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Oct 01, 2025•6 min
Lost Spaces: Memories from Gay Bars, Lesbian Clubs, and LGBTQ+ Parties
How do queer spaces help to shape people's lives?
Why are they so important to the LGBTQ+ community?
What is the impact of losing these spaces?
Lost Spaces explores these questions (and more!) through conversations with members of the LGBT community.
Each week host K Anderson sits down with a different guest to discuss a space from their past, why it was important to them, and how it helped shape who they are.
Expect conversations about coming out, going out, and getting down.
And snogging strangers on sweaty dancefloors. We can't talk about gay history without that coming up.
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Episodes
Greatest Hits - 'Where Do Lesbians Go For Fun?' - with Layne the Auctionista
This episodes first came out in 2024, and here's what I had to say about it: I love hearing people's stories of places that are close to their hearts - places where they spent tonnes of time, met lots of wonderful people, and figured out things about themselves. But, you know what else I love? When people want to talk about places that they HATED! And hate is maybe too strong a word for this week's guest's experience, but I still enjoyed hearing about how the sticky floors and the dark, dank bar...
Sep 24, 2025•48 min
Greatest HIts - 'It Took Almost 30 Years Before I Actually Transitioned' - with Amethysta Herrick
This episode first appeared in 2024, and here's what I had to say... There's one question that gets asked in this week's episode that’s really stuck with me and that I continued to ponder even after we'd said our goodbyes and turned our microphones off... And that question is: how do you know when you have become the person that you’re supposed to be? By that I mean - at what point do you say 'yes this is the person I was supposed to be' rather than continue to strive and figure that out? Or, do...
Sep 17, 2025•59 min
Greatest Hits - "'Love Is Love' - Until You're Black, Trans, Disabled, Non-Binary..." - with Andrew Gurza from Disability After Dark
This episode was first shared in 2024, and here's what I had to say: I know there's always the risk with this show of completely romanticising queer spaces as these glistening oasis' of tolerance and acceptance.But, that's really not the case - despite how wonderful and freeing they can be, they can also be a bit shitty and exclusionary. And I was reminded of that this week when I sat down to talk to talk to Andrew Gurza, who is a disability awareness consultant and activist, as well as being th...
Sep 10, 2025•49 min
Greatest Hits - 'Disco 2000 Was The Hub Of The Club Kids Scene' - with Abdi Nazemian
I first shared this episode in 2024, and here's what I had to say: So, if you were to ask me to overly generalise and boil down the types of experiences that guests on this show have had when first accessing a queer space I'd say they neatly fit in to two categories: 1) there are those who feel instantly at home and like they've arrived. 2) there are those who feel like an outsider, or a 'tourist' in the space. Sometimes that feeling of being an outsider goes away after a few visits when they ge...
Sep 03, 2025•1 hr 6 min
Greatest HIts - 'For Me, Drag Always Was Like A Political Act' - with Lil' Miss Hot Mess
This episode first featured in 2022, and here's what I had to say: On this week's show we're talking to Lil Miss Hot Mess, who is as fun to talk to as her name is to say! Coming up in the San Francisco scene, Lil Miss got started at the legendary T-Shack, a night held at The Stud, which unfortunately we lost at the beginning of the pandemic. And, yes, you can rest assured that you'll be getting me patented dumb questions throughout this conversation about all of the traditions and weird things t...
Aug 27, 2025•42 min
Greatest Hits - 'When I Was a Young Teen Transsexual in Toronto' - with Morgan M Page
One of the things I love doing most about this show is, obviously, getting the chance to learn about different people's experiences and circumstances. But, within that, there's often a really nice reminder of how nobody's journey is the same. There are so many ways to come out, there are so many ways to fall in love, and there are all of these different ways in which a space can be important to you. Some of my guests have only been to a space once, some went religiously over a period of years (o...
Aug 20, 2025•54 min
Greatest Hits - 'I Saw Gay Men Everywhere. Gay Women? Not So Much...' - with Jaimie Kelton from The Queer Family Podcast
This episode was first shared in 2023, and here's what I had to say: You know how sometimes these conversations are only very, very, very tenuously linked to a queer space, and in the intro I try and come up with some justification for why we didn't talk that much about it to prepare you for the episode ahead? Well, dear listener, this week I'm not even going to try to insult your intelligence by pretending that we talked about a queer space, cause we didn't. I failed you. BUT, that's not to say...
Aug 13, 2025•51 min
Greatest Hits - 'The First Gay Place That I Went Inside...' - with Alex Iantaffi from Gender Stories Podcast
This episode first featured in 2024, and here's what I had to say... The lyric to that very famous 80s TV theme song is 'sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name'. Whilst I think that's true I also think there are times where you want to go where nobody knows your name and where there's absolutely no risk of running in to anybody that you even vaguely know. It's that type of space that gave this week's guest - scholar, therapist and host of the Gender Studies podcast Alex Iantaff...
Aug 06, 2025•57 min
Greatest Hits - 'I don’t think anyone thought I was full-hetero' - with Lori Bell
This episode first appeared in 2021, and here's what I said: It's our very first visit to the city where I grew up…. Adelaide! I got to sit down with the comedian Lori Bell to talk all about her experiences on Adelaide’s queer scene (all two venues!)… We talk all about first times, blow jobs on the dance floor, and I find out what the difference is between regular bingo and gay bingo….
Jul 30, 2025•53 min
Greatest Hits - 'Lean Into My Transness' - with Simona Castricum
This episode first appeared in 2021, and here's what I had to say about it: Simona Castricum is a musician, DJ and producer based in Melbourne, Australia. We caught up to talk about Hugs and Kisses, a night that ran in the 2010s and took advantage of the looser licensing laws that applied to the venue it was based in, which created this wonderful, hedonistic atmosphere reminiscent of the early rave scene. We talked a lot about being safe on the scene and how to create that culture, becoming your...
Jul 23, 2025•42 min
Greatest Hits - “Where Are All The Lesbians?” - with Lisa Haas
This episode first appeared all the way back in 2021, and here's what I had to say about it: Have you ever had someone try to coax you out of the closet by asking the seemingly innocent question ‘is there anything you want to tell me?’? Do you remember the anguish and pain of simply muttering the 3 or 4 words needed to just confirm their suspicions? Well, if you have, I have a feeling you’ll love this week’s episode. I’m talking to comedy writer and actor Lisa Haas about her very first trip to t...
Jul 16, 2025•47 min
Greatest Hits - 'There Weren’t That Many Out Gay Actors Playing Out Gay Roles' - with actor David Paisley
This episode first featured in 2021 (!), and here's what I had to say about it then: This week we are talking to David Paisley, a Scottish actor known for roles in soap operas Holby City, and River City. He is also a tireless LGBTQ campaigner, recently being acknowledged with an Attitude Pride Award for his campaigning against the trans-exclusionary agenda of the LGB Alliance. He first moved to London when he got the role as midwife Ben Saunders in Holby City, and hated it. It wasn’t until the s...
Jul 09, 2025•1 hr 5 min
Greatest Hits - "I Never Really Came Out To My Mother... She Read My Diary..." - with Sheria Mattis
This episode first appeared in September 2023, and here's what I had to say about it: Sometimes I feel a bit dumb (or maybe just a bit sheepish) about some of the revelations I have through doing this show, especially since we're so close to 200 episodes (eek!) and I feel like I should know it all by now... But, then, on the other hand, the fact that I'm still learning so much is part of the reason that I'm so excited to share these stories with you. And this week the thing that resonated the mo...
Jul 02, 2025•44 min
Greatest Hits: "You're Gay And Gothic... And You're A Christian Now?" - with Chris Conde
This episode was first shared in 2023, and here's what I had to say about it: You know, in all of the time that we've been doing this show we've never featured a sauna... but that's about to change! Our very first sauna is ACI, which was in San Antonio, Texas. And, showing us around is the subversive queer rapper Chris Conde. Now, Chris was a military brat, and so they moved around a lot when they were a kid. But, as a young adult they decided they wanted some stability, and so chose to settle i...
Jun 25, 2025•40 min
Greatest Hits: "Are You 'In The Life'?" - with Phil Corin
Greatest hits episode! This conversation was first shared in 2023, and this is what I had to say about it: One of the things that I've noticed is fairly common in people who come out later in life is just how much of a hurry they are in to experience ALL of the queer shit they've missed out on... And that is what happened to this week's guest, podcaster and voice-over artist Phil Corin, who, upon realising that they may not be heterosexual was on a mission to make their way to the New York City ...
Jun 18, 2025•57 min
Greatest Hits: 'I'd Never Seen Any Lesbians... And Then I Saw ALL The Lesbians...' -with comedian Naomi Mourra
Greatest hits episode! This conversation was first shared in 2023, and this is what I had to say about it: So, you know I love me a story about someone running away to figure out who they are. And, this week we have a doozy. Naomi Mourra, who is Sydney’s only Lebanese, lesbian, ex-Jehovah’s Witness, comedian, first came to London in the late 90s when she was trying to reconcile the thoughts she was feeling about women-folk with the teachings of her religion. And, she got to explore at Soho's Can...
Jun 11, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Greatest Hits: "The Very Beginnings Of My Actual Gay Life..." - with comedian Jacob Trueman
We're revisiting some of my favourite/most memorable/most impactful episodes throughout June! Sometimes I'm really taken aback by what an absolute privilege it is to do this job, and how people can be so open and honest with me. And I think it's a real honour that I get to help amplify the stories, and get the opportunity to really examine my own queerness and how that's shaped who I am. Maybe that's all a little bit too sentimental? Let's get on with what this show is about this week. I am join...
Jun 04, 2025•50 min
'I Can't Imagine Not Being Gay' - with author Troy Ford
It’s entirely possible that it’s just the contrarian in me, but I kind of love when I am talking to a guest who is like ‘been there, done that, do not want to go back’. Because, yes, I love hearing about queer nightlife, and how accessing those spaces helps you tap into something bigger than yourself, but it’s important not to over romanticise them. And, on top of that, it's always nice to be reminded that there are bigger and better things out there in the wild world. And I was reminded of just...
May 28, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 273
'A Gay Kid Trying To Fit In' - with Brian Gryphon
Ok, so this just might be the most obvious statement that I've ever made. And, that's really saying something, considering all of the clangers that I come out with... But... it's kind of incredible how much our family and our early years define us. Like, so much of who I am is because of who they are. And, vice versa, I suppose. But, there's something really interesting in the messages that we chose to internalise and how difficult those are to shake off. But, like, what would happen if we just ...
May 21, 2025•40 min•Season 1Ep. 276
'Single and Celibate for Jesus' - with Alex Gay
Have you ever decided that you were going to go celibate and swear off sex forever? Probably. It happens. Now, my follow up question - have you ever promised that you'd go celibate to... oh, i don't know, let's say,,,, thousands upon thousands of evangelical christians and then felt the weight of all of their expectations upon you whilst you're still trying to wrestle with your sexuality and identity? No, I didn't think so. Me either. But this week's guest, the sex and intimacy coach, porn star,...
May 14, 2025•47 min•Season 1Ep. 275
'The Part I Couldn't Stand About The Lesbian Community' - with comedian Glo Butler
Do you remember the person that you were before you first had your heart broken? How you moved through the world? How you approached relationships and falling in love? Do you ever miss that person? This week I caught up with comedian Glo Butler, and though we sat down to talk about the Fab Lounge, a lesbian bar in Washington DC, what we talked about was the people she met there and how they changed her outlook on life, love, and lesbian bars. Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespo...
May 07, 2025•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 274
'Oh, You Know, The 'Gay' Thing' - with actor Paul Cram
This week's episode feels like a bit of a culmination of different thoughts that have been bubbling up from recent conversations on the show. First, there’s my realisation that I’m more of a sponge than an island — and I know that sounds cryptic, but it’s really not. It's just this idea that who we are is shaped as much by what’s going on around us as it is by what’s inside us. Then there’s been a lot of talk about people pleasing — that’s come up in a few conversations lately too. But don't wor...
Apr 30, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 259
'It Validated That I Am Gay' - with Greg R Baird
This week it's the story of The Copa, a club that was found (across two different sites) in Flint, Michigan between the years of 1980-1995 But, really, it's a love story. And the first scene in this love story just happened to be at The Copa. And, who is here to tell us all about it? Why, it's the self-proclaimed 'professional homosexual' Greg R Baird, who is a Global Lecturer on LGBTQIA+ Civil Rights, Allyship & Community. Greg is currently working on his memoir, and so was in a reflective ...
Apr 23, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 272
'Experiencing Gay Culture For The First Time...' - with drag queen Tita Baby
Subscribe to my newsletter Queer Word , where we explore and unpack a different queer word every week. You know how we talk about queer spaces as a place where you can just be yourself? And we talk about how liberating and exciting and freeing that is? Well, what if the opposite is also true? What if being someone else in a queer space is also really liberating? What if being someone else actually helps you to realise who you are? Ok, I seem to be tying myself up in knots here. So, instead of po...
Apr 16, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 271
'The 'Gay Age'' - with Koby Falks
Have you ever heard of the concept of a “gay age” ? If not, here's the gist: the idea goes that we each have a gay age , which starts from the moment we come out. So, that means if I came out yesterday, I’d be zero. If you came out a decade ago you’re ten years old in gay years. It’s a really fascinating concept, but the more I sit with it, the more I find it to be a little problematic. But I won’t get into all that now (I'll actually be talking about it in this week's issue of my newsletter, Qu...
Apr 09, 2025•52 min•Season 1Ep. 266
'A Queer Kid In A Small Town' - with comedian Sunny Laprade
Sometimes when you live in a small close-knit community there is nowhere to hide. No where to disappear to. It can feel like you're always on guard, always wearing the false smile and maintaining the pretence for everyone else around you. So, what would happen if you found somewhere that you knew no one else was going to be? Somewhere that you could totally relax, and just be yourself for an hour or two? How would that impact you? Well, we're about to find out, because this week's guest is comed...
Apr 02, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 269
'I Don't Do Very Well With Binaries' - with drag king Mr Wesley Dykes
We talk a lot about — and when I say 'we,' I mean the wider queer community — how upsetting it is that queer bars and clubs are closing at an accelerated rate. But I think the bigger tragedy is the disappearance of queer cafés. And maybe it’s wrong to pit them against each other, but queer cafés offer that beautiful intermediate step. They’re not as full-on or intimidating as a bar or a club, and they’re places where you can just be . There’s no pressure to perform, no need to match the thump of...
Mar 26, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 221
'I Didn't Know Any Other Gay People' with Steve Whiting from Hey Queer London
I've always struggled with the word community, because it's something that I've desperately wanted - I've wanted to belong, and I've wanted to feel a part of something bigger than myself. But, at the same time, how do you measure those things? How do you know that you belong? What does that feel like, and how do you measure it? And, I think someone who has had a similar experience, and has always strived for community and belong is this week's guest, Steve Whiting. Steve is the founder of the on...
Mar 19, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 267
'A Way I Could Express My Queerness' - with drag king Erik Sjon
There's a reason that the theme song to the Golden Girls hits so hard for me. And, I think it's because I've always valued friendships over all other types of relationships. There’s just something magical about having that person who eggs you on, pushes you out of your comfort zone, and encourages you to be bolder than you ever thought possible. So, I loved hearing about Norwegian drag king Erik Sjon’s first foray into dressing up—back when he and his friends would go full klub kid glam and danc...
Mar 12, 2025•53 min•Season 1Ep. 266
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