We’re finally doing it — an episode dedicated to all things demisexuality! Understanding demisexuality was the lightbulb I needed in fully understanding myself and how/why my attraction has looked like the way it has. I always felt … weird. Different. And I didn’t understand why I didn’t experience that initial intense physical attraction towards someone, ever. In todays episode, we dive into my personal flavor of demisexuality, how I’ve adapted my dating practices to align with my unique needs ...
Jul 20, 2023•33 min•Ep. 161
One of the most common things I get asked by you all is how I’m really doing post / during my divorce, and I get it. I haven’t really talked about how I’m doing in a direct way regarding this particular piece of my story and while that’s been intentional — I realized that not doing so was also a disservice to all of you and to this process. If there’s anything I’ve realized through this experience, it’s that there are not a lot of blueprints out there on how to navigate the process of a divorce....
Jul 06, 2023•40 min•Ep. 160
Did I ever think I’d have a former partner, a queer platonic partner and a platonic life partner together for an in depth conversation around all things queerness? If you had told me a few years ago, I would have been like hell no. I didn’t even know platonic partnership could be a thing back then. AND to have former partners of mine want to participate in my world and be willing to navigate the nuance and intricacies of de-escalation alongside of me while also witnessing me in partnership? I im...
Jun 22, 2023•1 hr 39 min•Ep. 159
This is my fifth pride out as a queer person, and I would be lying if I said that I haven’t felt at a loss on how to being to find queer community. Part of queer-ness isn’t just going from thinking you’re straight to knowing you’re queer and then voila, you’ve got the queer life of your dreams. It’s a whirlwind of unpacking comp het, going through queer puberty (I used to scoff at the idea of this but it’s a thing), and finding where you feel the most at home and yourself in your queerness. Not ...
Jun 08, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 158
CW: sexual assault, harassment “Something is wrong with me.” Words I used to think and say out loud all the damn time when I wasn’t feeling turned on enough or when I felt pain during sex or when I started having sex with vulva owners and had no idea what the fuck I was doing. If only I’d known about how trauma and living in a culture rooted in the patriarchy can impact our own body’s (and thus selves) ability to access our own needs for consent, our own voice and access our own desires. In toda...
May 25, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 157
Well, fuck, this episode means the world to me and I am just so damn grateful to get to introduce you all beyond the gram to my queer platonic partner, Kels (they/them). I’ve loved cultivating this partnership over the last year of my life. They mean the absolute world to me, and finding our way into what we are today has been a journey — one that I’m very proud of, and one that we get into the nitty gritty of in this conversation. Relationships don’t have to be sexual to be partnerships. Period...
May 11, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 156
You probably know them as the trio that started the Multiamory podcast, and I’m so honored to know them as peers, friends and colleagues. When they reached out to let me know that their book was getting ready to be released and that they wanted to come on the podcast to share, it was an easy f*ck yes. If you are new to these incredible humans, Jase, Emily, and Dedeker have spent the last decade raising awareness, providing approachable resources, and combat the stigma faced by people in non-trad...
Apr 27, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 155
Is hierarchy in relationships ethical? A very important question that folks in non monogamous and monogamous relationships alike have been asking and unpacking and holy balls, do we have a lot to say about this subject. I’ve had a WILD ride when it comes to hierarchy in relationships since I was in high school. Although I didn’t have the language at the time (and internal knowing and understanding that I could exist in any other ways), I’ve always been a queer, ambiamorous , demisexual relations...
Apr 13, 2023•38 min•Ep. 154
SHE’S BACK!!! And holy balls is this conversation juicy AF. If you’re newer to the pod, Jordan Shomer (she/her) is a friend, colleague and our very own resident astrologer. Jordan is a Queer Jewish intuitive astrologer who recognizes the patterns and puzzles of astrology and synthesizes them into stories that land on your heart. She believes that within the map of the stars lives a blueprint to healing and guidebook to growth. She is passionate about holding space for you to greet yourself in al...
Mar 30, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 153
I dropped the “I don’t identify as polyamorous anymore” bomb a few months ago & I’m finally sharing the behind the scenes of why I arrived there. I promise you, it’s not what many folks think. So let’s get the fuck into it, bbs. Some things I talk about in todays episode: The mess and the magic of sifting through identity markers to figure out who the fuck you are My own process of feeling seen within the label of ambiamory and what it means The collective cry around breaking the binary, and...
Mar 16, 2023•43 min•Ep. 152
You’ve asked for an entire episode on all things relationship anarchy and I’m so stoked to be kicking off the conversation and deep dive into all things relationship anarchy with the one person that’s made me feel the most seen by sharing their lived experience as a demisexual relationship anarchist who has been in polyamorous and monogamous dynamics alike : Abby Rosmarin aka my mutual and friend on Tik Tok (and in real life) @notjennifergarner Abby (she/they) is a writer, content creator, menta...
Feb 23, 2023•57 min•Ep. 151
Welcome back to the pod my queer-dos, loves and everyone in between. It feels really fitting to be coming back to the pod at this time of year — not just post the first birthday I’ve had in years that wasn’t surrounded by chaos and pain because of my personal life, but also because this marks the 5 year anniversary of the pod. Crazy balls. So much of the last six months since I saw you last here has been me healing post divorce (and all that came with leaving) and integrating the values I have i...
Feb 09, 2023•42 min•Ep. 150
I wasn’t sure that I was going to share this episode today, but it felt right, so here we are. And, in true Amanda fashion, we’re getting wildly vulnerable and moving through the mess on our season finale of the podcast about something so many of you have been wondering for months: Divorce. Specifically my divorce. This episode is messy, because divorce is messy. This episode is filled with feels, because transitions and grief like this brings up a lot. This episode also tackles the notion that ...
Jul 14, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 149
Today’s episode is one I honestly wasn’t sure would or could ever happen. If you’ve been around these parts for a while, you will know Rachel Wright not just as the incredible psychotherapist & sex educator, but as one of my dearest friends, collaborators & business partners. From the moment we met in 2018, we instantly knew we were kindred spirits. Meant to meet. And we spent the next few years being partners in the truest form of the word. Platonic partners, but partners. We were each ...
Jun 23, 2022•1 hr 49 min•Ep. 148
How the f*ck do we even begin to feel at home in our queerness, let alone cultivate queer community when we’re starting to come out and own our sexuality? When I first came out four years ago (this month!), I felt SO damn confused. And SO damn alone. And, to be honest, I often still struggle to feel connected to my queerness beyond my individual self. Learning from Kiana and, honestly, just watching them live their life so damn connected to her queerness and authenticity has been so liberating f...
Jun 09, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 147
We all have scars. The physical ones that we see, and all of the ones that are there that we can’t. But we feel them. We know them. And, sometimes, we discover we have them years into our adult lives and the shame, the guilt, the overwhelm of processing it all can be all consuming and incredibly fucking daunting to face. TW: self loathing, body image, medical procedures/needles In todays episode and in honor of mental health awareness month, Amanda talks about her journey with scars — both physi...
May 26, 2022•33 min•Ep. 146
Coming into queerness later in life. Kink dynamics. Going from monogamy to non monogamy. Abusive relationships. Sex parties & beyond. All of that, and so much more, is explored in Rachel Krantz’s book: Open, and I’m not lying when I tell you I devoured this book in the span of 24 hours and immediately reached out to have Rachel (she/her) on the podcast to get into the nitty gritty of it all — and this conversation does not disappoint. TW: emotional & psychological abuse, manipulation, ga...
May 12, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 145
Todays episode is all about the “growth mindset” mentality vs. the process of unbecoming, unlearning and coming home to ourselves that so many of you asked Amanda for after her instagram stories last week. As someone who lives her life outside of many of the traditional norm boxes that our society is rooted in, this has been on her heart big time, lately, and it’s clearly been on yours too. We’re surely a unique bunch and the Live Your F*ck Yes Life community wouldn’t be what it is without all o...
Apr 29, 2022•43 min•Ep. 144
After our last episode on the various relationship models, it felt only fitting to expand on the relationship model that I know most folks are usually either very intrigued and excited by or absolutely terrified about considering — and that is: solo polyamory . I am not a solo polyamorous person. Never have been, and given my personal values and needs (and inherent biases and privileges), I likely will never choose to intentionally step into that path. But I know that it resonates HARD for many ...
Apr 14, 2022•46 min•Ep. 143
Confused AF about what kind of relationship model you actually want because all you’ve ever been taught is monogamy or bust? And even THEN, monogamy has soooo much variability from person to person around expectations, needs, what the relationship feels like/looks like, boundaries etc? Amanda was too. We aren’t taught this shit. We’re just thrown into the world to figure it out by the seat of our pants, so she’s popping into your earbuds today to talk about just what your options really are, so ...
Mar 31, 2022•36 min•Ep. 142
Mar 17, 2022•58 min•Ep. 141
After a short unforseen intermission, we’re back for the rest of the season and Amanda is kicking off this post hiatus with a solo episode sharing about what she’s been navigating and how she’s really doing. Hint: it’s been really f*cking hard. Things she talks about in todays episode: the intense losses she’s experienced the last 2 years the excavation process of owning identities and navigating change grief, and the beast it is navigating depression for the first time in her life the 3 practic...
Mar 03, 2022•37 min•Ep. 140
Okay I know the title is cliche but I did that for a reason ‘cause as we get into people pleasing season around these parts and what causes so much harm to so many of us, I wanted to get into something important we’ve never explicitly talked about on the podcast: expectations. In todays episode, Amanda dives into how expectations have caused a lot of pain in her life, and her system for identifying if expectations we have a rooted in our knowing or a false sense of self, and then how to communic...
Jan 20, 2022•23 min•Ep. 139
Happy 2022 loves. Or should I say, WTF am I doing with my life continued. Anyone else feeling this way? I know I am. I always have lots of feelings about new years resolutions, goal setting and beyond. But this year, it’s different in a profound way. And I’m coming at you hot with a solo episode from my heart to yours sharing all about my struggles entering a new year — and I’m guessing you can relate. So grab a cup of coffee and join me as we kick off the new year with a change in perspective o...
Jan 06, 2022•27 min•Ep. 138
And just like that, we’ve gone a whole entire year around the sun and it’s time for our yearly astrology recap with the Live Your F*ck Yes Lifes resident astrologer — the one and only Jordan Shomer (she/her). She’s an astrologer, intuitive, cosmic coach, and an Aquarius passionate about leading the charge into the future armed with cosmic consciousness and radical, unapologetic authenticity. Jordan sees our personal astrology and a blueprint to healing and guidebook to growth. In a world that ex...
Dec 09, 2021•54 min•Ep. 137
Last week, I went to a doctors appointment that I’ve been putting off for a couple of years out of fear. And the appointment brought up some stuff I’ve been pushing to the side to tackle head on since I found out I had the BRCA 1 gene mutation 3 years ago. All of you know that having the BRCA 1 mutation is linked to my risk to breast cancer, but what many of you probably don’t know is that it’s also linked to ovarian cancer — which means that if any family planning is involved in my world, it HA...
Nov 25, 2021•25 min•Ep. 136
You loved her the last time she was here and she’s BACK! Gabrielle Stone (she/her), a fan favorite on the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast, makes no secret about her past with toxic relationships & a cheating MF of an ex husband. And she’s shared it all in her best selling books and on her podcast and beyond. I’ve been having a lot of conversations in my DMs and with friends about the expectations and needs we place on our partners and, given that I am polyamorous and inherently bring that bi...
Nov 11, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 135
Oct 28, 2021•53 min•Ep. 134
Demisexual sluts unite. Okay, all jokes aside for a minute, today on the podcast, we’re deep diving into all things demisexuality. Whether you identify as a slut or not, you’re gonna LOVE this conversation where my friend and fellow polyamorous creator & educator Jess deep dive into our personal experiences coming into our demisexuality — and so much more. Who is Jess? Jessica Levity (she/her) is a digital media and live entertainment producer and entertainer livin' in Reno, Nevada. Pre-pann...
Oct 14, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 133
TW: eating disorder cycles, bullying, queer shame, the holocaust, rape When I was thinking about how I wanted to start this season, I knew I couldn’t get into any conversation and bring anyone on before speaking to the deepest thread of my personal life these last few months and since the end of season 5. Which is why I am so excited to share this conversation and human with you. Dana Christy (they/she) — to me — is before anything, one of my deepest personal healers & someone I am grateful ...
Sep 30, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 132
