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Love Your People Well - Christian Motherhood Tips, Marriage Help, and Family Relationship Building

Jessica Hayes, LPC, LMFT - Christian Marriage And Family Therapist, Pastor’s Wife, Mom of 4loveyourpeoplewell.com
Welcome to the podcast that helps you build healthy, happy, and holy family relationships! As a marriage and family therapist, pastor’s wife, and mom of 4 little ones, I know the ups and downs of Christian family life can get overwhelming. We all get discouraged sometimes. And the busy world can distract us from what truly matters. That’s why every week here on the podcast, you’ll find biblical encouragement and practical tips to help you enjoy family life more. Together, we’ll deepen our marriages, strengthen our parenting, and find greater peace in the love of Christ. P.S. - Grab your freebies, devotionals, and more at www.LoveYourPeopleWell.com Hugs & blessings, friend. I’ll talk to you soon! ~ Jess
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Episodes

258 // Psalm 139: Are You Praying For What Really Matters? (Summertime In The Psalms Series)

Join the Faith Fiver Club to support the show for just a few dollars a month at Patreon! Episode 258 // Prayer is the centerpiece of Christian life. But it’s easy to spend too much time on the day-to-day little things and miss out on praying for the deeper, richer priorities of life. Today’s psalm will help us get back on track. We’ll take a look at Psalm 139 and consider together how our prayer lives for our family can focus on the biblical truths of what our families need. This is part of our ...

Jul 16, 20257 minEp. 258

257 // Psalm 88: How Can We Struggle And Suffer Well? (Summertime In The Psalms Series)

Join the Faith Fiver Club to support the show for just a few dollars a month at Patreon! Episode 257 // “But I cry to you for help, LORD; in the morning my prayer comes before you. Why, LORD, do you reject me and hide your face from me?” Psalm 88:13-14. Not an easy prayer. But this psalm is so REAL for us. We’ve all had these seasons, where we are desperate for the Lord’s help and yet we feel like He is absent and ignoring us. He’s not ignoring you, friend. He’s not absent. Join me today for a s...

Jul 09, 20259 minEp. 257

256 // Psalm 1: Who Is Influencing Your Children? (Summertime In The Psalms Series)

Join the Faith Fiver Club to support the show for just a few dollars a month at Patreon! Episode 256 // We’re diving into the Psalms for the month of July, and starting right at the beginning today! Psalm 1 is such a helpful reality check for each of us - for our own lives, but also for our responsibility as moms. Summer can bring a lot of fun and freedom… so perhaps it’s even more important to be intentional and biblically-minded about how we are allowing ourselves and our children to be influe...

Jul 02, 20257 minEp. 256

255 // Don’t Let Summer Slip By! Boost Your Family Bond With A Few Fun (Realistic) Activities

Go deeper with the Stress Relief Workbook for Christian Moms . Episode 255 // Summertime is a chance for great fun and family bonding… and a chance for extra bickering, cranky kids, and one million repetitions of “I’m bored.” No more, friend. Today, we’ll tackle a few angles to Summer Mom Life: a few reality checks about how to manage summer stressors, 10 fun and free ideas for family bonding, PLUS one big warning - to make sure you can fully enjoy this summer with your family! Hop in, find some...

Jun 25, 202522 minEp. 255

254 // 10 Fun Ideas For Family Discipleship Activities This Summer (For Any Age)

Grab my Family Faith Challenge on Etsy ! Episode 254 // Family discipleship is a key responsibility for Christian parents. But what does that really mean? What can it look like for toddlers or teens? As you dive into the summertime, this is a unique chance to try something new and go deeper with your kids. Yes, you want a fun summer - but you also want it to be meaningful! Join me today for a look at what “family discipleship” really means, and 10 ideas to engage your kids in their Christian fai...

Jun 18, 202522 minEp. 254

253 // A Summer Of Self-Reflection: Tips, Strategies, And Resources From A Christian Family Therapist Perspective

Dive into Scripture and build the home life you want with the Building A Home Of Godliness And Joy Devotional Workbook . Episode 253 // Today, I want to offer a few quick ideas on how to make your summer more meaningful - for yourself and for your whole family! Yes, do the big vacations and the fun events and the special summer things. But summer is also a unique (and perfect!) time for self-reflection. You can continue growing in your walk with the Lord and your family relationships even while ...

Jun 11, 202522 minEp. 253

252 // End Conflict In Your Marriage Quickly (PLUS My Free Cheat Sheet)

Grab my 40-day devotional on marriage communication: Communicating To Connect Episode 252 // Did you know that your relationship can grow deeper, closer, and better if you figure out how to handle conflict well? I’ve been a marriage and family therapist for over 10 years. And in today’s episode, I want to share my process for healthy, happy, and holy conflict resolution. You can just grab the FREEBIE of my 10-point cheat sheet right here . But it’s definitely helpful to talk it through! So pop i...

Jun 04, 202527 minEp. 252

251 // How A Christian Mom Serves Her Family Well… With A Warning

Grab the devotional workbook today: Building A Home Of Godliness And Joy. Episode 251 // Can you enjoy a healthy, happy, and holy family life without serving one another out of love? The idea of serving others is counter-cultural. We think it won’t feel good, it will feel hard, we might get taken advantage of… Yet, this is how Jesus calls on Christians to show their love for each other! And no one serves others more than a mom. It’s what we’re famous for! It’s important, even though it is someti...

May 28, 202526 minEp. 251

250 // You Need To Read Your Bible More: Why, How, & Practical Tips For Busy Christian Moms

Grab your FREE Holy Habits 45-day Bible And Prayer Challenge here ! Episode 250 // It’s a cliche in Christian circles… “I should read the Bible more.” Or maybe, “I wish I read the Bible more.” Sometimes we beat ourselves up about it: “Gosh, why can’t I seem to regularly read my Bible?!” It’s a thing many of us wish to be more consistent with. So why aren’t we? Does it really matter anyway? How could we get things moving in a direction we’re happy with? Let’s go there. Today, those are exactly th...

May 21, 202530 minEp. 250

249 // 3 Ways Satan Is Seeking To Destroy Your Family And Your Faith

Deepen your Christian walk with the Finding Your Identity In Christ devotional workbook! Episode 249 // It’s easy to get caught up in the flow of everyday life. But do you realize that there is an Enemy at war against you? At war against your family? As Christians, we often think about the power of Jesus Christ in our lives and we pray for the Holy Spirit’s help as we struggle, grow, and journey through life. And the Bible is clear that these things are true and good. But the Bible is also clear...

May 14, 202524 minEp. 249

248 // Help! How Can I Help My Struggling Child? (10 Tips To Help Them)

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day Devotional on finding biblical joy in the hard seasons of motherhood . Episode 248 // There’s nothing more painful than watching your kids struggle. But when they are struggling, there are ways that you can help! Last week, we looked at caring for our hearts when our kids struggle. Today, let’s dive into some practical tips for how to HELP them when they are struggling. I’ve been a family counselor for over 10 years, and I’ve thought through these tips based on...

May 07, 202527 minEp. 248

247 // Help! My Kids Are Struggling And I Feel Helpless. (10 Tips To Help You)

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day Devotional on finding biblical joy in the hard seasons of motherhood . Episode 247 // When you are hurting because your kids are hurting… what can you do? We usually want to jump to action steps to help them. What should I say? What can I do? Those things are important… and we’ll tackle that next week :-) But we can’t just jump over the pain that WE experience when our kids are struggling. And that’s what we’re looking at today. When our kids hurt, we hurt. Whe...

Apr 30, 202529 minEp. 247

246 // Taming Your Tongue: Practical Tips From The Proverbs

Grab your FREE conflict resolution cheat sheet today ! Episode 246 // Want to change your family relationships? Your home atmosphere? Change your words. What you say, and how you say it, will shape every relationship you care about. Scripture talks often about our words and how we use them. And the Bible gives very specific wisdom about how to use our words to strengthen our relationships, bless others, and enjoy family life more and more. Join me to dive into 5 specific, actionable tips straigh...

Apr 23, 202529 minEp. 246

Who Is This Jesus? A Devotional For Holy Week in Colossians 1:15-23 [BONUS]

We are in the middle of Holy Week, friends. The week when we remember Jesus’ last days as He walked toward the cross. We celebrate the forgiveness of our sins on Good Friday and the incredible truth of the resurrection on Easter Sunday. So today, we’ll pause our usual podcast plans to reflect together. I want to share my “Daily-ish Devotional Thought” from inside the Faith Fiver Club - the Patreon community supporting this show! Join me as we walk through Colossians 1:15-23 and reflect together ...

Apr 15, 202516 min

245 // Can You Tame Your Tongue? Wisdom And Encouragement From James 3

Grab the Keep Your Cool, Mama! 40-day devotional on emotional control . Episode 245 // Scripture offers great encouragements - and great warnings - about the power of our tongue. Words tend to shape the quality of our relationships, and they can slip out quickly. Our words are shaped by our emotions. And just like our emotions can be hard to manage, our tongues are sometimes even more so! Today, let’s sit together in James 3, seeking the Lord’s wisdom and encouragement for how we use our words a...

Apr 09, 202521 minEp. 245

244 // Handling Your Hot Moment: 9 Tips To Start Calming Down In The First 90 Seconds

Grab the Keep Your Cool, Mama! 40-day devotional on emotional control . Episode 244 // We all have those moments when we’re about to lose it. How can you cool down when you’re in that hot-button moment? This is a common mom struggle - even for Christian mamas who are walking closely with Jesus! And we want our words and our reactions to show the fruit of the Spirit in every situation. So today, I want to share 9 quick tips for what to do as soon as you notice you’re getting heated. Hopefully, be...

Apr 02, 202529 minEp. 244

243 // Yes, Your Emotional Struggles Are Impacting Your Family: How, Why, And What To Do

Grab a FREE Bible study for managing depression and sadness . Episode 243 // Big, heavy, hard emotions are going to happen in life. And one of the problems is that they won’t just impact you. When you’re struggling, your whole family is impacted. So in today’s episode, I want to share 5 ways that your emotional struggles are impacting your family (despite your best efforts) - AND 5 very practical, quick things you can do right away to help. This is coming from my 10+ years as a mental health cou...

Mar 26, 202529 minEp. 243

242 // Why Emotions Are Tough To Manage, And How To Get Your Heart Back Under Control

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day devotional, to find biblical joy even in the hardest seasons of motherhood . Episode 242 // Do you sometimes feel totally overwhelmed by your emotions? Anxiety. Anger. Sadness. Stress. Every mom has seasons of hard emotions. But it’s worth asking the question… why. Why are you struggling? When we understand some of the “why” it’s a lot easier to find some ideas for what to do about it. How to move forward, change things, and begin to heal. Those are the two que...

Mar 19, 202525 minEp. 242

241 // Part 2: Spiritual Action Steps To Help You Stand Firm, Feel Better, And Manage Emotions Well

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day devotional, to find biblical joy even in the hardest seasons of motherhood . Episode 241 // Ready for part 2? We’ve looked at the 5 practical steps that help us manage seasons of stress and overwhelming emotions. But what about the spiritual action steps? Those are even MORE important! We all go through emotionally hard seasons of life - and it makes a world of difference to stand firm in your faith through the storm. These 5 steps are central, friend. In part ...

Mar 14, 202521 minEp. 241

240 // Part 1: Practical Action Steps To Help You Feel Better When You’re Stressed And Emotional

Grab the Keep Your Cool, Mama! 40-day devotional on emotional control . Episode 240 // Feeling stressed? Pressured? Overwhelmed by big emotions? You are not alone - and there are action steps that will help! I’m going to divide this conversation into two parts. Today, join me to look at 5 practical things we should all do when we’re in the overwhelming seasons of life. These are steps that I walk through as a counselor whenever someone is overwhelmed by emotions. These steps work. In the next ep...

Mar 11, 202523 minEp. 240

239 // I Can’t Handle These Emotions! Understanding The 4 Most Common Emotional Struggles That Moms Deal With

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day devotional, to find biblical joy even in the hardest seasons of motherhood . Episode 239 // Emotions can be totally overwhelming. But, understanding them can be really helpful in getting them under control - so they stop hurting your family relationships. Today, we’ll take a look at understanding the 4 most common emotional struggles that Christian moms deal with: Anxiety, Depression, Stress, and Burnout. What are they? How can we deal with them? I’ll share my ...

Mar 04, 202523 minEp. 239

238 // A Season Of Stress: 10 Encouragements For Finding Light At The End Of The Tunnel

Grab the Joy In The Journey 40-day devotional, to find biblical joy even in the hardest seasons of motherhood . Episode 238 // Stress is inevitable. It’s not fun - but we know it will happen eventually. And when stress hits us, we need to know there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Well, friend, my family has been going through a very stressful season. The past 3 weeks, but even bigger - the past year and a half. We’re enough on the other side of it that I can look back and see some lessons ...

Feb 25, 202528 minEp. 238

237 // My Favorite Intimacy Tip As A Christian Marriage Counselor

Dive into my recommended online intimacy courses for Christian marriages ! Episode 237 // Happy Valentine’s Day! I thought today that I’d share my favorite tip from 10+ years as a marriage counselor. It’s not complicated (though, simple things aren’t always easy things) and it will make a BIG difference in a happy marriage! Communication + intimacy are closely tied together - and that’s part of what makes this tip so powerful. If you want more support with intimacy in your Christian marriage, I ...

Feb 14, 202511 minEp. 237

236 // Solving Your 3 Biggest Marriage Communication Problems

Grab your FREE conflict resolution cheat sheet to help your marriage communication today. Episode 236 // Communication is a centerpiece of a healthy and happy marriage. You can’t enjoy intimacy together, stay on the same page as parents, or feel connected and close without good communication. And in my 10+ years a marriage therapist, there are 3 communication problems that pop up over and over again. They are very common - even for couples who love each other deeply, follow Jesus, and work hard ...

Feb 11, 202525 minEp. 236

235 // 5 Scriptures That Show Us What A Good Parent Looks Like

Build your own habit of daily Bible reading and prayer with my FREE 45-day guide ! Episode 235 // I won’t waste your time asking if you want to be a good parent. My real question is… do you have a clear picture of what that would mean? What is a good parent? What should we be doing, saying, praying about, spending our time on? This is a wildly important question - and Scripture gives us the answers we need. So, join me today to dive into 5 helpful Bible passages that show us what a good parent l...

Feb 07, 202527 minEp. 235

234 // Gospel Hope In Your Grief, Trials, And Hardships

Joy In The Journey is the perfect devotional to help you find biblical joy during seasons of hardship . Episode 234 // Every family will go through seasons of grief. Seasons that are painful, hard, and threaten to completely overwhelm us. So what can you do? How can you survive? How can you help your loved ones as they struggle? Join me today to look at 10 biblical tips for things we can do during these seasons of grief. Action steps that will help us cling to Jesus and stand on his hope while w...

Feb 04, 202525 minEp. 234

233 // How To Ask The Right Questions To Deepen Your Family Relationships: 10 Tips From A Family Therapist

Grab your FREE conflict resolution cheat sheet to strengthen communication in your home! - - - - - Episode 233 // Relationships grow (or fade) based on our communication and connection with each other. And a centerpiece of those conversations are the questions we’re asking. You want to enjoy marriage, connect with your kids, have meaningful conversations - and to do that, you need to ask good questions! So today, I want to share some tips from my experience as a family counselor, to help you ask...

Jan 31, 202524 minEp. 233

232 // Tackle These 3 Roadblocks ASAP And Get Your Goals Back On Track

Grab your FREE ebook! Building Your Mom Toolbox: The 5 Skills Every Mom Needs To Get Your Family Out Of The Rut And Reconnect Dive into the Keep Your Cool, Mama! 40-Day Devotional On Emotional Control . Episode 232 // Your life is BUSY. But you still have goals that you want to accomplish! Probably a few New Years resolutions, goals, commitments that are still important to you… even at the end of January. So today, let’s tackle the 3 most common barriers that get in the way. What are they, and h...

Jan 28, 202522 minEp. 232

[BONUS] Wisdom & Folly, Life & Death... A Daily-Ish Devotional From Proverbs 9

Friends, today is a quick bonus episode.... to give my voice a break after being sick, and to give you a sneak peak of what's happening inside the Faith Fiver Club in 2025! This year, the Faith Fiver Club perk is a daily-ish devotional just for Patreon supporters! With a private podcast + emailed devotional, you'll get encouragement for faith and family life every day. It's never too late to join, and your support is a great blessing to me and my ministry! Join the Faith Fiver Club Now! www.patr...

Jan 24, 20257 min

231 // 10 Coping Skills Every Christian Mom Needs In Those Hard Seasons

Find biblical joy in the hard seasons of motherhood with the Joy In The Journey 40-Day Devotional . Episode 231 // Every mom has hard days. Hard seasons. We get stressed, we struggle - and yes, we’ve all heard about “coping skills”... but that doesn’t mean they are really all that helpful in the crisis moment. Until now. Join me today for a look at 10 categories of coping skills that every Christian mom needs. Build coping into a healthy rhythm of your life, and those crisis moments will be far ...

Jan 21, 202530 minEp. 231
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