¶ Celebrating 100 Episodes
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¶ Life Updates and Birthday Celebrations
, how are you feeling ? I'm feeling good . How are you doing ?
I mean overall , overall , can't complain , but you know , let me stop you . Let me stop you now we're going , but overall we're doing good , vibes only okay , I mean I'm good .
I feel like my vibes are we're doing good vibes usually flying high so how are you ?
how is your week ? Let's get into it .
Uh , my week was good celebrating baby girl's eighth birthday I have an eight-year-old . We're not talking about her oh , I am , because I have an eight-year-old and you can't live , I'm not sure like how , yeah , like because it's crazy , because I just gave birth last week .
That's funny , because time says differently yeah , and she's eight already .
So I'm not sure like if it's a phenomenon or something , or like how that works .
Hello to kujay . What do you think ? Bye , something's a phenomenon or something , or like how that works . Let's ask .
LL Cool J . What do you think Bye ? Something like a phenomenon . Yeah , so my baby is eight and Eight and great . She's eight and great and that personality .
Great , not gray .
I didn't say gray . And that personality is starting to shine through and her testing more boundaries . She definitely testing and trying to see like if she can outsmart her parents she's definitely and although it gives me a little bit of a giggle and a tickle . Uh , it's annoying as crap and I've been having to lay down a little bit of law with her .
Give her a little bit of scared straight medicine um no , but she's good . But we celebrated her 8th birthday over the weekend and she was really , really happy and at her birthday she was like I want to say thank you to my parents and everybody was like , oh , my gosh , oh . And I was like that's my baby .
And I was like you're welcome , not to her parents . You know what she told me today when I picked her up from school . What'd she say ? I picked her up from school and you know , okay , so for her birthday she got lots of gift cards and she got like three Chick-fil-A gift cards , right , and she loves Chick-fil-A .
So I pick her up from school and she goes , she goes , I'm hungry , mom . And I was like , okay , I was like I can get you food when we get home . And she was like but I'm thinking I want to like go get something to eat . And I was like , oh , you go get something to eat . And I was like , oh , you want to go get your like Chick-fil-A ?
And she was like no , I'm thinking I want to go sit down at a restaurant . And I said , girl , you have practice in like 40 minutes . Not going to happen . I was like but you can get your Chick-fil-A , you have money to pay for your own Chick-fil-A . And she was like OK , I think I want to get my Chick-fil-A .
So I was just giving get Chick-fil-A now , before practice , or would you like to get it after practice ? She was like no , I want to get it now because I want to be full when I go to practice . I said , okay , that's fine , we're driving and I always keep my rearview mirror a little tilted down so I can see her . She goes , mom .
I was like , yeah , she was like you're such a great parent to me , aw .
Did you ?
cry . I was like Did you cry ? No , you cried . She was like you're such a great parent to me . You cried and she was like I'll love you forever .
And I was like you get such sweet things ? I get that you have to do whatever your wife says .
You have to take care of your wife . What did she say last night , when I was like you were annoying me and she was telling you you had to give me my space and be respectful .
Sometimes you have to get your wife for her own space .
You need to be respectful . I said look here .
She said respect your wife . I said look here , dad , she wants space . If this one thing that we're gonna do is gonna is ride for her mama , that's one thing she goes , she gonna ride for her mom . She stands up for you too , don't get it twisted she does well , my dad , he whatever , he made black he's mad black , he made by the mail .
He's mad my week was cool , just exhausted I didn't ask you . I know I'm just gonna cut you out . It was . It was exhausting because baby girl getting ready for baby girl's party and her birthday trying to make sure she had everything she wanted .
Everything she wanted .
And I will say that the smile and the look on her face , priceless it was . I was like . That's why I think I told you I said you did good , mom , like you did good Like my baby was on Saturday y'all .
My baby was happy . And what did she tell me ? Because I didn't get the balloon arch right . And I remember I told her I was like I'm sorry , I didn't get your balloon Arch . I was like I kind of like ran out of time . Mommy was falling behind and she literally looks at me and she was like it's okay , mom , I just want the pool of my friends .
And I was like well , I wish you would've told me that , because I would've took some of that food back .
Bye , goodbye . I was talking to Tiffany , her cousin's mom , and she was like she said , venice always tells her Cherry , y'all do too much . She was like y'all be doing too much for my birthday , I just be wanting my friends a little bit of food .
Right .
Y'all be doing too much .
We just be trying to get these kids something great .
We just , yeah , we do Like . I was like obsessed with her decor . I was like I just want to make sure , like her theme comes across , you know .
This girl . She's now officially had three water birthdays . And I think every water birthday is her favorite birthday .
But it's still well . She finally said , like outside of her fourth birthday . This is like this was it ? Yeah , this was .
Because she had the pool .
This was the top tender , right here . You know but her fourth birthday is still a memorable one , so it was a long , a long weekend , stressful week yeah , personal life is life .
But you know , my baby was happy , so we are . I don't know about my wife , but I am still recovering . I am still .
I mean we're still recovering but like Exhausted . I still had to , I still had to like .
Okay , keep moving , you know , yeah , I shut that shit down .
He was struggling today at the gym .
I said I'm here . I'm here , but don't expect it . He's like I'm tired . How are you not tired from the ?
weekend , but it doesn't change the fact that we still got stuff to do , like I mean , I was like I'm in here , don't expect much , I'll be happy . I showed up and we showed up late the hard part is that , oh gosh , my goodness , the kid closed her whole finger in the front door . Do you even know how she did it ?
she was in a rush to her and come back and talk to her granny because you know she felt like she gotta talk to everybody , but she legit .
Oh , maybe when she closed it she was holding on to it because I couldn't like , because normally you just push the door closed the baby closed her whole finger , separated the skin from the , the fingernail blood going everywhere . I was like girlfriend , so we ended up being a little late to school today , but I picked her up from school I checked on her .
I was like how .
I was like how's your finger and she's like my finger . She was like it's good , she's like it's just sore when I pinch it , and I was like , okay , well then don't pinch it and she came home , she did a couple of flips and she was like mom I didn't even feel it because I was like damn , do you put that nerve endings in there this morning ?
she was like you're going to be fine .
But I tell you , don't do her like that when she's having an experience . You can't do that to her .
Look here , you won't give me a son , so I have to give her the best of both worlds , that's absolutely ridiculous .
Don't do that , that's stupid .
Don't do that . You're like Don't do that .
That's stupid . Don't do that . You're like . I can't do it Like because she's being she's not being dramatic .
Her finger feels like it's falling off sir , oh , my God , okay , come on , ma'am come on .
Goodness gracious , what we got . Oh , we got .
Well , anyway , Guys , in honor of episode 100 , we are giving you a .
An extra dose of our juices .
It's like back in . It's like if all y'all out there are old enough to go to Rite Aid , it's like you're gonna double scoop . Remember , at Rite Aid you had to single the double and the triple , the thrifty ice cream , yeah , thrifty ice cream .
Those were good times actually Busting .
Those were really good times when you , you , ice cream on a hot summer day .
And then don't mess around here and get a triple scoop , right .
In a cup . I ain't feeling with that cone . I ain't feeling with that cone .
I'm gonna yeah , I want all my ice cream .
I want all my ice cream . You can put that in a cup Pim , Put the cone on top .
Yeah , but nah , I'm gonna eat all my ice cream dibs , but there's going to be another . Aren't you serious In celebration of our 100th episode ?
Can you believe it's been 100 episodes ? I cannot believe I have tolerated you for 100 times . I have not .
Wow , you tolerated me for 100 times . That's crazy work .
What happens , people , is that we record and then she makes me mad and then she puts it on me and I forget .
Oh my gosh .
That's what happens all the time .
That is not .
That's exactly what happened .
OK , well , we're going to go ahead and we're going to go ahead and get this started , because I have a kid to tend to . So there's that .
I'm trying to make another .
Let's , let's kind of hop right into it .
OK , here we go .
¶ The Suspicious Wife's Accusation
Am I the asshole for telling my wife she can't have it both ways ? We've been married for nine years . We're in our thirties and have two kids . For the most part I think our relationship is great . We don't really struggle with jealousy or insecurity or like usually anything . Until recently .
I know this makes me sound horrible , but I never really got along with one of her friend groups . These are some of her work friends she started hanging out with about a year ago . Nothing really against them , just don't really think it was my crowd . It's two married guys and two women who are divorced , one recently .
So , and the few times I've come along with the wife to hang out with them , it was mostly work talk and I didn't find that particularly interesting . So usually I just stay home , care for the kids to save money on the sitter and let my wife go .
But I was clear with my wife that I just didn't really enjoy that particular group and while I encourage her to go out and socialize , I just didn't want to come .
She was fine at first but then the group started pressuring her into bringing me , as the guys started bringing their wives around and one of the gals found a partner so she was starting to feel awkward coming along without me . We argued for a bit but after a few times she said it was important to her that I come along , so I agreed .
She said it was important to her that I come along , so I agreed . Well , to my surprise , it turned out I get along really well with one of the guy's wives . We just hit it off immediately because we're a very similar type of geek . So we just talk about TV or movies or anime while the others did their thing .
I thought I cracked the code because now , whenever spouses were invited to the hangouts , I could show up and have a good time and I thought it'd make my wife happy . It did not . Instead of her being happy that I'm coming , she's now acting jealous and saying that it's weird how close I'm getting to the woman . I told her that it's not weird .
She's just the one person I get along with well in the group outside of her . Not weird , she's just the one person I get along with well in the group outside of her . My wife asked if I would make more of an effort to not just interact with her and I said no . I again said that the choice was hers .
She could invite me to the hangout or not invite me , and I would respect it . Moreover , I'm not actually close to the woman . I don't have her number , we aren't connected on social media . I genuinely have no contact with her outside of the group .
But if my wife is going to insist that I come to these things , I'm not going to go to force myself into having the worst time ever .
My wife said that I'm an asshole for not putting her needs and wants first , but I told her that's selfish to claim , because she's basically telling me to put myself last regularly so she can both get to bring me to these hangouts but also discourage me from enjoying myself when I come . It seems controlling and petty .
So I just said she can decide if she wants me there or not , but she does not get to dictate how I behave . So am I the asshole ?
Not at all . I don't think so , not at all .
And I think it's crazy work that you said he was being selfish , because the whole reason that he's there is for you and he's giving you the choice he's getting like do you want me to come or not ?
Now look here .
I'm on his side , I'm on his side too .
I'm not gonna , I'm not gonna lie , because we've been in situations , even like with your family , like where it's like I used to tell all the time like it's not that I don't like going around your family , it's not that I don't , I don't have like much in common yeah , like somebody that you vibe with right so like when , the , when , the , when the few are
there that I vibe with . I'm there and I'm interacting with them and I'm cool with that Because I vibe with them Right . So I get that . And she only has a problem with him vibing with the one individual because it's a woman .
Because it's a woman , yeah . If it was a dude he was digging out , she wouldn't care . She wouldn't care If it was the interesting .
You guys have similar interests . Yes , now look here . So that's where the insecurity kind of comes in what's her name on the that we , uh , we're talking today . Who the the one that on bench press ? Jen the one with the curly hair , jen . Um , so , like jen , today I was like jen . I'm loving the shirt . Yeah , it was a naruto shirt .
Yeah , that's it , yeah I don't take offense to that . I know you don't , but I'm saying like it's like when you find someone that's like in your niche as far as like your hobbies and your interests , right , you're going to be excited . Because now you're , because you're talking about something you're passionate about what ?
somebody else is passionate and then I can also enjoy my time here , because without this interaction I don't want to be here anyway . It's like . So now I can have an interaction and interact with them . Even if you're not amongst the group , you're still amongst the group .
Look here , my wife knows I'm an Eagles fan . I don't come here and talk about day-to-day team activity . My wife , I'm like babe . If I said babe , they cut someone .
So you're like , okay , what was his ?
position . So now , like you , wanted me to hang out with your people , right , I found my person inside your group , inside the group , and that's the other problem . It was my person , Right . So look , sir , you're not an asshole ?
Yeah , you're not the asshole at all , I agree .
Look here and look here , and I think he's going above and beyond to protect her feelings because , like he said , I have no contact with this person outside of the group setting .
But I think from her perspective she just don't like the idea of watching him laugh , cackle and giggle and have similar interests with another woman . They say you can't have cake and eat it too , kate and Edith too . No , you cannot . You cannot have cake and Edith , but ain't that what you're supposed to do . Bye , bye , that's what Trey said .
All right , am I the asshole for calling out my cousin when she tried to blame her body odor on me ? I'm an 18-year-old female from Ontario , canada , and my cousin is a 19-year-old female and she's from Florida , the USA . I'm staying with her family in Florida .
We were out at midday at an outdoor restaurant and my cousin's boyfriend who's 20 , was to meet us . My cousin had a sweaty body odor but she had an active day . My boyfriend , my boyfriend kissed me . Let's see . Oh yes , the boyfriend kissed my cousin and she introduced us at the table . He made a face when I was looking away .
My cousin tried to whisper in his ear that the smell he was smelling was from her . She said her name , the cousin's name . I said the smell is not for me . The boyfriend got his nose close to my cousin's upper body and smelled her . He kissed her on the forehead and told her it's humanizing when such a beautiful woman gets all smelly .
She laughed awkwardly on the ride home . She told me that I unnecessarily embarrassed her . She said I broke girl code . Am I the asshole ?
No , you're not going to blame your BO on me .
But I think you're asking . But I love how he tried to still make her feel comfortable by making it like a joke , Like yeah , babe , it is you Look here , look here , but it's very humanizing for such a beautiful
¶ Brother Discovers Sister's OnlyFans
woman to have a body odor .
As a man who has been with a woman for two and a half decades , I can honestly say that I have . It's very , very rare that I smell my wife stink .
Even when I'm sweaty in the gym , you don't stink . Did I smell my wife stink ? Even when I'm sweaty in the gym , you don't stink . Yeah , I don't , but I also wear perfume to the gym , so there's that too .
But on the couple of times I've had , I've never been offended by it . I get it . We're all humans . The Lord knows , I know I be stinking Jesus .
We ain't even going to talk about it .
Okay , calm down . You got a little too excited .
Calm down Because I know like when I'm out especially if I'm doing like yard work or anything in the garage . When you're doing something like really , laborious , I know .
When I come in , like making me hug , I know I don't smell the best , yeah .
I mean , I don't think anybody would if you've been outside working all day , that's crazy .
I don't understand why she had to say she's Canadian I don't know if's your asshole at all um , and I don't think he embarrassed her and I fuck girl code . I don't , I don't . I don't understand what's the so girl code was . She was just supposed to accept to be the single and make her look , I'm not .
She was just basically supposed to take one for the team , like listen if you and I know that I'm the smelling one , but I want to tell him that , like you're he can smell you . I was just gonna say that he's sitting next to you . He , he kissed you .
I'm pretty sure he smelled you my thing is if that was a concern , why are you didn't freshen up before you got together , that's , she took you a whole bath . I don't know if the hoes on figueroa could take whole baths at 7-eleven . You can too .
I can't okay , here's one . This this one was screenshotted in by a follower , ok , so she may have seen it somewhere else , I'm not sure , but this is what she sent in . I need help . I've got a faceless OnlyFans . Nobody knows it's me . Yesterday I asked my brother to borrow his phone because mine was dead . He gave me his passcode .
I made a quick call to my baby's daddy . Then I saw an email pop up labeled subscription renewed , with my OnlyFans username . My heart dropped . I went into his safari , pulled up the site and it was me . My own brother is subscribed , not just subscribed . He's one of my biggest tippers . I feel absolutely sick . I can't stop thinking about it .
He doesn't know it's me , but now I do . I don't know what to do . Do I block him and keep my anonymity , or let him keep tipping because he's just another quote-unquote fan ? I've been sitting here in shock , feeling violated , disgusted and confused all at once . This is next level twisted . Do I tell my baby daddy like , please ?
I need some advice okay , I will start by saying that I don't think this is real . Okay , I don't think this is real but I want to answer as if I , if , as if , as if it .
Okay , I think , first it's hilarious . I think first it's hilarious . It's hilarious .
And I thought about this . I said would I ? Now I don't have OnlyFans account so I don't see but would I be able to recognize one of my sisters ? And I don't think I would , because I have not seen my sisters naked .
Nor do you want to see them naked , nor do I want to .
I have not seen my sisters naked , nor do you want to see them naked , Nor do I want to .
But if we're just you know , if you did look at OnlyFans and you were subscribed and there was a particular woman you were subscribed to , Well , I would know because my sister got tattoos . And came to find out that it was your sister .
I'd be disgusted . How would you feel I'd be disgusted ?
okay , but this is wild though but but would you want your sister to tell you , or would you tell your sister you could have kept that shit to yourself ?
I would say tell me okay , because you don't want to keep subscribing , renewing and dipping right , I mean but you're taking care of your sister's household , so you're like helping her through high school , but then you also gotta know that you got right whole year's right .
I think this is funny , right and okay . If this is real , the part about I'm gonna shout out to my baby daddy , what is he gonna do ? He don't your brother , he don't know . Like you cannot put somebody at blame .
No , I don't think she was trying to blame , I think she's just . I think she's just like that conversation's gonna be awkward she's just taken back like , oh my gosh , you know . And then if you do have the conversation , how do you have a conversation with your brother about that like , do you sit him down and be like , hey , bro , are you like on OnlyFans ?
like that .
I would say just block him , or that's what I was gonna say just block him . I would just block him so that way you can .
He got them screenshots anyway , so just know that .
I mean , she didn't specify what she does on OnlyFans .
She's faceless , to my knowledge like . Onlyfans isn't just like she busting it open 2D stuff .
She busting it wide open that's probably why she felt disgusted her brother was seeing all her stuff .
Oh wow , it's crazy work it's probably like Arby's down there too , because she's got a baby . Daddy , she got a kid . She didn't put the kid out .
Why , Maurice ?
We have the meat .
Arby's , we have the meat . I can't . You're terrible , that's wild .
I don't think that's real , though . Okay , you think's why ? I don't think that's real though , okay , you think it's real .
You think that's real . I mean , you never know . I think it's very far-fetched , but I don't , I don't know . Okay , all right ,
¶ Spouse Sneaking Out at Night
um , am I overreacting ? My wife has been sneaking out of bed at night and I finally followed her . Now I can't look at her the same , okay , would I be an asshole for confronting her ?
Okay .
I'm a 33-year-old male . I've been married to my wife , who's 31 , for five years . Things have always been good . We laugh a lot , our intimacy has been solid and never had a reason to not trust her . But for the past month she's been waking up around 2 to 3 am and slipping out of bed .
At first I thought maybe she was having trouble sleeping , but she's always tiptoeing and closes the door quietly like she doesn't want me to notice . Last night my gut wouldn't let me ignore it anymore , so I pretended to be asleep and I followed her .
She went into the living room with her phone , sat on the couch and just in her robe , and started whispering into her AirPods . I couldn't hear anything , but I definitely caught her laughing softly and at one point she said I can't talk long , he's asleep in the other room .
My first thought was maybe she was talking to her parents because they live overseas , so the time difference would make sense . But she hasn't mentioned calling them lately and honestly , we rarely talk about them unless I bring it up . The entire thing just seemed and felt off . I froze . I wanted to walk in and confront her , but instead I just stood there .
She eventually came back to bed , crawled up next to me like nothing happened this morning . I asked casually if everything was okay and she just smiled and said yeah , all is good . Now I feel sick . I love her more than anything , but I can't shake what I heard . Am I wrong for wanting to demand her phone ? Or would I be overreacting ? And I'm reading into .
Who is she talking to ? We got to you don't know who she's talking to , so instead of going straight to having to go through her phone . I would just ask her point blank first .
I would just ask her straight up yeah , straight up and then , if that still doesn't , satisfy you , and I want to know why you can't talk to her . Because that right there is suspicious .
Suspicious Because if you weren't someone , you uh , it was okay to talk to you when you could talk to her for as long as you want , but you creep out of bed in the middle of the night doing whole activities , she doing whole activities whole activities .
Why does it have to be ?
because hold all your friends and hold all your enemies what if she's planning like a big surprise ? Yeah , that's what ? Okay , shoot her bell , here we go maybe she's planning like you're gonna go her gonna uh that girl call we talked about earlier . Go ahead and shoot her bail . Go ahead and shoot her bail .
Maybe she's planning a really big party .
Oh , that's why she had to fondle her robe a little bit . She didn't fondle her robe .
She put her robe on to exit the bedroom she didn't want to be around the house just in her nightie . It's probably cold . There's no telling where they live . I mean , you have to think about this in a 360 . You know what I'm saying .
Yeah , she 360 fucking .
Bye , okay , but in any case , I me personally I would simply ask her hey , I overheard you on the phone last night . Who were you talking to ? Okay , just like that , okay , okay .
And then after that I would ask her well , I've noticed that you step out of the bedroom or say that first , I noticed that you like step out of the bedroom a couple of nights a week .
Like who are you talking to on the phone ? You want to ward it nicely .
Yeah , you know , because you don't want to , you don't want to come off like accusing right off the top because you don't know what it could be .
Fuck that no-transcript .
And then , if she don't want you to look at the phone , you're not helping my nerves .
Ding dong .
You're not helping my nerves , ma'am .
Ding dong , because now you don't want to give up the phone .
and if you , don't want to give up the phone . But what if she says you have to respect my privacy ? Okay , that's I . I I hear what you're saying , but I'm coming to you with an issue and it's like we're gonna have to come to it .
I'm not asking to have full , like look through everything , I just want to check out what you're telling me , that's all is that so ?
I mean , that's what I would do , that's what you would do , that's what I would do , okay but you know I'm me .
so yeah , whore , bye your mama . Wow , let's see . Let's do a couple of more . Okay , am I the asshole for giving my pregnant girlfriend an ultimatum ?
Okay .
My girlfriend Jen and I have been together for four years . Back in April , two great things happened . We found out Jen is pregnant and I closed on a house for us to move into . We found out Jen is pregnant and I closed on a house for us to move into Our family and friends know about the pregnancy , including Jen's best friend from her childhood , amanda .
Okay , I will admit I never liked the dynamic between Amanda and Jen , but it didn't really affect our relationship , since Amanda lived across the country . After finding out about the pregnancy , amanda decided to move back home . We live in Jen and Amanda's hometown . Amanda has been back since late May and all hell has broken loose .
Jen has always felt a little self-conscious in our relationship . I work construction and I do personal training . She feels intimidated by small girls , but I have no idea why . She is a sexy , curvy woman . Amanda has done nothing but play into Jen's insecurities and anxieties .
Since being back , jen and I have never been the tracking location couple or looking through phones couple . We always considered that a red flag in a relationship . Amanda has convinced Jen that she needs to start doing both , so she's been looking through my phone on a regular and finding nothing .
I have communicated my hurt and frustration and that I think she needs to distance herself from Amanda . She kept rebuttaling my concerns . About two weeks ago , jen again asked to look through my phone . I told her in no uncertain terms that this will be the last time she looks through my phone .
If she again sees nothing suspicious , she needs to agree to go to counseling and distance herself from Amanda . She agreed , she looked through my phone and found nothing suspicious , but she soon reneged on her promise to do counseling and distancing herself from Amanda . I decided to move out .
We are currently on a month-to-month lease in an apartment until our renovations get done on the house that I bought . I'm staying with a friend until the house is ready and then I will move in alone . Jen has asked me to reconsider and I refuse .
She will likely need to move in with her mother , which is not ideal given the limited space which I feel terrible about for my child . But am I the asshole ?
I don't think so . You don't think she's the asshole .
Like he's the asshole for like putting her out the house though .
No , I don't think he's the asshole for the ultimatum . Oh , okay , now that's the house part . A little much , because she is carrying your child yeah , but that's part of the ultimatum .
The child's part , no , the ultimate . He basically is saying that . I mean he said in no uncertain terms that if she asked to look through the phone again and she didn't find anything , she would agree to distance herself from Amanda and also do counseling .
As soon as she found nothing .
She didn't do it , so he's like in his perspective I paid for the house . I bought a house for you , the baby and myself , but nonetheless it is still my house .
I still don't think he's an asshole . Okay , because don't think he's an asshole . Okay , because she Renigged On the terms .
She agreed to the terms To get what she wanted .
And then backed out Mm-hmm . So this seems like a lack of accountability
¶ Pregnant Girlfriend and Toxic Friend
on her part . Okay , and I'm hopefully a man that has room for her and the baby . He sounds like he's going to be a great father .
I think it could also be one of those things where Amanda is jealous and Amanda is jeopardizing Jen's situation and Jen can't see it , because Amanda really wants Jen's position .
Oh , come on now , because we all know , you know , I like it when you get messy .
We all know that that is a real thing Right . And so now all of a sudden , you know she's back in the mix . She's back home putting all these ideas in Jen's head , and then Jen is pregnant . That's true , so that's also playing a major part with her hormones .
You know what Jen probably been telling Amanda , how amazing he is .
She probably has . And it's like even when she told her like oh my gosh , we're pregnant because Jen lived across the country , because I thought the flying back was weird , but she didn't fly back , she moved back .
I thought that was weird . Personally , I said that's weird .
Like I love you , we besties and all . I'm going to come visit for like a month , but I'm going back home Because I couldn't figure out why she had to move back .
I was like to me that's weird .
Just because your best friend is pregnant , yeah , okay . So for me , like we don't know all the details around it , but you know , taking matters into my own hands , that's what I would say . But I think Jen probably on some level , is jealous , most definitely , or Amanda is jealous of Jenen .
And , like oprah said , you cannot be friends with people who even have an ounce of jealousy or anything towards you . Not , she said , not even with you . Good damn bye . Good damn bye , sir , damn bye . Why are my friends with you ? But , like she said , not it not , not even in one ounce and I think , uh
I think jen's got herself one of them friends , unfortunately it's a lot of things I'm I'm confused why she had to move back , because it seemed like that she moved back and then just started shit , just basically just started stirring the pot she did , and , and the poor girl is pregnant , so it's not that hard to do , and that's what I'm saying , and then now
her hormones . I'm saying , I'm thinking jen is pregnant , she not in her right mind because lord knows y'all wouldn't be and then , like y'all going through pregnancy , y'all going through so , and then like he said , y'all going through pregnancy .
Y'all going through so much . And he said he's a trainer . So Amanda's probably like oh my gosh Girl , do you trust him being around ? All those like thick skinny girls ?
Because Jenna's , like I'm already . I was already a bigger girl , which I like them thick too . He said she was curvy . He said he meant that Bye and and he said she's sexy eight . She said so , she like . So Jenna's like I'm over here getting bigger and he around all these guinea bitches training all day , Cause he in it , yeah See .
That's what Amanda did . She came in and she got a big wooden spoon and that's the thing about .
That's the thing about insecurities . It's like that's the .
That's the thing about having sorry ass friends . Um , okay , here we go , let's see we can do like one more . Okay , am I the asshole for telling my daughter how much older boyfriend isn't welcomed in our home
¶ 44-Year-Old Dating 20-Year-Old Daughter
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Okay , I'm 48 . My husband is 46 and we have a 20 year old daughter , whose name is Ellie , who is currently on vacation from college . About five months or so ago , ellie told us that she had had a new boyfriend . We'll call him Tom .
This came rather out of nowhere and out of the blue , as Ellie hadn't mentioned seeing anyone or that she was dating , but both my husband and I were supportive and happy for her . However , ellie was strangely secretive about the whole situation . Usually she's an open book , especially with me , and would always share details of her personal life .
On this occasion , she wouldn't show any pictures and we knew next to no information about Tom or other than that they met at a party through mutual friends . Ellie spent the past month of her vacation in college in her college town and the plan was always for her to come back this weekend .
Ellie asked if she could bring tom with her for a few days on the trip , as they were getting pretty serious and she wanted us to meet him . Although we mentioned that we barely knew anything about him , ellie expressed that we would be surprised and that we would love him , given he's clearly an important part of our daughter's life .
We agreed and said we looked forward to spending the weekend with them together . Yesterday morning we went to pick up Ellie and Tom from the airport to drive them to our place and we were shocked . We knew instantly that Tom was much older than Ellie and he certainly wasn't a college student .
I was just in a state of surprise , but I didn't want to cause a scene and told my husband to do the same . We drove home , but it was a frosty journey , which Ellie commented on . When we arrived , my husband point blank asked Tom how old he was . Tom said he was 44 . Shit . I was immediately disgusted .
He's only two years younger than my husband and old enough to be Ellie's father . My husband continued to interrogate him , asking him how they met , the whole background , etc . Ellie explained that it was at a party and Tom was there because he was well known around town and they realized that they had a lot in common and hit it off from there .
I really didn't want to hear anymore and my husband told Tom to leave . Ellie shouted and said how unfair it was and we hadn't even given Tom a chance and that he would make her happy . I'm sure he would . Tom could sense the tension , so left and Ellie followed right behind him .
I texted Ellie to tell her that we'd love to see her and to come over to discuss the situation . She asked if Tom was welcome and I said that he was not . Therefore , after labeling me a judgmental asshole , she told me she wasn't coming and that they would be staying at a local hotel and catching up with friends .
I feel terrible about the whole situation and I don't want to lose my daughter over this . My husband isn't budging at all and says that he would have to be held back if he ever saw that man again . Am I the asshole for saying that he isn't welcome or did I not do the right thing ?
You're not the asshole .
I think that's a genuine concern .
Here's why I'm saying you're not the asshole , you're not the asshole . Yeah , I think that's a genuine concern . Here's why I'm saying that that's all .
You're not the asshole because you said at the end , your husband is emulging , because that means that if tom showed back up , he said he , your husband said you're gonna have to hold me back .
It's gonna be some problem swinging on him , so you have to think you have to think about your husband , because your husband well you may be able to work up and come around to it your your husband said I don't give a damn , absolutely not . And I'm on your husband's side .
He said , not us being two years apart . Sir , she's 20 years old , absolutely not .
Because at first I'm looking at myself like how do you have daddy issues ? What did I do ? I'm still with your mama . Why do you have daddy ? Why are you bringing this ?
old mama to my house . I don't think that's how that works . All the time , guys .
This is weird . It brings me back to that . It really is a delicate situation , though .
It is because he's 24 years her senior , Like that's wild . I mean , she couldn't hear the house . He was 24 years old when she was born .
I thought he was pedophile 24 when she was born . I'm sorry you can't say that out loud . Pdf file .
Okay , but that brings me . That brings me to um . There was a viral clip that was going around a few months ago and , you know , the guy was on the street asking uh men like you know what's the the age range they date ?
And he was a man in his 40s and he said that he wouldn't date anybody older than like 25 and the reasons that he gave that he wouldn't date a woman who was like at that 25 mark he said his words were um , because he can show her things and he wants to be like .
He wants to be the person to give her her experiences , like if she's never been on a trip . He wants to be the one to take her on that trip .
He wants to be the one to buy her a first . You know what that ?
sounds like to me Sounds like grooming .
Yes , and it sounds like I have nothing to offer women my age because they can see through my bullshit Right .
So I can dangle pretty things in front of a young girl and she's going to think the world of me .
And I will call him . And that's what it is . You want to think the world of me and I would call him a bitch too .
He wants her to look at him like you are my everything , like my man , my man , my man . But women in his age group are going to require more than you taking me on a trip or buying me a handbag or like doing , doing surface level shit .
I always say that a woman that got her shit together can require a lot more from the woman that started out .
But , but that's what they know .
I think it's I think it's .
I think it's the lack of life experience , and not to say that 20 year olds are , just like you know , dumb they're not you know very smart right , and I like to think that I was a pretty responsible , smart 20 something year old too . However , I also know , now , going into my 40s , looking back on my 20s , you don't know what you don't know .
And when you're dating someone who has a little bit more life experience and who actually knows some things . You can seem like the dynamic between somebody who has a 24 year gap in between them is crazy .
That's a lot , but I can see the appeal in it .
From her perspective dating a more older , mature , experienced man , her experiences with him is a lot different , right .
But then his experiences with her and when Grandpa picks up his newborn from kindergarten up .
But think about it right If you're a 20-something , right .
I'm not going to think about it .
Well , I'm just saying from my perspective as , like a girl being 20 , dating someone who is 44 , if I'm , like , physically attracted to him , I don't see him as 44 . But the experiences that I have with him , like even going on dates , our dates are more intellectual , our dates are more thoughtful and intentful .
And then I look at the boys or the young men that are in my age group and that just ain't happening . But my mental level is at that capacity that would be very alluring for me , right , and if he's established , like he's already established , he's got some life experience , and then for him it's like everything is still new for her . She's still in college .
She don't know what it's like to be still new for her . She's still in college . She don't know what it's like to be on her own yet .
Like .
I can mold her , I can shape her .
First of all , I'm going to just say this If you are a 40-year-old man walking into college parties , you're fucking weird .
No , he's well known in the town .
That's because he's going to college parties .
He's weird college parties he's weird , but we don't know he might own the catering company or something that's weird no , that's weird , you don't know why . He's well known I , as a 30 Tom might be that dude .
As a 39 , I'm 39 .
Uh huh , proudly , 39 you're not gonna go party with your niece .
I don't wanna party with nobody who ain't at least 31 .
I want to party with people who get tired and that's kind of a stretch .
I want to party with people who get tired , people who ain't got to work in the morning , who got shit to do tomorrow . Right , I'm not up to 2 , 3 in the morning , no more .
Nobody do I want to be . I get tired at 7.30 .
I'm ready to lay down at 7.30 .
At 7.30 . I'm now at 730 . And 730 . Tom Rader is 730 . Tom .
Ass is weird . You think he's weird ?
But what if he's like one of those young 44-year-olds ?
He's weird , he's weird .
And then I love how she's like we're calling Tom .
Tom sounds like somebody who peaked in his 30s . And he's still like , and he's still like and he's trying to ride it while he can . But what if ?
he's like one of those 44 year olds where he don't feel 44 and it just sucks that that's the age he is , but really he's like 28 at heart , will you go out there and get you another 44 year old that don't feel , 44 , that's active .
Get somebody that's 38 , at least 24 years is wild .
He couldn't help who he fell for they hit it off .
All right , I'm teasing you .
How would you feel if Phoenix at 20 ?
brought home a 44-year-old . I'm shooting the nigga . It's on sight . We're not even talking , I'm swinging . I'm swinging , but she's like dad , I love him and you're going to love him when we're both in jail , because I'm going to whoop his ass .
And then he's going to hit you with she's a grown woman . Oh then I got to get involved .
See , see , now you got mad huh , because that just rubbed me the wrong way .
Because I feel like men like that would say some shit like that . They'd be like but she's an adult , she's a grown woman . If you know , wrong woman , if you , that's right , that's right , that's right , that's right that motherfucker , that , uh , that he was from some country .
He was like well , the legal age of consent here is 16 , so I can find a 16 year old attractive and I said you can get your ass kicked too , go ahead I mean , if they change the legal age to marry 14 , what you go ? I'm whooping , I'm shooting I'm shooting , I'm shooting , I'm shooting , I'm shooting . I ain't playing that shit .
Could you imagine I would be like Phoenix . What in the world , in what capacity were you guys , even in the same vicinity , for you to even have a conversation where you think you are in love with this man If they think I don't play about you , I don't play about Phoenix . Lord , protect my baby .
Protect me , Because I can't Because I'm look here I may not look good in orange , but I will rock it . Bye .
I may not look good in orange . However , I can make it work .
Alright , guys , we're going to jump into a new segment here .
¶ Fan Comments and Show Wrap-Up
Oh , we are , yeah a bit to a new segment here .
Oh , we are . Yeah , what's the new segment and I'm gonna point out each week I'm gonna pick two comments and I want to read them . That were my favorite comments that I and I . Honestly it's kind of hard because y'all be commenting , we can't keep up with all these comments y'all , but y'all are funny , hilarious and we absolutely love it .
Now this goes back to the reaction video about how the son didn't want nothing to do with her . Then he got sick . Now he want her to help pay . Oh , yeah . And this young lady's comment was stand on his words like a podium . And I said look here . I have never heard a better way to say her . I've never read a better way to say stand on business .
And that was from a linear photography .
She stands on his words like a podium .
If my money wasn't good , and she yelled it , she yelled it , she yelled it .
If my money wasn't good , then my money ain't good now .
Okay .
And the last one , this one , I laughing . Okay , this is about , uh , the fort , the husband with the fort , the fiance with the forts and the shit with the door open oh gosh . She said I can't let Y'all Not Tootie Booty . Y'all be taking me , y'all be taking me out .
Nikki Lou 11 , not Tootie Booty Let .
Tootie Booty go .
Let Tootie Booty go . Oh my god , I should put that on a shirt .
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