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like a couple of weeks. And I said, I always look forward when I see this on my calendar, because like there are other things that pop up on the calendar, if you know what I mean, and you're like, ignore, dismiss, I'm busy, but this one now, I'm ready for it. I'm ready, and you know what, we have wedding bells on the brain right now. And so there are so many people who are talking about like at least I know one of my friends just got engaged and I

couldn't be happier for her. She's older, so it's not like you know when we were younger that you get engaged and you know she's an she's in her late thirties, and I'm really just so excited for her that she found her man. But just in't speaking with her. It got me thinking about my own wedding, and I don't even think we ever got into your wedding, honey. We can definitely talk about my wedding. There was a lot

of different sasonas that went into that wedding. Really, Oh my god, I want to hear and tell me everything. So we're gonna talk about like wedding planning and everything. Because my friend was asking me, She's like, can I pick your brain? Like what did you do? And I was like, girl, I had a wedding planner. I was working. I had three jobs at the time. I mean, I just there was no way that I was going to add wedding planning the way that I knew I wanted it to be, you know what I mean, Like I was,

there's no way. So I definitely got a wedding planner, but I want to hear about yours. Well, you know, my older sister she does wedding planning. We also you know, she's like she loves different things. So as soon as I got engaged, she was like, this is my wedding. I'm planning everything. So yes, so luckily, but I wasn't paying her, so I had to be involved because you know this was pro bono, So I did help a lot with wedding planning, and I did have a lot

to do, like picking choosing. I had a destination wedding. What kind of wedding did you have, Carolina, Well, it was destination for other people because it was in New York City. So I was like, we are getting married in the city, like we were living in Brooklyn at the time. So we decided that we tried to do a destination We went to different places in Miami thinking maybe we'll have a wedding and we're like, no, it's

a city wedding. So we did it in Manhattan. In Manhattan, well, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. It was crazy. I'll tell you guys where I got married and stuff, and if you guys look it up, the place is just it's breathtaking. Um church wedding. No, well, you know, my husband's Jewish, um Catholic, so we couldn't get married in the church, which was just like a really big deal to me because my grandfather was very involved in the church and um unfortunately he passed before

we got engaged. But um, I wanted the element of having a priest, and then Mark wanted a rabbi. So we got married at this place. It's called the Angel or in Sons Foundation. If you've never seen it before, it is so incredible. I won't be listening for like one minute. Begose no Google Google image because it is um. So it was basically one of the first synagogues in New York City and um it went through many different like uh phases where people tried to tear it down.

It was always preserved. And then I believe back like in the eighties or the nineties or something, they made it into an event space. And looking at this picture right now, what do you think you are Mega Marco or some sh it, because this is gorgeous. Wow, it's like an overhead photograph. It has like a gothic feel. Um. They did a lot of like VH one shows there. I think they did like a Divas show there once. Um. But like the story about it is really so beautiful.

Because Mark and I were at the time we were engaged, we said we wanted to go and look at different venues in the city, and um we looked at this place from the outside and outside it was so funky. We were like, why, like what is this place? How

did you end up there. The wedding planner, no, no, no, wedding planner didn't come until later, Like a wedding planner came for like the details, you know, but like this finding the location was me and Mark, like we basically just said one Saturday morning, let's just go drive around the city and look at these different places. So we walked in and we both were just like blown away. It took our breath away. We asked for somebody because

there was literally nobody there. We walked in and we asked for somebody, were like, how do we reach out to someone to get our date or for the venue? And they said, oh, we're sorry. You know this is booked for another year, Like there's no way that you could get married here. And so Mark, ever the thinker, I have to tell you, like this guy, he blows me away. So we're walking out and I'm like, oh my gosh, I said, Mark, that place, I said, it

was just unbelievable. Goes, wait, let's go back. So we go back in and he goes to the guy and he goes, do you have any contracts that aren't signed? And he goes, what do you mean? He goes, is there anybody who hasn't signed and giving you a payment for a contract. Head He's like, we'll give you a payment right now if you give us a date. So he went to the office. He looked up. There were

two people that did not have contracts signed. He reached out to both of those people were literally waiting there right there. Marc is like, I will write you a check right now. This is where we want to get married. And so romantic of him, I feel like you're telling you about a movie. It really it really is. And so the guy went downstairs. He went to his office, and we're looking around and we're thinking to ourselves, Okay, could we do the could we do the ceremony here?

And could we do this? And like we're just already thinking and planning and everything. And so the guy comes up and he goes, um, congratulations, you're getting married on nine months. So the venue gave you a wedding date. There was a person who didn't sign a contract, and he reached out to them and he said, we have people who are interested. They're here right now. You know, if you don't want the venue, we need to know

because these people would like to have it. And the person said yeah, we're not going to get married there, and he gave us the date that day and he said you will be getting married June and that was it. So that's how we picked up. Yes, I love it. It's super random, but I love it. I know, I know. So where did you get married? Where did you what

was your destination? Was it American Republic? Yeah, we actually got married in Punta Kana And the only reason, the only reason we got married was because my Agualita was ninety four years old, blessed, and I was not getting married without her there. When you know, when my mother got pregnant from me, she had just arrived in America as an immigrant, and she was like, I can't keep this baby here with me, so I was shipped off to my Ajuanita, and my Ajuanita kept me until I

was like pop, practically ready for kindergarten. So I couldn't get married without her being there. So I was like, everybody who wants to be at my wedding, guess what, You're gonna have to go to the Medican Republic for sure, without a doubt. That's the only thing that other than Nony obviously, she was the only person at the wedding that really really mattered to me because you know, I

had not got married, I had not had kids. So I felt like Jose because she was very Catholic, my grandmother, and she was like the veil the bride the church. So I know that that gave her, you know, it made her a little heart smile and oh for sure. But then again also there's a lot of turn up in Dominican Republic, so it kind of like there's a lot of turn up. It kind of like all worked out. So like all of our friends, we actually had like sixty guests, but they all have to fly there, so

that's a lot of people to move a lot. Yeah, but our friends, like Nina only I really love you. We have like really amazing friends. You know, people love us,

people always want to be in our house. So we were there for a whole week, and you know, so it's like sometimes you spend thirty, forty, fifty, sixty dollars even a hundred thousand dollars on a wedding and then you know it's over, and like one day, like we said, like you know what, why don't we make it a weekend thing, have a welcome barbecue, take the girls to

the spa have a goodbye brunch. So that's the main reason we decided out a destination wedding, and the place where we got married was Proa, My beautiful We went back after Oh my gosh, I'm special and you were probably like, that's where I walked. That's where they threw the rose pedals. I do right there. That's where our little rose tent was at. That's where Nooni's friend got trashed and passed out, kidding, not trashed and slept on the beach. That woke up my wedding. My souter like,

where's your nephew. I'm like, I don't know he went out with Noon When he's like, oh, he was walking to the room. Girl, they found him face down in the sand on the beach with his passport is here, teenager, I will I will not marry you, and then I will kill you if something would have happened to my nephew. I because those passports, man, you know what I mean, crazy, they lifted take that picture off. Don't tell me, I

mean seriously, because I know all about that stuff. But so like, destination wedding so different from a wedding that's at your location. Because like, for example, everybody flew in, like my Maya Belita was flown in from San Francisco. She had to fly to Florida, and then she had to wait in Florida for a week or two because she was in her nineties as well. And the beautiful complaining because you know what you guys give you like me,

he was high, No, she was ready. She had her miss d D like she was red D. Like so, my mom had six kids. Out of all of the six kids, she went to every single wedding. My grandfather, like I said, he passed unfortunately before mine, but they went to every single one of my mom's kids weddings. And it was so special, so special. I have her be a part of it. But like, you know, the thing is, I look back on it and it's like

Mark and I looked at each other. Somebody once said, you could either have a perfect wedding or a perfect marriage. You decide. We had the most spectacular wedding. Nothing went wrong like for us. It was just like it was so beautiful, so special. Oh my gosh. I kept on thinking to myself too, and this is just the way that I think. I kept on thinking, like, Okay, what's to happen. And I shouldn't have done that because like the whole time I was waiting for something and everything

was just great, you know what I mean. So it's like anybody who's wedding planning, like, don't let people get in your brain that like something's going to happen or you know what I mean. And like for those people who don't have a wedding planner, you don't need a wedding planner. I needed a wedding planner because, like, truthfully

I did. I had three jobs at the time, you know, so I was working for us still, I was working for Elvis Durran Show, and then I also was still freelancing and doing like you know, my spide gigs and stuff like that. So you didn't have time you managing that and the wedding. The wedding was too important for me to like let it go, you know what I mean. So it's like, looking back on it now, zero regrets on having a wedding planner. The same thing with me.

You know, even though my my sister was my wedding planner, she killed it. She did amazing, you know, she knew all the details that I didn't know, especially me, girl, I carried everything to another country. Like you think I would have been able to do this on my own. No, you need somebody that's precise, that is super specific, that

has like an I mean, that's the thing. That's the reason why I really appreciated Claudia, the woman who took care of our wedding, because it was like like every single detail down to like the handkerchiefs that they handed out when people walked in. They had our our initials embroidered in the date and I said, I was like, you know, we had so many of those left over. And I said, Mark, these are so special the boys will carry when when they get married. You know. I

just found a box the other day. It was like a Tiffany box. I'm like, what's in here? Like my veil was in there and like my ash. I'm like, oh look at this. I kept it because I'm I throw everything out. But I was like, I guess not, do you? Oh my gosh, no, I know it out throw it out. I just don't like clutter, Like it's like I hate clutter. I don't and es, since I live in in an apartment, I don't have, you know, a basement I don't have an addict, so it's like

whatever closet space I have, that's it. No, I'm so sentimental though. I even kept like the little hair tied, like my mom gave me a little tiny it was tiny, tiny um a little Swarovski um blue crystal pin just for me to put underneath my hair. It was literally underneath my hair. That was my something blue and I still have it and it's just so special to me.

And that's why I said it was like, you know, I didn't have a daughter, but hopefully one day when my kids get married, you know, whoever they choose, maybe they'll be receptive to, like, you know, having something that I wore on my wedding. But like the one thing that I will say that was the toughest the guest list. The guest list was tough. Who are you telling did you split it down the middle, like you get fifty

guests get guests? Did you do something like that? There were so many rules with this place that we were only allowed to have. I think it was like to we we didn't want a huge wedding. I think it was like two people capacity. We went down to two because we were like, we don't want those fifty extra people, like there's already gonna be people working and everything. Like we really wanted it to be as intimate as possible,

and so we just went through. The problem was it wasn't us with the guestless, it was the people on the guest less. Who's going to have an issue with this person? Who? How do how do we put this person away from the other person? Yeah, Familia, it's like, oh, I don't know. Yeah, it gets messy, It gets messy. We won't even talk about the seating arrangement. That's a problem.

But even the invites is already like nah, this one doesn't like this one and I like, but we were good with the invites, you know, like we didn't have any issues with that. You know, my mom is it's kind of like weird with stuff like that, like don't invite this one and don't invite you, don't talk to that one. But I didn't let her dictate, So your wedding, it's not your wedding, mom. Yeah, she wasn't planning, she wasn't paying, So I kind of like it was like,

you're gonna deal with whoever is there. I just won't sit you with them for sure. Well, you know, the funny thing for me was like, okay, so we're inviting people and Mark and I I'm such an office supply person. I went and got these huge post it and in the apartment that we lived in back in the day, it was all windows. So one day we sat down where like we are going to do these seating charts, and I got these big old post it notes. They were like they were they were huge, like not your

little post it notes, right exactly exactly. And so I was like, Okay, here we go, We're gonna have it. I don't even remember how many tables. Let's say it was ten. I said, we're gonna we have ten tables. We are getting this done now. So like we went through it so that I could give it to my planner, and when she thought, she was like, I've never had anybody be as detailed as this, Like it was crazy.

The funny thing for me was and actually, I feel like one of the most beautiful parts as far as our wedding went, was the mixture of the Jewish ceremony with a Catholic ceremony, Like I had a huppa, which you know, for me, it was like I never I've never seen you know, I'd gone to a Jewish wedding before, but like I'd never seen myself under a koppa getting married. You know when you picture yourself getting married. Don't judge me doing that track a little bit. So I don't

know why I'm thinking sex in the city. You know Charlotte when she converted, I did not convert, no, because I'm thinking, I'm like, oh, she did same thing, Charlotte. That don't mind me and my ignorance, but I don't

have it. No, no, no, And it's great to ask questions. No. Um. So we basically had a rabbi and we had a priest, and we did a combined ceremony, so I did have to learn some um Hebrew to say at the wedding, and Um, Mark was just like, you know, he went with whatever it was that Um was involved with, like

the Catholic wedding. But yeah, it was just really touching to see, like there are pictures of Mark's dad who's no longer with us, and you could see him tearing up when the rabbi was was giving us our blessing, and like Mark stepped on the glass and I mean that was just it was really just the perfect combination

of both of our religions and cultures. And like you know, I always say to Mark, the only thing that I regret about our wedding was that we couldn't extend it too longer, you know what I mean, Like I wanted it to end at like two o'clock in the morning, you know what I mean. So I just even talking about it now just gives me the best memories. You look so happy, you know, you guys are listening to us, But I can actually see her. She's been cheesing the

whole time. You could tell she's still in love with her man. I you know what I mean, He's I I'll keep him, you know. No, that's the thing. It's like we're now. We just celebrated ten years together, and we looked at each other and we're like ten years married, thirteen years together. We started dating. He didn't ask me to marry him until we were three years in. And then that whole story. You guys have to prepare yourself for that story, because that story was so freaking romantic.

I'm not even kidding you. It's like, not make me cry, Okay, No, it was honestly everything I would expect from Mark Grossman, Carolina, Can I tell you I fantasize about a very romantic proposal but it didn't happen. But continue, I want to hear what was your proposal? Like, no, tell me now?

So okay, So me and me have known each other practical since we were like twenty two years old, and then later while we were living together, we were going to Paris right and moving together like five six years already we have We've had a very long relation, and I was like Paris, I said, oh God, maybe you'll propose if this is it? This is it going down? Yeah, the whole time I'm in Paris. Oh I feel towered today. Okay,

maybe today going to the top. He's taken me to the top and he's gonna me on the river the CN okay proposal today girl trip ends, no proposal. I'm like, wait a minute, wait a minute, no love lockets at that like bridge or whatever. I don't know. I've never been to Paris, what anything. He was not into anything. I set up a photo shoot, you know what he did? He was like, I ain't going it at When I came back, I was like this man, and I don't know why I hacked myself up? Women, Why do we

do things like that? No need the missed opportunity though? I yea's actually here? Did you, Nudy get on the mic right now? Why on earth did you not know? I want to know why did you not take that opportunity? And nuony, you're so cute? Come over here, Nudy. This is the perfect opportunity for you in Paris. It is the city of love and light. It wasn't the right time. What do you think five years? Your listeners are going

to crucify me for this. But it has to be the right time, not when the person that wants the proposal wants. It has to be when it's right when when not not when I wanted, but when we feel it's the right time. Paris wasn't the right time for me. Paris wasn't the I mean, Paris is the right time for everybody. That's just it in your mind. It's the right time, I think for you. You're thinking Paris is the right place, but is it the right time? Well? Okay, so you know what, let me let me hear you

out on this. So what you're saying is that you guys were five years in right, five six years into your relationship, let's say around that time in your mind, what were you thinking would have been the perfect time and place? Was it indeed the proposal that you did. I don't think if if it would have went down in Paris, I don't think it would have been that genuine would I think it would have been more like, oh,

we're in Paris, I have to do this. I don't think it would have been it would have been as genuine as it was when I did it. I appreciate that. That's beautiful, Noony, that you knew, you know your convictions, and you know that you forced it just because we were in a beautiful place and people think, oh, Paris the place of love. No I wanted it to come from my heart when it was ready and everything was right and it was perfect. I love you, Oh my god,

I love you too. But that is beautiful, you know why? Because he didn't do it for the story. So many people do things for the story or for the you know what I mean? And now a right, it would have looked amazing on Instagram that you I don't I don't want to look that's right. That's because Noony is the man and he still remains the man in my eyes. I am forever new Nie Fan. I am the president of the Nownie Fan Club. Now he's deep. Now I needed to mean something. I'm just I know that is

beautiful though, you know what, He's so right. So many people think, like, oh, this is the perfect opportunity, whether I'm in Times Square in Manhattan or you know, you know your relationship too, and you know what. He did it the following Christmas, you know, at home in our apartment just us too. You know, it wasn't it was just perfect. Well, he says, there was a backstore, he took the ring to Christmas dinner and then he didn't want to do it because there were too many people there.

I did. I just got it, probably a little stage right, you know, it was something. It was just a lot of people. That's a lot, I'm sure. Christmas. Yeah, it was dinner time. They had Carol and then there was all kind of stuff going on. This we did have a man doing Christmas Carol's Okay, that's a lot. I don't blame you now, need for waiting until the right time, and like, but see, this is this beautiful. I'm picturing

it in my mind right now. You got the drove off after after and he still had that ring burning a hole in his pocket. And when we get home, we're like undressing and then I look back he on the floor. I'm like, when the hell, Oh my gosh, I love this for you guys. And now look at you. Seriously look at that, Carolina. We got no need to help on telling these, you know, engagement stories. Now I like to hear your engagement story. Oh gosh, no, my

engagement story is crazy. Um, Mark and I were living together. I'm gonna give you, guys cliff notes. You've probably heard this before. I don't know if I've ever told you guys. Um, I had no clue that Mark was gonna get it was gonna ask me to marry him. I really didn't. And Um, one day he says to me, I have a meeting all day long. I'm not gonna be able to talk to you all day. Don't bother trying to reach out, Like it's a long ass meeting, like da

da da da. And I'm like, okay, oh yeah, He's like, I'll see you when I get home, and said, okay, I had no idea that he flew out to Columbus, Ohio to meet my mom and dad. I guess. He called them like a week before and said, you know, hi, we then Tata that's what everybody calls them. He's like, you know, I'd like to come and see you. And they said, what's going on? Mark? Is everything okay? And he said, you know, I just I want to see if you could make yourself available for me, and you know,

he got the date in the time and everything. Took them out to lunch and told him that he was planning on asking me to marry him, and they of

course said yes. And then he came home that night like nothing I knew, nothing, knew nothing, honestly, Like people don't do things like this like fly again okay, it like that's something that I guess maybe it happened to my mom, but like you you know, So then, um, one day I'm driving back from the city and I get a freaking flat tire and I'm like, oh my gosh,

like what is going on? Like this is such a disaster, you know this and that, and so Mark's like, just you know, Mr Fix said, He's like, just don't worry about it. Everything will get taken care of. So long story short. I end up getting back to my apartment and back then our apartment, our elevator opened up into the apartments out and so I opened up. I get into the apartment and I'm like, why are there candles? There's candles everywhere? Like okay, I said, somebody wants some

sexy time. So he takes me to the bathroom and there's there's a bubble bath and there's like champagne and I'm like, oh, ship, it's going down. I was like, he's about to get it. This is gonna be good. This is gonna be a movie where well, we don't make movies, but you know what exactly exactly. So I'm ready, I like, take off my clothes. I'm doing the backstroke.

We had a big gass bath. I was like doing the backstroke in the bath and I'm like, you know, getting ready, and all of a sudden, I'm like, where is he? Where is he? Like? And so he comes in. He's fully clothed. He wasn't there. I'm thinking, you're doing this together with him? No? No, no, I walk in. Yes, I'm there, and he said, hold on, I gotta go. He's like, I gotta go change and so he comes, I get in the bathtub. I was like, I'm ready for this. The zero clue that he's about to propose.

He comes back in. He's fully clothed, and I'm like what. I was like, dude, come on, you know, like what's going on? And he gets down on one knee and naked. I'm fully naked. There's candlelight everywhere, and I made sure I want this for the rest of my life. He wants to listening wet and naked. He was like, okay, looks good. Where it right? Yes? And I was so nervous. I was like, oh my gosh. I was like what if. I was like, what do you I said, do I go? What are you doing? Oh my gosh, No, what are

you doing? I kept on saying he goes you kept on saying no, and I was like, what is she saying no to me? And I was like, what are you doing? Like I'm naked right now, you know that's double the nerves just oh my gosh. So then after I said yes, and then he got in with me and there were people in our kitchen making us like a four course meal. It was in It was probably one of the most romantic nights of my life, like, definitely planned this for months. It was crazy. It sounds

absolutely perfect. But Alina, can we go back to the fact that he would naked. I have a thing about being nude, you know, even in front of my husband, So I cannot even imagine being proposed to in the nude girl. No, wait, not only that, but wait, there's one. There's literally one picture from after we got engaged. I have my hair back in like a bandana, I have no makeup on. I look so freaking rough, and I'm crying and I like it was just it is, quite honestly,

probably the ugliest picture of me. My one eyes crossed because I had too much champagne. But I didn't even care. I was like, my man asked me to marry him. It was just such a beautiful thing. The dinner, so like, you guys get out, you get dressed, and we get out. We get dressed, and there's a chef and we get started with the first course and the wine, and we're

calling people. People are calling us because at that point my mom knew that that was gonna be the day my parents call and they're like, by this with the bone blue to her face, just waiting. They were dying. My brothers and sisters called, so it was like every course, like other people were calling, so the timing couldn't have

been better. Like my brothers, my sisters, my friends, my best like my best friend knew like every like there were so many people who knew that kept the secret that I appreciated because like there would have been nothing worse than finding out from somebody. Because the way that it happened was so amazing, you know what I mean, Wow, Like have you ever done something like that for him that required tons of planning? Like did you ever pay

him back? Because that sounds like you're dead? I mean I got him a dog during the pandemic, and it's the biggest mistake in my life. I uh, I got suckered into having a pandemic dog. No, you know what it is. Mark is um He's the type of guy who doesn't like material things, like he doesn't like gifts, he doesn't like things. So for him, the dog was huge because he's always wanted a dog. He wanted to raise the kids with the German shepherd. Oh yeah, oh yeah, Mesa,

she is a pizza you know what? And no, she's just she's taken over my man, he gives her chee chee rubs. Now I get so upset about it. They're like obsessed with each other. Mark is not the type of person like Um. For example, for our tenda anniversary, I got him a really beautiful gift. Um, you know, I saved up my money. I got him a watch and it's not the watch that he wanted. So it's like I am the worst. I'm the worst like figuring out what to give him, you know what I mean.

But he's like really good about knowing what to give me. So I just figured from now on, I'm not going to give him material things. Good just you know, another dog next year, I said, one and done. Baby. That is it. She is. She is going to live in infamy. There will be no more German shepherds on this property because she is it. There is it beautiful? Like she is beautiful? Like I don't know how we just like got sidetracked on this whole thing. But anyway, back to

the weddings and stuff. We have to talk about this because I did want to ask you do people put pressure on you, like, especially because you were back in the Dominican Republic to have like the best wedding where people like were their expectations like, was the bar set really high? Um, you know where the bar was? Said? Hi? You know that's like when I got married. I married like five years ago. That's when snapchat and social media was like really big. You know, my followers really wanted in.

They expected me to post everything. You know. I had become kind of like an oversharer, so they're like, yeah, I posted about red party, or ye have posted wedding all let us see the dress. So the expectation for me to share on social media was extremely high. And even on my wedding day, I was sharing because people were watching, like people just wanted to be a part of it. So that was a little bit of pressure, But it was do you regret it? Do you regret it?

If you could do it all over again, would you do the same thing? Would you have given people all of that like insight into your really wouldn't have. I would not have snapchatted on my wedding. I would not have cheered on Instagram on my wedding. I would I put it, would have put the phone down. But I don't know why I felt like I owed it to my followers to be at my wedding. To be fair to you, though, let's look at the difference you got

married in. Yeah, it was five years now, so times were like son was when I got married and I had a And we've spoken about this before if you listen to the podcast, I had a no social media at my wedding period, point blank. I don't want pictures on Facebook. I don't want you tweeting. I didn't want nothing that that topic of conversation like is it in the invite or how does that? How does that implied? So we basically had a website and it said we

really want people to be in the moment. This is such a special day for both of us, like, please refrain from using social media and taking pictures, you know. Not not that I was worried about anybody posting a picture about me. I wanted people to just feel it. I wanted people to know, like I gonna get like emotional right now. I know what you're saying. It's just live the moment. And you know, it's like with social media, it's like we don't stop and absorb what's happening sometimes

because we're like this like recording instead of watching. There are very few moments now where you can like really just take in like the love, especially after like this pandemic, like the love and the warmth of your closest family and friends, and like I just knew. And that was back in the day. That was eleven, and I was like, people were asking, are you gonna have a hashtag? I said, fuck no, I'm not having a hashtag. I said. For what I said, so people can get like, you know,

these random pictures. I want people to feel like they are in a safe space, like I don't want anybody to worry about Like I wanted people to get lit. I wanted I mean that bar was popping, you know what I mean. And I wanted people to feel safe and free. That was really kind of like the message of the whole reason why I didn't want to do

social media. Even my bachelorette party. My bachelorette we went to Vegas and it was more relaxing and I told of girls, I was like, if any of you think it's gonna be funny, I didn't want guys, like I didn't want guy strippers. I'm just not into it. I said, if any of you think it's gonna be funny, you're cute. I will be so pissed if you give me a guy stripper, I said, I will leave. I will leave.

I think they're actually icky and just just nasty. By the way, no offense to any guy entertainers if you're listening to us. But it's just not my thing. My thing, but you know, my friends did enjoy them. And if you see the footage in my phone a bella Jesus strippers, I don't know why. I just got so emotional. Oh my gosh. You know what it's like reliving that time.

So for anybody who's getting married, and whether it's your first or your second marriage or whatever, it is when you find true love for everything that you have inside of it, and look, you could be the total opposite. You may want people to document everything for you. That's what's so special about a wedding is that it's truly yours. I have some weddings coming up. Some of them I feel like that was too soon. Some of them are like, you get married again. I don't know and judge, but whatever.

But when when it comes to weddings, you know it's just gonna feel right. You know, me and only were together like eight nine years before we got married. Blast he didn't believe in marriage. He didn't want to get married. Currently now I begged for a ring. Yeah, I'm like, yo, where's my ring? Where's my ring? Me and you were so opposite. Could you're like I did freshure him because I was just like, yo, bro, what are we doing? I'm gonna be here forever? Girl friend? Like you know,

I gave him an ultimatum with everything. We're gonna move in together or we're breaking up. We're gonna get engaged. But because he wasn't moving on anything, he still wanted the little hole behind my back and his twenty stop it nudy. I'm gonna spank him if I see you gotta be out the room. You better be out of the room. Because I am his biggest fan. But I do not like that. But I was the one because you know, I met him at twenty four. So it's

just like you guys were babies. Twenty four year old don't want to win, you don't want to get married. I feel like sometimes like even a thirty year old is still kind of like when it comes to men, you're kind of like, I'm so young. But I'm the one that gave him ultimatum on every day. See I think number one. I didn't even go ring shopping with Mark. Do you know that I never looked at a ring. I never picked out a stone. I never looked at like, not even the shape. Nothing. I got what I got.

It's like it's like a kindergarten and you get what you get and you don't get upset but alone because my sister's told him like she wants Prancesscott, don't he designed the ring. He designed the ring with his friend and that's why it's so special and sentimental to me and um one of his dearest friends, Scott, who I adore. I like that got poor guy. He probably went through

it because Mark is very detailed. Mark is like what he wants to look down and be like this Mark Grossman again, you know so like I didn't even know what this thing was gonna look like nothing, but but you loved it. I love my ring. I love my ring, but the original ring. I still have the original ring. I got a new It must have been a good

as ring. If you still have the original ring ten years lead, I do, I do, and um so as far as like the ring goes, But like I think for me, going back to the reason why I never pressured him was because, you know, and I've spoken about this to you guys before. I'm the youngest of six. Four of my siblings have gotten divorced, and so for me marriage, I think I was more scared. I think I was just like, yo, if I'm gonna do this,

it's got to be forever. Like I don't. And that's the reason why I felt so comfortable, like just living with him, Like the fact that he asked my parents for their blessing to live with each other. I was like, Okay, so this is cool, Like we can live with each other and like, let's see where it goes. And I knew I wanted to be with him forever, like there was no question, you know, But like I never asked him,

so when are we going to do this? Or you know, I feel like maybe just because I was so traumatized by seeing what my brothers and sisters went through with their divorces, want to force it. I didn't want to force it. I was just like, if it's gonna happen, it's gonna be. It's gonna be on him and me and will decide, and that's it. You know. So that's crazy that you gave gave that thought because you know, my mom is like Dominican and listen the tailor she

married like three or four times. Thinking about the boys. I can't stand you. Oh my god, I love it. But you know what, like we could compare her to jail O me Jlo's on the track gro Num, But my mom is seventy. We gotta leave her with the list of the tail over there. We gotta leave her in the eighties. All she needs is a construction dude. Now, remember when Elizabeth Taylor married that construction guy and everybody he looked like white snake. Yes, I don't even remember

these things. I must have been a child, but my mom was obsessed with Taylor. So was my White Diamonds. That's the only woman in the world with the violet eyes. I'm like, I've never seen a picture of this woman's violet eyes. But my whole child, it's real, it's real. It's real because my mom would say, yes, sah loss a horse, Oh my gosh. And my mom, my mom would always look at us because we all had brown eyes, except for my sister. My sister has gorgeous green eyes.

My mom would be like Jenny, Jenny has green eyes. My my, my great grandmother Arora had green eyes. So and how Jenny looked that like that, there's a recessive Jeane somewhere. I don't know. And look at my kids. I would have had light eyes. I would never even gotten married. I mean please, yeah, I would still be trolling the streets. These guys would not be safe. We are the only two people who could talk about weddings and wedding planners and destination weddings and get to Elizabeth Taylor.

How this happens. We do not know. You know what? We need Andrew to have his microphone on every producing, you know, he just lets us go. He's like, this sounds like it's gonna be a mess. I love it. Well, we are a mess. But you know what, I do want people to write in and tell us like about their wedding. If you guys have questions, and seriously, because you have two totally different perspectives. You've got a destination wedding person and a local. You know, I wouldn't say hometown.

New York City is not my hometown, but it was it's where I reside. You know where I live. If you guys have questions. Somehow I have a blob. If anybody wants to do a destination wedding, I got you. I wrote it all up for you. Don't worry. My wow right in and I'll reply with the link amazing. But you know what, like before we go, honey, I do want to ask the biggest question of them all, would you do it all over again? Absolutely? Till this day,

my wedding was the best day in my life. So I would just without the snapchat, but I would do it for sure. And if I had to get married again, I would marry the same man. What about you, Caroline girl? Please? You know my answer. I always say, like Marcus literally the best thing that ever happened to me. He changed my life. He is. I mean, listen, I'm not going to be sappy. I know there's people rolling their eyes. He drives me fucking insane, Like he drives me nuts.

But there's nobody that I would rather grow old with. Like he is seriously the best puzzle piece, you know what I mean? Like he is the missing puzzle piece, and like, um, would we do it all over again? One million percent? I would not change a thing about our wedding. Like I didn't girl, I didn't even tell you about the children's choir. I mean there's just so much. I mean, I had little kids singing at my wedding.

People were like, there was not a dry eye and the wedding, I mean, oh my gosh, the whole weekend, and then after it's like we looked at each other, were like, and then we have to go on our honeymoon. So no, you know what, every penny started on the honeymoon situation. Honeymoon's next honeymoon's on a different day. Because I feel like this episode is long. But I'm happy me too. I'm so happy, And you guys, hit us up at Lli Spanglish on Instagram, all social media, and also, um,

don't forget to follow us. I'm at the real Carolina, I am honey German. Hit us up, follow and you know bench old episodes we've talked about a lot of great things. Definitely hit us up, and don't forget to like and subscribe so that you guys can know whenever a new episode comes out, because we're really trying to serve it to you. We are trying to give it to you. So there you go. See. Now I'm getting along, frisky, I gotta go fund on me and I love you guys.

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