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spicy, spicy episode. We told you all in our intro that we were going to have a spicy podcast and we have went all over the spectrum with different people in different industries, but we have never had a dominatrix before. So this is going to be very exciting and Jim and I is going to introduce and get us going. Yes, we have the beautiful Goddess Witch with us today. I have known you for Oh well over a year, maybe even like two or three years at this point.
I feel like for so long. Dominatrix witch, master of all things welcome. Hi, I'm so glad to be on this show. This is definitely going to be one of your spicier ones, I can tell. So this is the episode that you need to be on Patreon to see the visuals because there is a dungeon and neon colored utensils all over the place and there are visuals that you will
be missing out. So this is a good time to literally go down to the info section and subscribe to one of our Patreons, because this is where we're heading is a more visual experience. So thank you. Got a switch for bringing the visuals. So let's get started and just go ahead and give us a little insight into your world. Oh gosh, the insight into my world. Well, yes, I am definitely sitting here in my dungeon right now and I am surrounded by all
kinds of fun things. There's a cage right here behind me that usually has a submissive taking a nap or being punished or begging to worship at my feet inside of that. That's the missive currently is over here being my Vanna White handing me thing while I'm talking to you. And next to me I've got all kinds of of fun little toys and visuals that we'll be going over at some point in the evening.
There are things that cause pain and things that cause laughter and things that cause me joy, mostly. But we have we have so many different kinds of things that you would never expect to see in a dungeon. So I'm really excited to dive in and show you guys everything here. Wow, I am so excited. Before we proceed, was that an elephant shrunk? That was a rain stick from Chile.
Wow. It's actually made from cactus and it's got so initially when rain sticks are made, they have basically the spiny parts of the cactus that are sticking out that you would injure yourself on. They are shoved into the cactus and then the beads or crystals or whatever it is that's inside the cactus, rain stick will go down against those finds inside and that's what's making the
noise here. Well, this particular rain stick has been used in impact place so many times that the spikes and things have actually started to come back out. So this is actually not just a rain stick anymore. This is kind of used like a baseball bat and impact play, and it does cause a little bit of marking and sometimes some little blood splatters can happen if we go hard enough with these, but it's also really soothing. So you're like, soothing you with a sound stick.
I'll be you absolutely sound stick. And you'll love it. And you'll be in bliss the whole time you're bleeding. It's fine. OK, I like where we're going with this. OK, so I just want to put this out there for everyone listening. So I have like been receiving all these anonymous questions recently and a lot of people really wish I would get into dominatrix stuff or only fan sex
work just in general. And I'm like, not even really excited by everything they're saying except being mean to men. That sounds cool. And being worshipped. I like that one too. So I'm like, maybe I could work with this. And then Jim and I had mentioned before about you coming on to the podcast. So I just want to say, every time I see you in Gemini's chat rooms, it's just like titties and dildos and other things.
And it it'll just literally, like, I'll open her chat for five seconds and there's titties in the sunlight, titties out of nature, like out like out and about. Just, I don't know. So if you all really like, don't you ever have your own? Like, well, I didn't get to do my homework because I was gonna do it. Somebody's there. But I have a lot of questions 'cause I'm I'm vanilla so I don't know a lot of things that I'm interested in learning. All right. So where were you going with that?
You said, don't you have your own? What were you gonna say? Like platform that you that you're putting your that's what you sent to us. Like your your. Pet life. Oh, right, right. Oh, yeah, yeah. It's basically my kinky Facebook. Yep, Yep, That's where my my titties and my pussy, they hang out there all day and and like you know all of the the random inbox messages being like, hey, I wanna suck on your toes and drink your golden shower piss all all day long, every day.
It's it's pretty awesome. No, I actually. Really. Have you ever sold anybody your pee? Have I? That's a loaded question. Have I sold anyone my pee? Well, that's not technically legal, but what I do is let people lay under me while I unleash my golden nectar, and if they happen to get a whole bunch of it in their mouth and drink it and and fall into a blissful state, that's not my fault. I mean, it happens, sure. Do you have to do anything in preparation for doing that type of play?
Like do you eat certain types of food so that like like people will eat different types of food so there come taste different, right? Like, do you eat different types of food so that your golden nectar tastes like honey? Oh gosh. So I actually take chlorophyll, and it's one of the the main things that I attribute to having a little bit less body odor than a lot of people. I think it makes my pussy smell great, It makes my breath smell great, it makes everything taste great.
And my sub will confirm that my pee tastes a lot better when I've been on the chlorophyll for a while. But I drink a lot of water these days, and you can definitely tell when I don't drink the water because they don't like to put it in their mouth nearly as much. So I would definitely say when we're going to be doing golden shower play, I drink a lot more than a lot more water than anything else, for sure. So is that something that a lot
of people have as a fetish? And because I feel like there are fetishes that people have, but they're keeping them on the DL and like keeping them secret and keeping them in the closet. And I feel like with these anonymous questions I've been receiving, I'm really getting like a scope into the mail psyche. And even, you know, who knows what, who and where and who these people are, 'cause they're
anonymous, I have no idea. And they can pretend to be whatever they want to be. But some of the things that people have said, it's like they're ashamed of it and they're to tell their partner and they thought, yeah, well, because I'm very transparent. Like that's the only reason I'm doing this. It's kind of fun, but I'm transparent. I'm not judging people. Just because I I don't like it doesn't mean that they shouldn't. But also I'm that person.
Like I I'll try almost everything, probably once, and then I'll decide if I like it, and then if not, I really. Think everybody should be that way. Try everything at least once, right? So you touched on so many different things right there in that one thing that you just said that just hits home for why I do what I do. And it's it's the trust building. It's people not having anybody they can go to to talk to you about these things and okay,
listen up, bitch. It is not just the men that are hitting you up in your inbox. And it is not just the men that are hitting me up in my inbox, OK? These women out there have these fetishes and these kinks and these things in their mind that they want to try to. They're not going to go to their husbands or their girlfriends or whoever it is that they're with. Sometimes they're like, Oh my God, I feel ashamed that I really want you to just choke me and call me a little fucking whore.
Like, they want that, right? But they're not going to tell the person that they're with that. So they're going to come to a dominatrix or they're going to hopefully find somebody that they can trust like you, and they're going to go to them and they're going to say, hey, I've got this thing. Am I weird? To my normal And this is what I do as a professional dominatrix, as a lifestyle dominatrix. I'm going to listen to these people. I'm going to talk to them about
their kinks. I'm going to reassure them that these things are perfectly normal. This is all part of your your psychology. This is part of your life, This is part of your spirit, your soul. This is just the nature of life in general. Life is fucking kinky. OK, we are. We are one of those goddamn kinky dramatic plays. What is the existential comedy like? Whatever that shit is, right, Dante's. What is it called? I can't even remember. Existential, whatever that is.
But we're tragic comedy. What was that? I. Said Dante's Inferno. Right, Exactly. But we're we're life is a tragic comedy, right? And if you constantly go through life and you think about all of the things that are in your mind that you think make you weird or you think make you a freak and you just don't want to talk to people, you're going to be living your life in the tragedy part of things. Why not take everything that's in your head?
Why not take those things that you think make you weird and start to explore those things? Talk to people about them. Go out and explore and and do the weird things. Grab the fucking squirting Dick and have a dominatrix cum and stick this thing up your damn ass and squirt cum Lube in it. And you're going to be singing my praises for the next three days and you're going to say, holy shit, I I thought that I was going to go to hell and burn in the fires of whatever because
the pastor said so, right? Oh shit. Our bodies are made to enjoy. Life is made to enjoy. If there's something that you want to try, if you want to try this sharp ass Wartenberg wheel on your skin and you want to feel this going up and down your nipple or your cock or your balls or your pussy lips or whatever, fucking try it. Because chances are you're going to love this thing.
And then I'm going to put some ice on it over word or or afterwards, right over the top of where I've just poked the shit out of you everywhere. And you're going to be singing those praises because that's a whole new sensation. There's so many things that your brain can come up with that it wants to try or that you read in a book. Everybody's reading smut these days, right? These days. Yeah, all the smut that you're
reading. You got the fairies in there and they've got their BDSM stuff and they've got the collars and the leashes and they've got the sloggers and the spanking things, right? Yeah, you got all of this stuff. Try that shit. That smut is there for a reason. That smut is best seller for a reason. Because you guys read this stuff and you're like, Oh my God, I could never. Yeah, you can, you can and you really should. I don't know.
I totally got off on a tangent. So I have no idea if I answered your question, but I do that. I have a lot of questions that Jim and I face. She wants to talk, I can tell. No, I was looking at your face while while they were talking and it was you're like, you were like tranced out and paying so much attention and then you just started laughing and smiling. It just makes you. Because she's picking up like utensils, you all. And this one thing is very
spiky. And then she picked up this other thing that was metal that also looked, I don't know. So I was just observing all of these items and then there's a hot pink dildo right over her right shoulder. There's actually like four of them. I don't know how many there's over there. It's like a whole octopus. There's so many. There's like 42. And I'm just checking things.
She's got like a black light on them and it's like very lit up, like look at my entourage, like, look, the gang is all here. Yeah, I think during the demonstration part I might have to take the phone off the stand and take you around for a little tour. Yes, one of the questions.
So we had compiled questions before we were coming in to do the interview and we sent those out and one of them had been what is the, I think it might have been like what's the strangest request that you had received or something like that. And I was interested in knowing your answer after us just talking about like not kink, shaming and accepting everything
and whatnot. I'd be interested in seeing if you had something that stuck out to you, or if you were like I would never say something is strange. I actually do have a couple of things. One of them, OK, so I had a client who was really into it. Wait for it. Wait, wait for it. Rubber ducks. OK, it's like the kind in the bathtub. Rubber duckies, right? Grab me a handful of those little ducky guys out of there. So basically what he wanted was this entire scene centered
around rubber ducks. OK, so picture me in full Dominix dominatrix gear surrounded by hundreds of little rubber ducks cracking away. I was cracking, right? The rubber ducks were cracking. I was cracking. He even brought his own rubber duck army into the dungeon. I'm. I'm not stating you rubber duck army. OK, The request was for me to incorporate all of these rubber ducks into our session in the
most creative ways possible. When you think about creative ways I could incorporate rubber ducks into a session, think about the places I can stuff rubber ducks. Think about the things I could have someone do with their mouth with rubber ducks. Think about the places I could put rubber ducks all over me, all over them. We had rubber ducks. We had rubber ducks literally coming out the yin Yang all over the sentence. So there I was, commanding this battalion of rubber ducks like a
general. I was using them in ways I never thought rubber ducks can use. We had ducks on strings. We had ducks as impact toys. Ducks were everywhere. I have these cute little glow in the dark duckies right here. These I used as a Ishi Ducky. So Ishi Ducky is basically where you have somebody kneel on a tray of like gravel or beads or something that will make their shins really like Indenti. And it's just it's very unpleasant and uncomfortable.
So this was issued Ducky ha ha ha see what I did there? But these glow in the dark and these made little cute glow in the dark Ducky shaped indents all in the shins because they were on that for 10 to 15 minutes or so. Yes, go. So this person basically was like, you know what? I just want to lay on a pile of Legos for like 20 minutes and then I want the song and Matrix to just beat the shit out of me with these rubber ducks
afterwards. Like. Well. He didn't have anything to do with the ducks that that were like the Legos. That was all me. But yeah, he he wanted the ducks. I am here for that because I would have never thought of that as a kink, but I will ask you a
question. So a while back, my DMS are a crazy place and there was someone that was clearly on drugs, Like their home was a representation of this situation and they had a like hoarding house that they wanted to do, like giant play, like they were trying to pay me. Basically they wanted me to come do methamphetamine with them and be a giant. I don't know this person, Al. And they had some crackhead videos of this other woman.
And I'm talking like I'm I'm saying crackhead because like, I've done drugs before and this bitch looked like a crackhead. Like, it's serious. Wasn't OK. It looks scary. I was scared. They were like stepping on glass and stepping on this little town and stepping on all these crazy things. And is that something that's very common, giant play? Because I'm. Like, yes, I actually have a whole giant test series. Yes, on fat life. On fat life. Yeah, whole giant test series of
photos. It's huge. Yeah, I think literally huge. It's huge. It's huge. Literally, though, it's it really stems from, psychologically speaking, for the giant Test play. A lot of times these semesters really want to feel small and inferior, and the female superiority is their huge fetish. And so when a giant Test appears and can basically do anything they want, they can crush, they can swallow you whole.
The the submissive can be inside of you and like literally they want you to tell stories about going in through your stomach and down through and being digested and coming out your asshole. Y'all they want to be the shit that comes out of your asshole. Like they are that inferior.
So the whole giant says, yeah, the whole giant says does That is just really surrounds itself with that inferiority complex and and wanting to be objectified and and being humiliated and being made to feel small in a lot of ways. That's so interesting. I I would never have thought of that. But also that totally makes sense. I recently saw a girl who I followed that. Does she does sex work?
And she was talking about how men will, not just men, but people will message her and ask her to, like, wear underwear for certain amount of days, whatever. And so she's been like, somebody's asked me to wear like the same underwear for like 2 weeks before. And she's like and I have to have restrictions on things because there does come a sanitation thing.
And so she's talking about how there are some workers who will do things like put tuna juice and microwave it and then send it or things like that because they they want to give them what they're wanting, because they're wanting that fulfillment. But it's also not a sanitary thing that they can actually do. So are there anything like that where you, like, have to make accommodations on things or or you're like, oh, that is something like for the safety and Wellness of you, you can't
choke on my shit. Like what are your things? Well, as far as garments and underwear and things, I also have a limit. Mine is a three day limit and they have to pay dearly for anything past the day for me. So three day limit for me sanitation wise because who wants a fucking yeast infection or UTI from sitting in sweaty? No thank you. So I am very careful with that. I also am really careful to live very authentically.
So I won't sell somebody something that I have told them I've worn for two weeks or whatever and I've just made it smell funny. That's not my jam at all. But I do know people who have done that. I don't encourage that. I think that people will appreciate you more if you'll just be upfront and honest with them. Honestly, I just, I can't. I can't get on board with the other stuff. Look. And then of course I do have my hard limits as far as shit and scat and all of that thing I
won't crap in people's mouth. In fact, I don't do scat things in person. That's a sanitation limit for me. The only scat stuff that I will do is photos and video and even that that's that's going to be you're going to pay me a pretty penny for me to even think about showing you what comes out of my asshole, my golden nectar. That's a whole other story. I will freely splatter that all over your face and the camera. But the rest of it?
No, you're going to you're going to be paying me quite a bit for that, but not in person, because that's sanitation. Y'all nasty, no? So. Heavy. I have a question about safety as far as these people coming to your. Dungeon. Yes, What's your question? What's up with that guard? You got somebody with a machine gun by the door. Like what's up? So we are pretty protected out here at our space, but I do a
lot of vetting beforehand. So and what vetting means basically is I'm making sure that whoever is coming out here to my space, which is called the queendom, I have done my checks and balances. I've seen their Idi have validated that they are an actual human being. I've run a safety check on them for a known sex offender and any
kind of violent crime. So anybody who makes it out here has already gone through a check and there's not going to be anybody out here that poses a safety risk that is known. I have also gone on to their Fetlife profiles or whatever social media they've given me because they have to fill out a very lengthy application to be able to come to my dungeon.
So I've gone through every single social media profile they've given me. I've looked them up everywhere I can possibly look them up. I've contacted their friends. I've contacted people they've played with before. If they've contacted or if they've had a play session with another mistress, they've had to put that on there. They have to give me referrals. They're not coming into my dudge without giving me referrals. I see the look on your face
well. I'm asked that because you're saying like, you know, you call their friends and stuff because like, what if they're like super closet? You know, keeping it hush hush. Oh no, they're friends. That they give me. What if they've never been with a mistress they like, are wanting to keep it secret? You do the background check. It's OK, but you're still letting them come without with that referral on that end like
it's their first time? Yeah, if it's their very first time and they've never had that, never had any kind of an interaction. So they don't have a professional reference to give me. They still need to have some kind of a presence on social media, especially like the kinky social media, because that's usually where I get most of my clients. They need to have some kind of a presence.
If they're a A1 friend profile with one picture and no activity on their profile, sorry, they're not making it out here. I don't care if I've seen it, Your ID, I've run your check. If you have zero activity, that's really sketchy to me. And if there's a way that they still want to get vetted, I will be doing public munches so they can absolutely come to meet me out at a restaurant somewhere where I do that once or twice every couple of months where people can actually come out.
They can meet me in person if they haven't wanted to submit, maybe their IDs. Some people don't want to submit their ID online, so there's ways to meet me. Where if they don't have references to give me, they can still get into my space and I'll be able to feel their energy and see if we're going to be a good fit for working together. Do they pay you to meet for the lunch? They do, yeah. Munches sometimes are free.
If it's like a munch with a whole bunch of people coming, but if they want to do like a one-on-one or a few on one where it's more of like a private meet up, then yeah, they do have to pay for my time for that. If I'm going to leave my home when I didn't already have a munch planned, Yep, they pay for my time. I'm here for it. Were you already into the lifestyle that you're into now when you met your husband? I was.
I was actually in this lifestyle, Oh my gosh, I'm going to, I'm going to out myself here. From the time I was 18 years old and a stripper. That is when I started getting into the lifestyle and I was found by my mentor and kind of led through the ropes over the years. And I did take kind of a break as I grew up and had kids and did those things. I kept things a little bit more private or on the down low or
online type of thing. Not a lot of online, but I did slow way down during the kid year and then after that back to after my kids grew up. Then I was right back into the Dom, the Dom world. And when I met my current husband, he definitely was, I would say, a little shocked and floored when he found out what I did and I didn't do it. That was not like the main thing that I did.
But every now and then, you know, I would go and I would have a client, I would be going off somewhere and I'd be taking my big bag of glass dildos and nipple clamps and things like that. And he's like, what the hell? So I had to complain eventually. So that was a little bit of a shocker when we first met. I love that, though. I think it's so cool to have a partner that's like supportive
of all those things. Because we talked a lot on here about how there's a lot of insecurity and a lot of
partnerships. And so many people, whether it be kink or other things, they will not explore things that interest them or go out and do different things because, well, that person doesn't like me to have time away from them or it'll make them feel like they're not getting enough attention from me. And so for you to be able to physically have a hobby, job, whatever it may be that you are so much to so many people because you're pouring so much
of yourself energetically, I feel like it takes a very specific partnership to be able to handle how much outpouring of energy you've given to others and also how much it pleases other people to receive that energy and and give back to you. Oh yeah, absolutely. I definitely couldn't be as successful doing what I'm doing without a partner that wasn't so supportive of that. And he is not necessarily into the lifestyle to the level that I am into the lifestyle.
Like, he is definitely kinky with me and he is involved with our submissives that we have as well. But he doesn't do scenes or sessions or anything like that and is usually not in the dungeon with me. Occasionally he'll come in if there's a really interesting scene happening or like a bunch of hot chicks in here. She definitely wants to be in here for that. So he'll come in for that for sure.
But yeah, he's super supportive and I can tell him all about all of the things that go on. So he is not into the lifestyle. You've just kind of could swayed him over the line a little bit and have your own thing going, but he doesn't come in and like join the session. Right. Yeah, exactly. He's he's off doing his own thing and he knows all about all of the things and he hears things and he's my support system here. Like when we have our retreats, we just had a kinky retreat here
for the goddess within. And he is chef Sir. He's the one that cooks for everybody. So all the ladies are here and he's cooking his orgasmic whipped cream and all of the things that he's famous for here. So he's definitely as much of A draw, I think, for coming to the queendom as I am and as like Bunny is, because he's definitely famous for catering to us and taking care of us all and and be in that right hand for me. Nice. I love that. That's really interesting.
So what is the one thing that you are wanting to explore for yourself? Is there anything that you haven't tried any, like fantasies that you want to play out? Thanks because I know you're taking requests, but like, what about what you doing? Boo. I actually have a fuck it list on Vet Life. It's my 2024 bucket list of all the things that I want to try, and I've checked off several of
them so far. Recently I've just gotten into rope and rope suspension, and that was on my Fuck it list because I had never been suspended. I had only just barely, barely played in rope, like like tying a couple of wrist things right. And so over the past couple of months I met an amazing rigger who I've become very close with, and he's helping me to learn the ropes too, of learning to tie and whatnot. But I recently experienced my first suspension in rope and which was just absolutely
fantastic. And then I'm getting ready to do, this weekend my very first water rope suspension. So I'll actually be suspended over water, which is terrifying for me because I have a fear of drowning. So this is going to be kind of some fear play for me, and I am not into fear play at all. So this is a new exploration for me. Whereas the rope part isn't new and the suspension part isn't new. Now we're adding in a whole new level, and this is going to be a
little bit scary. And I'm going to be completely tied up and immobilized and like, having to completely trust my rigor and the team around us as we're doing this. That I'm going to be OK. And that they're not going to let me fall in the water. And I'm not going to drown. Because like, I I'm not even going to worry about speaking this into existence. I just feel that one, I'm going to die by drowning. It's just one of those things
I've almost drowned three times. So this is a huge trust exercise for me. Are you going to record that? Yes, for sure. Where do you post that? It'll be posted on Fetlife and I might post it on Facebook, depending on what we're all wearing for the scene. Is that life free? It is free.
Yes. You can pay extra for the videos, it's free for like the photos and the profiles and stuff, but if you want to watch videos it's like $5 a month or I don't remember how much it is but some cheap insane amount. I'm only laughing because of Paige starting to do her hair curl. As you're talking. Is that free? Like, is that free? Like, I just. I feel like it's so funny because there's been quite a few episodes recently where she's been like, no, like, what if this is like my calling or
something? And like these questions are like bringing this out. And so just being like, I can see her like light bulbs and things like while you're talking and she's like, what's funny to me too is that, and I I've talked about this, but when we first started the podcast, Paige and I didn't know each other super well. We were like, still getting to know each other and like, really
enveloping our friendship. And I have always thought that she was just like the most sweet, innocent, like little cherubs. And then you start talking to her and she's like, I I love men with a record and a throat tattoo. Like, I'm really into, you know, ABC and D and I'm like you just, you know, you just never know, looking at people as you walk past them, what somebody's into.
Oh yeah, 100% some of the people that come into this dungeon that you wouldn't think they look like the most innocent little schoolgirls, and they are the sluttiest, trampiest little fucking whores that you would ever imagine that want you to shove everything up their asses and in their mouth at the same time. It's insane, yeah. I know, like we talked about safe words earlier privately. So do all of your clients that come in have a safe word? How often is the safe word card pulled?
Yes, everybody that comes in here is required to have a safe word and if they don't have a safe word we have a standard set of safe words that we use. So that is definitely not a negotiable thing. Even for scenes which I typically don't practice, the consensual non consent type scenes where they tell you even if I say my safe word don't stop, I'd I'm not particularly fond of those types of things so
I don't usually do those. However, there have been instances where I have my deceptions and done those types of scenes. But even for those types of scenes where they're saying they're safe word and they've told you don't stop even when there is a backup safe word where it is. OK, I'm not going to stop when you're saying you're safe word, but if you really need me to stop, say you're fucking the safe word which is a whole other one. So there's always a safe word
for sure 100%. Well, this is the second part of that question. How often do people pull that card? Not very often. I I tend to, I tend to be able to judge when a person is at their limit fairly well and I can back down enough to where they don't get to that safe word to where they're going to stop. And it depends on what which safe word we're talking about
where. If we get to the middle safe word, which is usually like yellow, they might need me to slow down or back off, but usually we have hand signals as well. It'll show me and I can read body language and I can feel heat where I'm applying my impact play, so I can tell when they're kind of getting to a threshold where they might get close to a safe word. So it's not too often when that does happen, but it certainly
has happened. Of course I'm not immune to it and and it's not necessarily a bad thing when people are calling their safe word you. Actually, it's a good thing when that happens because it means that they're feeling like they can trust you enough to openly communicate and be like, oh, we just passed the line, let me call that safe word. Whereas a lot of times when they don't feel safe, they won't use their safe word. And that is really unfortunate
when that happens. And I have heard a lot of stories about things like that happening. So that's one of the things that I try to foster here when people are in the dungeon is please, if we get close to your limit, communicate that to me. If you need to use your safe word, please scream it out. I'm OK with that. I'm not going to get mad. Do you have conversations afterwards after somebody tells you you know they're safe word
or whatever? Do you then have to have a conversation where you're like, OK, what part of this is something that you're not into, and is there something that you're wanting me to do differently? Or do you just stop that activity entirely and move on to something different? So depending on the situation and where the safe word was called and which safe word, if they've called their ultimate like I've called red, the scene is just over and we stopped the scene.
If they've called yellow, usually we'll just back off and we'll move on to something else. And then we'll have the conversation afterwards during the aftercare part where we're we're talking and we're decompressing and we're processing. But that's after I've taken care of their other needs first, their emotional needs, their immediate physical needs and things you want to let them kind of come down and process before you even think about asking questions about things like that.
But yeah, you absolutely will go and process through every single thing in the scene. If they need to process through those things, especially if a safe word was called, you really want to find out where that. And usually when a safe word is called, it's that an impact was a little bit too hard. It just it just passed the limit that they hadn't quite gotten to yet. Maybe their skin wasn't quite warmed up enough, something like that.
I don't typically get to a safe forward limit being called where it's. It was an unexpected thing that happened in a scene that caused them to call the safe board, because I do very thorough negotiations beforehand, so I usually will know what they're OK with and not OK with on a
pretty deep level. So usually a safe word for me being called is more just like a pressure thing or a sensation that maybe they didn't, they didn't quite enjoy as much as they thought they did or something like that. Or sometimes they might have just gotten overwhelmed with sensations. I have a lot of so spicy people come in here, so sometimes the they can get really overwhelmed with the stimulation and all of the different sensations
happening at once. So sometimes they do want to stop a little bit early if they're getting a little bit overwhelmed. But usually we can get to the point where the sensations are actually calming and letting them to, letting them push past some limits and boundaries and see how far they can actually push their body and their mind to open up at which whereas they typically would not be able to do that in any other kind of space. So this is kind of like sex therapy?
It's a lot like sex therapy. It's like sex therapy and kink therapy all rolled into one. It's exercises and trust. It's exercises in pain tolerance. It's exercises in exploring things you never even knew existed. It's it's so many things, so many different types of therapy. I. Have a trigger warning question. People who have been sexually assaulted that want to explore the lifestyle or had been forced into lifestyle at a young age, I know that that affects people's
brain differently. I know that I was groomed and taken advantage of, you know, at a very young age as well, 12 years old. So that changes your brain chemistry to be more boy or girl alert or more hormone alert or more aware of sensations that you weren't aware of could be fulfilled. How do you think that affects people who join the lifestyle? Or how do you think that pushes people naturally towards a lifestyle because of the exploration they've experienced as a child?
That's an interesting question. I feel like a lot of people who have experienced some kind of sexual assault or any kind of trauma like that, who end up in the lifestyle are doing so because they are trying to heal that part of their child, their inner child that was harmed back then. They are definitely looking for protection. They are looking for somebody that they can trust they are looking for. A lot of times, for me in particular, I end up being a mommy Dom to a lot of people.
I'm healing inner children of my submissives that come to me and I am also healing inner child, the inner child of myself because I also had a lot of trauma relating to my parents and my mother especially, and my father especially both of them. So I can speak to that, that personally myself. I am in kink because I am healing all of the pieces of me that not. They're not broken, but they are pieces that I have not allowed to come to the surface.
They are pieces that I have allowed to be suppressed. And I was told that I was bad and dirty and that I was a liar and it never happened and whatever, whatever, whatever, right. So I am now able to. Come to terms with all of the things that happened to me and the people that were so toxic in my life that I never got a great mom, I never got a great dad. Whatever. The problem is, I can now be that great mom. I can be that great dad because I am mommy and I am daddy, so I
can use kink to heal myself. And I have healed so much trauma through kink, it's ridiculous. The people that have come to me that have had the sexual trauma, the sexual assault, the mommy issues, the daddy issues that are now able to cuddle up in my arms after I've kicked their fucking ass in the dungeon just like mommy and Daddy used to do. But I did it in a way that was allowing them to move, allowing them to laugh, allowing them to
cry. I did it in a way where my magic hooked into that bullshit trauma that they had from their childhood and rip that trauma out of their soul and threw that fucking shit away after transmuting it to be able to be used by the universe. This is how kink heals for me. This is how heels for the people that come here.
These are the types of people that find me here at the Queensland. These are the people that come here that need to be healed, that have these experiences in their past, that now need to be able to have that safe place. To experience sex in a positive way. To experience being able to be shoved in a cage in a positive way. To experience being able to be choked in a positive way. To be experienced being able to be fucked in the ass by daddy in a positive way.
Right. All of these things that they were traumatized with as a child that they want to get past and they want to learn how to enjoy again so that their joy and their life and their experiences aren't stolen from them so that they can live their best life Now that's that's what kink can do for people. Oh, that got a little deep. That was not on the question. The pre question list ma'am.
That was just something that came to my mind because I was thinking in my head, like for healing purposes internally. Like, you know, because when you're abused or you're taking advantage of in ways that take away your innocence or or manipulate you, you know, like it's just a different experience than not everyone has. And that's good, you know, like not everyone knows what that feels like.
But for those that do, I was just wanting to point out that I was feeling the calling to not necessarily we won't put it into the lifestyle category, but to just the exploration in general towards learning, absorbing, experiencing things that are taboo, right, or are, you know, put, put on the table and it's like, Oh no, but don't look at it, don't touch it, It's back. Like, here it is. Yeah, it's here. But don't, don't mess with it. You know, Like, there's so much
stigma around it, right? Like that's what. I yeah. There really is what I was thinking too while you were talking and then just like piggyback off of page a little bit. I'm so curious if when you're doing that aftercare part are there and you're talking about like, you know, emotions that may have come up during the session or whatnot. I I assume it's something that you discussed. Are there feelings of like, feeling embarrassed or or
feeling ashamed or guilty? Because now you know, it's one thing to have it inside of your mind and then it's another thing to like act that out, have that experience or whatnot, and to know that somebody else knows. So do you have a lot of working through those emotions with this type of play as well? So by the time we've gotten to the point where we're acting out their scenes and then we're getting to the aftercare part, the guilt and the shame and stuff, that's all gone.
So they've worked through that. We've already talked about their scene. We've already talked about their situation. We've probably done a little bit of hypnotherapy beforehand if it's a really shameful, traumatic, triggery type of thing that we're going to be working through. So there's not going to be a lot of that. Recently I did kind of a Mama trauma scene, which is just like that.
They were working through their Mama trauma and they had a lot of guilt and shame around a lot of the things that they were feeling and and wanting to experience. And I kind of wondered the same thing, like during the aftercare, are we going to come up against those again? Because they were already dealing with the guilt and the shame. And when the aftercare came around, it was laughter. It was crying, happy tears of laughter and just joyful release.
It was the biggest one of the biggest releases that I've seen. And there was no more joy or normal, normal shame, no more guilt, none of those awful feelings that the person had been saddled with before the session and afterwards. It was just like they were just light and airy and floaty. And we were talking a little bit later about it. And I said, you know, how did you feel about that? You know, Were you feeling the guilt and the shame as we were
working through that? They said no, it was so good to be able to just freely open up and do those things and say those things and know that nobody was gonna come at me and be like, Oh my God, I can't believe you did that and said that they just, they were there and they were fully trusting in the process while we were there. So the shame of the guilt wasn't
there during the scene. So they didn't feel the need to feel that guilt and shame afterwards because they processed through it and they let it go. There was nothing to be shameful of. There was nothing to be guilty about. It's all about accepting those things that are deep inside of you. It's that existential kink, right? It's accepting those dark places, those dark of yourself, as you know what, This isn't bad. This isn't good. This just is. This is me.
It's all a part of me. And being able to share the bad part of me, it's just the dark part of me. That's OK, That's OK. Being able to share that with somebody who isn't going to give you any kind of judgment, shame, anything like that is so freeing to people that they are able to finally let the guilt and the shame just go. And it doesn't typically come back, at least from what I've
experienced. So would you say that, like most people, before exploring the lifestyle, either try to watch it on like Pornhub or try to like find some only fans, you know, niche markets? Like would you say that they're exploring by watching others, maybe more? Like they haven't experienced what they want? Because I've known, and this is kind of weird, but I've known, like certain men to like certain types of porn. But, like, I know damn well they're not doing that in the bedroom. Yeah.
Like, that's just an experience. This is me asking like a a dumbfound question. Just like your opinion. Obviously there's no fact of that. I mean, people watch what they want, but like, I know, like when I watch porn, which is rare, it's always girl on girl or like lesbian or like solo amateur. Like, not any production. No extra talking. Put your ass in the shower and shut the fuck up. I don't want to hear you all talk. I don't care what you're talking like, you know what I mean?
Like, I like, I need action. And like, entrance. I need something that hooks me. And not just, like, straight to it. Some chemistry needs to be there for me, but for guys, especially guys that I've dated, I know like a lot of them. And this is like, stereotypical in a way. They like to watch black guys with like, monster Dicks. Fuck white girls. And I don't know what it is about white guys liking that type of porn. This is me stereotyping people. Updated. But what the fuck is that?
You're not wrong. There's a lot of that. Honestly, that's just so much race play that happens all over the place. It's everywhere, it really is. And I think that a lot of the people that are new to the lifestyle, they come to it from movies like 50 Shades of Grey and those types of things that just kind of stereotype the kink industry as a whole. A lot of them come to it from
that type of a thing. There's now a ton of TV shows about kink and dominatrixes and there's there's so many things now it's getting so much more popular in the mainstream. But porn wise, yeah, for sure. I think that a lot of the dudes for sure find it on Pornhub or I mean anywhere that there is that type of thing. Female femdom stuff is huge anymore. The women that come here don't typically watch that type of porn.
They're watching the homemade shit, like the stuff that me and my husband and my Subs make and we toss out there like the homemade, like real. We don't do the editing like any of that stuff, right? We don't have half the time lighting. I mean, 90% of the time we don't have lighting. Whatever, it's fine. That's the kind of stuff that the women are watching that are coming to me. That's the kind of stuff that I watch. I I go on there and I'm looking for like couples like me and my hubs.
I'm looking for chicks with trans Subs, like the things that I'm interested in. That's what I'm looking for. But I want the homemade movies. I don't want the porn shit so. Yeah, I love that all of this is going mainstream. One thing I did watch on Netflix was like the making a sex room show and that really would be in like that hooked me in into like I had no idea there was something like electric play where they like ZAP you with the zapper and shit like put that
zapper inside you and whatever. I did not know that that. So I started getting a little exposure to like new ideas. And then my friend who lives out in California, she has always been in the sex work industry because of the way she was brought up. Her mom is also like a Dom and a sex coach and so she grew up like she told me that first time she saw porn she was like 5 years old. And that's fucked up in my. Yeah, but the stuff she was like exposed to as a child, like it's it was wild.
So she always, she literally has always done like the phone sex work where she's like girl I'm cleaning my dishes I'll be washing my car like and I'm. She's so good at it though like they have no idea that she's just not even there, you know. But I mean such as yourself, once you become professional and this is your thing, like you got your your skills and you're putting them out there, you know? No, it's hanging up somewhere. I'm not sure where it's. At. I was going to show you my I
have the Electro zapper stuff. I was going to show it to you, but I'm not sure where it went at the moment. Let's go ahead and break for Part 2.