Introducing Jennifer Lopez... Affleck?

We both have the fuzzies right here on the sides of right here, right oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, right here this Monday morning. In our defense, yes well it is a Monday, you know, but we are recording this on a Monday because the news just broke. Now, you guys are going to hear this on Friday, obviously, because we dropped new episodes on Friday, but we could not hold back with the news that broke over the weekend.

By the time you guys hear this, we may have more details, but we're gonna spill all the tea on the wedding. The stopped the World benefit is official. I don't know how you felt about it, Honey, but I want to hear what your reaction was when you found out that they got married in Vegas. I was like, Las Vegas, I'm like why. I was kind of disappointed. I don't know why. I was expecting some very tale situation from these two after they linked up a second time. Okay, Honey,

I promise you. I swear to you. You know there are some shows that do this where it's like, oh, I'm going to take this position and you take the other position, and we'll we'll be opposing even though we both think the same way. I swear to you, honey, and I could not be further apart on this subject right now, because the minute I saw Vegas, I thought, yes, it's the only thing she hasn't done. It was too

dusty for her. Man, she's like a queen. But she looked like she was ready to make her first holy communion. I mean she looked like she was, like, seriously eight years old. Look at how virginal and like beautiful and pure she looks. I'm telling not that, no, and I'm not dragging her. I'm actually giving that virginal. No. I'm sorry, it's just virginal and Jennifer Lopus together kind of made me chuckle. I love her and I adore her, but you know it's crazy. My husband was like, she made

waiting where white. I'm like, unless you get married when your fourteen, I don't think nobody should be wearing white. But whatever, Oh my gosh, I went there. No, but for real. That's why I said, it's like, this is in no way, shape or form. And I promise you, because you know how I feel about j Lo I

would never drag my girl. But I thought, absolutely, yes, this is this is the move because she's done the big wedding, right, like we know that she's done the big wedding that was orchestrated, that had like six wedding planners and like you know, everything under the sun with Mark Anthony. And then she had like, oh no, it was Mark Anthony, the backyard wedding. I think Chris Judd was the big wedding. Right here we go. Chris Judd,

I think was the big wedding. And then yes, and then I think Mark Anthony was like the backyard wedding where we got the helicopter photos of them. Remember that, I like that dress, that was my favorite dress, beautiful, gorgeous dress. But now I feel like this was a move that only j Lo could do. I love how Ben was like about about it, like he didn't even care. He was just like, yeah, I'll bring out a white tuxedo jacket because I have a couple of those in

my closet. You know. I just think all of it was just so amazing. And the fact that she announced it on her site. I thought that she like really owns this one. I don't know, what do you think, honey, You know, I guess the no frills wedding is cute when you're young, you know, like Britney Spears teenager type of thing. I guess, But I don't know. I just expected so much more from them, Like it's like, finally they got back together. They're gonna do it. This is

gonna be some fairy tale wedding. I don't know. I expected different. When I saw that picture of him in the bathroom, I was like, I don't like this at all. Yeah, that's right. I hope you used purell after because you know, those bathrooms are very trafficked, especially in Vegas. They got lots of people coming in and out those doors. They waited twenty years, Carolina for this a long time. Yeah, and it's almost like maybe that was part of it.

Maybe the build up was so strong that they were like, you know what, there's nothing that can top this love. There's nothing that can top our love for each other. Like they both have all the money in the world, they both have everything at their disposal, Like if they wanted any flower, if they wanted any type of wedding plan or any type of dress, like, they could have it. So maybe this was their way of saying, like, it truly is about the love. Now, I will say this,

I do not believe that this was spontaneous. What are your thoughts on that. I don't know. It's just like, I don't know why. I feel like they just grabbed the family was like, let's go to Vegas and of course hair and makeup people, come on, let's go, let's go to Vegas and let's get married. Yeah, don't think that j Loo moves that way. I think that everything in her life is orchestrated. I think everything in her

life is planned to the second. So for me, I don't believe it was as spontaneous as they like for us to believe. I think that maybe they had it in their head Okay, this is gonna be the weekend and we're not going to tell anybody that kind of thing. But I absolutely do not believe that they did not tip anybody off prior to it. What makes it good about this is the fact that they were able to

control the narrative. Nothing got leaked. She shared her pictures on her own newsletter, like they controlled how this got out, and they control how it looked. So I guess that part. Kudos to them that part. But then also, um, I think we're glossing over the big headline, and the big headline is that she signed it Mrs Jennifer Lynn Affleck. She is no longer j Lo Honey, she's bugging her soul. She didn't even hypheny. I peeped that there was a

name change, but I assumed there was Lopez Affleck. No. Well, I mean, I don't know, did you see something. I saw that she wrote Jennifer Lynn Affleck, And in my mind, I'm thinking, did she go for it? Is she really going to do the thing like that I did? Because if she is going to do it, she's in for a headache. So let's discuss. Let's talk about it. Carolina from Experience did you change your last name to Nooni's

last name. You know what. The only place where I hyphenated, which is German Martinez, was on my way to my wedding license. I don't know if that means I changed my name legally. What do you What do you say, Carolina? I did not You did not know, because do you see these khanas that I have, these grays that I have in my hair. This is all from changing my name eleven years ago. This ship doesn't stop when you

change your name officially. You have to get a new Social Security card, you gotta change your license, you gotta get your name changed on your health cards. You've got to get your name changed on every single credit card, your miles. I lost so many Delta sky miles because I went from Bermudez to grow the miles. Girl, you will never get them back, and I was so pissed. Carolina. Let me ask you a question. Rewind a little bit. Okay, when did you come to the decision of I'm going

to change my name? Like how did did did Mark pressure you to do that? Or did your family say you gotta change your name because they're Latinos and you know Latinos love doing that. Yeah, you know what. I don't think there was really any pressure from anyone. I think it was all self inflicted. I think that I am a product of some really old school Latino parents.

That that is the assumption that when you get married, you change your name, you take on your husband's name, and so from the very beginning, I went through the process and the paperwork. But it's never ending. When I tell you, it is a chore. There are websites, there are businesses that have been created. Carolina. At least you got an alias. Now you know you want to do a scam as name? Oh yeah, you know what. Actually that is true. I should use that more to my advantage.

I don't do it enough. Honey. Actually, thank you for bringing that to my attention. I'm choking. Don't take no no criminal advice from me. But you was open off your man and you was like, I'm changing my name. You really loved him and you was really excited to do this. I know I felt. I felt so hard for it. Hu I'm telling you, he he really rocked my world. So here's here's what happened. I said, I built my name professionally as Carolina Bermudez and that was

never going to change. So everything else though, as far as like and we didn't have kids obviously when we got married, so I said, I would like for us to be a family unit. When I go and pick up my kids, I want them to see that, you know, I am their mother. And by the way, if you have not changed your name, I'm actually giving you credit because I think I'm the biggest dummy on the planet for doing this. It has made my life a living hell.

I'm not even kidding you. So I think that because I adopted the idea that I was going to take on my husband's last name, it made it, I guess, easier for me because then I said, Okay, I still get to keep my identity. I still get to keep Carolina Bermuda's professionally public but privately, I am, you know, taking my husband's last name. So you basically didn't No, I didn't you know where I did do it on What's app For some reason, I hyphenated it. Girl. You know,

my mom came to me. Why, she said, how dare you put a man's last name? Why wouldn't you put your mother's last name? You know, like my mom's last You know how Hispanic families used dad's name and then mom's last name. My mom, My mom was offended when I hyphenated with my husband's last name on WhatsApp. I think it's still there just to bother her, because I'm like, how dare you tell me what to do with my husband?

It's not a life in Spanglish episode. If we don't get under honey's mother's skin, that's that's that's a fact. Thanks for That's the only place where I publicly kind of like and I got some ship behind it. So never again, never again. Well, it'll be interesting to see if she really does adopt the aff like last name, because I think that there's a lot that goes to that.

But I also, because you know, I'm a thinker, I was thinking to myself, as far as Hollywood goes, this is a power move right here because Ben Affleck, if you think about it, in his past, you know Oscar, winner, Golden Globe, you know, winner nominee, all these other accolades and things. He is also a very prolific screenwriter and he's got all these projects. Maybe maybe as if, as if she doesn't need the power move, but this could be the little that she needs to get her to

that spot in Hollywood. How much bigger does this woman want to be? This woman was waiting for Elon Musk up in the moon when you went up there at this world already she really is. But that's why I

was thinking about it. I'm like, why, Jennifer Lopez, of all people, do you think she would take on his last name, especially for somebody has established as she is, especially as for somebody who's such an icon in our community, you know, for her to do that, I feel like that is really her gesture to him that she's all his, because she never took on Mark Anthony's last name. I don't even know that man's last name. I think it's like I think, no, I think that's his middle names.

That's what it is, Moonie, that's what it is. The little girl is called Emmy Moonis, and the boys moonist being So. Yeah, she definitely did not take those last last night, Ohani Noamoco, Chris Judd much Oh my gosh. Yeah, So it will be that. I mean he is still living off of that. But yes, maybe Carolina, maybe maybe this is to prove to us, to the world and to Ben that this is it, this is her final stop when it comes to marriages, like I'm going to change my name. So yeah, see how serious I am?

And you don't keep dragging me talking about the modern day Elizabeth Tailor. I feel like that was it. I think that's the clincher, that she's trying to send the message to everybody that this is forever for j Lo. This is gonna be it. Now. Here's the thing. I want to bring this up because you know, I had to dive deep into this, which I haven't slept since I got the news. Gotta be honest with you, I'm super excited for her. One red flag that came to

my attention. Why was her family the only ones in attendance? From what we know today, we know that her daughter and her son were the ones that we're taking pictures of them, and they were the witnesses. Was what a lupe? There was Mama there because you know Mama loves her some ben Affleck. She's the one that kept on telling her he was the one that got away. Where was Linda Lopez? Where was Linda? But Linda? I feel like in my sister where it has been actles children with

them too what you want. Jennifer Garner there too. No, Jennifer Garner wants none of that. She wants none of this smoke. Um. Where's Matt Damon? Where's her bestie? Oh? Yeah, those two are like twins right right. So from every account that I read, it was that only Jennifer's team and children were in attendance. I believe some people said that her mother was there. So then why was his family not included? Was it because they wanted to keep it under wraps. The more people that knew, the more

that might get out. I don't know, So I'm just curious about that. Do you think that's a red flag that only his her family was invited? I don't think so. I think maybe he just decided, like which is good. I feel like it was a really spontaneous, last minute thing. Maybe his family wasn't available. Maybe they were all in Jennifer's house and where it wasn't Jennifer Jennifer's house hopped in the private jet because they were like last night, we we jumped on a plane and went to Vegas

to get married. We stood online with some people and we just did it. Maybe it was super spontaneous and not orchestrated just to look like a simple way. Yeah, I think there might be something to that because especially, yeah, we will get to it. Oh, no, we are going to get to the diets because I want them all. I want to know it all. And then also reportedly she used one of her dresses from a movie that she was in and then she had a zuhem raw

original or something like that. And I only say it like that because I'm not, you know, in the fashion world, but I would guess that people in fashion would say it that way. I don't know. I feel like they're just trying to downplay it because he's forty nine, she's fifty two, and they're like, let's just chill out. Let's not make this big drama. Let's just get married and move on. Oh he got a jacket from his closet. I got an old dress. I don't know. I just

don't feel like this is j Lo. Yeah, but you know what, it's not like when you're in your fifties, you're gonna have a bunch of Madrina's. You're gonna have a bunch of old Madrina's walking down the aisle that that I would hope not. How old are your brides and he's gonna be in their forties and their fifties. Hell no, that would just be you and Ben. Nobody else. Well, I don't care what anybody says. J Lo is about to be fifty three, I think, and you can verify

this for me if I'm wrong. Is she's about to be fifty three. She's this woman looks twelve. The hairstyle, the makeup, everything was perfection. In my opinion. I thought she just looked so beautiful and and like I said, so pure and virginal and just like, oh my gosh, Like I want this to go great for her. I'm really really rooting for them me too. I want this to be here happily ever after. She definitely deserves it. She keeps trying, so you gotta give it to the woman.

She's hopeless, romantic, she wants to be a wife, and I really hope that this is the one for her. I still don't know about the name change situation though, Caroline. I'm still stuck at that. I am too. I think that is baffling. Maybe she's gonna pull a move like and we'll call it the Carolina. Maybe she's still professionally going to be Jennifer Lopez, but be hind the scenes,

she's gonna be Mrs Affleck. And then there was a whole other discussion about did she change her name to Affleck because they might try to have a baby together or something like that. You know, I mean, could you imagine, because then she would have a baby Affleck. Then it would make sense when she goes to her parents teaching night, right, she want to make sure they know she's the mother. I'll just right exactly because when she walks in, they're

gonna be like, I'm sorry, excuse me, who's mommy? Or who's your son or who's your daughter? Yeah? Yeah, because when Jayla walks in, they're gonna be asking her questions like that, be questioning the difference between the last names. Right, why are you Lopez? And why is your child Affleck? We need this clarified. But you know what, Carolina, there are alternatives, you know, to changing your name, like if you get married, Right, there's obviously the first one, which

is keep your last name, right, Okay. You can also hypen it hypen it your name. Some people make their maiden name their middle name, so that you would still be that would be your new middle name. I don't know how that would work out. And of course there's you know, just change your name to your husband's last name. But there's also this is fairly new, you can create a new last name. There's like new more I guess progressive people that are just creating a whole new last name.

Sometimes they mash up both their last names and find a new name that both of them can have that has no ties to either one of their families. That would devastate me. It's kind of man, we are so opposite, honey, Oh my god, that's fun though. That would be so fun though, to come up with a whole But then what happens that we both have to change our names legally, new passport, new social security course, And maybe it wouldn't

be that fun. It just sounds fun. So, for example, if we were going to do a mashup of my last name and my husband's last name, Bermuda's Grossman, we could do Berman. Berman would be like a neutral I guess. Like, but see, my last name makes me so proud, and I feel like that's something that we you know, we've discussed on this podcast before, Like I am genuinely proud

of my last name. I'm proud of what it's dance, for the hard work that my mom and dad put into creating our family, and and there's just something that was I did go through a morning period when I gave up my last name. It really was tough. And my husband even said to me because on my American Express it was still my maiden name. He was like, you're holding onto it, huh, And I said, yeah, I

have a holding on to it. It's hard to give up all of your It's really kind of giving up your identity and everything that you knew and everything that you've been taught and you worked for. It's something that is so hard to explain, but once you give that up. I did go through a period where I was like really sad, where I had to like cut up my old cards and you know, I had to go through the whole process. But I mean now I think that I'm very proud of my husband's last name. And I

remind my kids all the time. Because kids are pretty terrible, they like to make fun of them because they're all grossman, you know, but I always tell them, I'm like, you'd be proud of your last name, Like that's our family, so I don't know how if I could ever give mine up entirely and his up. You know, I think that there's just so much more that goes into it. Now, let me ask, how do you feel about you know, let's say places where they don't know you before when

you would get there, you make a reservation Carlina. As soon as you would get there, it was it was implied, associated and quite visible that you were Latina. Now that you have a last name like Grossman, do you feel any different? Like when you go place like do these people think I'm a white woman? Like? Doesn't make you

feel any which way? Um? You know? Funny enough, I would say that that situation, I've encountered it where people are confused and there's generally there's genuine confusion on their face and they're like they look at me and they look at the name and they look at me and they say, Carolina, I'm sorry, what is it Grossman? And I say, yes, two ends at the end, by the way, please. Um. Yeah, it's something that I guess there is that biased or that confusion there. But listen, there are plenty of um

ha man a Jewish people. There's plenty of plenty of Latinos who are Jewish, and I have a bunch of friends who are Cuban. They like to call themselves Jubians. But I think that's cute. You've never heard Jubian. Yeah. Down in Miami, there's um one of my dear friends when I was working at Why One in Miami. She's Jewish and her family is Cuban, and there's a big, big community of um Jewish Cubans down there, and also of other you know, I have Mexican friends who are

are Jewish and other countries. But um, yeah, I think that there's an assumption made when you see Carolina Grossman because they don't go with Carolina Carolina Carolina, and then I show up and they're like doing a double take. But um No, there's nothing that would ever make me go back and change it back to what my maiden name was, just because of you know, the family unit and what I wanted to create there. But Honey, I wanted to ask you is there. This brings up the

whole subject of twenty years. They waited to be together right twenty years and it was a long time and they both had relationships, they had failed relationships, they had great long term relationships in between. But was there ever a person in your life that you think got away from you. I'm from me, but I know I got away from a lot of motherfuckers. Oh my gosh, why did you see my line? Yes, I don't look to that.

I sometimes I still see exes and stuff and I see, don't judge me, But I'm like, God, I look better than that motherfucker's wife. You know what I'm saying, like, oh Jesus Christ. And I know it's like I know they must either hear of me, of seeing me and be like, oh damn, that could have been my wife. I know that in their mind, because you know what, Carolina, every serious relationship I had, it was either let's get married, let's move in. It was always like they wanted to

get serious, but I was never really ready. I remember my my first serious relationship, when I was like sixteen. He went away to the Navy. He was like, I want to get back. We're gonna get married. I was gone right after that. Yeah, I dated a drug dealer, let's get married. A couple of months later he was in jail. So and then I can keep on forever. But every single relationship I had, you got locked up, won't let me out. They gave him a battle life, they gave her life. God bless his soul. He is

still around. But I know that when they see me today, present day, they're like, damn, I should have locked that bitch down. M I think we are in the same boat because for me, there I have zero regrets about any of my old relationships. And also I have no ill will. I'm happy for you that you're living with your dusty old wife over in wherever no man's land. I wish you nothing but the best. I actually do

not look up x's. UM. I will encounter x's whenever they reach out to me on social media, and then I do the thing where um, I'll click on the profile and then I'll be like, okay, scroll for a little bit. But I really do not actively seek out exs. I've had a couple of exes that have encountered my social media and they've complimented like, oh, your kids are so beautiful. I always knew you were gonna be a

great mother, like look at your life. UM, things like that where it's like, okay, well thank you, But then I did it, Like there's no conversation there, so for me, there was never really anyone that got away. You don't want to get caught up like talking reminiscent, trying to relive nothing like we're out here, we're married, good homes, you know, family career. You don't want to get champed up with an X that's obviously an ex for a reason, because I don't want to relive none of that either.

I don't actively look up excess, but if they if I come across them, or if I see them, I'm like, oh God, he looks terrible. Oh Jesus Christ, I dodged that bullet. You know what's crazy, Carrely, when I had when I had my stroke, right, um, I didn't inventory of other potential husbands I could have had and how they would have reacted or how they would have treated me.

I told my husband, I said, I went back and I thought about everyone I dated, and what if I would have married this guy he would have been a dick. What if I would have married this guy, he would have been in the streets. What if I would have married this guy, he would not have been able to help me with physical therapy. So I did a rundown, and in the end, I was like I chose the perfect man, not because I'm married to him, but that's the only time that I've actually given so much thought

into all my exes. Well, you know, I am um the president of the Nooni fan club, and I really appreciate everything that he did to get you through that time because people don't may not know. And if you're just finding us, by the way, thank you, Um, but you may not know that. You know, Honey did suffer from a stroke in she has come back better than ever.

And I do think that a lot of the credit, you know, is not only mentally that you did it mentally and physically you did the work, but that you had the support system of Noonie and your sister to guide you through all of those off times. And there are many people who are like tapping out. Nope, not for me, They don't want to deal. I know someone Carolina that's going through that right now. He suffered a

stroke and his wife left him. She said, I'm not built for this, like I don't know what to do, like I don't know how to and he is devastated right now. Somebody I knew, and you know, it happened to him before it happened to me. And he's like, I'm going through it. I'm so messed up. My wife broke up with me. You know, marriage is something that um,

not everybody takes seriously. But yo, when you marry somebody, you better be ready to you know, dug it out with them because ship is going to happen, and make sure you pick the right spouse. And we know when I tell people, like when I talk to my girlfriends that are still not married, I'm like, you better pick the right partner because life is gonna come at you hard. Shi. It is gonna happen, and if you don't pick the right partner, you're gonna be up ships creak with no paddle.

That's the same. That's exactly the same. And I couldn't agree with you more on this point because that's a vowel right for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. And a lot of people like to write their own vows, and um, I truly believe I could have never you didn't write your own vows. No, girl, I've just repeated whatever the man said. Oh, I mean we did that too, But then I was like like crying through my vows, doing the ugly cry. Did I cry, yes,

because I was just so emotional. I didn't I couldn't believe that it was happening. Um. I definitely think that that is something that people need to give a lot of thought because you could be riding high one day and the next day you are on the bottom, you know. And my my Abulita used to say, el mundo, el mundo seeing it you know, Um, I think that's how how you would say it. She's like, she would say. Dominicans use that too, they say, and yes, yes, and

that's what she's used that saying too. And it's truly you never know where you're gonna have. You really don't. And now, honey, you know, I know you went through a stroke. But the only thing I can compare you know my situation too is you know, when I got my boobs done, Mark Grossman was there for me. He was there to support me. He was your can't he was there to support me, like the best sports bra

out there on the market now. He was great. And even when I had my back surgery though for real, I know I'm being facetious about the boob job, but no, um, yeah, but he was he was there for you, right, It's just like you need somebody that's gonna be yo. Like, there's some people Carolina, I don't need to get to graphic that need somebody to wipe their asks, like their spouse. Like you're so sick. Let's say you have Let's very simple. You have a c section right after you get burned.

Your spouse had. Your spouse has to be there. You're gonna need a lot of caring and support. And if you don't have the right spouse, imagine somebody talking about I'll be back, call your mom, call your sister, Like how devastating would that be? No, Mark mackam your lack cortext.

He did me the favor because they had they give you these granny panties that are just like not the cutest and you're bleeding obviously because you just had a major surgery, and you can't bend over and get them from the shelf, or you can't exactly walk around the house immediately, you're in pain. You have a brand new baby. So I had to c sections, and I got to be honest, he was really incredible with the way that he supported me and that he was there for me.

So you know, hopefully that that is so important it is like mandatory that you marry somebody you know, empathetic, loving, caring and who understands, you know, being there for you. Because I have a friend Carolina, she went through COVID and her significant other was just they put her in a room and they were like, well, we'll leave you

food outside. You know, I'll be back. Like she just felt so devastated going through that, and he was just not supportive at all, Like he he kept living his life and she was just locked up in a room with COVID. So make sure you pick the right one. Yeah, I definitely think that it's a real testament to who you've married when you go through those times when you need that support. Are you looking to outside sources or other people for support or did you truly pick the

right partner? And we are fortunate to say that we definitely did. I know I can say that wholeheartedly. But like you know, my only hope for j Lo is that Ben Affleck, if she needs to change her cotext, do her favorite change that for her. Ben. I'm sure she has people, but she wants you to do it. I think this is the one care leader. I really feel like she finally found her person again twenty years later. I hope so, I hope so too. I sure hope

so so. Yeah, listen, we will stay on this. We will make sure that we give you guys all the late breaking news. But we had to stop down and give you guys a special Life in Spanglish wedding edition for the fourth time for j Lo. I know, I know there have been others, but this one is the one. We can feel it. We got a good feeling about it, and we're sending her nothing but good positive vibes and hopefully, you know, I don't know. They didn't have to do

the money dance at their wedding. I didn't do the money dance either, because I felt like I was about to do it. But you know, we would throw down a couple of bills for you guys if you were doing the money dance j Lo and Ben. All I gotta say is yeah, totally exactly. You know what this should be it because you are not going to be out in these streets j Lo at six five trying to look for no man. Okay, don't be out there

like Madonna. Don't get me started on Madonna's Instagram. Please stop Carolina let's nut touch the Madonna's topic, because this episode is rapping and we could go down a rabbit hole with that. We could, and Madonna's fans are wild. We do not even want to touch that. So listen. Send us your feedback. Make sure you follow us out of l I spanglish on Instagram and I'm at the

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