Married and Quarantined + Supporting Loved Ones

the pandemic is happening? But then I'm like, let me just be nice. Okay, soon, We're gonna get here soon, you know. So I'm happy we're here and that we're back. Well, I do. I do think that, you know, just a lot of people are misunderstanding just because you're working from home doesn't mean that you have a lot of free

time on your hands. You know. So when I explained my schedule to people, they sit back and and here's the other thing too, you know, Um, when I explained my schedule, I always say, this is just me, this is not you know, everybody else has their own individual thing that they are going through. But like legitimately, I am more tired looking from home and doing everything that I'm doing. Then when I actually physically had to go into the city and come back home, I said, have

some time to decompress. I don't have time to decompress. I go to the bathroom and I try to like find some time for myself. These children, they find me everywhere. They're like little snoop dogs. You know that no one has now dubbed himself snoop DOGG because he was just like he is all up in my business, Like he'll be laying with me. He's a career. You texting and I'll say, nobody snoop dog, don't worry about it. Well,

I mean my snoop dog. If I asked you too many questions, I said yes, because you're being a detective. You know, so welcome to life in sp English. You know, we have been just trucking along. I've been talking to Honey. We've been talking about like the different dynamics now that we are at home, and you were telling me something and I howled when you said it. You were talking about Noonie taking a nap. Oh my god, god, when I let him take the six hour nap, so that

he would be disappeared from my life. Listen, you know what's happening. It's like he works, but by the time he gets off of work, I'm getting up. So it's like he's back at home at eight am, and that's when I wake up. So it's like, yeah, he gets to like go to work, he gets to like take a shower, drive around, come back, do his thing. I wake up and he's here, so there is absolutely zero alone time for me period. So it's like when he does take a nap, I'm like, oh, oh, let's him

take his nap. Yesterday he took the other day he took a six hour nap and I was just so quiet and I was just like, Okay, I can do whatever I want and he's not gonna ask any questions, and it was absolutely amazing. Well, no, this is some myself, because I want you just help people, the real deal, and she said, she goes, girl, I've been tiptoing for six hours around this place because I do not want this man to wake up and start. He's so mad when he woke up, was like, why did you let

me sleep all day? I'm like, yeah, you look so peaceful. Why would I wake you. But girl, I whatever I wanted, I wanted. We're finding your piecetogram. I wi just stole my thing. Nobody was asking me no questions. It was it was amazing. And you know, navigating being quarantined with your significant other, um, it's different, it is, you know.

So there have been many studies that have happened that talk about like whether or not your relationship has been strengthened by the quarantine or if it has been damaged. And so there are a lot of couples who are going through the rediscovery of each other. And I think that that's kind of what has happened with Mark and I. I used to always say to you, Mark and I are like two ships passing in the night, because much like your relationship. I get up in the middle of

the night and I would go into the city. I wouldn't see Mark until seven o'clock at night. I maybe get one phone call. This is prior to COVID nineteen. I would maybe get one phone call. These for he would go to lunch because he would check in just say like, hey, how are you. But that was like yeah, that was like before I would go into yoga. So it would be like a quick phone call. So literally, I would not see my husband until seven o'clock at night.

Now I'm with this mofo twenty four different. And you know what it is. I said to him, I go, I forgot how much I like you like. I forgot how much I like my husband like I lost a little bit of that for a while. That's so cool. It's like you're dating again. But it is in the house dating again, I know. But he gets to hit

it whenever he wants. I have no excuses. Now you don't at exactly, but no, for me, we were having some issues prior to um, you know this whole, this whole situation with communication and the workload, because I have always been the person to take care of the family and the home and you know, so much so that he would ask me, where is the pasta in this place? I'm Linda, you don't even know where the pasta is? Like,

go to the second drawer, it's right there. So I think that it has brought an awareness to him of everything that goes in to keep the household running and and that, you know what, I think that's amazing because it's like out of sight, out of mind. But it's like now he sees like you're working all day from the morning till the nighttime, and now it's just like

it gives you an added value, you know. It's like you know when when your parents are watching you and they're watching you work hard, and you're like, they're going to be proud of me. Kind of like the same situation with like marriage. Now it's like when he sees me cleaning and cooking and working, like now, before he used to be like, oh, your job is fun, you don't do anything. Now he's like, you work too much. Get up computer. So now it's like, oh my god.

Now he finally sees the amount of work that I put in and he doesn't just think I'm hanging out at a radio station having fun. Well, I think the awareness was there before, but now the awareness is heightened and he's more um sympathetic to everything that I'm juggling.

It's a very sincere thing. But if you think that I haven't looked at him sideways because he's breathing too hard, or if he's opening up the chips and he's too fucking loud because I'm watching TV and I have to rewind Housewives three times because he was so loud when he eats chips. It is not all roses over here, trust me, it is not. There have been times where I banished him and I'm like, no, no, no no, no no,

you stay in the living room. I'm going to the bedroom and I want my time, you know, because you do need a little bit of that separation. You do, you definitely do. It's like it took away kind of like my freedom. You know, I was I was very independent. It's like I was married, but then everything I just I did it by myself. From the moment I woke up, he was gone, and then I wouldn't again to like seven o'clock at night. But now it's just I do want to watch TV together that do you want to

sit together? Do you want to eat together? It's like before I had my breakfast by myself and I what I wanted and I as long as I wanted it. Now it's just like what are we eating? I'm like, we since when the breakfast become a wee thing? I eat what I want, You eat whatever you want. So now it's like more compromising. What time are we gonna have lunch? I'm like, I can't take away from this computer like I. I just just it's nothing. You make lunch,

he's try, Well, we've we've split it. So it's like he does like the breakfast every single day when he gets home from work and then lunch and dinner. I kind of like do it myself, but no, because then later on he's gonna be expecting that lunch already breakfast. I told them today, I said, I said, listen, I'm not cooking again. After outside is open. This kitchen ain't never seen me like these pots. I'm wasting the pots. Carolina.

I'm like, oh, look at the pots. They look they're used now, but you look for a new Do you know that? I noticed that when you first started showing like your cooking skills, I said, did she get a brand new setup? Positive? Because I just never used them. They got like the flame thing. I was, No, It's just I wasn't cooking like that because maybe I would cook once a week, we would eat breakfast and lunch

out six days a week. To be to be fair to you, though, you were actually doing a lot of things for work at night, so it wasn't like you weren't just not cooking because you didn't want to. Like you were doing a lot of like your music programming things that I didn't like. So we were out together. Yeah, no, we were. We were out together a lot. So he would come with me to industry events and it's like, oh, you know, label dinner and this dinner and that dinner.

So we were just always eating out. It's not like, oh we were just home starving. But um, I told him, I'm like, after this, I'm not doing this anymore. And no, don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed cooking, and I love to see the joy in people's faces when they're like, yes, delicious, Yes, but it's a lot, and then you gotta clean the kitchen after that. My back hurts, girl, I need a bachotomy. My back hurt. I can't stand right now. It's final. I'm exhaustive, that's the thing. So I'm gonna put you

on something. Okay, And I think that I've talked about this before, but you need to if you're so like over cooking. I cannot believe I'm bringing myself to say this because I feel like I'm becoming one of those people. Please tell me you need the instant pot, girl, You need this instant pot I made that is that the situation where you just throw stuff in it. Girl, you, I swear to you. I just put a bunch of

meat in there. I put a can of crushed tomatoes, I put the I did um all of the different seasonings, and you put it on and an hour later that ship is popping so hard. Everything cooks in one pot. Everything cooks in one pot, and it's like one hour and it's like as if it was cooking all day long. Now. The only thing that I will say, it's like you become it's almost like becoming part of a cult because then you start looking at recipes. Now I don't want

to use my pots and pants anymore. Now I'm like, well, what what can I make that I can throw on the instant pot. You'll be looking for the different type of stuff. Oh yeah, these hot dogs and these potatoes they can go together. I means and cabbage. The other day, cabbage, cabbage with a beef boo you on cube and boom. That was like lunch. It was so amazing. Can you put together these recipes by yourself? No, but that's what I'm saying. You go online and you start looking and reading,

it becomes this cult. Like you start following these different bloggers that all they do is instant pot and you're like, oh, I know this blogger is good because I mean one of her recipes before, so I'm gonna do this one. But like, is there any dish that you have like perfected that you think is like the best now because

you've done it. I'll tell you one thing. There's one dish or one particular thing that I'm never eating again after this because and that's imp on Outa's okay this and this man makes me in banada's everything in banaada case soada. I thought you were the one making it for him. No, he's making him for me. I'm never having in bananas after this. Child. He swears, he's like the banana came anything he could find and he could put it instead of an infananda, he's making it. I'll

be like, bro, I've listened. I'm never eating in panadas after this. But you know what I made rasta pasta for the first time the other day, the one that you showed me on your Instagram, Yes that you got the recipe from the Okay, tell me about this? Is this like jerk chicken spices. So it's like jerk Caribbean jerk spices, so it's like a Jamaica dish and it's like pasta with chicken and shrimp and then you use

Jamaican spices. And honestly, it was so good that I'm like, oh, this about to be my signature dish when I go to parties. If anybody says I I got to bring a dish, I'm bringing rasta pasta. It was so was it so good? It really was so good. And I didn't go overboard with the jerk because no, he doesn't really like spices, and he was and he was like, I'm not eating that. I don't eat mastapasta girl. The day after he was, yeah, that was some good, listen.

He was ready for the Jamaican food. The day after. I wasn't cooking again, but yeah, but I feel like that's that. And I made it with my sister. I think that's really what made me feel more like like, oh, I love this. I'm always going to make this because it's like she was the sus chef, so she told me what to do and I would do it, so it like bonded us. You know. Cooking for Latinos has always been like a bonding experience. You know, the center really er of the home for us, at least I

know for you Tobe. You know, it's like that's where we all gravitate when we're together. Everybody goes and we have beautiful living rooms la you know the one, Yeah, exactly, and it has the final over that we still have all of that, but like everybody congregates in the kitchen, that is where the heart is and Latino's love to watch other people eat call yes you know that way. It's it's just a thing. But what about you? What's your favorite dish that you that you've made during this quarantine.

I okay, so this is hilarious because I have been known to make this one dish. It's called lemon chicken, right, but this lemon chicken is so bomb. It's so easy, and it's almost like a disservice for me not to share it. Like I'm not a selfish person. I used to tell my friends all the time, You've got to make this chicken. I'm telling you. So when I first started dating Mark, I went over to his place in Long Island, and I wanted to make this lemon chicken so bad because it was this guy I want to

show this guy girl, this chicken was so raw. This this boy almost got food book. I didn't. It wasn't different of it, and I didn't do it well. So now I've perfected it. I have perfected this, and know what I mean, I'm really super proud of something. And you know, I've never wanted to blow myself up, but like I recorded myself, I got this equipment, I did the recipe and this is what's cooking. Carolina is like that. So I was like, this is so adorable. I loved it.

You know what it was. I just said, there were all of these people who were doing all these amazing things that they've had time to do in quarantine. And I said, you know, if I get out of this quarantine and I didn't learn one thing that I'm gonna be super disappointed at myself. And so I reached out to someone and they said, why don't you just do it on I movie. I took a good two hours to just play around with I movie. And so finally my lemon chicken recipe is up for the world to see.

Good make it, and you do. You have to because it is so easy and once you're perfect it, it will be your go to when people come over and say, oh, make my lemon chicken, you know, and then you say lemon chicken, and I'm thinking of like the chicken that was always that sabarrows with the pieces of lemon on top of it. No, child, it's like that's chicken front chaise or some ship. Okay, my fault. Listen, I don't know. I don't know what lemon chicken is about. I gotta

make this is good. You said some borrows. No, yeah, I remember they always in the window. It always had like a chicken and then it would have like lemons on top of it. So I figured I was lemon chicken. Maybe this is so much better. But you know what, honey, like this is the hard part. I have to think of breakfast, lunch, dinner. And now what I've been doing is I've been trying to like, you know, meat prices are going to go up. Have you heard about this

whole thing and you know and all of this stuff. Yeah, you know this has been going on for weeks. Caroline. I can actually question, do you have a freezer in your house? Full of stuffing? My freezer? I was like, I need a freezer. But then they were like a thousand dollars. I was like, we don't need a freezer. No, you don't need no, you know what it is. Um, we have a small and expert drawer, so we have

our real freezer. And then we have one of those like little little refrigerators that go out like it's not a full size or anything. So it's almost like it's like a college refrigerator. It's bigger than what somebody would have in a dorm. It's almost like a mid size. It doesn't really hold a lot, but it's like first apartment type a refrigerator. I got exactly bare refrigerator, that

type of refrigerator that my my twenties six year old refrigerator. Okay, so that's what we have as an extra, so it doesn't really hold that much extra. But but yeah, like what I've been trying to do is if one night we have chicken, the next time we have beef. If the next set we have beef, then the next night we have like poor you know, just the variety of it all. There's just so much thought that has to

go in it. So whenever my husband eats and I'm sitting there looking, you're right, let you know, say, look at you. They want to see they want to see the approval. Like, I just worked for three hours in this kitchen, and if you don't give me a damn, that's good. I'm just questioning you. This is delicious. I need that at least three times while you're and you know what, give me a rule of the eyes. Give me oh, this is so that means that you're truly

enjoying it. Listen, once my husband knocks out after dinner, I'm like, he really enjoyed this. He went right to bed, Yes to sleep. Yes, he said all the time. There's gotta be some type of sedative in some of his food that you've been making, because I can't believe on that show. Thank god, he goes right to sleep after I could, because if not, I probably would be slipping some of that in there. But what are you? What are you indulging in? What are you just like? Okay,

this is my comfort food. This is what I go to when I need like to just feel like, you know what, today was kind of yucky. I just need to feel better about it. You know what, I've been making cookies from scratch. Remember when I put the flower in my story and you're like, girl, that's like you can't find that anywhere. That's a hot commodity. You got flower, so you know what for whatever? I found this Martha Stewart like chocolate chip, like chewy cookie. My brother in law,

he um, he likes the bake. He likes to cook. He's a boy. His name is John Tucker, and he's amazing. Every time. Every time I go to my sister's house, they have like these great cookies that he makes. So I'm like, oh, this is your other sister, this is your Yeah. So I'm like, I'm like, Tucker, I need your recipe for those cookies. And he's like, oh, that's

Martha Stewart's recipe. So I've been doing those cookies and then I make like three dozen and every time I feel like, oh my god, I hate Why do you have to make three dozen? I don't know the recipe. I don't know how to divide the recipe, you know what it's says. So it's like then it's like a million cookies and I'm like, Okay, I guess so I don't want to throw it out. And you do three dozen cookies because you don't know how to half the recipe. No,

I don't want you. Why are you my sister I called. I called Mark the other day because I was doing recipe. I go, what's the half of the half? And he goes seriously and I go, yeah, what's the half of that? And he goes, are you being for real right now? And I go yeah, and he was it though it's a quarter, and it's like, oh my god, how do I not know that it's a quarter? I was like, Oh, it's an I'm not doing all that division. I'm not doing Google and Google. What is um? What is ounces?

To leaders? Like if I get like a different type of recipe, that is the worst. I'm like sitting there trying to translate it. We're not doing that, that's me. It's like if it says one tablespoon and bacon soda, I am not doing half. I'm doing the whole thing. But cookies, I think those cookies and I feel good that I made them. I'm like, oh, I made these rooms scratch, Like I feel really accomplished when it comes

to like a lot of different things, you know. And I think cooking has given me, uh a sense of like, Okay, I have a purpose, you know, Like I feed the family. It's an outlet. It's important. Yeah, yeah, yeah, most definitely. And I get to post stuff on Instagram because I'm not posting myself. I look crazy every single day. So I'm like, at least I can post my food, I can post my dog, I could post. Let you do that. I will, let you do that. You look absolutely beautiful,

That's the thing. And again I'm giving advice and I don't take it myself because yes terday somebody gave me a compliment. I was like, oh my gosh, thank you. I look like a monster. I was like, oh my gotox all were off. And then I'm like thinking to myself, like, you know what, so fine, but you know what those are smiles. Those are smiles. You know, like even though I know I'm not like, you know, my tip top or whatever it is that I used to do to take care of myself, I'm healthy, my eyes can see,

I can breathe, you know what I'm saying. So you know what I say, let's let's be grateful for what we do have. I know, but you know it's like with this, I kind of like came to the realization that I was just like very dependent on everything carely and that from my hair extensions, manicures, pedicures, massages, eyebrows, and then it's like now you're stripped of all of it, and it's it's that confidence of like owning it. It

doesn't happen in like thirty days of being quarantined. So it's taking me a little bit of time to really feel comfortable and like catch up. We're like, Okay, I don't have long hair anymo more. Oh I don't have long I don't have long fingernails anymore. Oh I lost the arch to my eyebrow because I had become very like a perfectionist when it came to my look, when it came to my pictures, and you know, it's like

makeup and yes, you've got a slay. So now it's just like, oh shit, I'll have none of that anymore. So it's taken me a little bit of time. You know. Don't you think that we're going to come back? I think I think women are going to come back. And this is my hope. My hope is that you can have a little bit of a furrier eyebrow and woman

won't be as judgmental. You know. I think that we got into this cycle of just seeing Instagram influencers, models, you know, celebrities, and you know, even even I will say this, like, you know, there are women who have shamed other women for not being on their level, like for the women who don't have it all together. And I think that that's okay, Like it's okay to be forgiving and it's okay to understand it. Like you know what, mabe, this person chooses not to have their nails done every week.

You know, No, I have to present some people. Oh look who they're Yes, Noah, again, this is my child in directing me. Well I'm doing work right now. But yes, my love glasses. Can you play your DS when you're outside? No, devices are not. You go outside and enjoy the fresh air. Go run around. No you haven't. You've been outside for exactly twenty minutes. Okay, so go outside and play. When it's five o'clock you can come inside. Okay, thank you,

close the door. I love you, goodbye. And that work from home is exactly And I literally had I talked with them and I said, I'm gonna put on a show for you to go outside. I have the video here, I can look at them. I see them on the ring and I said, you can go and play outside, get some fresh air, because it's a beautiful day and

I want you to enjoy the sunshine. But these fools keep coming in here and asking me for things, and I'm just like, they don't came in four times in one hour one like, seriously, oh my gosh, it's never ending. The requests from these children are never ending. I can't do enough for them. I can't, you know. And that's the other thing too, that I feel like it's going to be very challenging for me. I'm with them seven

you guys. So I'm more concerned about them going back to school and not having me around because I think a lot of parents are going to face this when their kids go back because because like the possibility of contracting corona and you're not being able to supervise them. No, I'm more worried about them like wanting to be around me all the time, like separation, anxiety once outside is open. That could be a thing too. I go, you are

going to have to go back to school. You will have to go on a bus, I said, Lena's I don't think for one second, no, But there are some parents that are like, you know, this is really amazing, and I'm not faulting them at all. If you have the capacity and the ability to do it, God bless you. I do not. I have a full time job with full time responsibilities and I cannot home school that I'm not capable of it. And that's the reason why teachers are.

You know, I think the most underrated, underappreciated people that that work right now, and I think a lot of people are realizing it, so you know what's crazy. Teachers were the first ones that were like, we're not going to work close to schools, closing schools, close to schools. They were not playing. I feel like the first week teachers were like tapped out were close to schools. So props to them many they saw what we couldn't see. I guess that's why they're educators and we're not. Well.

It has definitely I've always appreciated my kids teachers because I've said, like they are unsung heroes. The fact that they deal with these children every single day. Think about twenty six personalities, let's give or take. Let's say that twenty six kids in their classroom, twenty six little personalities do only with them on a day to day basis having to teach them. Oh also you got to try to kind of make it fun so that everybody has fun.

There's a lot on their fleet. But now the teachers are at home and they're not only teaching our kids on zoom, but they're teaching their own kids. After that. Now they're taking care of their household. So, you know, big shoutouts to the teachers, man and the administrators, because you guys are doing the damn thing, and people who don't appreciate you, I hope their eyes have been opened, you know now that everybody's with at home, you know, with their kids, and they realize what it takes to

actually like homeschool. Let's say two kids versus twenty kids. Like the appreciation for the teachers has been found all over again. How do you sent me a mean that as a first day of school and it's a mom that rolls up and she starts throwing her kids up. I said, straight up. That is when it comes September and they are allowed to go back. I will slow the car down, but you're getting out. I'm not stopping.

I won't make a fool stop because then you'll try to say um, and then somebody else sent me a mean and said, you lied. My child is not a joy of having class at all, at all. I saw the other one that you put, if you have two motherfucking apples, I'm like, Carolyn, Honey, you know what it is. I just don't have the patients. And it's hard because you know you also like, I don't want to damage my children. I want them to remember this experience as like a positive one, like I wanted to remember that,

you know, mommy did this. And only until they're much much older will they understand the gravity of the situation, you know, having been a working mom and still you know, doing everything with them. And I think that a lot of parents who are listening right now will understand that too. It won't be until they're in their thirties that they'll look back and be like, well, damn, how did you do that? You know? But if I have to explain

a word problem again, there are seven fucking apples. If I take two motherfucking apples away, how many do I have left? Cow that dude, I want to this is over here, ready to piste at pants, so go? My mom is evil, lose my mind? I mean that's my inner dialogue. But I'm like, no, sweetheart, try it again. Okay, I don't think we're looking inner dialogue. Okay, I take that back, Take that back. I cannot. I cannot because you know what, my little one now as a parrot,

he says everything that I say. So, no, that's no one. No is snoop dogg. He's snooping all up in my business. He wants to know what apps I'm playing with? Mommy, who are you talking to on Instagram? How do you know this person about your fending? Yeah? Yeah, he has all open my ship. And then the other one, the little one, just repeats everything I say, so I have

to be super careful. And the other day he looks at me and he goes, fucking fucking and I go and he goes, I'm just treat to remember the word that you said, mommy, because I know it's not a nice word. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I didn't so much trouble with this kid. So they are definitely keeping me busy. But you know what I was gonna tell you is that, like my comfort thing that I've been reaching for is what girl, I got a delivery? Actually, I'm gonna have to get you a delivery. I almost

don't want to tell you what it is. What does it tell me? This ice cream that's dangerous. This place is called Sip and Swirrel. It's in New Jersey, but they have a long Island delivery, and I sniffed that out and I found out that they could deliver to me. I'm in Jersey, so you gotta put me on because I am right here. I got you. I didn't even send you a delivery. And they have the most it's

the creamiest, most delicious ice cream. So I said, Mark, I go, if I'm gonna get a delivery, I'm gonna get like a bunch of it so that we don't have to keep on going back and forth. You know, of course, twelve points later, Well, but you know what it is. If you're from Jersey, girl, I'm not gonna be trying to Yeah, no, of course, but twelve pints. You know, like he liked it, and we got different varieties. We got cookie Monster, I got your butter Pecan, I

got your peanut butter Squirrel, I got your chocolate. We go like, oh, you've got different flavors. Oh hell yeah. So whenever having a bad night. I just mat sure that I go over freeze the freezer and I get myself a little cup. And that's where the three pounds came from. By the way, Okay, that's not bad. And you know what three pounds is not bad. I feel like we could lose three pounds in a week if

we really set our minds to it. I'm thinking abouting a peloton, though I'm not gonna hold you, are you like? But it's like three thousand dollars right, it's you know, I heard they make great clothing hangers, because that's what's gonna happen. So are you just gonna put your clothes on it? After all? Oh? Good god? No, Well, my

gym is closed. You know, the first six weeks of the quarantine, my gym was open in my building, so I was a yeah, So I worked out, and I got into this habit of working out every single day for an hour. And then one day they were like, you know, somebody caught the police and we have to close the gym. I'm like, for real, what hater? I know it wasn't anybody who used the gym, so it must have been somebody who was walking by the gym. And hating that we were still trying to maintain our

weight down. And then after that, I literally cried the day they closed the gym. I felt like that was like my last little thing and it was taken from me, and I just that day, I felt like the world was unfair, life was unfair. I didn't want to continue. I was like, really really fucked up. I just felt like that was my one last little bit escaped. That's the only one place where I would go to I'll be back. I'm going to the gym, and I had

my little routine. I would put on my right clothes, I would take another gym bag, I would watch an episode of Ozark, you know, while I was working out very lightly. But it was something you know what I'm saying, and it's just like it was taken from me, and that day. I cried. That day. I was just so frustrated. I'm like, what else is going to happen? Yeah, now I'm like, maybe I should get a peloton, But now you're telling me, I'm just I'm trying to be funny. No,

not at all. You know what, I encourage you, but I only encourage you to get one if you're going to use it because you don't want to become that thing that just collects us um. You know. Personally, I will tell you I'm a workout fanatic that home workouts. I hate it. I hate But what if this is like a new life, You're gonna have to get with it. Then Mark's gonna have to make us a gym in the basement. Okay, you're gonna have to go down there. You're gonna have to figure out that musty old basement

that we got down there. Get me like, you know, rip, rip up the carpeting. Actually, yeah, you know. I we have discussed that because I am a yogi. I love bulates. I need it for my back, and I don't get the same release. I don't get the same endorphins that I do normally from what I'm like working out at a gym or at a studio, working out at home. I need a mirror to check my form. I mean, and I'm not being I'm not being narcissistic. It's more I do I need it your technolork because exactly, and

that's what I'm used to. I'm accustomed to it. So for me, this has been the hardest part. You know, I will tell you the one time that I cried for something so insignificant, but it was so funny. There's a whole new system that I had to get to know with my son's schooling. It's called canvas, and so the teachers post all of the assignments on canvas. Right, So my child has gym, and the gym teacher posted a bunch of the different assignments, so I didn't see them.

And I have been doing I do have to say this. I'm not trying to prop myself up, but I have been doing every single assignment. These boys have gone to every single class. I've been consistent. They have not missed a thing. When the gym teacher marked my assignment late, I started crying. I lost it. I was so pissed. I was like what. I was like, Oh, no, he didn't. I pulled out my phone. I was like, um, I said,

and what is his name? I was like trying to find his name and I was like, excuse me, sir, but I ain't just getting to know who canvas app and I am sorry, but we were not late with that. I tried to upload a good designment. I went on a whole ramp. You were on your whole Can I speak to the manager type of vibe? I was Karen, I had my freaking Kate Gosslin haircut, I had the robe on everything I was And the future writes back and says, Oh, it's not a problem, that's just a

default setting. And I'm like, you need to tell me that. I got in this emotional space and a meltdown for nothing. And I went into my closet and I was bawling my eyes out, like how am I gonna do this? Like, oh, this is so hard. Yeah, it's weird because it's like that one moment, unlicious everything that you've been feeling. Because maybe it wasn't it serious that they closed the gym, but I just that was like my worst day. During the lockdown, I was like, Okay, that's it. I have nothing.

I will go nowhere. I will just sit at my my workspace a day until you know, the Blasio and Cuomo decide I can come back outside. Okay. So here's my question for you. Are you one of the people who has watched every single Cuomo press conference or are you not? Because you know there is like a whole movement around Governor Cuomo and these crazy any heat women, the older ladies trying to marry Cuomo. I'm like, come on, mom, relax, Like it's not that deep. What did they call him?

The love girl? Saw that. I saw a T shirt. It's that Cuomo sexual. I'm like, yeah, really take a Yeah. I'm like, y'all taking it to another level. Somebody I work with she's like, my mom is obsessed with Cuomo. Well, I'm not, Carolina. The first few weeks I watched, but then it's like he keeps saying the same thing over and over and over and over. Every day. They just say the same thing. At this point, I'm like, okay,

just somebody tell me when we're going outside. Other than that, I just wait for like our I heart updates that come every single hour, and I we had a great now. They have been amazing. I just read that. I'm like, I'm not watching the Blasio, Cuomo and Murphy ol day long. I'm not doing it. So I'll tell you. I cried when I had a late jim assignment. So that was one time, and then the other time when I full blown No, I mean I've cried a couple of times.

I've cried, like a couple of times just from feeling overwhelmed and you know, but like, um, I'm talking full blown ugly cry, you can't catch your breath, that type of cry. What the hell happened to make you feel this way? When Cuomo announced that school was over, I was like, I had hope for June, us for coming out. He said, I had hope of June. I had hope. I said maybe June. Come on, baby, come on, let's get them back in June. Only because I didn't want

this to be the end before September for good. So when he said, as of this date, we are going to announce the schools will be closed, and I said no, I had no bella crying. It was just for the kids looking at you. No, Thankfully. I was in my room by thank god, because I was like, Mommy, wish wrong. No, No, you're gonna be with me thill September. That's what's wrong. I wouldn't have the heart to tell them no, you know what it is like I said, it's been a joy.

It's been a joy, but it's also been really really hard. So when he said that, that's when I let least I did. I was like, I don't know how I'm gonna do this, like how am I gonna work? How am I going to be able to do all of these things? Because I was really more concerned with us opening back up. But you know what, I just it's one day at a time, it really is. At this point, it's just like I just want to stay Corona free and employed. Those are the only two things I care

about right now. If that ain't the truth, you know what, there are so many people who are like seriously in they're in trouble, you know, and it's your neighbors, it's your and that's why I say, please, please have a sympathetic art right now being or actually you know, be empathetic. You know, understand that people are really really going through

some hard time. So you know, um, I said the other day, I think it was a couple of weeks ago that I did this thing for Rio's and Jersey Cares, and um, you know, I said, people want to contribute, and I know that they can't monetarily, but there are ways that you can do things like on social media, like for me, if you made that dinner and use the hashtag, they would give a dinner to a family.

And need you know, there are a number of ways that you can help out your brothers and sisters, because I mean, this is this is the real deal, man. Even if it's just being being there for people. You know, people want to talk right now. People want to you know, let it all out. You know, if somebody fired, they might want to talk about that every single day, you know, because it's a huge thing for them. So just listening and you know, being empathetic and you know, allowing them

to vent. I feel like even even then in itself, is a way to help those people around you. Like a new and he's very close friend, he contracted COVID and he was in the hospital and you know, at one point we were like we he might die and and you know, it was all about talking to him, face timing him, checking up on him, sending him messages. It was just being there for him. And he tells us now, he's like, if it wasn't for you, guys, I wouldn't have made it. Wow. Wow. So so you

being there for someone goes such a long way. You know, it's not just about money. It's more about like moral support, you know, and cheering people on, especially when when people are really in the dumps, like battling corona. You have to like you see fear in people's eyes, you know, and you have to tell them like you got this, are you crazy? You know, You're gonna be better, You're gonna go home. So just being there, you know, for

people right now, I think it's it's crucial. Well, I just said, you know, my um, I think I've mentioned it before. My brother is a doctor. Both of my brothers are doctor. Two of my brothers rather our doctors. My dad is a doctor. And UM, I was talking to my one brother about it. He's a pulminologist and he it practices in Ohio and UM, we were just discussing. We were saying, you know, there is going to be a huge need for mental health awareness for the medical

the medical society. I think a lot of people are you know, a lot of the nurses and the doctors, they're running on adrenaline, they are running on their survival skills. They are going to their some of them are in shock from what they've seen. They're just numb and they're just going through the motions. And you know, just so I think if you have a friend or if you have a family member who was a health care provider, who was a nurse, who is a you know whatever,

anybody who was in that environment. Just definitely keep an eye on them, check in and make sure that you are really on point for them, because they're gonna need you and it might not even be now, you know. I mean we saw the effects of NONE eleven even years later on families, you know. And I'm not that I'm comparing this to NONE eleven, but um, traumatic experiences basically traumatic exactly. Yeah, So they're saying that, um, once we get through this, you know, what are gonna be

It's almost like an aftershock of an earthquake. And I think that is going to be a major one is just mental health awareness and making sure that people feel like they can talk and they can get through that and work through those issues and stuff. So you know, um yeah, that's that's gonna be huge for for everybody. And I think in this country we've seen it and they're talking about it in Italy who went through a really,

really tough time. So you know, just be aware and if you have neighbors or if we have people who you know that have been furloughed or people who you know that have been laid off, asked them, asked them, say, you know, if you can afford it, we're ordering takeout tomorrow night. You know, can we get you guys anything? I mean, just the gesture just you know, it definitely goes a long way. Yeah, definitely provide that support. But don't ask Honey to cook anything for you because she

ain't cooking. Nah, I said, I said, I was done, and then yesterday again, so I'm just talking ship. Well, you know what, sent us your recipes. I'm at the Real care Abina on all social media and tell us what you're cooking too. Where are you hunting? I am on Instagram and it's I am Honey Jereman. Hit me up. I'll hit you guys back. Send me your food, some of your recipes. I love when people hit me with with the whole like and he is my food. I'm yeah, okay,

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