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And pay patrons will get to hear a little bit more about it in the behind the scenes, podcast episode that's coming out soon. But basically, our mental health tanked. Yeah. Not because anything major happened, we're where as good as we have been, and we are not at 20 21 20 22 levels of stress. Comparatively. It real... It's just not the same. But we can both feel burnout out creeping
in? Yeah. And we're about to go into a time of year where we do not feel like we have the luxury of, like, long breaks. So and we need all the energy we can must for that. So we are basically moving heaven and earth with our schedule and the work we had planned for this we and next week, getting it all done this week, so we can hike next week off. All of our shops are still open. Mh. We will still process orders Yep. Those things 1 do not ever ever.
Not even on our busiest day never. Does an order dressing. Orders are my favorite things. And also, I can deal with orders in, like, an hour a day and be done. I don't know how Jb feels about this, but basically, I had the thought of. I wanna wake up for a few days in a row and have 0 obligations and not be stressed at the thought of my to do list. My list that is not overly long either. It's just how It was burnout. So I was like,
Clock. Yeah. I would like to walk for our mental health, but it doesn't have to be a 05:30 morning. No, just just a week just a week off. Now, patrons who look at a calendar and no dates better than I do. Might be like worried. Now. This coming Friday, the day those podcast episode goes out for audio folks. We have a a Patreon event with our game night that we do months a month. And then the first Saturday in August, I don't know what that date is for getting a look
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the reddit post. I did not pull any of the questions from the Bd, am I the asshole subreddit that is a it run by pink king podcast Princess Ara. There are more people posting in there. I'm begging y'all. To go in and post there if you have a weight was I a kinky asshole. I looked through some of them, and the more recent ones and I went, I don't I don't think I'm the right 1 to answer those. So there were more more about
sex. Mh. So anytime you're like, wait, was I the asshole in this kin situation, I love it if you would go post over there because I definitely wanna use those posts in these kinds of episodes. Please let let us decide if we think you're an asshole, please, please. Okay. So all of today's post came from the Bd advice subreddit. Okay. First 1. Okay. Sometimes I under if it's worth it in the same right. This is where I have to get really close to the screen because
the glass suck. Okay. Here we go. 60 female married to 58 male been together 9 years. I am primarily vanilla and he's into Bd. I never dabble until I met my now hub. He loves to be the dismissive. I am honestly not the dominating type, but I try for his sake. We went through a sexual dry spell as he doesn't wanna make me do things I'm not comfortable with. I on the other hand am willing to try because I love him and wanna fulfill his needs. It seems that the last couple of times
we played. Things didn't quite go as planned and he got angry and made me feel like it was my fault. For instance, our bed frame came apart during our last session. I, of course thought it was something funny to laugh at, and he made it seem like it was the end of the world. It hurt my feeling so much I cried. Honestly, I put a lot of thought and energy into our session as isn't easy for me. You would think he could at least say he was sorry for over reacting Why does it have to be so freaking
serious all the time. In order for me to feel comfortable and confident I'd like to have some fun too. And for me, that's laughing at the stupid stuff that happens or that I do. How do I get him to lighten up a tad? It makes me want to not try and do this anymore. I'm sad for both of them? I know. It's an compatibility that they're trying to find. They're they're they're trying to... Yeah that that center spot. And and you know what? She... She's absolutely right. You need to have...
You know, you you need to have that sense of humor. Yes. But So what if he's got himself all stressed out about. This is his only way to submit. I know how I am. And something goes wrong. And I've gotten better because I'm I am confident in you. Mh. When I get to submit to you, it is not gonna be the only time I get to do it for weeks and week a weeks. Right? It's our life. What if he's like, this is my only chance, and he does that thing that a lot of people do. You put press on
the situation to be air quote. Perfect. Mh. And so when something goes wrong, it's a small thing that should be able to be laughed off, but it feels catastrophic because it ruined the picture in your mind of the perfect Yeah. Situation. Now, I don't... I think... Yes. I kinda does need to lighten up. But I think I can see where he might be coming from it. But, you know... And and again, though, you you you're saying that And and, yeah, III
see your point. But, you know, there again, too, that comes in with the managing expectations. Absolutely. I agree completely. Because let's face it. Nothing in this, you know, nothing is ever perfect. M. K? Nothing ever goes as planned. You know, the bed breaks You know, you you you fall out of bed. Something cramp up. You know, fall asleep. Right. You know, it... It's all gonna happen an and, you know, those stupid things you gotta... You gotta be able to laugh them off.
I know. But I think before you can get to that place that you can laugh them off, you need to feel there's some some something is lacking in confidence and whether it's will we be able to do this often enough, or am I... You know, and I am reading a lot into it. We do not have his perspective, but. You know, she says that, yeah, they went through a dry spell because he doesn't wanna make me do things Not comfortable with. So is
there guilt involved of. I'm already asking her to do and be something thing she's not. And so you, it's just... It's... It sounds like pressure on his side of things. I I agree though. I agree about setting managing... Setting and managing expectations. I agree about... You gotta laugh off that stuff because it's gonna happen all... Now we've got somebody who's crying because they're still upset, and the other person so pissed off, and no scenes are happening now.
Right. So it... As always. This is such the boring answer. I know. Yeah. It goes back to communication. Right? Like, true. It's... Let's sit down and talk about this. Let's talk about how you know, his anger made her feel, how her laughter made him feel. The hardest part, but I think the most important part is to try and do it in a without being j, there's... It's real easy in an argument to go, will you made me feel this way and you did this m, to the best of your ability to do I statements.
I feel this way, you know, when this happens. I feel, you know, pair you're feeling with the action again, none of us are perfect, and this is a a skill that has to be learned and I still suck at it sometimes. Instead of it, you know, going on the with the other person because what's gonna happen is everybody's gonna shut down. And now we're not talking about how wait, you are having these expectations of this supposedly perfect scene. And when it's not perfect.
You're freaking out, and now it's ruined for me too. Like, that's the ultimately the thing I think that has to happen there's got to be a conversation about it. Yeah. You know, there there definitely has to be a com conversation. You're you're not... And, you know, I I think too, makes me kinda wonder, you know, it she's, you know, he's he's stopping at the bit. Oh, he's sure. And he's ready to go. Mh. Alright. And she's a little hesitant. She's not, you know, quite sure.
You know, how much is he expecting of her? True. Right out of the gate? True. I I would be interested to know the scope of the scenes that he's asking for slash she's willing to able to in trying to execute. And not only if there's a mismatch but it might not even be that deep It might just be it's outside of some comfort level slash experience levels. Mh. And so that's that's a lot of
pressure for everybody. Yeah. And I can... I don't think lashing out of a partner is the best way to go about anything I'm not saying that's right, but I can't understand the... This is the only way I'm gonna get it and it's few and far between, and I'm relying on a partner that I already feel bad if, you know, I'm guilty that maybe I'm, you know, asking them do something they don't even wanna do, you know, that... I would be so curious to hear his side of, like... Because, you know, I've
I have been that submissive and God. I have met enough submissive who are like, you know, I have these this, picture of my head of what it's gonna be like to submit when it's gonna be like to be dominated, who that person's gonna be, what they're gonna do. And do we all eventually come crashing down to reality of course, we. But that usually comes from getting to have the day to day experience of it or a consistent experience of it or a the give and take, and this is
I mean, I'm... I admire her. She's, like, this is not my thing, but I want him to be happy. So I'll try. Yeah. You know? Yeah. III would be very curious about the expectations he has set for himself. Right. For her and for the scene. Because I think that's probably where the anger. I'm sorry. Yep. And or I'm a look because I'm nosy I'm little curious about what made the bed break because I... Here's what I know. If our bed broke, I would have to laugh because my alternative
would be to cry. Right. Because of some deep seated issues of my own. But if I thought my actions were the reason the bed broke? I would be inc console. That would not... It I would not be able to be laughed at or have somebody laughing with me until I like got my head on straight. So I I think it's, you know, both simpler and than it seems but also more complex. There's all... There's lots of feelings going on, and some people lash out. It's not right. It's not healthy Like, come on, Call call
me tits there. But it is what people do. And so to be able to have the conversation to work through it, you know, he's gotta be able to to try to articulate what that is for him. And she can maybe ask questions to pull that out of them, but she also can't make them talk. Right? And if he's not gonna communicate, well, and we don't know. It doesn't say here. Mh. Then, you know... Yeah. But it is on hold for a while. I wouldn't wanna go outside of my own comfort zone for
my partner. I'm gonna get yelled at that Right. Something goes Right. I mean, that... Yeah. That's that's gonna, unfortunately, yeah. You know, if he's getting angry and and yelling adam, that's gonna push people away. Mh. Absolutely. Exactly. Okay. Next 1. Okay. K. Here we go. The a consensual non consent scene went badly, and I can't reconnect to my sub self. We have heard this kind of thing before.
My dominant I have a free use, Cnc rule when I'm around them, we live hour and a half away from I live an hour and a half away from him. When we do it, he always kisses me or pulls my nipples or just something to get me wet. We wanted to try minimizing that and trying to be a little rough. I was studying and he told me to bend over. I've never done Cnc apart from the gentle free use I didn't really know what to expect, but I was sore, and I can only describe it as me air quote taking it.
Kinda thought that was normal and what people really liked about it. I was waiting for him to come. When it was over, he had to go back to work and I had to take my train home and I didn't think much of it. Until I got home and I got hit with a huge sub drop. I never sub drop normally, so this was bad. I couldn't figure out why I was feeling badly, It wasn't until I spoke to him that we realized I didn't get the after care I needed, and I should have safe worded. He felt awful, but
neither of us thought about about it. It didn't help that our schedule did not align for a few days, but we spent 2 hours on the phone chatting to try a makeup up for the missing after care about That happened a week ago, and I'm set to see him Wednesday for a week. The thing is I'm into denial. I haven't had an orgasm in 70 days, and normally, I would be full on horny and begging to edge and b all sub. But I've had 0 desire to touch myself and I have
not been horny. I still call Daddy and complete my normal day to day tasks but I feel like I can't reconnect to my submissive part of me. I also have a porn blog and I have avoided it. I don't really know what to do to go back to normal. I asked him to don me gently when I see him because the idea of getting to his flat and dressing at the door is overwhelming me. But I'm a sub, so I don't know what to
do. I would love to hear, some advice, if anyone has had a scene go wrong, and it disconnected them to kin. I think the last thing they should do upon seeing 1 another maybe eventually. Yeah. They should not they should not seen or do anything I remotely power exchange jeep from... At the first moment, they see 1 another. Right. I I think they need to have a serious conversation. From from the sounds of it, you know, it it's not like either 1 of them was intentionally being
right. You know? It it it's it more seems like something that happened, it was just the perfect storm that... And it was kind of things of. We talk about this thing, doing this thing, and then I experienced this thing and whether it was that moment or always I don't like that. So. Yeah. Yeah. Which is gonna happen. Yeah. Always know until you try... Exactly. And, you know, I just like we had with that 1 time when you had that panic attack. Mh. K?
You know, yeah. We had to step back you and I, we had to sit down and talk, you know, and and really work through that before we could mh, find our ground again. Mh. And I I think that needs to, you know, be what happens here. It does not sound like either 1 of them. You know, yeah. It it it's Cnc, you know, it... It's... But, you know what, they should have still talked about it a little bit prior. Yes. I I think especially for a first time Yeah. Of doing that kind of scene.
It is I, you know, I get where people because people say this all whole time and I, and I I get it. You know, like well, I like the head space and I don't wanna, like, you know, ruin the the mood or whatever. I wanna set the tone. Well, that's that's lovely. And if you can find a rhythm with a partner that you've had... Got enough experience with, you... I'm sure
you can get there. Sure people get there all the time, with Cnc specifically, I mean, but when you're gonna go from a of a gentle free use thing, which sounds a lot like what you and I do. Yeah. To something purposefully rough. I think it yeah. You know, learn from the moment, I guess and in the future. Yeah. How how have a conversation about it. Even if it's... Maybe it's not like 2 seconds before. It happens with even if it's, like 15 20 minutes before, like, hey.
Hey, let's try this tonight. What Right What are you thinking? You know, the other thing and again, you know, this person to learn a very probably common lesson the hard way, and hopefully they remember it for the future. So everybody who plays with Cnc and free use and all the different versions of it that there can be. Has their own reasons for it, their own motivations, what they get out of it, what they're looking for out of it.
Whatever that other person, these other people get from it does not have to be the same thing, you get from it. So if this person was having that experience and was like, you know, I I didn't... I was just taking it, and I didn't like it and, you know, that's what I thought other piece people light, and I was just kind of waiting for it to be over waiting for him to come.
You know, the thing to decide for yourself and to, I thing to, like, internalize for yourself is, if there's nothing about this moment I'm enjoying, whether it's the excitement, the fear the powerless, the... I mean, pick a thing. Right? Yeah. If there's nothing about this that I'm enjoying, and I am just desperate for it to be over. And that even desperate just this isn't even for me any more. And it's painful, and and anne safe for the fuck out of it. Right.
The safe safe words we often talk about Safe is a bad thing has happened and it's about to be imminent danger. Sometimes the safe word is I don't want this. Right. I thought I did and I especially say for it. Especially that they were trying something renew for the first time. Mh. Over, you know, a big step over and above what they had been doing. Yes. Okay? Mh. And and at the same time, does... It doesn't say in there how long they've been together. Doesn't...
No. I don't know. I know. M. But, I mean, you know, if if it if it's someone that has played together, for any amount of time, you know, on on his side, he needs to be more aware of visual cues Yes. And when in doubt, check. Yeah. Which I... You know, III can already hear folks with a very, like, 1 or 2 dimensional view of Cnc. Then, you don't check in, that's the Cnc. Once you know you're good to go. Yeah You know, But maybe not. You wait for the queues, you... Whatever whatever. Mh. And that
to me, I'm still iffy on. That because we... Maybe it's because you and I don't play hard. We're not trying to create some very taboo scenes with words I would not even say right. Now. That's... Right? Like, we're not trying to do. And quite frankly, if you're not trying to do that, why wouldn't you check in? Because there are sexy ways to check it. Sure. Really there are ways to sound kind of, like, brood and kind of rough and kind of right off. But when it's a first time,
fucking check in. Okay. Because you know, even even you, we've been together as long as we have you read my body language well, 99.9 percent of the time. But there... Yeah. There's always at 0.1 percent where you might not. And if we're doing something new, you were asking me. You were right. You were doing that check to just sort of take the temperature of is this working? Absolutely. But, you know, some some people disagree and people think what they wanna think. No. Safe for it's belong
in Cnc. That's what the fucking Safe. Yeah. The safe word or the gesture or the whatever you establish should not be the end all be all, but that's why you use a Safe word. So you can say things like, no. Stop. Don't. Right. Because the safe word safe word... Supposed to be the deli. To right. And I lost my thought. Hate it when that happens. Yeah. I'll say this. To get back to this person's original question. Mh. Is always set at
the top. I think you come together as human beings who just genuinely like 1 enough, there. Yeah. And you don't worry so much about the power exchange. It doesn't mean that the power exchange is not there. But, like, I think in the comments there were saying that they have sort of a ritual of when they arrive. Like, they get naked and they do this then. Not this time, not until you're both on firmer or ground until the submissive is kind of in a head space. It might not be the exact heads
space you're used to. Right. You might not be often in the mouth out of horn, but there's gonna come point where you feel a desire or a certain comfort level or a often I want I want to be doing the thing we normally do. That's when you... And you know what? If it only takes a couple hours to get there great. If it takes a couple days, That's okay too. It it... There should not be a time limit it. You went through something where
it didn't go as planned. You realized later that you should have safe worded, but in the moment, weren't... That wasn't where your head was at. You didn't get the after care that you needed, drop especially like, if you do something you usually go through or drop when it comes after an emotional low instead of that emotional time, that's a tough 1. Because when we have the emotional high, it sucks to drop, but you at least have the memory of all that was amazing.
But if the member is less than positive. Like, why would you wanna put yourself in that again? Like I can see it. So no, I... You know, now. Yeah. Don't worry about your routines. Don't worry about until... You you all need to step back. Yeah. Yep. And and and group. And then consider this a hard? Lesson. Earned lesson. Yeah. Yep. You know, what will you do better in the future. And that should... If it hasn't already been, that's
the conversation to have. It. You know? Do we wanna try this again And if we do what will we do differently and better next time. Right? Mh. Okay. Next 1, This 1 is gone a long 1 too. Okay. Dd d g dynamics with age slash body securities. Hello all. I'm female in a daddy down little girl marriage. We are both mid forties. We've been together 14 years in the lifestyle for less than 5 years in its current
form. I was dominant prior. The dynamic is fluid mostly in the bedroom with showing up occasionally in our marriage, but we do not have a 24 7 Dd g arrangement. I am an overweight female, 5 4 and a hundred and 70 pounds. This is relevant to the situation. Recently during play playtime, my feelings were hurt when my daddy doll was playing with my very large breasts and talking about how much he loved my flat chest. Even though this type of talk has been
occurring for years. In this instant, I felt sad that my boobs were not loved as they are. It was fleeting, but re reoccurring days later. I talked us out with my daddy Dom, he was amazing and immediately offered to stop saying anything that contradicted the reality of my body. I am thankful. And at the moment the entire dynamic is on hold while we talk this out. After much discussion, he told me that part of him does wish she could have sex
with someone younger and thinner than me. He said he also wishes sometimes that I was smaller and that in particular, I look big when I'm in doggy style position. I asked him how much of him wants that reality, and he said 25 percent. He said 75 percent of him is happy in our marriage and with me, but that other part of him wants everything. All the sex and freedom basically a porn star life with porn star level hot girls.
He admits this is immature is that he would and he never ever would do anything to be with anyone else and will never leave me. He has made it clear that he chooses me and will stay with me because he loves me. I suppose I'm now having great difficulty letting this go, and I'm wondering how I'll ever feel brave enough to be naked around him again, let alone be little in my advanced age. I'm gonna stop here and give side eye to advanced age. I know. Right? I feel vulnerable and so very ugly. He
is being. Kind and reassuring me that I'm not ugly that I am beautiful to him, but I definitely feel not good enough. I thankful that he shared with me what he feels in Desires, but oh, wow. I really wanted it to just be me. He will we will definitely be speaking to our therapist about this. But in the time I need solid advice from people in the lifestyle? So here's my question. Can Dd d dynamics exist as you, quote, age out in
a healthy way. Does anyone older than us have a success story to give me hope. Is it time to maybe transition into a more standard Ds dynamic? Or are these red flags are signaling trouble ahead thanks in advance. I want to hug her. Yeah. First to think that mid forties is advanced stage. We we all need to calm down as a mid forties girl who's struggling with it. We we technically dependent on how health genetics lifestyle, but we got 40 more years ahead
of us. That's a long damn time if we're lucky, knock on, with all the stuff. Yeah. Well, heart hurts for her. Yeah. So here's my first thought. Alright. I think we had this... We did this episode a few weeks ago. That not every thought you think needs to be communicated. Right. It... Yeah. It doesn't... Yeah. It doesn't... Like, I I definitely understand because we've we've had that conversation too
about. I think a thought... I say a thought because I wanna be able to share all the different parts of me with you. Yeah. But if the parts of me that I wanna share the thoughts that I have could only be hurtful to you, and there's nothing that can be done about. She can't be younger. She shouldn't have to be smaller. She's got big boobs celebrate the big Tata. I say, like, the... She can do nothing to change that. Nor should she have to Nor should she try if she doesn't want
to? Correct. And yet, he felt compelled That was the thing she needed to know. I know. She didn't meet... Those got notion stayed inside thought some thought Going to be inside. Yeah. And that's 1 of them. You know, the the thing that kinda jumped up with me, you know, during during the scene where he was, you know, kind of humiliating her. I know. Made me wonder if they have that as partnered dynamics am. Right.
And and, you know, we do our own form of humiliation between you and I, but you're you're you're not and confused Are you? No. Here's the thing. She can't un hear any of that. Unfortunately, no. No. You know, you know, at the same time, there were certain things that... In the beginning certain phrases and words that I said, you know, that were like, oh, no. Oh no. Don't ever. Please don't say that. That will not work. Right. You know, And and and and that type of thing was,
you know, off the table. Right. You know, and pretty much know what I can and can't say it this point. And if I discover something, I go, by the way. Mh. That. Mh. You know, So there there is that too. Mh. But, you know, what when he was talking about... Yeah. You're absolutely right. You know, some things should never be be set out loud. And you know, in in most cases, fantasy should remain a fantasy. And that's the thing. He was describing a fan a scene.
Yeah. But he set it out loud, put it in her mind, so it gets to live in her memory hold now. And it you know, I... I'm not saying that it can't be overcome. I, you know, maybe with the right therapy, maybe with enough time between them, you know, she might get to a point where she feels more secure because what I would love for anybody and everybody is for you to feel secure in yourself regardless of what the people around you think. Mean, that's the ideal. I haven't
achieved it yet either. It's just an ideal. But she's does not have that. The the person she's been with for what, 14 years. Yeah. That she has this vulnerable relationship with Power exchange is vulnerable. Who... He's supposed... The base from what it sounds like the way they do their sex life and their power change in the bedroom, like, it's not... It sounds like it's sort of supposed to be a, yeah. Common your body, but I'm I'm giving it all this attention and affection and
pleasure and whatever they do. And she gets to kind of feel little and go into space, and I don't wanna speak for this person, and I can't speak for everybody, but let me tell you personally how hard I struggled with the idea of even though I don't consider myself a a quote, true little, baby girls to me are on that spectrum of what it means to be a little. Mh. And the thing I struggled with that first was, but I am not physically
little? I'm also... Was not physically young, and so can I be, quote, a little and if this person has any remnant of that in their mind in their insecurities to then be told by the person who was supposed to be the person they could trust above all? The person who, by all accounts should desire them above all that does not mean can't be fantasies and, like, of course. Like, that's not what I'm saying. To be then told that you're kinda big in this position, like, look, here's the thing.
They're in a big girl out there who's not kind of aware of what they big person. We let's Gender. Who's not a little bit aware of what they probably look like, I personally don't like to fuck around in front of Mirrors because I don't want the vision. Right? I don't have that much security at within myself to do that. Other people do doing, and that's great. And I just... Like, I think that's why I feel this 1 so deeply because if you were to say, I looked on big
in Dogg. First of all, I know. Okay. I have seen this ass bit over Unaware. But then that... I get it. That's that's all I would be thinking were thinking. I don't know. Even though there's a better than good chance that you would you would, you know, you would not think that every time. You would think positive things about me. I'm the the fantasy thing that he would have. I believe that, yes, we should be able
to share our fantasies with our partners. Even if you're fully mono and there's never gonna be in. We... You know, there's I think that it should be okay if both partners consent to hearing fantasies just to to share fantasies. But it's not the either to detriment of the... Dirt not not to be derogatory to the partner. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. So The thing is, you know, first of all, I'm gonna say the the fact that 1 of the her first questions was can d did d Lg dynamics exist as you age out in a
healthy way. That speaks to another insecurity that maybe is not really being brought up here because Little is a state of mind. It's not about your age body size. It's just about how you feel an interact. And that with a 2. Alright. They they are doing, you know, in it... They were... They were in a Dd g dynamic. And maybe it's not right for them. Right. Just like we were in a, you know, a a ser here's the thing. It sounds like it's right for her. It is what she wants? Yeah.
But can she see her husband as her daddy dom anymore Look, I'm gonna... This might sound harsh to somebody somebody's not gonna like it. I don't I don't think I give a fuck. So all dominance have a sense... Have... Have... Should have responsibility to their submissive partners? Yes. Yes. It does. To me, I think the caregiver dominant. There needs to be some care given not that other dominance shouldn't, but there's this inherent,
like, un there's... We... There's a... It's understood that there's supposed to be some kind of nurturing. Yeah. Some kind of, like... It's I don't like to use the word softer because you're a sadistic bastard and a Daddy dom, but there's just this... It's not a... It it's supposed to be about on some level, taking care of your little. Like, whatever that means and whatever that looks like the... That was not taking care of her. Not at mean wet Not at all. Is he
a daddy Dah? Is that what worked for now is she? Right. You know, it it's different like, I'm sure it's harder. If they're married, and they wanna stay married in their mono, then if he's not a daddy dump, but she's a little... Yeah. How do you thread that needle? I don't know. I don't know. But I mean, before anybody's fucking around, I would have to get right with my insecurity. Said. Now 1 thing, I, you know, at the end, you're talking about, they are gonna talk about this with their
with their... Which are love. Which I think is fantastic. Mh. My 1 hope is at their therapist or therapist where they meet together or separately, which are can wear. Yes. Oh my god. God. Because what has happened is is so wound up in their dynamic. That needs to be addressed. Right. Right. Because now there's a... There's not just her own insecurities that she's I'm just stare at. That we're probably there, but, you know what?
It... When you think that your partner find you attractive adore you whatever or whatever, is easy over time, especially to not think about your insecurities. I... I mean, truly, most of the time I could tell you will the Straight face look and the eye go. I'm not that insecure and until something happens ago. Oh my god, I'm so insecure. Because you get into the state of being in this back and forth and, you know, you know how each other is. The words are not coming properly, But you
know what I mean. Like, yeah. The comfort of being with a partner who's pretty like, stable and and consistent. You can forget there in insecurities something reminds you of them. So I can't help but wonder if that was it. She was... Was comfortable and Was like, okay, We're in this together and now she can't get... It all burns out of her head. Yeah. And and it kills him because 1 of her questions is am I am I too old to be a little now you not
No That. If that is authentic to you and how you want to experience mission and that's that's the head space you get into, and that's who you are slash want to be. Then that is Valid. Don't cute your. You could be 80 and still have a little side if you want. I... If I don't have a playful, na sassy baby girl side to me in my nineties. I'm a be pissed. Okay? I'm gonna need to speak... I'm gonna go karen. I'm gonna need to speak to a manager what the fuck happened.
Yeah. I hopefully intend to be the little old lady who has truly 0 Fucks and just says whatever, like, whatever. Yeah, I mean, that's the part that that breaks my heart, you know, you don't have to quote transition. What a standard Ds... I mean, I get what they what somebody many means and they say standard ds. Mh. But none of it is supposed to be standard. Supposed to be whatever works for the 2 people involved. Right. This dude has so I'm like, serious. I hate to say it, and somebody's he's
gonna be mad me. I don't give a fuck. You better grove. You better be true. You better spend all your time begging her up. And, you know... And and we prepare for her not to believe fucking word you said? They would say, at 1 I've got some serious back pedal... Oh. Okay. The the the not kind part of myself. Mh. When I was hearing what he was describing what he wish she could have. Yeah. And here's the thing. It's okay to wish you could have Those things it's okay to there's
this fantasies. It's okay to go god. That would be amazing. I'm not. I'm not, like, fault him for having the thoughts. Place should have been inside thoughts about. All I could think was, is he 1 of those men that wants that that pardon me, this is a very ugly thing to think about another human being, could never have fucking had in the first place. How many of those people have we come across are like, oh, I want the Porn star sex life. Now. First of all, port
us acting. Y'all that's right. That's how staged and step up. The sex is real, but like, come on, you're not gonna have that kind of sex. You could not handle it, you'd be exhausted, and you'd probably very sticky by the time of was I. But like, the this is the un kind part of me that's a bitch, and I know I'm a bitch. The people who tend to be the most vocal about. This is what I wish I had, are the people who could never get that in a hundred years. Not just for lux.
Personality is usually most of it, but I mean, part we would like to see a a picture of him and does he look big and Doggy style position? Does he still look like he did in his twenties? Fuck? It's... I know. That's a stereotype of say, would like to hear that from are the people who couldn't have gotten in any way. Yeah. Which is why it's a fantasy and let it live in your fucking head and let it be with you jack off to and, like, how much a time and god dave. I have those fantasy.
I know what this body looks like though, and I know what this person is, and that's why I could not could not have that. But come on. And now in the name of being honest? Yeah. She's traumatized. And is quest thing like, if she's even allowed to be a little, like I know. And, you know, whether they're red red flags that signal trouble ahead. I honestly don't know.
Like, yeah. The the part of me that wants to give the benefit of the doubt is this person thought that clear open communication met Word Vomit. I mean, meant to give no critical thinking to what you were gonna tell a person. Yeah. That's the part that I want to believe because when she finally brought up, hey, please. Don't talk about my big old boobs like they're not there. Mh. He was like, I will not talk about your body in a way
is not actually pure... That's pretty mature. Like that's... I I would not expect that from, you know, a lot of people to be able to go oak. Okay. Yeah. We're not commenting on your body in that way. Cool Cool. But then why couldn't you been, like, something enough, pick a word to go, you know? Why would I tell a person about this when there's nothing and then to quantify it. Well, 75 percent of me. What does that even mean? What does that even mean? And how does
somebody get that out of their head? Therapy thank God, they have therapist because I would not have the right words to to tell somebody how to get over that? No. I would be crushed. I would be crushed. Yeah. That 1 hurt my heart. That wanna hurt my heart. Oh, god. Hot. Robert I pointed out. I didn't think I was gonna rant. Not now I'm hot and sweaty off. Mh. Hot and sweaty. Okay. Last 1. Alright. Advice needed. Excuse me. Just needing some advice as I think I'm just overthinking this.
So I've been with my Dom a few months now, known each other for, like, 3 years. 1 of our rules, quote, real life comes first. And obviously, it does. We have separate spouses and children, yes, the spouses no. But now I'm overthinking does he think our dynamic is not real does he think it's all just fantasy. Am I just reading into it a bit too much as he has been busy, and I miss him. We're exclusive to each other not talking slash playing with any other
sub dom. We've both voiced we have feelings, huge respect for each other and care about each other a lot, but am I just wasting my time. Even before we start our dynamic, I knew it would happen eventually. It was a case of write dom wrong time, and it eventually was the right time and I am over the moon. Obviously, I will discuss this with him. Good because that's the first thing. Please go on a conversation. But this idea that if real life has to intervene that somehow dynamic isn't
real. If that's an insecurity. That's an insecurity on their part of True true. Wait. Does this mean, I'm not as in... You know, my making something bigger and more important in my head than it is... Like, that's the thing they got gotta talk about their partner. But this idea that because real life will absolutely fucking intervene real life That means that Ds is not real. And I think it maybe it's pore phrasing, vanilla life,
well, I mean, I don't know. We we all know and and most everybody out there in you know, our our audience. They they understand, you know, life happens. Right. And and and sometimes, you know, yes, you need to to step back And does it make it any less real absolutely not not my mind. You know, it it's still there, you know, even though we have... We may have to step back sometimes in various reasons whether you know, illness or or or no family, something going on.
I'll come back to the same place? Right. Are the feeling still there? Do you still want the role is does it still feel like who you are and whenever you define that. If this thing was not interrupting your plans, would you be doing the thing you've been doing? As long as all of that holds true. Mh. It's it's real. It is absolutely an insecurity their part. Yes. And I I do get
it. You know, It's hard to be a little bit long distance, not a primary partner I don't know if they use that language, but the time you and I kind of look at it. You know, that that can lead to insecurities and, you know, right. Is is this 1 side that, you know? And, you know, that that's something, you know, as 1 side in in in that way. There's only 1 way she's gonna find out. Right. She she's gonna have to ask them. You know, And they're they're...
Ever since the the the internet has, you know, come upon us, you know, there there are people who are of 2 camps. You know? Nothing we do, not no interaction we have on the Internet is real. Yep. Okay? And, you know, then there's the others that say, you know, no, you know, even though it may not be physical, we're emotionally you know, putting ourselves out there. So this to me is real. Right. It's it's a perspective right section thing.
Well, that's the other thing. I and I think it might have been in the comments on this 1 it was something else, and I saw somebody, try to get into the semantics. Mh. That in their view, that all power exchanges just role play. Sophisticated a role play, but role play. And I can see that argument because you and I have absolutely had to go at and put a halt on the power exchange in order to deal with things in life. The thing is though, when it's not the most extreme
situation. Mh. And when things are mostly clicking along, 1, we live our life as Dom sub. This is not... We do not... It's not a hat we put on and take off. Is only on the most extreme situations where... And for us, it just means you don't get to be the... Cider. That doesn't mean you stopped being a Daddy dump, and it doesn't mean I stop being submissive. Right. For us, submission and dominance is part of who are.
It is baked into who we are. So I tend to get really insulted when somebody likes to refer to it as role play in in all forms. Like, for some people it is role play. Some people will feel like we do and still call... That's fine. But for me, like, it pisses me off because I'm like, look, he could tell me tomorrow that he's not gonna tell me what to do and follow with my tasks, but guess what. I'm gonna come to him every fucking chance I get and go, what do you think? I'm gonna do shit for you.
Mean, hopefully with your consent. Mh. Because that's part of who I am. I'm going to defer to you when I can't. You could take the words away. You can call something else for all. I'd give a fuck. I'm still gonna do those things because that is a part of who I am. The problem I have before was I was doing it for the wrong with the motherfuckers. And now I do it for the bright motherfucker. I mean, you are literally motherfucker in the saying because I'm a mom. Anyway.
If we wanna play fucking Semantics. Anyway. Yeah. So when people start telling me about real life interfering Yeah. Yes. You and I firmly believe that? Oh yeah, most of this podcast is based on that. But also, if you identify with some point your role in power exchange as a core part of who you are, like it's part of your identity, that doesn't just stop because the actions stop. Right. Right? Like, yes, real air quote real life. We'll absolutely fuck up all of our plans for a scene, all of our
plants really. Like, deeper power exchange, what, we lived a 3 or 4 year, stressful life, and it was only because we would sometimes go you're at Daddy dumb, and I'm your baby girl. Right? Right? We're still in this. Right? Like, we never really got to feel it as much as we wanted to. Didn't mean it wasn't fucking there. It didn't mean we didn't want it. It didn't mean it wasn't real. And that it it was may have been tempered a little bit. But, yeah, It was
still there. Do we get to live it to an ex an extreme is a bad word with Yeah. The only when come it's fullest. To its fullest, the way we'd like not right now. No right now. Nope. But that doesn't mean we haven't before and we won't again in the future. And what fullest air quote that means will change depending on what's going on in life. Yeah. For the fullest for us when the boys were younger, was not the fullest it will mean when these o's are living somewhere else and
paying their damn ramp. Right? Like that, us different points of life that's different experiences. Mh. And while I'm not ready for my youngest to fully grow up yet. I'm looking forward to that time in the future feedback. Right? Sure. Because that... Then we redefine what power change looks like for us. We... At that point, we totally redefine our lives to whatever. God. I can't even imagine. Right? I'm not ready for that crazy today. Not ready for it. So,
yes. Ultimately, I think this person's issue is an insecurity something's been going on, maybe... Mh. Maybe there's been a lack of communication somewhere, maybe the expectations time of been managed when there is maybe some radio silence because real life interfered.
Sure. But I think that worrying about is this, you know, when you have to pause for a life, does that mean that what we have this somehow not real is a little bit of a stereotype from people who dismiss all power changes only and always role play. Yeah, for some people it is Mh. In some context, semantic, I can make... I can see the argument. But when somebody is telling you that this is their life they're living. You the, you know, anonymous you from the outside, don't get to come in and go.
Just fucking role play. Anyway. Fuck you. I'm motherfucker. Like, just and. Yeah. Yeah what even his real. It's all a goddamn simulation. Okay? Timeline started getting a little bit better in the past few days, but still I could use a different dimension and timeline. And come on. And what even is real? Just I don't know. Anyway. I'm glad that they ended on line. Obviously, it will discuss this. Yes. Yep. But yeah. Because it definitely needs to be. And, yes,
let us all be realistic that whatever... However, we're gonna define real life as in the life that is separate and apart from our power exchange, and our power exchange cannot function within that thing happening. Like, for us, it's things with the kids. If there's some emergency with a child, who I'm not deferring to Jb on hardly anything. Like, I
would... Like, my natural tendency is, but as their mother who is only human being that can legally sign anything and has full rights to, like, whatever whatever... That's limited now that the oldest is the oldest, you know, An adult, but whatever. Like, No. There's no there's no different deferring. There's there's working together. There's there's a word for the again Know what it is. But we're gonna work together. Right. On an equal footing now. Does that mean there's an
emergency of the kid. We are on equal footing. Right? That's the real life. We walk out of that emergency for a 5 minute breather. He now not my daddy, and I'm not leaning on him and go oh my god. Oh my god. Right. Hell, yeah. Yeah. So I... It's all very Nuanced and it's not. Just this... I think for some of us, many of us? I don't know. We don't just shut it off like a valve. Like, it's not just a spin and a water of turned off. It's say, okay. It's only a little trickle right now. The only
reason that I... Would call myself power just because I know who Am. I know who you are. I know who we are together. But in this specific moment, you're not in charge. I'm not in charge. We'd we doing this again. So anyway. I don't... I'm sure that's being read as a rant. I don't feel rant, but my blood pressure did go up and I'm hot and sweaty now. So so I guess it counts. No. It counts. Okay. So... Excuse me. You have the hang over there. That was the last 1.
From Reddit so we can can do a Bonus section. Okay. So are we good? I don't know. That's not for me to say. Cute kinky all. And we'll see you y'all in a couple of weeks. Yes. Baby girl. Can we talk to the crooked? Yes. Did I free say y'all at the end of my own fucking tagline. Yes, I did. Yes. I did. Yes. I did. What wasn't is there something else? I don't think it was what we recording earlier I forgot... Oh, no. Podcast listeners who are listening this sometime Fridays.
Saturday already wanna re listen, you will have heard. I was doing the podcast intro day, and not to the part of the handle I fuck fucking hate and almost gloss right the fuck over it. When was I reminded that that's the handle life fucking hate, the moment I had to try and say the damn handle. So and just happening. It's just happening. It's
all off the rails. Yeah. Yeah. Even though we're working sort of double time to be able to take next week off in genuinely take it off, which that was the mistake we made in June. Deal. Genuinely taking that 1. No. We didn't. I'm not like, overly stressed. I'm not you know, I'm just like, yeah. It's extra work, but I'm kinda looking forward to it. You know, I'm looking forward
to... The weekend we're better at this than Monday through Friday, I'm looking forward to whatever day where I feel like I would normally work waking up and going, I technically don't have to do a goddamn damn thing hey. I'm just gonna go rot on the couch. You know, I'm gonna read some books. So let's maybe watch some out outlandish let's... I don't know. I don't know. Drink coffee all day long. Mh. And then stare at the ceiling wired at been. It'll be fine. Right. Right. So I just...
Now I could... I I can... I'm better detecting when Burnout was trying to creep in, and I am much more protective of my own mental health that there are things life. I not only just don't wanna burn out. I we can't afford it. I know. I know we can't. I know. That's what happens when you make your passion, your livelihood and most of your livelihood around a couple of things that you have to do or they don't exist the downside side. So we're constantly trying to
strike the balance. And, yeah, if we had really taken that full week off, like we were supposed to. I think we'd would be fine. I think Yeah. We we wouldn't... It wouldn't have been a big deal, but we did not. Nope. And here we are. Yep. But know. You. Like, we've... We're talking the other day, and I said, said, I looked at Jb went. I know that a shout out. You are we are disconnected right now. In a way, I hate.
Mh. I said, and I know in a lot of ways and for a lot of reasons, I said, but I also know that neither of us has the bandwidth right now to figure out what the fuck is going on between us. And, really, I don't think it's anything between us. I think it's the creeping burnout where we're just You know, there's nothing new going on. There's nothing drastic. It's just... But we also talked about that this feels like this and I am got a
awful memory. So this could be inaccurate, but it feels like we go through something funky every summer. Is it the heat? I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. But Ta, That's a that's a pretty cool idea. Did you said just a thought, Podcast has 3 weeks a month, and post a previous classic on the fourth week rubric break. Maybe I I have been meaning to figure out how I could post old Mh. Episodes.
In a in a seamless easy to do way, not in a way that I've gotta go, like, we'll do something difficult. I don't know. We can think about it. We have. We we've got... We've been floating a lot of fun. We've we've got a few things We've been n right now and and, you know, these are things looking forward going into next year, but still Yeah. Because once we get through July, which is almost over. Yeah. And then really to about mid August, we sort of start our speed to the end of the
year, and we... For as busy as we get, we are joyous. I think yeah. We're exhausted, but we're, like, pumped at the end of the year. So we just... We gotta get through this. I don't know. Isn't the weather. Like, I know I'm burning up hot here tonight. Even even tonight after was sun's down. Yeah. I know. So I know. But... So updates, Lola went to the vet this... Week. Yes. Scott... We had this... We... She was so far behind. That visits we've split up all of her care.
Mostly to to not overwhelm us financially, but not to overwhelm her either. So this was sort of a follow up, get a couple of shots she needed, and then to check and see all she'd been doing from the previous visit, she lost a whole pan. Yep. She hated being at that fucking Vets. Oh, my god. We asked them to clip her nails for us while we were there
instead of, like, go into the... The groom down the street from us of her 5 bucks, but man, we got wrangler her into the car Yeah she hates going in because she smells the water and but she remembers the the bad mean place where they put soap on and we're like. The vet so let's just have it done here and be down with it. I I think she was too wasn't up. She she's pissed. As as it was, and, yeah, she just wasn't having it. Too was pissed. I
mean, she showed her to... She did not g. She not bark she not lunch, but she More of a more of a grim that Yeah. But it's her teeth. There's she kinda doesn't... The the tech was trying to clip her nails. Yeah. We got 75 percent of the nails clipped. Right. She did this thing. She she too is a girl who believes in clear communication. We're sitting in the little exam room. Right? Waiting. And we have her on the leash where we do not take her off the leash because who knows what happened.
She walks primarily from Jb, but sometimes for me, but she would go from Jb to the door that we came in from the door She knows is exit. But her nose to the door, stand there. Look at us. Go back. Look at us. Go back. Go walk back to Jimmy. Look at him? With big eyes. Yeah. Go... I mean, as she paced. Back of forth. Like, do you see... When I'm trying to explain to you people. Right? That's the door and we need to go it was an hour. To yeah. It it was a long visit,
but... She got... So normally, what we do for... Yes. We're trying to help her lose weight and also, yes, we give her treats. What of it? I believe in bribery. That's how we get shit done around here. Normally, it's like we go through Dunkin and we get her some, like, little munch or we go through with ben minute, it will go to Starbucks and get a pop cup. And I went, let's do something different this not, like a gigantic cup full of whipped cream. It's like, let's get her hamburger patties.
She forgave us everything. Oh after those amber repair. We owe. Yep. Yeah. She she might be more inclined than cor. Keep giving her amber. Oh, god. But, you know, you were pretty convinced she was gonna ignore you after that, and she really didn't. No. She didn't. And, I I really expected that after you know, all the stress of the day, yesterday between being at the bet the way she was so wound up, You know, she did get a shot. Yeah. It didn't seem to affect her of the.
No. It didn't. And, you know, they did tell tell us that, you know, she may be a little you know, low keyed, low energy after the shot, and I was kinda thinking, oh, well, I, you know, it might give me a break from having to walker her tonight. Oh, no. She wanted her walk last night. You keep trying to get breaks from walking, whether that's with me or with your dog, and neither of us happening. No. Now. We're not letting you get away with that. Not none all were
mh. Cutting me some stuff Look, Blow says her evening walks are good for her mental health. And I'm over here, like, the morning walks are good for mine. Let's not fuck this up. Oh, she loves bananas. Yeah. Dan funny. Bananas are great for Mh treat. You know, she can be somewhere in house. She will hear a banana being peeled a mile away and come running. What I really need to do is get some watermelon because yeah I'll do some sketchy shift. Over. Yes. You will. And the thing... So here's
the thing. I am clearly old, and have bought too many, like, locally grown watermelon in my lifetime. Every time I at the price of watermelon even now in season. I'm like, that's more than I used to pay. I'm not and the price for watermelon. I'm gonna have to get the fuck over and if I want watermelon again, but I just I haven't been able to make myself Hang. Know. But, no. We've we've but I really should because she really. We've... We... We've gotten really strict with her food
and her treats. I mean, yes, she got 2 burger patties yesterday, but her dinner was different to compensate. The adjusted to compensate for that, you know, her treats right now are carrots, apples. Bananas. Yeah. The only thing she gets us considered treat like. She's taking a bunch of pills right now. So those go in pill? Mh. Because we could not afford the amount of bread slash cheese. We have to divide be able to give her damn pill. But that... Like, her antibiotic that she had
an infection we didn't know about. They did her blood work last Month. They're like, oh, she has an infection here this his this antibiotic that's a hundred dollars. I was like fuck. Yeah. I've been very spoiled antibiotics. I usually have to take for, like 6. I don't. You. But it was 28 days and it was 3 and a half pills at a time. Think holy me shit. So it was like so once we get to stop doing that, then we're back to, like, a lot fewer on the pill potty. Yeah think. Yeah. But,
yeah. She's... She has forgiven us the vet appointment. She's got a lot of her energy back just in general. Oh, yeah. There are definitely pre, recording and streaming Zoom is going on around here again. Yeah. She's She's she's playing, you know, if she's back to doing the whole tug war thing again. Mh. Mh. So the cats are still as, yeah. Have always been. Oh, yeah. We've got a an outdoor not technically a stray, but definitely an outdoor cat who can decide if they like us or not.
It's 1 we've seen around for a while, when we left this morning to take our walk. And we have this little we have this little table, like a card table kind thing, set up outside our front door because of the amount of packages I leave out for our male carrier pick up from us, which is a wonderful problem to have, but I was like, I... They were constantly haven't would've have been down. I was like, let's just do
this whole table here. Well, when there's no boxes there herbs, you know, shipments be picked up. There's this cat that's just sitting there. Yep. Now this morning, they were sitting there, I think because the difference Sprinkler systems are going. Wrong. I'm trying stay dry. And for once, this cat wanted was okay with me betting it. And really didn't have any use for Jb. 1 like to do with me. Okay. This is what it it feels like to be special to a cat. Okay.
Okay. So Yeah. But, yeah, I mean, yeah. No. These... They're you know, K asked another another chat. No. No. These these cats are actually... They belong to the people next door, they're well taken care of, but they're outdoor cab. But they're they're they're... I think they're actually indoor outdoor. But no collar? No Not. No. Which I know, like, our neighbor to the other side of us. She tried to keep collars on her outdoor counts. And they could couldn't keep it off. File. What fuck it. Yeah.
But, no. They're... They they aren't... They belong next door, and they are taken care of. Part of, I think they come over and hang out with us because we have so much shade in our front yard and true. True. And and we have the little bird bath in the front. But these are also at least 1 of the cats from next door, we have caught up on the roof of the neighbor's house. Yeah. Just sitting like j the turtle, Overlooking their domain. The neighbor on the other side of us has an orange cat named koi
who I want him to love us. He 0 fucks together well just weird. He... We nope. He's not a people. He's is not people person. He are not his people... We will never be his people. He gets on her house. I'm like, well, do we have cats on our house? Right? Right. Waiting. So... Yeah. But I mean, other than that, oops yeah. I mean, we've just been keeping on keeping on. Mh. Mh. Know. Yeah. So it's been relatively quiet, which I will take down any damn day. Mh. The week.
It's just been busy. It's been hot. It's been... Elizabeth. But yeah. Just the nature Of I think it's raining right now, actually. I won't be mad about that And things down. So I guess that's it. Yeah. For us, there will be... If you are on our email list, you'll get an a newsletter on Friday there'll be the Monday podcast next Monday, but then that would be kinda quiet. If you see... Quote See us online is because I scheduled it. Y'all. We are going to do our absolute damned
to just sit on our couch. Yeah. And nothing else. That's that's the plan. We shall see when the universe door. Yep. So I guess we'll go. Mh. And we will talk to you y'all soon ish. U. Okay. Okay. Bye. Bye.