You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast, episode four forty nine. Kilolord's here with the one, the only, the I can't think of anything snarky to say, and I don't know how I feel about that, John Brownstone. Wow. I don't know if it's because of the great dickening as mentioned last week or if it's actually because of what we've been doing that is the topic of this week's episode. I don't know. But every time I look at you, I'm just like, I'm supposed to find something sort
of cheeky to say. I'm like, I just wanna say I love him so much, which is not a bad thing. I'm not complaining. Yet. But it does make the the sass a little harder to do. Yeah. And I don't I don't think I do well with sweet. I don't know if it's Oh. Yeah. I prefer the sass. Anyway, so that is and isn't what we're talking about. This week, we're talking about our experience over the past several weeks of using the Obedience app. Welcome to the Loving BDSM
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Okay. So before we get into the episode, I would like to announce, one, that I remembered this, and it's been on my mind long enough for me to have remembered it. But next week, we celebrate our tenth podcast anniversary. Mhmm. 08/15/2005 is when we began. Mhmm. 08/15/2005. Jesus. 2015. You just let me go too. You're like, yeah. 02/2005. Yep. Yep. Twenty fucking years. '10. 2015. Oh my god. Professionals would redo that. We've never claimed to be professionals. Yeah. 2015. Yeah. 08/15/2015.
August 15. Next week is next is a Friday. It's also our, Friday night livestream. So, hopefully, that livestream will be a part day. Mhmm. So, yeah, we are gonna have a giveaway. I'm finalizing that, like, literally in the next two days. We're gonna celebrate next week, and we have not nailed down the topic for next week, but I'm thinking it's a poll questions, from audience like we do sometimes on Instagram or whatever. So we shall see. So, yeah, that's coming next week. We're very
excited. Yay. Okay. So the topic Mhmm. Is on our use for the of the Obedience app. We will talk about what it is if you were not familiar with it, but, we have used the free version this whole time. We've been using it, what, like, two months? That seems about right? About eight weeks? Yeah. Somewhere in there? Yep. I can open my phone and tell you. Mhmm. I'm just not doing that right now. We we have done everything we're gonna talk about using the
free version. There is a paid version. We both agree if we get to a point with our usage of the app that we're like, oh, we want these features or we need them to to do more of what we wanna do, then we are we like it enough. I'll go ahead and give you the spoiler that we would pay for it. But as we're talking about this through this whole episode, everything you're gonna hear from our experience is the free version. So you don't necessarily have to pay for it to do what we have done with it.
So yeah. That's kinda like the disclaimer. If at any point you're like, I am curious about the obedience app. There is a link down below in the places blah blah blah. You can go clicky click and learn more, tapy tap, whatever people do with links anymore. I don't I am old school. You say click the link, but most people are not clicking links anymore. We are tapping. And I just it I don't like to be imprecise. Okay. Tap click.
So Yep. JB's got a whole portion he is gonna have to do because he did this, not me, which was cool. But well before we started using the obedience app Mhmm. We talked about it. Right. Thank God we talked about it because how this came about, it was only because we had previously talked about it. We're like, oh, yes. Part of our, like, twenty twenty five. Let's, like, figure ourselves out again. Maybe we try what we said was maybe we'll try different apps. Mhmm. And obedience was one of them.
There is another app called Embrace, which we are gonna try, but it's not the same thing as Obedience. It's has different functions. And I got an email from somebody who wanted to promote their app, and I was like, hey. Then we can compare apps. Right. By the time I finally got to that link in my inbox, they no longer existed. I couldn't find them anywhere. Oh, dear. So all I'm sure there are others out there.
Feel free to share other apps that are BDSM apps, not what we always have to do, which is prefer a vanilla thing and and make it work for us. But that's yeah. We're we're focused right now on obedience, and I think we're mostly happy. Mhmm. But we talked about it, and then we both kinda kept saying, we should do something. We should do that we're gonna do that
eventually. And that was one of the that was one of the things that we it was one of those things that you know we we're just going back and forth talking about it. Talk talk talk talk talk talk. You know and and we both liked the idea Yes. But it never moved beyond talking. No. We were we were definitely, it was wishful thinking. Yeah. It was we'll do that later and then later never came. Right. Until I decided later is now. And
so I'm gonna get in. I wanna talk about what it is before we talk about what we did with it. But what I'm curious about from you is, what was the impetus for that? Where you finally went, fuck it. We're just doing this. Mhmm. You know, there there were a couple different reasons. You know, one, I have been so busy lately immersed in so many different things. Heart keeping shit straight. Mhmm. Mhmm. And I thought if that this if this could help me,
then let's do it. Mhmm. You know, and that we had you know, the idea that we had talked about it and we both agreed with it, I was just like, you know, time to, pull the trigger on this. Yeah. It was really random. He is on the couch. I'm on the love seat. I'm holding
my phone because, of course, I am. I'm holding my phone, and here comes a a text with a link, like an invite from Southern Sir, and I'm like, and so click the link, download the app, set up the account, put my picture in there, and then see that there are at the time, there was, like, one task. Yes. There was one task in there. Mhmm. There were rewards. There were punishments, which if we needed to, we would because that
is technically part of our power exchange. But, man, it has to be real fucking egregious to get to that damn point at this point in our relationship. Yes. So I was I was like, well, okay. We're doing this. And Mhmm. So first, I had the content creator wannabe educator pat on and went, but, woah. We didn't actually talk about this. And when we did talk about it, but we didn't talk about it right ahead of time. Well, I guess that's good. We're a long term relationship. We could do
this. I wouldn't recommend that for everybody. No. That is how my mind works. So yeah. Before before Dawn's out there, before you go, like, setting up links for folks, make sure you've had the conversation. But JB was able to set everything up without my input because you just took what things we already do or we're trying to do and just made them electronic essentially. Right. Okay. So let's talk about what the Obedience app is, like, what its main function is, and then we'll get
into all that. So and I got this paraphrasing, but straight from there, about page where you can actually, like, read a little bit more. But this is the essential thing. Dom's can set and track tasks for their submissives. Correct. Submissives can earn rewards based on the amount of points they have. Mhmm. They can air quote earn discipline, but it's k. Based on what you do or don't do. So for everything you tap off that, yes, I did the thing, you gain a an amount of points
that is set by the Dom. Mhmm. And I have learned not when you don't do the thing, because today was the first day I didn't do the thing by the time, but I've done the thing every fucking day since we started using this app. But if you do not do it by the time deadline set, you've lost your fucking point. Sucks to be you. Anyway, I'll get into that in a minute. For anybody who is curious, yes. You can have multiple partners, and use this app. The way they say it on the website is the tasks you
see are your tasks. You're not gonna see, like, the whole, like, all the different partners stuff. You're gonna see yourself. Just yours. And you can use it as switches because, again, you see your part as, like, the Dom, what you're looking at for yourself, and then you see the things that are being tracked for you on the sub side. So, yes, you can do that. And, yeah, points can be earned or taken away. Yeah. All. Yeah. Yeah. That's the name of the game.
The the basic version, the free version that we've used, you can you set habits, you set punishments, you set rewards. There is a limit to how many, habits you they call them habits, habit tracking, but it could be task. Call it what you want. I think they really personally, I think they call it habit tracking so that the, the app stores don't ding them too much. Yeah. Yeah. It's like, yeah, it's a habit tracker. And, yes, but also Okay. So in in the free version five
Okay. Because when you pay for it, I think it's unlimited. Unlimited. Yes. Mhmm. And the sis the way we have it set up with the free, when I tap off that, yeah, I did the thing by you know what? Yeah. By the deadline, I get a little, like, pop up thing, and it says, good girl. And it tells me how many points I've gotten for that thing. I'm, like, check kind of checking off that I've done. And and JB has it set. So he gets notifications. Like, as with any app, you
can turn off notifications. I I don't recommend that if you want to remember shit. I'm just saying. So when I, you know, mark the thing as completed, JB gets a notification. Yep. And sometimes I get a surprise extra, good girl via text, which I'm not mad about. I'm not mad about. So do you wanna walk us through what you like, what we've set up or what you've initially set up and how you decided on the points Mhmm. Kinda thing and all that. You know, now let me just kinda
start from here. When when I set this up, we something in the morning, one of the things do is put her collar on. Yeah. We're back we're making that a habit again because we've kinda fallen into it. Gotten out of that habit. Sometimes she would remember. Sometimes I would remember. And prior to that, nobody was remembering. And literally, sometimes the only time I wore a collar in a given week was when we were streaming. Yeah. It was bad. Yep. So we were
developing a new habit. And, you know, that then led me to thinking about all our talk about this. Mhmm. And it's like, okay. What if I can set this up? That way, I remember Mhmm. Gives you imp gives you impetus to remember, and we all move on. Right. And nobody is we can talk about it, like, in a check-in or just a regular conversation. Right. But nobody is carrying around the brainpower that you have to remember to do this thing. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So and and that was absolutely,
you know, the the main reason Mhmm. I jumped on this. And and that's how I set it up. Now when I initially set it up, you know, during day we are up and about, you know, I'm up by 06:00 in the morning because the fur babies don't allow for anything Much later. Much later. Yeah. But, you know, and you're not up you're up. The alarm goes off at 06:30. You're awake, but you're not I'm not up. Yeah. So, you know, the the setting the time at eight in the morning was not a
problem. Right. And it says, you know, caller by 8AM. Mhmm. Essentially is what it says on my task. And it it was very easy to set that up. It asked you to give it a a name, you you put a name, and, you know, then it allows you to pick your days, you know, and times and all that, and very simple to walk through. Mhmm. And easy to refine and edit as we Yeah. Lose later. Right. And, you know, I I set it up. She got the thing and and away we went. Mhmm. And in all honesty, it has been
it it has become a helpful tool. Oh, absolutely. It has become a helpful tool for us. Folks, you can't remember as well as we once could. Yeah. Yeah. I too much, hard drive is full. I need a Mhmm. Swiss cheese brain. Just saying. So here's a a quirk I learned. I was just complaining about this a few minutes ago. So JB said to me verbally, the 8AM, I only care about Monday through Friday. The weekends, it doesn't matter. Okay. Cool. Well, two things. One, I was doing it daily before the 8AM.
Yeah. But I was not always remembering to go in and tap the thing to to indicate I done it prior to 8AM. And what I quickly learned, it took me a minute because I was watching. Every time I tap that I've completed something, if it's something, if it's by the deadline that is set Mhmm. The little circle is is it's a little white circle, and it's it shows that it's done. If you miss your deadline, you get an x.
Not my favorite. Yeah. So there were some days I mean, up until, like, even, I think, last week, it was still happening on occasion where I was not yet in the habit to go in by the time that was set on a weekday. Excuse me. And I had learned after a couple weeks that JB didn't care what time the collar went on on the weekend, but I was not getting the points
that were due to Right. So at that point, I dug into the app again, and I realized I could set a set it for the week, Monday through Friday, and then have the weekend as its own Yep. Little time. Yep. And I the way you have it set up is every day that I I showed that I have gotten the collar on on time, it's eight it's one point. There have been other things that were more points, which is cool. I like that. I like that, you know, some activities, that's just
that's the point. That's just basic. Right? Some things are a little bit extra, and I am a fan. I was mentally preparing this morning, like, while eating my breakfast. I am mentally preparing for today's live streaming episode because we decided this topic two weeks ago. And I was like, yes. I can't wait to tell them how this is working out. But the thing I've had to work through the most for an early morning completion is remembering to go into my app Mhmm.
To complete the task. And I was gonna say prior to this morning that I had remembered every day to put the collar on. I just until today until today until fucking the day we're supposed to talk about it, 08:08 in the morning, I'm like, I walk back into the bedroom, and I see my collar, and I grab it. And I thought you were already so there's a story here. Yeah. I thought JB was already out in the shop, and I was
like, oh my god. I'm good. I mean, I'm literally slack jawed because I was so proud of myself thirty seconds prior. I think I'm gonna have to run out to the shop and be, like, make him stop working so I can get the damn collar on. Thankfully, he's still sitting at his desk, so no problem. But why did I think he was in the shop? At some point at or right before, I didn't look at the time. It was five minutes it was 07:55.
Okay. JB, who is a who is a great communicator, he is super fucking intelligent. He is wonderful on all levels. This man looked at me and said, at apparently five till eight Mhmm. That man, the morning has really gone by fast. I can't believe it's almost 08:00. And I'm not out in the shop. Like, it was all centered around him being in the shop. I gave him the most blank look you could imagine. I'm like, what? What? So at 08:08, when I realized what the fuck happened,
he and I come to him. He goes, well, I thought you would take my you got my hint. Hint. I'm trying to help you. I was like, in what world was that? A hint? A hint is, baby girl, is there something that maybe you've forgotten? Baby girls, there's something you still need to do? Mm-mm. That'd be too easy. 08:00.
Deadline, 08:00. But I was supposed to understand him talking about 08:00 in the shop, which is not about me at all, was supposed to be, bitch, you don't have your collar on yet, and you're about to legitimately lose a point. Go get your collar. Look. If if you out there are like, oh, yeah. If I've gotten that hint, I it totally yeah. I wouldn't know what you're talking about. I am so happy for you, but I am not that bitch. Okay? I'm not we were not we didn't say specifically caller.
We kept the the the example very generic. But we were talking to kids at dinner tonight, and the youngest goes, you know, wouldn't it be nice if people just, like, said what the hell they meant so you didn't have to guess? And I went, thank you, my child. I've raised that one right. Anyway And yet, the oldest Oh, was on your side completely? Mhmm. I don't know where I went wrong with
that boy, but okay. Yeah. Anyway, so the time my whole point to that whole rant is if you set a time for a task to be completed, they meant that shit. I have not certainly not on my side as dismissive. There's no mechanism for me to go, no. But really, I did the thing at 07:30. I just forgot to come into the app until 08:01, and they're not playing y'all. I came into the app at 08:09, and my opportunity to show show that that was done was already gone. There's Mhmm. Like, no leeway that I found.
Now what I'm curious about on your end, could you go back and give me those points? I you know, I don't know. I honestly don't know. Okay. No. I don't need any. No. Don't need that. But what yeah. What we ended up doing for the weekend is that's when we've we talked about it. Because here's the thing. We are not using this for me to collect points. I have things I can trade my points in for for a reward. But at this moment in life, not in general, not always, but at this moment in
life, I'm not really as reward driven. I just kinda wanna get the shit done and know it's done, and I want to carry less stuff in my brain that I have to try and remember. So on one hand, I kinda don't care about the points. But on the other hand, I am who I am and I don't like to falsely lose points. Are you kidding me? Because you get, like I'm sure you can set it for different time, but weekly, I get, like, this notification that'll tell me how many points I earned,
how many points I lost. And I'm like, I'm only losing points because I'm not tapping the thing on time. And prior to today, JB was like, I know you're doing it, so I'm not mad at you but I was like, yeah, but I'm kinda pissy about this point thing. It's not accurate. So what did you learn when you went in? I do not see anywhere I can do that. Okay. It does, you know, each day it shows me what you've done. I get a daily summary. And then it also gives a week
weekly and monthly Mhmm. Summary. Mhmm. Alright. Which is which is kinda cool. It tells me what you've earned, what you've lost, you know, goals reached, different things like that. That lost thing is bullshit is all I'm saying. Yeah. Today was the first day I genuinely lost. I mean, we did we did talk about that a little bit. You know, there there is to me, that's a little bit of a imperfection. I mean a few times Right. If you could go in as the DOM and fix it, I think that would be fine.
I think I'd be cool with that. And I might be able I wonder if that is a Maybe a premium feature? Premium feature. Okay. So Because I know one of the other things with the premium feature, you can now also, set it for, photo proof. Yes. That is yeah. For that Mhmm. So we are together so often. There's no way he doesn't know if I haven't done something Correct. You know, after I say that I've
done it in the app. But if something has to be done while y'all are apart, maybe you're already long distance, the photo thing would probably come in very, very handy. As somebody who sent proof of a photo proof of the panties I was wearing every day that we were long distance. Mhmm. The only no. Look. We are we are living in the twenty first century and we know how these things go. I think it is perfectly legit if you're like, I am not putting up nakey photos of myself
on this fucking app. I think that's fair. I think that's fair. I think that's fair. Definitely can you know, think about your own sense of privacy and security. We know that apps, like, get fucked with more often than we would like. So Mhmm. You know, make it as anonymous as you can if you choose to use that. But I could see that being a really, really handy tool when you are long distance or just are not physically together to see that the thing
was done. And it's a visual that you have to be able to see to really know that it was done. I think if you have strong enough trust in one another and, like, legit, you don't need photo break. If JB was out of town for a week at one, we would turn off the collar thing. But if he was out of town for a week, I could still go in and tap the, yes, I folded the laundry to get my two points for that
because that's a weekly task. Mhmm. And, he he wouldn't doubt that because I wouldn't give him a reason to doubt that. Right. So after you set up the daily thing with with my collar, because that was a habit we were actively actively, like, trying to make a thing. And it was very, like, all over the place. Then you set up a random task Yes. That was not, like, it was a one off do thing. One off one time thing. I we had we had become the recipient of pizza dough,
fresh homemade pizza dough. Mhmm. And From an Italian bakery. From Italian bakery. Where nonnas are making the dough. That's all I'm saying. Yeah. Yeah. That was some good shit. Mhmm. And, I really wanted to make pizza from scratch. I had no idea how to achieve that. Mhmm. So I assigned her the task to find me a good pizza recipe. Mhmm. Now he intended to come talk to me about it after he had done it. But sometimes, I'm actually on top of my game.
Yeah. So the Obedience app is literally when I think, other than text messages and voicemail, I don't let notifications come through on my phone for anything. Except the Obedience app because I'll I need a reminder. What I like about that, my collar, I know it has to be on by 8AM. I will certainly remember now that I fucked it up today. But I haven't note I set the time of my notification. It pops up at seven.
So if I happen to be lying in bed still and have not actually, like, started moving yet, I'm like, That's impetus. I need to get my ass out of bed so I get this done in time. Mhmm. Apparently, that was a two birds one stone situation. Jimmy was like, I'm kinda tired of you rolling out of bed later and later. Look, look, this is a 45 year old engine and transmission. Okay? It has to be warmed up. Also cooled off because it overheats very easily. And it takes me a minute to get out
of, like, a mess in the morning. Anyway. But two words, one stone. So that worked. So so I've got notification. The moment he assigned something poof that notification pops up. So at first I looked at it and I had this jittery moment of uh-oh. When is this due? What does this mean? Like I got like, for half a second, I let myself feel overwhelmed that wasn't really warranted. It was just like, oh, I wasn't expecting this.
But I still liked that because it meant the moment he thought of a thing he wanted me to do, he didn't have to try and remember it or try and meet up with me and Exactly. He just put it in. And then I could go in and it was like, when is my deadline? Because I had understood by at that point, you could set deadlines. And JB was who he always is. It was a very generous deadline. Like, I think I got the thing on, like, a Friday or Saturday.
Yeah. And the deadline was, like, for the following Monday at 5PM or something. It was plenty of time. Mhmm. And what was really nice about that was I had, like, a quiet moment probably thirty minutes before that notification aft after that notification came in, and I just went and did it, wrote up a very detailed email with links. Mhmm. And here and then sent it, checked the thing off as done.
JB didn't see his notifications. He comes to me and he goes, so there's a task, like, twenty minutes after I've done this. So there's a task I've assigned to you. And I go, I know. The response is in an email in your inbox. He goes, oh. I was like, look. You're a little sad. Like, it is done. Look. Look. I was firing on all cylinders. Okay? I was on it. It was it was like 35 year old me. Okay? Mhmm. And that I like that because, you know, I had that that initial, like,
uh-oh, how quickly? Then I could just go fucking look and calm myself down. Then because I had that extra time, but it was I had the time I needed more time than I needed. I was able to the pressure was off. And sometimes when JB assigns a task verbally, even if he tells me, you I don't need it right now. You know, let me know tomorrow or whatever. There's a pressure to remember. There's a pressure to get it done. And then there's the very real fear that I'm it's
I'm gonna forget about it. And if I don't remember to write it down, it's gone. It doesn't exist anymore. This has alleviated a lot of that. Then so that's a one off. Now it's still sitting in our list. I'm sure you could remove it if you want to. I'm sure. Yeah. It's not one I'll need to do again. Right. So here's the thing. It talks about being a habit tracker, talks about, you know, assigning tasks is essentially
what it is. But we are definitely talking about some behavior modification slash, like, an assist for when you you just got a Swiss cheese brain and you're not gonna remember shit. Also, I'm a goal oriented girl. You give me a deadline look. I might slide in Under the burrito. Thirty seconds right before Yeah. But a deadline works for me. That kind of air quote pressure, I I used to say I thrive under pressure. And what it meant was I work real, really well when I know I've got
a deadline and no fucking time left. I can get shit done, because I think it's I think it's neurodivergency, but I don't actually know. So a thing that we had something that had been happening more and more, JB washes. Like, he gets the clothes in the washer. He gets them in the dryer. He puts them in the basket. My job is to fold and put away. Yep. And some weeks, again, firing on all cylinders. Yep. And some weeks, it's later and later.
And it there was we were getting to the next Saturday when it was time to wash Yeah. Clothes. Mhmm. And I hadn't put away last Saturday. Yeah. Something need to change. Yeah. So at first, it started off with, okay, have it done by Wednesday. And that was verbal. And I knew. And I I was I was walking around with it in my head understanding that I had to get it done by Wednesday. There was no question about that. Mhmm. But then at some point,
you made it a task. I I you know, I told you that, and then I was like, a little, what am I doing? Right. What am I doing? We have the technology. Right. And and I just put it in the app. Mhmm. And now you're for that. Well and here is the realization that I've come to about myself and I've explained it to JB. And when he does not remember six weeks from now, I'll explain it again. Because I don't expect him to remember, like, every single one of my fucking quirks. That's
too much for a person. No. Nobody. No. I barely remember them all. And it's that some weeks, some days, I'm on top of it. Everything is working as it should. I have energy. I have motivation. I if I'm a rolling stone, if I start, I can gather no fucking moss, y'all. I got this. And so there are some weeks where I've got it done before, like, by the weekend. I'm just like, yeah. I can do this. Mhmm. And then there are some weeks where, I don't know, the dopamine
is low, the hormones are raging. I don't know. I don't know. What do I what do I blame it on? I don't know. And I thank God for the deadline because I will get something done by a deadline. I'm I'm wired that way. That's part of who I am. So JB to encourage the, the part of me that loves a gold star point whatever, and we both understand the importance of positive reinforcement. We have we have talked about it on this podcast Yeah. Before.
If I get it done early, like, early, early, like, it's still the weekend when it should be put away if you're capable of, you know, all your brain cells firing together. I get an extra I get that extra good girl text. Like, I get extra acknowledgment, and I love that. But the first time he like, that happened and he acknowledged it. We then talked about it later. And that's when I had to say, look, I like that I could do this this week. I also like knowing that if next week's a bad week, the
there's no false pressure. It's just Wednesday at 5PM is the deadline. And Mhmm. And please understand, some weeks I need that deadline and some weeks I don't. Right. Past two weeks, I haven't. I've just gotten it done. Just gotten it done. I don't know. So, we have used the basics. So far, we have not needed the extra features. Every every few days, a or not a notification. A thing pops up when you go into the Obedience app. App. It's like, oh, wouldn't you
like to do the premium? And they will, you know, sometimes they're offering, like, 50% off every so often. So we will at some point. I'm sure I'm sure we will at some point if we because what I'm finding is, you know, this is a great tool that does not require either of us to use extra brainpower. Mhmm. Like, there's no walking around constantly, like, on a on a tab that I can't see, but I'm repeating my list to myself over and over again to try to remember
things or that panic of, wait. Was there something I'm forgetting? You know? I like that I can set my notifications for each task to arrive when I need them so that I I get that. I also like that I I think it's because I don't have a lot of notifications set on my phone. This is that doesn't feel overwhelming to me. For anybody who feels maybe a little overwhelmed by the supercomputer that is supposedly a phone, who talks on
those? Whatever. The best thing I ever did for myself was to turn off all unnecessary notifications. All of them. Because it was I I would get so distracted. It was not a dopamine rush. It was I was angry Every time I don't know if the case was going through. But it means that I'm more aware Mhmm. With the obedience app. Yeah. But I like that I'm I'm not worried about forgetting all of the time or going back and going, wait. I know you
wanted me to do that thing. Mhmm. And when did I need to do that thing? Right. So that that has been the the best part of this. I think that's a, you know, an aging thing. Those of us who don't have a fucking memory, neurodivergency, any of that. Business logs. I am curious. Can you go into the app and see how many points you have accumulated? Yes. I also have some more notifications. Did you do something in there? Yeah. I was poke I've been poking around. Yeah. Yeah. And,
okay. So I can I go into my little thing? I go into activity. I go into my reward history. No. Weekly summary, and I can look at weekly and monthly. The month of July, I earned 37 points. I lost five. Yeah. Let's see. Account. Can I see, I'm still learning some of this stuff because I I do this with every app I have? I use it for what the hell I need it for and not a fucking thing other than that. Oh, yes. When I go into my rewards tab, I can see that I have 42 points.
Okay. Now we were talking about earlier if I can add or and on my point here Mhmm. I can add or remove points. You can give me extra points. Yes. I'm good. I don't need that. I can see that. Know a couple weeks ago. Anyway, there is a chat feature. We have not used it because we are side by side all day long. If there's something that needs to be said, we'll say it. Alright. It's fine. Oh, yeah. You were playing. My notifications,
Southern sir has added one reward point. Southern sir has subtracted one reward point. Okay. I mean, a little freebie. Look at me talking about it and, you know, being mostly coherent. That that might that might mean, you know, that might be worth a point or two. I'm just saying. I had some points I was gonna make. No. At those points, I had some things. Did I write them down in my notes? Oh, I hope so. No. I didn't. I left it very generic so we could say whatever we needed to say.
Oh, that's what it was because it's been on my mind the past couple weeks. So I love the way we're using it. It it has allowed us to to do things that we already know we wanna do or have done, within our power exchange and be consistent. Right? Mhmm. There's been the tweaking, like, changing it from a timed thing of having my collar you know, bringing my collar to JB is essentially what I'm doing before 8AM. And that went from every day by 8AM to Monday through Friday. You know, we we
adjust as we need to go on. It it's no different than negotiating face to face per se. It's just tech it's technological, and it's there for you to look at whenever you need to. Correct. But the other thing, I have not brought this up to Jamie because I've not been in the headspace for it. Uh-uh. But when I've had moments of clarity and enough dopamine to function and enough serotonin, I've had these thoughts about how we could incorporate other things, and here's
the example that came up. And then I it's made me spiral. So then I started thinking about it. So let's let's talk about it now. Alright. I'll spiral later. If you are a long time, cricket or you've gone through the archives, you've probably heard us a few times over literal ten years talk about how at different points in our power exchange, we would try to incorporate me trying to be a healthier human being and doing things I need to do and not doing things I don't need to do
into our Power Exchange. And every time it fizzled, it flopped, it was never sustainable. Crashed and burned. Just you know, I I needed the accountability. JB didn't have the it wasn't a thing that was important enough to him. Like, it wasn't he wasn't driving it. And also, if I wasn't driving it with my own, like, ambition to be a good girl, like, it was easy for both of us to go and it fizzled.
And I started thinking about, wait, What if I started including habits that I do want to have and things I do want to do, but I know me for whatever reason? There can be one person on the planet who I let tell me what to do. I actually, I'm open to more than one, but it's it's tough job to get. So I get, like, it's fine. There's no line out my door. I got one. I'm good. His name is JB. Okay. And I've lost you. And so I thought about bringing that to you because Mhmm.
If that was a thing I was serious about pursuing Right. The only, like, effort on your part is in the setup. And then you don't have to think about is she doing the thing thing, is she not? Your notifications will tell you. Right. And I can have that false, like, air quote pressure of, wait. You don't like losing brains. Right. You like having a deadline and this is it's artificial. Like, we're you know, we have free will. We can ignore whatever we want, but it works for me.
Maybe that's an option. And then I got all of it in my head. There was a spiral. The, the feel good hormones and brain chemistry tanked for, like, two weeks. And I haven't gone back to it. But it was it got me thinking about for other people who this app or an app like it y'all, that, you know, sounds like it might be a good tool for you. Those things that you keep saying to one another, you keep having these conversations of, oh, we really wanna
do this. And then it fizzles out because maybe it requires too much mental energy to keep up with. It you know, one or both of you are like your memory is faulty and it's easy to forget stuff and it's really hard to change habits. I the collar is meaningful and important to me. I was pissed that I forgot it today because this I'm Today was the first fucking day. The whole time. That you genuinely forgot it. Right. But the thing I don't care about is doing shit on apps on my phone. Right?
So that's actually been the harder part is is to remember to go into my app at a certain time. But the task, the activity because that part is meaningful to me knowing that it's there that I'm I'm accountable in that way. Mhmm. That's where the drive kind of comes from of, oh, yeah. I will definitely get this done knowing that I've agreed to it. It's what I want. And I'm not relying on my memory. I'm not even I'm I'm I am relying on my own willpower, but also no. I don't know if that would make
sense to anybody else. I have free will. I have willpower. I can do what the fuck I wanna do. Consent, you know, means something. But also, I am a service sub who is desperate to be a good girl. You if you are my trusted person person who's allowed to tell me what to do, everybody else, I have a whole you don't tell me what to do and will purposely not do a thing that somebody I don't want to tell. Like, I I'll fuck myself over. But JB can do it. So it's like, if that, like, that
thing doesn't feel like willpower. It is. It doesn't feel like a thing I control. It is. But it's ingrained in me in some way. And so then I does am I making any goddamn sense? Probably not. Anyway. Yeah. It got me thinking about things that we could add. It got me thinking about the reasons it feels like it works. I'm also old enough, mature enough, something enough to know that a thing can work right now and there can come a point down the line it
doesn't work anymore. Right now, it works really fucking well. Yeah. And I can see where I want to For both of us, actually. Right. Because it's there's a level of pressure that's not there anymore. There's a level of angst and anxiety. It's probably too strong of a a word. Mhmm. I don't know what's lighter than that. But I know how I feel when I'm, one, trying to remember things and I I get overwhelmed and anxious not because there's so much to do, because it's so much to fucking remember.
And how I feel when I can't remember a thing that is important to me because that's not how like first like your feelings of it if it's a thing you've had to live with are your feelings I don't I can't relate. The feeling I have is remembering how I used to mind like a steel trap y'all. You told me something I could fucking remember it. Was my process, like, not good? I was I was making myself anxious by my
process. Sure. But I could remember shit. And now I'm at a point in life I cannot remember shit and it's a it fucks with me. So to have some of that pressure off and some of that angst, I don't think that's the right word, but it's what I got. That
is freeing. That is refreshing. That makes it, you know, there's less bad pressure and less stress over things that I do want to be doing because the stuff that makes it difficult, the remembering, the mental energy, all of that, that's taken away with the way we're using this app. Is that And, I just learned I could remove the, the one time. Okay. That would make sense that you would. Yeah. Now when you go in there and and and you select that particular task, you then tap and you get a drop
down menu. Mhmm. One of the options in there, in addition to deleting the task, is to archive it. Oh, okay. Okay. So you apparently have it. Right. It's just not It's just not visible. That is only available in premium. Okay. Okay. So so at that point with the free, the only option to get rid of that is then to delete it completely. And it seems that if you were to archive Mhmm. A task that you weren't using, you could go in and reactivate it. Oh, okay. If it came
up again. Mhmm. Oh, that's not see, the more you're telling me about the premium because I in the premium, I know it was unlimited habits Right. And it was photos. I I knew that off the top of my head. Literally, every almost every time I go on the app, the the blurb of the ad of do you wanna join premium comes with a list of things, but those are the two things that stuck in my head Mhmm. That you definitely get. Yeah. It wouldn't do it because it already did it once for me. But, yeah.
I like the I like how much we're getting done without paying a dime. Yeah. You know, for basic stuff. For for basic stuff, it is an app that you can pick up and start using in your dynamic. Very sim very easily. And, you know, you are the more savvy one with both technology and online stuff. So I would be surprised if you couldn't open this up, set it up, and start doing. I can get easily confused. And I opened the app and immediately was able to start tapping around and everything made
sense. It's for me, it was simple enough. It didn't like, I wasn't overwhelmed. I was not confused. Now Right. If JB had set 20 tasks and 85 rewards and 13 punishments, that would have been overwhelming. We started with one thing. Just like everything else, we talk about you start slow. Yep. And that's what that's what it did. Started slow with one thing. And Lola is very opinionated today.
And the way we're using it, it's not the stuff that is so ingrained in the routine that there's no question, am I gonna get it done? Making JB's coffee, getting the bed ready, some of those things, those are not in, in the app. We do not use it for that. Those those are things that at this point in our relationship that it is so ingrained. And, yes, there's kind of a time requirement there, but it's like JB wants his coffee before he's gone out to the shop.
Even if I somehow for air quote, forget to make coffee, I can make the coffee in time. It's not something we're trying to track or change habits on or, you know, create a reward system for after all these years. It does not need to go in there. It it's these one offs. It's these things where I am clearly struggling Yep. To remember to create the habit because Lola agrees. I've never been able to easily create a habit. Like, I I'm coming to terms with
that. Like, it used to be a guilt thing and now I'm like, oh, it's the wiring. It's it's the wiring. If the engine and transmission are kinda, like, old and need to warm up, the computer processing part of the car, it it probably needs to be replaced. Like, you need to put me up on the thing and hook me up so the error codes can come up. You know?
And trying to develop habits, if it's not something I'm physically doing every single day without fail and God was probably reminded of every day for, like, two months when I first started. And even now, I I can kind of go, oh, yeah. I was supposed to do that. This takes that away. This is, you know Oh. It does take it away. It makes it easier. God dang it, Lola. Silent. Silent said, Lola Lola knows a thing about obedience. That's where she's speaking out. That girl ain't a good girl.
She is for her daddy. I mean, as am I, but that's we were sitting in this office today. JB is taking a nap. I'm sitting on one end. Lola's on that, and she starts crying like she's been abandoned and would not hear me. Did not care that I was in that room with her. Anyway, that's that's a side tangent that is not about this Yeah. No. Topic. That's what the bonus section is for.
So, yeah. I you know, the people I'm thinking of, if you are drawn to this idea, if it seems like it can be helpful, are, you know, very busy folks who already have plenty of shit to remember and you need to free up some disk space. Any anybody with memory issues for whatever the reason might be. And for Dom's out there who want to help your sub do these things, but you are overwhelmed by trying to keep track of what you're supposed to be doing and when.
You know? If it's an app or if it's, like, a fucking Google Doc, like, whatever method, like, get it the thing I've learned about myself is get it out of my brain and into another, for you know, format that works for me that I'm go I'm willing to access. My phone, it's with me more often than it should be. I mean, I there are times I shouldn't put the fucking thing down. I'd get more work done. But the phone is always fucking there. I'm being I'm being called out online in chat.
Because you try to keep two girls as good girls, and one gets to be told she's a good girl more than the other, I bet you could guess who it is, and it's not me. Anyway, I'm not bitter. She's a dog, and I love her. But I do notice. I do notice. So yeah. Yeah. We we took our sweet ass time getting to the obedience because you know what? There was a time we did not need anything like this. We didn't we didn't think we would need something like that.
It didn't it didn't interest. And and then we had our little Yeah. I think there if we had tried to do it over the past few years prior to this year, I think we would have overwhelmed ourselves with Yeah. Trying to do something that that we were not in a headspace to celebrate. I think it would have felt like yet another obligation, and that's not what you want your power exchange to feel like. You're supposed to want to do this. You
know, you might, like, look. Look. Let's be real, service subs out there. Sometimes I real I look. Look. Left to my own devices, I don't think I'd ever fold another fucking piece of laundry. But for my daddy, I can I can do all the chores? It has given me back some confidence Mhmm.
Because okay. So the laundry thing so not only prior to all of this, prior to using the app, prior to getting the deadline, blah blah blah, not you know, the laundry would take a week sometimes before I would fold it, and that was just, like, under duress because Jimmy was like, I really need the basket now. Thank you. Or my favorite, baby girl, I have run out of underwear. Could you? Like, it's falling apart. For the record, that only happened one time. But folding sheets
is my fucking nemesis. I don't know what it is about sheets. I'll fold towels all day long. That is very easy. I think that's what it is. Towels, easy sheets, bane of my existence. Mhmm. But ever since we started using the app to like, for me to track, you know, yes. I've done the laundry. The sheets get folded most of the time the very same day.
I just do it all. Sometimes it's like the next day because the main the points are for the daily like, the regular laundry sheets don't have their own points. I'm good with that. It's fine. I don't need the pressure. But as I've gained in, like, the confidence of, oh, yeah. I'm doing this. I can do other things that I have struggled with. With. It's not major. It's not mind blowing. But, you know, I I kinda I kinda like that feeling. You know? So, anyway so, yeah, I guess it's safe to say
overall, we are pro obedience app. Mhmm. Yep. Yep. And I have another, task I'm gonna be adding in there shortly for you. Okay. I need you to do some research for me. Okay. Probably the thing I would say to anybody who's considering it, do not add anything first of all, unless you're like your relationship is long term enough, strong enough, enough trust, and you've at least had one conversation about using the fucking app, do not do a fucking thing without talking to one another
first. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. Also, unless you're brand new to a power exchange and you were, like, newly negotiating things, I would start with shit you're already trying to do, but maybe there's a struggle. Right. Maybe it's been difficult for some reason. Mhmm. And, yeah, like JB said earlier, start slow. Like, get used to it. Get, like, into a rhythm of using it. But you still have to negotiate like you always did.
This time though, because it's so easy to, like, add things, add things, do not overwhelm yourself either side of the slash. It's um-mm. Um-mm. Um-mm. Um-mm. Don't just don't do it. Please please please for the love of all that is kinky and fucked up, do not just assign shit you've never talked to your partner. No. No. No. No. Like, we have that ability where JB can just assign a task, like a research or a look this up or whatever, because that's the
nature of our relationship. He doesn't have to come negotiate with me every time he wants to give me a one off task. But if y'all don't have that, no no no no no no. Don't add anything you hadn't talked about. Just saying. I just may have come across a a a hack for your sheep problem. I did see somebody say just roll them up in a ball. Panda rolls them up and puts them in a pillowcase. I so the one that I want to roll up and kind of mostly do is the fitted sheet.
We are old. Apparently, the younger kids don't do this. We do use a top sheet. If you don't, that's one less thing you gotta fall. Lola, goddamn it, girl. It's it's really it's really the the fitted sheet. There's some it's just tedious and it's boring and who gives a fucking And the sheets aren't doing anything to anybody sitting off in the corner over there. So does it even matter? Does it even matter? So, yeah, she's she's fussy. Yep. So, yeah, we are pro
obedience app. Do I think it's for everybody? Of course not. Mhmm. But for anybody who's been, like, looking for a tool, you could try this one. It's free. Yeah. So yeah. Now I'm I'm curious about one thing. You have 42 points Uh-huh. But you haven't cashed anything in for your rewards. Right. Because, I've been getting myself diet. Okay. So my rewards for me, Diet Coke Mhmm. Special coffee, movie, animated movie. Right? Movie of my choice.
I've been getting my own damn Diet Cokes whenever the hell I please. Also we haven't had full access to the car with the oldest having to go to campus every single day. That's about to end, so whatever. Buying special coffees does not feel like a financially responsible decision. Well, not right now. At at the time I set it up, it was It it was a little different. Oh, okay. You know, but right now in this time point in time, time, no. Goddamn the summer slump. But the third
But okay. So I used to be a person who could not function if there the TV was not on in the background. I wouldn't necessarily watch it. I just always had something on, and I was, you know, interested in what might be coming out. I don't know what it is because I, there are movies I enjoy. There are shows I enjoy but sometimes something about, one, something about watching a show or a movie feels like pressure. Like I'm committing to something and I'm not watching a show or
a movie feels like pressure. Like, I'm committing to something and I'm not ready to commit. Two, sometimes it's I don't think I could focus on that if you paid me to. And so and then three, sometimes I I forget that movies exist and that you can sit down on your couch and watch your TV and you can do like, I just it's so not in my fucking head. So, like, you know, which one is it? It changes minute by minute. May the odds
be ever in your favor. Mhmm. But some of it is a little out of sight out of mind. So it's a sign. But, yeah, I could I could I could cash them. Mhmm. I I know. Mhmm. So, yeah, I I like the app. Mhmm. It, it definitely helps. Yeah. Yeah. It's it's been refreshing to use because it feels like we're getting somewhere. We're getting forward movement on things we wanna get forward movement on. Exactly. Makes sense. Lot less effort, if that makes sense. Mhmm. So anyway, I think Excuse me.
I still remember how to burp babies from all those years ago if you, you know, need me to get that whole technique out. Now you'll have to sit on the edge of my leg, and you'll have to lean forward while I hold your chin and neck steady. And then I will I will go back and forth between rubbing and patting your back, but I'll keep your torso upright and you will just but I'll have a washcloth over my hand like one of those soft cloths. So if you spit up, it will be on my hand.
I don't know if I can remember how to, change a diaper at this point because last time I did that was, god, how old is the youngest? Almost 16. It looks like 14 ago. I'll, pass on that thing. The burping? Because that the when I learned that technique, it was fucking life changing. So I still remember it. So I got a baby that needs burp. I can do it. Anyway. So yeah. So, are we good? As good as we'll ever get. We're going to a bonus section. Okay. Okay.
Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you next week. Daddy. Yes, baby girl. Can we talk about crickets now? What do you think we've been doing? No. No. No. About things that can we have a reason for me to go off on tangents and derail the whole conversation with a thing that is not, like, off topic? That's what the bonus section is. Have at it. Thank you. Now Silent does point out that, the app does not work nearly as well when your big d has ADHD and forgets to look at it. That is very true.
For me as somebody who forgets to look at shit, it the notifications were kind of handy, but, I mean, that yeah. You gotta kinda know know thyself. If that's if that's gonna be another struggle, then Mhmm. Yeah. Then it's not it's not gonna work quite as well. But anyway, so Lola has what I call her satellite ears up. She is listening hard. Oh, yeah. But she is now, like, right next to you. Yeah. Yeah. She's she's laying next to my chair. Now that we're no longer on the the topic,
she's quiet. She wanted to add in. She had stuff to say. So what's been going on? I've I've been deep in I I think it's his latest book, Stephen King's Never Flinch. What's it about? Psycho killers. Oh, now the song's in my head. I can just hear the lyric psycho killer. Yep. Psycho killer. Yeah. Got the synth in the background. Oh god. Oh my gosh. So, yeah. I know days happened prior to the one we're in now. What have I done? I we had a very nice day out on Saturday. We did.
We did. We, yeah, we we did a lot of things. And we we did errands, but we also did fun stuff. And you were, like, in your big d, like, element. You You planned everything. Planned the whole day. And see, I'm used to asking questions about what we're gonna do. And when I say asking questions, not the anxiety questions, the would you like to do this or would you like to do that? And so I was realizing we were gonna be out all day. I was gonna get hungry. So I just said, hey.
I'm sure we're gonna get hungry while we're out today. We have a big day plan. I was like, do you wanna grab we have coupons on our refrigerator that come in the mail. I was like, do anyway, I already have that planned out. And I went, oh. Okay. And did I get a little thrill? Was I like, whoop. Yes. Yes. I did. Yes. I did. It was delightful. Now we were both on the same page. I have gotten some two so far, but we haven't gone back to look for anything else. Cute little, like,
dresses from some thrift shops. And the the reason they got to come home with me, one, they looked like I you know, something I would but when I put them on, they fit fine and and nothing was itchy, scratchy, pulling in a weird like, it was just like it was fine. Right? And so I had you know, I recognized this was a special day. We were gonna we're doing something other than just errands. And in my head, I was like, I'll wear one of my cute dresses. And I was surprised JB.
But JB was in his, like, dom self, like, he was feeling his dom self. He goes, before I you know, I wanted to surprise him with I'm gonna, like, not look like Adam Sandler. He was over there going, today when you're getting ready, I want you to pick out one of the dresses you just got. And I was like, you ruined my surprise. I was gonna surprise you with that. So but we did. But, yeah, we went Our town has a museum of art. Mhmm. And we were not sure what to expect.
We know they do exhibits. We've seen the ads for them. It was like a fucking TARDIS. We walked in, and Yeah. For a hot minute, it felt like it did not end. It it does not look when you roll up, it does not look very big. No. It does not. And, yeah, you you will step into there, and it's, huge. And two floors. Two floor. I I was tired by the time we got through, and I was starting to get hangry. I was like, I'm going to be a sweet submissive who's looking super cute and with her daddy.
But in my head, I was like, I'm a need to eat soon. Yeah. I'm a need to eat soon. It it was tiring. And, yeah, it was a lot of walking, but it was very cool. It was. It was interesting. Really, really neat stuff in there. There was one ex a photograph exhibit we were walking through, and JB said as we walked past, there was a person there with their camera take taking photographs. Hey. We walked past. He goes, I think that was the artist taking photographs of us reacting to his photos.
Was like, so Yeah. Photograph Inception? Like, what are we doing? Right. Okay. Okay. Okay. The live chat, because podcast listeners Yeah. You would not have caught this, wants to know why JP is on the floor and why I'm ignoring it. Because he was with his best good girl. I was. She, you know, normally around this time of night, we're we're settling oh, Lola. Lola don't knock over the tripod. Right? She was on her back doing her Oh, yeah. That big old thing. Mhmm. And,
hang on. Let's see how much she moved this stupid thing. Oh, yeah. Is our camera even, like, onto oh. Oh. So she was doing a wiggle thing, and you went down to what? Like Well, I thought she needed to go out. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So I had gotten up to to let her out, and she was like, no. That's not what I want. You got out of the seat. Now you can give me attention. And and, like, started walking back, and that's when she plopped down and rolled over on her back and for belly rubs.
The, entire episode is just the Lola shout. So So Yeah. It was it was, the museum was was really nice. I was I was you know, I didn't think it would be bad. I I'm good with museums, like, going into but I was genuinely impressed. There were some things that I guess they kinda have exhibits most of the year. They they they they have stuff that swap some of them out. Right? They they have, some exhibits that are the main part of the exhibit is there year round.
It it's, was all mostly all donated by a local family at some point. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Until we even have a museum like that. Open, I think, '87. Yeah. Somewhere around there, maybe. And, but they also have, you know, rotating Exhibits. Exhibits. Mhmm. So Mhmm. The one on the the I do not remember the artist name anymore. Yeah. It was not what it was fascinating. It was not my style of art where I was like, oh, I can't I have to keep looking at this. But it was, an abstract
of massive canvases. Oh, yeah. And as you walk through the full exhibit, like, we're literally walking through different periods of his artwork. And the very first one is, mixed media, bright colors, like, you know, thank God they have the plaque of what it's supposed to mean because I was not I was not getting that meaning, but I was like, okay. That's what it means. And then we go into another section where, it was the medium was oh, god. It was I mean, the way I interpret it was
pencil, but, like, not pencil. Like, not number two pencils, but, like, that kind of Charcoal? Maybe. That's the word that keeps coming to mind. Yeah. And that that was amazing. That that the talent he has there, but, yeah, that was that was all really cool. And then there were parts where I didn't expect it. I was like in my podunk country brain who did not, you know, only did museums because, like, there was a school trip and maybe that was once every three years to a museum.
And you always had to, like, leave the city to go find a museum, sometimes the street. I think of, like, air quote classic art pieces as being, like, in, like, New York, in London, like, in the big city. We were walking through some exhibits. I was like, oh, I know I took art history for two semesters in college. I don't know why. I don't I don't know anything about art. I'm not drawn to it. Pun not intended. And I'm walking through going, I think I remember that style. I think I know how
that works. Wow. That looks like something that I that we would have seen in the British Museum. Yeah. And they have you down there. Mhmm. Mhmm. And they have the gift shop. Yep. We walked in the front door, never having been in there. It clearly looked like Like deer in the headlights. Headlights. Yeah. And the the there are several people working the desk because it was the the one day a month where it's free to come in. You have to pay The first the first Saturday of
every month, it's they offer free admission. And we have spent six years saying we need to go do that. We finally did it. Finally did it. But we walk in like deer in headlights because we're like, where do we go? Where do we start? What do you like? What's this all about? Right. And it's kinda busy because it's the free day. Everybody with a child who's like They had food trucks outside. Right. And they had a whole kids' art section where they, like, could create art and
whatever. And so we're, like, looking around like, what do we do? And one of the people working on the desk was like, is this your first time here? Mhmm. Yeah. So, you know, she tells us She gave us a map and explained everything. Yeah. And then we just started walking. My feet hurt so bad when we were done. Yeah. You weren't really wearing shoes. I was wearing cute shoes because I was wearing a dress. And you look very cute, Luke. Cute. Very nice. Yeah. That was that was a nice little
date. Mhmm. I enjoyed that. Yep. So And then I surprised you for lunch. Mhmm. I'm an out of sight, out of mind kinda girl. I didn't used to be that way, but whatever I am now. And so past couple of times, we've talked about, like, getting, like, some, not all, weeks. We want one night where we don't have to think we don't have to make dinner. We don't have to think about what it is. We don't have to preplan it. We're like, we'll go get drive through. We'll do,
like, something. We got coupons or something. And I had said a couple times over the past few weeks, like, oh, Popeye's would be really good. Popeye's would be really good. But it was like, it's kind of out of the way. It's not a place that's like, we're gonna go run and grab something real quick. It's it's not located there. And then if I don't see it, I don't I'm not thinking about it.
So right before we left the museum, I was like, if we're gonna eat, it's gotta be soon because you girl's hungry. He's like, okay. And I asked, where are we going? Nope. Can't tell you. It's a surprise. Which, I mean, did that make my little subby heart kinda like go pitter patter a little bit? Because I get frustrated when I don't know stuff, but also it's a control thing. And I'm like, okay. I'm here for it. Mhmm. So every road he took and he took, like, a a straight path. He wasn't trying
to, like Mm-mm. Like, you know, have me, like, fool me. It was a surprise not fooling. Right? But every road we went down, I was like, okay. Well, it could be this or it could be that or it could be this or it could be that. And then he turned off the road. I'm like, oh, it can't it can't be any of that. And so I started thinking when we got on the main road to get there, like, may maybe. I was like, don't get your
hopes up. It could be there's all kinds of places and you like all of them, so it's fine. He turns down the way that immediately I was like, oh, this is the easiest way to get there because you can, like, kinda get out of the way of traffic and everything. But I still wasn't sure because there was also a McDonald's right there. And a Mexican restaurant. And a Mexican restaurant that I didn't even know was there. And he starts pulling in the Popeyes and it's, y'all, it's fried damn chicken.
And I started squealing. I was like, yep. Yep. I guess you did. That's the best surprise ever. Mhmm. I couldn't I couldn't even eat all my food. I didn't like, you know, I've just been told to just be in there and have the Popeye's rides. Yeah. I'll be able to go another six months to a year without it. Now that I've had it, I'm good. There is such a thing as too much Popeye's. Yeah. But, yeah. It was it was it was such a small thing, but, oh, it was it was so so cool. It made me so
happy. Yeah. It was a very, very nice day. Mhmm. And we were out much all day. The kids okay. So the youngest is like, please leave the house. Never come back. Okay? Just keep the Wi Fi on and the AC on. I don't give a fuck. I I never see you again. And snacks. Right. The oldest was like, first, we walk in and he looks at me like I'm, I don't know, like, a freak of nature. I am wearing a dress. This is very cute. He's like, where did you go? And I it took me a minute to realize.
He was like, you are dressed the fuck up. What has happened? I was like, well, we went out. Yeah. I can see that where? I was like, dude, we go places when you're not living here, but where did you go, mom? I was like, I'm glad somebody cared that we were not glad somebody cared. I was like, oh, it's the museum. And we had to go run errands and we got lunch. And I was like, oh, well, you could've just told me
that. I'm like what he didn't say, what she clearly wanted to go is, why were you dressed like that? I'm only used to you looking like Adam Sandler. What is happening? It was nice. Mhmm. It was nice. Yeah. We had a very nice time. Yeah. I think that's about it. Mhmm. Especially since I literally do not remember the past two days. That's a little scary. Mhmm. Oh, because I did a lot of driving in my car. You did a lot of driving in the morning. Was. You were road
weary. And yesterday, most of the work I did was in the morning, and I sweated through my shirt multiple times. I was only out there for, like, thirty minutes. I'm, like, I'm soaked. This is gross. Maybe that's why I don't remember anything. I I cannot believe I I mean, it needed to be done. The big the our we have a huge old growth, Laurel Oak in the front yard. Mhmm. And this, early spring, I had someone come in and do a heavy, heavy trim. We were a few years
overdue for trimming. Yeah. I I had been keeping it up as best I could in between, but it needed, you know, more than what I could, do. So they came in, and they they trimmed it up. They cleaned out dead wood and lifted and everything. But what that did does now the house does not get as much shade. So much more sunlight. And the garage heats up so fast now in the morning. Mhmm. Mhmm. So And I was being a good little shop elf. Yeah. I was drilling holes and diabolical stick stuff.
She was doing that while I was turning handles. Because eventually, we'll have diabolical sticks back. We'll meet in the middle. The kingcurrythekingcurry.com. So on that, we're probably done. Right? I think so. Yeah. Yeah. Thanks for being here. Hanging out with us. Especially to the bitter end. OMG. Y'all are real ones for that. See, I can see both on YouTube and in podcast stats. I can see how long people listen on average. I can also see when the majority of people drop. Yeah. Fuck.
I try to look at that. That's a little depressing. Because see, you would look at that in order to maybe change how you're doing things and no. If this can't be a podcast I enjoy doing, then I can't do it. So, I'm just grateful to those of you who stick around to the bitter end. That's what I'm saying. So anyway. I am. So I guess we'll go. Yeah. Okay. Thanks, y'all. Bye. Bye.