When Your Partner Knows

I know you're old . I know you're old , that's what I said . Or be too Like you , you know you have a favorite oldies group . You don't , you don't just have one , I do have one . Five heartbeats .

That's not a real group . That's not . That's not a real group . That's just a movie . That's not a real group .

That's not the real group hey everybody and welcome back to your weekly dose of Life . After I Do podcast , You're going to be kicking it for the next 45 minutes to maybe an hour with me , Kynesha and my bestie slash husband . Bestie with the mesty , molito Bestie with the mesty .

Mo Get it Mesty , I'm messy . Oh gosh , I like the mess .

Hey Booskies , hi , how are you Great , how are you .

Tired . I'm all fun tired . We are back from camp . Camp was great . It was hot .

Very hot .

I'm happy that Airbnb had a pool Very great . But it's hot .

The kid loved it .

The people who stay out there and that I don't know how they do it .

They're probably used to it . I mean , it's just like the Vegas people , they're used to it .

It was weird because after last week's episode and then I saw all those half-naked women in the gym , I didn't know whether I could . I was trying to double tap .

Okay , okay , you're such a muddle . I was trying to double tap . You're such a muddle , how ?

was your week . A lot of double tapping in the gym , a lot of double tapping . I was air double tapping .

Oh God .

So that way , instagram one , I like that one , so special you're so I like that one special .

Don't want to switch on me . Oh my gosh , other than that , how was your week ? It was good , I'm on my new um .

Why ?

are you drinking right now like ? People don't want to hear you swallow and they're not .

They're not gonna hear that they do you do goodness gracious , I'm doing great . I started my new mesocycle , my training , so my training's a little different now . It's not , I'm getting used to it , it's not , it's not . I'm not on a what you would call traditional .

A good transition .

I might have to add some cardio , though , because I've scaled back on my cardio since I got , ever since I hit the low 200s . I've scaled back on my cardio . I might increase it . I hit the low 200s . I've scaled back on my cardio . I might increase it because I I'm really feeling like I need to be like 190

I don't think 190 is thick , fit yeah thick fit .

I want to be like like I got to get down to 190 .

Oh , you're talking about , so you can re-bolt .

So I can bolt back up . Oh okay , yeah . Yeah , I thought you meant like , just be 190 .

No , I got to get down to 190 . I was like that's slick .

I want to get down to 190 , like bolt back up to about 215 , and then cut .

Yeah , it's not too bad if you like , if you do a good , good bulk .

Oh , I'm doing it . I'm doing a dirty bulk .

Oh no , don't do a dirty bulk , I'm doing Oreos , no .

Okay , cheesecake .

I don't think that's what you want to do . Peach cobbler Fat cells are real .

Greens Smothered potatoes .

Smothered pork chops . I'll make them myself .

First of all . Look here . I'm happy you said that because this goes into what we're doing today . I know my wife can't make smothered pork chops .

I can make smothered pork chops . I'm just not going to buy a pack of pork chops . When have you ever seen me purchase a pack of pork chops ?

You can suffocate some pork chops that .

Are you really trying to play that game ? Because you remember what happened the last time you tried to play that game . You ain't never . You will be . You will be hungry for a week . I know how to smother a pork chop . I don't even . I don't even buy pork chops . I'm a buy them .

we ate a pork chop .

You know the last time I remember eating pork chops was when I lived at home as a teenager .

Look here your boy , because I had really been on my no pork thing for so long and I would occasionally eat bacon .

That's no . You were not on a no pork . I was on a no pork . I would on a no pork . I was on a no pork . I would occasionally eat bacon because he was still eating pork .

I don't know where he got that from I was still eating bacon from time to time because the one thing I look I've tried . I've tried turkey bacon , beef bacon that's what we eat turkey bacon don't nothing tastes like bacon , but bacon , everybody knows that .

that's why my old boss used to say when I , when I used to tell her , oh I , I make turkey bacon . She was like that's turkey strips . I said it's turkey bacon . She said that's not bacon , that's turkey strips .

But you know , growing up you know I was raised by country folks we ate the pig .

That's what I'm saying , Like my mama used to make them pork chops with the mac and cheese and the homemade mashed potatoes . Lord , have mercy . I'm going to call her and ask her . I'm going to say you can go ahead and make that for me . You can make that for me because I literally could .

You know who probably made some fire ass pork chops , who Miss Annie Miss .

Annie From .

Sinners .

Bye , maurice , because she'll't use no stale grease . Bye , why are you so special ? Because she don't use no stale grease . You and that stale grease you a liar . She immediately shut that down . She was like you is a cold liar , I do not use no stale grease . How was your week , boosie ? It was a cold lie . Week was good . It was um .

Gym was good , yeah what was good about it ?

seeing different people , you know , seeing the , the , the different , the way gyms are set up . You know that was fun , you know so you make the looks and the stares that you get .

You want to show off for other men okay , no one .

That's what . No one's show , no one's going back to last week's episode .

Oh my gosh , you were trying to get people to double tap your pictures I don't try to get people to do anything you don't really post .

No , I don't this is I said I said that I was gonna get better , though I I mean , I am gonna get better , and thank you to those who have started following me , even without new content . You guys are great , awesome , um , but yeah , I am gonna get better about posting . I is you know what's crazy is ?

No , I understand , because you like trying to reply to like the podcast comments and posts . I ain't got time to do my own stuff . I got to go to work . People , I still work . Okay , look here , I still go to work . I can't say I work at the job , bye , but I still go to work . Goodbye , goodbye , and I'll be there , at least . I try to do 40 .

But we love all the support and we love the engagement , guys a daughter it takes .

My daughter takes a big chunk of my time as well , which I love her , that's my , but we love she was , she told me the other day . She said , dad , are you happy that I look like you ?

I said I'm ecstatic for now ecstatic for now , but she's getting older and she's starting to look like me , so I told her .

I said phoenix , you know what you could look like , your mom , if you just had my personality ? Oh gosh , the problem is that you have your mom's personality .

No , she has

She too bubbly , she too friendly . I'm not friendly .

No , she has your personality .

Like my boys say . Like my boys say I ain't friendly , I'm polite .

Those are two different things .

My grandma told me to speak to everybody . I ain't trying to be friends with you , but yeah . So it was a good week . It was yeah .

You're not going to tell people how you went down on a whole dress size .

What , how you down on ?

a whole size . I've been down . No , come on , Would you put all of them , it's not just one .

Oh good , talk your shit . How many is it ? It's two . Oh shoot , thank you , sir , but I'm currently on a maintenance right now , which is like I'm like my brain is finally kind of like settling into , like just be comfortable with where we are right now .

Okay , we ain't losing , we ain't gaining , we're not doing none of that , we just going to be right here . Like I fluctuate between , you know , like three pounds up , three pounds down , three pounds up , three pounds down , but like I'm in a maintenance so I have to like I'm staying here , um , until about november . So you know , that's been some days .

I'm not this . Is it like I don't mind it ?

I don't mind it , and then other days I'm like damn , if I could just go ahead and drop this 20 pounds , I feel like life would be . Life would be a little bit , just a little bit better .

I mean if you drop it , it'd help me , because you know my goal is to be able to squat , bench and then lift your weight and I can do two of the three .

So you can't squat my weight I can't . Okay , which one can't you ? Oh , you can't bench my weight , not yet , not yet . Oh no , that's not good . Damn , I'm there already . I've never seen you bench my weight , I have .

I video . Okay , because you know I'm going to show you , you know , if it's not on video , then you know .

But yeah , like benching that you mentioned that I've been trying to manifest my benching and I know like when you say like you can't manifest something that's like physical , you got to work for it but it's part of it . So I've been manifesting it and working towards it . So doing my 225 holds , you know , like it , it it .

Let me tell you something , though , holding it here .

Oh , I know it's different .

I know .

Then when you're trying to control it coming down , I know but I'm saying like Then you gotta pause it here . But the intimidation of just unracking 225 , I was like , oh , I don't want to sit here and make a fool of myself . You know like I I'm .

Huh , I told you what the message a couple weeks ago well , what ? You just mumbled . I told you what my dumb ass did a couple weeks ago what did you drop the bar the ? Bar . I went over to the seated shoulder press and I said let me put these 45s on here .

This can't be that heavy On the seated shoulder press .

Yeah , you special . I said , this can't be that heavy .

Okay , so 135 overhead yes , when you've never done it . Yeah , okay .

I've never overhead You're so funny . I've never over here . You're so funny , I've never over here , you're hilarious . I said I can like bench 135 for like 50 reps . This is nothing . I got this , not shit . I went like this I brought it down and I pushed it back up and I racked it and I said , let me sit my stupid ass down .

That's just like . So my coach shout out to Joseph Patino body that's just like so my my coach shout out to joseph patino um , when , like when he was looking at my numbers and I had did the 105 uh overhead , I I have I haven't done it since the first time I did it and he was like what has happened ?

I will say this Now I got to try 105 .

But I do think Now I got to try 105 .

But I do think that standing is a lot easier than sitting .

You think it is because you think . Because I can use my legs you can , because you can use your legs , but I'm not using my legs . And that's the first thing the trainer , paul , at the gym , asked me when I was telling him how I don't like doing standing overhead press and he was like why ? I said because I don't like .

It's very much different when you're not using your bottom half , because even in seated , even in seated , when I've done it seated , you're using leg drive .

Yeah , seated . When I've done it seated , you can plant . You're using leg drive , but it's not the same . Yeah , it's not the same . You're using leg drive , yeah , so when ?

you're doing standing and you're just straight up and you're doing that motion , yeah , I said .

I said , yeah , I'd be like 85 is good for me . I said yeah , because if I don't , if I want to be able to rotate my arms in the morning , I'm gonna go ahead and put this I'm gonna go ahead and I had .

Immediately I thought right , I had to look at my shoulder and say stay strong , stay strong because , like right now , all this is like sore you , you worried everything gonna be okay . I think we'll be okay , just stay strong , stay strong because what is ?

this your front , right , yeah , like , yeah , well , we got the nail biscuits .

Uh , how well do you know me ? I don't know you at all . You change every week . This is true Every week .

But we're going to see .

Every week I got to prove my love .

Every week . You told Harpo to beat me . Shut up , maurice , you're so silly . How well , how well do you know me , how well do you know your partner ?

Do , do , do , do , do do .

This is whack , your mom's whack . You have like one blonde hair . That's like that's crazy . I think it was like a gray hair , that like turned or something , I don't know . But yeah , so we'll go back and forth , we'll take turns , all right , asking each other a series of questions to see how well we know each other right now .

All right , I see , okay , I see how this is going to go .

Okay , ready . Yeah , I'll start off with an easy one . Okay , sure , how do I make my coffee or tea ?

That's two different things . And then hold on .

First of all , how do I make my coffee or tea ?

What kind of coffee , what kind of tea , because it depends .

Maurice , how do I make my coffee If I'm drinking coffee ?

You like your tea . You like your tea , two tea bags , one honey . But you want your honey in the cup before the water , and then you want honey , then you want the water , then the tea bags , then a little lemon .

You missed a step , okay , but yes , that's generally . Yes , the honey , the Splenda .

Yeah , Splenda .

The tea bags , the water , the lemon , yeah , yes , and my coffee recently .

For this past year . How have I been drinking my coffee ? Oh , you just won't . Decaf shots in a protein drink with some caramel drizzle .

That's it . See , that was easy , babe . I gave you an easy one . I'm going to give you an easy one then , I think .

Do I prefer sweet snacks or salty ones ? Sweet .

Sweet Because last night you was jonesing , jonesing . He was jonesing . He said babe , he was scratching . He was like babe , I said what ?

She knows that . I know that she hides snacks and I'll be trying to figure out if she hides them . That's what she knows .

Because between him and my daughter I could never keep anything . So listen , here there's these licorice that I like to eat . They're called Willie .

Wilde , hold on hold on , hold on hold on that .

We like to eat oh see , now it's a we thing . It wasn't a family thing until a mommy started eating them and they're like this vegan licorice . We have to put this on . They're like a vegan and fat , but they're really good . And they come in different flavors . I don't have to pause .

monday the sprout because she's a modern servant .

I'm killing the pack and that's what I tell them . I'm like give me the pack . Why are you finishing the pack ? So instead of , instead of beginning like the big resealable pack , I go to the Dollar Tree and I buy like 12 to 15 packs at a time because they're the only place that I can find like that flavor that I really like .

I think they've only been selling licorice for hundreds of years , but now it's just they've only been selling licorice for hundreds of years .

But now it's like I went . Last time I went it was I bought 15 packs . I bought 15 packs , 50 . Listen to what I say . I bought 15 packs of licorice .

Well , you know , just like Audacity , they'll sell it in bulk . 15 packs . Don't judge us .

That bag of licorice that I purchased between myself , my husband and our seven-year-old Hold on .

No , and your mama and your sister no .

No , we all primarily ate it .

Don't come for me .

Lasted like a week .

Hold on and , primarily , ate it . Okay , for me Lasted like a week Hold on and then the cold part is now they make a sour version .

Oh yeah , now those , and they're small . Oh my gosh , they are so good . Oh , can we ?

sound so fat , go ahead and ask me a question . But they're really good . Okay , I promise y'all . We're still on our fitness journey . We just be .

let's see what color do I wear the most black what kind of ? Question is that black ? I don't wear black as much as I used to . No , okay , maybe that's not your experience I'm wearing gray to the gym today I wear black .

What color are your bottles right now ? Black , okay . Color your glasses what okay ? But I'm wearing gray , so whatever um how do I show love without using words ?

Touch , physical touch . All the time I'm on that ass , all the time I'm on that ass , I'm on that ass . Bye , let's see . I'm on that ass what is my most used phrase or thing .

I know you fucking lying or played yourself .

Played yourself , you played yourself . Look at you , you looked up . Or played yourself , played yourself , you played yourself . Look at you , you look dumb . You played yourself , you look dumb .

What is something that I'm surprisingly sentimental about .

Something that you're surprisingly sentimental about .

Yeah , I've been crying a lot lately too .

That you're sentimental about therapy makes me cry probably our time together . I would say that's a good answer probably our time together that's not what I would say .

My time alone , that's a good answer let's see what is .

Something small that instantly annoys me the way that you go gosh , that's not a small thing . What like ? Just like , sometimes , just you just you like , over the pack you masticating . Sometimes it's just in general . Okay , I just can't Like . I just don't understand why it has to be All right . Why should I hear you across the room ? Okay ?

yeah , we're done with this .

This is crazy .

This is going to be a short episode , guys . What's my ideal weekend with you ? What would my ideal weekend with you look like ?

Oh , somewhere away in a hotel or the balcony .

There has to be a balcony .

If y'all know me , that's pretty easy , as long as there's a balcony . It's high up . It's a private room . We can make do In late evening A little bit of wind , early morning yeah .

Yeah .

That's ideal for him .

Takes me back .

What's something I do when I'm mad but not saying it ?

You don't talk when you mad .

And what else ? I rage clean , yeah , yeah .

It's funny .

I need to make you more mad . You tried it .

You tried it , you tried it , you tried it . Who was my childhood hero or favorite athlete ? Kobe Kobe's my all-time favorite athlete .

Yeah , kobe , that's an easy one .

And all the Mamba slander . Oh gosh Needs to stop .

Y'all niggas couldn't stop Kobe . What scent or perfume Do I always reach for ?

I don't know what it's called , but it's the one I just recently purchased for you . You know , I don't know the name of this shit . That's cheating .

Donna and Rome .

Is that what it's called , donna , and Rome ? Is that the Versace one , or whatever ?

No , that's the Valentino . Whatever , I don't know , that's , my favorite Was that the Versace one or whatever ?

No , that's the .

Valentino . Oh , whatever , I don't know , that's my favorite , it do smell good , I can't lie . That's my favorite .

When was the last time I really surprised you , and how ?

The last time you really surprised me ? Well , the most recent that I can think of was when you bought me a summer cup Unprovoked . That was a surprise , because for so long you were against .

No , I'm still against it .

It's funny because you say you're against it , but then when you're out and you see something you'd be like , oh , but I think she would really like this and he brought me home a Stanley unprovoked and I was like okay , I was like you really didn't have to . And he was like okay , I was like you really didn't have to .

I don't know why I do this thing . Where I go against my own , you complain .

Yeah .

Yeah , it's just like when I bought you that Skoroski Crystal damn Starbucks cup , mm-hmm . I was like , well , that's a nice cup , I want that cup . I was like let me get that cup . And then when she told me the price , I said for what ?

For a cup . It's like one of a thousand and it has seroski crystals on it . Yeah , it does . That's actually one of my most priced , one of my most priced cups . Yeah , I'm part of the problem . So you know , if anything ever happened and we were really down hard , I could probably sell it . Okay , I probably wouldn't , but we couldn't .

Y'all know why .

That's not why I just oh my gosh , why , why do you have to make ?

What's , uh , what's my favorite part of your personality ?

What's my , what's your favorite part of my personality ? What's your favorite part of my personality ? Oh , that I can talk to almost anybody .

That's not my favorite . You always say that no , that's the part that irritates me the most .

Oh my gosh . You have always said I just love how you can just talk and relate to anybody .

No , that because you won't shut up .

Okay , lies , that's not what you said , but what is it ? It's that ass of my personality .

My ass is not personality when they see you okay you sound silly , you sound silly no , it's like you're a really loving and caring person . Okay , that's so generic , no , no , but but it's real , though to a fault like you , really , people be playing you , okay do ?

I prefer cuddling or my space in bed ?

space . It depends on the night , it depends on the night 90 of the time I prefer what space ?

yes space I need space . First of all , I need space because of how I , how I sleep . I require a lot of space . Okay , I sleep with about six pillows um . I sleep at an angle . I sleep with my heating pad , my she goes restrained .

She looks like my hair bonnet , my eye mask .

She looked like there there's a lot that happens when I sleep and I have to .

I have to get to her before the eye mask comes on .

Once my eye mask is on , it's a wrap I'm done if I got my right pillow under my right arm like this and I'm already sitting up while I'm asleep and then I pull it out , because what I do is I put it around the bonnet and then you might watch a little TV or something .

Don't come for me . I can't sleep with air blowing up my damn nose all night . My fellow fan sleepers will come to my defense , okay , and that's why y'all allergies are terrible , but we so , and that's why you got terrible allergies because you sit there and let the damn dust fly under your nose all night .

Yes , You'll tune it up , but if the eye mask comes out , it's over . And then , even if I'm not all the way to sleep , but my eye mask is down and I'm trying to sleep , I will snore Because you know the eye mask is down . And then she hits you with one of these . I peek from underneath it . I'm like what are you trying to do ? The eye mask is down .

Instantly turns me on Me .

Facts Me . Just look at you and be like come here Me , you know me . Facts me .

Just look at you like come here Me .

If I , if I touch your shoulder like this , hold on , we'll cut it short .

We'll cut it short .

Wait a minute . What did Ron's wife say when she was asking Tyrese ? She was like do you why ? Do you know why you never see like public affection and anything from us ? And he was like no , why .

And she said said because , if I just if I just like touch him like this he thinks it's an invitation . Okay , that's not an invitation let's get to it .

It's not an invitation , okay , um , what was I wearing on our first date ?

I don't know . Yeah , you do . You're wearing blue jeans and a white top . You were in a blue jeans , the blue cut up jeans , with the white top , and you had a blue beanie on .

No , the beanie was white because it matched my sweatshirt , my sweater . It was like these sky blue pants that had like whitewash in the front and we saw brown sugar . And I wore a white long sleeve sweater with , like my crochet little beanie and I thought I was the cutest thing ever . No , you was pretty hot and tempting .

thank you , thank you um what's my dream date night with you ? So you get two questions . Oh sorry , no , it's fine . I know it's what you do um your dream date night with you ? Some lobster bis sounds good by the water , probably . I'm up there and then you would do like the music outside if the temperature is right .

Yeah , because if I'm distracted by me being too hot or too cold , count me out . Count me out , it's got to be .

But it'd be like something like that and something where we can it's like real intimate one-on-one and we can have a good , decent conversation uh-huh , okay , I like that , that is me yeah , I know , um , um . What's my go-to excuse when I want to get out of something ? Let me ask my wife no with you what I tell you when you ask me something .

When you ask me something , what's my excuse I give you when you want to get out of something ? Yeah , I don't know . You never really give me too many excuses .

Like when you're like , babe , let's go to my mom's this weekend , I'd be like what , what'd I say ?

what I say , what I say , no , I don't know , I can't think of it well , you know I gotta work , so even on a day that he don't have to work , like when we went to my cousin's .

Well , I had to work the next day , later that day I had to be home by a certain time because the gym let's see if I could travel anywhere certain time because I had to go to the gym .

Let's see If I could travel anywhere tomorrow . Where ?

would I want to go ? You would want to go back to Europe yes , or Thailand Yep , or Japan Yep .

Yep Got to make that happen , Captain . I'm just debating whether or not I want to take the little . I think I do , though I think she's old enough . No , she's not .

What's a hobby or a skill ? I've always wanted to try , but haven't yet .

A hobby or a skill . Oh , but you haven't , because I mean , you did try it , you got into it a little bit . You're woodworking .

And I quickly got out of it . You know why and I quickly your wood making .

But I mean , I quickly got out of it , you know why . And I quickly got , you know . He put his toe in and then he , you know I got out of it . Why , when people start asking me to make shit for him , I mean , all you have to do is say no , that's why it's called a hobby .

I'm not , although you could have made bank off those benches .

He one of his first projects . He made a bench for our front porch and like , created it , painted it , did the whole thing , and I had took pictures of it and everybody was like , oh my gosh , where did you guys get that bench from ? And I was like my husband made it . Oh , he makes benches , how much does he charge ?

I was like they're not for sale , Upon our making Macy's a doghouse .

Okay , well , you're for sure going to make a water sprinkler cover .

Oh , yeah , for sure , I got stuff for that right here .

Yeah , because she already tore that up .

She messed up my sprinklers one more time . That dog be hanging from her hind legs from a tree . Bye .

Bye , that's not nice . No , she wouldn't . That's not very nice , let's see , let's do two more . Okay , what's my go-to order at a restaurant or fast food spot ? Your ?

go-to order .

Mm-hmm .

Again , it's depending on the mood Okay beef , uh fatty fatty brisket and um , well done , steak uh-huh .

And then how do I ? How do I like it fixed up ?

oh , you should extra onion and whatever I don't know whatever I got the dish right , that's enough extra , extra .

It's a brisket with uh fatty flank it's complicated what it is it's not . With extra white onion , extra cilantro , hoisin sriracha , it's not difficult at all .

I'm gonna ask you this one . This one has many answers what is my favorite Type of music or artist ?

Hip hop , kendrick Lamar that's .

That's one of them . You like R&B , you like gospel , my favorite type of music .

You listen to all genres .

You know oldies is my favorite . You know I'm old on the inside .

I know you're old . I said R&B too .

What's my favorite oldies group ? You don't just have one , I do have one .

Five Heartbeats .

That's not a real group . That's not a real group . That's not a real group , that's just a movie . That's not a real group . One of the singers of my favorite group actually , oh my gosh , one of the singers of my that's the first thing that came to my mind .

That really got me . Uh , let's see . Well , this should be an easy one for you . What's a show or movie that I could re-watch over and over ?

and over Charmed . What's Love has To Do With it ? Law Order , svu , golden Girls , golden Girls , madlock In the Heat of the Night .

Why is it only you describing a 70-year-old ?

This is just proof that we were raised by our grandparents .

Why was I watching ? In the Heat of the Night , laying in bed crocheting . Put a cup of tea on my nightstand . Because you're old , but I was so comfortable and relaxed , I said this is what I like to do . I was crocheting , I had my tea and I was watching In the Heat of the Night . It was a good evening for me .

What's my ultimate dream ? Car or toy ?

A toy Motorcycle Car , right now A Tundra .

That's what I want . No , my dream car , what's ? Your dream car . It's not the same , it was one thing . But now I do want a Tundra . Okay that I'm never going to get , as long as she doing the master .

Not . If you want to be responsible , right you can get anything , it's about being responsible .

I've never been . I was never like a Ferrari guy . I've never a Lamborghini guy . No , I've always said that if I ever got money , I would buy a Jaguar F-Type . I don't know why .

That is new to me , you've never said that to me .

Jaguar F-Type .

You literally never said that to me .

The Jaguar F-Type is literally the first car I buy in every car game I get oh .

I mean maybe , but nobody wants to be forklifted out . Um yeah , I think you did pretty well .

Let me ask you one more question , okay do I like to resolve conflict right away , or do or , or walk it out or wait it out .

Oh , walk it out . Wow , um , do you like to resolve it right away , or what ?

Or wait it out .

It really just depends , but I would say overall , you would rather try to work it out . Um but it really depends on the situation , cause it depends on , like , how hot headed you are at the time . So that's what I would say . So let's go ahead and hop on . In . All right ,

for refusing to give my ex full access to my life just because we co-parent .

Okay , I'm a 25 year old female and have a six month old baby with my ex , who's 24 . And we've been trying to co-parent since we split a few months ago . But now he's saying that I'm being an asshole for not telling him everything that I do when the baby isn't with me . We were together from high school from 2015 up until recently .

He just want you back . That's why he want to know who you with .

And that's why he kind of bothered when he tell you that he hanging out with a you jealous , and it ain't working .

He just wants you back .

Look here , you're not the asshole .

You ain't gotta tell him nothing . You ain't gotta mention nothing to him until you get with somebody who's gonna be around the child , like she said . And until that point . Look here .

After I just gave birth to your child .

That's wild .

Men are wild .

I always say , look here , because I had a friend and when I said this to him he stopped talking to me about shit like this and I said , look here , you cannot fault your partner for not engaging in sexual activities with you when they have a medical condition that literally changes the way their brain function . They're not thinking that .

Right and postpartum definitely does that how empathetic , can you be ?

You're being an asshole .

Because it's something that can't be controlled .

Because you're being selfish . In that moment You're thinking about you . You're not thinking about what they're going through . Yeah , but all you focus is on is what is .

What your need is what your little brain is telling you . Yep , that's crazy work crazy work um , am I the asshole for refusing to help my boyfriend's dying mother while planning a trip to europe

Let me tell you what it is I bet money that Liam is the only child .

Probably that's what it sounds like .

Because I think she would have mentioned , like why aren't your other ?

siblings over here , folding 420 clothing items now , since Liam's father is leaving . Yeah , the divorce she's trying to hold on to something and Liam has her and she's using this as a way to keep Liam in her pocket because , if and when Liam finds out the truth and it ain't what she's been saying she's going to lose him forever .

She's going to lose everything .

But she's probably thinking her husband left her . Liam is probably closer to marrying his girlfriend .

And then once that happens .

You know what it is . Once that happens , I'm going to be alone , because , when boys marry , they leave home .

Yeah , I'm going to be alone . They're going to start .

And she's gonna get all his attention . Even though I was there his whole life , I raised him like everything , and now here she comes look here , go see your family , enjoy .

Tell your mama I said hi , enjoy enjoy .

Europe have a great time um . I know the food is trash . You get some comfortable shoes . Oh , that is not true .

I know the food is trash , so the food is trash ?

The food is not trash . You've never even had European food and where's she going ?

Is she going to Europe ?

She's in Europe . She didn't say England , she just said Europe . Oh , okay , well , I can't .

You know , but you're not the asshole .

You're not the asshole , definitely not the asshole Go visit your mom .

Enjoy your time with your mom you know what you know .

I'm right there with you . I'm right there with you I ain't never met a Tanya I can trust , and the last Tanya I encountered that's a whole different .

I ain't never met .

Yeah , I never . Yeah , I'm with you , babe . I don't think I've ever met one that I can trust either , or one that was honest , facts , facts , facts , facts . Enjoy your mom . Enjoy your mom and your family . This has been another episode of life after I do podcast .