Are You Even A Good Friend?

can't some people do podcast just audio. I need to see what I need to see what you're looking like doing just audio? To me, it sounds so challenging. I'm like, why would you even set yourself up like that? I will. I want to see, honey. I want to make sure that, like you know, we're I'm pausing when I need to. I want to make sure that I see what she's drinking on. What are you sipping on today? What is that just like the bottom of the bottle. I'm of my coffee. Oh you need to refill, honey. I feel

bad throwing out coffee. You know the type that once the coffee gets cold, I put it in the first decade. Why just make yourself a new cup. Listen, I'm a Latina girl. We're not throwing none out. I know what, I know. You got that Cafe Bustillo popping in your apartment. I'm like, come on. I began to Bustello, Regular, Brustello, Colombian, all different ones, the little pods. I just told you. I said, I need you to upgrade me to an espresso because I have like a cheaplest curate. He said,

I'll buy it this week. I'm like, I love his style. You know, I'm the biggest new Nie fan. I think this guy is just so amazing. Seriously, I better because he is here, but only because he's mature. The world was not better when he was here in his twenties. If I knew him twenty years ago, we would have had issues. But now I love him for who he

is and that is a beautiful thing. Now, how do I wanted to talk to you today and I wanted you to bring it up because we were discussing something the other day that you said was really kind of weighing on you. And it's about friendships and relationships, and you know, I've had some similar encounters in the past couple of months, like with my friends and just kind of like seeing where where you stand with certain people. You know, so what what what's been going on with

your friends and and how you've been feeling about your relationships. Well, I've actually stepped it up right. You know a lot of my friends are married, they have kids, they have careers, so it's hard to like, you know, engage them daily like we didn't. We're in our twenties. You know, girl called me, girl called me, I'm gonna see you. Let's girls night. So now it's different. So what I'm what I'm doing is I am purposely reaching out to them. I just want to let you know I love you.

I just want to I just want you to have an amazing week. I just wanna I miss you face FaceTime. So I am the aggressor and I am the pursuer. Have friendships at are twenty years old. You know what I'm saying, Like from when I was a young girl, I don't want to lose them. I value them them Right now, I am in that in that mode. I want you to know you're amazing. I miss you, I'm thinking about you. I love you. I'm going to Florida

this week. I want to make sure I see you if they're Florida, or I'll be in New Jersey this day. I want to see you. So I am the aggressor right now. But doesn't that get exhausting, Like don't you feel like it's a one sided relationship at times, because like you're really the person who is reaching out constantly, texting, constantly, like making the plans. But then they appreciate it. Then they come back You're like, wow, you're so busy, you do so much and you still have time to think

of me. So I think it's rewarding. You know. It's like, wow, I was having such a hard day and then I saw your message, So it's like, yeah, it's exhausting. Sometimes it can be a little one side, especially like one of my friends, she has a one year old. I'll text her Monday, it'll be Wednesday, still no reply. I guess, well, Carolina, I don't even feel no way because I'm like, wow, she's working, she's trying to hold down the crib, she's

got a one year old. I'm not gonna give up on her just because she takes three days to answer my text. Messages or sometimes she doesn't answer at all. I love her too much to even hold that against her. She's lucky to have a friend like you, because there are some people who get really twisted if you don't answer them back immediately, you know. And that's something like I will see a text that my single friends will send me and I'll be like, oh, you know'll like

warm my heart. But then I'll move on and then I'm like doing a million different other things, and before you know what, it is Wednesday, and I forgot to text them back and they got to me on Monday, and I'm like, dang it. And it's like I beat myself up because I'm not there enough for my friends. You know. I had a really amazing conversation with my best friend from college. She lives out in l A. And um, she's single, and we were having a heart

to heart. She's been really having a tough time dating. I mean, listen, these streets are mean, man. The dating situation is awful. Don't get me started. I got Bella here and she can you can attest with it, Carolina. Dating is not easy. She'd be telling me, She's like, you better keep your husband. These streets is mean and nasty right now? Yeah? No, And and she's absolutely right,

you know what it is. It's like I've even told some of my friends who are married that are having issues, especially after the pandemic, and I'm like, a girl, you don't want to do it. I'm like, you think the grass is greener? It really isn't you know? Can can bella hear us? Right now? Does she want to come on? She's here? Come here? She is he a visiting? She

is so darling fella. But you know, I was telling honey that I was speaking to one of my single friends and that she is struggling right now with the dating thing, you know, like she goes on apps. And she said that, like you know, she's now in her forties. She said, these guys are straight up lying. Like she went out with a guy who said he was like in his fifties and she was like, okay, this dude was like in his sixties. Came through. Oh my god. No.

But but I believe her. I totally believe her. Like you know what, I what I tell like my married friends, I say, there's nothing out here, whatever is going on, make it work. You don't want out of this it's it's it's Gotham City out here. This is jokers and riddlers, and you're just playing a game out here. So you know, I'll fix you your marriage, fix your situation, ship, whatever you have going on, because it's being single. It's it's ghetto out here. You don't want to be out here.

It is dreadful. No, but you know what, That's what I'm saying. And so you know, we were having this heart to heart and I started crying my eyes out. We were both crying our eyes out, and I said to her, I said, I feel terrible that I haven't been there for you the way that I should have been as your best friend. You know what I mean, Because it's like life gets in the way. We're so self centered, you know, we think I have this to do,

I have a laundry list of things to do. I gotta go to target, I gotta do this, I gotta do my podcast, I work, I have a conference called I have this. You know, you don't think for a moment, or at least I don't. And maybe it escaped me. And this is part of the problem that people that you love maybe hurting, and that's part of being in a solid relationship is being there for them. But I'll

tell you this much, Carolina. You know my friend, which is even one of my best friends, the one with the one year old, you know when I stuff with my stroke, she was pregnant, she gave birth and cried to me. She was like, I am so sorry. I was not able to go to you. I was not able to be there for you. But that was during the pandemic. It's too in COVID. She gave birth. This woman had a whole c section in a hospital that was empty because nobody could be there for her. Do

you think I'm gonna hold that against her? Some people would, some people would love her too much, Carolina, So please understand that it's like you're not being able to be there does not negate the love the understanding that your friend has for you. And she understands you have things going on too. Don't beat yourself up over and I told her because she's like, I wish I would have came and I could have cooked and I could have cleaned.

And I'm like, girl, what are you talking about. You just had a child during COVID, Like I was not your priority, Your health and your child was so it's like, if you're listening, you know, and you feel like you you haven't been there for someone, just understand that they'll probably understand what you're going on at the same time too well, you know what it is. There are times where all texts and I'll be like, hey, babe, do

you want to catch up? And she'll say to me no, flat out, like one word no, and I'm like okay, and I'll send her back and okay, and she'll say, I'm in a really negative space right now and I don't want to transfer any of this to you. I love her for that. I love her for that, Carolina. But then the friend and me immediately calls her and doesn't proceed to text her again because I'm like, you're in a really negative space and I care about you, what's going on? And talk to pick up the phone.

I am. I'm like, pick up the phone, um no, because I don't want you to feel like you're alone. And that's the reason why, you know, we have such a beautiful relationship. And she will say, she'll be like, girl, I'm not picking up I'm really not in a goodhead space. And I'll say, okay, I love you. Call me when

you can. So it's like we have that ability to be real with each other, which is so special because you know, if she wouldn't have told me that she's in a negative space, that could have called her Hi, everything's great, everything's great, Okay, fine, then then you check it off the list of like you checked in with that person, you know what I mean. But like, I think a red flag is when a friend doesn't understand that you're hurting you, you're going through something and you

need your space, you know. And that's where I really honor their word and I say, you know what, this is a point in time where you know you're gonna let me know, you let me know when you're ready. Yeah, but it's it's sometimes it's hard, Like when I've gone through ship, I'm not gonna be like, hey girl, I'm going through call me, Like unless you're checking up on me,

there probably won't be a connection or a conversation. So it's like, even though sometimes we say like, yeah, I'm going through some shi, I don't want to be bothered right now. Maybe do it subtle, but do it right right.

And that's the reason why I always send a follow up text or a phone call you know, because I never want her to feel alone, I mean, and there I have several friends who are single, and it's not just this one, you know, but it's constantly checking in And I even think about my friends who are single moms or my sister who's a single mom. I have a support system. If I have questions about my mortgage, if I have questions about a certain bill, I can

go to my husband. I have that support system. Whereas my friends who are single and do not have anybody, they don't have that luxury, you know. So I look at it as how can I help you? How can you use my resources to help your life? That's amazing, Carolyn, and I love you for that, like honestly, like sharing your resources, your people to help your friends. You're a solid friend. I try, you know what I mean. But then again, I'm not perfect, and that's where you need

to give your friends grace, you know what I mean. Like, there are times where I've really had some highs and lows with my friends. And you know, there's one in particular who lives in New Jersey who I've been friends with her for years, years, years, years, and we went through some stuff. Man, we went through some roller coaster things, and you know, we did. We took a time out from each other for a bit, and then when we reconnected it was like nothing ever changed. We picked up

right where we left off. And I think that those are the real friendships, where you don't go back and rehash, well, you did this, and you did that, and you didn't come through for this, you know what I mean. Like, that's where I think that I like to take a step back from relationships when it becomes like keeping score. I don't like people who keep score. Yeah that that that tip tap tip. I hate that. And not only that, it's like, Okay, let's say you take a break ground friendship.

Let's come back fresh. Let's not go back and rehash when you said this and this text hurt me and that email was upsetting. Let's just start fresh. I'm sorry for what I did to hurt you. You're sorry for what you did to me, and let's move on. You know, I have been there to all my closest friends. I've known them for over ten fifteen years. You know there's been ups and downs. You know there's been oh, girl, you caught up with a guy and didn't call me

for three months. I let them come back. I'm that person. I always let them come back. Yeah. No, But there are some people who will completely write you off. You know. I had a friend that um I mean now she's married, but whenever she met a new guy, that was it. You would be like, Okay, she's gone by, we'll see you in a few years. Those friends wouldn't have come back. I do. I do because then it's like, you know what, if somebody's coming back, that means that they need me,

and I want to be there for you. I would hope that you would do the same thing for me, you know what I mean. And so that's kind of the attitude or like the bond that I like whenever I have a friend, because I never want people to feel like they're just canceled, like you're done over, you know what I mean. Like that's a really adult thing. I don't like that. Like I I've said this, for

humans are not disposible, like where you're not garbage. You don't be like, okay, you go into garbage now, It's like, really, how solid was our bond? And you know what my main thing is, if you can forgive that guy three times for cheating on you. You can't forgive me for what I did to you. If you could forgive your husband for having a side baby, you can't forgive me for what I did, pretty girl, for not picking up your phone call while I was at the gym and

you were desperate, Like sorry, sorry, I was busy. I was living my life too. Don't make me pull your cards, girl, don't make me pull your cards. Okay, you don't tek this man back five times and the whole time I've known you, but you mad at me because I couldn't go to that club. Well, it's different standards, you know what I mean. I feel like sometimes people give different standards from people. Of course, yeah yeah, and and there

they could choose, if they could choose. And I don't want to be the person that you take out your aggression on because you're frustrated with your other relationship. Like that's not fair to me, girl Na listens the volatile behavior or abusive behavior, I'm not taking none of that from friends. I will be there for you. I will console you, I will coach you. I will not accept cursing and yelling abuse not that's not happening. And none

of my friendships or not actually tolerated will not be tolerated. Now, I know you and newly have such a solid relationship, and so do you and your sister. You know, but it's like, what are the solid relationships in life? You know? Do you have that work person that you're constantly like, that's your homie? Like do you have that kind of a relationship with anybody? I don't know. I feel like

COVID has tested some relationships and friendships. You know, I did have that with let's say some people I saw every single day. I felt so connected to them. But after COVID, it became more like my family and you know, my friends, my old friends that I've had for a very long time. I've baptized so many kids, Carolina. Guess anybody I've baptized, I consider them solid. Which are my sisters, my my best friends. They're solid. You know, they've in there for me. They were there for me through like

my toughest times. But you know what's crazy, Like anybody that was at my wedding, I'm pretty much still cool with and solid with, and I don't have any problems with. I'm good at keeping friends. Yeah, definitely, I'm your salad people in your life I mean obviously, and I promised myself that I wouldn't talk about Mark for the next couple of episodes because I talked about him all the time in the beginning of the season. No, because you never want people to be like, oh my god, she

doesn't talk about her husband. He's really the best friend I've ever had, you know what I mean, Like he is just he's it. And um, you know, I definitely have my friendships, my relationships from like way back when, like from college. I'm talking about like in two thousand three when I first started in radio, one of the first prom you know. Yeah, the fact that you have these friendships twenty years, Like wow, Carolyn, I really do

a lot about who as a person. I love my friends, I love and I never had little sisters, and I always look at my friends like my little sisters, you know what I mean. And I always treat them like how I would have treated a little sister because I never ever had one, you know, So that's kind of They're a handful and you're a lot of work, yes, but you know what, you are lucky you have your beautiful baby sister and she is a doll. But um, one thing that I will say that is challenging for

me our new friendships. New friendships are hard. And I started seeing that when I was an adult and I moved to New York City and I remember just feeling so lonely. I remember feeling so lone and sad and just lonely. You know. I would go to the gym and go to a yoga class and I would kind of like get there early and see like, oh, you know, or like or getting be in the locker room and or say to somebody, oh my gosh, I love those like you know, love your boo. Stop sad. It was

it was tough. It is tough to be a young woman in a big city where you don't know anyone and form those friendships, you know. So that was a really tough time for me, and I think that ever since that experience has been really challenging for me to meet new friends. Like even moving out to Long Island and finding like my mommy group now that I have, like my friend, my my son's friends mothers. We all kind of like banded together and I found my people.

I found my people on Long Island. You have a tribe that that's amazing, you know, it's hard to make friends as a felt and it's hard, you know, to trust people. You know, some people have alterior motives. You know, some people might just attached to you, you know, especially social media, they see like who you are a place,

just radio and just our industry in general. People want to go to hop parties, they want to go to the concerts, they want to do this, they want to do that with you, you know, so you like sniff out those people, like you gotta like filter out those people. So it's like, yo, my people, you know, my my legal name is not Honey, that's just the name. So my people, my tribe, they call me by my regular last name. Oh they do. Yeah, girl, they'd be like, funk, Honey,

who's honey? Anyway? Meat? That is amazing? Are you serious? That's so crazy? Like so, when I first started in radio, there were so many people who asked me to change my name. When I was in college, they used to make me call my South Carolina, and I was like, this is all my name, Carolina. I'm done like South Carolina,

like South Carolina. And I remember, and I will not name the professor, because there was one in particular who kept saying to me like um, it's to your name is to ethnic and I'm like, excuse me, And he said, your name is Carolina Bermudez and the everyday viewer is not going to be able to say that, so you should just start saying Carolina. So to my regret, to my regret, Yeah, in college, I was, you know, given a bunch of assignments and I said Carolina, And after

I was like, you know what funk that? Like this is my name, like this is who I am. So I never let anybody kind of change that for radio because I was just so against it after my own experience, you know what I mean. But like that's a very common thing to do in radio. You know, there are so many people who are Romeos around the country. Their names are not Romeo. Trust me, that's like a radio name.

You know. You know what's crazy. Before I moved into media and radio, I worked in legal and I was always so worried about like identity deaf people because you knew, I was like, no, man, if I use my regular name, people gonna track down my address where I still my identity. And you know what's so crazy With the internet. You can find anything and everyone, but you know, not fully disclosing, but I have one of those real Latina names, mad Soul,

Mari Slada, Madri Lu, one of those. Okay, so you're going but like by standards, somebody would say that your name is super ethnic, you know what I mean. And

that's the reason why I kept on. And this is the reason why this podcast I feel like it's so important because there are so many people who have these shared experiences, you know what I mean, where they've been told like, um, well, for example, you know the two of the girls that I work with, Lulu and La La Maria Lena or no, they have their real names, you know what I mean, So they're girls. I forgot those are their names. I'm over here like yeah, and not not that I'm ashamed of my name, but I

just decided not to use it. But you know what, my last name was her mom and I had accent on top of the eight. America was like, fuck your accent. Now you're just German. It's like BMI, it's not it's bern Mudez. You know what I know. We gotta we

gotta bring it back. But anyway, we got sidetracked. But no, so anyway, like you know, those are those are the things that I think are just so important is to let people know that you know, you have your boundaries, but then also like you know, keeping those solid relationships in place, it's work, you know. And I came after that conversation that I had with my friend, backtracking a bit. I came out into the living room and I had been crying, and Mark looks at me and he's like,

what's wrong. What happened? You know? And I explained to him that I felt really horrible that I haven't been able to be there for my friend. And I just looked at him and I said, I gotta go see her. And he looked and he said, you do. He goes pick a weekend, you gotta go, you know. And it's like that's where you know where your support system is, like where you know people are going to be there for you. And I said, if I go to l A, I leave on Friday, I come back Sunday, I'll literally

be there for a day. I said, but even a day, I feel like that would just give her so much joy and give her that little boost that she needs to get through this. Like charging times, it helps trust me, even though even it just a hug when you're in that dark space, even if it's just a hug from someone you love, makes a world of a difference. So I know, going down there for that one day, she'll she'll remember that forever. Yeah, definitely, definitely. Well, you know what,

That's the thing. There are certain friends where I do have to set up boundaries though, like where I do have to be like, you know what you're asking. You're asking for a bit too much for me that I cannot give you right now, you know, just because I am juggling so many things that I'm so overwhelmed, you know. But that's where them understanding comes into play. Yeah, I was thinking, I'm like, I'm horrible at setting the boundaries,

are you. Yeah, Like if you'd be like I'm coming to a house Friday, I'm gonna stay Friday, Saturday, Sunday, I won't be like, no, you can't do that. I'm horrible. Like, Okay, let me food shop. I let people know I have stuff going on. You're welcome to combat. I have the harvest festival for the kids. I got to do the setup for that, and then on the next day we have a birthday party in Karate. But if you're down to come and hang out with us, then cool. You know.

Like the problem that I have is when you make plans with people and then they come in and they expect you to rearrange your entire schedule, and it's like nah, yeah. Like my friend visited, she came down with Florida, and I was just like, listen, I have a hair appointment on Saturday. You're okay with that. Um, and listen, I have to work Sunday. You're okay with that? And she was okay with everything. Yeah. See, that's an understanding person. I had to put it out there. You know, some

people might be like, okay, time me cancel everything. I don't want to upset this person and tell them I need to get away from them for a few hours. Well, I have friends. I have a friend who punishes me if I ever do stuff like that. And that's where I had to like call her out and be like, listen, you're not gonna put me in purgatory or you're not gonna put me in punishment because I didn't go with

your plan. Like, you have to understand, and I have a life and there are things happening in my life that if you don't want to come and be a part of it. That's totally understandable. But I can't rearrange three other people's lives because of you, you know, And you know I commend you for that. And that's one thing that I've I've taken from you, you know, by becoming close and mean with you for the past few years,

you know, speaking up for a long time. I wish I was okay with everything everyone, whether it was work related or whether it's you know, friendship, Okay, all right, you want me to work what? Okay? All right? And you know I've taken that from you. And friendships are like that, like I've taken me now, Carolina, wouldn't go for that ship, No, no, you know you can't. And you also you surround yourself with people who will give you energy, not drain your energy. You know, there are

certain people who are just fun suckers. You know, you could be in a great mood and because their life isn't going the best way, then they want to drag your ass down. I'm like, no, no, baby, I'm trying to elevate this ship, you know what I mean, Like, don't try to come and bring me down and drag me with your anchor like. So that's where it's I feel like I'm almost I go into over over not over time mode, but you know what I'm saying, like I work overtime to try to bring them out of

that space. You know what I mean. It can be draining, it really can. It's it's a challenging thing. Catlina modest has spoken that's it, and I love it. I really take it. I take all your little gems trust me. And then I'm like, what would Carolina say? What would Carolina do? That? Go? That has got to be a segment. I'm flattered by that because sometimes I feel like I don't make the best decisions, but I at least own them, you know what I mean, And I learned from them.

So that's that's the one thing that I really do feel like in my in my you know, elder states as I turned forty four this year. I turned forty four in May, and I keep thinking about it. I keep saying to my husband, I'm like, I turned forty four, I still feel like I'm in my twenties. Girl, because you look good, you take care of yourself, you know, you eat right, you work out like you are good girl every time I have a break to coming up. I'm like, yeah, but look at jam Will still backing

until fifty two. Why, I've got years left. I just gotta take care of myself. You do, you do? But you know she's doing that m sculpt girl. Don't let her trick. Don't let her trick you. You You know, she's doing all that other stuff to like tweak it, which I'm not all but I know, but you have Macdonna. On the other hand, she went overboard, She went overboard them she she looks like she is hiding some nuts in them cheeks. Girl, Like it's just not all the time.

But that's where you need a friend. But right there, in case some point, I'm not dragging Madonna right now, but that's where you need a real friend, Like where are her real friends? That would be like, babe, don't do it. Stop working with your face. Excuse my language. Say I don't know why I'm dropping so many F and S bombs. Okay, the podcast already says okay, good, good, yes, And I'm sorry. You know because my mom, like I said, would call me la la la, But um no, you

know what it is? That that that that is, that's it. That's where celebrities go wrong. They don't have real people in their lives to check them and be like, you're doing too much. Stop, You're good the way that you are. You just have a bunch of yes people saying, oh my gosh, no, yeah, that would look great, that would look amazing. And that's where you got worried, because they were They're gonna get canceled, They're gonna get taken off payroll.

So and I think one of the biggest, one of the fastest way to fail is to surround yourself by yes men. Absolutely, surround yourself with people who are smarter than you, who know different things, who challenge your way of thinking. They make you step out outside the box. And that's the way you grow, truthfully, Because if I was the Carolina that moved to New York City right now, I don't know what kind of a mom I would be. I don't know what kind of a wife I would be.

I don't know what kind of a friend or daughter I would be. You gotta evolve, that is it, and I will be Carolina a three point oh when I'm in my fifties. You know what I mean, I'll bring it. I told my husband, I said, when I'm in my seventies. Just get ready, I'm gonna be a snack then. And I see like older couples like I guess seventies, and I'm like, oh, they look good. Oh my god, that's gonna be us. Right there, you'll see a couple right

there that's called be us. Absolutely absolutely. Are we gonna do any celebrity today? Do you want to talk about the trash that that's been going around. Well, you know we've been talking about names, you know, Jereman, Carolina. I'm want to bring it back to Kanye. He remember he changed his name. Would you ever change your name to anything else? No, not at this point, not at this point in my career. And actually this is funny, you know. So my my kids, you know, I have two little boys.

If you're just starting to listen to us, thank you. By the way, my little Noah is eight and my Asher six. And Noah said to me, mommy, why do you have a different name? And I said, honey, I don't have a different name. I said, my name is Carolina Grossman. That's my name. I have their name. And he goes, no, but when you talk on the radio, why don't you use our family's name. And I said, honey, you said, because you know, mommy established her career before

I met daddy. I said, and that's something that I really want to hold on too. I said, it's it's something that I worked very hard for it. But I'm very proud to be your mother, and I'm proud to be a part of this family, you know, So it's truthfully. I have changed my name. Then, yes, then I like you because I have changed my name, but I changed it for the purpose of having the same family name as my children. But professionally, I still use my maiden name.

And you know what, it matters because I remember when my mom would come to like school and she had a different name. I'm like, I don't want them to think we're not a real family, especially in America, you know, Mrs Johnson, Mrs Parker, and then you would have the same my name. I was like, my mom was likeness the whole another last name. I'm like, oh God, my mom don't have our name. You know, Hey, Ms Parker,

this is Parker. I used to love that show. Don't get me wrong, it's hilarious, but kind of kinda needs to stop, Like why why he's just annoying. But I think they just do that stuff just for attention. But you know, it's crazy. When I did my marriage license, I have NATed my name. Does that mean I changed my name or not? Or I had to go through some more steps. I believe if you hyphenate, that is your new last name, so it would be German blank because your maiden comes first, so so your real last

name basically as German blank. But like for me, my real last name it is Grossman. That's it. But this is gone. You had to you had to like get new ideas and stuff like that, like how do I make it so that I can hyphenate and no one you can be happy? It is the biggest pain in the ass when I tell you, even my airline stuff is not lined up and I've been married for ten years.

It's actually an absolute nightmare. So for those of you who are listening that can sympathize with me, I appreciate it because legitimately I had so many like I had like hundreds of thousands of airline miles gone can't even use them. You have to provide a marriage certificate. You have to provide this, You have to you know, all of this stuff, and I did and it doesn't get through, and then it's like, how long am I going to wait on the phone for this? You know what I mean?

So it really is and and you know, truthfully it was. It was kind of a sad day for me that day when it happened. When I went in and I had to change my social Security card, my passport, my driver's license. I mean you I'm talking everything. I felt a little bit like, well, you know what, I do get to have the beastketball world because I still get to keep my given name. But you know, I am honoring my marriage by changing everything. Yeah. Not, you definitely did,

and that's you know, that's good for you. You know, some people get very like, no, never, I'm never changing my name. This is my father's name. I'm I'm keeping my dad's name. You know, it would have been different from me, but um, I had already established German and I was like, no, this is it. And I remember, you know, Andie Martinez went to my wedding, so she knows that my husband's last name is Martinez. Of course, Andy was like, oh my god, you're gonna change your

last name. This is a good last name. I'm like, yeah, I bet you think Martinez is a good last name. Not not happening, still honey, German for life. But I still respect my husband and I love him, and I would tell him, you're welcome to do all my paperwork and everything online and I will legally be I don't even know what my name would be. But it's also it's such an old school, traditional way of looking at things.

I don't think it makes you any less of a wife or any less of a family person that you haven't done that. I'm just saying, like, for me, it was. He brings it up every time we talked about He's like, but she didn't change her name. I'm like, listen to look at our marriage to to ticket. It is hyphenated. It says German Martinez. So that's what I got for you. I mean, he needs to make it official. He wants to claim it. Girl. I mean, I'm telling us stop.

He listens to this podcast, don't I love you, Nunie, but you let her be. You leave her alone for real. But let's end this podcast episode right there, Carolina, because you don't took it too far over here before changed my name? Never never never know, I said, leave honey, let her be. She's fine, you don't. You already got her locked down at home, so it's all good, dead ass. Oh my gosh, what guys. We had so much fun

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I'm pissed. I want to make more. That's ridiculous. I'm gonna DM those people. I'm like, do you not understand this woman? That bank? Get out of here. It's fine. All everything you read is a lie. So there you have it, guys, Thank you so so much. We'll be back next week and we hope you guys are having a great one, So take care, all right, out of here. Life and Spanglish is a production of Life is English Productions in partnership with I heart's Michael Tura podcast network m