Female Pelvic Pain and Its Relationship to Emotions & Trauma Dr. Adriana Martí When sex hurts, experts still have tons of unanswered questions. Since we don’t have much accurate data on the various conditions that make intercourse painful, women often suffer in silence. To help sort this out, Dr. Diana Wiley, a sex therapist, and Dr. Adriana Martí, a pain psychologist, had an informative conversation. Dr. Martí uses the biopsychosocial model , which has emerged as the most comprehensive fram...
Jul 16, 2025•59 min•Ep. 213
ERECTILE DYSFUNTION: How It Happens, What Can Go Wrong, and Solutions Dr. Paul Joannides is the author of Guide to Getting It On , now in its Tenth Edition. This is a well-known guide on sexuality which is used in college and medical school sex-ed courses in the U.S. and Canada. Please check out his comprehensive, informative website -- www.guidetogettingiton.com . Dr. Paul and Dr. Diana began with the biological/medical aspects of erectile dysfunction (ED). Dr. Paul reports that 50% of men have...
Jun 18, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 212
MENOPAUSAL HORMONE THERAPY, Part 2, with Dr. Rebecka Hoppins, ND, March 18, 2025 There is a large body of accumulated scientific research to support the thesis that Sexual Pleasure and Health are inextricably linked! In Part 2, Dr. Becky, a Naturopathic Physician, and Dr. Diana a Sex Therapist, continued their conversation from January 28th. In Part 1, menopause myths were debunked, and menopausal women with low libido were offered some solutions. Dr. Diana asked Dr. Becky How do you optimize a ...
Mar 20, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 211
Menopausal Hormone Therapy Sex and the older woman used to be considered an oxymoron, rarely mentioned in the same breath. Finally, menopause is having big media moments, including a just-published book, Dare I Say It – Everything I Wish I’d Known About Menopause , by Naomi Watts. Nearly thirty years ago, I was fortunate to be in the right place at the right time. I was living in Honolulu and hosted a radio show “Fifty-Plus and Fabulous – A Show About Successful Aging.” One of my guests was a me...
Jan 29, 2025•1 hr•Ep. 210
A Tribute to Dr. Ruth Westheimer (1928-2024), Who Taught America How to Talk about Sex Dr. Ruth talked publicly about sex more than anyone else. Ever. She was my inspiration to do media work. In 1980 I began listening to her radio call-in show “Sexually Speaking.” In 1982 I watched her first appearance on The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson Show , a footstool under her feet because she was 4-foot 7. She spoke openly and with enthusiasm about sex – including masturbation. In those days, publi...
Aug 01, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 209
A Second Tribute to Candid Royalle, with Jamye Waxman As sex therapists and longtime friends of Candida Royalle (actual name Candice Vadala), Jamye and Diana appreciate Candice’s thirst for self-knowledge. She wrote in 2013, “Still trying to unlock the key to myself.” She also wrote, “I will not let my past ruin my future.” For decades Candice struggled to view herself through her own eyes, rather than through the eyes of some guy. Jamye Waxman ( www.waxmansextherapy.com ) spoke in response to D...
May 22, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 208
A Tribute to Candida Royalle & the Sexual Revolution with Veronica Vera Diana Wiley and Veronica Vera were each longtime, close friends of Candida Royalle , a pioneer in producing female-friendly pornographic films. Both women were interviewed by Jane Kamensky , former professor of history at Havard and director of the Elizabeth Schlesinger Library on the History of Women in America, for her recently released biography: Candida Royalle & the Sexual Revolution – A History from Below . The...
Apr 03, 2024•59 min•Ep. 207
Technology Changes Sex Education – What Parents Need to Know to Talk to Their Teens Dr. Diana Wiley interviewed her amazing colleague Dr. Debby Herbenick , Provost Professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health, and Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion . Dr. Debby has just published her sixth book: Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today's Teens and Sex . She is widely considered one of the country’s most credible sources of accurate scientific information...
Jan 31, 2024•57 min•Ep. 206
ANDROPAUSE, sometimes called MALE MENOPAUSE Though the potency crisis that hits many men in middle age has some obvious causes – age, alcohol, stress – the decline is hormonal and psychological as well. Men often won’t discuss it with their doctors, their wives, or their lovers. Dr. Stephanie Buehler ( www.LearnSexTherapy.com ), heading up The Buehler Institute, joined the program once again. When men and women face the same passages with different needs and directions, how does the partnership ...
Nov 22, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 205
The Scariest Halloween Goblin: Many young men get their sex education from porn! Dr. Paul Joannides, author of Guide to Getting It On , now in its 10th Edition, is seriously concerned about how porn affects young men. A great deal of sexual misery stems from mistaken beliefs! There is very little competent sex education to help. Dr Paul, realizing that many young men, teenagers included, are compulsive about video gaming, developed the website Real Dude Radio to reach this audience with accurate...
Nov 01, 2023•59 min•Ep. 204
Sexual Communication Improves As We Get Older Dr. Stephanie Buehler joins Dr. Diana in a conversation about sexual communication; later, the sex docs speak about menopause. Dr. Stephanie Buehler ( www.LearnSexTherapy.com ) is a licensed psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She is the author of several books on sexuality and relationships. Dr. Stephanie notes how important it is for the aging person to acknowledge and cope with changes. What doesn’t change is the soluti...
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 203
Is the “Barbie” Movie Layered with Subversive Messages? Nicole McNichols, PhD – The Sex Professor – www.nicolethesexprofessor.com – joins Dr. Diana to review the movie “Barbie.” They explored layered themes, including body image, appearances, perfectionism, and shame. It’s not surprising that for the past 64 years, Barbie has been at the center of debates about who women are, who they should be, how they look, and what they want. The “Barbie” movie reveals many answers! Body Image/Appearances – ...
Aug 09, 2023•59 min•Ep. 202
Alternative Relationship Arrangements David Steinberg is a writer of consummate intelligence and compassion! Whether he is writing books or taking photographs, it comes across that sex is who we are, how we live, and how we experience pleasure and life. I’ve known David since 1988 when his first book Erotic by Nature was published. We’ve been friends for 35 years! David and I discuss Open Relationships (one aspect of ethical nonmonogamy) and Living Apart Together. David and Kim, his partner of 1...
Jul 19, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 201
Getting “Sex Smart” with Dr. Mark Schoen Dr. Mark Schoen is a sex educator and a filmmaker whose website www.SexSmartFilms.com has been called the “Netflix of sex education.” Fifteen years ago, Dr. Mark started with 46 films and now his site has over 600 films divided into three categories – Education, Research, and Therapy . Many universities use Sex Smart Films knowing that it is a sex educator’s dream come true! Parents need to familiarize themselves with the Education section of the site. Re...
May 31, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 200
Dr. Jordan Tishler, MD, is a cannabis specialist with a practice in Boston. Dr. Tishler graduated from both Harvard College and Harvard Medical School. Now he helps patients around the world. All of his appointments are virtual. His website has lots of helpful information. Soon Dr. Tishler will publish his randomized, controlled study with one thousand females, looking at situational orgasmic disorders. Most women can bring themselves to orgasm by masturbating, especially using a vibrating toy. ...
Apr 19, 2023•59 min•Ep. 199
Talk about WILD MONOGAMY! Listen to this satisfied couple: “Sex is the glue that keeps us tight – when your rhythms are the same, your fantasies, tastes, and levels of desire mesh and blend because you know this is not to be found on any corner just ahead.” Mali Apple and Joe Dunn (www.MaliandJoe.com) have this sort of sexual relationship, this sort of intimacy. And they wrote about it. The authors draw on stories from real people and the latest research on sex and love. Their forthcoming book, ...
Mar 22, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 198
VALENTINE’S DAY is coming soon – LET’S TALK ROMANCE! Dr. Ashley Mader (www.Ourshine.org) joined Dr. Diana to talk about love and romance. After all, love is a topic central to our lives and our search for meaning; alas, mystery and myth still cling. The two sex therapists explored three areas: They first targeted singles with the question: Who is my perfect romantic partner? A study in Proceedings of the National Academy of Science in 2020 addressed this topic. Sorting through a massive data-set...
Feb 08, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 197
GOALS FOR 2023: Integrating More Intimacy and Avoiding Bad Sex To help Dr. Diana explore these goals for 2023, she welcomed back Dr. Ashley Mader to Love, Lust and Laughter. Dr. Ashely is a sex therapist, educator, and consultant ( www.ourshine.org ). We two sex therapists talked about “How to Have Bad Sex” and how to turn those negatives into positives. Having bad sex requires that you: Compare Yourself to Others. Sexuality may be the most subjective aspect of human experience. Forget the magaz...
Jan 11, 2023•59 min•Ep. 196
JOY & STRESS – IT’S THE HOLIDAYS! Dr. Carol Queen’s Good Vibrations platform allows her to focus on sex education and women’s pleasure. There is an abundance of sex education in The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone. Dr. Diana and Dr. Carol enjoyed a conversation about joys and stressors over the holidays. To have more joy, we need to manage our stress better! The mind-body approach – the brain is locked in an intricate embrace with the body. It turns o...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 195
Dr. Carol Queen Is a “Cultural Sexologist” – Politically And Socially She is the Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations , a nationwide chain of sex toy stores. Since 1990 Dr. Carol has enjoyed a unique platform to focus on sex education and women’s pleasure. Her sex education is published in The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone . The midterms revealed notable pro-choice outcomes. Abortion is healthcare and bodily autonomy is a human right! There is a long his...
Nov 23, 2022•56 min•Ep. 194
