It’s entirely possible that it’s just the contrarian in me, but I kind of love when I am talking to a guest who is like ‘been there, done that, do not want to go back’. Because, yes, I love hearing about queer nightlife, and how accessing those spaces helps you tap into something bigger than yourself, but it’s important not to over romanticise them. And, on top of that, it's always nice to be reminded that there are bigger and better things out there in the wild world. And I was reminded of just...
May 28, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 273
Ok, so this just might be the most obvious statement that I've ever made. And, that's really saying something, considering all of the clangers that I come out with... But... it's kind of incredible how much our family and our early years define us. Like, so much of who I am is because of who they are. And, vice versa, I suppose. But, there's something really interesting in the messages that we chose to internalise and how difficult those are to shake off. But, like, what would happen if we just ...
May 21, 2025•40 min•Season 1Ep. 276
Have you ever decided that you were going to go celibate and swear off sex forever? Probably. It happens. Now, my follow up question - have you ever promised that you'd go celibate to... oh, i don't know, let's say,,,, thousands upon thousands of evangelical christians and then felt the weight of all of their expectations upon you whilst you're still trying to wrestle with your sexuality and identity? No, I didn't think so. Me either. But this week's guest, the sex and intimacy coach, porn star,...
May 14, 2025•47 min•Season 1Ep. 275
Do you remember the person that you were before you first had your heart broken? How you moved through the world? How you approached relationships and falling in love? Do you ever miss that person? This week I caught up with comedian Glo Butler, and though we sat down to talk about the Fab Lounge, a lesbian bar in Washington DC, what we talked about was the people she met there and how they changed her outlook on life, love, and lesbian bars. Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespo...
May 07, 2025•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 274
This week's episode feels like a bit of a culmination of different thoughts that have been bubbling up from recent conversations on the show. First, there’s my realisation that I’m more of a sponge than an island — and I know that sounds cryptic, but it’s really not. It's just this idea that who we are is shaped as much by what’s going on around us as it is by what’s inside us. Then there’s been a lot of talk about people pleasing — that’s come up in a few conversations lately too. But don't wor...
Apr 30, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 259
This week it's the story of The Copa, a club that was found (across two different sites) in Flint, Michigan between the years of 1980-1995 But, really, it's a love story. And the first scene in this love story just happened to be at The Copa. And, who is here to tell us all about it? Why, it's the self-proclaimed 'professional homosexual' Greg R Baird, who is a Global Lecturer on LGBTQIA+ Civil Rights, Allyship & Community. Greg is currently working on his memoir, and so ...
Apr 23, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 272
Subscribe to my newsletter Queer Word , where we explore and unpack a different queer word every week. You know how we talk about queer spaces as a place where you can just be yourself? And we talk about how liberating and exciting and freeing that is? Well, what if the opposite is also true? What if being someone else in a queer space is also really liberating? What if being someone else actually helps you to realise who you are? Ok, I seem to be tying myself up in knots here. So, instead of po...
Apr 16, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 271
Have you ever heard of the concept of a “gay age” ? If not, here's the gist: the idea goes that we each have a gay age , which starts from the moment we come out. So, that means if I came out yesterday, I’d be zero. If you came out a decade ago you’re ten years old in gay years. It’s a really fascinating concept, but the more I sit with it, the more I find it to be a little problematic. But I won’t get into all that now (I'll actually be talking about it in this week's issue of my ne...
Apr 09, 2025•52 min•Season 1Ep. 266
Sometimes when you live in a small close-knit community there is nowhere to hide. No where to disappear to. It can feel like you're always on guard, always wearing the false smile and maintaining the pretence for everyone else around you. So, what would happen if you found somewhere that you knew no one else was going to be? Somewhere that you could totally relax, and just be yourself for an hour or two? How would that impact you? Well, we're about to find out, because this week's gu...
Apr 02, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 269
We talk a lot about — and when I say 'we,' I mean the wider queer community — how upsetting it is that queer bars and clubs are closing at an accelerated rate. But I think the bigger tragedy is the disappearance of queer cafés. And maybe it’s wrong to pit them against each other, but queer cafés offer that beautiful intermediate step. They’re not as full-on or intimidating as a bar or a club, and they’re places where you can just be . There’s no pressure to perform, no need to match the ...
Mar 26, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 221
I've always struggled with the word community, because it's something that I've desperately wanted - I've wanted to belong, and I've wanted to feel a part of something bigger than myself. But, at the same time, how do you measure those things? How do you know that you belong? What does that feel like, and how do you measure it? And, I think someone who has had a similar experience, and has always strived for community and belong is this week's guest, Steve Whiting. Steve ...
Mar 19, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 267
There's a reason that the theme song to the Golden Girls hits so hard for me. And, I think it's because I've always valued friendships over all other types of relationships. There’s just something magical about having that person who eggs you on, pushes you out of your comfort zone, and encourages you to be bolder than you ever thought possible. So, I loved hearing about Norwegian drag king Erik Sjon’s first foray into dressing up—back when he and his friends would go full klub kid g...
Mar 12, 2025•53 min•Season 1Ep. 266
So, usually we talk about a bar or a club or a coffee shop… or some kind of building, at least. But this week we're doing something a little bit different. We're talking about a set of steps. Yes, you heard that correctly. But, these weren’t just any set of steps. They were the legendary, and imaginatively titled, Steps that were found in Toronto's gay village. And to tell us all about them is the author, speaker, and DEI specialist Michael Bach, who may have recently escaped the col...
Mar 05, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 265
Coming out can be both thrilling and exhilarating… but also kind of dangerous. There’s something about that first rush of freedom that makes you feel invincible—like you can throw yourself into any and every experience, consequences be damned. Which brings us to this week’s guest—Brad Shreve. Now, you might already know Brad as an author and the host of multiple podcasts, including Going Hollywood, Queer We Are, and Queer Writers of Crime. He finally came out to himself in his 30s, when he was w...
Feb 26, 2025•53 min•Season 1Ep. 264
Ugh, I can't believe that it's been almost five whole years since the Covid-19 pandemic came along and turned all of our lives upside down. Five. whole. years. Doesn't that make you feel old? I still don’t know if the pandemic changed my life for better or worse, but for this week’s guest, it was the unexpected catalyst that kick-started their drag career. This week, I’m joined by bearded drag queen Jackie Daniels, who shares how moving from small-town Armidale to the bright lights o...
Feb 19, 2025•51 min•Season 1Ep. 263
This week's episode could very well be titled 'The Many Lovers of Frank Akinsete', because we somehow manage to cover off about half a dozen love affairs during our conversation! And if you’re a longtime listener of Lost Spaces you already know that we love a good detour here. Honestly, I think those are the best episodes, where we get to truly know a person and trace their many, many queer footsteps. This week’s guest is Frank Akinsete, a fashion stylist and consultant who’s been pa...
Feb 12, 2025•46 min•Season 1Ep. 262
So, Mormonism doesn't have the best reputation on this show. And honestly, given their policies toward queer people, that's not exactly surprising. But, there are some people working within the religion trying to make it more inclusive and open-minded. One of these groups is Understanding Sexuality, Gender, and Allyship - or USGA - a support group that gave queer students at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah a place to find community. And one of the people that went there religious...
Feb 05, 2025•57 min•Season 1Ep. 261
So, we're over 250 episodes in to this show, and on some days when I'm feeling particularly cocky I'm like 'oh, yeah, I think I've learnt everything there is to know about being queer', and then on other days I'm like 'actually, I know nothing about the human spirit and the resilience of queerness despite the odds.' (Ok, that was a little dramatic, but I think you get the gist of what I'm saying!). All of that is to say, that this week marks our first epis...
Jan 29, 2025•59 min•Season 1Ep. 260
So if I were to tell you that this week's guest had just published a new book titled ' Disco: Music, Movies, and Mania Under the Mirror Ball '* you'd be expecting some spectacular stories of glamour and debauchery, right? Well, I'm pleased to say that author Frank DeCaro did not disappoint! We caught up to chat about the lost legendary Chicago space Dugan’s Bistro, a gay discotheque that was a cornerstone of his coming-of-age years, and Frank was so generous in sharing storie...
Jan 22, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 259
Sign up for the Queer Word Newsletter We are back to our regular programming next week! But, for our final pod-swap I am sharing the conversation I had with Tim Lagman (registered sexologist, don't you know!) on his show Sex Ed With Tim . Tim was also a guest on Lost Spaces all the way back in 2021, and that conversation can be found here Can't wait to get back to regular Lost Spaces episodes! See you next week. Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespod Facebook: ...
Jan 15, 2025•1 hr 9 min
Sign up for the Queer Word Newsletter This week we have Dennis Anyone , hosted by Dennis Hensley, as our special podcast-swap episode! Dennis was also a guest on Lost Spaces all the way back in 2022, and that conversation is can be found here Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespod Facebook: www.facebook.com/lostspacespod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lostspacespod Support me Buy Me A Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/lostspacespod Follow my guest Website: https:/...
Jan 08, 2025•1 hr 12 min
Sign up for the Queer Word Newsletter Share your 2025 plans/resolutions with me: [email protected] Over the holidays I'm going to share episodes from other podcasts that I've guested on throughout 2024, talking about lost spaces, queerness, and the weirdness of life. This week we have The Queer Family Podcast , hosted by Jaimie Kelton! Jaimie was also a guest on Lost Spaces, and that conversation is can be found here Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespod Facebook...
Jan 01, 2025•52 min
Sign up for the Queer Word Newsletter Over the holidays I'm going to share episodes from other podcasts that I've guested on throughout 2024, talking about lost spaces, queerness, and the weirdness of life. First up we have Gender Identity Weekly , hosted by Amethysta Herrick. Amethysta was also a guest on Lost Spaces this year. If you want to go and listen to that conversation is can be found here Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespod Facebook: www.facebook.com/lostspaces...
Dec 25, 2024•1 hr 9 min
Lately I keep thinking about that phrase "the past is a foreign country", and how sometimes a space doesn’t have to disappear to feel lost to us. And I know that sounds like a bit of mumbo jumbo, but stay with me! Queer spaces are always evolving and changing, and if we don't evolve and change with them, or if we're not there at the time they are evolving, then we risk being left behind. Which brings us to this week's conversation, which happens to be one of my favourite ty...
Dec 18, 2024•41 min•Season 1Ep. 258
I've been getting increasingly sappy with you recently, and I'm not sure whether that's because I'm just getting softer in my older years, or if there's just an accumulation of gratitude that's bubbling to the surface, but... well, either way, just giving you the heads up that this intro is a bit sappy! So, what am I sappy about? Well, I just love the network of stories that this podcast is building and how there's an overlap between experiences, perspectives, and mem...
Dec 11, 2024•33 min•Season 1Ep. 257
Sometimes when I'm putting this show together I like to imagine that someone has somehow found this show in 50 years time and are having a good ol' giggle at how quaint and ol'timey the things we are talking about are. And if you are one of these people from the future it's probably worth me telling you about a little thing called the Covid-19 pandemic. This was (hopefully) a once-in-a-lifetime event where a highly contagious disease was sweeping the globe and, so, we were all ma...
Dec 04, 2024•47 min•Season 1Ep. 256
Although I can appreciate a lot of the things about getting older I wouldn't say that I'm totally super enthusiastic about it (especially the creaking joints!). So, it was kind of nice to talk to singer/songwriter D'orjay and get a different perspective on getting on in years. And, in fact, everything about this week conversation is just lovely. It's one of those looking-back-at-teenage-you and thinking both 'what the hell was wrong with you?' at the same time as 'ooo...
Nov 27, 2024•52 min•Season 1Ep. 255
Not many people can say they owe their entire career to their local gay bar, but for comedian Sam See, that’s exactly the case! His first brush with comedy happened while prepping for a talent show at Play Club in Singapore. Performing in front of a queer audience gave him the spark to pursue comedy full-time. We dug into what it was like growing up queer in Singapore, how his queerness shapes his comedy, and his experiences at an all-boys school (and yes, I think you know where that conversatio...
Nov 20, 2024•54 min•Season 1Ep. 254
I would never wish the years of uncertainty, overthinking, and isolation on anyone navigating their queerness. But, there's something magical about the person who comes out at the other end of all that. And one of the best parts of Lost Spaces is getting to speak with people who have reached that place of self-assuredness, and who are so confident in who they are and the path they’re meant to be on. But for this week’s guest, Jane Postlethwaite, who is a stand-up comedian and host of All the...
Nov 13, 2024•49 min•Season 1Ep. 253
I've just realised that, for a podcast that is for mostly about queer clubbing and nightlife, we don't actually talk all that much about drugs, drug-taking and the impact of that. That's not a good or a bad thing, per se. It's just a little odd. Which isn't to say that that is a huge part of this week's chat, but it struck me because, for this week’s guest, drugs were a key factor in helping her connect with others and, more importantly, with herself. And who is this myst...
Nov 06, 2024•52 min•Season 1Ep. 252
