gotta think about that one, Nance. Do you wanna think? And I'll tell you mine. Mhmm. It was the first time one of your family members was shitty to you. I am not a violent woman. I am not a confrontational woman, but I could have been both.

It's probably a good thing you kept them away from me or kept I kept myself away from them. I don't know which because I don't I don't defend myself well. I don't worry about I don't think about that kind of stuff. I'm really bad at confrontation. But I was, yeah, I was ready to go toe to toe with your entire ass damn family. That I I recall that so clearly. It's not hard because, man, some of your family really fucking sucks. They do. I I can't easy. I can't deny that.

So Cannot deny that at all. Think of a time when you felt okay. It's it it's not the first time. Okay. I know that for sure. Mhmm. But it is the time that sticks in my head. Okay. The the last time we stayed at a certain place in Mississippi. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. It was the last time we were allowed to, quite frankly. Yeah. Yeah. Because it was all directed all that rage was directed at me. Like, you were there, but it was like, let me put you down. Well, he he did it through me. Mhmm.

Yeah. He did. But then when he got face to face with me, then it was yeah. That sucked. Okay. These are not lighthearted or silly. Let's Nope. Let's move the fuck on. What is my most lovable flaw? Clingy, stubborn, dramatic, I did not like this one, but I put it for accuracy, jealous, or something else. I don't think being jealous, is it's a flaw. Is it lovable? I would have to say, when you get the zoomies at night before we go to sleep. So you don't just find that adorable in

general? It's it's like, oh, it's adorable. But also, could you stop? Is that is that what I gave her today? There we go. There is some night I just wanna roll over and go to sleep. But I'm not ready. I know, Tracy. I know. I know. Then I've had to keep it together all day. This is my moment, and you're not here. I wanna be with you. Okay. So your most lovable flaw? Oh, dear. We all have flaws. They're lovable until they're not.

But it is when you're you're polar bear grumpy grumpy polar bear and you still have a sense of humor. So when you were too in your head with your grumpiness, it's not lovable at all. It is everybody get the hell away from JB. Yeah. But when I can tease you about it, I still don't want you to be grumpy with me. Right. But but it's kind of funny. It's here's here's the signal. I'll I'll

here's the signal. I'll I'll say something about grumpy polar bear, and JB will go, grasp, grasp, grasp, grasp, grasp. Yep. I just that would Okay. What's a little habit of mine you secretly love? Here are the options that they gave, but we'll come up with our own shit. Mhmm. Steal your fries, leave voice notes, I don't do that shit. Random dances, over explaining, or something else. Something else. Actually, there's two of them. Oh, gosh. Okay. Okay. Mhmm. One is your

random little dances. I just start moving. I don't even know if I'm doing it. So I'll be walking by and put this beat. You know, there's no music playing and nothing. She's just like bopping. I've got a song on loop. And you're and you're just bopping away. And what's And and the other one, I don't think it started intentionally. Okay. Okay. But and it happens mostly again at night before we're when we're getting ready for bed. When I finally relax. Yeah. You make that Tina noise.

Stop. Okay. If you for anybody doesn't know, Bob's Bob's Burgers, we started watching it several months ago. Yeah. Louise is my favorite character, but I relate to Tina way too hard. And sometimes when I'm thinking, especially if I'm or I'm about to do something I don't really want to do, but I'm think I will make a noise. I'll go and, actually, I do it as as a little bit of a distress sound. I go, like that. But it sounds like the way Tina Belcher

does it in Bob's Burgers. And I'll be like, okay, Tina. It is true. I now actually catch myself doing it and then go, oh my god. He's gonna call me Tina, and I stop. But I also just do it, and I don't think about it because I've made that kind of noise my whole life. Not necessarily where people can hear me even. Now I'm reminded why. Okay. A little habit of yours that I secretly love. I have to think. You I hate to say there's a few habits

you have that I don't love. That's what's coming to mind. Oh, dear. I'm an only child who never had to learn how to share. I don't like it when you steal my fries. Thank you very much. It really does piss me off. Yeah. You know what? I I laugh my ass off for a multitude of reasons, but I actually do kind of secretly love when you are in the garage, in the shop, mowing the

lawn. You got your noise canceling earbuds in, and you're listening to I never know what song it is, but you are singing it as if you are on stage. It's like your with your whole chest, you sang that song. You went for the high notes. You went for the low notes. You did backup singing, the whole neighborhood knows your singing voice. What can I say? I'm here to entertain you. I think the part I like about it is you have

so few fucks. You're like, I don't give a fuck if all the neighbors, including across the street, can hear me singing. It does help that you do not have a bad singing voice. If it was, like, me singing, I don't know that I would find it so lovable. Okay. Okay. So the next questions Mhmm. Are not, multiple choice. K. If you lost me in a supermarket, where's the first place you'd look? I would have to say either the deli or the bakery.

That's probably true. Not sure what I'd be looking at at the deli well, no. I probably have the munchies and I'd be looking at snacks in the deli. You'd be looking at those rotisserie chickens. Oh god. I could go for a rotisserie chicken. I know where I'd look for you, and I'd find you. Mhmm. Bathroom. If you cannot find JB on any shopping trip you're on, he's probably Pretty much too. In that. Okay. If we had to switch our our

lives for the day Mhmm. I be you, you be me, what do you think I'd struggle with the most trying to be you? Go ahead. If it's pee standing up, that's probably true. Probably the way I just kind of I don't have a deep method of doing the things I do. I just kinda, you know, knock it out and blow through it. Oh, you would come back to your body and have so many to do like this. Yeah. You would have an org there'd probably be a procedural manual for how everything is done

by the time you got back. Yeah. Okay. So I know what you would struggle with. It is keeping outside of work all the life stuff organized. Who has the next appointment? Where do you need to be? What time do you have to leave to get there in time? Where are you going after? What is the routine so the youngest child who does not handle the routine not going correctly, not have a meltdown? Also, when do we have to be where with what? And what are we having for dinner? And who's cooking

tonight? Yeah. I'm pretty sure you would lose your fucking mind. I am, you know, I have always had a problem with that. And, you know, calendars my whole life has been my friend. Mhmm. Okay? Mhmm. But, even with that Yeah. No. I can't keep up with it. I my god. For a while there, I just me alone was having so many appointments and then with everybody else's, I kept getting them all across. I know. That's why it had me to keep me on track. Yeah. I would've never been where I needed

to be. They're on on the heavy weeks, the amount of text message notifications, reminders I get and or pick this up and or here's your code for this thing you had to sign in for and or yeah. You'd run screaming. I'm pretty sure. Okay. If you had to change my legal name, what would you call me? Baby girl. Oh, I love that. You're gonna hate my answer. Oh, boy. Oh, dear. Oh, dear. It'll be GrumpyPolarBear. Well, I don't know. I hate that. I own it.

Grumpy, polar Bear, and ground sound. I grouse with the best of them. That's the other one. Grouse. Grousey McGrowserson. Yes. Yes. Okay. If you could ban one thing from my wardrobe forever, what would it be? Try to say it without hurting my feelings. Okay. I think maybe your hoodies. Aw. They're my emotional support hoodies. I know. They're the easiest way to hide when the

weather gets cool. I know. Actually, only one or two fit the way I like now, so it would not be difficult to get rid of some of my hoodies. Okay. I'm thinking I'm thinking in your wardrobe. Mhmm. You are actually it's pretty impressive. You're pretty fastidious based on my experience living with cis men over my life. Like, you you don't dress crazy for the most part. You care about things coordinated. You didn't know me when I was

in my Hawaiian town. Oh, no. I did because that's where where I was gonna go. You don't have them anymore because you phased them out. But when we first met, you were still in your Hawaiian church. Where that at? Yes. Yes. Because I recall a couple of trips to, like, Bells and a couple other places. And you're like, oh, this would look nice. And I was like, oh, can I steer

him? So and so I'm glad I don't have to because you did it for me, but it would a 100% have been those Hawaiian shirt, the flowery, the the typical, like, Florida old guy button down short sleeve shirts. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I yeah. I'm mhmm. Mhmm. I'm glad you took care of that for me. I really appreciate that. Okay. Would you rather lose kissing for a year or cuddling forever? Kissing for a year. Thank you. Me too. Mhmm. Mhmm. I'm I'm not actually a real big kisser in general. Didn't take me

No. No. I'm gonna I can't have the Zoomies if I can't cuddle with you. That's right. And if I'm sad, what am I gonna do? I gotta cuddle with you. Mhmm. And if I'm cold, I gotta cuddle with you. Yeah. I'm not a big kisser in general. Like, that's not a thing I gravitate towards. But yeah. I don't I don't wanna cuddle with every fucking body. But if I wanna cuddle with you yeah. Okay. These are which of us? Me or you kind of answer. So we'll kinda answer them together.

Who's more likely to plan a whole date in their head but say nothing? Go. I was kinda going, yeah. I'd probably no. I would say something. You would. Yeah. I'd be like, hey. I've had this idea. You couldn't keep it in there. I would say it as if it was spontaneous, but I had definitely mapped it all out. Me, I'd probably plan it and go on the date in my head. Well, no. Here's what you would do. You would plan it, and then you would wanna you'd wanna go, but you hadn't given me any,

heads up. And it'd be at a time where I'm like, I kinda don't really wanna go anywhere. I'm not feeling sociable right now. So then you'd be annoyed that I was not keeping up with your mental plan. But you wouldn't tell me while you're mad. You'd just be grumpy, and then I'd be like, I don't know what his problem is. Yes. You're right. With you, I cannot keep something in my head. Mm-mm. Okay. Who's more likely to panic clean before someone comes over? You.

Oh, it's certain people, but yes. Yeah. Yeah. You help me panic clean though. I do. And you you don't I wouldn't call it panic clean because you will a few days before somebody's coming, you're already starting, and I'm like, we got eight hours. Everybody, go go. I I no. I start ahead of time. I want that shit done. Yeah. I need, I need the pressure of deadlines to get shit done, especially if it's stuff I don't wanna do. So I'm gonna panic clean. Oh, I know the answer to this one.

Who's more likely to talk to a stranger like their best friends? Yeah. That's you. It is. Now for the record, we both have an including the youngest, she has this kind of phase too where total strangers will just look at us and tell us their whole life story. Unprompted. We did not invite them in. And that is disturbing. And when the three of us are together out in public, it's like the the power of that is amplified. It's just disturbing. But you will take the simple polite, hey.

How you doing? And next thing I know, I have not seen you for thirty minutes. Couple times I've had to come out of our house because he's talking to somebody, usually a neighbor and often somebody we like, but still not people we socialize with. And I have to go, hey. You're supposed to be doing a thing. There was a I think it was a livestream once. Mhmm. He was talking to our neighbor, a neighbor we like, the neighbor who works at the animal shelter, and that's great. We

love her. But we were supposed to, like, go live, and I'm like, hey. Right. Hate to interrupt your bestie's conversation over there. Yeah. He's the social one. Everybody knew that, though. Right? Okay. Oh, I know the answer to this one. Who's more likely to make a playlist just for a singular mood? Probably me. Only because you make playlists. Okay? Well, that's not true. I have okay. Look. We just switched from Spotify to Tidal. Yeah. And we use the thing to transfer our playlist.

And JB's telling the whole family, okay. If you have over a certain amount of songs, we're gonna have to pay for it, but you pay for it then cancel the account. It's fine. It's fine. I had 87 songs. I'm not oh my god. My transfer took thirty seconds. But I I do have two playlists, and they are mood dependent. I just don't add music to them. No. I have three moody playlists. One makes me forget I'm in my mid forties. Two Mhmm. Thick thighs save lives. It's all

my confidence music. K. And then one is surviving 47. Well, yeah. Bops to survive 47. But I send you more music for your version of that playlist You do. So that you've got, like, lots of songs. Yeah. So, actually, I think we're both kind of prone to it just in different ways. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Who's more likely to forget what they were mad about mid argument? It's not you. Yeah. They're not me. It ain't me. It ain't me. It's never gonna be me. Mhmm. Here's the

thing, though. Mhmm. Once we've had the argument and it's settled, I don't remember it again. Like It it's really done and over? Yeah. Like, now that was not true in previous relationships, but also we never actually resolved conflict. We just did a whole recording thing that is about conflict, but it's super secret. I can't tell you about it just yet, but I will. Don't worry. Coming in March. So that was been top of mind lately, and I was thinking about it earlier today

before we sat down to record. And I was like, I know we have conflict. That's not an issue. And I even know our main themes of conflict. Right? Like, it's gonna it used to be about parenting. Mhmm. It will still forever be about money,

but, thankfully, that's less of a thing. But I was thinking because I was thinking of examples that I might cite in the thing, blah blah blah, which doesn't matter because I'm a have to cut it out because I'm under a strict time thing, and I don't know how to record in strict time things. But, I was thinking of a time where you said your inside thought out loud, and

it hurt my feelings. Mhmm. And we had to have a whole thing because I was like, you could think whatever the hell you want, but I don't need to hear it. I could not tell you what that thing is. No clue what the fuck you said. I don't remember either. Because I remember the I remember the moment. Yes. So I because we resolve our conflicts in a knock on wood Mhmm. Relatively decent way Right. Most of the time, I don't remember the details.

But when I was in previous relationships, oh, I'd remember every detail, and you would be hearing about it six months, a year, three years later when it came up again, which is not healthy, by the way. That means that conflict was not resolved.

But yeah. I won't forget midnight. Oh, no. I have to think about my feelings, think about what your feelings might be, dissect my feelings and how I wanna handle it, and what do I think is right and what do I think is wrong, and did I add to this, or am I, like, actually not at fault this time? And I'm I'm dissecting in the middle of the moment and then immediately after. Cannot forget it. Once it's done, no fucking clue. Done. I know the answer to this one.

Who's more likely to fall asleep during a movie that they chose? Hey. I'm a power napper from way back. Oh my god. The amount of times I nudge because I sit on the opposite end of the couch for him, if Lola lets me because she likes to sit there too. And I'll nudge him with my foot. Like, hey. You wanted to watch this? You're gonna make me tell you what happened if you don't wake up. And I'm like, why are you counting on me to remember those details? What the hell? I can't handle that pressure.

Okay. We got only just a few more. Okay. Easy breezy episode, I think. If I got lost in a movie theater, where would you check for me first? Snack bar. You are so damn fucking right. Popcorn. Oh, hell. Yeah. Extra butter thing. Oh, no. I haven't had that in so long. I know how you are with movie popcorn. Oh, and if they are at a Coke place, not a Pepsi place, so I can get a Diet Coke. I would movies of some way. I haven't been to a movie theater in ages. So I'm gonna find you.

I'm gonna check the bathroom first. Yeah. Because if we were sitting and watching the previews and you had your little drinky drink, you probably would have to go. But if I'm wrong or if I know that's not where you are, I'm just sure of it, I'm probably gonna be at the snack bar checking for you too because the only person who can eat movie popcorn faster and crazier than I can is you. Yeah. The it's the only time And then there's

the Junior Mints. It the movies and god, we have not gone to the movies in literally years at this point. But the movies is, like, the only time I think, with regards to food, that I've ever seen you literally stuff your face. Oh, yeah. In every other situation, even if it's similar food, we have popcorn at home. Mhmm. Never have the same response. Yeah. But some of that that movie theater. But you and I are both really bad at this. We can finish off all of our snacks before the previews

are over. Yeah. Yeah. Fucking hate that shit. Yeah. Okay. True. If you had to describe my vibe using an animal, my vibe using an animal, what is it? Monkey. You're like, I say black cat? Monkey. Because you're jumping from thing to thing all over. I was hoping I was projecting black cat energy, but fine. I'll take it. And for I'm gonna take the low hanging fruit here. Polar bear.

Okay. We say grumpy, but also Mhmm. Like, polar bears I don't know anything about polar bears, but from, like, little I pretend to know, they are snappish. They are fierce. They're gonna fight before they're like, that's you come out hot and swinging sometimes, and I'm like, look. I'm just trying to decide dinner. Okay? Or make a grocery list. But, we had so much conflict on grocery lists for a few weeks in a row that for, like, a month straight, I just made them and told him what was on it.

That's not how we vibe around here. Usually, we collaborate on the things that neither of us wants to deal with. If we both share the load, it feels less, but he was so cranky about it that I just went, I'll just do it. And I knew he it was one of those times I knew you would not care what I selected because all it meant is you didn't have to make a choice on it. True. And then the week I finally was done with that and I wasn't, toting that burden by myself anymore.

There was one time I handed, the piece of paper we're old fashioned. My list is pen and paper. I handed him the paper and the pen and told him and the youngest, y'all figure out what we're eating for dinner. I don't give a fuck. Yeah. And y'all got it done really quick. We did. We did. And now What's that got to do with being a polar bear? I don't know. Yeah. Can I close that out? Yeah. You can close it. Strange things are popping up on our screen

now. Yeah. No. There are part there are times I wanna say you have golden retriever energy, but you really don't. You're too fucking grumpy for that. When you're in the mood, you are so playful and you are so fun and you're so open and you're, like, you'll talk to me and you'll explore, and you're curious. And it's really cool because that's nothing like me, and so we need one another. But when you are not those things, you are a grumpy bastard. Yeah. Yeah. I I I can't I can't deny

it. You had a couple weeks ago a procedure where you had to fast prior to the procedure. Oh, Jesus fucking But instead of it being like a 6AM procedure, like, we prefer, it was 10:30 in the morning. The only one that can give me. And so it was a whole morning of you had to get through, no coffee, no food. No food he can handle mostly. I mean, he'll be hungry, but no coffee, that means no caffeine. I had

to warn the youngest. I was like, I would just and I had to be careful because I was afraid she took me too literally, but I was like, do not make eye contact. Don't initiate conversation. If he talks to you, cool. That means he's in a good mood and is is he'll be fine. But so then while we were traveling this past weekend, I didn't think about it because I'm I'm in my own head with all the travel stuff and blah blah blah, what we're what we're there to do.

The hotel had coffee and breakfast. Like, I picked that hotel because that was all included. Cool. I could not understand why JB was so fun fucking grumpy and grouchy while we're trying to get ready and we're gonna go down to breakfast. And finally, he goes, I haven't had coffee yet. I'm like, oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. We're gonna get our asses downstairs. Once he'd had, like, the first sip of coffee, did the two of us tease the absolute shit out of him? Yeah. Read him for

filth. Yes. A 100%. Yeah. We did wait till he had that verse. Okay. Oh, god. If you had to warn someone before they meet me Mhmm. What are you gonna warn them about? Beware if she finds out you're you're her peoples, you'll know everything. You'll have to live with zoomies. There's so few people on the planet who are are my vibe. It's not it's more like beware. If she does not vibe with you, you are dead to her. She does not know you. Lola in the background giving her opinion.

Did you catch what I said? No. It's more like beware if she doesn't vibe with you, you're dead to her. Yeah. That too. I just I don't wanna be there, and I'm not gonna protect, which is awkward. You're stuck in a room with me, and I don't vibe with you. If I had to warn somebody, I'm gonna sound like a broken record. Don't talk to him before he's like, caffeine. He will not fake it, Will. Not you don't even fake it with other people. You you're not rude. You didn't get short with

other people. Yeah. But people don't know that. And, like, it's it's sort of society I even have a shirt that says no questions before coffee. People don't listen to shirts. If they did, they would not wonder why I'm so fucking anxious all the time. No. I mean, you are short with people when you haven't quite you know, you're not awake yet or haven't had coffee or whatever. But in a way that society goes, oh, that's that's just masculinity

being short like that. Whereas if I do it, then I'm like a raging bitch. But you also are a polite adult who's like, oh, no. I'll show my family and my loved ones. It's the worst of it, and I'll hold it together in public because I feel safe. As you should. As you should. For sure. For sure. Okay. Okay. If I walk back into a room smiling, I'll even add laughing, chuckling, and I go, don't ask. What is your assumption of what has happened in that room? You just finished a really good book.

A really good book. A really good book. The kind where yes. I do have my vibrator out. That tracks. That tracks. Okay. So if it's you Mhmm. It's either something devious or lecherous or both. You've probably used one of your toys and are are feeling real fucking good slash you've probably lit up a little bit and are feeling no pain. Or it's both.

Or it's both. Either way, you know, I do I do think that says something that both of us are gonna be like we both assume the, the other is having a similar experience. We're feeling real fucking good, but it's not for polite company to talk. Did these add any insight for either of us? No. We know that I think he is a grumpy fucking polar bear. And he's like, she's kind of a bitch, y'all. She'll be nice to you if she's kind of a bitch, y'all. But it was really nice to giggle.

Yeah. And that's that's that's the thing. Sometimes we do these question things and I learn something. I'm like, oh, I didn't you know? Mhmm. But this time I was like, oh, yeah. Oh, yes. Shared experiences. Like, if I'm doing a, let's pretend I'm trying to educate somebody thing, like, what's the fucking point? One, I didn't have to use a lot of brainpower, so that's that's a good one. But, two, it's the the memories. It's the shared experiences.

Mhmm. It's the knowing each other on very silly levels. You can clearly tell for me that I do think his, top personality trait is grumpiness because it fucking is. Okay? His second personality trait is music. Okay? Just saying. I did while we were traveling. Speaking of of seeing your third personality trait, which is, like, all your collections and how you focus on things you really care about. I had him explain the phishing database

that he created years and years ago. And we have talked about this in, like, a it's either a bonus section or as a Friday night livestream, at least a couple times. And I was like, look. You, child of mine, you're diagnosed. You're a better expert than I am. And I said said to Jibby, go. Tell her. Tell her tell her about the date database. And she starts and she's like, I don't know if you're diagnosable, but I know what you are. And I was like, same girl. Same.

Because he was like, yes. I did the come on. Do it for folks what the database was. Just bullet points. Okay. It, I charted tide flows. I charted moon phase, longitude, latitude, lures used, fish caught, yada yada. Nope. No. Yada yada. Don't don't nope. That makes it sound like, oh, it's just this this little database. Nope. Keep going. I also wrote in reports. So I can see what spot produced the most fish, what lure caught what fish. Yeah. At the tide and the moon and

the Yeah. All cross reference. Yeah. So that's his third personality trait. I don't know what to call it. Like, I don't wanna be I don't wanna, like, minimize, like, actual diagnosis. I don't know what to call that, but that's his third personality trait. Because anything he does with intention and gets seriously interested in, that's the level you're gonna get. It's your albums. Mhmm. Yeah. Your games to some small extent.

Even the things that you're claiming to do to relax yourself, I'm like, that's a lot of work for relaxation, but okay. Mhmm. Yeah. So whatever that is, that is yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's the other. Okay. Alright. So I do feel a little bit better. Mhmm. I feel a lot better. I have been feeling better day as each day has gone. Yes. I mentioned in the February behind the scenes podcast episode that we do through Patreon, because we actually got that out early this this

month. I was very proud of us, that my mental health it's like the bad part of my mental health has been, like, right on the surface. And so it was it was really hard to laugh, and it was really hard to, like, be optimistic. And, like, I was like, ugh. But I also think we experienced a bit of drop after after our travels. Oh, I don't yeah. Something. So something. Some something like drop, I would say. So but I am feeling better, and I am feeling reconnected

Yeah. In different ways. There's still more reconnecting to go. Mhmm. But, like, we have plans for, a Saturday breakfast date Mhmm. And to go to a couple stores that we want. And I said, and, yes, if you want to buy another album, you we could do that. That's possible. And his whole little face lit up. So I bypassed personality trait one and skipped straight to two and three. So Yeah. For anybody interested, feel free to use the questions. Or for YouTube folks, give me a

second. I gotta put the link, in below. But, podcast listeners and everybody else, you can go to their Instagram profile Mhmm. Or get the app if you are so inclined. I don't need that. I got plenty of apps on my phone. I don't need that kind of app, so I'll just use their free content. So, yeah, that's it, and we can do a bonus section. Cool. So are we good? I don't know. Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you next week. Tottie. Yes. Baby girl. Can we talk to

the crickets? Sure. Okay. What do you wanna talk about? I don't know. You said we wanna talk about our trip. Go talk talk about our trip. No. It's me. We look. I knew when we planned this, it was gonna suck. I think I underestimated the suckage, traveling, flying multiple states away and flying home, and driving two hours just to get to the airport, which that had to be done because our closest airport, the tickets were, like, double the cost, so that was not feasible.

That was thirty six hours of traveling. That shit was rough. That shit was rough. The flights were fine. The Mhmm. Virginia was great. We found this great coffee shop. We, you know, went there with our purpose and got shit done, and it worked out well. Well, I fell in love with that coffee shop. The the the whole that part was great. Mhmm. I am not built for the amount of long lines I had to stand in. Yeah. I'm not built for it. I'm not

built for it. But I was in mom mode because we had the youngest of us, and so I'm trying to keep her relatively calm and help her manage her anxiety, doing brand new things. So I knew that was, like, ratcheted up for her. So I'm maintaining this facade of calm, and in the inside, I'm screaming, let me out. So Orlando Airport, I have I I thought I had never flown out of there before, but I then recalled I had flown out of there years

ago, like one time. But I had hit it on, like, the perfect day, the perfect time, and so there was no major wait. This one was forty five minute wait. Now how much of it was it's just Orlando and all the tourists were going home, and how much of it is the partial DHS, shutdown so it affected TSA? I don't know. But I do know if you are a Florida airport where people can, on a on a good day, stand in a line for forty five minutes, you need

to have some ceiling fans. You need to have some moving air. It was so hot. I was like Yeah. The line moved pretty, like, pretty steady. That was fine. Everybody kinda kept their cool. That was great. The people who worked at the airport were super helpful when people needed help. They, like, did priority stuff for, like, people in wheelchairs and the elderly and stuff like that. Fine. Fine. Fine. But this is Florida.

We know about heat and humidity and the importance of airflow, how they didn't have something so we were not just damp. The humidity of our everybody's shared breath. I don't know. It was so fucking hot. What the hell? Then I experienced the hell that is a CVS pharmacy for ninety minutes that did not have their AC on either. And I understood why that AC was not on. It we're in Virginia. The day before it had been super cold. A couple days

later, it was gonna be super cold. I'm sure that was not on their system to have their AC on. That was the point in the trip where I was like, if somebody does not get me the fuck out of here, I will be on the news tonight as that crazy lady, Florida woman goes crazy in Virginia pharmacy. I was like, I'm gonna lose my fucking money. Oh, dear. And the whole time I'm I'm keeping on the persona of it's fine. Everything's fine. I'm gonna talk, you know, I'm not taking

it out on the employees. I'm watching them work their ass off. So I'm like, I'm not the type to do it anyway, but also there's no need to. I'm working hard to keep the 16 year old calm and relatively anxiety free. Like, I can't I can't stop them having anxiety, but I don't have to add to it either. Like, when we finally get to the airport after the ninety minutes of hell in a CVS, they changed our gate no less than 10 times. Yeah. That's right. For the first nine, it

went back and forth. That out. I didn't because I had the JetBlue app, and I had the email notification, and I had the text notification. So I, at any given moment, was like, which notification am I on? Which gate is it? And the first, like, nine notifications, they switch between the gate it was supposed to be and another one, back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And then finally, they put us at a random gate.

But the person who was trying to announce it on the speaker couldn't be heard well. But then even when we figured it out, she was trying to announce stuff on the speaker at the gate we finally did end up leaving from, which was not a JetBlue gate. It was a spirit gate because it was the only available gate on that side or whatever. There were people who were sitting at our gate who were not leaving

from our gate. They had just made camp there, and they were the reason I could not hear the nice lady who was making announcements for a flight whose gate had already changed 10 times. So anything they wanted to say about our flight, we were all we were all all ears. What is happening next? And there, was like a sports gate that wasn't being used, and they were like, there's a shit ton of us. We should be able to sit here. No problem.

Except that we, the people who were going to leave from this gate, did not have places to sit, and we could not hear the announcer person. They were loud. They were so loud. They were so loud. They were so loud. They were they were so loud, and they were oblivious to everybody around them. It was at the airport going home before we finally got snappy with one another as a group, the three of us. We

held up so well. We had so much fun that we did we we kind of went on, like, walkabout through Downtown Richmond. Yeah. Experienced as Florida people, actual hills. That wasn't fun. We made it. It's a story that we laugh about. We were having a good time of laughing. The youngest was, like, really, like, light and open and, like, giggles all the way around. It was it was great. It was the flight home where we finally all cracked. So the getting on the plane, the flight

from Virginia to Orlando, cool. Cool. Cool. Cool. Cool. Cool. Great. Not a problem. My I had stomach pains the whole time, but, like, I'm like, well, I'm a person who has stomach issues, so this is another day. Get home get to Orlando Airport, and I had we had booked we did not drive our decrepit, how many years, 13 year old, 14 year old car to and from Orlando. We didn't wanna pay for parking. So we just rented a car one way, but it was not terribly expensive, and it was a car we felt pretty

sure could make it to and from. Right? So what that meant was I had to reserve a car. We do budget Mhmm. To for pickup from the Orlando Airport To get us home. Right. From our flight. And I was like, okay. I'll give it, like we didn't have we didn't check baggage, so I was like, I'll give it thirty minutes after our flight arrives. That should be when we should probably pick up. I was not we were not, like, precious about that. We know shit happens.

We got to the line at 11:15, 11:30 at night for budget. We were not in our vehicle to leave until 12:30 Yeah. In the morning. And it was not a vehicle we expected to get because it didn't matter what I paid for. I it was a get what you get and don't pitch a fit kinda situation. And it was an upgrade from what we had paid for. Yeah. But it was a truck. And it was not a gigantic truck, but it was not a small truck. This was

not a Ford fucking Ranger. Okay? He he Called it midsize, but He he asked if we wanted a full size or mid range, and I said mid. Right. And even then, getting out of the rental parking lot of the airport was, for all of us, terrifying. Our, map I use we usually use Google Maps to map to GPS us places. Did not want to give us directions to the road we needed to be on. I I don't know why. This is a problem I even experienced when I

Orlando Mhmm. Once a month to, you know, go to Rockler and various places. GPS got me there Mhmm. Perfectly fine. Now, when it comes for the trip home, for whatever reason, doesn't matter which app you use, it wants you to go all the way to the South Side Of Orlando to get back on the Turnpike to go to North. North. And so we were finally at the end of our rope. The adults were having small meltdowns over this entire situation. Finally get I open up my Apple map thing.

It it gave us directions to the road we wanted to be on, but not before the youngest in the back had a panic attack because the grown ups in the front were freaking the fuck out because limits were hit by Yeah. By midnight, Because thirty six hours back and forth travel, we're not built for that. Yeah. No. We're not built for that. We're not doing that again. And I knew it was gonna be a late night. I tried to sleep on the flight

back, and all I couldn't. I I dozed here and there, but, you know, I never really I was kind of hoping you would, like, conk out, and, yeah, you never No. Did. I never do, but I didn't feel good. So that If I could have put the seat back, I probably Yeah. So it was a good trip. We did what we needed to do. Yep. Saturday morning, you know, on, like, what, five hours of sleep, I think. We got up, barely made sure that we were not grotesque, returned the rental, picked up our dog.

Lola had a grand old time. She was very nervous when we dropped her off for boarding, and I was like she's gonna not really want to leave by the time we get back. She's gonna love everybody here because that's how she is. If you are not a shit to her, she's your best friend. When they brought her out, when we came to pick her up, she ran to JB, like, oh my god. I thought I'd been abandoned and forsaken.

She came to me, but then she turned around and ran back to the person who had her on the lead to bring her out, like, hello. You can still love me too. I like you, so can I have some belly rubs? And it took a minute to get her to calm down from wanting that person's attention to put her harness on her and get her out the damn door. So I'm glad that went well. Yeah. That all went real well. I mean, really, you know, every it did go well the whole trip. The whole trip.

We were just by the end of it, we were so exhausted. By the end of it, the the exhaustion had kicked in. It was you know, we did a lot, you know, go going up there, doing what we had to do, the turnaround and everything. Yeah. It was it was exhausting. Mhmm. The, bed in the hotel wasn't that comfortable. I thought I'd gotten us a hotel room with two beds. The way they made they wrote it up, that's what it sounded like. No. It was a king-size bed, which I love.

Never get that at home. But the second bed was a pullout from the couch. Sleeper sofa. Sleeper sofa. So the youngest has younger bones. Okay? And her back's not fucked up yet. So she got the two inch mattress on the couch. And we I desperately want a king-size bed. That is, like, my next goal when we finally do anything new with our bed, which I don't know when that'll be. So I really want a king-size bed, but I clearly do not want whatever that mattress was and and whatever those filters are.

Well, you know, I I like a firmer Yeah. Mattress. It the firmer mattress is is nice to my back. Yeah. For sure. And that was that was a soft mattress. Yeah. Yeah. At least that was my Yeah. I couldn't I was like, I don't know why this is not as comfortable as it should be. I think I would have been fine with the mattress, but the pillows were the soft squishy. And I don't like a soft squishy pillow. My neck really doesn't like a soft squishy pillow. Yeah. Did my child inform me the moment my

eyeballs cracked open, mom, you snore. I'm like, oh, I'm sorry. It's not usually a problem because I'm married to a snore, and I'm asleep for all of it. So it doesn't fucking matter. Yeah. She was not asleep for for hardly any of it. Poor baby. So we survived. We got home. My mom fed the cats for us because she was still in town. She just went home on Tuesday. My the family member that we were very worried about has been released from the hospital.

They're dealing with other stuff, but they're mostly fine. Yeah. So that's good. So but my mom was still in town. I was like, hey. Can you come feed the cats for us? She was like, yeah. Sure. I'll do that. Now did they have the a jacked up feeding schedule? Yes. Did they let us know that they didn't appreciate that? Yes, ma'am. They did. But you know what? They got fucking fed and got to see a human twice a damn day. Right. They're fine. They're fine. And they had the whole place The

whole place. The whole place. That was out. I I kinda wish we had cameras sort of in our house a little bit because I love to see how they were when nobody else could see them. Because I'm pretty sure when everybody goes to bed and even when Lola's asleep, those two snuggle with one another, but they won't show any of us that they snuggle with one another. That is my personal, conspiracy theory is the cats actually cats. Yeah. Like each other, but they refuse to let

us see it. Yeah. Mhmm. Mhmm. That's that's where I'm at. But I am glad to be home. Yeah. It took a few days to, like, get back into It did. It was weird for such a short trip. Well, I think our our rhythm was so jacked. I'm not built for that kind of back and forth. Other people do it. I know y'all do it. I'm not built that way. I'm not built that way. I used to. I I can't I don't bounce back as quick as I used to. So, yeah, it took me it took me a couple days. Mhmm. Mhmm. But yeah.

So I think we're as back to air quote this normal as we can get. Convenient. Yeah. As as we get. As we're ever gonna get. Alright. Lord. Yeah. I've that that's us. Mhmm. But something about the exhaustion from the trip, and I had a lot of anxiety leading up to leaving because I it's been been pre COVID since I've even we've traveled anywhere, certainly by plane. I think that caught up as well, and it did. We were disconnected. Not because there was strife between the two

of us. It's just too much outside influence. Interference. Mhmm. So, yeah, I think we're Yeah. We're we're back on track. Mhmm. Mhmm. I'm not ready to cry at the drop of a hat. So, hey. That's good. Oh, speaking speaking of crying at the drop of a hat. Why is that the thing that was the connection? The oldest had a very important recital, kind that he is required to do his junior year in order to be allowed to graduate with a music degree. We were late for it,

and that was hellacious for me. I did not handle that well. And I've also got a very clear reminder that that child is definitely gaining more and more independence from us because, apparently, he'd had the flu the week before, and none of us had a clue. We knew didn't know. Yeah. Didn't know a thing. His girlfriend was like, oh, yeah. He was very stressed about this. I said, I bet the hell he was. Right. Have a problem like,

he's coughing. You kinda need your lungs when you play most musical instruments. So yeah. But he did amazing. He did amazing. He did amazing. It's optional to do it his senior year, and he's already decided he's doing another one his senior year. It's like, okay. So yeah. Proud proud parenting moments across both kids for the weekend. Because the youngest, she she really handled herself in anxious situations very well. Very well. Yeah. Very well. Mhmm. Yep. So yeah.

So that's us. Mhmm. I'd love to tell you we'll be back to normal next week, but there's nothing normal about us. So I don't know what we'll be back to, but something more regular, something more typical. That's that's the plan. So I guess we can go. I don't for YouTube live chat folks. I YouTube live stream folks. I don't know what the hell is going on with YouTube. I'm guessing live chat was not cooperating. And I that sucks, and I'm, you know.

Yeah. Sorry about that. Not that we did anything, but, like, sorry it was during our stream that we tracked. YouTube's been acting kinda funky lately. What was it? Monday or Sunday night tried to get into something on YouTube, and it didn't even recognize who I was. Yeah. Yeah. No. I think it was late last week. Either way, there was a time we literally could not sign in. Mhmm. But it was like, everybody was having that problem. Right. So at least it wasn't just us.

Anyway, we're gonna go. Yep. Thanks for being here. Especially until the bitter end. We appreciate you. We do. We'll be back next week. Okay. Bye.