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know what I just read? And I'm sure by the morning everyone would have heard this that Virgin has just gone into voluntary administration. Yeah, so that happens literally like two hours ago. I guess it's so crazy. I mean, we were told a few weeks ago that there's a potential for all these crazy things to start happening in the world. One of them was that ninety percent of airlines were going to go bust. But I guess deep down you didn't actually think it was ever going to

get to that. You kind of think, like if all Branson's goot himself an island, mate, sell an island, sell yourd Although I don't think that there's many people out there buying islands right now. There are a lot of billionaires in this world out there looking for islands. Probably

that you totally hit the nail on the head. There were so many things that we were told very early on, like there's a possibility that this could happen, but no one actually thinks that these companies that have been such constants and such like normal fixtures of our adult life could even ever go bust. No, there are no rules, and what does that mean for travel? Like I have actually read and heard a lot saying that maybe international borders won't even be open until the end of twenty

twenty one, maybe even twenty twenty two. There are a lot of people saying that international travel could be done for the next year. You know, no one really has the answer for this, and I think that's where so much of the fear comes from, because there's a lot of conversations about worst case scenarios, and I guess, I guess at the moment, I'm trying to imagine the positives. I just hope that there's an airline left when we

get to the end of this. Well, the question is, does that mean Quantus will have the monopoly and prices will skyrocket, or are they going to do the right thing by the general population and cut us a break because we've had a bit of a hard year. Straight up, guys, the hard hitting questions. Also straight off the bat, Brett, how's your week thing? Did you just say straight off the brat? I think you did, and I'm going to call you out on it. Probably try editing that one out,

Oh groundhog Day. I don't have a lot to report this week in terms of my adventures, but I have one thing that I really really need to speak about. If any of you follow me on Instagram, you'll know that I had a good old chuckle. And I also spent fifteen hours binge watching this new show on Netflix. It's a dating show, and I use the term dating very loosely. It's a reality dating, which is right up

ow Alli, guys, we love that. And I saw an episode pop up on Netflix and I thought, oh, just I'll just click on this and see what it is. I was hooked, hook line and sinker. I was here for this show. I have never Laura laughed so hard, cringed so hard, wanted to die so hard. I couldn't believe that this show was real. It does a lot because we were both on The Bachelor. I've done two reality shows. Now I can really say this, like this comes from a place of knowing, deep deep knowing. So

this show is called too Hot to Handle. It's like a new modern Bachelor in Paradise and Love Island now fair play because the people on this show are the most aesthetically good looking people I have ever seen. The ridiculous, like, they're so good looking it's disgusting, but it's almost the show's almost a parody. So they have this host, Laura, and she just mocks them the whole time. She's like a voiceover host, so you don't actually see her. She

throws them under the bus. She laughs at how silly they are, the dumb things they say. It's kind of like the voiceover narration of Love Island. It's that on steroid. Just to really drive home how excited Britt is about this TV series, yesterday, when we were discussing what we were going to record for today's episode, Britt goes, I've got it. There's this show. It's too hot to handle. There's only there's only eight episodes. You could watch them all.

And I was like, we live very different lives. I do not have enough time in my day with a child to be able to watch eight episodes. But Britt Binge watched that in our day guys, one day, I watched it till four am. Isolation has been good to her. Isolation has But the premise to this show is so Love Island, Bachelor and Paradise mix. But you can't kiss, you can't have sex, you can't have this physical relationship.

Can you masturbate? No? Nothing, no, not nothing. The idea is all of these men and women, they're from around the world, so some Americans, Aussies from the UK, one from Ireland. The idea is they're all players. Sep Brown don't take relationships seriously and they come onto this show and they're supposed to build an emotional connection. So there's one hundred thousand dollars prize money, but every time they'd

kiss or break the rules, they get deducted money. So one kiss they lose three grand, and the money puul just keeps going down. One girl actually gave an Australian guy a blowjob on there, Like how much did that cost? I think that was thirty grand? But I like that one hundred thousand dollars. That has enough to make most people want an emotional connection. But the reason that I loved this show so much, it's because it really had me.

It's like a stir fry of emotions. So it had the laughter, and it had the disbelief, and it had the anger, and it had the cringing. But one reason I want you to watch it, Laura, and I'm going to recommend it to you guys to all watch, is it did actually bring up and highlight a lot of issues that are happening with men and women and dating,

and one of them is actually gas lighting. So quite early on there was this part where this guy was gaslighting this girl so severely it wasn't even an undertone. It was the most obvious thing that was happening. I was quite in disbelief that the show was actually airing it and the fact that this like robot host is making a mockery of it as well and highlighting it.

But I think it's gonna be really good for everybody to watch because it's something that I think we need to talk about, you know, over the next few weeks, and it's a really really important issue. There's your recommendation too hot to handle. We need to come back with some homework done for next week's episode. But what about you? What have you been up to? Oh? Guys, I've really spiraled down into an isolation pit that I never thought I would get to. Oh what, I purchased something that

I'm really ashamed of? Is it a sex? Do we? No? I wouldn't be that ashamed of that I purchased. It's actually it's actually disgusting. I've turned into the person I promised I never would be. Oh my god, what is it? I've purchased a Halo light so that I can take photos for Instagram. No, okay, but hear me, I kind have reached new low. Hear me out. All right. We live in a very dark apartment and from time to time, you know, Matt and I we still do some work

on social media and like, you need good lighting. Come on, Breed, back me up here. Good lighting is important. I actually don't think this is funny. I think Halo. I don't have a Halo light. I've used them before and shoots and stuff. I think they're brilliant. So, guys, if you have a waited blanket for me to sell or some laser hair removal or maybe you know there's some gummies that are gonna grow my hair nice and long. I'm the girl. I me up. I've got a halo light. Now, guys,

you'll be way too hard on yourself. Halo lights are actually really, really great. This is why I need you in my life for this type of affirmation and moral support. I'm just saying that because I want to borrow it. No, are you. You're way too hard on yourself. At the same time, I just never thought I would be someone to own a halo light. And that is what isolation. That is what COVID nineteen has done to me. Guys, what's your first pick going to be? Oh? God, hashtag

not sponsored hashtag skin God? Shoot me? Now you're actually being too Honey's up. Okay. So apart from apart from my whole haighlow light experience, I also have a recommendation, which is look, it's slightly deeper than Too Hot to Handle, but it's so good. It's only four episodes, very good for people who are time poor and have kids. It's called Unorthodox and it is on Netflix, I think, and

I did watch the whole thing in two days. Follows this Hasidic Jewish girl and her relationship in her faith, and how she moves to Germany and how she tries to escape her past life and set up a new life. It's actually amazing, Like it's such a good, binge able, all encompassing miniseries and I highly recommend it, and my sister can't stop talking about it, and every day she's like, have you started it yet? Well, yeah, well Unorthodox is

my that's my recommendation for the week. Everything else. I know that it's actually crazy, but we try and think of like what we're going to talk about and bring

some uplifting content for you guys. But I really feel like this week has been the week for me and I don't I can't speak on your behalf, brit but I feel like this is the week where everything has become very very repetitive for me, and I've been really struggling to kind of break out of the isolation COVID nineteen mundane just groundhog day feeling that I've been having. And then on top of it, I've had raging anxiety

because I have my periods. So forgive me, or but I think they're like you know, each week we try and bring to this that we're being like really positive and we're trying to bring content that's outside of what we're all doing every day. But then there does come a point where you're like, oh no, this is the situation that we're in, and it is very repetitive and it's hard to constantly be uplifted and constantly try and

find something new. And I think it's important to acknowledge that that's okay as well, Like that's very normal and that's where everyone's life is at the moment. I have walked over two hundred kilometers this month. Every single time I call her, I see her, I text her, She's like, I'm just out on the walk, just out on my Ah, doesn't matter. Actually, when you call me, you're like, hey, babes, what you don't I'm like, just on a little You're

meant to be staying home, girlfriend. But this is like BRIT's had like one massive, long exercise that just never ends. She just never ever stops walking. I walk on my own most of the time, guys, so I'm social distancing. The only time I'm walking with someone is my sister. But for me, it's what I do walking in exercise. It's when you're stressed, when I'm tired, when I'm angry,

when I'm anxious. Like you said, it's everything. That's what I do, and what I do is I get up in the morning and I put my active wear on and it stays on all day. So if I have a moment that I just like I need to get out, or I'm upset or I'm stressed, I just do it. It's like quick walk. Quick walk anyway, clocked up two hundred K. For anybody who is self isolating by themselves and has a lot of time on their own, there is the possibility that now, after so much time, you're

starting to feel lonely. So it is a really nice way to be able to be like, Nope, I'm going to keep myself active and to keep an active brain. I'm gonna like get those good endorphins going. You know, as much as you have walked an obscene amount and I can't even relate, I understand that that works for you. It's my thing for sure. At the moment, you guys know, there's no rules. Whatever's working for we get it done. But I think, Laura, it is time to jump into

some proper content accidentally unfiltered. It's our segment with our most embarrassing stories you write in. We love them, we can't get enough of them. And do you have one for me? Laura? I do have one. This is a very quick one, but it copped me right in all the fields's because the copy you and the feels in a second, Oh, that was weird. That was weird. Yeah, okay,

let's get back to what we're talking about. It caught me in the fields because I was feeling really anxious this week, like I said, and so I read this and I was like, I can totally relate to that. So as a person's written, I went to an interview really really hungover, and like, you know what it's like when you really hungover, how you feel a little bit anxious. I'm so lonely. Hold me. So I went to an

interview really hungover. When the interviewer came to meet me and show me to the room, she held out her hand, guiding the way. In my hungover state, I stood up and I held her hand. Both of us were too embarrassed to let go, so we walked to the interview room. And also, you know that moment of realization where you're like, I wasn't supposed to grab your hand, but now we're going to do it. But like a light that they

committed to it. And then what do you do when you get to the interview room and you're like, who, this is awkward? Do you then turn it into a handshake? What do you do? I wonder if she got the job. I'm going to say no because it didn't have a follow up on that. I have a cute little one too. This is something that I would actually do. So this girl was on a date at a sushi restaurant and she had never been to a sushi restaurant. It was on a date and she says, you were starving. She

had been like eight hours between eating. She gets the date, she orders thirteen sushi rolls, thinking each little piece was a role. So twenty minutes later, the staff come out pushing two tables together and bring out thirteen huge long rolls, like on three different raise of food for her, and her date was like hungry, But don't you think if you're the date, you would have just said food can't shame a baby. Hey, that reminds me of a date story. I went on a date in Bondai with this guy

who I met online. We went to this Bavarian beer garden. If you're in Bondai, you'll know the one I don't know. Im from Bonda Caple parayed. Was he English? He was a tourist. Of course I would have. I've never been there again, I never would have gone there. But I was like, this is now that I know what restaurant it's referring to. This is a restaurant that you would only go to if you were an English backpacker. That's it, Hundi.

He was Brazilian, so ir in this restaurant and I ordered a chicken snitty and then I ordered fries on the side, and I had a salad too. I think I may have had a garlic bread also, but that's irrelevant. So the snitsel comes out, and it's to be fair, it's the biggest snitsel I have ever seen, you know, the ones that take up almost the whole plate, like you know what pub snitzls are like, Like, this isn't possibly from a chicken, this is from it. This is

a sheet. But I see what you're doing. This is an EMU. Yeah, what it was was not normal. So this lay comes out, and I was hungry, so my eyes lit up and the guy looks at me and he goes, oh, don't be ridiculous, You'll never eat that. And then my internal monologue was challenge accept it. And I sat there for twenty five minutes, Bye bye bye. I nearly felt sick, but I ate the whole snitzel. Then I ate all of the chips, and then I ate the salad, and then I washed it down with

my drink and I never saw him again. You sure showed him I did, how judgmental. I hope you didn't give him any of the chips either. I hope you will ate. No, sorry, don't have any. I eat all of these and then I'm gonna get some churros. Get the fuck away from my chips. Pat girl likes to eat my mum's Greek Guys, girl likes to eat. Don't

ever food shame and date men or women. Well, I think we should get into the episodem here, which today we have two topics that we're going to cover, which is a little bit of a different you know, we're mixing it up, We're keeping it interesting for you guys. First, the bat we're going to be talking for the single ladies,

and that is around curating the perfect online profile. Now we're all online dating at the moment, we're not all a lot of people online dating at the moment, and that is the number one way for singles to interact

in this current climate. So we thought we would put together a little list of do's and don'ts and ways to better optimize your online dating profile from Brittany who's a pro and from me who's an ex pro VIP the real MVPs over here, guys, okay, And then also we're going to be doing something which is a little more aimed at our couples who listen to this episode, specifically to the women who listen to this and that's more about for couples who are now at a point

where you guys have been spending so much time together,

so much time, but it's not quality time. I know that I'm certainly feeling it at times in my relationship that as much as we spend every single second of the day together at the moment, there's very few moments that I feel like are quality and so we just wanted to touch on that because I feel like a lot of couples are in the same boat with this at the moment, and to try and think of some ideas in some ways that we can give tips and give ideas around how to create quality time with your partner.

And yeah, we'll get into that later, but first, online profiles. I have been online dating for quite a long time on every platform that has ever existed. I have probably had a profile except for plenty of fish. Do you know what you say this like it's disappointing. That makes you an expert and that's why you're on this. It's time to enlist the experts into this conversation. That's what that is. Don't say it like it's disappointing. Well, no, I don't know if it was disappointing. I don't know

how I feel about it. But look, the fact is I have done it. I've spent a lot of time online dating. I have gone on a lot of dates, and I actually I am a big advocate for online dating. I think that the stigma that's still attached to it in some way needs to be gone because everyone in the world is on it, Like the biggest stars in the world have their own online dating. Britt No, she's seen Channing Tatum in there and super liked him. Yeah

I did single again, Yeah, no even yeah Raya so. Yeah, I've been on Raya so and I have seen huge, huge Hollywood stars on there. So guys, first and foremost, don't be embarrassed to be online dating. Secondly, this is like your CV, this is like your resume. You have to put some attention and love into creating your profile because it sounds crazy and it sucks, but it's very superficial. You unfortunately don't get to know who someone in is

as a genuine person. You don't get to know who they are inside straight away, and they don't get to know who you are. All they're going off at the beginning is the way you look and what you've written and the way you've answered your questions. But we were talking about this earlier and like, and I know that a lot of people who have done online dating and there's constant conversation and struggle with like, oh, it's it's

very superficial. However, if a guy comes up to you in a bar and ask you out or gives you his number, or you find a guy attractive that you've never spoken to before, that is all superficial. That's all we have to go off at the very start, Like unless you meet someone through friends or like you've got some other connection, we are superficially attracted to the way people look, or the way people present themselves, or the

aura that someone has, the energy that they have. I do think that there are ways that you can cultivate that energy on an online profile as well. Like where you have a bio, you have that area to be able to get a small snippet of your personality across. So you know what, if you're a funny bitch, then

say something funny in there. If you're witty or sarcastic or a little bit self deprecating, this is your opportunity to create, even if it's just one line or one little hook, but to create a little snapshot into what your personality is. So we did do our due diligence

as per usual. We did all have our research, We put some polls out, we ask people, we knew men and women, We went from personal experience, and we have put a few little things together and I think first and foremost what we have found is that people don't want you to list what you are, so in you're about me. People don't want you to say funny, witty, adventurous. Say something that is funny and witty so they know you're funny and witty instead of just saying this is

what I am. It also like if I think with that as well, if you say I'm funny, I'm witty, I'm adventurous, there's no context to that to allow someone who then matches with you to engage deeper and to ask questions. It's like, like, what kind of funny are you? Yeah, how are you adventurous? You want to say that you weren't trekking Everest or like maybe you didn't go that far because that's crazy and not many people have tracked Everest. But you want to explain something that you do. Maybe

you like to go bushwalking. Maybe you love the ocean, I don't know, but like make it a bit more detailed and actually explore something about what you love. Write it down, because makes it easier for that person when they match you to be like, Hey, I love the ocean too, I love dogs as well. Every single person in the world likes to try. Everyone's bio says travel. We're never going to escape that. But what you need to differentiate is what kind of traveler are you? What

kind of travel do you like? Because there's a big difference between going to Hawaii sitting in the Hilton sun making not leaving your hotel just drinking by the pool, and going to hike match your pitch you and camping in a forest somewhere, and there's such a broad landscape of traveling and adventure. So I think it's really important to put that in so that somebody knows what level you are. It gives them an opening to chat to you about it, It gives them a way to connect

with you because maybe they've done something similar. So I think that's really important to just get out what kind

of a traveler are you. One of the things that I used to really hate when I was online dating, and I know that it works in reverse as well, that guys just like it when girls do it too, is when you use your bio to be really critical of what you want in the other person, instead of using a bio to describe the sort of person that you are, saying, I'm only attracted to brunettess or you know, if you have in your bio that you want somewhere who is six point five, what like meter is away

from us because of isolation right now exactly because that's what I want. I want a guy who's six point five away from me at all times. But I think if you're using your bio to be critical about somebody else, all that does is reflect badly on yourself. It shows that you're not someone who has a fun personality. It shows that you have a really critical personality, and I

don't think that that's a very attractive thing. So I know when I used to see on guys' profiles they were like I prefer brunettes even the way I am brunette, and this maybe this is me being critical and reverse, but it would just make me look at that and go like, why why are you so superficial? Why is like why is that so important to you? And I would end up swiping past, even though I matched the criteria of what they were after, I just didn't like

that critical aspect of their personality. Dea'd say the guys that are like I just want somebody that's like five foot eight, has a really good job, is really smart, is really funny and independent, looks after themselves, lives out of home, has a good income, like fuck, dude, do you have all those things? You don't? This is your opportunity to talk about yourself, not for you to like

criticize and analyze what you want in somebody else. Like you can do that, but do that after the fact, because by putting it out there in your bio, you're you're just canceling a whole lot of people that maybe, you know what, maybe they could be your penguin. So Laurie, you wouldn't know this. But Hinge has this prompt. You have to answer these questions. And Hinge has this prompt that says, question that's like, if you could choose anyone

as a dinner guess who would it be. And the guys that say you, oh my god, put a fork in me a mate, You don't know me from a bar soap, and you can choose anyone, do you not get the question? You can choose anyone but kind of cute? Now's not little bit cute? So because you means every single person, it's not me, it's not personal. He's trying

to be cute. I think I was smart or interesting. Guys, this is your chance to like show some personality, show who you would actually want to talk I'm surprised you don't like that. You're a sucker for red flags. No red flags with intelligence, preferably not not like a dumb flag blowing in the wind, like I want a station you're a stupid red flag. I want a stationary, solid flag that knows who he is. Don't me all want

a solid flag. There you are again, as well as us saying it's important to say who you are and say what you're interested in, it's more important to actually show it in your profile. So don't just say I like adventure or fitness or the beach. Put some photos up that show that. If you love dogs, put a photo up with your dog. If you're saying you love travel, don't put five selfies up. Put a photo of you

somewhere amazing or your favorite place you've ever been. Yeah, okay, let's talk about the actual photos aspects, because I think we've touched on the bio and like how you can curate your bio to make it something that's a little

bit more interesting. But in regards to photos, that's one of the things that you had said to me, Britt, But also one of the things that Matt flagged straight away is if you have five selfies in a row, you need to sort your shit out because nobody wants to look at just five selfies that you've taken of yourself. It makes and it's probably not true, You're probably not this,

but it makes you seem like you're self indulgent. If you haven't got like a nice photo that somebody else has taken, or a photo with a friend, or just something that gives other context to your life, it seems very self involved and very like you haven't anything else going on except that you take photos of yourself. You could be every day. Do you have a halo light because I've got or it's a gym selfie, the ones in the gym's shirtless, like sorry, If you have five selfies,

you could be the hottest, smartest, most amazing person. And I'm gonna swipe knowing you, it's just for me. It's my turn off, and I know it's the same thing in reverse. So ladies, for sure, it's so fine to have a selfie on there, like absolutely, but show who you are. You can't put five selfies up, absolutely not. The research has come back and it has said that five selfies are no The other one that I wanted to flag as well, which I kind of thought was bizarre.

But the more that I've thought about it, the more I'm like, oh, yeah, this is this is fair. Matt's number one thing that he said when I asked him what his deal breaks were when he was online dating, he didn't like it if the photos weren't high reds. You don't want someone who's go like a grainy kind of like badly filtered photo because it makes it seem like they're trying to hide something. So I think that's important. Presentations, key, ladies,

make sure you've got some crisp photos happening. Well, let's try and summarize some keys for the photos. The really important things that are pretty much non negotiables. You can't have five selfies, you can't have photos with where every single photo is with a male because that or if you do, you have to explain it because it leads a lot of men to think that it could be an X, you're not over your ex. It leaves them bit confused about why you're there and your relationship status.

So that's what that's feedback from the men as well. They need to see you physically on your own to think that you are single. So if you have a photo where you're standing with other men, particularly the same men, repetitively, he must be your boyfriend. That's the feedback we've got has to be just choose photos that don't have your best guy friend in every single one. It'll save, It'll save some questions. My big one is don't have photos

with your kids in it. So, like, I think it's all I'm all for being honest about having children when you're on online dating, and there's like loads and loads of mums who are getting back out there dating, and I think that being upfront and honest is amazing. But I think for like a safety perspective, and also because it's just a bit there's a strange attachment and association when I see a child's face on a dating app, I always found that very very jarring. So I think,

just don't post those photos. It's not necessary. Surely there are other photos and nice photos that you have where you're not having a photo with your child. That's a big one for me. Oh, like, there's so many rules. Guys, who would have thought that online profiles have so many rules attached to that. We said, it's a damn CV these days. So the other one that I think is a big one is no one wants to play spot the single girl, So don't put photos of you with

like groups of your friends. Make sure that you check your photos and make sure that you have at least one photo, preferably the first one where you're on your own, because I think if you have every single one where you're with your girlfriends, it just makes it difficult and you know, like people are not spending time looking through it actually engaging at the very start. So like, make sure you make it obvious who you are, which person in the profile it is. That's a big, big one.

I know for me, when I see a profile that has five people in the first image, but someone on time constraints, I don't even swipe into his profile, he gets a no. Because if you can't show me who you are on the first picture and pique interest and intrigue me, then it's a no. What was your bio when you would online dating? Oh my god, you know, I still remember my bio was takes life as seriously as the British took Brexit. Addicted to red wine, fitness

and dogs. So if you're a red wine drinking fitness loving dog run at me and then that's cute. I love that one. But wait, this's more. Then at the end there was a disclaimer. I've been known to eat a family sized pack of more teasers. No family was involved, and that was my whole fio. But I guess like for me, that's who I am. I'm silly. I eat a lot of chocolate telling them what I like. But I tried to make it relatable and not serious, So

I don't know. For me, that was one I was always I'm always down for a bit of sarcasm and a bit of bands. Like I think, if you can if you can put something in your bio or if you can put something in your description that opens up at the door for some conversation, that's better than just hey, so like what you're doing. Just something that gives the other person a little silver platter and olive branch or something that they can reach out and have that connection

with you and start a fun and lighthearted conversation. And that's kind of your job, that's what you're supposed to be doing. So try to be a little bit different, Try to throw some fun in there, try to be lighthearted. State what you want. I think that's important to make it clear that if you're looking for a relationship or just fun, but you don't have to go all hardcore and say I'm looking for marriage and kids next week.

You don't want to scare them. But there's a difference to say hey, I'm looking for someone to do life with. I think that's a great line because it's not as men can get quite scared, so it's a bit different to saying hey, I'm looking for my partner. Alternatively, if you're just wanting fun and you're just wanting sex and you're wanting hook ups, say that, but just say hey, looking to meet people, have a bit of fun. Just make it a bit more lighthearted, looking for a good time,

not a long term. No, don't say that. I'm you knowing that. I know that. It can become very repetitive and very disheartening when you're matching with people and then you're not getting a reply, and there's this level of frustration that can start to mount when you're feeling like it's groundhoub day and you're feeling like you're doing the same thing, and it's very easy to get a mentality where you're like, well, dating apps of shit. Everyone on dating apps is shit. No one writes back and take

that frustration out on the next person. So one of the points that we'd talked about is like when when guys specifically I mean, but I'm sure girls do it as well, and their bio stuff like don't match me.

If you're not going to write back, any level of aggression doesn't reflect well on you, even if it's true, even if that is how you feel, even if that's the situation that you've been in before, even if it is totally relatable, which it obviously is, don't put it in your bio because it makes you seem angry, It

makes you seem like you're jilted. Keep everything top line, happy, lighthearted, positive, because that is the sort of person that you want to be putting across, and that's the sort of person that people want to be dating. The last thing that I want to add, and I think these are two

really important things. Make your photos current within maybe like the last year, eighteen months at a stretch, but nobody wants to turn up and meet someone and realize that their photos on their profile were from five years ago. I know that when I meet somebody, I want them to look like their profile. I don't want them to see them in their peak eight years ago, which like a lot of guys do that, and I can only imagine girls do that too, So I think it's important

to try and keep it current and relevant. Also, I can't stress this one enough. Get someone to check your spelling and your grammar on your profile. I think it's imperative to be able to have a profile that is literate, that has the right punctuation, has a sentence that works. Basically, Brittany's very critical of sentences. I say that, but that was one of the number one things that came up on everything that I researched, where the professional saying get

your friend to check your profile spelling and punctuation. Every time I say unorganized, Brittany goes, it's disorganized, Laura. I do not say that aggressively. I was like babes disorganized. She will find your profile, she will hunt you down, and she will correct you. So make sure you do

your spelling checks. I think spelling is important. All right, guys, Well, now that we've covered a little bit of the online dating profiles, let's get in to the couple question, and that is how do you carve out quality time with your partner when you are in lockdown with your partner? And I'm just gonna be honest, I don't have the answer for you right now, because I hope you've been more of an answer than I've got been single eight years. We're all in a bit of a pickle, aren't we.

This one's you, This advice is coming from you. I guess I've been in this situation over the past couple of days, and I don't know if other people can relate to this, but I'm hoping that it's not just me. You know, Matt and I we spend so much time together, and for the first couple of weeks, it was amazing, and it still is amazing to be able to spend

that time. I love being in his company. But I find more and more as the days go on that we are on social media and on our phones, and we're very, very disengaged from having conversations with each other, and we're very engaged in whatever's happening in the outside world, but through our phones. And I know that the reason for this is because we've had all the conversations that are out there are to have. There's not been any new stimulus in our environment to talk about. There's only

so many stupid TikTok videos you can remake. And it was a conversation I was having with another girlfriend of mine who's in a very similar situation in her relationship, and she's, you know, in a committed relationship and she's spent way too much time with her partner now. And one of the things that she said that really spoke to me was that she was like, we don't go to work anymore, so we don't have any time to

miss each other, and everything we do is together. And it got me thinking that I'm sure there are a lot of couples who are in this exact same situation at the moment. I can't agree with that more. But I'm going to relate to this in terms of friends, flatmates, people that are just isolating together. I don't think this is just necessarily relationships. I think, and I know because we've had a lot of listeners right in saying that they're having these sorts of issues with their flatmates and

their friends. So I think it's really important we delve into this, and we are going to just put some little tips out from friends we've asked what they're doing again. We looked up some relationships specialists and therapists and we got some advice from them. So we are just going to throw out a few things and give you guys, hopefully some help and some tips to keep your relationship on track and sort of make you reconnect again, get back to where you were before you went into isolation.

I know last week, for example, my sister, she's been with her partner now for five years, and she said it was ridiculous how much screen time they were having. They were going a whole day without speaking to each other, things like that, because they were the same things they've had their conversation. So what they did was they had a screen band and they put their phones away, no TV.

They got dressed up like proper, dressed up like they were going out on a date, and they cooked up this amazing meal together, seafood squid, and they decorated their lungery and changed it into pillows, fairy lights. It was almost like you were going back on a first date, like something really special, and they just sat with each other and had nothing else to distract them, and they just had to talk to each other. And she said,

it was amazing. It really got them back to like the excitement and the warning to speak to each other and realizing that you still love each other and that you're going to get through it. The first part of this is acknowledging that you're doing it, like acknowledging that you're di engaged, because I think it sometimes it just creeps up on you in a relationship where you don't even realize that the time that you spend together isn't quality.

I honestly think that, like you can wake up two or three weeks, four weeks down the track and be like, I don't even feel like we've had a proper conversation. I don't feel like we have really connected at all, but we've seen each other every day. You need to be very cognizant of the fact that that's where you're at at the moment, and then make a very conscious decision that you're going to put some things in place

in order to change your behavior. So, like like you said, with your sister, have an evening where you put your phones down, or bring in the rule that you can't have any phones in your hand past six pm or seven pm, whatever time that is for you. Just so that you get a few hours in the evening where you can both sit with each other and have a conversation.

One of the things that I really believe is that sometimes you need to have small talk in order to get to the deeper conversations, and they come, but you just can't have to sometimes sit in a little bit of obscurity for a little while before you find a topic again that you're like, Oh, here's something that we've never discussed before. This is new, like this is a new territory. And I think a way to bring you both back to ground level and connect you again is

to ask each other questions about your relationship. So you might've been together five years, ten years, whatever, one year. Ask your partner, what's the favorite date We've ever had, What's the funniest thing I've ever done? What's the thing you love about me? The most little, little funny things that they're going to bring you back to realize why you together and how you fell in love, and just to sort of reignite passion and the cute little memories

that you've shared over the time. I think that's really nice and you might actually learn a lot of things that you didn't know that maybe you don't know what your partner loves about you the most, or you don't know what his most embarrassing moment was, or like a walk down memory lane can be really really nice way to bring you back together another thing as well at that, I mean, and it's really hard to do because obviously we're meant to be staying home as much as possible,

But I think it's so important to try and carve out a little bit of time that is your time away from your partner, to give you, even if it's just a small opportunity, but to give you a moment to actually miss your partner. So maybe that means you go for a walk, or you do some exercise where you are not in the same space with each other, or maybe you work from separate rooms of the house, but you really allocate some time to be like we are not this is not the same coworking space right now.

And I mean I even had to do it with Matt recently. I was in the bedroom working and we've just become so we've just become so so used to constantly being each other's face that he just kept walking in and out and in and out and out of the bedroom to ask me questions whilst I was working, and I had to be like, no, like this is you can't come in here anymore. You have to stay out of the bedroom because I need to get work

done and the constantness of this is driving me crazy. Yep. Well, the professionals have said that it's really important and if you can, even in a small space, it's really important to maybe designate an area of the house for everything. So this area is the work zone, and this area is the chill zone, and this area is the workout zone. So each little area of your house, when you're in that area, that's what you're doing. So when you're in your work office area, you have to treat it like

a work office area. Even though yours is now the bedroom, Matt has to understand that for that time, that's not his bedroom. Totally understand that some people's like living arrangements are one bedroom studios. We understand that some people's living arrangements are one bedroom apartments. Like it is really challenging to try and live, work, and relationship all from the

same small space. But I do think that you have to kind of bring in some sort of boundaries and some discipline into your day in order to be able to like have that, just to have that separation so that you're not constantly living on top of each other and getting irritated by every single, small little thing that they do. It's also important to, I thinknot make assumptions about how your partner or your flatmate or your best friend,

how they're feeling. Don't assume you know where they're out mentally and what they're thinking about you and what they're thinking and feeling about the situation, because assumption can breed resentment. They also make an ass out of you and me. So imperative just to have open communication in this time, and so like you said to Matt, Matt, boy, you just can't come in here anymore? Do I in calling boy?

But yes, no, none of us call in boy. One of the one of the most important take homes from this whole weird, wide world that we're trying to navigate together is that no one expects you to have the perfect relationship right now. This environment, this pressure like this, living like this, this puts so much pressure on relationships. It has brought out a lot of anxiety in people. And maybe your partner or maybe you are not the

best version of yourselves right now, and that's okay. And I think it's really important to allow your partner so long as there's still a good person and they're still treating you right, it's okay to kind of give the relationship a bit of breathing room and be okay with the fact that right now things are not going to be perfect, and expecting perfection in this environment is going

to put a lot of pressure on your relationationships. So, you know what, we're all navigating a very very strange time. And I think like just because now is not good necessarily for your relationship, doesn't mean that your relationship isn't good, And that's a really important thing to remember and to take home because this is all temporary. One other thing that, if it's possible, would be really great to do is

to establish routine to the best of your ability. So when you guys say, okay, from eight am to eleven am, it's just work time, we're going to pretend we're not even together. We're both just going to do our thing. We can't disturb each other. And then every day from eleven to twelve that might be your time for a walk.

But the sooner you have a routine of some sorts in your life, the easier your life is going to be to manage, easier your expectations are to manage, and the better the two of you, or the three of you, or however many in your house are all going to get along because you know how it works, and you know what's expected in your day and in that routine. Like like we've just said, is to make make sure that you carve out time that is like date night time.

Carve out time that's special time for you and your partner so that you're not getting to the end of the day and having this monotony of like, oh, what are we doing tonight, same things last night, Let's put on some Netflix and not talk to each other. Make sure that you are trying to create some time that is special. And even if it just manages one night a week, if you consciously do that, then your relationship won't be forgotten about in all this extra time that

you're spending together. It can still be something that is really special. All right, guys, you know that we never finish an episode with our suck and our suite and our suck and our sweet is basically just the highlight and the low light of each and every week. And even though things don't seem to change very much at the moment, we still have some what's your suck, So my suck, my suck. I do this thing sometimes, and it always happens late at night or early in the morning.

I think that's when I do most of my thinking. And I when somebody from my past or someone in my life pops into my head, I like to message them on the spot while I'm thinking of them, to tell him I'm thinking of them and checking on them sort of thing. So for example, it might even been my dad. I if it comes to mind, I quickly text him. I'm like, hey, thinking of you, love you whatever.

So it's cute. Yeah, So two nights ago, who never text me specual, So like two days ago, it was literally like eleven thirty night and I was drifting off to sleep and I was just thinking of this somebody from my past, and I hadn't spoken to you in a long time, and I was like, you know what I've been, so I'm just gonna shoot her a message, picked up my phone, wrote to her and said, Hey, I was just thinking of you. I miss you. Love

you lots. Hopefully I talk to you soon. Sent it my bloody sent it to the person underneath her, who was a guy, so it wasn't her. It was like the one person under the contacts underneath was he like, I miss you too, been thinking about you as well pretty much. Who was No, you know what he wrote? He goes, that wasn't supposed to go to me because it was not somebody that we did not in that well. And I was like, oh my god, some of I'm

really sorry, but like no, I don't miss you. I don't miss you, and I hate you and delete my number. I'm like, how are you even in my phone still? And then I actually message my friend that's my sug. That's fine. Your week has been good. That's a good suck. Yeah, well wait to hear my sweet baby or give me your sweet girlfriend. Well, you know, the weather has turned slightly. It's a bit chilly here in the old Bond eye. It's a bit chilli. He's wearing a turtleneck right now,

she is, No, I am. I actually love turtlenecks and my favorite piece of clothing. I love them. Sure a weird that I'm in a turtle neck? No, it's not weird, but it's weird that it's your favorite piece of clothing. I love it. It's a comfort thing anyway. I like turtlenecks. I feel like I'm being slightly, like softly strangled around my neck like a favorite. Oh no, I just love them.

It's a comfort thing. But anyway, the weather's turned. I pulled out a jacket that I haven't worn in a while, because you know, I wanted to go for walk in a jacket. Put it on, went to put my keys in my jacket pocket. Found twenty dollars. This sounds like a made up story. It sounds like one of those stories where you're telling a shit story and then you're like, and then I found fifty bucks. I know. That's the

best thing about it. It sounds fake, but it's not. How long that twenty dollars has been in there for I don't know, But you know what the shitty part of that story is, No, no one's taking cash. So now I'm just gonna sit on this and you found glory for however many months until people start to take cashingg it. I just nodded into the microphone. I don't know why I found that so funny, but it really was, all right, my suck, my suck, what was my suck? Look, this

is not it's not a real suck. You guys are gonna think that I'm just making up stuff now, which I kind of am. But because I've had really bad anxiety this week, I've been having really bad dreams this week, and so I keep on having this dream, and I've had it three times this week now in different variations. Is it me? No, You're not my worst nightmare worried about You're safe. I keep having this dream that I am it's I must be like I'm my age, which

doesn't make any sense. But I'm sitting like my HSC exam or I'm sitting a test and no one has told me what day the test is on, but I know that I haven't studied and know that the test is coming up like it's tomorrow or it's and the problem is, like I'm going to really go into some depths with this one. Yeah I'm here, so okay, So like I need to sit like my science tests, I

need to sit my maths tests. I need to sit all the tests, but I need to know which day each test is on so that I need I can allocate which one I have to study for first, because I have like three days to get this shit done. And then I wake up in a full tis about the fact that I'm gonna sit my hate. It's weird. I'm crying. I'm thirty four years old and I'm dreaming

about my HC School exam. And I think that maybe I'm just stressed about having too much work or trying to juggle too many things at one time, or the fact that I can't leave my house. God knows, but there's something that's coming into my sleep. It is that's that's just a section of your life right now, Like you're stressed about your exams and you don't have time to get it done. And I think that's probably how you feel just with everything that's going on in your life.

It's chaos, guys, disastf Do you have a sweet? Yes? My sweet for the week is that we have finally finally started to I know it's not spring, but I'm gonna call it spring any weight. We've finally started to spring clean our apartment and throw away. We just have so much stuff I can't even begin to describe to you. It's just stuff. That comes out of nowhere and accumulates in bundles all over the house. So we've started to slowly clean out and throw away some of the stuff.

So we are not going to be the BONDI horders anymore. How old are we? Thirty four? Decluttering is how sweet? I'm gonna marry condo the shit out of my life. Yes, that's that's I'm very old. It was only true months ago that my sweet was like going on four dates in a week. Last week I was complaining about my back pain, So that's not going to come as surprise to anyone now, I'm like, what a sad time. Really, Well, guys, thank you so much for listening to an episode. We

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