We’ve all done it. We start to like someone and suddenly we’ve built a whole narrative around what our future could look like with them. They feel like a rare antidote we’ve stumbled across that will take us out of being single and into the relationship we so badly want. The issue is, in the process of doing this, we rob ourselves of the ability to enjoy the experience—too stuck in our heads to be in the moment. We also run the risk of self-sabotaging as we try to see danger where there isn’t an...
Jul 08, 2022•8 min
It's normal for us to date someone with a different attachment style from our own. But how do we know if someone is compatible with us longterm? And are there certain behaviours that tell us the relationship is ultimately doomed? In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss attachment styles, how we can communicate with someone who shows a behaviour that makes us unsure about them, and if your partner can ever change. --- Join Matt's FREE 2-hour "Dating With Results" live training at Dating...
Jul 06, 2022•1 hr 11 min
When it comes to dating, does the fear of rejection stop you from being yourself? Whether it’s approaching someone at a coffee shop, reaching out first on an app, or allowing yourself to “let go” whilst on a date, this fear is the very thing that will have you looking back wistfully and saying “What if?” years from now rather than saying “Why not?” in the moment. Of course, in a world where people are constantly trying to curate and filter their lives, it’s no wonder most of us find it scary to ...
Jul 04, 2022•12 min
If you’ve got someone in your life who’s either treated you carelessly or simply not investing, check this episode out because I’ll tell you what to do. May my voice of reason forever haunt you in your dreams. I don’t want to spend more time giving energy to these terms and phenomena that aren’t what you want in the first place, I’d rather give time to finding people who are serious in your life. If you want to stop over analysing things that don’t matter, and start actually pursuing things that...
Jul 01, 2022•8 min
Sometimes you're dating someone who gives you mixed signals. You feel you have amazing chemistry and he pays you lots of attention in person, but in between your dates it's like he's disappeared. Matt, Stephen and Audrey talk about what this could mean and how you can respond when there's a mismatch so you don't get stuck in limbo. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat! - Claim Your Limited Time Early Bird Discount ($200 OFF the usual price!) for The Virtual Retreat at MHVirtualRetreat.com - Offer e...
Jun 29, 2022•1 hr 9 min
Today's episode will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to th...
Jun 27, 2022•25 min
Tired of being trapped in limbo when someone doesn't know what they really want? It's easy for people to not want to commit while STILL craving the comfort of keeping you around. If you're stuck in this trap, listen to this NOW . . . --- Join our next Virtual Retreat! - Claim Your Limited Time Early Bird Discount ($200 OFF the usual price!) for The Virtual Retreat at MHVirtualRetreat.com - Offer ends July 6th. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at po...
Jun 24, 2022•6 min
You may have been dating a guy that seemed promising, until he said that ONE thing, or you saw ONE behaviour, and it totally turned you off. Or you've been together for 6 months, and your attraction has now turned to repulsion. This is "the ick", and in this episode, Matt, Stephen, and Audrey sit down to look at how this strange phenomenon occurs and what it says about attraction. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat! - Claim Your Limited Time Early Bird Discount ($200 OFF the usual price!) for The...
Jun 22, 2022•1 hr 7 min
In this episode, I talk about some of the top questions I’ve been asked on the topic of keeping someone's interest and when to sleep together —the ones that cause people to reach out to me in SOS mode—including: • When to have sex with someone you’re dating. • How to have the conversation about sex before you sleep together (and as a bonus, I even provide a sample script you can adapt). • How to handle rejection and ghosting. I promise you won’t have to worry about “losing your power” ever again...
Jun 20, 2022•20 min
If you've ever expressed your needs to someone, or tried to tell them about something they did that hurt you, and you were made to feel crazy, this video is for you. It's a horrible feeling when we are upset or anxious and we don't even know if what we are saying is reasonable or whether we are overreacting . . . That's why I'm so excited for you to see this - it's going to show you how to get your personal power back and make sense of the situation. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat! - Claim Yo...
Jun 17, 2022•8 min
“Where can I meet quality men?” I’ve probably been asked this question every day for the last 15 years. Between endless swiping on apps and being in the same friendship circles, many people struggle to even meet people they feel attracted to. But is there actually an untapped magical place teeming with single guys? Should you go to a Tough Mudder to find your (slightly-dirt-stained) person? In today’s episode, I get to the bottom of these questions and reveal how you can dramatically increase yo...
Jun 13, 2022•18 min
What’s the #1 sexiest thing a woman can do on a first date? Play footsie under the table? Wear a low-cut V-neck sweater? Whisper, “Hey handsome” in his ear when he gives you a hug? Nope. While those things won’t by any means hurt your chances, what really makes a guy want you depends on how you make him feel in your company. He needs to feel intrigued. He needs to feel attractive. He needs to feel a sense of fun . . . This week, I’m going to teach you 5 killer lines you can say to any guy to fil...
Jun 10, 2022•7 min
Do you worry about attracting the wrong people? Feel like you struggle to trust that a partner won’t betray you or turn out to be different than you predicted? In this episode, Matt talks about how you can overcome your fear of choosing the wrong person and build self-trust. --- Design Your North Star With Men & Be Confident in Every Decision. Claim Your Early Bird Discount for The Virtual Retreat at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with t...
Jun 08, 2022•57 min
One of the biggest frustrations about red flags is that they can be filtered out by our rose-colored glasses, only allowing us to see them clearly in hindsight. But there are ways to appropriately respond to red flags in early dating (if you can spot them), and in this episode, I show you one way to “crack the code” . . . That is, of course, to always have a North Star. This week, I walk through what, exactly, a North Star is, why it’s so important to have in order to be successful in dating, an...
Jun 06, 2022•18 min
Don't "jump the gun" and get ahead of yourself just because you meet someone you like. If you fall hard for people too early, this message from Matt is for you... --- Join our Love Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected] --- ►► FREE guide to download: “3 Secrets...
Jun 03, 2022•7 min
Want to know what he's really thinking on a first date? What do men worry about when looking for love? Matt and Stephen asked thousands of men in our audience about their BIGGEST insecurities and the answers were pretty amazing. If you want a real eye-opening window into male fears and his psychology in dating, you're going to love this. --- Join our Love Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASK...
Jun 01, 2022•1 hr 6 min
So, this wasn't the episode we planned to release this week. But an online conversation turned into something so unexpected that we scrapped the original plan and recorded something new, because I couldn't wait to talk about it. I asked men about their specific insecurities when it comes to early dating. And what we got back was more vulnerable and real than anyone expected. Not only that, but the women's responses to the men's candid comments were beautiful. The incredible responses also brough...
May 30, 2022•12 min
Ever felt let down from someone who promised to call but never did? Listen to this clip of Matt live coaching on how to move on when you feel disappointed from ghosting and build your confidence back today. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at [email protected] --- Join our Love.Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. --- Fo...
May 27, 2022•9 min
Is it too picky to want to date who shares similar qualities to you? And when should you be more open-minded about who you choose a relationship with? Join Matt and Stephen to talk about pickiness, standards, and mindsets that can make finding love harder. --- Download your FREE guide at 9Texts.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected]...
May 25, 2022•1 hr 12 min
When you’re dating in 2022, you can almost be sure that the person in front of you on that first date is dating multiple people at the same time. This omnipresent truth can make you nervous as you so desperately want to stand out from the crowd. The truth is, we all want so badly to be unforgettable on a date . . . but actually making that happen can feel tricky. In the pursuit of “making someone like us,” we may give in to the knee-jerk reaction of trying to impress them, or worse . . . people ...
May 23, 2022•16 min
Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you? Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people? It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want. In this video, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end of this video, I give you a practical “mind ...
May 20, 2022•5 min
It’s very common that we hear from women who say “men are intimidated by me!” But what causes this? Is it male insecurity? Do men instinctively get turned off by a woman’s success, income, or assertiveness? In this episode, Matt and Stephen sit down to talk about how this happens, what it means for our dating lives, and the dating dynamics between men and women. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected]...
May 18, 2022•1 hr 11 min
Do you get nervous that you’re not good enough? Feel a deep inner worry that you’re a “fraud” waiting to get found out? This is called “Imposter Syndrome”, and it’s a common trap that can make us live with SO much unnecessary anxiety and it holds us back from opportunities. In this clip, Matt explains how to defeat imposter syndrome with a simple mindset reframe. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → ...
May 13, 2022•7 min
When it comes to sex, some of us have very specific ideas about what it should be like in a relationship. There’s the “sexual destiny” mindset, which says that sex should be amazing from the start and is entirely about natural chemistry. Then there’s the “sexual growth” mindset, which says that sex can improve over time and couples can work out sexual differences. In this episode, Matt and Stephen discuss the difference between these mindsets and what they mean for a potential relationship. --- ...
May 11, 2022•43 min
When a relationship with someone we had strong feelings for (or even loved) ends, we tend to get overwhelmed with emotions. Whether we were with them for a short period of time or in a long, committed relationship, these feelings are universal. They can come in the form of raw heartbreak, the feeling that we’ve lost control over our happiness, a paralyzing fear that they might move on, an overwhelming desperation to get them back, or simply the pain of missing someone who used to be a constant i...
May 09, 2022•26 min
Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that make him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this clip, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and a...
May 06, 2022•4 min
What do you do if you feel a special connection, but he keeps you waiting on the big question of commitment? In a spontaneous Instagram live, Matt recently coached a follower who was struggling with this exact dilemma. If you’re sick of sitting in the “waiting room” and hoping for something to change, make sure you listen to this message. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com ...
May 04, 2022•32 min
Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness. But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person? Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to ...
May 02, 2022•15 min
What should you look for BEFORE you even enter into a new relationship, to figure out if your attachment styles are compatible? Having a reliable and steady partner may not get as much attention as other “sexier” attributes, but it really is a beautiful thing. Knowing you can depend on someone romantically, physically, and emotionally can draw you even closer together—strengthening your growing bond. In this episode, Matt explains what it takes to avoid codependency and have the kind of healthy ...
Apr 29, 2022•12 min
How do we find the right person if we're always falling for the wrong one? It's a common problem, one that can make you feel doomed to always be in unsatisfying relationship cycles over and over again. In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Jameson talk about why we feel this way towards certain people with negative traits and how we can heal so we align with the right kind of partner for us. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retrea...
Apr 27, 2022•57 min
