Hi guys, and I'll welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I don't know why that was funny. I'm Brittany because we've already done this episode like three times or the start of this episode, and every time I've tried something different. This is our short, sharp and sexy little episode where we answer you're deep, dark and burning questions. It's a Thursday, it's us gun Cut day. It feels a little bit strange because we've actually recording
this a little bit ahead of time. And by a little bit, I mean a few days. Usually we are scrambling around trying and keep our head above water, bringing these episodes the night before, because that's just how we've rolled from day one. Our motto at Life Uncut, and this has just become like the unofficial motto. We're gonna get stuck on some T shirts that just Brittany and our where it is we thrive in chaos. Mine's also
risk it for the biscuit. But yeah, we do thrive in chaos and I do risk it for the pussy. And do you know why we're recording this early. I'm going to tell you I have a little bit of like pent up resentment and fear that I'm going to be left alone and lonely. Britt, as you guys know, is going overseas, but she's actually going overseas very very soon. And this is the last episode that we're going to be recording face to face in the same room. Yeah, it's oh, I didn't even know where to start. I'm
super excited obviously to go and see Jordan. It's been a couple of months now, but I haven't really let myself be that excited. We have had so much to do in order for me to go, like and I just need to say thanks Laurifa, like helping me out on that since it has been manic. I'm talking like driving chaos, waking up at seven and putting our phone back down at midnight, recording all day, doing business, doing everything for this to go. And it's everyone's like, are
you excited? I'm like, not really, I just need to get through the next week. I have wild anxiety about everything. The reason why we've been working over time to be able to bank some really amazing interviews with some really really awesome people, and they are going to be still
coming out. We didn't want to have any time. Okay, we're having like a midyear break, which is like standard that we didn't want to have any unscheduled time off the podcast, and we know that maybe remote recording might have its own challenges, so we just wanted to be super super prepared, which is very unlike us. But look at us being all adulty. But when we say we're having a midyear break, guys, we will still be releasing content. It just won't be like the regular content. So don't
just like shit for lolls. It'll be just Lola Derby is. Yeah, accullently unfiltered story. That's where we're gonna be at. Have your panel already, shull probably need it. Did you just say that's my new one? Also, like I am gonna scum like my poor child Lola is just who's Lola? You mean Lolla Derby? Yeah, Like I've just ruined my child. I know that I really got Stubb and I dug my heels and I was like, no, I don't care
if Britain's gonna call her Lollodoby. I'm just gonna keep calling her Lola and I'm gonna name my child that and that's gonna be it. But now you guys all message me DM, me, and everyone calls a Lola Derby. It really hurts my soul. She loves I get messages to his hope Little Derby's okay, and I'm like, she's doing fine. She's just riding a Loller coaster. So you know that this episode is where we answer all of your questions. Thank you to every single person who has
been writing in. We pick out the ones that we think we can add value to, that we think are the most relevant, that you guys could maybe empathize with or get something out of, and we have picked our I don't know if I can say favorite, because that sounds really weird. We have picked three questions for this episode, and are we gonna get into it. Before we do get into the questions, I just wanted to say something funny. I wanted to read out something funny. I'm just gonna
paraphrase it. I got an Instagram DM, I love it when you guys slide on in And it was from a listener she had. I don't know if you guys remember if you haven't listened to last week's Ask Uncut. There was a question that came in about should or shouldn't a woman by her husband for their anniversary viagra, and we were a bit like, oh, I don't know if it would be if he would take that as
a bit offensive or anyway. Also, we received so many responses on Instagram from people who work in the medical industry, who are pharmacists or who like whatever whatever they do. They're people who actually know what they're talking about people.
And the response to that question was that you cannot just go in and buy viagra, which I think most people know that, but if you want to get viagro, you have to actually get a script, which means that the partner can't go and get him viagra anyway, He's going to go to the doctors and get her himself. It also means even if you tried to go and do that, the poor guy's going to have a recdulltysfunction on his medical record. But it doesn't have itually. There's
like some black market out there. Look, we're not dorsing, don't do that. Silk Rode deep Whip. No. We were talking about in that conversation and Laura was talking about something that Matt had said. She went and asked, Matt, what do you think you know Matt was like, oh, you gotta be ready to go to Poundtown if you're going to get viagra. So this woman wrote in saying she just picked her kids up from piano lessons, very
innocent piano lessons. They get in the car and Life on Cut playing that episode, don't play Life uncut around. As soon as they get in the car, they heard you saying, well, you've got to be ready to go to Poundtown. The five year old daughter in the backseat pops up, pas Hey, Mom, where's Poundtown? That sounds wild? She goes, dumb, that's a pleas that you don't need to visit for a very long time. Poundtown is wild. You're not going to Poundtown for quite some time. Girlfriend? No,
like fifteen years plus? Surely? Well, I mean twenty whatever, sixteen seven. I don't know how old are people these days? Well, I think they're get younger and younger. I think it's a chicken. Have you seen how old younger girls look? Now? Do you say? I think it's the chicken. It's like the hormones chicken. Haven't you seen these young girls? Now? And guys, I did not look like sixteen year olds
look now. When I was sixteen. Let me. I was like at thirteen, I was walking around a hypercolor T shirt that changed color depending on how hot or warm I was, And I had a pair of fluoro fucking bite pants. Also, like the other thing, everybody used to have, like branded teeth, like Billibong was cool or like I did. Everybody had like branded T shirts. I will never forget being thirteen and going to a surf shop and I was like, Mum, I really want that tea shirt and
my mom was like, laur it's a T shirt. I can make you a T shirt. And we went home and my mom fucking sewed me a T shirt. My mom did and they put a decal on the front from Spotlight. That's what I wore to Mufty day at school. Honestly, it's really expensive, like a T shirt back then, sixty seventy dollars for one T shirt that you wear ones you're a kid, you will ruin it. Add that to four kids, Like looking back, there's no way do you
know what I used to do? When I look at a thirteen and fourteen year old now and they've got big boobs, they've got makeup, they've got beautiful hair, they've like had extensions designer clothes. I used to do every day. I did that thing where you would twist your hair into hundreds of twists in little circles and put butterfly clips on them. I had I reckon. I could fit one hundred five flight clips in my hair, and that's what I wore to school. That's it. That's literally the
teenager that I was. Yeah, but that's the teenager you're supposed to be. That's Shit's character building, that gives you a personality. Imagine every time I see a twelve year old walking around hair assassin vites, I'm like, you will not be funny. You have no stories to tell. There is nothing dysfunctional about your life. You've got too much shit together. I still don't have sassinbid jeans. Actually, Laura and I were talking about this last night too, Laura
Sheridan and myself. We were like, this is the ship that you do as a kid that actually gives you stories and makes it funny when you're older, and it really really is character building. Like if I was walking around in designer clothes as a teenager, I would have no stories to tell, no butterfly clips, no stories. Well, I mean like far less relatable stories to tell. But the one thing we were talking about last night, and I feel like all of the older listeners are gonna
get this. Mean maybe some of the younger ones will as well, But I don't think it's quite such a fat at school these days because there's a bit more of a health style rating in primary schools. And okay, do you guys do not remember Devon? Like just Devon on a sandwich. I don't think parents would send us to school white bread, butter, Devon and sauce. That was lunch. It was pretty lit because you don't know what it was.
Devon was like a loaf, like a big loaf of meat that came like it was a log of meat and you just had to cut your slabs and then you splattered it on your bread with sauce. It was delicious. It was like really low grade hand but one step above spam. That's all we're talking about, and that's what we all ate for lunch as kids. But anyway, do you know what this is not a trip down memory lane. We need to get into the questions. Shout out to Devon. This episode is brought to you by Devon. That's not
sponsant devon, don't add us. Okay, let's get into some questions here we go. Okay, girls, I have this friend that loves to party, but it seems every time we go out, she's getting more and more drunk, to the point where she's falling asleep and can't walk or talk. It's getting to the point where I'm starting to resent hanging out with her because she gets so drunk I have to carry her home. Like last night we went
to a football game. She got so blind that we had to sit and rest and recovery for two hours so she can sleep it off, and then peed her pants. The taxi wouldn't even take her. We had to get the cops to help transfer her into the car. I took her back to my house because I was so scared that she was going to choke on her own vomit. And I woke up this morning and she wet the bed too. It's just getting progressively worse and worse, and I don't know how to bring it up that she
needs some serious reevaluating the way she drinks. And I'm not saying this happens once in a blue moon. It's like every time we drink she's getting black out drunk. I'm worried for her safety. I'm worried for her health, and I just don't know how to talk to her about it. This is a I want to say, this is a tricky one, but it probably actually isn't that much. It does sound like your friend, unfortunately, actually has a problem. It's not that she's maybe just partying a little bit
too hard. It sounds like she's doing it all the time, every time. But also, like I think, anybody who's getting to a point where they're blackout drunk and that's the default, you have a problem. Yeah, she's got to reassess her baseline of what is a normal night out. If your normal night out is blackout drunk, and that's for a multitude of reasons, that's a it's not healthy, it's not safe, but it's also a really big inconvenience to the people
around you. And I guess that's something that she hasn't actually considered that her doing that isn't just her. It's affecting you, guys. You have to take your night out. It's spend hours looking after and making sure she's okay, worrying about us, stressing about us, so I think there
definitely needs to be a conversation that's had well. I guess, like there's so many parts to this, and I've spoken a little bit before on this podcast about alcohol abuse and it's something that I actually genuinely really care about it. And I don't in any way think that I was an alcoholic when I was younger, but I definitely drank too much and I definitely put some of my relationships at risk because of the way I behaved when I
would drink. And I look back on that now and now I know, like, I never ever want my relationships to suffer because I'm partying too much. And I think about this girl, and I'm like, there is a misconception in Australia, and I think there's a misconception around young people that you can only be an alcoholic when you're older. No, you can be an alcoholic when you're in your twenties. You can be an alcoholic in your early thirties. Being an alcoholic doesn't have to mean that your life is
falling apart around you. What it means is that you have a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol and you struggle. If you're in this social environment where there's alcohol, you always take it too far, and there's so many ramifications from that. But I think when people start to realize that actually maybe they're an alcohol it's when it's taken such a huge toll on all their relationships and it's affecting their work, and it's affecting all these other facets of life that
they then will acknowledge that they have a problem. You need to sit down with your friend and have a really genuine heart to heart and explain to your friend one what they're doing, because if they're getting black out drunk that they don't remember everything, they need to be made fully aware of their behavior, which hopefully in their
conscious state, they will be quite embarrassed by. And also if you do know the triggers, if you go out to certain venues or you do certain things at nighttime, that that's going to be environments where she's going to drink. If you guys are all drinking around her, that she's going to be drinking more. I think creating an environment or doing things with your friend that don't necessarily involve alcohol as a way of deterring her. And I'm not
saying that you need to avoid it. In all instances, but having a really honest conversation with her saying I don't want to be around you when you're drinking. It is such a burden on us. And not only a burden, but also I am worried for your safety. I'm worried for your health. And the person that you are when you're drunk is not the person that I want to
be friends with. I really think she needs to be made very, very aware of how this is going to impact her relationships and for me and for like, when I was in my twenties and I was getting white wine wasted and I was, you know, drinking too much when I was out with my boyfriend at the time, and he would say to me, oh, like, I hate the way that you behave when you're drunk. I hate
when you do this. It was only when he really started to explain to me what my behavior was like, and then other people would say, yeah, you said that or you did that, that it made me realize, Holy fuck, I don't want to be that person. I don't want to ruin my relationships. And now I'm really really conscious, like, yes, I still love a glass of wine. I'll have a glass of wine when I cook dinner, I am very conscious about how much I drink. Now, there's a lot
of points in there. There's a lot. I was like, what do I get to first? I literally agree with everything that you said. I, on the other hand, I can't relate that much because I never have had a drinking problem. I was probably the opposite my long term relationship when I was the eight year relationship, he didn't drink at all. He was like an athlete to have someone in life that's so healthy. And he was older than me, so he was like my influence. That's who
I hung around me, So I didn't really drink. I also wasn't around people that were like that. I think that my group of people growing up, we were all the same. We're all really healthy. We're all into surfing and bike riding and just being active and getting up at the crack of daw And so I haven't had the experience with trying to help a friend through this situation.
But like Laura just said, sometimes people need to be made aware of just how severe the problem is if they're not realizing it on their own, and if you don't have a sit down and say as a friend and like a loving chat. You want to be their supporter because something is obviously going on in her life. You just need to say, hey, like, I'm not sure if you're aware of what actually happens when you go out, because she might not. She might think it's not nearly
as bad as what it is. Another point I really like that you said, Laura is that you don't have to be old. It's a common misconception that alcoholism is something that comes when you're older. And with all these troubles, there are a lot of really young, very inspirational, famous people, actors that you probably don't know, but that are sober.
And I remember reading something recently. I know Lucy Haley is, I know Zach EFRONI is he's been sober since like twenty thirteen because they literally said I wasn't a good person when I was drinking, and I didn't want to be like that. I didn't want in the world to view me like that. And I think that that's really great to take inspiration from people that are looked at to be very inspirational. And I guess the gold standards someone
like Zach Efron's just like young, hot, successful, beautiful. I mean, Kayla it seems that we've had her on the podcast, she's exactly the same. She hasn't had a drink in years. I don't think she's actually ever had a drink. From memory, Oh yeah, she's never had that's right. I think she had had it, tried wine and didn't like it. Definitely a product of your environment. There's a good chance that
your friend struggles with social anxiety. The only reason why I would drink too much when I would go out was because I thought I was like funnier or louder, or more entertaining, or like I had more confidence once I'd had a few drinks. But I just didn't know where that end stop was. Did you get drunk through the Bachelor? Throughout the Bachelor process? No, I was pretty
good in the Bachelor. There was only like one or two nights, one or two cocktail parties where I probably had too many drinks because it had kind of dragged on a bit too long and it was more so help me. Yeah, like it was still it was like three in the morning, and we you know, there's nothing
to do except have a few glasses of wine. By then you're kind of like mixed with tired and alcohol but when we filmed The Bachelor, I was thirty one years old, like I'd already kind of lived that life and I already knew the person I was when I'd had a few too many wines and I was like,
I'm not fucking doing that on National TV. Same. I just think alcohol is such a it's such a big topic in Australia, and I really do think that we have such a binge drinking culture here that we glorify and we still think it's really fun to go out and get really wasted. But Australia is the worst. As someone that's traveled the world, Australia is literally and I am very patriotic. I love Australia, but we are probably
the worst for binge drinking. It's almost this thing ingrained in us that that's the cool thing to do growing up, and then it's not until you're a little bit older, but you realize it's not that cool. The last thing to think about if anyone does have a friend or is in a situation that's very similar, it's really important that maybe you create situations for self that aren't going
out and getting drunk. So instead of all catching up at a bar, or going out for the night, be like, Hey, let's catch up for lunch and a walk, Let's go play cricket in the park. There's like a thousand things you could do. Let's go to the cinema, Like, you could do anything other than creating the environment that allows that to happen. So that's another food for thought. But I think we've covered that all right. Let's hit me with the next question. Have you ever watched porn with
your partner? What are your thoughts on it? Ways to spice up sex life? My partner and I have been living together for nearly three years. I want to know how to spice up the sex watching the sex, watching The Bold Type. I love that. I hope you're watching that because of our reco watching The Bold Type, they talked about watching porn together. I think it would be awkward, but would love to hear opinions and options. Have you ever watched sex with a part I don't watch sex
with a partner. Have you watched porn with a partner? Yeah, I have. It doesn't really do it for me, but porn doesn't really overly do it for me anyway. We've spoken about that before. For me, it's not my thing. But I also didn't find it awkward, So why did you watch it if it's not your thing? Was it for them want to try it? I'm open to try lots of things, and I was like, well, how do I know if I don't like something if I don't try it. It wasn't that it was awkward by any means,
but it just like, I don't find the need. It doesn't add any value to my sex life, and I would probably try other things than watching porn. But what I want to say for you is I hope that after three years with your partner and you live together, so I hope that after this time you wouldn't ever feel awkward in a situation like that. I hope that you guys are open enough to want to try things and then be really honest. So I think that I
wouldn't worry about you thinking it's awkward. I would just say, hey, do you want to? Or you don't even have to ask him. I guess you could be like getting sexy and be like, want to put some porn on? You could just say it in the moment if you want, or you could have a sit down and be like, hey, why don't we watch some porn later, What do you
think about that? Like, just plant the seed. If at any time you're not liking it or you're feeling uncomfortable, he's feeling uncomfortable after three years, just be like, woh, well this is not for me and move on. I don't think it has to be a big deal. I think it's interesting though, that you say that after three years of being someone it shouldn't be uncomfortable to have these conversations. I almost disagree with that, and I'll explain why.
The reason why is because I think that when you have been with someone for such a length of time, you've got your baseline of what's normal, like your sex is probably maybe I'm not gonna say it's boring, but you've got your your safe sex that you generally have and sometimes to then if you're kind of doing the same thing every time you have sex and it's become a little bit monotonous, to just out of nowhere be like, hey,
I want to watch porn. You're worried that like they're going to take that to a fense or it's going to start with them, Like I know that even like with me and Matt now and what we've been together for I'm just in the five years. If I was five years four and a bit, yeah, two kids, like or whatever. We waste no time people. I know that if I was to just out of nowhere be like, hey, we should watch porn, that would be weird for our relationship. We don't watch porn together, so he would be a
little bit like, where would that come from? But would you? I mean, like, I have been a viewer of your relationship for a long time now. Sometimes it's like I'm not there. I'm sitting on the lounge and it's almost like they don't know I'm Therria're just having really missionary sex in front of But He's like, sometimes I watch the sex, but only at Laura's house. You're a peopole. I've seen the way you two interact with each other, and I've seen some pretty like funny questions be posed
to each other. I don't think it would be awkward. I think you could turn around and be like, want to watch porn later, and he'd be like, well, that was weird, But I don't think you'd find the awkwardness. That's what I think totally, And I think that was where I was gonna go with this. I don't think it's in the spirit of the moment. I don't think it's when you're having sex that you're like, hey, do you want to put porn? Because now he's like, it's
like too fast, too soon. I think it is something that has to be raised outside the bedroom in a very lighthearted manner, you know. And I don't know what your relationships like. Maybe you guys aren't as jokey as what Matt and I are. But I would say to Matt, I would be like, hey, I want to try something new and then I play on the big screen. But I'd be like, so, I have an idea I want to watch some porn in our relationship, Like I want to watch porn and see if that turns us on.
But I want you to go away and find your favorite porno and I'm going to go away and find my favorite porno and then we can watch each other's favorite porno together. And I think like making it a bit more of an activity like that could parents stay out. He's just like looking at me like, I'm like, this doesn't have to be no. I think like I think you can could be like confusing and also maybe a little bit of befuddling being there going like, oh, well, what porn?
And then you're in the moment then you're trying to google porn. I think, like, have your link, know what porn you want to put on, get him to figure out what he wants to watch, and then come together and watch some consensual pawn together. Oh god, I'm like shivering in my boots. Another thing is maybe does your partner watch porn? Do you know he watches porn? Or if you don't know he watches porn, can you ask
him if he watches porn? In condensation if that watches porn, I feel like he probably only watches it when he's hungover. I think what you could do is if you know he watches porn, you could literally be like, hey, next time you watch that, let me know, just like that throwaway koment that will plant the seed and be like, oh, she's she wants to Like I can tell you he's
going to be keen as beings. It's something new, Like he's not gonna say no. If he doesn't watch it and you don't know that, ask him like, hey, do you watch porn? Like super curious, Like I think that's a normal question you can ask your partner. And I think one of the big things to take home from this as well is like, if you've been in a long term relationship and you feel like your sex is a little bit boring or monotonous, there's a good chance
your partner feels the same. They're not going to be offended by you wanting to bring something new or exciting or try something different in the bedroom. Nobody is going to be offended by that, unless you're like, here's some viagra, happy anniversary. No, but I really don't think that, Like you could offend your partner, especially if you take baby steps like maybe bringing in a toy or watching porn
or whatever it is. But like, if you're wanting to spice things up in the bedroom, watching porn is not the only way to go about it. There are definitely other options. But I think have a lighthearted conversation about it, bring that to the table, and then bring it to the bedroom. Yeah, because it could be really fun. Okay, question next one. I was like, why don't we're at
the next one? This is similar to something we had in the past, but I think it's got a kind of slightly different answer, So I'm going to bring it to the I also think that a lot of us have probably been in a situation where we don't like our friend's boyfriend or ex boyfriendow So let's go. My best friend has been dating a guy for just under a year. For some contexts, I have never gotten along with him, and she knows that not everyone agrees with
their relationship. Not only this, but we were so incredibly close just before she started dating this guy, and then just was not as close due to her relationship, which I know, it's totally fine and relationships move in waves. However, I have recently found out that he could have been cheating on her. I don't know for certain, but I'm in a pickle of whether to tell her that these are the rumors that are going around or not. They broke up less than a week ago, and she is
completely heartbroken. He broke up with her, not relating to cheating because she is not aware of this. Still, should I still tell her and let her know so she can move on and not hold onto the fact that she wants to get back with him so badly. I just don't know if it is worth telling her now that they're broken up and will make her heart more broken than it already is. This is really hard. I've got some views on this one. I'm going to say, don used on everything. He's not a hot take, there's
something different. I'm going to give you my opinion on this one. Guys. I think don't tell her on this one And the reason why I think don't tell her is because you don't have facts and it's not one hundred percent and you're basing it on rumors, and I think if you're wrong, it could cause more her to your relationship with her than it will to her relationship with him. And what it could actually do is if you're wrong, it could actually galvanize their relationship more galvanize.
That's a good one, Thank you. I liked it too. Do you know where I heard that word used for that song? Galvans? No, it was that was an I am tone deaf. It was when I was sitting with sam Wood and Snazanna when Matt and I and sam Wood and Snazzana had to do an appearance on that a new season and He's rabbit in that the successful
people went back onto The Bachelor. Yeah, that one time when everyone who ended up happy on the Bachelor Union, Sam Wood described his relationship with Snazzana as being galvanized by the experience of the Bachelor, and I was like, that's a fucking good word. Yeah, clocking that one. Yes, So I put it in my little kiddy and I'll popping out every so often. So there you go. I look, I feel the same. But I'm going to add something.
It's definitely important that you don't if it's just a rumor and you don't know for sure, Like I don't think it's worth going to plant that seed because it will be very tumultuous. What I do want to say is if you know deep down that it's true, like sometimes you might not see it happen, but you still know. Like I have had friends like that where I know that one of them has been cheating, but I've never seen it with my own eyes, But you just know. But this isn't even just like not seeing it with
your own eyes or just knowing. This is like a rumor that's been heard in the mill exactly, So I think there's probably validity to it. But but do you want to be the messenger that gets shot? The only time I would consider telling you in this situation is if deep down, like I just said, okay, it's just it's for short, it's a rumor now. But if deep down you really know that he's just a shit bag, and inside you're like, yes, I'm so glad she's finally over.
If they then go to get back together and you know that it's not right, I think then is the time that you could have the conversation. But you want to be very, very sure of what you're saying. That's all I want to say. It's not good enough for you to say you don't like him as a person and as your friend's boyfriend. You don't want him to be like if she loves him and he's actually a faithful boyfriend, you just don't like him. That's not up
to you to try and ruin that. But if you know he's a really, really bad egg and he's doing the wrong thing, and then she all of a sudden wants to go get back with him, I think then you could have a conversation for sure, because I would want my friend to tell me if she knew that my partner was cheating on me and I was about to get back with him, because I would want to be option to make an educated decision on if I want to get back with him knowing he's done the
wrong thing or not. Yeah, but you know what's going to happen. She's just gonna go and speak to him, and he's going to say no. And then the girl who is the partner is then in the situation where she either has to believe her friend who is basing this conversation off a room, or believe the person that she loves who says I never did this. Yeah, and
the regality situation. But you know, like I mean, I think we can sit down here and unpack the person who she's going to believe is the partner who she's still in love with, Like, we've all made that decision before,
we've all prioritized, especially without proof. The only reason why I have a different take on this and why I'm kind of like challenging this one a little bit is because I think with just saying that you're basing it off something you heard or something from a friend from a friend from a friend, Chinese whispers can happen, and they do happen, and like, yeah, I'm sure he's done some wrong things and that he may have cheated there is a very good chance of that, and there's probably
a really good reason why you don't like him. I think as someone's friend, you don't just instantly dislike their boyfriend unless it's based in something. But I just think be very very careful about having those conversations because I think it can really deteriorate your own relationship. Something that I can relate this to from my own personal experiences, and you guys all know that I've spoken about the very toxic relationship that I was in for a couple
of years where I got cheated on multiple times. And this happened just before going on the back. So I had two really close friends when I started that relationship, and one of those friends i'd been friends with since school, like it'd been one of my longest friendships, and the other one we've been friends for over a decade as well. Now, both of these friends had said to me independently, we think this guy is a really bad guy, and we don't trust him, and we don't like think he's good
for you. And I, because I was so blindly in love, of course, I chose him, and I chose he lied. He said he had never cheated on me. I chose to prioritize that relationship. Now, one of those friends I'm not friends with anymore because the relationship damaged our friendship so much. But it was also because she couldn't accept that I had chosen him and to believe him over our friendship. But sometimes when you're in a relationship, you've
got to ride that wave yourself. You have to come to a point where you're making those decisions for yourself, not just because somebody else is telling you the things you can't see. Now, the other friend who I'm still
really close with, she rode the wave. She saw me out on the other side of it, And if anything, it actually makes me so much more great full for the friendship that I have because I know that no matter what comes up, no matter what gets thrown at me, that her intentions that she has is always to support
and love me. And it's just like, I just think that this could go really badly for you if you give her an ultimatum, if you tell her these things and then she chooses her boyfriend or chooses to get back with him, it could be very damaging to your friendship. Conversely, it's the same thing my partner that was cheating on me. I had someone tell me that probably a year or a year and a half in, and they were adamant.
They were like, it wasn't the rumor. They were like, he is, like, he is cheating on you, And I did the same thing. I asked him. He said he would never do that, and I believed him, because, like you said, love is blind. That's you want a relationship, you romanticize if that's what happens. But I genuinely believe that if I had come out of that relationship and I had a bunch of friends come forward saying, oh,
I'm glad it's over. We knew he was cheating on you the whole time, I would be off the friends for sure. I would be like, why the fuck? Who knows if I would have believed them, But I'd be like, you all knew my partner that I wanted to marry was cheating on me the whole time. I would be really disappointed in that friendship if they didn't tell me. So this is why I'm torn, because you could tell her and she doesn't believe you. And that's something that
you have got to decide within yourself. Are you able to live with the fact that your friend is going to go back to a jerk bag if you really really believe that he cheated on her. There's a lot for you to consider here. And ultimately, I think Laura and I have just presented both sides. There are pros and cons absolutely to both sides. But the only person now, I want you to take everything that we've said into consideration.
The only person that can really decide what to do now is you, because we don't know your friendship, we don't know the ins and outs, we don't know where the rumors have come from, how substantial they are, and I mean, you know what they say. Where they's smoke, there's fire, oh way. Usually if there is someone walking around saying this guy's cheated, they're not saying it for no reath. Very few people are out there to try and fuck up other people's relationships for no reason and purpose,
Like I genuinely believe that. But when you're so in a relationship and you love someone so much, you just don't want to believe the rumors. But healthy relationships don't have rumors that circulate around them. So for me, I am going to say, unless you think she's going to get back together, and unless you think that the rumors are really really true or have a very strong basis to them, don't tell her. Just let her mend her
own heart on her own. I think it'd be easy for her to move on just knowing that maybe she did have a great relationship that didn't work out. So that's what I'm going to say for this. However, if she is thinking about getting back with him and you're worried that they're going to kind of, like, you know, reignite that, then maybe there is a bigger conversation here. But I think just be very careful with the delivery. If you're basing this entirely off Chinese whispers, Yeah, but
just saybe just so you know. This is something that I have heard. I don't know anything more about it, but I just feel like I want you to know. That's what has to be. Relationships are so hard. They're so hard, especially when you go through from one to another and you're like, am I getting cheated on? Is this guy a douchebag? Is that a red flag or just a color of pink? Like? They're so hard, And we've done it, Britt and I have been there, We've rode the way we've bread with a wave. We're both
in relatively healthy relationships right now. Yeah, would you call mine relationship it's on the other side of the world, like it's the healthiest one I've ever had. Fuck you and he's not here. Well, guys, that is it for today. That is our ask Uncut down a dirty episode. Please keep the questions coming into the Instagram at Life Uncut podcast and just put it at the top. Ask Uncut.
Also keep your accidentally unfiltereds coming in same thing accidentally unfiltered up the top and any other funny story go and wish Brittany save travels. I mean, I know that there's going to be a lot of people out there who are like, actually, you know what, Britney, fuck you
also in America. But you know there's a reason and purpose why as you guys and anybody else who's doing long distance at the moment, it's really really hard, and like I've seen britt have her good days and her bad days in this relationship, just because doing long distance
takes a huge toll on relationships. And we will do an episode on long distance at some point while BRIT's away totally and I have been getting a lot of questions about how I'm going, And just so you guys, I mean, like not how I'm going, but like how I'm literally leaving to go to Europe. Just so you know, ninety five percent of the time I will be in a bubble. I don't get to leave the hotel. It's
like it's a proper athlete bubble. So I know it's really like I want to be really sensitive about it because I know there are so many people that haven't seen their families overseas for a very long time. And my heart goes out to you, like I feel very emotional about it, and I feel very lucky that I can go and see Jordan. But I don't want people
to get the wrong idea. And we will have a few days between countries where we're traveling to the next tournament where we're free because you literally have to get to the airport and you have to do those things. But I do want you to know that I am going to be it's gonna be pretty lonely existence I'm gonna be literally not being able to leave my hotel room. So not the room, the hotel, sorry, the hotel bubble.
So I just wanted to add that in there. I don't want you guys to think that I'm going just to be gallivanting around and having a bougie holiday totally. So anyway, I mean, yeah, we're gonna do updates because I go, we're still gonna be talking, we're still gonna be bringing the podcast, you're still gonna be hearing. I'm just like, I just came way to Kissy's face, and that's another episode from MOSK. Guys, so tell your mom, tell your dad, tell your dog, and share the love because we are love.