ASK UNCUT - HELP! I don't like my besties partner

our darndas to answer them. I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and we give you all of our very unqualified but extremely enthusiastic advice that comes from many years of very poor decision making. What they say is if you can't do, teach, and that's exactly what we're doing here. That's exactly right. We actually had a very insightful conversation about that very recently, and that will be next week's episode. Should we tease that now? Yes, of course, don't leave the little carrot hanging.

We interviewed some of you guys will know this. This name might be very familiar to you and some of you may not know the name, but you will definitely know the book. We interviewed Mark Manson, who is the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, which was the number one best selling book for many years still actually is on the list. I think it's the longest running New York Times best selling book ever.

We interviewed him just the other day and that's going to be next Tuesday's episode, and honestly, it was such a great interview. He has such an interesting and unique perspective on the world and I got so much out of it. So I cannot wait the next Tuesday's episode. But let's talk about today's episode right now. What have you been doing before we get into the episode. Do you have any goss five week old child which you're like, let's just get in and get out. Yeah, I have

a five week odch, which means I do nothing. Literally, an event for me these days is leaving the house. So to set the scene here, guys, Laura is like, quick, I've just breastfed. Get his stats. So I have to bring my sister over. So Sherry is actually out in the lounge room and she's on babysitting Judies while we're hoping Lolla sleeps for hopefully forty minutes or enough time for us to bang out this episode, so we're hoping

we don't get any interruptions. I was like forcing my boob into her mouth just to top her up, so that I thought I'd get at least squeeze forty five minutes out of her. Anyway, we were gonna wish us luck. We may get interrupted, but don't worry, we'll be back. Well, I have something exciting to share. Tell me, let me live vicariously through you. And actually this is a sign of the times if I say that this is exciting. But I just got the COVID vaccine, which means that

we're one step closer to international travel. What was it like? Did it hurt? Is there any more different to a normal flu? Jab Like, tell me how you're feeling. Are you lightheaded? Woozy? Do you need to lay down on a glass of water? What of it? The people that have had it so far, everyone has said it's a really painful vaccine. So I've had every vaccination obviously, for as a healthcare worker, I've always had to or they

don't let you work in the hospital, especially internationally. But I was prepared for a painful vaccination because some of them are, and it was probably the least painful vaccination of any vaccination I have ever had. I barely felt it. I was like, is that it? She was like, that's done.

I'd be interested to hear how you feel in the next couple of days, because you know how sometimes they say with vaccinations that you can maybe feel a bit feverish, or you can feel a bit achy, or you can have, like you know, some small, very insignificant symptoms after having a vaccine. I'll keep you posted. We'll talk about it next week's episode. I'll say how I felt over the week. But there's nothing actually live in it in that sense,

so no one's getting sick from it. But people are getting a lot of like localized repercussions, and I'm talking like minimum, I'm talking about a headache, or they might feel fatigued, and that's it. And that's just usually for a day or two. And I only know this because I was asking him and quizzing them when I was there today, So that's what they've told me. Right now, I feel absolutely fine. My arm isn't even dead yet.

I have no pain. I have no headache. I have nothing, so that could change over the next day or two, and I will keep you posted. And because Britt works in healthcare, she's obviously one of the first people to be offered the vaccine. So we have our very own guinea pig right here in the studio and back studio, I mean my bedroom's actually do you know what is

is exciting? We're currently sitting next to my bed which I had to strip all the sheets off and the mattress protector because I breast milk leaked all over my bed. It's a really interesting time in my life. Guys. No, I have something actually exciting. Oh okay, it's way more definitely, wasn't it. Hey, it's way more exciting than that. And

it's way more exciting than a vaccine. The new lover Jordan and I Jordan decided to put a bet on with me the other day, and the bet was that if you are just joining us today, Jordan is my new boyfriend. He's also a tennis player. Greenie has a boyfriend. The bet is that he said there is no way that I could ever return one of his tennis serves like zero way. I I mean like I know that I can't, but of course I'm going to disagree with

him because I always want to be right. And I said, I reckon I can, and he's like, I will, I will put a bet on. I was like, great, what do you want to bet? Let's do this and it got quite competitive because we're both very competitive. So he has bet me a house. Jordan has said that if I can return one of his tennis serves, he will buy me a house in Sydney. And this is the most bougie, unrelatable af thing I have ever heard. What is this man? Where is his money? I know, it's

so ridiculous. What okay? And where does one find one of these men on online dating? So please explain all of these things. But okay, before we get into it, how quick does he serve a ball? He serves about between two hundred and two hundred and twenty and I thought this was feet now, but apparently it's kilometers per hour. So if he serves a ball at two hundred and twenty kilometers an hour, you're either a going to get a house or B you're gonna be dead. So there

you go. So either way, he probably wins. Sideway al right, guys, let's get into your questions. You've sent us in a absolute shite load because we have five weeks worth of backed up questions to answer. But unfortunately, because we do have to keep to a time frame, we are answering only three questions today and Britney's getna kick it off. Okay. Question number one, guys, please help. How do you end a relationship when you rationally know it's what needs to

be done? And that is because we're just not on the same page anymore for the future. And I'm talking about kids, our social life, and even sexually, but emotionally, I still love the guy and there are definitely parts of the relationship that are amazing in that sense I'm talking is a great company. I am stuck, I am confused, I am drained. Also, ps, we own a house together and a dog. Ah. This is complicated as fuck the

last sentence. So the first thing I want to say to this is that it doesn't matter what type of breakup you're having. Breakups are fucking hard, and they are hard whether someone has done something wrong, whether someone has done nothing wrong. They're even harder when you still are in love with the person and there's nothing wrong with this situation except for the fact that you're not aligned.

I reckon that these are the hardest breakups to be perfectly honest, when when you're like, you know what, on paper, this guy is perfect or this girl is perfect, but I know in my heart of hearts that this isn't the relationship that is right for me. And I guess at the end of the day, if you stay in this, the longer you stay in this, the longer that you kind of settle, because this is the definition of settling, the longer that you are robbing yourself of having the

things that you want in life. I think it's the same as any relationship. Unfortunately, you need to sit down and have a conversation and really explain to him how

you're feeling. I think the fact that you can say he's a great guy, but you're not sexually compatible either kind of lends itself that you've gotten into a situation where you are best friends who live together, who had the label of being in a relationship and being boyfriend and girlfriend, but you know it's not going anywhere, So sit down, have a really honest conversation about those things,

and then, unfortunately, like all relationship breakups. I think the most important thing is to have a time of a period of no contact, because that's the only way that you can really start to one get over it, two to compartmentalize it, and three to know whether or not you've made the right decision, because if you're constantly in each other's space, then you don't have any time to process your real thoughts about it. For me, I totally

agree with what you said. This, unfortunately, is the suckiest kind of a breakup when you do still love them and you enjoy their company, and you've spent so many years with them, you've never been able to picture your life without them. But there are all these other roadblocks now where your past are going different ways. This is the hardest breakup ever, and I have done it. This was exactly my relationship with my partner of eight years. We loved each other, but we and we had the dogs,

and this was the roadblock. We were just going different ways. But I think when I read this question and I really think about it, I think you should ask yourself because you did put a sentence at the end saying that you know we do have a house and a dog together and it's just so hard. Ask yourself, if you didn't have the house and you didn't have the dog, what would you do. Would it be easier to leave in that sense? And I think that you'll probably find

your answer is yes, it wouldn't be as hard. Now you need to think, okay, the house and the dog. Yes, it makes it more difficult, it makes it a bit more sticky, but it's not a reason to stay in a relationship that's not made for you. And the biggest thing that I also got from this is you said, sure you're not compatible sexually in your social life. I think it's okay to be introverted and extroverted in a relationship. I think that can balance each other out to a point.

But my biggest red flag here is that you're not on the same page with kids. For me, that would be one of my deal breakers. And I know it's a lot of people's deal breakers. I know my brother's been in that position before. I know friends that have ended relationships because one person wants a child and one person doesn't. I think that that is a really, really big sign for you that you need to reassess why you're staying in this relationship because the fact that it's

a nice company. He's a comfort to you because you've been with him for so long and that's the life, you know. Unfortunately, and this is tough love, but they're not reasons to stay totally. I think you know the end this as well. I think you're just I think you are maybe hoping for some insight a little bit, but you know the answer. You don't need to ask if you need to leave or stay. You know deep down that you were looking for something more and you're

ready to move on. But it's very, very difficult. But I mean, in a perfect world, right, and you kind of nailed this as well. But in a perfect world, we would only break up with people who we don't love, you know. We would get to a point in a relationship where we're like, well, I don't love you anymore, so I'm going to leave. But we don't live in a perfect world, you know. And I have also been in this very similar situation, and I think for me, the thing that I loved, I loved him. I definitely

was not in love with him anymore. We've been together for three years, we lived together, we owned everything together, and I loved our life. I loved the things we had. I loved how comfortable the life that we had was, even though we hadn't had sex together in six months. But I loved our life, and breaking up with him wasn't just breaking up with him. It was breaking up with the life. It was breaking up with what was comfortable, and it was breaking up with all the things that

I loved that we owned together. And that is fucking scary. It's really scary because you have this moment where you're like, well, I have to start again, like who gets the couch, who gets the dog? Who gets the bed? Like does he get everything? Because I'm the one walking away, And like, no, he doesn't get everything. Like you guys can sit down and work out what's fair and what's even I at the time kind of thought, because I was the one doing the breaking up, that that meant that he got

everything and I walked away with nothing. And I think that's a really silly thing to do as well, Like, just because you want to break up with someone and you're the one doing the hurting, doesn't mean that you have to walk away from every single thing that you guys have together by staying in a relationship that you're not happy in not only are you robbing yourself with the type of relationship that you want, you're also robbing him of the type of relationship that he deserves as well,

also having a house and a dog and all these other things. I mean, it's slightly more tricky, but it's really not the end of the world as long as you're both having an adult conversation and you're both acting with respect. I know for me and I would just be like, oh, brush over it quickly. But with the house, we sat down as adults and said, who actually wants to keep this? Because we weren't renting, we owned it. Who actually wants to keep this? What are we going

to do with it? I looked at my finance, as he looked at his. We looked at what we wanted in our life, where we were going to be headed. And we made a decision. And the decision was I decided to let him buy me out of the house. So he wanted to stay in it. He wanted to renovate it. He was a build up brilliant. I knew that I wanted to go traveling for years, so I made the decision to, Okay, let's do that with the dogs. It was the hardest decision of my life, but I

feel like it was split it down the middle. Well, we had two dogs and they're best friends, and I would never I'm such an animal lover. I like, I would never take those dogs apart from each other. Because I was moving out and he was keeping the house. I was moving into a smaller house, like an apartment, and these are working dogs. They were border Collies and lasses. He kept our huge house with a backyard that was

on the beach, literally on the beach. He was like adventure man, and I had to It was the hardest decision of my life. But I made a decision to let them stay with him because I knew their life would be better. I knew that he could leave him at home together, he would exercise them, he would love them, was obsessed with them. I was obsessed with them too, but I couldn't take them to an apartment. The worst, hardest decision of my life. But as adults, that's what

you do. You just have to sit down and look at it from an outside perspective and think what's the best for every single person in this situation. So I think the fact that you have these little hurdles don't let that stop you, guys from going and growing as people and chasing what you really want in your life.

But I think at the end of the day, the biggest thing to keep in mind is that it is really, really hard, Like you've got to put on your big girl panties and do some really hard things and breaking someone's heart. It's hard to be broken up with, but

doing the breaking up can be equally as difficult. Yeah, because you're responsible for that person, You're responsible for their feelings and you want to make them feel better at the same time as being the reason why they feel like shit, and you can't do everything, so you do have to do the hard work, and then you have to walk away and let them heal. You can't keep

dipping back in. You know what's funny. When I broke up with my partner, and I ended up being the one that called it quits because I knew that I wanted different things in life even though I loved him. The hardest part it was I would have breakdowns and panic attacks. I couldn't breathe over the fact that I was breaking up with him and hurt, and he was very hurt, and that was the hardest thing. But all I couldn't get past the fact that I was My

issue was what if he doesn't find anyone else? All I could think about was I'm not kidding, And I was like, well, like I am the best thing to ever happen to him. What if he's alone forever now? Because I am wonderful? Because I just thought what if he never finds anyone? And I mean I thought that about me too, but I remember that being such a big thing on my list, Like I just he was the best human in the world, and I was like, I just want him to be loved or want him

to love someone. Yeah, And I worried about that. Anyway, he was with someone else. About eight months later, ten years later, I finally meet someone, so I had nothing to worry about. But that is the big fear, right that. I think that that's one of the reasons why people stay in relationships long past their overdue date, and that's because there's this constant fear of like what if I

don't meet someone else? I think, like, that's so it's so like kind and empathetic of you to think of that on the alternate side and think about, like, well, what if they don't meet anybody else the next day. But I think a lot of people live in this fear of like, well, what if I'm going to be alone? But by being in a relationship that doesn't it's not on the right track. It's not going to result in

what you want anyway, because you want different things. You're never going to be able to meet someone new because you're not looking for that relationship that aligns with your values and aligns with what you want in life. Absolutely, and I think we have well and truly covered that one. All right, next one, Okay, I get a question for you. Here we go, Hey, ladies, I'd like your advice on how to navigate mending a relationship with my best friend's boyfriend.

For context, he and I used to be friends, a few things happened in their relationship that I didn't agree with, and ultimately he and I are no longer friends, yet they are still together anyway. I don't want to mend the friendship necessarily, but feel as though I have to for my girlfriend, even though she hasn't asked me to do it. We all know how shit it is to

have your best friend and your boyfriend not get along. Think, for example, if Britt and Matt didn't get along as there are children involved in my situation too, any advice, this is a trick you get along too well. Sometimes I'm like Brandanth Matt, break it up. No, But I think that's great because I think anyone important in your life, the biggest thing that you want as a person is you want your friends in your family to like your partner, and you want to like your friend's partner as well.

So it's a tricky situation and it sucks, and it would be awkward if I didn't like Matt or Matt didn't like me and we saw each other every second day. But I also I think it's a really relatable one, especially if this guy has done something wrong and you're like to your friend, You're like, I want the best for you, I want you to be treated with respect

and love, and he's not doing that. So of course you're then going to either verbalize it, whether it's to your girlfriend directly or to him specifically, and say, you know, the way that you're treating her is not right. Like that must be such a common thing that happens. I know that I've experienced that in some of my relationships

with my friends and their boyfriends. Oh totally. But I think what you need to do here is if you want a salavage, I mean not salvage, because it's obviously not that you and your friend are having a rift over it. She hasn't even asked you to apologize. But there's always it's going to be that tension in the air. No one wants to feel that tension when you're all together.

If you guys are that good of friends, there are going to be multiple situations that you as a group are at dinner or at a party, or at each other's house or whatever it is. I think you probably do need to address the situation and whether Laura and I were just chatting about this before on like what level you would go to. At a minimum, you probably need to just have the conversation where it's like, hey, let's just put it all out on the table. I

know we got off to a rocky side. I know there are some things about each other you know that we're not completely happy or comfortable with. But let's put that behind us and try and move forward for the sake of everyone. And I think that's what it has to be. I think it just has to be a conversation and then hopefully you don't know that you guys might actually like each other and really get along once you put it all to bed and you just let

an organic relationship develop. Yeah, and I think like as well, like just to add on to what brit said, is like, it's it is so shit when your friend comes to you and says, these are all the things that my boyfriend has done. You know, should I break up with him? Shouldn't I break up with him? And you give it advice because let's say they've cheated, or let's say they've done something that really like compromises your values and your morals, and then they stay together, and then you've just said

all this stuff about that. You just said all this stuff. You're like, he's a deadhead. You deserve better, you can do somebod Hey, welcome back. You're still together. It's so so awkward, And what probably makes it worse is when you know your friend goes and says, oh, well, Sarah said this about you, because you know you shouldn't treat

me like that. Like that just inflames the situation and it ends up using your friends as ammunition in your fight with your boyfriend, which I think when that happens, it can cause the situation to be so much stickier and so much trickier. But I think you need to reach out to him specifically and say, hey, can we have a chat? Can I give you a phone call? Can we get a coffee? Whatever it is, and have a conversation with him. It doesn't have to be I want to be friends with you again. I want to be,

you know, back to where we were. It can just be like, look, you know how I feel about the things that you did and said. Obviously I think that you shouldn't have done the those things. Whatever they are, we don't know from the question. I only want the best for my friend. I only want her to be happy, and I only want her to be treated with the respect that she deserves. So you guys are still together,

I want her to be happy. And if you have made the commitment to not behave like that or not do that again, then I'm willing to start as a clean slate and give you that second chance as well.

And I really hope that we can get back to at least being at a point where we're civil with each other and we respect each other, so there isn't this animosity in the air whenever we're all together, because at the end of the day, the one thing that you want is the best for your friend, and that's a really really beautiful attribute and if anything, he should respect that as well. In addition, please, I just want

to add something extra to that. I want you guys to just think about it next time you're having a discussion or an argument. I say discussion, next time you having an argument with your partner. I really believe, and I used to be guilty of it. I used to do it, but I did it when I was younger. And I don't know if it's an age thing or I don't know if it ever stops. I'm not sure. I don't think you should ever I know what you're gonna say, and I actually think it's a personality thing.

I think some people like to complain, so finish say and then I would jump in and say, well, it's got two parts. I think it's really important that you don't complain about every single thing that your partner does in a relationship. Laura and I will definitely like be like, oh this happened, this happened. We'll always talk openly, but it's not going to affect. She could say a million things about Matt, which she doesn't. She could. I'm never going to hold it against Matt, but I know that

I know Matt and I know our relationship. But I think when you had an argument with your partner, the worst thing you can do is bring other external sources like your friends or your family into it. So don't be fighting with them and say to prove a point. Even Laura thinks that you're shit, even Sheridan thinks you're an asshole, Like, the worst thing you can do is start to bring these people that are close into your life because you're not proving anything. It's just your best

friend's opinion. You're not proving a point, not like you've gone and done any re educational research on it. But all's going to do is cause this awkward tension for upcoming encounters. And the worst thing is the worst And it's happened to me last week. Call me and they're like, broake up with my girlfriend. And I was like, me and another friend, we're like, oh, thank god, Like she was horrible, like she wasn't great for you and hated her. Well,

not like that, but I was. Their relationship is toxic and it straight up is toxic, and I'll be the first person to say that. And I was like, and I was really honest, I was like, oh thank god, Like that was so toxic and you're not happy and you know you need something else. You guys just aren't right. And then a week later he was like, oh, we're back together, and then you've said all these things about the person. Look, I mean, it's a gray area, isn't it.

Because if your friend is genuinely with someone who is toxic, and they're constantly coming to you and telling you all the things that they're doing wrong, then there does come a point where you're like, do you know what. I cannot continue to listen to you tell me about how badly this person treats you, and yet you choose to stay because like that in itself is going to wear

down the friendship. But if your partner is actually like a pretty good guy or girl, they're actually really reasonable, but you just like to complain whenever, whenever there's a fight or whenever there's a small irritation, you want to

get that off your chest by telling your friends. I think that's where you have to be really careful because you can end up skewing your friend's perception of your partner in your friends thinking that your partner's a bad bloke or a bad chick, when really you're just dealing with the normal irritants that we all deal with in a relationship, and some of that stuff you can just

keep to yourself. You don't have to speak badly if your partner to your friends all the time, you know, And I sometimes have to be conscious of that, even when Britt says it, you know, like I have to be conscious that I'm not just like dissing on Matt because I'm tired or because he's annoyed me for some reason because I've had three hours sleep, Because it's not really a reflection of him being a bad Beyonce, like

he's a fucking amazing fiance. It's more a reflection of me being irritable but using him as a punching bag. So sometimes be conscious of that as well. She just needs to call the boyfriend have a chat. There was the answer to all this. Call him, have a chat. See if you guys can get back on good terms. Yeah. Good, See, maybe I'll go this something fun together, like a bonding session like laser tag. How you can shoot each other

at the same top laser tag. When you said a bonding session, I'm thinking of one of those like trust falls or something, so I go straight to laser tag. That's fun and also you get to shoot you and there's a bit of aggression there, so you can shoot him in the balls. Before we get into the last question, just an update. Just got a really cute photo that's coming hot from the lounder room, Sheridan holding Lola and

she's in love. So we're recording the podcast and show's out there updating us that you know, Laura's not crying, Lola is bad, Lola is said, Lola is still asleep. This is good for us because we can still bang out the rest of this episode. Okay, last question before Laura's boobs start looking Hey, ladies, I have a real picker for you. My boyfriend and I have been together

for two years. His family is so lovely, but they're quite conservative and also very religious, so I've always felt pressure to act a certain way around them, even though I'm not. His mother recently started following me on Instagram, so I hid my stories from her as I just don't think she needs to see me get a little rowdy on the weekends with my girlfriends. I'm going drinking and I'm just being me. My boyfriend's sister recently asked his mum if she had seen some of my recent stories.

As I've up, I've did some really cute couple picks. His mom quickly realized what had happened, the fact that I had blocked her from seeing my stories. Now, I know she's quite hurt by this fact. I know she'll bring it up next time I'm around for dinner. How do I explain this one away? Do you think I ate just lying seeing my Instagram as a glitched or do I be the old Instagram glitch? Or do I be just be straight up on it? Oh, just lie, just lie through your teeth. Lying is always the best

solution to every problem. I mean, that's that's the advice we like to and correct. I think there is no harm in being honest. I mean, the situation is a bit frustrating and also like a little bit embarrassing because you have been caught out. But I think be honest. I think you can say you know to your mother in law, a boyfriend's mum, or wherever you are at in your relationship. I love you, and I love that you're a part of my life, and I love that you can see the posts and stuff that I put up.

But I do go out with my girlfriends on the weekend, and I guess I would hate for you to judge me on something they put up my stories or that you might deem inappropriate, you know, And you can say, you know, it's not that I'm going out and getting blind and putting my butt on the internet or anything like that. And if you were to do that, that's fine. Also, I your best life, You live your best life. You do you, but you don't owe it to your boyfriend's

mom to pander to her every whim. But of course you want her to like you and accept you, and you want to be respectful to her as well. So I don't think that you have to change your settings. I don't think that you have to give her access. I think you'd just be totally honest and say I love you, but there are some things I don't want to show you, like me kissing your son. Yeah, be honest, but like, let's be real, sugarcoat that honesty. Yeah, I mean,

I was fucking munted on the weekend. I really didn't want you to see that, Mom, Yeah, sugarcoat it. I The most awkward thing when I think of this is I've I fully picked myself, like walking into my partner's family's kitchen and having that conversation. The awkward part is who brings it up? Like if is she definitely gonna bring it up, because I don't think you bring anything up unless she does. That's what I think. I think, if it's not issue, don't make it an issue totally.

If you like, don't walk in and be like, look, let's put it all on the table, because she could be like, what what if we need to put on the table. But if she brings it up, then yeah, do your little glittery sugarcoat it honestly and just be like, oh, be like look I blocked my mom too. It's like, oh, I don't think you want to see me making out with your son. I just felt like it was a bit awkward. I'd just played off down that sense. Just be like, look, I love your son. We make out

sometimes we go out for drinks. It like, I didn't think you would want to see that, So I thought I was doing the right thing. But I'm happy to show you all the photos on because you've kept her on the Instagram like on your actual page. And I think that's the biggest thing. I think, like she's seeing the important stuff that you think is that everyone can see. But maybe play it down and be like, look, if it makes you feel better, I've blocked my mom too,

like put them all in the same basket. But also I think you're probably a little bit more worried about this situation than you need to be. No, because like I think as a mom, like she would get it. She knows why you haven't allowed her to see your stories. Like, she's not stupid, She's not going to be like but I don't understand why you would not. You're a perd

Christian child. What are you talking about? She gets it, and it's probably a little bit awkward for her too, So there is a very good chance that she's not going to bring it up. Like I mean, I know you say that you think she will. I genuinely think I would be surprised if she was to sit you down and say, hey, why can't I see your stories? Because that is an awkward AF conversation. But also this question just came in meaning you're going to see her

really soon, meaning we want an update. Yeah, absolutely tell us. But I also think, like what you have done, there's nothing wrong with this. So many people limit what their parents can see because, you know what, we're adults. We live private lives. Our parents don't need to know every single thing that we do. As a thirty five year old or a twenty year old, or an eighteen year old or however old you are, you are entitled to some level of privacy and you don't need to ask

for permission for that. So I think that she should be accepting of that without you going in and being guns blazing the librit set, you know, play it down, make it a bit funny. I'm sorry, Welsey's actually you're not seeing me Instagram Okay, actually it's had an idea. I've got my hand up, like I'm like, we're in class. Pret literally put her hand up so she could speak. I can't believe it. This just came to me, and I am a genius. I have I have a solution.

What I think you should do is you can create a close friends list on your Instagram stories. Put her on your close friends list, Remove her sister as well, but put them on your close friends list and just put some stories up that are like cute at the beach or whatever, or this is what we're having for lunch that are like your tamed down version, and she's gonna think she's got access to your stories. Is that

not a good answer? I feel like it's still slightly manipulative though, one hundred percent, but it gets her out of the situation. How can you continue to lie in this and it be okay? No, I mean I agree with that, But also you can have your or alternatively, you can have all of your friends who you want to see you party and see let the things that you do on the weekend on your close friends and you can kind of divide up the content that way.

So you could put your mother in law can see all the things that are all PG and g rated, and then if you're out partying on the weekend, just that stuff with your close friends so that she doesn't feel like she's being left out. I do think at the end of the day, like you want to maintain a great relationship with your partner's mum. That's really important. So there is a part of this where you want to make her feel included so you can manage your

social media is how you see fit moving forward. But I do think be honest and don't lie and blame it on a glitch, because she's gonna know you're lying, and then that's so much worse than being like, hey, I just wanted to I wanted to protect you from my crazy side. Well you could just say Johnny made me do it. Just blame it on the sun side advice. It's terrible. A Hi, guys, that is it from us. This is our short, sharp and down and dirty little

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