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Life Over Coffee

Rick Thomaslifeovercoffee.com
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating. In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).
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Parenting Day 25: A Secret Weapon to Motivate a Child to Change

When you think about your heavenly Father, you are immediately aware of His kindness, patience, forbearance, and affection for you. These thoughts about your heavenly Father are fundamental because how He treats you is how you are to treat others, especially your children. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-25-a-parents-secret-weapon-to-motivate-a-child-to-change/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https:/...

Apr 01, 202514 min

Parenting Day 24: Some Parents Should Stop Parenting

You cannot create unity from disunity. What is on the inside will come out on the outside. If disunity is in your marriage, disunity will flow out of it. If disunity characterizes your marriage, the likelihood of your children being relationally dysfunctional is strong. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-24-the-best-thing-some-parents-can-do-is-stop-parenting/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lif...

Mar 27, 202512 min

Parenting Day 23: I Failed As a Parent, Now What?

Parents love and care for their children, which is a good thing. Some parents over-care for their children, which is challenging, especially when their kids are not walking with the Lord. Many of these parents struggle as they rehearse all the ways they failed their children. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-23-i-failed-as-a-parent-now-what/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/j...

Mar 25, 202511 min

Parenting Day 22: Five Tips from the Best Parent in the World

The best way to learn how to be the best parent is to learn from the best parent. God, the Father, is the best parent the world has ever known. Understanding and applying His parenting to your family is one of the wisest things you can do. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/five-tips-from-the-best-parent-the-world-has-ever-known/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can m...

Mar 20, 202514 min

Parenting Day 21: Two Acceptable Conflicts in Your Home

Two people can’t agree on everything completely. If you are married, you know this is true. Two fallen people living in proximity to each other will always have a few perspectives and preferences that will never be the same. It is unavoidable, and it does not have to be a bad thing. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-21-two-acceptable-conflicts-in-your-home/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeo...

Mar 18, 202513 min

Parenting Day 20: The Danger of Pragmatic Parenting

Pragmatic parenting is a rule-based, heavily structured, and self-reliant methodology. Some of the family rules are good and biblical, while others are based on preferences and conveniences. It’s an unwise parenting model. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-20-the-danger-of-pragmatic-parenting/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring dona...

Mar 13, 202514 min

Parenting Day 19: If You Could Export Only One Thing to Your Child

After all these years of counseling and all the trouble I’ve seen in people’s lives, it has become more real to me than ever how we need a better worldview and foundation on which to land when we fall. Learning how to fall well is God’s mercy to us. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-19-if-you-could-export-only-one-thing-to-your-child/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or...

Mar 11, 202519 min

Parenting Day 18: The Wisdom of Teaching Your Children Curse Words

Teaching curse words, language use, biblical parenting, cultural engagement, redemptive speech, heart motives, child training, gospel-centered language, parental guidance, Christian worldview. It is impossible to engage our culture at any level and not hear curse words. Whether it is a television show or a stroll in the park, the words of our culture do not discriminate. They do not care who you are. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-18-the-wisdom-of-teaching-your-children-c...

Mar 06, 202518 min

Parenting Day 17: The Wisdom of Introducing Your Children to the World

Introducing children to the world, biblical parenting, cultural awareness, gospel-centered parenting, sheltering vs. exposure, child training, spiritual preparedness, real-world engagement, parenting wisdom, family dynamics. The little people in your home will only be in your home for a nano-second. They may spend ninety percent of their lives outside of your parental jurisdiction. Equipping them to live well in the world that will make up nearly all of their earthly existence is wise. Read, Wat...

Mar 04, 202514 min

Parenting Day 16: The Wisdom of Engaging the Sin in Your Family

A family with a gospel-centered view of sin experiences something that never crosses the mind of their culture. Once you tap into God’s grace at this level, sin is not a disadvantage but an opportunity to magnify God through your family’s imperfections. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and h...

Feb 27, 202516 min

Parenting Day 15: Parental Discipline Comes from a Heart of Love

How do you discipline your children? What if I asked the question from your child’s perspective? What is their experience with your corrective care? Biblical restorative care always begins with God. The Father is the one you want to imitate, especially when it comes to discipline (Ephesians 5:1). Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-15-parental-discipline-comes-from-a-heart-of-love/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting me...

Feb 25, 202517 min

Parenting Day 14: Love Your Chidlren, Just Because

One of the most practical things a parent could do for their children is to love them just because. You don’t need a reason other than they are your kids. God loves you that way. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-14-love-your-children-just-cause/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Feb 20, 202513 min

Parenting Day 13: A Biblical Perspective on Critiquing Children

If a person’s parenting model primarily consists of bringing critique from a heart of personal frustration, the parent’s model needs to change. Biblical parents center their primary communication with their children on love, not criticism. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/a-biblical-perspective-on-critiquing-children/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-...

Feb 18, 202513 min

Ep. 543 Webinar: Small Group Leader Development

Shows Main Idea – A small group is more than a meeting—it’s a place for transformation. Learn how to engage, grow, and build a gospel-centered community. Watch or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-543-webinar-small-group-leader-development/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Feb 15, 20251 hr 5 min

Parenting Day 12: Rule-based Parenting Create Dysfucntional Children

Being authoritarian is a good thing because, as image-bearers, we want to emulate our Father. Thus, we must learn to live under God’s authority and learn how to model it. However, if authoritarianism is our only parenting method, it may scuttle our children’s individualized sanctification needs. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-12-rule-based-parenting-creates-dysfunctional-children/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supportin...

Feb 13, 202514 min

Parenting Day 11: Easy Way to Disqualify Yourself As a Parent

Too often, parents with sinning children focus too quickly on the disruptive child as they overlook their reactions to their disappointing child. Here are two questions that will help you avoid this parenting problem: How would you describe your relationship with the Lord? How are you practically living that relationship out daily inside your home? Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-11-easy-way-to-disqualify-yourself-as-a-parent/ Will you help us to continue providing free co...

Feb 11, 202519 min

Ep. 542 When Christians Fail You: Trusting God in the Aftermath of Betrayal

Shows Main Idea – When someone experiences deep betrayal at the hands of Christians, it can shake their faith to the core. They may wonder how God could allow such evil, why He did not intervene, and why those who did wrong seem to have escaped justice. These are honest struggles, and they should not be dismissed with shallow responses to hurtful people. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-542-when-christians-fail-you-trusting-god-in-the-aftermath-of-betrayal/ Will you hel...

Feb 08, 202535 min

Parenting Day 10: Fussy Parents Make Insecure Children

Mable couldn’t get a handle on her insecurity. Burdened by a failed marriage, teenage children in rebellion, and too many relational conflicts to count, she was frustrated, angry, and bewildered at how the same old things kept happening to her. Though she recognized she had a lifelong problem with anxiety, fear, and insecurity, she did not understand it or why it had such a stranglehold on her life. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-10-fussy-parents-make-insecure-children/ W...

Feb 06, 202518 min

Parenting Day 9 – Give Your Child Fewer Rules And More Attitude

A right heart attitude will create the right behaviors, but knowing and obeying all the rules does not mean the heart is good or even agrees with the actions. From the inside out is the Bible’s way to parent children, not merely outward assessments. Though regulations will give you the desired behaviors you pray for when your kid is young, those rules cannot change your child’s heart. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-9-give-your-child-fewer-rules-and-more-attitude/ Will you...

Feb 04, 202517 min

Parenting Day 8: Dads, the First Picture a Child Sees of a Father

We were sitting at an intersection when our then 6-year-old daughter said, “Daddy, that Blues Clues paw print is orange.” This instance was the second time it happened with our children. Blues Clues was a once-popular kid’s program about a dog named Blue who would leave his paw print in different places during the show. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-8-dad-youre-the-first-picture-your-child-will-see-of-god-the-father/ Will you help us to continue providing free content fo...

Jan 30, 202515 min

Parenting Day 7: Your Words Shape Your Child’s Life

I had a conversation with our son when he was younger, sharing with him how he would be my replacement. It was a sobering thought. One day, our son will grow up and become a practical demonstration of what I have modeled for him. The good and the bad of my life work together to bring shape to his adult life. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-7-your-words-shape-your-childs-life/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting memb...

Jan 28, 202519 min

Ep. 540 Bradley Pierce, Fighting for the Pre-born in a Post-Roe America

Shows Main Idea – Bradley Pierce is the president of the Foundation to Abolish Abortion, a constitutional attorney with nearly two decades of experience advocating for the right to life and has been instrumental in drafting legislation across more than 30 states to protect these vital rights, including numerous equal protection bills aimed at abolishing abortion. Rick had the privilege to interview Bradley his advocacy for the unborn, as well as fighting for the rights of Christians across Ameri...

Jan 25, 20251 hr 8 min

Parenting Day 6: Before You Can Help Your Child, You Must Wait

You can only help a child if he wants help. If your child is not serious about change, your care for him will have a limited impact. Your primary parental role is waiting on the Lord as He brings your child to an end of himself. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-6-before-you-can-help-your-child-you-must-wait/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time o...

Jan 23, 202515 min

Parenting Day 5: The Orientation of the Home

Jesus was clear when He said that you must follow Him if you want to walk in the light. The opposite is also accurate: if you do not follow Him, the only option is dark. Every relational construct has followers and leaders, which begs the question, who is the head of your home? Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-5-the-orientation-of-the-home/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/jo...

Jan 21, 202515 min

Parenting Day 3: Non-negotiable First Step to Build a Happy Home

Christians enjoy and benefit from the gospel because of forgiveness (See Romans 10:9, 13). For example, we confessed our sins and requested forgiveness, and our kind Lord forgave us. Confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation are the stepping stones to happiness (Deuteronomy 33:29). If you want a happy home, you must imitate God at this crucial point (Ephesians 5:1). Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-3-non-negotiable-first-step-to-build-a-happy-home/ Will you help us to con...

Jan 14, 202517 min

Ep. 538 Jacob Valk: Parenting and P*rnography, the Masterclass

Shows Main Idea – Parenting & Pornography is a masterclass-style video series developed by Into The Light Ministries. Its purpose is to equip parents with biblical tools to nurture children of integrity who embrace God’s design for sexuality while resisting pornography. This series is free for families and churches, offering a theologically rich, practical, and gospel-centered approach to addressing sensitive topics in a family context. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-538-j...

Jan 11, 20251 hr 9 min

Parenting Day 2: Quality Parenting Comes from Good Marriages

Quality parenting, strong marriages, marital unity, biblical marriage, communication in marriage, teamwork in parenting, spiritual leadership, Christian parenting, family dynamics, relational health. The Bible is not a parenting book, which is why it gives so little parenting advice. It is a relationship book. Rather than providing you with parenting tips, it provides you with a plethora of information about how to have great relationships within any community construct, whether it’s marriages, ...

Jan 09, 202515 min

Parenting Day 1 – Parenting From Zero To Adulthood

The parenting goal is to release your child into adulthood as an individual living under God’s authority for His glory. This parenting process happens in three stages: Dependent Stage—0 to 2, Interdependent Stage—2 to 22, and Independent Stage—22+. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-1-parenting-from-zero-to-adulthood/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a on...

Jan 07, 202515 min

Parenting Day 4: Two Rules Every Parent Must Teach Their Children

Biblical parenting incrementally releases children from your rules and authority while placing them under the most influential governing dynamic known to humanity—to love God and others supremely. If your child’s heart is motivated and governed by those two truths, and you help him to embrace that kind of affection for God and neighbor, you will serve your child well. Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-4-two-rules-every-parent-must-teach-their-children/ Will you help us to co...

Jan 06, 202516 min

Ten Ways to Kill Your Marriage

Marriage counseling has historically been the most common type of counseling I have done, which makes sense because the marriage relationship is unique in that there is not supposed to be an escape clause. Marriage is for life. This fact makes marriage the perfect context for relationship sharpening. There are times when counseling is essential because of the fallenness of the couple and the need for community. If your marriage is bad, you more than likely are doing some of the following things....

Jan 02, 202519 min
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