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to the pound. No, I'm just kidding, um my dog, you guys, she is like in her puppy stage still. Everybody says that like a German shepherd, once they hit three years old, that's when they start to calm down. And how old is she? She was like a year and a half. I got a year and a half left of this and like I did not if that I would when something, well, yeah, the mambo whatever. I mean. This girl is ripping up my my house. I went upstairs. I had feathers everywhere, and I'm like, oh my gosh.

When I tell you tore up a pillow, but not just any pillow, a down pillow. So I had like blue muss everywhere. I was finding blue mugs in my butt like after a week, like you just know, don't even know where they are, you know. So anyway, I am so glad to be here with you. She is safely upstairs, and we don't know why I keep picturing you coughing up feathers right now. I don't know why I care, because it's very likely that that would happen to I'm not even kidding you. Like I was finding

feathers in my hair. I was like, I took a shower, like what is going on? This girl is driving me nuts? So you know what they say, pandemic dogs will make you pay, and she is one of them. Um But anyway, I digress. So I've been looking forward to talking to you, honey, because this is like my one time where I get to be me. This is my time where I get like it's me and you. We just sit down for real. It feels like like a date. It feels like a lunch date, and we just talk about what mean you

want to talk about. There's nobody else involved totally, and I know that you had brought up an idea for today, which you know, I don't know. I feel like I speak to this a lot, but I definitely think there's a deeper dive that we can take on this because there are so many people who are in this stage of their life right now, especially after like these past two years where you're really thinking about things and reassessing

kind of like your life situations. So um so talk to me and wondering you just overall, you know, what's your life calling? Like, what's your purpose on this earth? Because it definitely isn't working for a boss that doesn't appreciate you and underpays you. What is your life calling? I think we should definitely hit on that one totally. You know. It's it's so interesting whenever people ask me about this, like just working in the radio field, and I always go to my father. I don't even think

about myself when I think about this topic. You know, I think about my dad, who was a little boy in Nicarawa who basically had a mother as a seamstress and a father who was you know, I mean they labored, they labored. Let's just say that, you know, they were not professional people. I mean, listen, they were beautiful people, don't get me wrong, but they did not have a career profession per se. So you know, we can't really say that. So my dad, Yeah, we're talking about my

grandparents on my father's side, you know. So, um, you know, my dad has a life calling and I really looked to him whenever people ask me this question because it's like it gives me goose bumps. You know, how did he know, like how did he know as a little boy, without having any kind of influence professionally, that he wanted to be a doctor, you know, and to have that dream and to work toward that dream. You know. So when my dad reached I believe it was seven years old,

he retired. And we always go back to when we say, Daddy, you retired and you came out of retirement like not even a year later. And he said, yeah, he did not stay retired for very long. And I said, you know why, you this is your time. You can relax, you can go travel with mommy, you know, you can do all this stuff. And he said, this is my life's work. Helping people and being a doctor is all I ever wanted to do. So if you took that away from me, which is retirement. He was like, I

just didn't feel like myself. And I'm like, wow, what a strong conviction to have, you know what I mean, Like at seventy most people are like piecing out. They're like, don't call me, don't write me, don't ask me for help. You know. Yeah, But for him, you know, it means something, you know it it touches his heart, like God bless him.

You know the fact that he was lucky enough to determine his life calling you know, once and for all, because you know, different people have several careers throughout their life the end have developed this as a kid and at seventy to still want to do it, Like what a blessing. I envy him and a but I envy him. It is. It's a beautiful thing. And that's the reason why it's like, you know, there are so many people who were kind of like floundering. And I don't mean

that in a negative way. You know, you've you've tried one thing, you dabbled in it, you know, and then from there you were like, maybe it's not for me. So then you know, you make the decision to have a changing career. So you go to the next thing. And you know, there a lot of people I've done it. You know, I've done it. I've been there. You know.

The legal field was my life for like, you know, since I was a teenager, like you know, at like nineteen, I was already working in the legal field, you know, and I stood there for years. You know, I went on I did two years paralegal program, then I did four years criminal justice program. Then I started studying for the ELSAT and I was like, I'm going to be an attorney. And then she got all Kim Kardashian on us. She wanted to take the bar Elwoods Woods, and then

media came about. And you know, when I started working for I Heart and for Power one oh five, I actually had the big Ask Else that book on the coffee table in my house and I lived five minutes from St. John's University because that's where I dreamed of going to school to be an attorney. And you know what, it was pivot time. I decided, no, you know what, I love music, I love hip hop, I love New York and I gave up all those dreams because I felt like my life purpose would probably be in media,

in radio and in hip hop. So I mean, you've definitely made your mark, you know what I mean. I feel like it was a good decision. But for some people it really it really is a life change, you know what I mean. And I'm not just talking about media in general. It's like, you know, there's somebody who we know who was in media and who basically now has decided I'm gonna become a nurse. I'm gonna become

a nurse. I'm leaving the radio world and this has a better purpose for me and is going back to school and is doing all of the hard work and training, and I'm like, God, bless you, you know what I mean, Like helping people does give you a sense of purpose. So I don't blame this person. And she's like, you know what, I did this for very long time, but did I really truly make a difference in this world?

And maybe that's what they're seeking, And that is I think what a lot of people, including your dad, seek when they want to find a life purpose. Yeah, you know, like for me, there's never been a question like my life's calling. I mean, I don't know. I I look at it two ways. I've I've always wanted to be a mother, so I always say, like, the biggest job or the greatest job that I've ever had is being

a mother to my two children. But like as a little girl, the only thing I ever dreamed of was being on the radio, and being on that's amazing is the only thing I ever wanted, you know. I remember I was nine years old, guys, okay, and I'm gonna walk you back to like it was summer. My parents never really did a whole lot with us over the summer, so we were kind of like left to our own devices. And my parents would always put out the newspaper in the morning, right, no, no, yeah, you know like that.

My mom was nutty about the air conditioner. Right. I remember being nine years old and I'm in my bedroom. You know what. I can even picture the wallpaper right now. It had beautiful little pink flowers, and I had curtains that were pink that were like, you know, framing my window. And I took up the War in Tribune upstairs, and I was like, you know, I'm just gonna read the newspaper. I'm nine years old, right, so I'm reading the newspaper and then in the back. Now, for those of you

who are listening, who don't remember newspapers. And I'm not saying that in a negative way or like in a condescending way. There are people who really don't know what newspapers look like. But back in the day, there was these things called the want ads. So people would put ads out for things that they needed, like, you know, whether you needed a lawnmowing service, you know, things of

that nature. But I remember reading in the back of the paper and there was a ad and it said, so you want to be a star, how to how to get a Hollywood agent? How to make it in the business? Do you think you should be on TV? And it gave an address and it was a pamphlet. It was a pamphlet. So I remember thinking to myself, what am I going to do? I want this, I need I need in I want the information. I was nine years old, and so I remember I sent cash, honey, Bible hand to God. I sent cash and I sent

my information. Did you steal it from your parents? No? No, because I used to earn money here and there, you know what I mean, like I was always like a worker bee. No, but I did memorize my dad's credit card later on. So but so anyway, I reached out to them, I send them cash. I get this booklet and it's all of this information on how to become how to get started in the world of television, you know. And it told you how you had to do theater, and you had to get a resume, you had to

do all of these things. And so from that moment, I remember saying, this is what I need to do in order to get ahead. So really, from the age of nine years old, that's when it started for me. So life's calling, Yes, this has always been what I wanted to do, never a question, and you know, I think my lucky stars that I've been able to do it. But then I also want to remind people that there have been a lot of bumps along the way. Yeah, you gotta share apparently you know it was a smooth sailing.

Yeah you had your life calling nice and early, but you went through some ship absolutely, and you know what. Like So, there are many different phases of my life where I feel like, you know, maybe I could have, you know, seeing what I want to do with my life. So for example, you know, when I was single and working at Z one hundred, and I had the opportunity

to go and help build an orphanage in Nicaragua. There is no feeling that can describe the way that it felt to look at that wall and to look at the different bricks and the things that we did to help lay the foundation to do all of those things. So that's where it's like, you know what, Yeah, is radio my life calling maybe, but you know, helping other people, going back to my parents country and giving back like

that is my life calling. Being an amazing mother to my two children and raising two beautiful little humans that can give back, And you know, I mean that could be my life's calling. So you know, there's just it's just I guess it's just a matter of perspective. It really is what is important. You know, for some people, having money is important, you know, having status in the community is important. But to me, helping people is most important.

And you know, sometimes I think, I'm like, yeah, I love my job, I love my career, but am I doing enough to help people? And that's the only thing that um that kind of like throws me off that I'm not doing enough to help people. You know, there was an intern that we had just a couple of years ago, and I always referenced her because I feel like she is just so strong, and you know, she was fearless when she decided to do this. So she

became a teacher. She went to school, went to grad school to become a teacher, and was teaching for two years, I believe, you know, I'm I'm trying to remember all of the details, and decided one day this is not for me, this was not her life's calling. So she decided to go back to school to get into radio at possibly the worst time ever, because she was an intern and I just graduated and it was doing and was graduating and everything was doing stuff during the pandemic.

And it's like I speak to her still and we communicate with each other, And I asked her, do you ever regret it? Like, do you ever regret not teaching and deciding to come into radio? And she says, without a doubt, no question, no, because I knew that I couldn't find the happiness that I wanted doing what I was doing. Like has it been hard? Has it been super challenging? Absolutely? But you know, the rewards I think are greater because you're doing what you have a passion for.

You know, you know, it's sometimes it's hard, to really determine, like is this my life calling? You know, is this what I'm passionate about? Like how do you know, Caroline, I like, Okay, a d percent, this is it. There's no you know, doubt in your mind, like maybe I could have been a better doctor like my dad, or maybe I could have been a teacher. I love being a mom. Maybe I could have worked with a hundred

kids versus two kids. Never a question, never a question, honestly, like no. And even when I was going to college, you know, and there was mass communication, was like the general, um, you know, direction that I could take at the one school that I was going to, I always said, broadcasting. I want to specialize in broadcasting. What can I do?

There was just such a laser focus to what I wanted to do that even when I went to Arizona State, which offered so many different majors and so many different minors, it never swayed me from my course. I never said, well, you know, accounting was always really interesting to me, like hell, no, I'm really bad at numbers. I'm awful with science, Like I know where my strengths are and I'm no, no, it's just there's too much personality to be crunching numbers

all day. You know, you know what's crazy. When I first started Long Island University, my major was communications. For some reason, I was like communications, and then after one semester, I was like, hell, no, I'm never gonna make it in media. I'm never gonna be on a radio. I'm not. And I kind of like off to myself out of

where I am now. I want to I say that just to share that if you have a life calling in your mind, you know you love something and you want to do it, don't psych yourself out of it. Don't And you know what, if you love it, the money will come. I was always like, oh, hey, if I do legal, there's a million law firms. I could be a lawyer. I'll just take the bar. It'll be fine. I'll make money. But then I was like, with radio, there's only a certain amount of radio jobs. Nah, don't

do this, girl. Don't waste your money. Ally, you is too much bread for you to be wasting it in communications. And then I graduated. I did four years criminal justice and then I got a job in media. Look at that, you know what I mean. It's like it was still in the background. Maybe it was in your subconscious you know what. Morely was not it? Shortly surely was because you know my website honey German dot com, the gossip website that I launched, you know, probably fifteen years ago.

I launched it, and I would do it during my break hour at the law firms wherever I worked. I always brought a laptop with me, and you're lunch, I wouldn't eat. I would go and conference room and I would bother my ass off. So it goes to show you like it never left me. I was just worried about monetary um security, especially you know, living in New York, there's no like you, and not coming from parents that had money and not marrying into money. I was always like,

do loo Like. I always felt like I had to fend for myself. So I had to make these decisions, like you know where you're gonna make money at law firms, the legal field. If you don't know what you love and it's always like itching, go with it, that's your life calling. Man. If you can't shake it off, that's your life calling. Because it's kind of hard for a lot of people to determine, you know, what their life

calling really really is. Yeah, it's so true too. And you know it's so funny when you bring up that you were blogging on your lunch hour. Do you follow an account on Instagram? It's called the Girl with No Job? She is okay, she just wrote a book. She's um. I listened to another podcast where she was discussing how she went on, like how she became what she is now, which is you know, like I mean, now she has her own podcast, she has her amazing account with millions

of followers. And she said basically, she was in an entry level job and Instagram was new at the time, and she was sharing memes and it just became a thing and it steamrolled into like what her career is today. So was that her intentional life calling? Probably not, you know what I mean, Like she was doing what you were doing exactly, you know, but she had an interest in this and she I guess she got in early, you know what I mean, she got it, definitely got it.

And let me ask you a question. Is Boy with No Job her boyfriend? I've always wondered. I don't think so. I don't know. I didn't they didn't go into that, but you know, I think that It's like when you start something good and people are ripping you off. I mean, they say imitation is the highest form of flattery. So I guess somebody saw that she was doing great and they figured, well, I'm a guy with no job, you know, so I'm gonna start doing this job and growing no job. Yeah,

you never know where you're gonna get your inspiration. Then again, there's also like, so let's say you do have your life calling. And for example, you know, I can always referenced back to when I was on Z one hundred and I decided to leave. There was one woman who is who was very influential, She has a very high position, and she looked at me and I kid you not, I was leaving the show and she said to me,

you silly little girl. And I said, excuse me, but you were leaving the show to start your morning show, right, No, I was leaving the show to start a morning show on television, which to me was a huge opportunity even though it was a local morning show. It wasn't a syndicated show. You know, I feel like you were going home to hang out. You had something big lined up,

well big for me, you know what I mean? Because it was like that was always the goal for me, was like, you know, working radio and television, and and you know, TV is even harder than radio to break into. And as a thirty something year old, I thought, oh my gosh, anchoring a morning show in New York City market one, like there's no question exactly. And so for for this person who I really revered and looked up to, for for her to look at me and to say that,

I felt so crushed. I was like, wow, you know what I mean, like, thanks for stepping on my dream a little bit before I even get to go and do it. Now. It didn't exactly pan out. You know, the show got canceled after two years. I didn't know that it was part of a plan to just get a license, and there's all this backstory and stuff like

that to it. But bottom line is I don't regret taking that leap and and trying something for myself because it wouldn't have put me on the course now where I am hosting a morning show and I am working with somebody who I used to work with, you know what I mean. So it's like, you know, fear. I think it holds a lot of people back and It's exactly what you were talking about, like your negative self speak. You were basically psyching yourself out of getting into media

before you could even start. If I would have let that woman psych me out, I could have been like, well fuck it, I'm gonna stay here. You're right. What am I thinking? No? I had a rich experience that I will always look back on. And I'm living my life. You know what I'm saying, Like, you're not you get one chance to do this. You're not here for anyone else, you know what I mean. But there are so many people who find their life's calling later on in life. Girl,

I've seen a bunch of memes. It's like such and such. Morgan Freeman started acting at like this age. Walt Disney got rejected fifty five times. Like I see those memes all the time. They're aspiring and they're not a lie. You're not gonna You're not necessarily gonna find your calling in your teens or your twenties. It happens different for every single one of us. You know, there's no like

you know, timeline to life. Everything happens different. You know, marriage, parenthood, career, everything at your own pace and when you feel as ready and and when God feels like you're ready to enter into that area in phase of your life. In the movie Black Panther, her name was Dorothy Steele, and I believe she was one of the elders in the film. She began acting at eighty eight years old. God bless her.

That to me is such an inspiration. Like if you think you can't do something like, looked at Dorothy Steele, you know, like I'm I'm sure there were a million people telling her nobody's gonna need you in Hollywood. And then she's in of all things, Black Panther. I saw that, I was like, wow, really she just started acting. That's amazing. And don't and don't ever think that it's like because it doesn't happen right away, or because it happens and maybe you gotta chill out for a little while, it's

not gonna happen again. Because I was watching the documentary A girl that just went for it, somebody told me I need to watch that. They said this is so inspirational. You will literally like they said to me, They're like, Carolina, I can't believe you haven't seen it. I need to watch this. It's amazing. You will love her even more and you will hate Marlon Brando forever. But anyway, her,

you know, it's like her career. At some point, like she was huge, she wanted to ask her and then one thing slowed down, you know, she went back, you know, she did some smaller things, and then now know, at like eighties something years old, she's starring in this show that is so wildly successful. It's like she could have been like, Okay, I died out. That's it, it's over in the yeah, the seventies and eighty. No, she never

gave up. She kept working and even when things slowed down for her for years, she still moved forward with you know, her life calling, which was to entertain, to sing, to dance, and to be in front of people. So it's like even if sometimes you gotta like slow down, take a little break, don't give up. But it reminds me like that is exactly my dad, you know what I mean. It's like, you know, he slowed down, he closed his practice, then he retired, but then he can't

he couldn't stay away from it. And that's where I feel like people like Rita Moreno, you know, you think about her, and it's like no, she couldn't stop because she was so beyond passionate about it, you know, and I'm sure there were people in her life saying, like, get real, it's over. You know, this is your time

to kind of like step back. You had your fifteen minutes and you got a quiet that noise you can't It's like she's she knew what she was born to do, you know, in a Wessa story like that was what like seventies or something sixties, you know how long she's been around and she's still like present in our life now, Like that's insane legend. And she's written books. I mean, she's started movies, she's done TV, she's done theater, you know.

And I really do think that like that's the thing that maybe can motivate people today because I think that

we're focusing on the entertainment industry. But like I said, I go to my dad in the medical field, or people who have done different you know, policemen, fireman, Like life's calling you want to talk about helping people, you know what I mean, Like I know somebody who I mean, there was a story in the Post who there was a woman who had her career and she said you know what the police need me, you know what I mean.

So going back and entering into the police academy, I'm sure as an older person can be super intimidating because you're with young recruits. You're with people who might be more fit, who might be younger than you. But you know, when you have that thing inside you that says, don't stop. I mean, listen, you gotta go for it. You for

sure have to go for it. Like I remember, like two weeks ago, right, and I saw that f D and Y. Like in the history of like the f D and Y, there's never been like a Latina lieutenant. And um, this girl, Joanne Diaz out in the Bronx made history first Latina ever, you know, to be a lieutenant for the f D and Y. And I'm pretty sure when she started her career eighteen years prior to this promotion, she was a girl. You know f DN Y. It's like there's always an issue. They don't hire minorities,

they don't hire blacks, don't hire Latinos. There's always like that type of sentiment and conversation for her to enter you know, this fire engine eighteen years ago as a young Latina and to you know, not let you know, the climate or the chatter, you know, just push her away from pursuing her career. You know, it makes me proud for her, Like I posted her because I was just like, bro, like I can't believe you did this, like you you tugged it out like no matter what.

And I'm pretty sure you know, working with old men must have been tough for her. But you know what, here she is making history and making strides for us Latina's you know out here, even if even if it's just you know in the f D and Y and she still make a big difference and you know, making her mark and paving the way absolutely, And and that's the thing that I always keep going back to, is like there are so many people and so many things in your life that can tell you don't do it.

You've got to, like you know, superseded, You've got to you've gotta get above it, rise above it, because there's always gonna be someone telling, you know, or forces telling you know. You know, you've got to find that inside and be like no, this is really what's for me. And it's gonna take work. And that's the thing though, you know, I mean I I talked to a lot of kids like now, and I say kids because you know, maybe they're in their twenties or people who ask me

for advice. You know, how do I get into radio? This is what I want to do, and I and I keep just going back to it, and I say, it's not fun. It's not gonna be fun at first. You know, you've got to work, you've got to put in the hours, you've got to do the things like you've got to do this ship that other people don't want to do, and show people how committed you are. You know now for sure, when you first get started, you know it's not gonna make money, it's not gonna

make sense. You're gonna get tons of ship from the higher ups. Nobody's ever gonna be happy with your work. But guess what, fast forward a couple of years, stick it out, and you're gonna start getting promoted. You're gonna start getting recognized, and you're gonna be walking in your purpose and you're gonna be happy with the career that

you chose. Yeah, what about the people right now who are juggling like two jobs and going to school because they're pursuing their lives calling you know what I mean. I always reference those people because you guys are the warriors. You know, you have one job, you have kids, you're going to school at night, you're freaking burning the candle

at both ends. You know. For me, there's nothing, there is nothing that is more you know, uh positive, than than really giving yourself that chance, you know what I mean. And there are so many people who are facing this today. So you know, my hope is just that by us touching on it, you know, life's calling? What is it? What is it? Really? You know, I mean, is it? There are some people who say, you know, they never got to live out their dream, and that to me

is one of the biggest regrets, you know what I mean. Like, you know, whether it's traveling or if it's you know, relationships. You know, you can apply this to anything in life. You know, you gotta go for it. You gotta go for it. Just figure out, like what do you love?

What would you do for free? Like if you didn't get paid, what would you wake up every morning and be happy to do, whether it be cut hair, do makeup, you know, make cookies, wash dogs, or whatever it is that you would do, you know, gladly that's probably your life calling. Well, but you never know when it's gonna hit you either, because, um, I remember reading about a woman who was, um, you know, working on her sobriety, and while she was working on her sobriety, she started baking.

And from that she started baking. Her cookies got in the right hands of the right people, and like Andy Cohen from Bravo had her on, she sold out all of her You couldn't even get her cookies for the holiday season because it was like ridiculous the demands. You know. It's like she found her life calling through what through her sobriety, you know what I mean. So it's like you just never know when it's gonna hit you. So just be ready to receive that message whatever it may be.

You really really never know, because you know what's crazy, Karly, not like recovering from my stroke. You know, my husband learned a lot about exercises and you know, recovery, and he would learn from the physical therapist and then you would recreate them at home, and I'm like, wow, this man would probably make a great physical therapist. So it's like, you never and he loves it. He still likes to do it. He still trains me, we still go to

the gym. And he absorbed it, learned it, and I feel like he can actually even like help other families on recovery on physical therapy related to brain injury. And I'm like wow. And he decided he wanted to go back to school and be a physical therapist because he could. But guess what, he loved it. He enjoyed it, you know, he absorbed it. So it's it's crazy you can find things accidentally and later on in life, well you know

what it is. It's almost like you know, and and I say, it's a blessing because you know, thank goodness that you're okay now, and you know, but it's like the exposure he wouldn't have been exposed to that if what happened to you didn't happen, you know what I mean. So it's like there's so many different chain reactions that I think that we don't pay attention to. And that's why I said, it's like, just be open and you know,

be ready to receive the message. And if you're listening right now and you're struggling and you're thinking to yourself, like I don't love my job, I work with a bunch of like, you know, losers, and I don't get along with people, you know. I mean, it's a lot of people, I'll tell you that much. It is. It is, But there's a lot of people, including people I know that staying jobs that don't like and that our dead

end just because they're afraid of the uncertain. Yeah. You know, I know people that have been in the same position fifteen plus years and they won't try anything different, and they say, I'm just so used to it here, I'm just so comfortable. I just know the routine. And it's like, yo, that you're doing that the service to yourself. I understand, you know, liking things that are predictable and things that are comfortable and going to a job and just doing

things on autopilot. But you're doing yourself a disservice. Please, if you love something, explore it. You never know what your second career will be. You never know. I love that definitely like to take the time to really kind of like listen to those feelings and see what you can do with it, even if it's in your spare time. You never ever know. So you know, hopefully we've provided you with like a little nugget of inspiration because that's

what we're here to do today. We are just here to spread the sunshine, girl, and we did a good job at least I feel like it myself in the bathrooms off on the back totally. Now, social media, Carolina, let's tell these people that they can find us because we're both very active. I'm proud of how active you

are lately. Well, thank you so much. No, but you know what, before we go into the social media part, let's talk about wyn with Paltrow because this story it's circulated a while ago and it just made me so uncomfortable. But who are we to step away from anything uncomfortable here? So Gwyneth Paltrow, you guys may be aware of her.

She has this site called Goop. She sells like a lot of wacky stuff, like she has her own line, and then she also like talks about different designers and things that most of it, I'll be honest with you, is so overprized. I couldn't afford any of it, but like that's for another day. But anyway, there was this article about her talking about her son. She has a fifteen year old son and now on this site, you guys know, she was selling like the vagina egg, where

you put this egg up your ja. Girlf're supposed to give you like some exercises. I'm not saying nothing my vagina that doesn't have something neither neither am I. So that was like the first thing I think. And then she had a candle that allegedly smelled like her you know, I saw that. I that I was like, why would I want my house to smell like Gwyneth Poutrow vagina? But that I'll just air out my vagina. It's not

like mine. There you go, well, listen, whatever goes on at Honey's house, I'm gonna let it fly because you're over there. I mean, I got my old I'm still burning pumpkin spice from October. Okay, Like that's how late I am. So there you go. That's a candle that

I'm doing. So no, but this whole story just made me feel so uncomfortable because she was like talking about all the different things that they sell on her website and that her son, She said her son was proud of her for selling vibrators, And I said, hold on, what, first of all, your fifteen year old son, Like, is this a discussion, like we've talked about this before. I

never had a birds in the bees talk. My parents never sat me down and told me how it works or what happens or how you do a b and they just said, don't do it, you know. So the fact that she's talking about vibrators with her fifteen year old son, to me, it's kind of like, no, no, I feel. I feel. First of all, white people are different Carolina. You know, Latinos are not going to talk

about the birds and the bees. Nonetheless, No, I don't even know if that's how you say it in Spanish, but you know, the cultural differences I guess would allow for this type of conversation to go down. And the Winneth Paltrow household, Yeah, Like I don't want to mom shoom her, and I don't want to make it seem like it's a bad thing to talk about this with

your kids. And by the way, if you guys do it, please holler at me because I'm gonna need some um, you know, advice on how to talk about this with my boys, because we're not there yet. The boys aren't just they're they're really not there yet. We talk about other things, like you know, respecting your body and stuff like that. Like we're easing into it, right, But like how does that conversation go? Like little Billy comes in and said, or I don't know what her son's name is.

It's probably something ridiculous, um, but yeah, her daughter Apple, And then I forget what her son's name is. But like does he come in and say, you know, mom, I'm just super proud of you for you know, sending those vibrators on the site. You know, there's something to be said about sexual freedom. I don't know if I want to talk about it with my kids. I don't know. I feel like these celebrities, Oh, he's just doing the most and cloud chasing for stories like that probably never

even happened. She's probably let me just throw this out there, see if TMD picks it up, you know, because she you know, you don't hear a lot about Wyneth Paltrow. She's probably like, Yo, this website, the sails are down. Let me sing my son out of me for selling these dildos, and then everybody, including Honey German, who never heard of my website, will now go to Hoop. I

heard a push. That's the one with Courtney so it's goop and push, goop and push, and there's a I don't know what they're drinking over in l A, but seriously goop and where did they come up with this stuff? Like I'm just saying, my kids are grossed out when they see my husband and I kiss, you know what I mean. So it's like, how do you even get to that level of like vibrator discussion with your kids? It just made me feel icky. It's unnecessary, like once

your kids are adults, if they find sex toys. While because tex sex toys, I feel like, come in after like you've already done said now you want to spice things up, there's here to the sex toice situation unless you're just single and a virgin for a long time. Then it comes in. I guess, yeah, no pen intent, but but yeah, I know, I just think that this this kind of thing. It makes me think like, as my kids are getting older, you know, I do want to have like this open dialogue with them, but I'm

not sure that I want to like discussing. Let me ask you a question. You have two boys, do you feel like it's one pairent? Let's say, do you feel like it's the dad's place to talk to the boys, and if you had a daughter, it would be your place to talk to the girl or not plan on

having like a joint conversation. Yeah, I mean, I definitely want to oversee what Mark tells the boys, not that he would tell them anything wrong, you know, I really want to explain to them the importance of sensitivity and romance and respect and how this is a beautiful thing and you know, when they find love, how it's special. I really you want them to retain that, I do, you know, And I think that like sometimes you know, man to man, good God, I think, you know, I

think that Book is actually like a great guy. I don't think that he would really, you know, do anything that would be damaging to them. But I also want them to know that if they have questions, they can

come to me. You know what. I'm sure that Mark will have his own separate conversations and stuff with them, but I think like initially, as we get into it, I want to have that kind of like imprint on their mind where they remember, like you know, my mom told me, you know, holding hands a special to a girl, or you know, calling after somebody goes home is really special, you know. I don't know. I just both as savages away in college, not remembering nothing you said, and it's

probably gonna happen. It probably will happen, you know what I mean, because there are guys and and but I definitely but I just thought about these kids gonna be across the country running in college. Rip my heart out right now, Why don't you. I don't even want to think about it. I don't want to think about my baby's not leaving. I seriously do. I like, I hugged

them so hard, I wropped my legs around them. Sometimes I'm like, I love you so much, you know, but I want them to feel that, so, you know, and my mom shaming not necessarily. I think it just made me feel super awkward. So like, how did it make her kid feel to be discussing by and like, you know, he did not come up to her and be like, Mom, you're the woman because you're selling these vibrators on the site and stuff. I just think it's just that whole thing.

Maybe I'm old fashioned. And by the way, you guys can call me out if you feel like it, I would welcome it, teach me something new. I'm at the Real Carolina, So you can throw me that feedback. But I just thought this story was so wacky. Like back when I saw it, it's just different. I don't I feel like people be lying just to be in the blogs. The vagina candle was enough. The vagina egg I was just like, man, I remember doing my kegels, you know,

back in the day. I still got to do them, you know, after you have kids, you gotta just kind of like, you know, actually, as we speak, I'm doing one right now. One look at that and yeah, look at her whole body move. Do you know you can't be letting people know that you're doing the key goals. Girl, I'm remembering them. It's so crazy. So yeah, like the birds and the bees stuff. I don't know, I just

feel like it's so awkward. Like even now, I I just think like it might be something for Mark and I to do in a bit, But man, I am not ready for that day. For sure. Give it a little more time. Absolutely, absolutely, well, guys, you know what, it was so funny hanging out with you today. Definitely make sure that you hit us up on social media. I'm at the Real Carolina follow ellis English. Oh yes,

hit me on. I am honey German on the ground. Definitely, guys, and check in with us and send us your questions too, because we love helping you guys out. We haven't been to the salon in a while, so make sure that you guys send us some you know of your issues or questions so that we can work them out for you. Yeah, send them any which way you want, you know. D M Carolina you love letter and I'll make sure she reads it off her phone. I will do it too,

you know it. I'm always in the d ms, but everybody's always asking me questions about like where'd you get them shoes? Girl. Nobody ever slides into my DMS for anything fun anymore, but I guess that's okay. Bye, guys. Life in Spanglish is a production of Life and Spanglish Productions in partnership with I Hearts Michael Podcast Network.