Today, Grant and Josh are talking with Pieter Valk from EQUIP about his talk at Revoice20 this year on theology during the Pastors and Leaders Seminar of the conference. We talk about different feedback he has gotten from his talk and how we can approach theology on sexuality that helps LGBT+ Christians to thrive in our churches. If you haven't listened to Pieter's talk at Revoice and you are listening on the day this publishes, go to revoice.us and sign up to listen today because starting Septe...
Aug 31, 2020•1 hr 14 min
On August 6th, we held the first LIVE episode of the podcast over zoom with some old friends and new ones. We were joined by Meredith and Bridget as well as Darren Calhoun and Sarah Abbey, who are on the podcast for their first time. They came on to answer questions from a live audience and it was a very rich discussion. It was so good that we had to separate the conversation into two episodes. A Note From Bridget: "In talking about colorism, I was trying to communicate the ways in which race ge...
Aug 10, 2020•54 min
On August 6th, we held the first LIVE episode of the podcast over zoom with some old friends and new ones. We were joined by Meredith and Bridget as well as Darren Calhoun and Sarah Abbey, who are on the podcast for their first time. They came on to answer questions from a live audience and it was a very rich discussion. It was so good that we had to separate the conversation into two episodes. A Note From Bridget: "In talking about colorism, I was trying to communicate the ways in which race ge...
Aug 10, 2020•51 min
This week, we are continuing the conversation on race and justice. We are joined by both familiar voices and new voices. Meg Baatz, Ray Low, and Ed Guzman are back again and we are also joined for the first time by Paul Anthony Turner. Each of them bring important perspectives.
Jul 23, 2020•1 hr 28 min
The podcast is back early with new episodes. Over the past few months we have witnessed the murders of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd and the events that followed. These events have elevated a much needed conversation about race and justice in the United States. It is important that we enter this conversation and the issue of intersectionality as LGBT+ Christians in the church. We are going to spend the next three episodes discussing race, church, culture and especially the expe...
Jul 13, 2020•1 hr 2 min
This is the last episode before our summer break. Ashley is talking with Art Pereira on mentorship. Art is a youth pastor at a church in the northeast of the US and has an amazing story of how mentorship has impacted his life. In this episode, Ashley and Art explore the importance of mentorship in our lives, what we have to offer as mentors, and how we can honor the wisdom of LGBT+ and same sex attracted Christians who have been on this journey longer than us. There are so many great points in t...
May 25, 2020•1 hr 5 min
Many of you have asked us to talk about it...and we have listened. Bekah is going to be talking with Joel Jones about sex and pornography. Joel is a same sex attracted man in a mixed orientation marriage and him and Bekah will be discussing how to deal with our sex drives when living according to our convictions as man and women, married and celibate. Nothing is off the table in this conversation and we are sure this is only the beginning of many conversations to come on the topic. Music: Theme ...
May 11, 2020•1 hr 20 min
In today's episode, Bekah is interviewing Henry on his experience of loneliness as a celibate gay man. Their discussion is amazing and very insightful on how not to simply avoid loneliness but lean into and learn from it. We hope you all enjoy it!
Apr 27, 2020•42 min
Michelle is back! She is joining Josh, Grant, and Mary as they discuss different things many LGBT+ Christians especially those with a Side B view hear a lot from straight people. We asked a bunch of Side B LGBT+ Christians in multiple platforms to give us their weirdest and most interesting questions and critiques they have received. So much of what we received was gold. We are discussing what we received along with our own thoughts. Plus, Michelle brought some of her own questions she wanted to...
Apr 20, 2020•1 hr 10 min
This week, Ashley, Grant, and Josh are talking about shame about being LGBT+ and sexual history. Shame is something we all deal with as humans going all the way back to the garden. So how do we confront it and deal with it? This is a very vulnerable episode for all of us and we are really excited to share it with you all. Here are the links to the books and resources mentioned in the episode: The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs - https://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Rage-Overcoming-Growing-Straight/dp/073821...
Apr 13, 2020•1 hr 13 min
We are going to go to a weekly release of episodes for a time while we are all in shelter in place. Today, Dr. Julia Sadusky is back with us and is talking with me about depression and anxiety. Many of us deal with depression and anxiety on a normal basis and now with a global pandemic, those issues can be magnified. We also talk about managing relationships with our family and roommates as emotions run high. If you want to contact Dr. Julia Sadusky, you can email her at [email protected] ....
Apr 06, 2020•46 min
In the last month, a lot has changed in our world. We are not facing a global pandemic and an economy falling into recession. We debated whether it would be something to discuss here on Life on Side B but it seems we have arrived to the point where no one can ignore COVID-19 and it's impact on our world. So in this week's episode, Josh is talking with the cohosts as well as a number of previous guests and what it means to be Side B during a pandemic? Here are a link to some info on research show...
Mar 30, 2020•51 min
This week Henry is interviewing Ray Low on forgiveness. What is biblical forgiveness? What does it look like to forgive others, institutions and even ourselves? Ray and Henry have a great conversation about forgiveness, its importance and difficulty. At the end, they also answer questions that were sent in through Instagram and Twitter. So if you sent a question in, listen through the episode to see if you question is discussed. Here are the links to the two articles Henry mentions in the episod...
Mar 16, 2020•1 hr 4 min
On today's episode, Grant is talking with Bridget Eileen about LGBT+ victimization in the church and the criticism we as Side B Christians face from both the conservative church and other LGBT+ individuals. She discusses the book she is writing on this topic along with the importance of keeping our focus on the Gospel that Jesus alone saves. You can follow her on Twitter @TravelingNun and follow her blog at https://bridgeteileenrivera.com/ Learn more about her upcoming book at http://bridgeteile...
Mar 02, 2020•1 hr 1 min
On this episode, Mary is interviewing Dr. Julia Sadusky on mental health and loneliness. Dr. Sadusky has worked with Mark Yarhouse on multiple books and projects related to sexual orientation and gender identity. She did her disseration on loneliness in the lives of celibate gay Christians. Dr. Sadusky is sharing with us some of the results of her work as well as advice for Side B Christians who want to improve their mental health. If you want to contact Dr. Julia Sadusky, you can email her at d...
Feb 17, 2020•49 min
In today's episode, Grant is interviewing Ashley about how she has come out. They talk about what it means to "come out," the complexities of coming out depending on a person's situation, and the reality of second adolescence. Ashley also shares about the uniqueness of coming out as bisexual. You won't want to miss a minute of their conversation.
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 15 min
Earlier in January, Life on Side B was invited to the podcast stage at the Q Christian Fellowship Conference. I was joined by Melinda, who you all heard in Season 1, and my brother, Ed, to continue this conversation on thriving. What does it look like for LGBT+ Christians? And especially for Side B Christians?
Jan 21, 2020•1 hr
It is finally here! Season 2! Today we are starting the year off with a chance for you to meet the new cohost team as we discuss the season theme of thriving. What does it mean to thrive? What are the topics we will be discussing this season related to thriving? Also learn some new updates about how we will be running the season. Music: Theme Song - Driven to Success by Scott Holmes
Jan 06, 2020•46 min
¡Este es el primer episodio del podcast en español y estamos emocionados de compartirlo con ustedes! Hoy estoy hablando con Teo, un cristiano LGBT+ y célibe, sobre su experiencia como un cristiano del Lado B. ¿Qué es el Lado B? ¿Como puede ser un cristiano LGBT+ y mantener una perspectiva tradicional sobre el matrimonio y la sexualidad. Vamos a explorar esto juntos.
Dec 04, 2019•53 min
It has been 6 months and we are finally finishing season 1 of the podcast. Today I am joined by Ashley and we are looking back over this season, talking about why community and belonging was chosen as the first theme, and sharing our favorite moments. Plus, we are spilling the tea on what's coming up in season 2 including the new theme, a new format for the podcast, and a special event coming in January.
Oct 28, 2019•57 min
This week we are circling back with five of our guests from this season to ask questions sent in by listeners. I got to talk to Meg about non-Christians within intentional community spaces, Melinda about her experience coming out at 34, Dean and Lisa about emotional attachment and martial infidelity, and Matt about the relationship between celibate partnerships and marriage. Per the conversation with Dean and Lisa, here is a list of some LGBT+ Side B friendly counseling services that might be he...
Oct 07, 2019•1 hr 15 min
Max has been with his partner, Jonathan, for 8 years. In today's episode, he shared about his experience in a celibate partnership as well as what he has learned over the last 8 years. A celibate partnership is a committed relationship between two queer people committed to pursuing celibacy together, normally because of a share conviction of the traditional Christian sexual ethic. This is an episode you won't want to miss. Music: Theme Song - Driven to Success by Scott Holmes...
Sep 30, 2019•58 min
This week, I am talking with Matt about celibate partnerships and what that looks like in the lives of LGBT+ Christians. A celibate partnership is a committed relationship between two queer people committed to pursuing celibacy together, normally because of a share conviction of the traditional Christian sexual ethic. Matt shares about his own partnership, what he has learned through his partnership, and the blessings and difficulties he and his partner have faced along the way. Celibate partner...
Sep 23, 2019•1 hr 21 min
For many Side B Christians that remain single, a call to celibacy is a sacrifice of the possibility to have kids and a family as well as a spouse. But is that always the case? Bekah Mason joins me today to talk about her experience fostering and adopting as a single woman. She shares an amazing perspective on family in the Bible and how taking care of orphans is not simply a command for married people but all Christians. You won't want to miss this episode. Bekah Mason, ThM, is a mom, educator, ...
Sep 16, 2019•1 hr 3 min
I have been excited to get Laurence on the podcast because he brings an amazing perspective on a wide range of topics from community to identity. More than anything our conversation impacted me with what he shared on the importance to look for how we can serve those we are in community with rather than how they can serve us. So often we go into community looking for how others can help us but Jesus calls us to another way of living. You can contact Laurence at [email protected] Born and rais...
Sep 09, 2019•56 min
Today, David Gill and I are continuing our review of the book, Costly Obedience by Mark Yarhouse and Olya Zaporozhets. This conversation was divided into two parts. In part one, we went through chapters one and two. Today we are finishing the book. David Gill is a graduate of Covenant Seminary (’15) and a life-long musician whose current hobbies include leading worship and scoring silent films from 1915-1929. He is the current music director for the Revoice conference, and he looks to build brid...
Sep 02, 2019•55 min
Today, David Gill and I are reviewing the book, Costly Obedience by Mark Yarhouse and Olya Zaporozhets. The conversation was so good that it was hard to edit it down to one episode so this conversation is being separated into two parts. David Gill is a graduate of Covenant Seminary (’15) and a life-long musician whose current hobbies include leading worship and scoring silent films from 1915-1929. He is the current music director for the Revoice conference, and he looks to build bridges in the a...
Aug 26, 2019•51 min
This week, Luke Calvin is joining me for the episode to discuss church inclusion. Recently, conservative churches have struggled to process the inclusion of celibate gay Christians. As Luke beautifully says in the episode, the church is meant to be a place where "others" can find they belong. So what does and should that look like for Side B Christians. Luke is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Missouri and is the co-director of New Hope Counseling Services. He is also a worship ...
Aug 12, 2019•54 min
Today, I am talking with Pieter Valk about the monastic community he is creating in Nashville called the Nashville Family of Brothers, which aims to offer family to celibate men. We talk about celibacy, its place in the church, and the importance of community as a celibate individual. Pieter is the Director of EQUIP, a Nashville-based team of missionary consultants who help churches become places where LGBT+ people can belong and thrive according to a traditional sexual ethic. He is also a clini...
Jul 29, 2019•58 min
Today, we are returning to the topic of mixed orientation marriage for one last episode this season. I am talking with Meredith, a queer black woman married to a straight white man. She is a self-identified nerd who loves science, and she is here to share about her experience faith, sexuality, as well as race issues. You will want to listen to the whole episode cause we have a fun time at the end talking about celebrity crushes and giving some "Dear Straight People" letters. You can follow on tw...
Jul 22, 2019•58 min
