ASK UNCUT - Please don't pound me like a jack hammer

Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. Hi guys, and i'll welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.

I'm Laura and I'm Brittany and this is our not supposed to be here because we was supposed to be on holiday Sneaky Thursday, ask Uncut edition.

Well, we did take Tuesday episode off this week and then we thought, you know what, it wouldn't be a Life Uncut holiday if we didn't continue to work a little bit. And we fucking loved doing us gun cut, so we thought we'd get together and get a little saucy, sexy episode ready and rearing before we actually went on holidays.

It's funny you should say that, because last night I went for a little walk from my house he get some dinner. So I was on Bondi Road and it was thriving, It was heaving, heaving, if people will say that, who am I?

I don't know.

I feel like when I say heaving, I usually say it in conjunction with vomiting.

I was heaving, ah, I.

Think I used to see heaving like fifteen years here.

Like the club was heaving.

It was holistic anyway, it was thriving. There were people ever really enjoying their life. I had a migraine, so I was not enjoying my life. I was just going to get some dinner in some panadole.

Anyway.

That just got so depressing. So having the best holiday ever.

Guys, she had ad a migraine and planadole on a great.

Old time and a margarita and a bottle of wine. And you do not mix your wine. We now we know where the migraine came from.

But there a group of girls out the front, and as I was walking down, they started like screaming at Delilah.

They fannedgirl Delilah.

They love Delilah.

But we got chatting and I said, oh, yeah, we're actually going on holiday this week.

And they also to laugh now and they were like, oh, look we listened to like we're big fans of the podcast, but let's.

Be real, you're not really gonna go on a holiday, are you? And I said, what do you mean?

And they're like, every time you guys say that you're taking a week or two off.

We ended up tuning in going.

All right, well, here's a bonus episode, and I said, oh funny, you should say that.

No, will we refuse here we are, you can't get rid of it. We're scared that maybe if we take a whole week off, you'll go find somebody else to love.

We've got faux bo we have.

We have like you know, we're codependent on you all, but also on that brit Is. Actually she's leaving tomorrow to go to Thailand unless.

A touch would Unlet's get COVID overnight, which if I have lasted two years without COVID.

And I get it the night before Thailand, I'm gonna cry.

What do you else? I thought you're gonna be like I'm gonna do something. I'm like, what are you gonna do? Well?

Do you know what the thing is? Actually?

Stay inside?

This is pretty sneaky of Thailand.

So you know how everywhere else that you go traveling, well, I mean it's all country to country. You know how you have to do your PCR test here in Australia to see if you can get.

On the plane. Yeah, no, because I haven't been there, but likes, well, that's.

What it is.

If you go any like even when we're going on domestic flights in Australia until not long ago, you had to do your test here and if you were positive, you can't get on the plane, which is great because that's what it's like.

A super spreadup Thailand.

Don't make you test before you get there, but they make you test when you're there, and that's pretty sneaky because it means like you're already there and then if you test positive, they're like.

Oh, well, I've got to throw you into quarantine for three grand.

Hopefully you're staying in a nice hotel though, So then if you get stuck in quarantine at least like maybe there's an outdoor area a.

Balcony, No, because it's not your quarantine. You go into government quarantine.

So I don't think.

It's going to feel luxury five side down with a falling not in Thailand hotel quarantine.

Imagine if that was your holiday. Do you know what?

Though, I did read that if you're getting to the airport you need to leave at least two hours because apparently we've all forgotten how to fly. We're not getting our laptops out of security, we're not getting our phones out, We're not like leaving our aerosol cans. I don't even know which bag you leave your aerosol can in. But I also think that maybe it's because the airport's are huge of the understuff, because they fight at everybody and now they are scrambling to get back to capacity.

This is like a running joke with Sherry and I. I mean, you guys, if you guys are long.

Term listeners, you'll know my sister, Sherry and I did a lot of travel together. We went around the world for three years, a lot of countries, a lot of cities, a lot of flights.

If I added up, I wouldn't want to add up the flights.

And if you were new to the podcast, the reason why Brittany was doing this is because she was running away from her responsibilities in life.

I do that all the time, or whenever something goes bad. When Jordan and I just broke up, us like I'm moving MC's Laura's like.

No, and I'm like I'm doing it.

I'm gone, Wait.

We had a work meeting the other day with our bosses from Radio, and halfway through the work meeting at Radio, like sitting there in front of the big bosses, like the head yes, Britt goes, oh yeah, I'm thinking I'm going to move to LA And I was like, well, this is.

The first i've fucking heard about it. When are you moving to LA? Pretty?

She's like, well, I would move next week if I could. And I was like, great, maybe we can have this conversation not in front of our boss.

I was like, nothing's going to change.

We can still be in a relationship.

Because she's like, imagine your work colleague telling you you're going to do long distance whilst they're also telling your boss and she's not moving to LA everybody.

I mean, we'll talk about it off him.

No.

So what my point I was getting at is that after all this travel that I have done, and it's this running joke with my sister and I, I will still get to the security line and it's I don't have my shit together. Something I've either left like some pointy objects not a knife, but something in there that's not allowed in there, or there's an area as old can or I get there and they pull bottle of water out. They're like, you know you can't have water, and I'm like, I don't know.

Sheridan's like, how have you done this? You have been to nearly sixty countries?

Now, how are you still getting to the airport and you don't know what to put through?

Imagine what I'm going to be like now, imagine.

Alfter some time off.

On top of that, you are literally the reason that people are waiting two hours.

You're obnoxious traveling. But I have to pull out my nun charks. I have to pull out my summer I saw. He's like, what do you mean?

I can't take a gun on the plane?

Okay?

I wanted to bring before we get into your spicy questions. And we do have some spicy ones today, because the reason why we didn't want to leave it for two weeks is because the questions just surmount so quickly, and if we don't keep doing these ask gun cuts.

Then they're gone forever into the neha.

Well, I mean that's not why I do it.

I want to do it because I'm all about helping the people.

Okay, I can't let people sit for two weeks with their problems on Solved.

I don't want the life admin anyway, capes guys. Before we get into it. There is something I read. Actually it's a bit of a TikTok trend. You know, that's where we love to get our hard hitting articles from. But there is a woman and I think that we can all take a little leaf out of her book. There is a woman who on TikTok has gone viral because she went on sixteen consecutive dates and I'm talking like one day after another day after another day legend

This is genius, is it?

Though?

Well?

I mean what were the rules around it? Was she going out to source these dates? Were they coming to her?

Where did she find them? So I'm just gonna give you a bit of an overview.

Her name is macaw Brock, and she shared a short video on TikTok with the text over it saying in college, when I ran out of money for food, I went on a dating app and for sixteen days straight, I had sixteen dinner dates in a row.

Because girl's got a Literally.

I think this is brilliant.

So her rules were that she never asked a guy out for a date. It was only if a guy had asked her out for a date, and she was like she was sure that they were going to pay for wherever he was taking her.

Okay, girl, what's your secret? Because how are you getting asked out on a date every day?

How have you got sixteen people in a row? I reckon, I've had one this year.

I like that that's where your mind goes to see. For me, I would because I know the logistics. I know how hard it is to get a good date.

She's just lining them up left, right and center.

But I think that's the thing. I don't think that they were good dates. I don't think the purpose of the date was the company. The purpose of the date was the meal. But my thought on this is like, yes, I understand I can fully relate to having financial troubles when I'm at university.

I think I was exactly.

I remember sitting at my desk at work and eating tuna and packet rice and five been and I'd mix the three things together and I ate that every single day with some crackers because I was so freaking university poor at the time. But the amount of effort that goes in to sitting in a date with someone who you don't want to date just to get a free meal, that is a level of effort I will never have in my body.

No I could do that.

I'm thinking back to my Uni days and I was like, there's some touch and go moment.

There's a bit of devon there was. There was a lot of tuna.

I think if you look, if you put a positive spin on her, right, they're not going to be a penguin. Maybe they are. Maybe she's like, do you know what, Maybe then day I'll meet someone really great and go on another date. Maybe the sixteen dates turned into thirty two dates. I think she's being really smart. She's probably learning something. They're probably all bringing something new to the table. You know, this is a great to meet new people.

She's like asking if we can got a sizzler.

Yeah, She's like, can we get pizza? Hat ogony and she put some in it like a container for the next day.

Do you do that when you stay at a hotel? Do you steal stuff in the breakfast buffet?

I mean not as a grown woman. I lived in a van in England for a while.

Of course you did.

I know, so I lived in a van, but not a van, guys, I can't explain this.

Don't picture this like fun, loving, free gypsy life that's traveling around.

I lived in a van.

There was like just a tiny little removalless fan, no windows, a wooden floor. This wasn't built to travel in. It was built to like put a table in and move furniture. And I'm not talking a big van.

It probably was. When I put my sleeping bag in it, I could only just fit.

Well long did you live in a e vent a couple of months? Why where did you wash and shower and eat?

I went to camping grounds and stuff.

Wow.

And I used to go to university with someone who I was quite good friends with at the time, and they would live out of their car, but they would they had a gym membership which was pretty cheap because it was a student gym membership at the Uni and they would have their shower and everything at the gym and then they would just eat on campus, but they lived out of their car.

This was when I used to surf a lot and we were going to camping grounds and I would serve so be in the water and you would there's always like bathrooms and stuff and showers. So sometimes when there wasn't even a proper shower, I would just literally be that personal showers on the on the beach shower.

I'd have my.

Soap, but I'd have my heck.

Anyway, The point of this story is when I was living in the van with no windows and no bed, I used to go to these pizza huts and over in England they had other types of like all you can eat kind of stuff and I used to take it. I got to container from like a Cheapo shop two dollars. I used to take it and I used to smuggle

Ate pizza hut for months. I couldn't afford anything else.

How good were the bacon bits though? Or that was sizzler?

Anyway, back to this girl, let's okay. The one thing about this though, that I think is slightly problematic.

The internet is divided.

Is it unkind to use somebody just to get a free meal, knowing full well that you're not interested in them at all, and leading them on for that date.

It's not it's not great. No, But do we know she wasn't interested though, yeah, was interested.

She wasn't going for quality over quantity. It was quantity over quality because she just wanted a guy to pay for her meals.

I think it's a.

Bit bloody mean, But at the same time, I'm like, if you're going to go to that much effort and then you pretty much deserveed me out of it.

I mean that is like, as much as we can laugh, that is different. If she knows that she had absolutely zero interest, then it's it's it's funny, but it's not cool. It's not nice to them at all. But if she was waiting for the people to ask her out that she had an interest in, I think that's okay.

She definitely had no interest and it was all about the food, because, as she said, girl's got to eat.

Don't you remember?

This reminds me we spoke about this, but I mean we've done nearly three hundred episodes, so you might not remember.

It's a good chance we spoke about this, probably every year ago. About the Japanese man. The thirty nine year old Japanese man, and he.

Was arrested because what he was doing was going on dates with women and then getting into serious relationships with them, but multiple at a time, like sixteen seventeen at a time. He told them all as soon as he got into the relationship, he got him really quickly, like he's like I really want to be with you, I love you or whatever. As soon as you're relationship, he would tell them his birthday. He changed his birthday. His birthday was always like a month.

Away, and he got all these really expensive presents and then cash them in and then we'll go to the next girlfriend.

He got charged. He got charged for fraud.

He got charged for faking his birthday at the end of the day, but no, it was fraud. He actually got charged for take for defrauding these women out of thousands of dollars for birthday presents, and.

He just kept saying it was my birthday next month.

I mean, how do you keep up with that?

Until one day he slipped up and someone was like, hang on a minute.

One thing I think that we can all agree on is that his love language was gifts and her love language was food. A hundred All right, well, I feel like we could talk about this forever, but that is not why you were here. We have picked out some saucy questions for you guys today, and we are doing our absolute best to answer them. So let's get into question number one.

This is like a little bit opposite to what most people's problem is, so I'm interested to see what you think. My question is what do I do if a guy lasts too long?

Yes? You heard that right, people too long.

I've recently started seeing a guy and I really like where it's going. But when we have sex, it lasts a really fucking long time, to the point where I orgasm once or twice before he even does. Now, this might seem like every woman's dream, but I feel guilty. It's like a fucking nightmare. I feel guilty, and sometimes it just hurts. I just don't enjoy it anymore.

What do you think about this?

What do I do? How do I broach it?

I think that this like we spend so much time talking about men who don't last long enough. I feel sorry for the women who are being pounded into the ground Poundtown, Poundtown, but far like pound past Poundtown into like yeah late pound cemetery.

Yeah, from Poundtown to Pound cemetery.

R ipe.

I once stated a guy not to get into a personal story, but you know, we love one here who was like a jackhammer forty five minute jack hammer. Yeah, standard, it was the worst. Was the worst forty five minutes to an hour of my life and like walk half a days. I bruised, but like to not with ail, like I would have come in the first seven minutes and then it's forty minutes of just being pounded.

But did he.

Did he was there any like position change?

Oh yeah, we would change things up, but it was just always like bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang. And I was like, how are you not coming yet? Like we like just did all the theatrics. I was like, maybe I don't know, Okay. My number one suggestion to you is like if you were with a guy who lasts a really, really long time, invest in some good quality lube, like instead of just laying there and taking it until you turn into sandpaper.

The first things first is you need some lube. That's your best friend. I don't know what you do. This hasn't happened to me.

I have never been in a situation where someone just annihilated me and doesn't end.

Really, you've never had sex.

Maybe I'm just good.

Spread it daily mail, pick it up.

It has nothing to do with like how good it does. Yeah's exactly.

There are just some guys who are just like not that stimulator or not overly. It takes them a really long time to get to it. I also think, and this is something that maybe could be worth a conversation, there are some men who think that they're supposed to last a really, really long time, who think that it's supposed to be an ultra sex marathon. Most women don't want to have sex for an hour unless they have like real unless you have decided, yes, we're gonna make

Well, what could be happening is if you are taking a leaf out of Laura's book, and you're like, I was bringing a theatric, so I was trying to make it great.

He's probably like, she's fucking loving at Like, I'll.

Just keep going.

And some guys can actually and I know this because I've spoken to Mad about it, some guys can actually like stopped themselves from comings and then they can go longer, and then they'll keep and obviously the more that they stop themselves or they prolong that orgasm, the more that the orgasm that they finally has is like fucking phenomenal. But like, if that is at the detriment to your poor vagina turning into a worn down piece of sandpaper, I think that you can maybe have a conversation, which

You're seeing him you're in.

If you're in the middle of sex and it's hurting you, no one should ever have to be doing that. I would say that. I would literally say, Hey, are you going to come? Are you going to be able to wrap this up soon? And I was like, because you know this is starting to hurt now, I would just be I would just be honest because he's okay, I don't.

Know in the middle of sex, are you saying that? You would just roll over and be like, Hey, are you going to come soon? Because you're starting to hurt?

YEP, I would say are you going to come soon?

Because sometimes it's not going to happen sometimes, you guys, it's the same as girls, very like I think it happens for women more. I think it's generally speaking, I think it's probably easier for men to come. But sometimes maybe they've come too many times that day, maybe they've masturbated whatever. Maybe it's not going to happen for them in that moment and they just keep going. So maybe if you just say to them, do you think you're gonna come soon, because I've come twice.

I'm ready to wrap it up.

Yeah, I think you just say that because if people aren't armed with information, and this is in any aspect of life, how can you make a decision for that situation where you don't know If he thinks you are having the time of your life, he's gonna keep going. But if he's like, oh, she wants to finish, he might be able to finish in two minutes.

He might be holding off for you totally.

There's nothing worse than laying on your back, staring at the ceiling, trying to moan convincingly and really like for like twenty minutes past when.

It should have ended one hundred percent said, It comes back to the same thing. I think honesty is the best policy.

Can I say on one.

Thing that you did just say, brit which I think cannot be overlooked in this Maybe he is masturbating when you're not around, And like we do know that the more a guy actually ejaculates, the longer it can then take him to get to organ and the next time. So like if he's only just maybe given himself a hand drop that morning or that afternoon and then you.

Guys are going to have sex.

That could be part and parcel as to why it's taking him so long to actually come. So maybe the heaps of guys do that because they want to last longer. Yeah, because I don't want to go and have sex with a girl they really.

Like and last two minutes. So I have so many male.

Friends and you know, partners in the past, I have said that they're like, oh, yeah, you'll always jack off before you go on a hot day, like because you don't want to go in last two seconds.

Also, like I think if it just is the case that he is somebody who lasts a really long time and it's becoming tiresome.

For you, there's usually something.

That will get your partner off quickly, whether it's like you know, I don't know, something that you can whisper in the ear, whether it's it's there's usually something that will get them over the Do you.

Whisper the mat Laura and you want to wrap it up it's been seven minutes, You're like, Oka, if your blow job next week, you give your finishes right now.

Also, that's another option, right, Like you don't have to get to the finish line by having sex, like you can finish off.

By giving him a blowout.

Or whether he's not gonna come meagine you get Lockjawn.

You can't go and give a blow job if he's not going to come in sex, it's like rip good luck.

I do want to say though, that I think that this is a very relatable question. I know, Brittany, you have never experienced this, but I am going to bet my life that there are so many women out there listening to this who have had sex with somebody who just takes too long, and it's almost as bad, if not worse than someone who doesn't take long enough one hundred percent.

But what's your answer? My answer is just to honestly the best policy.

Yes, I think honestly is the best policy. But then I think there are a few other things that you do as well.

I can I just say as well, it's a loop. It's definitely an education thing.

So if people aren't taught something or or it's never spoken about, they're not going to know. And what I mean by that is there will be a lot of men out there that think the more times a woman can come, the better.

But it's not necessarily like that. For everyone like you.

You say you can come one or two times, and then you and the second time is still great, but come the third time, a, it's not gonna happening, and be it's getting uncomfortable.

But if you don't tell him that.

He's gonna be like, oh yeah, let's so again. How many times can I make you come? He doesn't know that all of a sudden it changes for you.

And some people can have like infinite number of orgasms, like all the power to you. But for me, if I ever get to number two, I am wham bam, thank you, ma'am.

I'm done.

That is shut down for business. Oh no, I see I could go to probably four four?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, and in what period of time in the same session, Wait, like an hour, half an hour?

Like, how many times is he going to get you to four? Fifteen minutes? No? He no, he would only go once.

Wait, in one back to back sex session, you can have four orgasms?

Yeah fucking yeah?

Average three.

Yeah, I'm I'm pretty lucky average three, but I've four has been my I think four has been my record.

That is impressive.

Yeah, when forget the.

Spot, let's get into question number two.

I feel like this one has some similarities to the number one question, so I thought I would bring this one hot and ready and.

Rearing off the back of it.

Okay, I'd been with my boy for a few years now, but we were kept apart due to COVID for a year before this. The sex was well and truly on fire. It was amazing and I was loving it since. However, we have been reunited, which was almost a year ago. Now, he has trouble playing the long game from too long to not long enough, and typically as soon as he puts it in, he literally can't move because.

He will finish immediately.

I'm a thirsty girl and I have been known to hit double digits with my orgasms when I'm with him in the past. I really miss this. I really miss our sex life. He is perfect in every other way possible, But I don't know if this is going to fulfill me long term.

What do I do?

Can I have a conversation with him about this? How do I bring it up with him without completely destroying his self esteem?

You can't do? You care?

I'm joking. Of course you can, but he's gonna be devoted.

But the thing is, I know how old are one?

I feel like I've gone back in time. I've been saying bro and devoted lately.

I don't know what's happened becoming more bogan. I don't know what's happened to me.

I go through these phases anyway. He's going to be devoted for sure, because viewing no one, no man or woman wants to hear that, like they're not pleasing their partner in the bedroom. The fact is he's coming in two seconds. He's aware of that. That's sort of secret.

He's not doing that without his own knowledge.

So he knows that there is no way you are getting off.

He knows that there's no way there's pleasure. So it's a bit weird. It's a bit like the elephant in the room.

If he's putting it in coming and then you just I can't even imagine the scene. Do you both just roll over and look at the ceiling?

How do you not?

How do you not recognize it?

I think the big part of this is like knowing that you can obviously be satisfied and have a great sex life. It doesn't have to just come down to penetrative sex, right, That doesn't have to be the end goal. And knowing that he is capable of it, but something else has happened amongst the change the COVID.

Like flat COVID.

That was a weird time for everyone.

I think it's had some long stemming mental health impacts and on that long oh, it's impacted people in a lot of ways, and maybe he's got anxiety in this life in others aspects. We've only got a really small snapshot on what's happening in this guy's life from your question.

Something that probably more people than you realize experience. You go and speak to a specialist or a doctor like if this is and from what you've said, this is extreme, You've said he literally can't move, he puts it in and he can't me or he'll come. So this isn't just like I'm super horny and can't wait. There's more going on here, and the worst thing you can do is pretend it's not going on and make it like it's an embarrassing thing to go and seek help.

It's not embarrassing. There are people going through it all the time, and there is help for it.

So maybe you just say hey, like exactly like said, hey, what's going on, Like, let's just chat about this. And if you need to go on, like if he needs to go and speak to someone, that's okay, But he is going to feed off your energy and the way you feel about it. So if he thinks you're embarrassed and you're awkward and you're not enjoying it and you don't want to talk about it, he's going to feel that as well, and it's going to intensify it.

But if you just sit down and you're really open about it and say let's get.

To the bottom of itr like, let's sort this out, let's get back to it, he's going to be more engaged and more likely to go and seek help for it.

And I think especially when you talk about this from like being in a place where you've had an amazing sex life prior. If it was something that had never existed in your relationship and it was a problem from day one, I would say like, okay, well, then this is something that maybe a constant in relationship, something that

Yes, without any chafing and without any page all.

Right, all right? Question number three? Am I being unreasonable? Yes? Or all right?

I think that this is an interesting one. It's a very specific question. Or would most girlfriends think it is not not respectful for your boyfriend to put another girl on his shoulders at a festival?

I was not expecting this is it's.

Very, very fucking specific. So I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly two years and we are in a loving, committed relationship. However, I feel insecure at times about one of his girlfriends who he used to have a crush on for many many years in high school and all throughout UTI. She never liked him though, so nothing ever happened between them. They are still friends, which I'm okay with, of course, as they are in the same friendship group that I have become a part of. I feel I

Would even do that.

I guess what I'm wondering is should I be feeling disrespected?

Am I overreacting? Or is this a deal breaker?

Definitely not a deal breaker.

It's definitely not deal definitely not like.

No, if you break up over this, where do we.

Go from this? I feel?

I mean, I think that like having a girl on your shoulders could be deemed as being.

A bit flirtatious and vagina's neck.

Yes, it's like the genitools turn around the other way and you could be going down on her.

Yeah, this is not the Exorcis. Girls sit around in like.

Three sixty ok okay, and he doesn't have a mouth on the back of his neck.

No.

My my first instinct here is I totally understand where your feelings are coming from, because they have some sort of connection. Now, whether they actually ever did hook up, whether he had a crush on her, whether she had a crush on him, there's obviously something that's been there in the past, So I get why you would feel uncomfortable, especially because you weren't there from the outskirts. This to me seems pretty innocent.

If you're at a festival, there's people ever here, there's music, happy probably been drinking. The ViBe's high, she's still in the friendship circle. I don't think this moment would have been too thought out. I think it would have been very spontaneous. It would have been like everyone else is doing it, throw me up. He was there available, his

And he's you have said, he has made it really, really obvious, and he's really reassured you that there's nothing there and it wasn't anything. He didn't even think about it, And I think you need to accept that, Like, don't make a mountain out of a molehill. That is what I think is happening here. This has the potential to keep snowball into something huge. And let me tell you, he's going to get exasperated. He's going to be like, for fuck's sake, like I like to me this, I

But I would just take his word for it.

And the fact of the matter is she is in their friendship group, so they are going to have interactions from here to there, and you need to get to a place where you're okay with it, unless, of course, they're like going out one on one. That's different if you won't have had a coffee with her one on one and you found out about it.

Different story.

Okay.

I think the big thing here for me is like, ask yourself, if it had been anybody else, would you be okay with it? Like if it was another girl in the friendship group, would you be okay with it?

Or is it a random yeah?

Is it just because you know that back a few years ago he had a crush on her, Like, just because he had a crush on her a few years ago doesn't mean he has any romantic feelings for her now. Sometimes we just have to with these sorts of situations go okay. It doesn't make me feel great. Something about it makes me feel a bit icky, But I'm not going to sabotage my relationship or create a huge issue when he's already done everything he can, he's apologized, he's reassured you.

And second to that.

Sometimes I think, especially when we're jealous, because jealousy is such a fucking blinding emotion.

When we're in and we have.

Full emotion jealousy, you can think, especially because you're not there, you didn't see how it all went down.

You didn't see the tone.

Or the vibe of the situation in your head.

They probably fucked it.

Behind the demand of you think, your brain just instantly goes to worst case scenario. Your brain will play tricks on you, because that's what jealousy does. And jealousy is an emotion that comes when you're fearful of losing something,

Is like fuck, sorry, like I didn't.

Realize everything I can to make you feel good. I promise there's nothing there, Like we didn't think about it. If he had turned around to you and said, fuck you, you're so controlling.

I'll do whatever the fuck I want. Don't tell me what to do. That's I'd be like, run for the hills. I'm gonna do it at the next festival on the weekend.

And if he does do it again in the future with the same girl, then of course you're going to be like, well, that is a problem.

This is a reoccurring problem.

Yeah, but he did what every His response was what you could only hope for.

It was very it seems like very respectful and honest. So I think, don't I think you are. You're for sure overthinking this, and okay, put yourself again.

I love this. Put yourself in the situation. Picture this. You're at a festival. He's not there. You're all having fun. There's this big group of people.

It's crowded, the music's going, it's your favorite band.

Everyone's on each other's shoulders. You're there alone, but someone else in.

The group is like, jump up.

You would be like, what chances are You'd be like WHOA, Yes, you wouldn't even think about it. You would jump on. You would have fun, you wouldn't think twice, you'd get off and you get on with your day.

So and don't get me wrong, like, I agree with you completely, brit when you put it in that perspective, I'm like, yes, yes, yes, But then I also think about it from her perspective, Like if Matt was at a festival without me and he got a really hot chick to jump up on his shoulders, there would be a little bit of me that was like, oh, that's okay, Like why did you do that? You know, I would feel there would be a little bit of me, But would that feeling be strong enough for me to like,

Please don't do that again.

And I would hope that he respected me enough that he just didn't do that again and that's the end of it, or go to the festival with him anyway, that is from us that three short, sharp and sexy little questions. Then I know that we are supposed to be on holidays, so we will not be bringing out a Tuesday episode next week. But we are coming back with Actually we've done a little bonus episode for next Thursday, so this is that's a last week of our you know,

Did they take our advices? Did they run for the hills?

Yeah, just a little tidy follow up.

We've been trying to do it for a long time, but we would always get sporadic answers, like sporadic people writing in, but.

We put like a definitive call out.

We were like, stop what you're doing right now. If we've answered a question, write in and tell us. So here it is.

We thought that being on holiday was a perfect time to drop this for you, so you still had some sneaky little content to listen to.

And that is coming out next Thursday, which is when we'll be sliding back into your libraries. But until then, if you want to follow along on Instagram, it is Life Uncut podcast. You can also jump into the Life Uncut Facebook Discussion Group which is where all the juicy.

Shit goes down.

And if you've loved the episode, please jump onto Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcast and leave the review.

Please keep sliding to the DMS with all we questions, funny stories, actually unfiltered's confessionals, everything else in between, and don't forget to tell you mum, toe, dad, Telly dog, tell your friends, and share the love because we love love.

They were pa air

Bababea by the Gabe